Trauma Specialist: Do This to Release Your Trauma’s Negative Energy & Rediscover Yourself!

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Welcome back to The School of Greatness! Today, we're joined by Dr. Frank Anderson, a leading trauma expert and psychiatrist. Dr. Anderson opens up about his challenging journey, growing up in a traditional Italian American family that was both intensely loving and painfully unaccepting. From enduring six years of conversion therapy starting at just six years old to breaking the chains of generational trauma, Dr. Anderson's story is one of courage, healing, and the transformative power of embracing one's true self. Today, he's here to share insights on how to navigate through personal traumas and to help us understand the profound impact of acceptance and love.
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0:00 Intro
00:04:44 - The Journey of Healing
00:09:04 - Therapy and Suppression
00:13:44 - The Difficulty of Living an Authentic Life
00:18:38 - Healing from Anger and Releasing Trauma
00:23:20 - The Four T's to Trauma Healing
00:28:04 - Connecting with our Inner Wisdom and Healing from Trauma
00:32:58 - The Power of Corrective Experience and Release
00:37:28 - Finding Love and Healing
00:42:17 - The Divide of Us and Them
00:46:49 - Reliving Traumatic Experiences
00:51:14 - The Many Parts of Ourselves
00:55:54 - The Cycle of Caretaking and Seeking Love
01:00:25 - Parenting Patterns and Emotional Triggers
01:04:53 - Healing Trauma and Prioritizing Self-Love
01:09:36 - Setting Boundaries with Love and Compassion
01:14:17 - Releasing Trauma and Healing Yourself
01:18:51 - When to Seek Extra Support
01:23:37 - The Complications of Medication Use
01:28:04 - Starting the Work and Overcoming Shame
01:33:10 - Shame Cycles and Healing
01:38:27 - Learning to Love and Heal from Trauma
01:43:23 - The Complexity of the Human Experience
01:48:00 - Stress and Trauma's Impact on Autoimmune Conditions
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@lewishowes 2 месяца назад

Thanks to Dr. Frank Anderson for sharing his wisdom with us! Leave a “YES” if you enjoyed this and share the biggest moment for you. And make sure to subscribe to never miss out on inspiring content like this again RU-vid.com/lewishowes

@jeffconley819 2 месяца назад

I’m 60 plus and mostly been messed up my whole life. A childhood with a abusive mother and a father that looked the other way. I’m at the end of my life so what’s the point of trying to get straightened out. It seems pointless this late in life .

@franhart7414 2 месяца назад

@@jeffconley819Everyone carries some sort of trauma. You're 60 so you could be here on this beautiful planet for another 30 or 35 years. Do your best to raise your awareness and learn how to be happier. Millions have and so can you. Just open the door/s. Enjoy your life

@petrakreuzwieser3408 2 месяца назад

❤

@petrakreuzwieser3408 2 месяца назад

@@jeffconley819 If it's for the last five minutes in your life, that you can feel the love inside of you, it wont be too late... it's never too late. ❤

@gemi9i1 2 месяца назад

Yes a thousand x’s! Related so much to Frank & his experience with his parents & have been drawn to your @lewishowes journey as well. Ty so much for addressing more than one topic & especially discussions regarding mental fitness, how were affected by the past (esp in childhood & traumas). One of the Best & my empathy grows from this beautiful conversation. Thank you sincerely Dr. Frank & Lewis. 🙏♥️🔥

@elainec5333 2 месяца назад

The Four T’s to Trauma Healing 1. Thank your trauma responses. Thank your protective responses. Thank drinking. Thank binge eating. Thank suicidal thinking. Thank the depression and anxiety. Thank your responses bc they’re just trying to stop the pain. 2. Trust that you have what you need inside to heal. Don’t need a guru. Trust your gut. Trust your intuition. 3. Transform. What doesn’t serve you doesn’t belong to you. Witness experience and share the story, thoughts, feelings and physical sensations. Share whole experience without reliving it but be with it but not in it. Disconfirm the trauma. I’m loved. I’m seen. I’m important. Relational repair. I love myself. A friend loves and cares about you. Can love the other person who harmed you. Corrective experience after share. Release is possible. Body shakes. Feel lighter. Energy releases. Pain dissipates. You become you again. It’s freeing to let go of trauma. Reclaiming yourself. 4. Take back your power. Become you. You’re more you every time you release something. I can love and move on despite… Forgiveness is not condoning. If you choose to it’s more for you but you don’t have to. Who hasn’t harmed or been harmed? Forgive self. Trauma blocks love. Love heals trauma.

@gab31282 2 месяца назад

Thank you for taking the time to summarize it. Very much appreciated.

@frankanderson8507 2 месяца назад

yes, 100%

@tanyabaughn3639 2 месяца назад

Facts☮️💟✝️🦋 thank you!

@ambergibson7381 2 месяца назад

Great Summary❤️‍🔥Thank You!!

@brigittegeorg 2 месяца назад

Thanks cos I really don't like this guy.

@IamCoachCourt 2 месяца назад

“You don’t need gurus, you know what’s best for yourself!” This is the absolute best

@kathylibby3676 2 месяца назад

So my cousin thinks she has her family dynamics figured out without counselling. Dubious. None of her 7 siblings agree with her conclusions.

@IamCoachCourt 2 месяца назад

@@kathylibby3676 I mean, clearly if there is some sort of psychosis going on it’s obvious. I think he was referring to the other people.

@oambitiousone7100 2 месяца назад

What if your gut is telling you to do something wrong, like leave your spouse for someone else? As in, screaming that THIS is what you need? The gut is fickle.

@frankanderson8507 2 месяца назад

yes, 100%

@CALredhead 2 месяца назад

@@oambitiousone7100Until we get good help - counseling, meditation, etc - it's pretty hard to know whether it's our 'gut' talking to us or just the part of our self that we constructed & learned to listen to in order to get along in the world we exist in.

@sharang747 Месяц назад

Your nervous system IS the "master key." It impacts everything... Your cells, your blood vessels, your immune system, your endocrine system, your muscular system, your digestive system, your brain and signaling pathways... EVERYTHING! But most of us are still ignoring it.

@lauragoodman3378 2 месяца назад

Thank you. I've been on a healing journey most of my adult life. The last few months were dark, I was in my head in a negative way. I remembered a skill given to me during counseling. I needed to go back and rescue me from my trauma, and love me and tell me I am safe and loved and whatever else that me needed to know. So I started to do this with every trauma I could remember. I thanked me for the trauma response because it protected me, and told me I didn't need it anymore. Oh and a whole lot more. A week ago I looked in the mirror, smiled at me and felt peace, and I felt me, for the first time. I looked at me and loved me, I am 61, and proud of me. Then I found this podcast, and you supported me and gave me more guidance. Thank you.

@lewishowes 2 месяца назад

You are loved 🙏👏

@frankanderson8507 2 месяца назад

So beautiful. ❤️

@annaak7849 2 месяца назад

❤❤

@pimmspimms5462 2 месяца назад

This is so, so beautiful. I have a diagnosis of Complex PTSD as a consequence of childhood abuse. I’m in therapy - my psychologist is using the Internal Family Systems modality on me - and have begun to talk to my younger, traumatised parts. There’s something magical in rediscovering your inner child. There’s something magical in loving your inner child in all of the ways that your parents didn’t. I hope that, one day, I will reach a place of peace for everything that I’ve been through, pride for surviving… and then let the trauma go from my body, mind and emotions. You’re inspirational to me! You make me want to keep going. Continue to love and look after yourself always, 🕊️ x

@dianemorrell9638 2 месяца назад

@@lewishowes but I'm not and know it.

@l2sunshine173 2 месяца назад

Whenever an negative emotion triggered by trauma takes over my body, I stop and i talk to it" I hear you, i aknowledge you but i don't need you today. You are from the past and it is ok to leave.We are safe now". I then sit and feel where it is in my body, breath, and feel it leaving my body. I am no longer trying to carriy it around.

@frankanderson8507 2 месяца назад

beautiful

@patriciaberliner8050 2 месяца назад

Thank you ❤

@tls2626 2 месяца назад

I love this ❤

@TS-iv9ml Месяц назад

❤ wow!! This is great and doable!! TY!!

@alhana8293 Месяц назад

Wow. This is beautiful Thank you. This was so ppwerful had to screenshot your comment and save it to my journaling app. I believe this will help me get back on track I have been spiraling put of control for a while. THANKS ❤

@oaktreedialogues6318 2 месяца назад

"You don't have to carry stuff that isn't yours". This idea of trauma as holding somebody else's negative energy resonates with me. It makes sense for trauma as a relational injury.

@damarisamaya5142 2 месяца назад

I think part of that is bc we feel guilty for any reason, for me guilt has make carry that energy that doesn’t belong to me

@frankanderson8507 2 месяца назад

wonderful

@dianeclayton4936 2 месяца назад

I talk to my parts in the car all the time. I don't need to close eyes or meditate. I talk to my inner parts just as I would a close friend. ❤

@austintaylor55 2 месяца назад

Same :) IFS has helped give language and framework for facilitating the parts work

@JDr709 2 месяца назад

I’m love you and you’re energy! You need to take a step forward for someone else or yourself maybe. You’re on the next level brother(or sister). Pay it forward.

@Yourfavshopper 2 месяца назад

Omg me too!

@frankanderson8507 2 месяца назад

awesome

@allisontaylor1818 2 месяца назад

Your inner child , such an important part of you.

@mindbodymedicine 2 месяца назад

A psychiatrist who doesn't push drugs and is relatable. I admire him and I loved this podcast. Dr. Anderson, thank you for your dedication to help those with trauma. I have the utmost respect for you.

@roseofsharon7551 2 месяца назад

AND he doesn’t suggest no-contact as a healing option. Supposedly 20% of youth today are going no-contact; it’s insidious that so much of the mental health industry is promoting the break up of families.

@tinydanceryoutube 2 месяца назад

And Lewis too!

@tinydanceryoutube 2 месяца назад

@@roseofsharon7551read his story. He divorced his family to find himself years ago. That's why he is who he is today.

@frankanderson8507 2 месяца назад

wow, thank you for those wonderful words, so glad it was helpful

@suziebee4240 10 дней назад

@roseofsharon7551 you simply cannot heal trauma if youre in it. Some people see no wrong in their ways, and will never change, accept you, or even try to learn about you. Some people are incapable. No therapist has suggested to me to go no contact with my mom. That was a choice I made for myself.

@shinewithheart Месяц назад

Wow. I'm not even 20 min in and this is powerful. Your mom apologized for not protecting you. That is what I wish I could hear.

@middleofnowhere1313 2 месяца назад

I'm with Dr. Ramani. My forgiveness must be earned. It is not a door prize for the undeserving. Love myself when they didn't, yes i do. Those who deliberately made my life awful deserve and get nothing from me.

@autygris1 2 месяца назад

Haven’t watched this, was wondering if this goes against what Dr. Ramani says?

@HumanityRisingNow 2 месяца назад

Sounds like you still need to heal my brother/sister 🙏

@frankanderson8507 2 месяца назад

from my perspective, forgiveness is more for the person doing the forgiving than it is about the other person. I appreciate your view.

@northofyou33 2 месяца назад

@@frankanderson8507 Very true. My malignantly narcissistic mother abused me badly, but I am in the process of forgiving her. Not for what she did to me, but for the fact that she was a damaged person who had no idea what she was doing to me. I haven't fully forgiven her, but things are shifting, and I feel so much better about myself already. I'm doing it to empower myself.

@jcepri Месяц назад

@@northofyou33 My parents are both deceased. I'm working on pretending they were enlightened when they passed to the other wide and want to reach out to forgive me. It's up to me to accept their apology so I can forgive them.

@TheBams1026 2 месяца назад

One of THE best interviews I have ever listened to. No doubt this came across my feed for a reason.

@lewishowes 2 месяца назад

Thank you so much for your feedback 🙂

@frankanderson8507 2 месяца назад

so happy it resonated

@chriestinenpape 2 месяца назад

When you think you could never have had any more deep, thoughtful healing podcast from Lewis and his guest.... I love his podcast more and more

@lewishowes 2 месяца назад

Thank you! Appreciate you and your support🧡

@Hooch737 2 месяца назад

You Are NOT wrong!!!! So right, always a good discussion

@magdalenanarolewska4934 2 месяца назад

What an amazing discussion. Thank you ❤❤

@frankanderson8507 2 месяца назад

I am so glad it has been helpful

@TS-iv9ml Месяц назад

Love the AND teaching moment ❤ I needed to hear that as I'm finally at a place & understanding to do this! As an Empath, it takes so much energy & time to get here. You two are perfectly placed and timed for so many of us, thank you so very much!! The healing and holding...boundaries.. perfect!! It's okay to do for you & NEEDED ... Craniosacral Therapy is helping where my disconnect is so I can heal 🫂

@NixTheNarcissist 2 месяца назад

The problem with this is with complex trauma and dealing with narcissistic abuse is that loving them doesn’t work. It’s the opposite of helpful. Love isn’t the answer with them. Yes you can love yourself but loving them only In turn hurts you more in the long run.

@crystalburkhardt 2 месяца назад

Agreed! This is my experience with the narc in my life

@elainec5333 2 месяца назад

I wouldn’t even give a narcissist a wedge bc that’s too much attention than they deserve.

@oaktreedialogues6318 2 месяца назад

With narcissists, the idea is to love them from far away. You need to detach from them since hating them uses too much emotional energy. Detach, then look at them from a new perspective of universal love , without expecting anything from them.

@MayaRoseSpokenWord 2 месяца назад

My advice is love them from a far for your healing and let your inner child hate them with you... I hope this makes sense. It is the hardest healing because as Dr Ramni said, or maybe it was Lisa A Romano, that we are hard wired to love them and a part of us always will so I think it's best to surrender to the love of their sad story and the pain that caused them do what they do while honoring the anger and hatred in a sacred space that has nothing to do with your interaction with them.. good luck it's not easy to find the love but when you do it is so freeing and that doesn't mean you ever need to set eyes om them again. Good luck and much love to you❣️❣️❣️

@frankanderson8507 2 месяца назад

I feel differently. Loving them, frees you from being negatively connected to them anymore. But I appreciate your perspective.

@allisontaylor1818 2 месяца назад

Still working on this journey called life... i hit rock bottom 3 years ago and have had therapy since...so many feelings I kept inside, no boundaries, door mat,abuse, yelled at my kids, alcoholic parent , alcoholic myself...etc. Boy , have I come a long way since then. Learned alot of great things about myself.

@frankanderson8507 2 месяца назад

keep going

@pimmspimms5462 2 месяца назад

You CAN do this, Allison. There will be low and hard times along the therapy route, but everything will be worth it. I grew up with an alcoholic father and know the deep pain that it causes. By healing your addiction, you are giving an extraordinary gift to yourself and your future… and, in turn, your children. Keep going! I’m sending love to you, 🕊️ x

@allisontaylor1818 2 месяца назад

@@pimmspimms5462 thank you so so much...i feel the love as I weep.

@kathylibby3676 2 месяца назад

Generally speaking people who face their life trauma will get better. Those who don't choose to go on a personal quest will become bitter. Choosing to become better rather than bitter has served me well. And I'm still working on getting better.

@frankanderson8507 2 месяца назад

beautiful

@megankwisdom 12 дней назад

💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯

@terrahillman151 2 месяца назад

I agree with Frank about releasing trauma makes us look younger. Stress energy and trauma energy age humans. And makes us sick. There is no illness in healed humans. Only love and complete health. And youth. 🙌🏼❤️

@wakinguphumanuty 2 месяца назад

100% accurate ❤️

@irinadumitru9088 2 месяца назад

@@wakinguphumanutyThat s true...Fortunately I m looking younger due to a lot of healing traumas but I m still not done ...

@lewishowes 2 месяца назад

🧡

@frankanderson8507 2 месяца назад

yes, 100%

@jacqueline2257 2 месяца назад

💯

@litalooloo4470 Месяц назад

As a random lady, I'm so proud of these two men. They are putting in the work to heal themselves. Thank you for all you are doing to help others on this path. Hugs to you both!

@elainec5333 2 месяца назад

He’s genuine and doesn’t hold back on what’s important and helpful. He whole heartedly cares and wants to help. You can feel it.

@frankanderson8507 2 месяца назад

thank you so much for your kind words

@abstract20 2 месяца назад

“Trauma blocks love. Love heals trauma.” Sounds like quite the conundrum to me.

@pupplylove3003 2 месяца назад

It is. That’s why it’s so hard to do

@Eleerm 2 месяца назад

This is true for me. But things are starting to change.

@anthonycavallero6637 2 месяца назад

Paper . ✂️.🪨..

@dakine4238 2 месяца назад

True, I believe part of it is developing self-love and compassion toward yourself.

@vickibazter3446 2 месяца назад

@@pupplylove3003 good point. I believe we store our trauma memory in our body. I think body and breath work far surpass talk therapy to deal and break patterns. Not Easy.

@Dawn-tv1bk 2 месяца назад

Pleasing others is really a protection of self.

@SethNobrega 2 месяца назад

Would you elaborate on? That’s an interesting take and I’m legitimately curious? Thank you!

@godzillamanstreb524 2 месяца назад

Yes protection from further abuse …..you try to please your abuser…..iow….fawning

@SethNobrega 2 месяца назад

Wow that’s amazing. I never knew that term before but considering the last two (psychologically/physically abusive) relationships I left, dots are starting to connect 🤦‍♂️

@Dawn-tv1bk 2 месяца назад

@@SethNobrega I’m saying that pleasing others is really a protection of self because at its core we don’t please others simply to make them happy. We sometimes please others to make them happy so they will be happy with us and think highly of us and like us. Can someone please someone else simply from a pure heart to make them happy because they love them and care for them, yes. But people who are chronic people pleasers often do it to protect themselves from the pain of not being liked or they want to be seen as this amazing good person. I speak from experience as a recovering people pleaser🥰😊

@Dawn-tv1bk 2 месяца назад

@@godzillamanstreb524pleasing someone to prevent abuse is called survival. I actually don’t call that people pleasing. It’s survival until you can get away🙏🏼❤️

@leslietylersmith430 Месяц назад

Awesome information. At 71, am still trying to breakfree of residual trauma conditioning. This is so valuable & I so appreciate both of you for sharing this with us all!❤❤❤

@florianewu1886 2 месяца назад

Exactly, when a parent realizes that their triggered trauma self wounded their children, it feels like a moral injury. The shame needs to be healed also. I am also a Repairer. Wholeness is when we have re-integrated and self parented all the parts of ourselves. Ty for such an insightful interview! :)

@frankanderson8507 2 месяца назад

thank you, so glad it has been helpful

@susanoker4780 2 месяца назад

I was once told that "Forgiveness is setting a prisoner free. And then realizing the prisoner, was you". Carrying that anger or hurt or negative emotion does not hurt them or affect them. But it hurts you. It affects you. That has always stuck with me.

@michellemonet4358 2 месяца назад

But anger is a stage in grieving.

@susanoker4780 2 месяца назад

@@michellemonet4358 Agreed. Anger is a stage of grief. But holding on to that anger, carrying it around with you, where, when you talk about the memories, you are right back in that moment, just as angry as when it first happened, that is not grief. That is trauma. And the only one being hurt by it over and over again, is you.

@frankanderson8507 2 месяца назад

yes 100%

@marshareed1438 2 месяца назад

I have CPTSD. I’ve done everything possible to get rid of the trauma. Then I turned 50 and I got traumatized! I couldn’t bounce out of it! I decided that I had to get away from the toxic person in my life. I took a self sabotaging path but it worked. I got better than divorced. Now I’m working out again & I’m dreaming of my next journey on a continuous basis!

@warrenisaac5634 Месяц назад

This is an episode that everyone should see, if not for themselves then for those they love! There is plenty for everyone to take away from this episode! I will rewatch this one again and again. You provide so much healing for those that follow you and I for one am greatful. Bless you Lewis and Frank!

@magicalpatterns 2 месяца назад

FINALLY SOMEONE speak about IFS internal family systems. Thank you 🙏🏼 is the absolute best therapy for trauma. Not only because is so extremely effective but because the therapist’s goal is to teach how to do it to yourself and let you go. Brilliant work discovered by Dr. Richard Schwartz

@8Freakish8 Месяц назад

Since our brains have multiple personalities and thats why its same effective as literally giving therapy to a whole family. I think if we simply pay attention to the nervous and limbic system and its different states, we already refer to the "child" behavior while in survival for example. Gabor Mate talks since years about IFS and generational traumas. Mister bessel didnt even know what ifs was, said gabor shocked in a interview i watched lately. Yup yup there is still work to be done so the more awareness we cab spread to the world, the better 🌱😊

@gailyhanna510 2 месяца назад

Forgiveness is the fragrance that the violet sheds on the heel that has crushed it.💜

@frankanderson8507 2 месяца назад

beautiful

@lesliemorgan3091 2 месяца назад

This is the best explanation of dealing with trauma I've ever heard. Thank you guys!

@lewishowes 2 месяца назад

So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.

@sandyokeeffe2203 2 месяца назад

Frank Anderson is a huge leading voice in the trauma treatment field. I appreciate him so much for all his beautiful work. He is truly amazing

@frankanderson8507 2 месяца назад

thank you for your kind words

@frankanderson8507 2 месяца назад

thanks you so much

@JaneAmericanIrish7777 2 месяца назад

Repairing starts with forgiveness and understanding. Forgive what was done. Seeing how it effects your life. The hardest is to understand when it pops up.We learn what to do till we are in that trigger . If we fall back. We have to forgive ourselves for not being perfect and tap ourselves on the back when we do overcome a trigger or a emotional response. We have to take into consideration that others we deal with might be masking their trauma as well. So you might trigger them. I get the wounded walk away or ghosting. When things are difficult to address we run. We all have that fight or flight response . It's freeing when we face it .Thank you for this video. Lots of trauma in my life. It bothers me when others say your using it when your trauma when your not ! This is only because you told them and they are using it to beat you with or put you down. It ticks me off. It's hard to confront when the people are no longer in your life. My father beat the hell out of my Mom and even tried to kill her. My easy memories are sleeping in the basement hiding behind boards with my Mom as he came in drunk and dragged her upstairs by her hair beating her ! He was a product of his childhood. My Mom was a product of her childhood. Both were broken and created broken next generations. It stops as you see how in your life that trauma effects you . I learn that it's like a dopamine hit to emotionally go back to that same negative patterns. I see when I do it but it's a best that I created. Healing In my thoughts starts with you. My fight or flight is what I have to identify more. That need to run or react to negative things. To not get into your own head or follow patterns that lead you to tgat sane kind of abusive situations. People are good to talk to but do not live your experience. They can offer a shoulder only. Drugs are a bandaid. All drugs keep in mind came from nature. Now keep in mind that most qho went off were on strong drugs and therapy. Like I said it's a consistent effort for those who are in a deep mental breakdown. The problem in this Society is we give drug's like pez dispensers. To people who don't need it and end up addicted or doing more drugs ! Do not address the root. That is a desire and finding the tools to heal. Natural cures for depression. Medical treatment for complete breakdown only. With follow up. A majority of us are in imbalances because of our diet and lifestyle as well. Once again thanks for this video .

@frankanderson8507 2 месяца назад

beautiful

@michelehoover777 2 месяца назад

Wow! This was so powerful! I have been working on trauma recovery for years but this really hit home. I would love a follow up with Frank Anderson on how to help out kids early so we can help release any trauma already caused and how to prevent further small t traumas with our kids. ❤

@EcomCarl 2 месяца назад

Dr. Frank insights on releasing negative energy from trauma are truly transformative. 💫 Understanding the role of shame and embracing the journey of healing can empower us to live more fulfilling and authentic lives.

@frankanderson8507 2 месяца назад

thank you

@frankanderson8507 2 месяца назад

thank you

@twylabryant7197 2 месяца назад

Sometimes it’s not just protective. It’s necessary to distance yourself from family members for sure. When you’ve tried everything but the pain they keep inflicting on you doesn’t stop you have to have a healthy boundary. You do not have to stay in those situation’s and there’s nothing wrong with you when you need to do that.

@michellemonet4358 2 месяца назад

Yes. Some people stay in a family system out of obligation even if it detrimental to their health.

@frankanderson8507 2 месяца назад

yes, 100%

@kiagillette8862 20 дней назад

Thank you so much for asking if it's okay not to forgive and then breaking down that forgiveness is not about condoning the behavior. I've been stuck on thinking forgiveness is saying what they did was okay and kept me from being able to forgive. This helped me so much.

@nancysmyth-gray1698 2 месяца назад

Kids totally know correct behavior. At 10yrs, I remember a trip to Europe with my mom, watching her not being nice to the “help”. My daughter at 10yrs said to me, “I don’t like the way your mom speaks to you.” Ugh!

@tenalemasters6802 2 месяца назад

Forgiveness is not for the other person, it’s for you. Find a way to forgive it’s so healing

@Emolisst68 2 месяца назад

This is the BEST podcast I’ve listened to! Thank you thank you thank you!!! 🙏 😊

@lewishowes 2 месяца назад

So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.

@anikalee9012 2 месяца назад

I don't have anyone to share. So I stay in my body imagine Cristal Lord Buddha inside me give me compassion that I can feel with my whole body. I took me tree years I keep releasing many feelings I never know I have.

@RoseRoseRoseRoseRoseRose 2 месяца назад

If you are alone, then please write it down to vent & read about some healing techniques of professional psychologists to cure. Choose your favorites so you can give your heart a chance to heal. And never be chronically harsh to yourself when you have hard times because mostly, it's also one kind of trauma response to bl4me yourself (not always your fault). Much love & kisses❣️♥️🫂♥️

@michellecook-hill431 2 месяца назад

@@RoseRoseRoseRoseRoseRose kisses??? A little much.

@jessicamadrid5799 2 месяца назад

Try inner child healing. You witness your own pain and comfort and show up for yourself. It works and you know what your younger self needs more than anyone else.

@2minuteschallenge599 2 месяца назад

Much love & kisses. You are blessed You are unique You are a Survivor You are one of a kind You are real You are a beautiful living human being with so much energy to share. Keep moving forwards ❤

@elenaangheluta 2 месяца назад

Wow ..this what your wrote you are aware of how deep is ? It’s huge congrats to you and happy you did it , we are never alone ❤

@andreavanda5402 2 месяца назад

This one REALLY hit home! Dr. Anderson is such a gift. Lewis you are one special person with a HUGE heart. Thank you for bringing hope and healing to this world. ❤❤❤

@frankanderson8507 2 месяца назад

thank you and I agree, Lewis is a gift to all of us

@frankanderson8507 2 месяца назад

thank you

@mariadodds2042 2 месяца назад

Frank is a great teacher. His transparency is very refreshing. I've just ordered his book 'Transcending trauma.' Thank You.

@skychua7820 2 месяца назад

How is the book helping you,how much does it cost at Amazon

@frankanderson8507 2 месяца назад

thank you

@carolafriesen904 2 месяца назад

I was a y care taker of my parents.My mom was prescription drug addict.My dad just worked all the time.Had to take care of my siblings.Unlike other people I no longer wanted to take care of people when I got older.

@vickibazter3446 2 месяца назад

So sorry about that burden. 😞 I hope you can parent yourself or find nurturing to feel safe. It's seems unfair.

@frankanderson8507 2 месяца назад

sorry for your pain, healing possible

@patriciaberliner8050 2 месяца назад

Thank you for your enlightening contribution. I felt I had to protect and defend my mother from my father throughout my childhood and on into adulthood. This could have had a significant influence on my choosing not to have children.

@janswimwild 2 месяца назад

Compassion fatigue is very real. You need your compassion now, and that’s ok. Take great care of yourself, you are worth it.

@pimmspimms5462 2 месяца назад

I’m sorry that you didn’t have the childhood that all little children deserve. It’s time to give to yourself now. Pour into yourself. Do what restores and replenishes YOU. It’s time, it’s time, it’s time. I hope that your future brings healing and peace, 🕊️ x

@MichelineNaderOfficial 2 месяца назад

❤❤❤ YES! When we can release the trauma stored in our body, not only can we enjoy life more, but we can show up as a compassionate leader and create an entirely new version of reality. Thank you Dr. Frank and Lewis for inspiring so many people through your dedication to increasing awareness and having conversations like these!

@BeNice524 2 месяца назад

I feel your spirit doing this interview Lewis. Stay strong brother 🙏🏼

@DominionAnako-bb7ry 2 месяца назад

Ah, negative energy... it's something we all encounter from time to time. When it comes to dealing with negative energy, it's important to protect your own well-being. Surround yourself with positive influences, practice self-care, and focus on activities that bring you joy. Remember, you have the power to choose how you respond to negativity. Stay positive and let the good vibes flow! 😊✨

@fastrabbitcrochet 2 месяца назад

Amen!

@simmychua3026 2 месяца назад

😮😅😊its like having free therapy ,many thanķs doc frank and the interview is a blast sir lewis

@frankanderson8507 2 месяца назад

yes

@KotobukiGirl 2 месяца назад

OMG. I've still got a limerence object that is the compilation of my abusive narcissist parents. I know on every logical level that he's a creep; I haven't gone a day without obsessing over him for over a year. What I would give to feel that release! How truly wonderful.

@Suzu52 2 месяца назад

This is the first time I ve heard Dr.Anderson...I will now seek out his books and more videos....I appreciate his honesty...I wish both my adult sons would do self work like this....we all need it.

@spinnettdesigns 2 месяца назад

I'm about the age of Frank and similar in the drive for intellect etc. and I had several of these shames and I think that the neglect is the worst. Yet, after 20 plus years of therapy and every other health protocol known to man, its been totally worth it. Going from "I'm nothing" to mental health is the best feeling in the world. Please continue everyone and thank you Lewis for bringing these great helps to the fore.

@frankanderson8507 2 месяца назад

beautiful

@EpicLoveInstitute 2 месяца назад

The chemistry and attunement between the two of you is off the charts!!! How you just "felt" each other was priceless. Such an amazing interview. Frank is one of my IFS heroes!

@lewishowes 2 месяца назад

So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.

@petrakreuzwieser3408 2 месяца назад

Thank you ❤ I always belived that all of us have love (the light) inside of us. No matter how many borders, or walls, we have- or the experiences made us- build arround. LOVE ❤

@TamaraBassinello-gn4ic 2 месяца назад

A huge YES to this. I love Frank Anderson’s work and this interview is truly a must. Thank you Lewis for bringing him on. I am a big believer in the IFS model and have myself experienced a whole lot of healing, transformation and release from it. Those four Ts Anderson walks us through are tremendously helpful and practical. I love it.

@clarisamompremier8005 6 дней назад

Watching this on repeat… love.. LOVE Dr. Frank!! He makes trauma work so accessible.

@miyukiharley 2 месяца назад

Yes , feeling like you are nothing because of seeing yourself as only having Value because I accomplished this or that thing.

@lacrews10 2 месяца назад

Thank you so much for your venerability and honesty. This is such enlightening conversation! This gives me hope for the world because you two are holding this frequency. Heal yourself heal the world. And I love how these two men are expressing their feminine and masculine energy in balance. Love it so much.

@lewishowes 2 месяца назад

Appreciate your feedback, thank you so much for watching!

@bernieotoole8905 22 дня назад

Tears of joy, ah ha moments, OMG's, ... I have been healing from Trauma (C-PTSD) and this is the most illuminating interview on the subject. It's incredibly powerful and I'll listen again and again. I know I found "my tribe" in people with trauma. Huge respect and admiration to all of us here. Lewis and Frank - you are both doing incredibly important work. Love and appreciation to you both and all the viewers.

@lewishowes 21 день назад

Appreciate your support. Thank you for watching! 🧡

@itiaharts 2 месяца назад

Thank you so much for sharing Frank Anderson with us on TRAUMA. OMG, this has been one of the best programs I have heard and seen. Blessings!!!

@nicoledryden1389 2 месяца назад

THIS WAS A GREAT EPISODE! I feel everyone should watch this, so much we may take in and learn from.

@fayetriantis3341 2 месяца назад

This has been one of the best interviews I have seen.

@lewishowes 2 месяца назад

🙌

@fayesmith5813 2 месяца назад

This message is so huge. It could possibly be the missing link to my healing. Thank you for giving me the gift of internal freedom 😊❤

@florentinaguggenheimer6557 2 месяца назад

This man is a sweetheart. His voice reminds me of the guy on Schitt's Creek. Comforting♥️

@lalitaholmesstressfreefast1897 2 месяца назад

Yes, you can look younger releasing trauma. I had a client who was told after a session she looked like a 16 year old. She was in her 50's at the time. I am constantly being told i look 10 years younger than i am

@Staying_aliveforwomen 2 месяца назад

This here is a lesson in humanity.How love @compassion wisdom liberates.I❤ ur both. The peaceful calm is felt in their spirits

@frankanderson8507 2 месяца назад

Thank you so much

@Phulosophy369 12 дней назад

By understanding his parents’ person’s life, he begins to understand why things happened and what he experienced. And from there he can act in a loving way. I did that with my dad. I did not know the horrific trauma he experienced as a 8 yo and teenager for so long. I forgave him and let him know that I love him no matter what. I could see the release in his eyes.

@mysticgardener2704 2 месяца назад

This is awesome! After living in trauma/cptsd for 60 years IFS is the key to finally healing for my internal system. Now I’m sharing it w my family and friends to spread the healing for all

@UHURUIZENN 2 месяца назад

Well done!!! This was one of the best videos I' seen on social media. It's caused me to reflect on myself as a child whois now a parent. 🤔 "To Be Loved." who does not want or need that? Thanks to both of you for this insightful, deep, and open conversation. 😊🙏

@frankanderson8507 2 месяца назад

You are very welcome

@marials9245 2 месяца назад

IFS is such a powerful and beautiful therapy, if done correctly then healing will inevitably follow. I have really enjoyed the interview!

@Indigochildwithin 2 месяца назад

Òmg this man is incredible. From a people pleaser because of a very dramatic childhood.i have spent all my life until the past 4 years,I only stopped because of more trauma of being bullied the past 9 years, I am angry at myself worrying about the very people that have bullied me..their loss they would have had if I had told on what they did/ doing. Now I am being kind to myself,don't be angry,it's the last part of the people pleaser experience, Now the voice inside says your being silly,snap out of it...let it go. Lewis you are a lovely gentle,kind beautiful man,I am so very sorry for all your hurt...you had to live thru, You are helping so many people with what you are doing,with the guests you have, You are loved..

@KIlmo-is4kj 26 дней назад

Thank you both so so much for this one!! I've been listening so many videos, attending so many "healing" sessions and been trying to do internal work without proper instructions ("just open your heart", how?!...) and finally I hve tools as well as deeper understanding, and finally I feel that I can actually crawl out from this pot hole I call life. Thank you for your work Frank and Lewis!❤

@ElisPalmer 2 месяца назад

What a beautiful conversation. Thanks so much ~🌟

@gigiciniski9580 2 месяца назад

THANK YOU DR. FRANK ANDERSON ❤ You are Great! ❤

@lewishowes 2 месяца назад

So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.

@melsey919 26 дней назад

Thank you...this makes so much sense. Dealing with my adhd child especially when I eventually lose patience (after having a considerable amount), usually the thing I bring up is that I had the same issues and no one to help and was alone to deal with it. And that makes me feel guilty all the time. Thank you for the message and guidance!

@mariakarinabarrientos1656 2 месяца назад

YES! Cried every “aha” moment. I love your channel! Please continue to share insights and healing practices into the world. I have so much interest in your work. Love and kindness be… Thank you !

@lewishowes 2 месяца назад

So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.

@polkanahawajach2362 2 месяца назад

Love and kindness ❤ thank you for this beautiful interview… humanity opens up and heals, so we can finally be true to ourselves, being happy and joyful for real, cause everybody deserves all the best in life 🙏

@frankanderson8507 2 месяца назад

Yes

@aureliere 2 месяца назад

What a lovely conversation on healing with Dr. Frank. His loving kindness and compassion shone through. Thank you Lewis and team for bringing him to your platform.

@lorraine8428 Месяц назад

'who hasn't harmed or been harmed?' woowww so much packed in that

@saraafshar-md8ic 2 месяца назад

I am dealing on daily basis with trauma that has happened to me in the past .Dr Anderson's gives me comfort when I listen to him and how he explains everything......🙏

@frankanderson8507 2 месяца назад

beautiful

@chevvalah1085 2 месяца назад

Yes. I found that i have trauma that i kept trying to tell people about. Nobody understood so i would just shut down and panic more. But i started recording myself telling the story and ranting, and i would go back and give myself advice, because now that the emotions are out, i can tap into the inner wisdom and actually work on fixing

@cherylm5002 2 месяца назад

You are not alone, it does get better once we get the sh*t out❤

@clarisamompremier8005 2 месяца назад

I loved this interview. I have not heard another guest refer/defer to other experts as much, it was so refreshing!! I also loved all the experts he was referring to..Brene Brown, Dr. Shefali..Dr. Becky..Dr. Dick S.... etc....

@frankanderson8507 2 месяца назад

Thank you so much

@theonlytheone Месяц назад

I needed this. I have been trying to find someone who could help me understand what I was going through, and yes, it does confirm what my feelings have been trying to tell me about my wounds. When that understanding clicks, the healing and transformation happen. But yes, you can heal, but it does help to have someone who has gone through the same trauma pain in order to guide you. Like yeah, I have been there, and yes, you can heal

@Maddie9185 2 месяца назад

What a great interview. Everyone needs to listen to this. Trauma blocks love, love heals trauma.

@lewishowes 2 месяца назад

So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.

@allisontaylor1818 2 месяца назад

Everything he says, makes sense and have dealt with most of his points.

@maevebutler4641 2 месяца назад

Yes. I enjoyed listening to you sharing the conversation you had with your younger self..so beautifully articulated & very moving Excellent interview from listening to you both sharing experiences and how to heal our traumas.

@frankanderson8507 2 месяца назад

Thank you

@JenniferElizabethMasters 22 дня назад

I am a trauma recovery coach. So much of what Dr. Frank has said I applied to myself. My kids have called me out when I was like my narcissistic mother. Transformation and releasing is so powerful to begin to love ourselves. "Heal first, confront second." This is a powerful truth. We do see the wounding in our perpetrator that way. I can't wait to get your book. I turn 70 this October. People say I look 50. It is releasing the trauma!

@lorrainedevlin6409 21 день назад

On the last day I want to spend it with a person who really loved me,appreciated me and will make that day one of the best in my life,that way I would die happy knowing that person deserved to be with me on that day.

@marlene447 2 месяца назад

Wao this got me crying. Journey to self healing on its way! Thank you!

@frankanderson8507 2 месяца назад

beautiful

@franhart7414 2 месяца назад

We all have trauma and baggage. This is one of the most enlightening educational videos I've seen on the things mentioned. Thank you so much 🙏

@frankanderson8507 2 месяца назад

So glad it was helpful

@matchalover08 2 месяца назад

Thank you so much for this episode. A lot of the stuff said here are exactly the answers I'm looking for so long, especially the point with not reliving your trauma but being ok with it. Corrective experience is also something I lack in my healing journey.

@nkundwashanice574 2 месяца назад

The questions Lewis asks is exactly what I ask myself before he asks. Bless you for being a good interviewer. You were born to do this😮

@lewishowes 2 месяца назад

So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.

@sher101 2 месяца назад

So incredibly powerful. Thank you Dr. Frank for sharing. ❤

@lewishowes 2 месяца назад

So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.

@serendipity7182 2 месяца назад

One of the most important conversations I have heard and I am very schooled in the topic…Love and follow closely Dr Shefali, Dr LePera, Dr Ramani and Dr Mate as well. I work as a school counselor within a trauma informed setting and so many adults need this working with the children who are in crisis! I am going to reference this on my local channel “Sage seeking sisters” too when I speak with local leaders who are working within settings where community violence and crisis are rampant. Can’t wait to read your book too! Will be sharing this with my colleagues tomorrow! ❤🙏🏽

@lewishowes 2 месяца назад

Appreciate you! 🙏

@serendipity7182 2 месяца назад

Likewise! ❤

@frankanderson8507 2 месяца назад

So touched by your kind words. Thank you so much and so glad it was helpful.

@clemmaflorio8455 15 дней назад

Yes. Dr. Anderson’s persona and relatability, makes his wisdom much more to assimilate.

@48dette 2 месяца назад

This is amazing! I had so many aha moments! I just wanted to add as people may find this interesting, I suffered abuse my whole childhood but managed to push it away to the furthest part of me & bolt the door shut. Then in my adulthood after my father died, I married & had kids then slowly things started to arise. I was very confused because I had the symptoms of feeling unworthy & not good enough, but didn’t know why. After my first child was born my father came to me in a dream, he was crying I realized that this wasn’t just a dream, it was a message he had planted the first seed to my recovery. & this was the beginning.

@lewishowes 2 месяца назад

So happy to hear we have supported you!

@frankanderson8507 2 месяца назад

So glad this was helpful to you

@paulettechernoff8216 2 месяца назад

Was so ready for this at this moment in time to understand someone I love so very much

@frankanderson8507 2 месяца назад

Wonderful

@marycorkery2111 2 месяца назад

Cranio Sacral Therapy is also a wonderful therapy that brings a somatic release

@dianaraducu9142 2 месяца назад

Amazing episode! Thank you, Lewis and Frank for sharing so much wisdom and bringing such incredible value to us ❤

@MayaRoseSpokenWord 2 месяца назад

This is so good and so needed. Comprehensive, holistic and honest. I wish I had this info before I sunk myself into the cycle of bad-ish therapy.. it was a great education but I'd rather have had lemonade than squeezed all those darn lemons... Thank you for this...

@chippychick6261 2 месяца назад

Thank you Lewis for sharing the experience of the popping sensation with your release of past trauma

@lewishowes 2 месяца назад

Glad you enjoyed it! Thanks for watching!

@katiegreenwood8738 2 месяца назад

I have experienced the same popping sensation around my heart area when I released a heart wall using emotion code. I felt very sensitive to heavy emotions for a week or so after, it was like the protective energy wall had left a vulnerable area till it settled. Very interesting to experience the release. We can misinterpret many of these releases that are wanting to move out naturally and unknowingly keep them stuck, due to our beliefs how society has conditioned us to suppress, inhibit and avoid these sensations. The pharmaceutical companies giving us pills to pop and medicine to take to turn off the bodies natural warning systems. This is why we as humans have built up, so much unprocessed survival stress in our body. It’s encouraging to see that this important education and paradigm shift for human health is spreading. 💖✨

@infinitewavesofhealing 2 месяца назад

I just can't believe he's 60! He looks amazing! Healing really does wonders.

@evka24 2 месяца назад

Wow

@CatLadyKorea 2 месяца назад

What?????? He is?????

@infinitewavesofhealing 2 месяца назад

@@CatLadyKorea Lol, Yes! He said it a couple times in the interview and I was in disbelief every time.

@irenesze3099 2 месяца назад

Make up la 😂

@frankanderson8507 2 месяца назад

yes, 😘

@aprililes8355 2 месяца назад

Excellent talk!! I am so grateful that finally a credible Truma doctor explains everything in layman and easy to understand terms!!!! He is so real & down to earth!!💖 Love this talk!!!! You give me hope!!!🙏💖

@lewishowes 2 месяца назад

So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.

@frankanderson8507 2 месяца назад

Thank you so much