Police Throw Temper Tantrum with 5-Year-Old | Kevin Christmon and Dionne Holliday Case Analysis 

My daughter started kindergarten three weeks ago. When I went to pick her up after school, a little boy was throwing a fit, refusing to go back to class and screaming "bad teacher" They sent an adult out to watch him outside, from a distance while he calmed down. My question is why did the school call the police on a five year old in the first place? This is a kindergartener whose probably never been to school before and is adjusting. This is disgraceful.

Geezzzz! 5 year olds act this way sometimes. As a foster parent of 17 years, had I said or did any of these things, I’d lose my license and thrown in jail! They should have given the boy strategies to calm down and a way out. Shaking my head!

i love how the mom was going along with the cops, encouraging them, saying she wishes she could beat him and get away with it. then she got dollar signs in her eyes.

For a country where abortion and babies' lives is such a hot button issue, there doesn't seem to be much love or understanding of children. I used to run away from my swim classes cuz I was terrified of the water and every day my coach would personally go out and carry me back, repeat day after day, talking to me telling me that the water was ok. Eventually I got it, and I was able to participate in the training. That man showed me patience and understanding and as a small child I was able to pick up on it and move ahead

5 years old … the adults involved in this are disgraceful

As one who experienced childhood abuse I can honestly say not everyone needs a beating. Sometimes the parents do.

Hard to understand the adults not having a basic understanding of the maturity level of a five year old. Instead of showing compassion and caring, they displayed anger and violence. The only thing taught to that very small, young, child was that it was okay to be violent as long as you're the bigger one.

My mentor in college was a brilliant Child Psychologist..he taught me a lot..HOWEVER the one lesson that was stressed the most, and I still ALWAYS apply today? Never assume an issue/solution through ONLY the lense of what you've personally experienced *=)*

If an adult is reacting to an upset child by screaming and threatening, they have already lost that fight because they've lost control. Good point about the cops being obsessed with dominating a situation and "forcing their way" through the problem. That is never going to work with a kindergartner... I mean, they might submit, but you've only succeeded in making them hate you. You haven't really worked through anything.

This child could have been on the spectrum, therefore any kind of threat or anger would have been met with immediate stress/fear from the child. It's unfortunate that the child's emotional well being took a backseat to the adults that were supposed to help him.

The absoloutle lack of common sense of all the adults is pretty disheartening.

I’m a retired special education teacher and counselor who dealt with children who exhibited explosive or uncontrollable behavior. We had a quiet room and would use it before an incident gets out of control. It makes teaching difficult when you have students who exhibit defiant behaviors.

"You don't go to prison for beating your child." Wow. Edit: 4:10 timestamp

To be fair, I also reacted irrationally to the mystery meat in my elementary school lunches.

I'm a fully grown adult and this story activated my fight or flight response. This kind of thing absolutely stays with you for the rest of your life. Clearly there's something more going on with the boy that needs to be looked into to figure out why he's behaving this way. Punishments don't work in every situation, and sometimes they can make it worse. In my admittedly limited experience with kids just from being one, sometimes they can panic and feel like they have no other options when adults act like this. From a kid's point of view, if the adults who are supposed to care for them are "losing it", then the situation is beyond the point of benefitting from any sort of cooperation. That would possibly make a child panic and react in a way that reflects the adult's behavior because they've effectively been given an example of how to respond. I'm not saying for sure that this is what was going on in this situation, but that's just what it seems like to me based on what I know about similar things. In other words, in order to not be in more trouble, the kid would have to be the bigger person and not act like the adults in the situation. Obviously that doesn't happen because that's not how kids work. I also think a lot of times the punishments that adults inflict are disproportionate to what the kid has done. It shouldn't be up to a 5 year old to deescalate a situation. I'm not qualified to make any kind of decisions about this, so this is just an armchair opinion from a random person on the internet. I think the correct response would be to stay with the kid in the parking lot until he calms down enough to go back to school willingly and then talk it out there to figure out why he was having issues in the classroom. Even if it takes a long time to stay with him in the parking lot, you're being paid to help resolve conflict, not to yell at kids. If a professional in any other field acted like this on company time, they would be fired no questions asked. I'm not saying that's necessarily what needs to happen here because that's not up to me, but I'm giving this example as a metric for the severity of the problem.

My fiancé did a little bit of time in prison when he was younger (we're in our 30s) for some nonviolent property crime (stealing from a store while he was using drugs... And for being caught with said drugs). He's been clean for a long time now. When we got into the spanking debate (we plan on having kids), he said to me the old "i was hit and i turned out fine" that most people do. I said ".... *His name*... You went to prison..." And there was nothing he could say to respond to it. So no. If you think hitting small humans worked because it supposedly worked for you, it doesn't. I'm glad he's since came around.

Thanks Dr. Grande. Listening to you and paying attention to all the details you shared made me reconfirm how important it is to stay calm with my own child (he throws a cocktail of tantrums daily). I admit that my voice had not been pleasant on many occasions after his erratic behavior but I’m the adult in the room. Overcoming how I was treated growing up is a challenge but a key to be a better dad. Thanks.

This is less about how the police handled this case than the endless levels of liability for teachers, administrators, staff etc. If any of the above had restrained or made the least physical contact with the child, they could have been fired and/or sued. Not to mention being canceled in the media on a national level. The police handled the situation horribly, absolutely. But how does a situation occur where police are called to deal with a violent 5 year old?

It amazes me that parents and others seem to think that without hitting a kid, you can´t set boundaries. I run into that here in Sweden constantly. All kids are different, but there are a range of things you can do before you should even have to think of lifting your hand. Honestly!

And cops have the nerve to act like they don't know why their reputation is what it is these days.

I think this situation happens more often than we think. Because school administrators cannot handle violent students, they call the police, who function as collectors of humans exhibiting unacceptable behavior. The reason for the behavior is unimportant- mental illness, drug use, overwhelming stress, or criminal intentions. Police are taught there is one answer, dominate the situation, and transport the subject to a place which will assume custody. It can become unbelievably hard for police officers to deal with. This case is troublesome, and the officers misread the emotional cues badly.

Somehow shrieking into a child's face that's freaking out doesn't strike me as the best option to get them to calm down.

Dr Grande's voice can have a calming effect. Sometimes I get too calm and fall asleep like halfway through this video so had to play it twice.

If a child is acting this way there is something deeper going on more than the boy being “bad”.

I had something like the exact opposite happened when I worked at Walmart. A mother caught her little boy shoplifting a candy bar and we just so happen to have a police officer returning something at the customer service desk when she came to return the candy bar. She asked the officer if he would tell her kid what happened to little boys who stole. And he was as nice as he could be and was like "oh you don't want to go down this route it's bad". But the little boy only spoke Russian so his mother was interpreting for the officer, and by the way that kid started BAWLING we could tell she was not telling her kid what he was actually saying she was making it much scarier. I think she was hoping for something a little more Scared Straight, which was popular at that time, if I'm remembering my Reality TV correctly.

Shepherd of the devil? Not even my late mom could've come up with that one! I miss her so! Loved the analysis and thank you for reminding us that violence is not the answer

If you can't discipline your child without "beating" them, you probably shouldn't be a parent. Obviously these adults were beat as children and I think it's a very good case against that type of discipline because they are all broken humans. These people are disgusting and none of them should have their jobs.

Really loved and appreciated your whole take on this! Their behavior was absolutely terrible! I think you hit the nail on the head when you said "Without the ability to exercise their power, the officer's essentially had their own temper tantrums." ♡♡

The officers clearly had suboptimal parents themselves. Watching this video made me want to throw a tantrum!

How unfortunate these policie officer's acted so irresponsible. It is apparent this job was beyond their abilities. Once again Dr. Grande gives a thoughtful analysis.

Growing up an Air Force kid we had law enforcement that handled kids on the bases. They were called “Officer Friendly". Perhaps in the civilian world having officers trained in dealing with children should be a thing?

Thanks for bringing attention to such an important case Dr. Grande! This BLEW MY MIND, this is absolutely horrific treatment and so extremely traumatizing for this child! I remember as a very young Mom, feeling judged VERY often about not "disciplining" my son enough. I was 19 when he was born, and he had high functioning Autism. I'm someone who doesn't even believe in spanking a kid, ever! But he would throw very intense tantrums, sometimes for 2-3 HOURS at a time, when he was a toddler and a very young child. I saw something other people DID NOT SEE in my child during these times- absolute TERROR and exhaustion! His heart would always be racing a million miles an hour. This would happen usually if the schedule or plans we had that he was looking forward to had to change, or if we tried to insist he try new foods, because there were only a handful of foods he would eat. I noticed when my husband got so angry, it only made things SO MUCH WORSE- my in-laws DID tell me I should "smack him' or "beat him", and once my Father in Law hit him in the face and then spanked him with a board at a family reunion- I didn't let my son near him for 2 years after that. When he was 6 the tantrums had slowed way down, but still happened occasionally. And FINALLY I saw an Autism specialist that made everything make sense to me. He told me that at least with Autism and OCD likey son had, his own BRAIN was punishing him and torturing him already, which I could see. Where everyone else saw a horrible acting, insufferable Little boy at those times- I saw my little boy suffering and unable to regulate his emotions, and he really would try to. That Doctor just said the most important thing to do was NEVER "give in" to the tantrum, and tell him whatever he was having the tantrum about, if he waited 2 hours and then could ask calmly, then we could talk about it. He also said not to react with strong emotions in any way- make sure he was safe, every few minutes ask if he was ready to calm down and use his manners and his words yet. He said don't ground him or punish him, bc his brain was already doing that- but also never give in to his demands in that state. BEST advice I was ever given, within a few months the tantrums stopped completely, and he is now 18, just graduated high school with honors, and is one of the most responsible, thoughtful, hardworking, caring, compassionate etc. humans I know. The OCD actually made him VERY organized and goal oriented, and he has never been in trouble a day in his life after about the 2nd grade. If you stay calm with children, and tell them they are capable of ANYTHING, that they are smart and unique and special, and really point out their strengths, then they will BE THAT, and work towards proving you right. It's not always just that easy of course, but 5 is still SO VERY YOUNG, and often little boys are mischievous and act out still at this age. They get bored or easily frustrated. They need common sense consequences, like privileges taken away, time out, and MOST importantly, a reward system set up to bring the focus to what good things happen when they behave WELL- that's what worked WONDERS for my son, you HAVE to give really young kids struggling like that incentives to start fighting their negative impulses, and give them them the skills and opportunity necessary to do so, and make sure they know YOU believe they are smart, capable, and GOOD, even if their BEHAVIOR is bad sometimes. Sounds cliche and cheesy but it's true, I've seen it work. These cops should've been fired and should NEVER work with children again! I would've been DEATHLY afraid of the Police FOREVER if this happened to me at age 5- the ONLY interaction Police should EVER have with children that young is to be protecting them, keeping them safe, or building trust between children and Police officers. They should be fired for telling the Mother to beat her child, and that it was legal. Sounds like she wasn't the greatest either, saying she wished she could beat him but didn't want to get arrested?? I've been a VERY EXHAUSTED, VERY FRUSTRATED Mama before, where at the end of the day, I would shut my bedroom door and just literally almost collapse in tears bc of my son's tantrums and issues and the exhaustion of dealing with that on a regular basis when he was a toddler. But still, NEVER ONCE did I want to "beat" my child, and the Police probably traumatized this kid and did some lasting harm to him, only making matters worse! Sorry, this one was HARD to wrap my head around!! In 2022?? Are we freaking Savages? I just hope nothing like this ever happens again, and I lose more and more respect for a lot of law enforcement officers more and more as time goes on, and since the implementation of body cams. Sickening to know how many of them do things, and probably always have, but we just know about it now due to the cameras. Can't believe these Officers are still even employed as such after this inexcusable incident!! Great video and Analysis on this, as per usual Dr. G! 👍🌵💖

Omgosh. This is totally wrong. And this is why we don’t trust law enforcement. (from a mum with 2 special needs kids)

I have no excuse for ANY adult treating a 5 years old less than loving. I want to hug thus little child. Why haven't we learned from our own childhood traumas to be kind, especially to childeren? Evils live among us. I am lost for words.

Sadly, he probably really believes that. I didn't know that I was being abused till I was like 16 years old when my guidance counselor asked me about a bruise on my arm. It's especially bad in the south.

I fostered my nephews for almost two years. The younger exhibited the outbursts and the running behavior. It is sooooo difficult to handle this behavior. But these officers managed to handle it completely wrong.

anyone who thinks they need to use violence to wrangle kids should not be around any kids, ever

As a child I was abused, all it did is make more violent towards other kids. As a father to a 3 year old, I’ve never even screamed at my child or made threats. It’s all about diffusing a situation sometimes even with humor. Sometimes I look at my daughter and wonder how a grown adult can bring themselves to physically hurting a vulnerable child - Nevermind the harsh beatings I took at the same age.

As a mental health professional, I can only say this behaviour is despicable. However, I understand what Dr Grande is saying when people perpetuate the cycle of abuse. I hope the officers are given the help they need to overcome their childhood traumas.

I'm interested in understanding what this young child experienced that upset him. The adults only focus is on the child's behavior and no inquiry into the events leading up to the child throwing the clipboard. Without understanding what happened, this will occur again, in one form or another. Whatever made him throw the clipboard, and vehemently refuse to go and to return school, matters. Something happened. What was it? Noone is trying to uncover this. It just gets dismissed, and the child labeled as a brat.

It sure sounds to me that those officers' beliefs that problems are solved by force and violence, formed because of being beaten themselves.

I worry that police won’t recognize my son is special needs. He likes to break away from me and he teachers and run out the door. However, I like that his school has a police office assigned to it. This world is just so crazy I feel it’s necessary.

I was "spanked" (with wooden spoons and paddles) as a child. When I started having children, that is all I knew. I spanked my first child. To a lesser extent my second child. It never felt right....my older child in particular had a lot of behavior issues and would hit me back. I recognized that these situations were escalating and as the adult it was up to me to get it in check. For that reason, I stopped spanking my children. As a result my youngest child has never been spanked. I got a lot of flack over the years about not spanking my children.....but once I decided to do it differently I was committed to that. My oldest even told me a few times that his younger siblings "need to be beaten". I reminded him that I was the parent and I would handle the situation. I also apologized that I used to spank him...but reminded him that I didn't do that anymore. It is the best decision I ever made. I wish I had made it sooner and never spanked any of my kids. But, I am still thankful that I came to realize my mistakes and changed my behavior.

As an experienced teacher that has dealt with many children with emotional problems that acted out in school I can state that professions should always model the behavior that they want the child to exhibit.All children but especially children from dysfunctional families need love and stability.

It's Appalling a 5 year old was treated like an Adult Hardened criminal!!!

*Mom -* "I _want_ to beat my child but I'm scared I'll get in trouble." *Unhinged Cops -* "No, you're good. It's not illegal to beat your child in Montgomery County. Just don't leave any bad burns or cuts. You _need_ to beat this beast." *Also Mom -* ~ Gets cops in trouble and costs taxpayers a quarter of a million dollars for disciplining her child "the way she wanted to." ~

So much trauma in one day. I can't imagine the repercussions that this single day will have on the rest of his life. At the hands of "professionals" at that. Imagine how those police officers treat children in their personal lives! Generational trauma needs to be educated more worldwide. Not enough people are aware of it and so many people unfortunately carry that trauma on to the next generation. Absolutely heartbreaking 😔💔 thank you as always doc, I love the way you present these cases

My mom would always remind me to behave myself when I was in public and that I was embarrassing her when I'd throw a tantrum in public. For me, that worked. I didn't want my mom to be ashamed of me. I wanted her to be proud of me.

Dr. Grande I know you have two sons. I can't imagine you administering corporal punishment, threatening harm or name calling. I agree with your approach to this situation. I hope the boy get the attention and redirection he needs.

If you have a child, especially one that young, acting up to that extent the child is almost surely suffering from abuse & violence at home. If they’re aren’t suffering from violent abuse, then they are likely suffering from severe neglect, missing parents, or some type of chaos. These kids are the last children that need more violence & lack of respect for their physical boundaries, making how the cop picked him up & moved him against his will absolutely the wrong move. The fact that they want & demand a parent beat a child proves they have no business being cops because they won’t protect a child from abuse if they come across it, & they could be the difference between an abused child getting help or dying from abuse. Fire them immediately!

The Great Caper! When my daughter was around 9 years old, she decided to deliver a free 'good news' publication to the neighbors on our street. Someone called the police on her and the squad cars quickly showed up. The police scared and confused her, challenging her and making her feel as though she were a criminal. My daughter was greatly shaken up that day and has not liked nor trusted police ever since. It seems they should have special training on how to treat children.

This breaks my heart because my 4 year old son has moderate autism. I cringe when strangers approach me on how to discipline him. I respond with "you want me to beat a special needs 4 year old with a heart condition?" ( he has a congenital heart defect). I cant imagine how scared this kid was. I know my son loves police & firefighters. This would eliminate trust forever. So sad.

The sneaky dry humor always gets me.

How incredibly sad. Poor kid. He has a lot of pent up anger and his mother doesn’t know how to manage him. Who knows what his home life is like. Also sad that she did nothing to stop the police treating her child the way they did but finds out she can make money from it afterwards. At least the money is going to the child.

When I was 5 years old I ran away from home (to my grandma's house) and someone saw me walking and called the OPP (Ontario Provincial Police) and they picked me up. I told them where I was going and they took me to my grandma's. They let me sit in the front (it was the 80s) and play with the siren, they were so nice. It was my mother who was to be feared, I don't think she'd even realized I was gone.

I know someone whose autistic son, after acting out in class when he was 9 years old, was detained for hours, during which time he was sexually assaulted by at least one of the detaining officers. The mother was called ONCE, and no definite message was left, nor did they attempt to reach the child's father (who I believe was out of town on business that week). I believe that was 10 years ago, and my friend is still trying to get justice for her son and the rest of their family--including proper counseling services at schools, more appropriate facilities for handling behaviorally challenged students, and accountability for authority figures that choose to abuse people under their care. This case was obviously not affected by the laws and staffing changes she has helped to enact--that is upsetting, even to someone who has no children that could be harmed in such a manner.

Dr Grande strikes again! The demon sheep comment was brilliant. They are warmer than normal sheep. Those police officers sound unbelievable. That poor child. Imagine being a five year old and acting like a five year old and then being reprimanded like a 35 year old. Terrifying. I don't think the mother or the police officers have done this child any favours.

Watching your videos has helped me take a more rational and analytical approach towards issues in my own life. Thank you Dr. Grande

Great analysis, especially the last comment about getting liberated from blindly accepting, complying and following parents' beliefs and behaviours,. People make decisions against their own willing and desire, then even commite their whole life to do what they don't enjoy and pride just for the sake of getting recognition or validation from their parents who in some case have no idea or even bother to think about what they want from their lives.

My son was banned from a daycare when he was 15 months old for having a tantrum and kicking one of the workers...I didn't beat him in response. He is 24 years old now and is a very kind and soft spoken gentleman with two college degrees, a black belt in tae kwon do and he doesn't drink or smoke or curse.

Never take any notice of temper tantrums, it’s just frustration from child & always best to leave them, within minutes they’ll calm down✊♥️

This was a good one. I totally sided with the young boy. That little guy is going to have a rough life. The mother's frustration with her son is bull. What's going on at home? Your explanation of the police was very interesting. Sounds like there could be a lot of truth to it. Thank you. Peace 💕🇺🇲

The fact the assistant principal got involved is sick. Sick. Sick. Sick. She should be under arrest.

I'm really appalled the school principal didn't stop this crazy screaming behavior from the police.

I am so happy for being able to comment right after the upload.😊 I am just speechless by the behavior of these two officers.🤦🏻‍♀️ Your conclusion was quite insightful. I think it’s just so important to identify the ways in which our upbringing wasn’t desirable and also to conduct an ongoing analysis of our own parenting. In this process we learn a lot about ourselves and we have the opportunity to fine-tune our parenting skills. Thank you so much, Dr. Grande.❤️

😳why didn’t I see this story before ? This is nuts!

I watched the body camera video of this. It was so hard to watch the adults treat this little boy in this way. They should be ashamed of themselves.

OMG that's terrible. The cops. The parent. The school personnel. And we wonder why that little boy is going to need the money for psychiatric help. If he manages to reach the age to recover it. Your observations are, as always, humorous & fitting. I think your right about their behavior & "true maturity level". Until I saw this video, I couldn't understand why not having a child in your life justifies treating a kid so insensitively. Thanks for presenting the idea that never questioning poor parenting sadly leads to the grown-up child becoming a reflection of their parent.

I will never forget the amount of pressure that was placed on me 30 years ago to whip my young children by older relatives. I stood my ground though. BTW, I have two awesome college educated young adult children that I could not be more prouder of. Taking away privileges & time out works if a person will take the time to explore this type of discipline. Communication is key with your children.

For heaven’s sake, he’s a child. He is barely more than a baby. He’s only been in the world for a short time. He needed help and support, not physical and verbal abuse! Ugh, that poor kid.

I am a teacher in the DC area and I've seen versions of this situation many times. I appreciate your analysis from the bottom of my heart.

My son acted out like that in kindergarten after lunch once. Thank god his teacher called me and not the cops because I'm afraid of what they would have done to a little black boy acting out. We found out he had low blood sugar and it had dropped very low before lunch. He was disoriented and confused and frightened. My son is now a 40 year old nurse practitioner and gets awards from the hospital all the time for his excellence in care. Police need training in first aid and medical emergencies. It seems that the cruelest most hateful sadistic people are attracted to and retained in police work in America. It's probably due to the fact that policing started here as slave catching.

Great Analysis Dr. Grande. I think like you said, the officers didn't know any better then what their parents taught then, and that's sad actually. 💞

They called his parents far too late. As a mother, I would be absolutely LIVID! She had no idea what her son had endured before they even bothered to call her.

As adults we play out our childhood programming. There should be TV shows about how to parent without being abusive. In the '80s they had a show on PBS just like that on TV and it was a live broadcast of a class I was taking in college by a wonderful professor who knew how to deal with discipline without resorting to negative tactics.

I certainly agree that the officers were ill-equipped and handled the situation poorly. With that said, I also believe the child's mother has done a very poor job raising him thus far. The extreme behavior of that child suggests he has a substandard parent or parents and I'd say that's putting it kindly.

These kids can be very difficult to deal with. Should have called a social worker instead of the police. Other than that I don't know. Glad I'm not a parent. The kids $hi++y behavior paid off ching ching

Hey Dr. Grande💞 Thank you for the new video! It's really nice to have a new video from you to watch after spending all weekend with a ton of family. I hope you're having a great holiday weekend!!

I absolutely LOVE the last thought you shared with us! Perfectly put and exactly right on.

“You don’t go to prison for beating your child. I-what? Is this guy for real? Oh my god, I can’t believe how incredibly stupid this guy is. Apparently abuse doesn’t exist to this poor excuse of a “man”. The fact they were encouraging the woman to beat her own child is just disgusting. Hope those men don’t have families of their own (Highly doubt any sane women would’ve want to be with them in the first place) Anyways, amazing video Dr. Grande! Love you analysis and opinions 🤗

Yesterday was *_Father's Day_* in Australia 🇦🇺. The timing of this analysis was perfect in suggesting how not to parent a young boy.

The statement of realizing your parents had no idea what they were doing is so powerful! Very freeing.

Thank you ! I found your analysis to be spot on , to say the least. Your professional opinion is very much appreciated and needed .

These officers behaved poorly. Children have difficulty verbalizing emotions so they may act out. It sounds like he would benefit from counseling and skills training to help. His mom would benefit from parenting skills training to help learn effective ways to communicate and discipline without spanking. I was spanked, not much because I had a big sister and I learned what not to do. I did have a positive police interaction with my son who 15 and ran away. He found him talked to him calmly when he brought him home and offered to be available if he ever needed to talk. Great guy. These guys could take note.

How did that make you feel? That’s one of the best questions I was ever asked when I was this age. 😊. Ask the right questions. Use the right words. Simply ask yourself how would you want to be treated and be honest.

Dr Grande Ive watched at least a hundred of your videos and followed you for over a year and this particular video is hands down, your best, in my opinion. Too many bright points to list. I just want you to know how much you add to so many lives and how grateful I am for your astute candor on some current events and past events…. Resulting in group learning by using critical thinking and honesty.

as a preschool teacher who deals with temper tantrums DAILY, the ONLY thing that helps is by bringing the child’s energy down and if you come in hot you will only ever make a situation once. always remember that as the adult, you have experience in situations in which you don’t k ow what to do, are scared, or even mad. Children have little to zero coping skills and it’s our jobs as adults to show them that we take deep breaths, address the issue, and come up with solutions together.

I have worked many years with students with behavioural problems. It is best to try and deescalate ths situation ar hand. Yelling and screaming only causes problems to get worse. The police only needed to calm things down and return the child to school. If they really wanted to help they could have waited until the mental health worker arrived or the mother. The mental health worker would likely know the child the best and what works and what doesn't. Fortunately many police officers are getting training in the last few years in dealing with mental health issues. Many police now can do out without uniforms accompanied by a social worker for crisis team work.

I wonder, who showed more behaviour of a little angry child, the cops or the 5 year old?

Happy Labor Day, Dr. Grande! Thank you so much for everything you do!

I saw the footage last year . The cruelty ,the bulling,the mental taunting, the interigation the police did to that little boy broke my heart. The police weren't talking to him ,they were abusing him! That little boy,throughout his adult life will be traumatized for what those dispicable police did to his syche. Also,his mother complying with the two police bullies infuriated me.

I'm too Eastern European to get this stuff. Our parents always beat us if we go too crazy. It's not like we're abused or anything, in my case I would need to be a big asshole to get a slap. I never had marks or had too much pain after such "beatings", I was more like scared. But I can't image what the hell could my parents do, because I was really pushing them over the edge. To be honest I don't feel bad about it, I would have turned out way worse if I was let to be an asshole. It might be toxic to you, but it is what it is. No parent likes to hit thier child, really

Now that the little beast knows he can get a quarter Million for acting out...wait for the sequel.

Thanks for the upload, Dr. Grande.

My kid got arrested at 10. A cop showed up at my door at 1030 on a school night to run my 10 year old into the pokey for assault. Then the city had no one willing to take a 10 year old for community service other than trash pick up on the side of the highway (which I wasn't about to let my child do). They literally wanted to put my 10 year old in an orange jumpsuit on the interstate. Some kids got in a spat at the bus stop and were throwing rocks at each other. Nothing big until my kid grabbed a chunk of asphalt and landed a hit right on some other kid's eye. That did some real damage to this poor boy. My kid said NOTHING to mom or I. Just acted like it never happened. So imagine our surprise when a cop is at our door talking about hauling in my 10 year old. The hurt kid went to school the next day with a black eye and nearly passed out likely from a concussion. The school of course thinks abuse at home and calls the police. The story comes out and my kid gets pinned for it. We ended up just paying all the medical bills and dad's lost wages for having to get his kid from school. No problem, I'd probably be less reasonable if my kid came home beat up like that. But once the law got involved it became stupid. Mostly they wanted money, fines, court costs, etc. Anything for a dollar. They had no part of this entire thing beyond holding out their hand for cash. Part of the plea was community service but no one would take responsibility for a 10 year old but the road crew and I almost got myself arrested telling that idiot what I thought of their excuse for drawing a paycheck from tax dollars. In the end a teacher friend of mine signed an affidavit saying my kid helped her create some class plan for kindergarten and that counted for community service. All this- because my kid turned 10. In Colorado, if he had been 9- there would have been no charges. Also, not long after that Pueblo, CO police tazed a preteen fending them off with a stick. And the locals cheered. They loved the idea of a little kid being electrocuted by grown men afraid of a child with a stick. Anyone that questioned the need to taze a child got shouted down by the mob.

$275K for that?? It’s almost tempting to get your 5 year old to “act out” to pay for their future college fund 🤷‍♀️

I wonder if they're idealization of authority, respect, and their parents lead them to pick a career where they could demand respect and weaponize authority. They turned into brick walls at the slightest sign of resistance from a 5to, they've really let their jobs and upbringing warp their sense of why authority would be respected into "it just should"

Excellent analysis Dr Grande. A very important topic. The shocker is rewarding the child for throwing a tantrum! I was beaten as a child. As an adult having to deal with my young niece throwing a tantrum, i would look at her and ask: "Why are you laughing, what's so funny?" I kept repeating this until she realized she was not in control. I would love the response from her, "I'm not laughing!" Never acknowledge behavior one does not find appropriate.

Just watch an episode of Nanny 911 (or SuperNanny) and you'll see that 99% of behavior problems stem from the quality of parental interaction with their children. No institution of boundaries and failure to impose consequences are the prime root cause for kids behaving badly.

Wtf? 😲This is totaly INSANE to listen to for me who lives in Norway were they can't put handcuffs until you are 16 y old and even then they 9 out of 10 times DON'T do that.... so sorry this scared little kid had to go thrue this horrible trauma😢, sending lots of love and light 💝