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👋 Please add your RU-vid video links at the bottom of your podcasts? I wanted to comment on ep 1455 as I was listening to it on Google podcasts, but couldn't find the video on RU-vid when I searched it 🙃
I have been following you for ages, your upbringing is the same as mine with abusive parents. I bought your new book a few days ago and cannot wait to read it. You're work is wonderful Nicole. Thanks.
I just turned 55 but for the first 49 yrs. I thought love & compassion for others meant putting them and their needs first. I like to think I did a pretty job, unfortunately I forgot about myself.I found meditation & mindfulness learned to put myself first.. Now my cup runith over🙏😇🙏 Lol
Wherever you live please find 5Rhythms class. May your abundant love keep nourishing you. And you extend it to others from that nourished place that is the best way to live. I am so committed to this 🥰path of life.
*As I pursue my eventual MSW and possible PhD in Social Work at the age of 47, I absolutely adore this content. Trauma and shame permeate our collective society. Hello from Canada!*
Yes listening in as well as a social worker, this is so helpful not just for my own self awareness but to also help to better equip me to assist my clients.
Kudos to you, Jeff. I came from a dysfunctional background, got my undergrad degree, then my law degree as an older student. Throughout my educational experience, I fought shame and feelngs of unworthiness. Making my goals come true was huge and I'm grateful every day to have overcome my childhood trauma. My best to you.
This is something I've had to reframe, I'm newly single, living alone, and realizing self care is a beautiful wonderful thing. Just bought a new electric blanket, and sitting snuggled in and feeling cozy and comfortable
I can’t even imagine wanting to be in a relationship with 2 people at the same time, especially all living TOGETHER. I believe we’re all different and cut out for different things - energetically. One person is enough for me to have to handle/figure out/give energy & time to…
Please people remember, self love is about loving yourself. If you stay in contact with abuse exes or parents and other family members can be the exact opposite ❤
4 years ago I found your interview with Nicole in a very difficult period period of my life, to say the least. Since then my life is shifting slowly in major ways. Her holistic approach, compessionate wisdom and science backed up examples sent me on the journey to start to know myself differently and better and relate to myself- and others by unlearning what made me and those I care for suffer. Thank you both. There are no words to express how greateful I am for what you do. I am doing the work. Its a part of me now and I'll never give it up.
I was dubbed the “adopted” “black sheep” scapegoat in my family, which led me to seek validation outside of it. I was the troubled, lost wonderer for so many years, and had to unlearn so many toxic traits. Still trying to recognize other ones so that I can be the parent I never had. To this day, I live a state away from my family. I’m closer to my extended family but my immediate family is far too damaged to reconcile when most of them haven’t work on self development.
Nicole is so dedicated to her journey and I know her book will help many of us ..I can still hear her pain in her voice bringing in all her experience into that voice when expressing and bringing so much to this time span ..love these two together as the are willing to talk vulnerability .
I love this conversation❤️ It resonated so deeply with me, because I’ve been working on self-love and putting my own needs first and learning to say no! I’ve been someone who used to be a yes person, a people pleaser and it’s still a challenge for me sometimes, but I’m so proud of myself and feeling amazing working on my self. Thank you ❤️
What I’ve learned over the years is that you just need to set boundaries and have the courage to be politely, honest and candid with other people, especially family. Yes, people may get mad and slip away and if that happens, then they’re not meant to be in your circle. I find mostly with family…..They’ll get angry with you for a season but they’ll eventually come back around. Once you go through the muck of setting the boundary and upsetting others once you get to the other side of that murky pond life just gets a whole lot easier. It’s easier to deal with others because you’ve developed that skill .
I love Nicole and what she's bringing. Her posts on Instagram always help and her books are great. Thank you for assisting in the evolution of human consciousness Nicole!
Thank you Dr. Nicole for always giving such profound, inspiring and thoughtful insights into the trauma experienced in childhood that affects our lives as adults and what we can do to heal!!!
Its interesting how much of our mindset effects our everyday relationships and life. Very good information. Thanks for sharing. Lewis, your questions are so thoughtful and interesting. Great work.🎉
This lady is one of the most amazing persons on earth nowday. She does an amazing job on IG…so necessary.. . Thanks for your teachings and your integrity, Dr. LePera. Thanks Lewis for this interview …: you always interview my favorites…))
Wonderful interview! I love Dr. Nicole LePera's first book and I am looking forward to reading this one as well. Dr. LePera, thank you so much for such amazing work and for being so generous in sharing in authenticity
Thank you VERY much!!!! Keep up the great work. A quote that has continues to inspires me in life. "Movement is ALWAYS equipped with the capacity to destroy the stagnant negativity of the mind". SRI CHINMOY
A note: cultural intersects with the concept focusing on self. The self for various cultures is not focused on, it’s the “we. ”Unpacking that dynamic must be a consideration in this discussion or we have missed a large segment of the population who just stops listening because they feel unseen or not considered.
Lesson to take home and reflect: You can not change people, ask yourself if you could accept for who they are-how they are at present, and whether you are comfortable with it for a long term relationship.
What a Beautiful Soul ♥ What a great gift of being able to communicate societal dysfunction in a simple and practical approach for us all to shift/continue moving in the direction. Not an easy thing to do on a global scale x
46:50 “Unfamiliar but it felt safe” I am reaching out at this specific moment because it just hit me like a ton of bricks that I have met this individual and need advice on how to bring awareness together
If you actually believed "each to their own" then you wouldnt have felt the need to comment... They're consenting adults and not hurting anyone so theres definately worse things in this world. 😉
Good evening to you both Thankyou for your continued sensemaking. Sanity brain gym, indeed. Super grateful for you. Spooky timing too. For many reasons! 💜
Was squealing with joy seeing this thumbnail xoxo and may I add, a soft request if I could... like, at 34:39 around that question, if we could maybe, flash a pic of Dr. Nic *at that age* :) it'd add breadth (but not depth, the convos already pretty deep) to the stories. It's just some icing 😁on the cupcake of this whole entire excellent conversation. :)
Pour that care and love into yourself and you'll create a subconscious comfort zone for only those who are caring and loving! Bless your caring heart ❤❤
That's happened at many cultures. We always have to live follow parents, family, grandparents, husband, society.... Tired and exhausted and angey. Never happy as you are.
@@lewishowes you asked some good questions and they were connected.. You have grown alot over the years lewis...you went into consequences and outcomes
My daughter has health problems, she is 41and lives 400 miles away. She's divorced and lives alone. I'm 68, have so health problems too. We haven't seen each other for a year. Never a good time to visit each other. Her job is new and she loves it,. Happy for her. But, I txt or call, send a card, and never get a reply. All I want is, I'm fine. She has epilepsy and I worry for her safety and health. She has celiac disease and depression. So concerned for many reasons, she dating too. I know I may be over concerned, but all I want is a response, I'm fine. That's all. Would love more conversation, but that will do. How can I convince her to let me know she is ok?
@@jsemaj8451 IT is about HER. The daughter. A mother gives unconditional love with an open heart. I went through a period of silence with my mother. She grew in that painful period. She became more maternal. We later forged a closer relationship.
Have you said to her what you just posted? ‘Hey, I understand you’re busy, but you not replying to my texts makes me feel (blank) and it would make me feel better if ….’ Just be honest about how you feel and what you need. And then leave it in her court, and not place any expectations on a reply. That’s where I would start. Not sure if it helps. Best of luck to you.
I’m 59. Raised my kids as a single mom. I believe what you give is what you get. I don’t regret any sacrifice and allI hear this woman say is “me, me, me …poor me”. …. whinnying Stop blaming your parents for your no weakness and insecurities. Blame social media and your own generation.
Unfortunately, individuals who have subconsciously embraced trauma seem to have a difficult time in general and are easily triggered. These types of people have unknowingly caused me great troubles. I survived my childhood by seeking to understand how the past has influenced current behaviors. Then did my best to gracefully move through it, learn self love and move forward with life goals.
