Psychopath or Sociopath | What You Need to Know 

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Don’t let anyone trick you into falling in love with their potential. Fall in love with what they show you. Believe their actions.

She is so educated in every facet of psychology that she doesn't even pause to gather her thoughts when asked these questions. She immediately has such a well versed and thorough explanation in nearly every response. She's such a joy to listen to and so incredibly gifted with communication.

Can we take a moment to talk about how this content is on the internet FOR FREE??? Respect!

I married a psychopath the marriage lasted 13 years! I am 4 years out but still working to find me and my life! I often think, “I wonder if I would have been better off if he accomplished killing me!” I live in a small town and finding counseling has been a joke! Your channel along with a few others has literally pulled me this far! I appreciate the knowledge I have gained.

When she mentions careers that could be phsycopaths she needs to include politicians.

Gosh, I wish she was my therapist.

The most frightening experience of my teaching career occurred many years ago. I was teaching 1st grade and one spring day in the cafeteria one of my students pulled the chair out from under another child as he was sitting down so that the child fell and spilled his lunch. The chilling part was hearing the 6 instigator say as he stood over the fallen child, “Last year today was field day and you pushed me down. I said I would get you back. Did you forget? I didn’t.” He was right that date the year before was field day.

The primary traits of a sociopath are an inability to actually honestly care for another human being, to feel another's pain, to feel sorry (deeply, truly sorry) for the pain he/she causes you (or others), to feel real love, to feel any real obligation to the well being of anyone but himself/herself, to have a conscience, period. Some say sociopaths tend to be “very charming”. I disagree with this characterization. I believe, rather, the sociopath mimics what he/she has observed as “charming” behavior tailored specifically to the individual upon whom he/she decides to prey. Sociopaths get off on “getting one over on you”, on interacting with you long enough to figure out what you like/care about (be that your kids, your pets, your family, your music, your hobbies, whatever), then tailoring their comments and conversations with you to those topics to “reel you in”, feigning similar interests or interest in general, playing you like a fiddle until you think they're so cool or so funny … then, once they've gained your trust, start testing you little by little in more sick ways to see if you'll do things to please them. To a sociopath, who is easily bored, it's all a game. You are a joke to them. They are getting pleasure at your expense, even though it may take you awhile to catch on. But you should have some early instinctive feelings that “something just doesn't feel right about this”. Trust your instincts IMMEDIATELY. The longer you stay involved with a sociopath, the more you will come to feel demoralized and broken and, quite possibly, suicidal. To the sociopath, you (and the countless others upon whom they are preying - because, make no mistake, they typically have multiple victims going at one time, “the others” - who they're keeping secret from you), you are a source of ego inflating supply. Everytime he/she can get you to come running when they say they want you, get you to believe them when they say “they're done with all that ” (referring to whatever bad behavior you've discovered and confronted them with, behavior that has deeply hurt you), whenever you react to the pain they cause you by crying /breaking down/ pleading/screaming/cursing/sobbing … they are LOVING it. It's like you're giving them the best drug, the best high they've ever had. And they know they've got you … and you become an even bigger joke to them than what you were to begin with. You're no longer a challenge, though, frankly, which makes you easily dismissed by them. Just when you think you wont hear from them again, though, you suddenly will, with a text that seems innocent enough … and you may be tricked into thinking, at that moment, “See, he/she does really care!” But again, watch and live it out, if you must, but you'll only find yourself right back at devastation and heart shattering pain. The sociopath cares about NO ONE, period. Sadly, deep inside, not even himself/herself. They are people who harbor a deep inner self-loathing, whose core is made of empty nothing and hateful insecurity. But NEVER make the mistake of thinking - if only you could show the socipath how committed YOU are to him/her, how much you love him/her, how YOU believe they are worthy of love, you can fix their inner wounded child …. Blah, blah, blah. Just stop yourself, for the love of all that is sane. I beg of you. Because your best efforts WILL NOT work to achieve this end. Your best efforts, your repeated coming back to them like this, in fact will only affirm the sociopath’s view of you as a pathetic pawn from whom he/she can continue to get “supply” (the ego feed they desparately need to survive). You mean NOTHING to him/her. You never did. You never will. A sociopath is not curable. There is no medicine, no anti-psychotic, no antidepressant, no therapy (the sociopath would never engage it anyway) that can ameliorate this condition. The only thing you must do is take steps toward SELF PRESERVATION. And you must, because a sociopath will kill you eventually. Truly. Psychologically damage you so profoundly, if you stay engaged in any relationship with him/her over a substantial period of time, that you may never recover. I know this. I allowed myself to stay committed to one for 22 years. And I'm intelligent. But my belief in my own self worth plummetted to the most dangerous lows a person's self-value could plummett. If you recognize these traits in whomever you've begun a relationship with, just RUN. and never, NEVER, look back. Block all contact. Don't fool yourself, as I did for years after I finally said, “Get out!”, into thinking, “Well, he sent me this text. I mean, I guess we could be friends.” It doesn't work! A sociopath doesn't have friends. A sociopath gathers people for “supply”, and any acts of reaching out to you is an attempt by the sociopath to see if they can still hook you, whether you will stil be an easy source of “supply” to them. It is ALL at your peril and expense and ALL designed for his/her benefit. Run, run, and run. And never, never, never look back. Trust me. I KNOW the truth of which I speak. Additionally, Catching a cheating spouse might be difficult, and knowing what local laws say you can and cannot do might be even more difficult. To simplify the process, consider hiring a private investigator to do the sleuthing for you I genuinely appreciate how incredible you are and your work! Thank you for a job well done Metaspyhub@gmail. com,,

"Emotional Abuse is never acceptable any day of the week."

'Emotional abuse is unacceptable any day of the week." Dr.R 🙏🏽💯

Well done. Dr Ramani knows her stuff. She rarely says um. She is just chock full of knowledge and wisdom on these topics. We are gifted with this information, and it's so helpful.

1:55:46 this part makes me cry. How I wish someone, anyone, had picked up on my desperate cry for help as a child. But the sad truth is that no one did, and I have suffered tremendously for it. 15 years later I am now finally making some progress by daring to confess to a psychologist

I love how she calls out that charming people can be so scary. It's like they're complimenting you but it really has nothing to do with you..

Dr ramani talking about personality disorders for 2 HOURS??? Am i in heaven???

She is right about forgiveness. I kept forgiving my mother, got my trust broken over and over again, until I finally let go of expectations which was painful as well because it meant there was no more hope. I wish I could let go of resentment and guilt and the feeling it was my fault, that maybe I didn’t love her enough.

I divorced a psychopath after 29 years! It’s been 2.5 years since the divorce and he still won’t let things go! Court was excruciating and he crushed me just like you stated! He is a high functioning healthcare c-level!!! Charmed the judge, his attorney, and my attorney!

"Their whole life is about getting away with stuff." Wow. Chilling and very telling.

"Prince Charming is most likely Prince Psychopathy" so true

The tricky side of diagnosing people is that narcissistic people are becoming now the NEW parameters of what NORMAL means. Actually, some professionals who gives the diagnosis can be narcissistic themselves.

I have never been diagnosed, but I believe I have antisocial personality disorder in a higher functioning capacity. I am a business owner with a wife and two kids and when my wife found out it helped her understand me and helped our relationship. The catch is that I have faith in the Bible and I practice the growth that it says you are required to maintain in order to be a Christian, so I have a high standard of a moral code that I actively practice each day like lifting weights whether you believe in God, or not, at least I have some thing I strive to achieve that holds me to a standard higher than even a non-sociopath in most cases

No one roasts a narcissist like Dr. Ramani. :D

“Charming people are terrifying” - so true!

7:48 Cluster B ASPD misconception (anti-society / norms of society) 11:05 Cluster C Avoidant PD, Social Anxiety disorder 15:12 16:00 17:47 24:10 ASPD marker 26:00 47:30 Do not take a diagnosis (or PATTERN) as your label or definitive permanent state, take it as a step to move to their best version of themselves and optimal life style 51:00 1:05:55 Adult’s consent 1:08:23 Pattern does not feel great and cant be changed 1:12:53 1:18:20 1:20:39 Psychopath’s game (actions based on attracting or impressing vs disposable or dispensable in their service) 1:25:00

This is a fantastic duo...brilliant teacher and interviewer. I learned a lot from these series, thank you!

I was adopted in infancy by a couple where one parent had psychopathic traits. She sometimes told me stories about how she and her cousin drowned animals when they were children. Even as an adult she had no regrets. She laughed about it. She had a sadistic streak that manifested with dependent children, pets, and later elders. She sometimes threatened to blind and even murder me when I was very young. She often told me, “I never make a threat I wouldn’t keep,” and “I am not a mercy person.” I survived and am neither blind nor dead. However living in a state of terror took its toll. I grew very slowly, never thriving. I am under 5’0” tall today. Dependent pets and elders also suffered while in her care. One of our family members died of starvation. It was horrible. I wish that the public knew that adoptees and foster child end up in the hands of abusers too. People say, “Oh but adoptive parents are all carefully vetted. Adopted children are wanted-no one would abuse them. It’s beautiful thing.” People adopt children for all kinds of reasons. The majority of adoptees I have met say they were adopted to save their adoptive parents’ marriages. They have their own stories about what happened to them when their adoption was a disappointment. They failed to save their adopters’ marriages. We have a multi-billion dollar adoption industry that supplies prospective adopters with babies and small children in exchange for money. Adoptees need safe homes too. We don’t need a double-whammy if it can be prevented. We need people to work in those places that can screen prospective adopters for personality disorders. They are needed in foster care too.

Dr. Ramani: "To me now charming people are terrifying." OMG I totally get that!!

Thank you both. You were my rock during my spiritual awakening. Now I am fully aware of how no remorse can debilitate a sensitive personl like me. I was casted into the dark

Thank you! What a super-awesome chat! I specialized in psychology for 3 years in university and took "Abnormal Psych". 10 years ago I became roommates with a friend who ended up being a sociopath. There was slways drama, arguments and his behavior with a co-worker seemed bizarre and cruel. A good friend said he sounded like a sociopath. I found a "sociopath checklist" online and knew of the general criteria. He got a 4/5,. I thought he was honest as I had no reason to believe he was a liar; he said he was honest. One day, after he used my laptop, I found some very revealing skype chat and realized everything was a lie. I'm mentioning this because the lying is hard to prove unless you look carefully and honestly. In hindsight, I admit I overlooked warning signs as I'm non-confrontational and was naive. As the expert says here, if you have concerns about someone, look at their behavior broadly. I now think of any relationship as a something like a workplace: no one gets a promotion before proving themselves. Better to have no relationship than a bad relationship.

I feel the same way about meeting "charming" people. It always makes me wonder who they really are.

1:17:13 “Emotional abuse is unacceptable any day of the week.”

God Bless you for informing the world about these "people". Honest to God, there is nothing, NOTHING, more scary to me, than a charming, systematic, manipulating, cry on cue, laugh on cue "person", who's acting in different ways, depending on who's around, and what they want that particular person to think about a certain situation. It's so disturbing, how good these people are at what they do and how far they are willing to go, to get their way. It's just so disturbing, so disturbing and truly chilling, specially when they no longer care that you see them shift from one way to another, in a blink of an eye. It's so chilling when they know, that you know who they are behind the mask and they don't care that you do, as long as key people in their corner don't. How does one even begin to explain all of that to other people? One wood sound insane! I honestly feel so dumb for not seeing the real? face of the "person" earlier, and at times I feel so confused in life and so alone, it's so hard to understand what's going on! but videos like these helps a lot. God Bless Dr. Ramani.🌺

Kudos to the interviewer too, she is extremely articulate and he can keep up without getting totally lost in some of her explaining. I had to pause and go back 2 or three times to soak in some concepts, he didn't even break a sweat once 👏🏽

I once heard it said: "You can judge the character of a person by the way they treat people who can't do anything for them". It's something that always stuck w/ me,. When i'm entering a new relationship or friendship i make a point of observing how that person tends to treat other people, and it's interesting and instructive how often it is radically different from how they interact w/ me.

I like her. I wish we had more therapists like her: passionate, honest, intelligent, empathetic.

Thank you Dr. Ramani! You are so articulate, knowledgeable, empathetic, helpful, an incredible educator and AMAZING woman!. I'm sooo happy I found you here. Thank you.

I once had a friend at school whom I now think is a sociopath turned psychopath. As a child he was always restless, completely self-centered and violent. He was also very good at lying and pretending to fell remorse later, and apologizing. While this was maybe something like ADHD as a child, he clearly learned to accept and control it more, but still has occasional outbursts. Later, when he was my friend for a year or two, he would always get angry at someone if they didn’t master or understand topics and traits which were part of his personal identity, like mathematical logic, English (verbal language, not grammar which he was never good at) which manipulation through politeness, playing video games and other, smaller things. Instead of explaining and respecting and understanding that the other person (sometimes me), he would get angry at them for not being like him. This seems very narcissistic to me. I stopped accepting his behavior and just didn’t spend any more time than necessary with him (again, it was at school). I don’t want to make a diagnosis or something like that, which is clearly not in my power and I’m not an expert, but it was very clear that he was a emotionally draining (for others, especially me) draining person with no respect and he never showed any signs of real empathy either. He was born 2 months early, so maybe he isn’t even to blame, as he also behaved like a sociopath in childhood (I know that children still develop their personality and this probably wasn’t clinical). I speculate he has become a psychopath because I was still at school with him for two and a half years after he ceased to be my friend. He got better and better at controlling his behavior, I observed, and the angry narcissistic outbursts become more rare. What I do for sure know is that he manipulated me (intentional or just because it was so easy that is happened from itself) when my parents had just been divorced, I was 11 and had only one friend, more of a pal or buddy, at school, and was hence very vulnerable. He controlled me throughout the friendship and it was generally very exploitative. I don’t think he ever saw me as that important, it just brought him pleasure being together with me, he never helped me and it wasn’t mutually beneficial. I have always been very empathetic and so he used that trait. I regret ignoring what I knew about him from his childhood behavior, but he had but become so much better at hiding and controlling it. . After the divorce I probably was just not able to accept that nobody at school could really be my friend, and so I let myself me manipulated by the one who seemed nicest, at least not condescending (in the beginning) of the „friendship“. I have learned from this part of my life and I don’t think I will ever me that easily manipulated again. I’m very aware of how people around me behave and what their intentions might be. I wish you support, awareness, and knowledge for anyone out there who has encountered or will encounter any of these personalities in their life, like I did.

Interesting how she says she avoids charming people at parties. I used to live in a lot of shared accomodation situations where we would interview lots of people as potential roommates. It got to the point that I would not allow exceedingly charismatic people to move in, because I had at various times in the past found these types of people to more likely be manipulative and users.

I wish I have seen this video 43 years ago, would have saved me a lot of tears and unhappy years

I like his version of forgiveness, I'm going to adopt that. My childhood could not have gone any other way, gives a certain amount of freedom, immediately.

I was told by a friend years ago, that he thought he had anti-social personality disorder. I wish I had known what it was then. I assumed based off of hearing the name that he was just a little anti-social. I didn't understand who I was dealing with. What I have been dealing with is someone sadistic and cruel that lacks all self awareness and has a complete lack of empathy. This experience has been a nightmare from hell. I really think it's time that the disorder is renamed to something more fitting to the kind of people that the label represents. I agree with Dr. Ramani.

This woman is so clear and concise and knowledgeable…I would love to have her as s therapist.

The understanding of human psychology is an asset these days. You shouldn't cause yourself anxiety or paranoia, but you should always be on guard for the ulterior motives of other people.

Listening to Dr. Ramini describe CEOs: I can relate the characteristics she describes to most employers or higher ups I’ve worked for by her descriptions alone. She just nails it. She is so knowledgeable and I’ve learned so much from listening to her

Wow. Best video I've seen. Every single point was a spot on description of ME. I'm a survivor, and have been diagnosed with severe PTSD from the trauma. Only way i got out was my husband suddenly and unexpectedly died. I still struggle with love/ hate & relief/grief even though it's been 4 years now. 😪

How can any human being store this much thorough information in their head and effortlessly articulate it on command with this much fluidity???? This lady is unbelievable.

When they show you who they are the first time....believe them, seek help and get out.

Wonderful podcast. I was a child and adolescent therapist. I worked with servery emotional disturbed children for over 10 years then I went to work for hospice. I believe I could tell the difference between a sociopath and a psychopath. Most were sociopaths. I did have 2 brothers age 12 and 16. They murdered a mother and her son for quarters. They talked about it in class. I called the police they were both convicted.They both were out of control possibly gang members. There was 0 remorse in either boy The 2 were disruptive in class. They threatened me on a daily basis. Their mom for sure was in a gang. She was hardcore mean. She did not care at all what her 2 boys did. I hate to say this but when I made home visits I was called the no good white devil social worker it got so bad that my employer would not allow be to do home visits.

Thank you Dr Ramani and Kyle. I've watched your videos over and over and found a lot of answers, strategies to handle family members that I have to deal with on a daily basis. The disorders around our community is prevalent and would've been overwhelming but through your discussions life is a hell of a lot more interesting (at my age) and bearable.

One day my uncle's neighbor came over, and the instant he came through the door, I had a horrible feeling about him. He sat next to me and I was so uncomfortable. I tried to avoid him all night, and the conversation was really weird and he was so opinionated and harsh. I couldn't shake the bad feeling I had. Later I told my uncle and mom how I felt. They dismissed me. Later that year, he was busted for stealing from the company, computers and other expensive stuff, plus, he would travel to Thailand under pretense of work, but he would go to brothels and sleep with underage girls. Some other things were found in his home after a raid I think. I knew he was a bad person. I felt it the instant I saw him. It was weird, but I am glad I have a radar going on. No-one else did.

We need to implement more emotional intelligence in school systems. Kids will learn how to regulate their emotions and receive help if they need guidance in how to work through them in a healthy way.

She is so well spoken and articulate. So easy to learn from her. She’s a true expert!!!

I work with someone I would surmise is in the antisocial personality disorder category and it causes no end of problems in MANY areas and has taken a huge toll on all of us who have to work with him. You are so correct about the difficulty of dealing with these people, and sadly as they won't realize their own problems, and it's nearly impossible to fire people these days....... if just to save companies from losing good employees who are leaving just to "escape" from this person......

she is a genius. the way she speaks on these things leaves no room for misunderstanding. So refreshing as a student of psychology.

1:13:47 "They can keep a lid on it long enough to get a ring on it." This is so true with manipulators and gaslighting lol.

Dr Ramani’s expertise shines through in every video. The way she presents facts and evidence with such clarity is truly commendable. Thanks to her, I've become a dedicated viewer of MedCircle!!

I really enjoyed listening to this. Its difficult to find comprehensive and articulate psych specialist sources as well put together as this was.

The way Dr. Durvasula talks about children always brings tear to my eyes, and what she said about that grief you feel when seeing other kids with caring loving families, the sense of having been robbed of that and a normal childhood, she got that spot on, bullseye.

The most informative 2 hours of my life.

OMG!!! I laughed out loud when you were describing how when you use snail mail, you had so many opportunities to NOT SEND THE LETTER! I have 20 + letters, all hand written, signed and dated by the narcissist that are a road map to his insanity. I miss snail mail.

I have aspd, in the sociopath area of it. I feel that people like me are treated like lame and infirm children in a bronze age Sparta. We get thrown out immediately, which just makes everyone else's problems worse. I've learned how to behave to effectively hold relationships and steady long term income and I've gone from being dirt poor to upper middle class in the last 6 months, only from learning what people expect others to do and say. Life is a huge learning experience till we die and I'm excited for the future, especially as I'm expecting my first child soon.

".....anything that feels like a hustle, is probably a hustle!" 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

She speaks in a way I can understand, yet I can’t turn away because I am learning. I love how nothing is sugarcoated. Thank you so much.

Spectacular back and forth. Could listen to her all day. So interesting

My first time watching your channel. Extremely helpful and perfect presentation. Your honesty and sincerity fly out from the screen. Great to see and I'll check out more of your content.

Eggshells are a nightmare. Living with a person / a relationship with a person - with whom you cannot have decent communication is a total nightmare. It makes you nuts! I have been there. 14 years marriage to a passive aggressive covert narcissist who, with 7 therapists, looked like the paragon of virtue where I looked like the nut job. The 8th therapists recognised my symptoms! I was divorced and left a year later! Done and dusted. Living so happily alone with 9 animals!

I was married to a man with antisocial personality disorder and also narcissistic. He was very subtle while dating. I saw 1 red flag that I ignored. Now 21 years later I can see it more clearly. Thank goodness we never had children. As time went on things became worse. He would demonstrate a certain personality when in public but the true stuff came out when alone. It is important to be cautious in relationships.

You guys are incredible & changed my life & helped me think positive as well my personal therapist. Knowledge is dam power. Thanks again.

I adore Dr Ramani, she is so knowledgeable and i almost find her voice calming.

Doesn’t the book of Proverbs say “charm is deceitful.” Great talk

My Mother has antisocial personality disorder, NPD, and is absolutely a sociopath. I am still unraveling the abuse and I am 43. It has been extremely painful. This video was quite good. Thank you kindly.

I really Love how you express your Professional Knowledge

Dr. Ramani is so good that I'm getting a positive response from her over my health.

And I had a relationship with someone who had literally 40 relationships within just a several year period. All of them ended with "that person was the problem" and then come to find out, they play the same game on you. They chew you up and spit you at as you said, don't care about you, smear campaign, discard/ghosting, etc. and yet this person is considered cheerful and loving, a "perfect" and outgoing person by everyone around them. Nevermind their drug addiction, trainwreck lifestyle every weekend and trail of broken people behind them. Yet no "criminal" history or signs that will alert you. But now I see they do have a rap sheet, they have those broken people behind them, the crimes of the heart they have not been convicted of.

Good distinction: The narcissist will HATE being criticized, the psychopaths don’t mind. 😳

Thank you for these moments of instruction...very helpful.

I prefer email over face to face, maybe because I’m obsessive about proof-reading. In-person exchanges don’t allow time to edit, so I often end up either overreacting or shutting down. And when there’s really nothing I can say that will make a difference, with email there’s always the delete option. And I love her advice about leaving the recipient line empty until you’re sure you want to send ☺️

My dad was a complete narcissist, recovered alcoholic and had intermittent rage disorder. My mom was a simpleton from a poor and uneducated family. She was completely dependent on my dad. There was alot of chaos which caused me to act out at times with temper flare-ups, rebellion and I avoided home by working part time after school and on weekends. I had lots of friends and activities. Though I had boyfriends I knew I couldn't marry or have kids because I had too many negative traits from my family. I read self help books and just hung on to an assortment of jobs until I could become financially stable, independent and whole. I listened to my intuition and did not allow society to push me into another cycle of dysfunction. I realized early on that my family was different. I knew I was on my own at an early age.

Dr Ramani is saving people lives by helping us be aware of what is happening around us. I want to give her a big hug and say THANK YOU!

Bravo to you two for talking about children and mental health. Apparently there is not enough research and studies done on children and their mental health. There needs to be much more studying done because there are keys that have not been unlocked yet in recognizing future mental health problems.

Glad she mentioned DBT. Changed my life. Not BPD, Bi Polar. Taught me so much.

OMG I love her, I took her class multiple times during my undergrad. She’s a great professor!

Forgiveness is different then trust. I have forgive a friend, however I will never trust. I will walk away from them. I don’t wish wrong to come to them.

It’s good that you’re self aware. I commend you for doing these videos. I was with a guy for 2 years who has BPD and I really wish he gets treated. He’s a wounded boy inside who doesn’t trust anyone

First time I watched, now subscriber. The knowledge she shares is so interesting, and comforting to me. Thanks

The most charming men I dated turned out to be narcissistic or exploitative, or both. It was quite the rollercoaster ride.

My brother was diagnosed with antisocial PD and mamic depression. This was compounded with our mother being an alcoholic narcissist. He exhibited conduct disorder by age 5. He had his expected stints in jail and later prison. As he aged, his suicide attempts became frequent. His girlfriend cut him down from near death hangings 4 different times. I was his big sister caring for all the younger siblings as mother was useless, and dangerous. My father was such a decent and good man, but codependent as hell with mom so he always gave in to her demands that no help be brought in to care for us. Mother hid behind her affluence which worked so well back in the 50'sand 60's. My brother asked me often, "Tell me again sis why mom doesn't love me...." He never could understand how sick of an alcoholic she was nor her cold nature, no hugs, no I love yous...never. What a heart breaker. He succeeded in ending his life at age 36 while staying in a boarding house down by old man river in downtown Rock Island, Illinois. He was found by another boarder in the morning when he went to shower where he found Billy who had strangled himself with a torn t-shirt which he had secured to one of the water handles. Not high enough to hang, he literally strangled himself. The coroner told me that manner of death is unusual and demonstrates the unbearable pain he must have felt to override the natural reaction to breathe. I was twisted for so long after that. I am now 64 and am a codependent empath with a significant problem with CPTSD. I exhibit my brokenness via anxiety which I am told is displaying my underlying depression. I don't know really who I am other than a collection of defense mechanisms and reflexive reactions as I carefully observe other's behaviors. I am a people pleaser who dysregulates if I feel I am losing control of events in my life. I keep on fighting until some psychosomatic illness forces me to stop, like giant hives, EBV in later life and aerophagia. I am stuck in my programmed reactions from my toxic childhood. I feel unworthy, cannot trust and am plagued with shame. The body indeed will keep score if we are unable to manage our dysregulation. I just want to feel that I know who I am and have a chance at real love before I die.

Been dealing with an individual for over a decade and things are becoming more clear as to what I am dealing with.

"Walked through the fires...spinning straw into gold" love this!

Ramani is my therapy. She just understands mental health and psychology and trauma so well that she leaves little room for confusion. She really is an expert in her field. Hands down the most respectful and honest.

She basically just explained the characteristics needed if you want to become a polician.

I don’t like being a focus to anyone, but I think about silencing those thoughts in my head every day. I know I’m too old now but I’d want any young people reading, don’t leave it too late to find help before it’s ingrained and unchanging, you cannot teach an old dog new tricks. Don’t live with pain you don’t have to. Please. I love you brothers and sisters, I’ve never met you or interacted with you but I empathise with you. I know you in that I know myself. I wish you all the best.

your absolutely right, this is very validating, as i am co parenting with one. and everything you say Dr Ramani is on point. Thank you

A dark triad person can ruin whole generations in a family tree.

I grew up with very emotionally and verbally abusive parents. My mother would often refer to me as a sociopath when I was a kid. In adult life when I worked through this stuff with mental health professionals I learned that the reason I I had trouble showing emotions so young was due to trauma from bullying ,racism and growing up in a family of alcoholics. this video is a great resource, Dr. Ramani's work has help me so much!

❤ I enjoy Ramani in her positive polished enthusiasm 😊

Got it, great lesson 👍 politics and those who fake it and show's no remorse toward no one, am seeing everyday where I work in behavioral health and mental health. Am not, can't work with client's who has backgrounds that's longer than my arm, yes they will try to make you feel intimated

"Prince charming are prince psycopathy to me" 🤣🤣🤣

This is quite generous of medcircle. Thank you !🌠🌟💫

ClusterBs usually have "really good" social circles and are suuuuper popular! I'm a surviver and still having a very hard time opening up to socialize...