Pretty Priviledge vs Pretty Entrapment - My Views on the Matter 

This makes absolute sense, and I can see it play out in so many areas of life.

Every advantage comes with a disadvantage, yet people looking at the privileged ones tend to forget about the side effects that those 'others' have to deal with. It goes for beauty, wealth, power, anything. People will always be jealous of the 'lucky ones', not understanding that maybe they wouldn't event want to deal with the responsibilities and/or boundary setting that is 'part of the deal' when it comes to privilege. Lovely comparison with the caged birds! 🤩

Happens with guys too. Not that I've EVER had to worry about that (because good looking I ain't; opposite rules apply).The flip side isn't nice either - people avoid you, serve you last, give you the smallest portion, 'forget' to include you, etc. I'm the scruffiest brown bird that's left to fend for itself. Average isn't a bad place to be, Boom. I talked with a guy in the airport once who was the male equivalent of 'pretty' (tall, blond, athletic, chiseled features), and he was handed everything. Scholarship to the best Uni, VP of a company, model-wife, good looking scholarship kids. So it can be nice. Yes, it can also be a trap. Especially if you believe you 'deserve' it when you didn't earn it. Because looks fade with age, and what's left after is what counts then. What's "under the hood" is what matters then. Many 'pretty' people get themselves into bad situations that way, thinking that they can always jump to something else (but can't). Every party ends. And they end up in cages they flew into themselves.

You can be beautiful and yet still be troubled inside - there are many examples of famous singers, actors , business people - the list goes on - who look good on the outside but feel terrible on the inside- you can never just assume other people have better lives , often they dont.

Beauty is something random and was never suppose to be something so important to humans its a defect due to us being visual. These people tend to suffer the most with aging and understanding that was never something they should have based their worth on.

I'm someone who fits a lot of standards of how society defines "pretty". I also worked in a "pretty" industry as an actress in my early 20s. I have a lot of views on pretty privilege because the ways that I've experienced it was almost always because people wanted to commoditize me. Even in jobs like customer service, I had managers describe my success with dealing with customers as "it helps to have a pretty face". In acting I was singled out as a "leading lady" even in theatre school, eventually my program coordinator came on to me. I've learned that most "privileges" that come with prettiness have expectations attached to them. Yes, it is still a tool I have to work with (for the years I'm an acceptable age, which is another layer to pretty privilege for women). But it's a tool with a dangerous edge. I would go as far as to say that, for women, pretty privilege is inherently the "entrapment" you refer to the vast majority of the time. It's the other side of the same sexist coin that devalues women for not being "pretty" enough. Some women are devalued while others are commoditized, but that means we're all being viewed as objects within this confine of society.

Honestly, we don't get that many more offers. When we get certain offers we get them quite quickly, but unless you are RICH and beautiful, you are more susceptible to rape, insults and other abuses before you see opportunity work in your favor. Most of the people who I've called friends in my life have utilized pretty privilege as a way to abuse me for the majority of my life, so there are fewer circles I belong in before I find the right opportunity. But yes, the privileges are commensurate when you can find those safer circles, which have more people with similar privileges. But even there, everyone is potentially predatory.

All my life I felt I was super pretty and ORIGINAL. Except that one day the guy that I loved called me UGLY publicly and I had to calm down because all I wanted him to know is you don't treat people like that. Imagine ?! What I went through with this one. Lol Anyways, I'm a mess and not as good with routines, even beauty routines. I just thought it was because I was supposedly super pretty and more than that, original, I'd be married by now. But im not. Also you make lots of sense about beautiful people and ordinary looking folks and birds as well. I have a painting I painted that says Ugly and Late,Don't Hate❤😂🎉 I come to the comforting truth that sometimes people are valuable for what they bring to the world even though not outwardly seen as gorgeous .and that sometimes were really late and It takes lots of Love to see deeply and outwards above and beyond. But I bet that if people began to love ordinary birds just as much as the love obviously gorgeous ones we could open up our hearts and create miracles above and beyond in the world. I have taken pictures of pigeons and wondered why nobody cares to feed them anymore. . . Why Sentimental Attitudes and True Romance Have lost their way into our world. I'm so grateful you shared your thoughts and feelings because many times I have felt the same too but not even as clearly as you have. Thank you for seeing the big picture and taking the time to see the details and putting it on a video so we can also learn from you and breathe deeper and care deeper and exhale with grateful relief. Wow. So cool of you. Thanks❤

Hey this topic is covered in a mini documentary on youtube called (ART OF SEDUCTION Not Pretty Really)