This is sad because a lot of kids around the world are probably experiencing this. This type of abuse isn’t talked about as much as physical abuse and that’s not okay because I know firsthand how much it can hurt someone. Edit: I’m so sorry all of you are going through this. You can get through this, I believe in you
And im one of them 🙃 Damn why so many likes?? It's actually sad Ik how each and everyone here feels I've been thru it and still am... TTYL take care yall!!!
This really raises awareness, people don’t think that this kind of abuse is as bad as physical abuse but they have no idea how much it hurts and it’s not fair that we have to go through it everyday
Especially when the kid owes nothing, they didn't ask to be born nor raised by the parent. Every child deserves a parent, but not all parents deserve a child.
@@picklelover6576 you can go ahead and say that we are overreacting but we’re not, apparently you didn’t have it as bad as the rest of us and I don’t see why you have to go around saying this for no good reason, it’s not benefiting anyone, maybe it’s because no one has ever taught you to think before you speak.
Everytime I bring up how I don’t like how I’m being treated, I’ll get a lecture on how my parents put a roof over my head, took my sisters and I on vacations, paid for my education etc. I hate it-I didn’t ask to be born, but I was and I just want love and support, and to be treated like a person worthy of respect.
God bless you and i love you, i hope you are okay and will always be okay. Im here if you, i will make time for you. I have school so i may not respond in time. Thank you for you.
Once my grandpa told me a story of an old friend of him, growing up his dad would write down every single thing he spent on him, once he turned 18 he had to start paying for it, when he got older he got a great job and got to pay everything, when he did he told his dad than from that day on he would not longer be his father and never spoke to him again
I relate to this a lot. I just make a small mistake like dropping my pen on the floor then I get scolded because I did something "very wrong". And my parents just make it all about themselves. They say its my fault and I'm not doing good enough because I get a 92 on my scores sometimes. It hurts and I dont feel comfortable with them anymore. They always treat my sister better because she went with what they wanted. My sister wanted to go to law school but she went with engineering because thats what our parents wanted. Everytime I explain my side, they tell me I'm "talking back" and that they're suffering because I "spend money" even though my sister spends a lot more money that I have ever had. For anyone experiencing this, I'm praying for you. ❤
The same happens with me they treat my sister nicely as she went to study to become doctor n my parents wanted that but I protested n told them I wanted to do art Then one day in the last days of my vacation my parents call me n tell me that they already took admission to study science n all things are done 👍🏻🙂
That’s bad parenting of what I’m hearing from you. You don’t deserve them. You do what you need to do. This is what I tell my friend who is also going through the same thing. Don’t let them be more powerful than you. You will be a strong person and do what’s right for you and follow your dreams. I hate how your parents treat you. If they want you in 5 or 10 years, reject them. Take care of yourself and don’t get into that hole. I believe in you and you do what’s best.
I'm so sorry you have to put up with that I can feel for you because my sister is always treated better than me. Whenever I cry my parents tell me to stop or ask now why are you crying? And whenever it's my sister they are like Omg did I say something I'm so sorry! And my sister is spoiled whenever she goes to the store with my mom she always gets her way and everything she wants but when I ask for something they say no. But I really find it unfair that my dad hit me and never my own sister. He's hit me at least 5 times in all my life and never my sister. And my sister always is trying to invade my personal space and cross my boundaries all my family is. And for about 1 the first 10 years of my life I was not allowed to cry basically. My parents would always tell me to stop and shut up. And I just wanted to have a price of pie but my grandpa fat shamed me and called me selfish because I cut a piece that was too big when my mother cut a piece bigger than me. And later he said sorry and told me that it was a joke.. Its not a joke if your f*cking fat shaming someone and telling them that they are selfish. Also my dad told me when I was 7 that I was getting fat and needed to lose weight. This is why I have problems. Not because of society. Because of my own f*cking family..
@@Thesuperstars.123 I find it ridiculous for a parent telling the child to stop crying and that's infuriating. And your grandpa shouldn't fat shame you. Whether it's a joke or not, he shouldn't say that.
I don’t think my parents have ever told me or complained to me how much it costs to raise me and I’m happy about that.. I’m so sorry u had to go through that
This. This type of abuse is almost never talked about. I have an argument like this with my parents, everyday and now I'm just getting tired. Thanks Val for bringing this topic up ❤
I once argued with them then years later, I'm completely a helpless, silent observer who still gets trash. My narcissistic stepmother lack parenting skills and finds fault in other people, same goes with my narcissistic father. It's shameful and disgusting that grown adults will find ways to blame children that they shape themselves. It's emotionally draining and now I develop triggers along with my brother. I don't know about my sister but what I observe is that she is traumatized as well.
I’m so happy that I’m no the only one that goes though this. Every single day my mom is a narcissist and she scolds me for the most inconvenient things, and one of my friends knows what she does to me and she sees what I’m like with my mom and how I’m like with her and when I’m at school she says I’m so much happier. But the second I get home I have to wipe the smile off my face, don’t talk, and have no emotion. I have to stay in my room and it’s getting old. ❤️ I’m so sorry for anyone else that has to got though this.
The worst part is you vent to other people and they’re like “well they fed and clothed you didn’t they? So stop complaining. There are kids out there starving and homeless.”
Then, they wonder what they even did to their child. Crying, sobbing, not just because you abused them, you broke their heart and left an emotional wound inside. Then, you’re just stuck there believing all of the lies they tell you and thinking it’s all your fault when it isn’t.
My dad.. he originally wasn't like this.. but through the years, he began to change. He became a hot headed guy, also yelling and cursing for even smallest things. Then just last week.. we got into a fight and ask me to kill him if I had the guts.. I told.him that I had a future and I wasn't gonna waste that just to go to prison... I said that one day, I will leave.. he then yelled, break and throw my things away.. shouting for me to leave the house.. his house. I have nowhere to live so I compromise and said sorry.. but I wasn't and probably wouldn't be able to forget that day for a thousand of years.
You need to get a safe place to go, I would recommend asking close friends families that you trust if you can stay there. I hope your situation gets better, but know that there is always hope and someone there for you❤
I hate the fact that no one acknowledges emotional abuse as much as physical abuse. I’ve witnessed friends, family, and others be emotionally abused and I didn’t know until I was emotionally abused myself. To everyone who has or is being emotionally abused I want you to know that people are here for you and people love you! You are amazing! I hope this brightens your day❤
This is just as bad as physical abuse. You are always feeling bad about yourself because the people that should be there to help, love, and comfort you are treating you like the neighbors trash😔
That's what my mom did im starting to not like her. I always get abused. Last Time on a Saturday night I got beaten with a brush on the hard side and it swelled my leg for a week. And all my family members do nothing about it..
God bless you and i love you, i hope you are okay and will always be okay. Im here if you, i will make time for you. I have school so i may not respond in time. Thank you for you.
Our relationship isnt as bad.. but its slowly getting there.. and I dont know why. Whats worse is that am the only one amongst my siblings thats like this with my mom. And honestly am trying to be a good daughter.. but its exhausting.
My father is like this. And this is exactly why I moved to a different state and barely have any contact with him. And now I'm a teacher and every day my goal is to do right by my kids and love them like I wasn't.
Same story here 🤚🏼 being a teacher is what keeps me on this earth because I was raised in a way that makes me think I only deserve to exist as long as I serve others. This will never go away but I'm making the best out of it
God bless you and i love you, i hope you are okay and will always be okay. Im here if you, i will make time for you. I have school so i may not respond in time. Thank you for you.
God bless you and i love you, i hope you are okay and will always be okay. Im here if you, i will make time for you. I have school so i may not respond in time. Thank you for you.
Insensitive parents can harm their kids emotionally. Emotional damage is hard to repair as it requires lot of selfless love, which is not easy to find in this world. Forget about trusting anyone for love.😢
The fact that this happens to kids around just makes me so mad, my mom would abuse me this way and I know how much it hurts people.. To anyone who is going through this and has to experience this I’m sorry, and I hope that things will change, and just know that you aren’t alone!! ❤️
God bless you and i love you, i hope you are okay and will always be okay. Im here if you, i will make time for you. I have school so i may not respond in time. Thank you for you.
God bless you and i love you, i hope you are okay and will always be okay. Im here if you, i will make time for you. I have school so i may not respond in time. Thank you for you.
Parents like that should never have kids in the first place. Its heartbreaking for those kids. May all the kids who deal with that be in a better place later in life when they can care for themselves
"Do you know how much it costs to raise you?" "You got yourself into this. You decided to have me. You still could've put me up for adoption, but you didn't. You have no one to blame but yourself."
Parents say that not because they regret it but because most likely the child in question is wasting everything a parent has done for them. Stop acting like you would have wanted to be placed for adoption or grown up in a foster home or that you would have preferred not to be born. If someone sweats to provide for you, especially when they give you a GOOD life, the least you can do is make them proud or try to be a good child.
@@anastasiaokwuchi4035 just because they provide for you, that doesn't make them a good parent. I was asked "do you know how much your medical bills are costing me?" when I was a young teenager. Just because he put a roof over my head and food on the table, that doesn't mean he was a good father or protector.
@@ME-cd3bs oh, I'm sorry I didn't mean it like that. I mean in the case of good parents. I know where the original clip comes from and the girl wasn't really the best child so that's why her mom said that. I meant when your parents or parent is doing everything right for and then a child just doesn't appreciate it and "wastes" it. In your case for the medical bills I'm sorry about that.
@@anastasiaokwuchi4035 aha that makes sense. Thanks for clarifying. I know a lot of these people on social media paint themselves as the victim when it's the opposite. It's hard to know what's truly going on behind the scenes. I appreciate your concern. I'm just glad I'm an adult now and finally out of the toxic situation!
@anastasiaokwuchi4035 tbh it doesn't matter what the kids does with their life cuz it's theirs- a parent shouldn't provide properly just because they want their kid to pay off like some investment A kid doesn't have to be greatful or thankful their parents did their job- that's like saying wow you fed your kid? Great job- it's the bare minimum If I talk to someone like hey how are you they ask how I am and after I say amazing job not punching me like they shouldn't punch me regardless- bare minimum
thing is, i relate to this so much,i have this happening and then i never get privacy, I don't have a bedroom door, my phone and computer is constantly being checked, i trusted my grandma and she stabbed me in the back and told everyone my deepest secrets that i NEVER wanted out, she said "i wont tell a single soul" and she told millions of souls
I wish this abuse was talked about more so more people are aware. Some parents act like they're good parents when really if your gonna complain to me and abuse me like this because you have to legally do it I'd rather have parents who want me and won't abuse me like this then have to deal with abuse. This abuse gets under my skin so much especially since sometimes my mom would bring up "You know I have to legally take care of you but I don't have to love you" And that would make me question her attitude towards me is just an act. Please if you're going through any type of abuse like this call someone or stand up for yourself. I don't care what they say you do not deserve to be abused like this so don't be afraid and do this for you, for me, for everyone who cares for you.
My dad one day told me "I am the one raising you , giving you food and shelter so never try to disobey me ever again " he was shouting like crazy and almost all my neighbours heard it... He surely does a lot for me but during every fight reminding me the cost of raising me actually hurts a lot ,,, I love the man more than anything in the world and here he is destroying my mental health over n over again
This hits really hard. I have a dad like this, but my mom is the complete opposite. It hurts to see how so much people experience the same thing I do..
I’m in the same situation as you.. but I wouldn’t be able to explain just how happy I am that my mom is there for me.. I hope you’re okay, hopefully we’ll make it out someday ❤️
Oh what pain our mothers put us through and somebody be saying no one loves you more than your mother 😢😢. My mom actually said to me today that whoever bewitched her to give birth to me must be dead or gloating somewhere cause I'm a nuisance 😢
God bless you and i love you, i hope you are okay and will always be okay. Im here if you, i will make time for you. I have school so i may not respond in time. Thank you for you.
The problem I face with my parents is also this but mine is where if I don’t make a 100 on an assignment I got grounded for a month. Meanwhile my sister got held back and got suspended from getting into fights at many schools. But I am now 11 and realize that I am more than just a little garbage disposal for death threats like I brought you into this world and I can take you out. Everton has a purpose in life. Always remember to love yourself and don’t let anyone get into your head❤
Tbh this was what it was like living with my bio dad and stepmom and emotionally I was drained I’m back at my bio moms now and I’m happier than ever because she has been nothing but loving and kind to me that is what needed the most
I’m so glad we’re talking abt this now physical abuse is the only one that gets attention and we need to fix that bc Ik how much it hurts to be treated like this we need to raise awareness for emotional abuse
This makes me said because after thirteen years of an emotionally abusive dad I could finally leave and he could just look at me and I cry. He destroyed my life and I could finally escape but he would also hit me aswell and I’m 13 currently so Thankyou for making this video it’s sad by helpful for me
God bless you and i love you, i hope you are okay and will always be okay. Im here if you, i will make time for you. I have school so i may not respond in time. Thank you for you.
I relate to this so much. My dad is emotionally abusive every since I was a kid. I took it reallt seriously as a kid, and it's till in my head, but now that I am older, I know that I all of that means nothing to me anymore.
This happens to me but because they're so manipulative, you think you deserve it, so when they speak to you like that, you think it's the truth. I usually just keep quiet. You speak up, it just makes things worst.
I love this pov because one, it spells out exactly what happens to me and other kids experiencing emotionally abusive parents. It also doesn’t only talk about physical abuse and rather brings life to emotional abuse. Thank you Val 💗
God bless you and i love you, i hope you are okay and will always be okay. Im here if you, i will make time for you. I have school so i may not respond in time. Thank you for you.
Thank you so much for this video. My dad was emotionally/mentally abusive and my mum and dad got a divorce she was sad but he was just abusive towards everyone in my family
God bless you and i love you, i hope you are okay and will always be okay. Im here if you, i will make time for you. I have school so i may not respond in time. Thank you for you.
My grandmother emotionally abuses me. She is probably the only person bedided me that I hate. She physically abused my mother when she was young. She calls me “ so thin the wind will blow you away “ and does things she knows makes me uncomfortable/annoyed like chewing loudly, touching me when shes wet on her hands, etc. Me and my mother have told her many times to stop, but she just won’t, so I’ve kind of accepted it. She is also partially the reason I went to therapy.
Finally someone speaking out about verbal and emotional abuse. Thank you so much for bringing awareness to the subject.. as someone who suffers from emotional and verbal abuse just thank you
Got me thinking you're so awkward to just throw a book at the camera I literally can't be the only one who was laughing so hard when you picture someone watching her throw a book at the camera😂😂😂
God bless you and i love you, i hope you are okay and will always be okay. Im here if you, i will make time for you. I have school so i may not respond in time. Thank you for you.
If your parents are like this, just fight back. We cant take the pain 💔 1. Those who hit you over some chores, grades and no reason. We arent a wall, dont hit us. Our skin isnt stone, it does get hurt. Our living isnt for parents to hit us, its to be successful and make money. 2. Those who yell and shout at you for going on your phones. They don't see how hard we work for a living. Even if you're a youtuber or even a butler, you put in all your hard work and tried your best. We all hope that our parents appreciate us... ❤❤❤
I’ve heard from my mom that a few times.. it feels horrible but every time I just thought I was being too emotional or overreacting. I guess I wasn’t. It’s good to know that people understand your feelings.
Val I absolutely love this video. Many people including myself have to deal with this type of abuse everyday, and tbh you make me want to do this and just never see them again.
**compares you to siblings** “WORK HARDER! YOUR BROTHER GOT ALL A’S WHILE YOU GET FCKING B+’S?! I SHOULD HAVE USED BIRTH CONTOL YOU WASTE OF FCKING SPACE”
God bless you and i love you, i hope you are okay and will always be okay. Im here if you, i will make time for you. I have school so i may not respond in time. Thank you for you.
As a 13 year old with body issues, an absent mother, and a father that tells me this everyday, this is just too accurate.😔 Plz don’t brush off as teenage angst
And hurts even more when they ask you for “apologies” and you know it is meaningless, as soon as possible you will get yelled again and have you heart broken one more time. And it goes on and on, year by year, it’s too hard to hold.
And it sucks that there are so many kids going through this, even myself. It’s not okay to torment kids just because you have more power. These kids have to stay in the same house for years, even when their parents tell them that they can leave and go to a boarding school or an orphanage. These kids develop depression and anxiety just from being with their parents, but they can’t even ask someone else for help or support because they are too scared. Scared that a person won’t understand.
