Several great points brought up here. My favorite is about how feeling discomfort and learning how to respond to it is a part of growth. You can't just always take the easy, or comfortable, path in life. It's just a very difficult time to be an adolescent with this social climate that is pushing gender identification, but I feel that simply throwing all of these kids under the affirmation umbrella is not the answer.
I must say I am very impressed with this video. You are a breath of fresh air! So difficult living through this nightmare and so wonderful to see there is hope somewhere.
Great video, thanks Sacha for giving us hope and advice. We have been on this journey with our daughter who suddenly identified as a boy for 2 years and I still can't believe only the affirmative approach is being promoted by governments. You're doing such a great work and give so many good insights. I wish talking about gender dysphoria wasn't taboo so more people are aware of social contagion and online grooming. Being a teenager is so hard in today's world. Thanks again for your precious support!
It is frightening so many teens are submitting to this ideology, and so many parents are caught out like a rabbit in headlights ( me included ) I am glad this is being talked about more openly and the media seem to be latching on to it more, which in turn will hopefully make people realise this is happening on a much larger scale than many realise. Thanks for your words of guidance and advice, this is really good for parents like me.
Your voice is so important. I so appreciate your videos. Very thankful to have found this now. Gabor Mate and Gordon Neufeld’s book “Hold onto your kids” also helped very much, while not addressing gender, it explains peer culture and validates parents with the guiding principle of maintaining a secure attachment and trusting our instincts over dogma, groupthink, academic cultural theory, etc.
Sasha, I’m so thankful I found you! We have 20 year old son that came out to us as Transgender 6 months ago. We have many concerns and see red flags that cause us to question his motives. He also has some other major mental health issues going on. We don’t reject our child nor are we affirming. We are asking him hard questions and lovingly sharing our concerns and trying to approach our conversations with him with Curiosity. The problem we are facing is finding a therapist that isn’t automatically affirming and encouraging medical transition right away but instead is willing to dive deeper into the mental health issues and encourage a slower process. Is there a list of therapist somewhere that take this approach? We are searching for one in AL or someone that can work across state lines. Even though our child isn’t a teenager anymore the info in the video was so helpful full. It gives me hope and encouragement. Thank you!
I have some resources to share that might help you find a therapist. Can you send me a private message on FBK? facebook.com/profile.php?id=100014245474063
Do you think underlying mental health issues can lead to dysphoria? I wanted to be a boy as a kid, and now that I’m an adult recently diagnosed with OCD and depression, I think those things contributed to not being comfortable as a woman.
Certainly. I understand dysphoria as an unhealthy preoccupation with one's biological sex. Whenever someone has become obsessive or narrowly focused on something and that causes distress or disruption to life, it indicates some kind of underlying dysfunction. I might not be as inclined to diagnose, necessarily, but it does mean something important is calling for compassionate attention.
How do you walk your own gender discomfort back? I have really not always modeled the benefits to being a woman, especially with how I was raised in a pretty misogynistic attitudes, then choosing to stay home with the kids etc. I’ve been thinking that I haven’t been an extremely good example to her about the goodness that comes with being a woman even though I do love being a mother. When she approached me with this in the beginning and I watched the few videos in which she claimed to relate. I was like: They sound like how I felt as a teen. I know most women didn’t really loved being a girl in adolescence. I would probably have transitioned, when I was a girl, if it was offered etc. I know she thinks her feelings are different than that and this is the quick and easy answer to all of her problems.
@@SashaLPC Do your research, I'm MtF and it's not about preoccupation, but rather feeling that there's something wrong. It's not just thoughts, it's something that cannot be switched off.
This is extremely important work you are doing. When I was 14 I came out as trans to my mother and the response was completely negative. We were extremely close as I had few friends and at times my mother is the only one who would talk to me/play with me as a child. When I came to her expressing that I was trans, she said that this was "bullshit" and i had never heard my mother curse prior to that point. For months afterward she avoided talking to me/eye-contact with me and I cannot express the pain this caused. I attempted suicide after some months of this. I'm much older now and our relationship has improved but I could've easily been gone.
21:57 : People do not threaten self harm in order to manipulate. When people express that they are in pain they should be believed. Following the advice outlined in this video (including forced in-patient treatment and institutionalization) can be unbelievably damaging to young people. The advice being given in this video is dangerous and miles outside of the standard of care. I hope that parents and family of all young people are able to learn, grow, and accept their family members for the trans individuals they are. ❤
When in the world did people start having to walk on eggshells with their kids? We have to tiptoe around their feelings ? I understand what is being said and like any good parent I will take your advice but Jesus this is not the way the "real world" 8s going to treat these kiddos
Hi Sasha. We had spoken in 2019. In September of this year, I finally found a gender critical therapist through Dr. Schwartz. I told my daughter. She was upset because we didn't find the therapist together. She was suppose to fill out some forms and make an appointment. She turned 17 on October 26 of this year. On November 4th, she told me she wants yo see a gender therapist. I told her I already found her therapist who knows about gender identity. She refused to go. We discussed it the following week and the following week. She insists on a gender therapist. She told me if I don't take her she will not talk to me and I'm not her mother and she's not my child and when she can she will leave home. I know a lot of these are threats. She is playing on my emotions. She knows how to hurt me. She spent Thanksgiving alone because she didn't want to go with my son and I to family. (They don't know about the situation). I am very heart broken. I need some help and advice. From: A desperate mother.
Hi Evangelina. I'm unable to answer questions of this personal nature here on the public platform. I recommend reaching out through my parent coaching membership site or by private email.
My nephew, who has had a difficult upbringing, is developing thru this trans identity thought process, he has always been feminine and it was clear he would be part of LGB community, however he’s never showed signs of dysphoria, very comfortable naked and in his skin, until recently. I think he wants to transition because outside influences. Do have any colleagues or suggestions for help in New York, trip state area?
