@CorkScrew-up8qx Well, it seems to have struck a nerve for you. She must have a point then, eh? Cartoon picture or not, you're still the idiot with all the red flags. 😂
Never go on a date without enough money to cover yourself and have a ride home arranged. Never leave your stuff at someone's house or in their car. I would have given the keys to a bartender and left immediately. Drive yourself, never give anyone control over your ability to leave
And then guys say that we women have 'too many and too high of expectations'. Like, sir, dude, no. The bar is in hell, this guys are proof of it. And we are uping it to heaven, you like it or not.
Her whole page is about that actually! She catches cheating boyfriends and reports back to the gf. Women pay her. She messages them and sees if they will take the bait.
To any of the young ladies reading this...I know that you are living on "hope" that things will get better, either during the date or relationship but take it from this 53-year-old woman. It won't...whether it's a first date or relationship, a man is always taking your temperature to see what you are going to tolerate, at the first sign of BS, please just pick up and leave. The young lady that tolerated the man fighting, the moment he was fighting...I would have left and not contacted him again. The young lady on the date and another woman was there in the booth or table. Leave....
@@nimokimani I didn't even listen to the very end. Please don't tell me there was kissing after that stupid date of 2 women and one narcissistic man 🤦🏽♀️
Nah watching my grandma, aunties and my momma go through it with men they’re married to changed my whole world view. It doesn’t get better you just gotta choose the best one and work through it atp
I had a similar situation. I had a date with a man who lived with his gf for years. I asked before do you have a gf he said no. I had the same intuition something is wrong so I didn’t do the investigation but I just said I don’t want to meet you. He confessed suddenly the day after he has a gf loving with her. I said will you ever contact me I will tell her. What happened? Two months later he tried to call me. Than I found out who she is and told her. She was in shock. The sad part is he said she doesn’t care about he is being with others and I said well you have to still tell her. So he pretended not only being single he also pretended that his gf don’t care! Boy was he wrong. She left him, of course 🤷🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️ I would like to know if someone will cheat on me and would be thankful if someone would tell me.
Thank you. I have seen two out of three used, Y married men. I told them, if one woman isn’t enough for you - why do you want to piss off two?! (Thank you, Wanda Sykes!!) 😊👍🇨🇦
There was once a man who asked me out on a date & while texting back & forth I realised his WhatsApp profile picture is his wedding photo & I blocked him!!
I’m taking a break from dating because in 2022 I met two men who wanted to “take me out” (they just wanted sex, I wouldn’t give it to them) and they were BOTH married. Blocked their numbers and social media. Some of these men have no shame.
Same here. I used to work in corporate office and most of the men in the office would hit on me and they where all grown married men, and I was a young girl in my 20’s
I definitely agree with the first woman. If you somehow become privy that a man you went on a date with was married it is definitely the right thing to do to tell the wife. I don’t understand how that is even a question.
It's a safety issue. A friend of mine told the wife and the wife not only took all the anger out on her but cyber stalked her for months after the fact and started spreading malicious rumours about my friend to make her seem like a homewrecker. When the wife eventually got tired of that, she told the husband (who my friend had broken up with) that she was miserable because she was jealous of a woman he wasn't even seeing anymore. This married man proceeded to stalk and harrass my friend, claiming she'd ruined his marriage by telling the wife. Cheaters are crazier and sometimes their spouses are crazier. Some women prefer to just mind their business and quietly exit the love triangle rather than deal with a male-identified wife or the cheating husband trying to ruin their life for speaking up. You just can't trust that people will respond rationally.
These girls showed that even very beautiful girls don't have boundaries and put up w too much crap from men. The blonde should have left the two of them. The girl w the fighting guy shouldn't have gone on a second "date". The guy didn't apologize. Yikes girls. Please be good to yourself.
The dude who keeps getting in fights obviously makes enemies wherever he goes. Trouble follows him. My ex had someone literally refuse to say hi to him “A friend” apparently. First warning. Another time a girl, even started yelling at him for dating her friend while with me while we were out in the town. Second warning. I ignored both because I was dumb, and didn’t have any idea of my own self worth. After our relationship ended, which ended poorly, he tried sitting next to next to me on the bus and I told him to get the hell away from me. It took a long time to figure out, I’m the best partner and I deserve an educated, respectful, kind, and loving partner in my life.
For the blonde girl, I had a similar issue on a date in college. This guy who was a friend of a friend asked me out, and when he picked me up, he asked if I minded if we swung by his school to pick up some friends. Being young and inexperienced, I thought it was a weird request, but I said I didn’t mind. Then he stops and 4 girls squeeze into the back seat, and we all go to a bar. He proceeds to go off with the 4 girls from his school and just left me alone the entire night.😂 I just stood there and tried to have fun on my side of the bar, and I had to call our mutual friend to come pick me up. I got the hint that he obviously didn’t like me if he’d ask me out just to humiliate me.😂
Yep, a man from my work asked me if I wanted to get coffee. I got to the place, and with a smirk on his face, he introduced me to his fiancée. Mm, ok. Luckily, an old friend I hadn't seen in years walked by and I stopped him and took the chance to exit the weird situation. The worst part is that I was only meeting the guy from work because our work relationship was more friendship than anything else. I got the impression that he was trying for a "gotcha" moment, but I only saw him as full of himself for trying to embarrass me as if I was in love with him! He isn't the only one to do that. What a lot of people don't want to admit that is some men will deliberately be abusive and horrible to attractive women. I've had no less than 12 men contact me on social media DECADES later to tell me they were about to get married. And? What are you telling me for?? 🤣
I’ve been in the first girl situation, at least three times each time I’ve tried talking to the other woman about the situation. They were horrible to me. They took out their anger that they had towards the man on me. One woman even social media stalked me for at least a year. I had to make my Instagram private for a long time because of that .Each time I had no clue that these men were in relationships or married. So these days if a woman reaches out to me, which honestly hasn’t happened in a long time, but if it were to happen, I can see why women choose to stay out and ignore the other woman because it’s never gone well for me.
Ive had bad experiences, too. I had told a casual friend that her bf's ex-girlfriend was trying to get back with him. Next thing I know the ex wanted to fight me. Like, why would you put my safety at risk when I was helping you out? I had another woman whose man was a chronic cheater and she "her ased" me for some time after she caught him with me. Later she did apologize for saying hurtful things to me and accusing me of still messing with him when I wasn't. He was messing other women.
@@iseeyoushay there should be a understood sisterhood when it comes to those type of things, but it just really doesn’t exist it seems. Both women are being played, and we should be supportive of one another. Nowadays, it’s just better and safer to just mind your business and block that woman and that man and let them deal with it amongst themselves.
This is why I do what I do with these men and keep it moving because most of these men do not want anything serious anyway, it just appears that they get into marriages or relationships just to cheat. I’m not gonna lie. I used to want some serious but now I don’t.
@@Enriquez2222 I’ve been doing that too and plus I will text these men just to test them just to see what they’ll never reply (unless it’s for they’re own convenience lol) to be on the safe side
It’s because it’s never enough. They are so entitled to novelty, they project their problems on to us, they are missing intimacy in their lives (let’s face it they lie and bond with people over things they hate or their hobbies, but nothing deeper. One of my biggest wake up calls EVER was when my male friend said that he would lie about liking olives and would be willing to eat them for the rest of his life just to “build connection” with the woman who said she liked olives. When manipulation (over something as small as food preferences) is confused for connection there is no hope.
@@Enriquez2222 girl so true though sometimes acting like you like them is so hard because they be having inflated ego and show off whatever they have and im just like uhhhgggg here we go again have to put up with this just to use him xD? 30 days is long I lasted only a week lol I can't handle them how do you have the patience??
@@wanderlustoceans8205 I have to limit the amount of communication… maybe 5 texts per ever 2-3 days and then go about the rest of my week. I usually tell them I have to work/gym so I’ll talk to them when I have time(which is technically true)… They are draining so I gotta keep it to a minimum. I learned this from men 😂, or just send the goodmorning messages then don’t respond until the afternoon or next day. Edit: and I’ll only see them once a week
The request for the money spent on a date is an attempt to humble you. Especially if you told him no to going to his apartment or you didn't feel the vibes for a second date. So they try to humble you because they can't handle rejection.
To my Chitown sis, she should’ve known and left him when the fight started. I need women to start listening to their intuition and just roll. Also, I’m from Chicago and I would’ve rolled out as soon as that happened. Actually, I wouldn’t have gone to the lounge as she said she didn’t feel like it.
If the guy I was meeting for a date he asked ME on and I saw another woman at the table I would ask him right in front of her if this is our date and what is she doing here.
I had that “I am going to act like I like you and then humiliate you in public” scenario happen to me in HIGH SCHOOL. A grown man doing that to someone is way asinine.
I wouldn't even do that. I would have just walked away the moment I saw him sitting with another woman. I'm not going to waste my time and energy confronting a fool.
Some of these girls just need to speak up for themselves because how do you show up to a date and another girl is there and you stay. Not only that but you make out with the dude for ten minutes?
Thank goodness we are talking so openly about this. It is helping us as a group develop. While I am amazed at the lack of boundaries that women have thanks so much for sharing your stories.
So that dude took her on a shared date without notifying her of what it was, ignores her the whole time, then she says he *tries kissing her...but then outs herself and says "made out for 10 min". Girl. He may have treated you poorly, but YOU then made out with him for 10 fucking minutes. Don't be a pick-me and then complain about it!!
What did the well-known comedian have to do with the story? The rapper... Rolex and cash. She's one of those. Lol. Was he in the hospital overnight for a broken leg? I missed something.
The First Lady I can relate to. This guy I was dating was cheating on his girl and I had to tell her. We talked for hours day and night and I was there for her. Fast forward they got back together and still together, and I’m still here for her if she ever wants to leave again. I don’t blame her for going back, I blame him for hurting her. Hold men accountable.
The woman with the head wrap with the story about the “well known” Atlanta Chicago man is pathetic. It’s pretty clear that she was clout chasing, from the way she would introduce people into her story. In addition to her going out on a second date with someone who got into a fight lounge. So sad.
I had a guy tried talking to me before I deleted dating apps years ago he was talking to himself until he sent me a good amount of money so I said why are you sending strangers money he said he loves to invest in wat he likes long story short i had 37missed calls so while I was on the app i started getting called again I answered then it was his wife asking all kinds of things and that's not even the worst thing to happen from that app had men that were scat kings, playing with themselves while talking on video call until I see white stuff shoot up cause they couldn't afford a sexorker the stuff I experienced just made me delete the app all together too draining
I rember my ex telling me about the extra cheese story (he is also very cheap. Didnt even give me a bday present). My ex presented it as the guy not wanting the extra cheese and girl pressuring him into doing it. Smh. Cheap men are such a red flag.
as a polyamorous person this kinda stuff frustrates me sooo much. there is a whole community of people who practice poly or ethical non monogamy in a healthy way to have multiple partners. but these men DONT want that. they dont want their partners to see others, they want the power and control of cheating. its so gross and i DONT understand it!! i am so happy being poly and having multiple connections where everyone is on board and willing to be a part of that. monogamy is valid absolutely for people who want that ofc! not saying poly is like the answer or anything, it just frustrates me to no end to hear all these cheating stories. when i know there is a way to be with many people in a way that doesnt hurt anyone. why dont they want that !!! UGHHH
Yeah it's like they insist on being unethical & hurting ppl. I can be polyam or mono, although lean towards polyam. So I know, it's really not that hard to stay true to your commitments & not cheat in mono relationships. I don't get why you'd agree to be mono & then completely disrespect your partner- it just seems so icky.
@@Enriquez2222 it's true, but i have no idea why... i just can't relate to that. i have way too much empathy, i feel bad when i hurt people's feelings unintentionally. i just can't comprehend how so many men don't care about peoples feelings... i couldn't not care even if i tried
Naaah its the guy who got into a fight twice. Why did she go back after the first time??? I would hv walked out of the venue and never go back. Not getting stabbed or punched for beinf in the wrong place at wrong time.
There's a lady named Thick Chick Vlogs who has two really funny stories about her awful dates. The videos are old, but they're worth a watch. She's a good story teller.
The guy With the Instagram was with his girlfriend, he brought her because she followed him knowing that he was lying to her about going on a date, then, when he was alone and out of her sight in the car that's when he made out with you, because it was supposed to be a date the entire time, but the.Girlfriend caught wind and went to the date.And even that's why she didn't say a word to you the entire time because she knew it was b.S and that her man was actually there to have a date with you, And he was just trying to pass it off as a business meeting! 😅😂😂🤷 You should have been smart enough to know its not normal and blew up his spot, and ASKED DIRECTLY in front of her... why did you ask me on this date if you already had one??? I'm sure at that point, SHE would have clarified the situation to you! game recognizes game!
3:38 same thing happened to me I found a girl on Instagram and was very respectful I just wanted to know if she had spoken to him on Instagram me seeing their "recently messaged" but they were deleted. She never responded but then I was blocked shortly after sending the message. Women out here betraying their own gender over a dusty male 😂
