Trauma Specialist: Do This to Release Your Trauma’s Negative Energy & Rediscover Yourself!

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Welcome back to The School of Greatness! Today, we're joined by Dr. Frank Anderson, a leading trauma expert and psychiatrist. Dr. Anderson opens up about his challenging journey, growing up in a traditional Italian American family that was both intensely loving and painfully unaccepting. From enduring six years of conversion therapy starting at just six years old to breaking the chains of generational trauma, Dr. Anderson's story is one of courage, healing, and the transformative power of embracing one's true self. Today, he's here to share insights on how to navigate through personal traumas and to help us understand the profound impact of acceptance and love.
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0:00 Intro
00:04:44 - The Journey of Healing
00:09:04 - Therapy and Suppression
00:13:44 - The Difficulty of Living an Authentic Life
00:18:38 - Healing from Anger and Releasing Trauma
00:23:20 - The Four T's to Trauma Healing
00:28:04 - Connecting with our Inner Wisdom and Healing from Trauma
00:32:58 - The Power of Corrective Experience and Release
00:37:28 - Finding Love and Healing
00:42:17 - The Divide of Us and Them
00:46:49 - Reliving Traumatic Experiences
00:51:14 - The Many Parts of Ourselves
00:55:54 - The Cycle of Caretaking and Seeking Love
01:00:25 - Parenting Patterns and Emotional Triggers
01:04:53 - Healing Trauma and Prioritizing Self-Love
01:09:36 - Setting Boundaries with Love and Compassion
01:14:17 - Releasing Trauma and Healing Yourself
01:18:51 - When to Seek Extra Support
01:23:37 - The Complications of Medication Use
01:28:04 - Starting the Work and Overcoming Shame
01:33:10 - Shame Cycles and Healing
01:38:27 - Learning to Love and Heal from Trauma
01:43:23 - The Complexity of the Human Experience
01:48:00 - Stress and Trauma's Impact on Autoimmune Conditions
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@lewishowes 28 дней назад

Thanks to Dr. Frank Anderson for sharing his wisdom with us! Leave a “YES” if you enjoyed this and share the biggest moment for you. And make sure to subscribe to never miss out on inspiring content like this again RU-vid.com/lewishowes

@jeffconley819 27 дней назад

I’m 60 plus and mostly been messed up my whole life. A childhood with a abusive mother and a father that looked the other way. I’m at the end of my life so what’s the point of trying to get straightened out. It seems pointless this late in life .

@franhart7414 27 дней назад

@@jeffconley819Everyone carries some sort of trauma. You're 60 so you could be here on this beautiful planet for another 30 or 35 years. Do your best to raise your awareness and learn how to be happier. Millions have and so can you. Just open the door/s. Enjoy your life

@petrakreuzwieser3408 27 дней назад

❤

@petrakreuzwieser3408 27 дней назад

@@jeffconley819 If it's for the last five minutes in your life, that you can feel the love inside of you, it wont be too late... it's never too late. ❤

@gemi9i1 27 дней назад

Yes a thousand x’s! Related so much to Frank & his experience with his parents & have been drawn to your @lewishowes journey as well. Ty so much for addressing more than one topic & especially discussions regarding mental fitness, how were affected by the past (esp in childhood & traumas). One of the Best & my empathy grows from this beautiful conversation. Thank you sincerely Dr. Frank & Lewis. 🙏♥️🔥

@elainec5333 26 дней назад

The Four T’s to Trauma Healing 1. Thank your trauma responses. Thank your protective responses. Thank drinking. Thank binge eating. Thank suicidal thinking. Thank the depression and anxiety. Thank your responses bc they’re just trying to stop the pain. 2. Trust that you have what you need inside to heal. Don’t need a guru. Trust your gut. Trust your intuition. 3. Transform. What doesn’t serve you doesn’t belong to you. Witness experience and share the story, thoughts, feelings and physical sensations. Share whole experience without reliving it but be with it but not in it. Disconfirm the trauma. I’m loved. I’m seen. I’m important. Relational repair. I love myself. A friend loves and cares about you. Can love the other person who harmed you. Corrective experience after share. Release is possible. Body shakes. Feel lighter. Energy releases. Pain dissipates. You become you again. It’s freeing to let go of trauma. Reclaiming yourself. 4. Take back your power. Become you. You’re more you every time you release something. I can love and move on despite… Forgiveness is not condoning. If you choose to it’s more for you but you don’t have to. Who hasn’t harmed or been harmed? Forgive self. Trauma blocks love. Love heals trauma.

@gab31282 22 дня назад

Thank you for taking the time to summarize it. Very much appreciated.

@frankanderson8507 21 день назад

yes, 100%

@tanyabaughn3639 20 дней назад

Facts☮️💟✝️🦋 thank you!

@ambergibson7381 20 дней назад

Great Summary❤️‍🔥Thank You!!

@brigittegeorg 14 дней назад

Thanks cos I really don't like this guy.

@IamCoachCourt 27 дней назад

“You don’t need gurus, you know what’s best for yourself!” This is the absolute best

@kathylibby3676 26 дней назад

So my cousin thinks she has her family dynamics figured out without counselling. Dubious. None of her 7 siblings agree with her conclusions.

@IamCoachCourt 26 дней назад

@@kathylibby3676 I mean, clearly if there is some sort of psychosis going on it’s obvious. I think he was referring to the other people.

@oambitiousone7100 25 дней назад

What if your gut is telling you to do something wrong, like leave your spouse for someone else? As in, screaming that THIS is what you need? The gut is fickle.

@frankanderson8507 21 день назад

yes, 100%

@CALredhead 18 дней назад

@@oambitiousone7100Until we get good help - counseling, meditation, etc - it's pretty hard to know whether it's our 'gut' talking to us or just the part of our self that we constructed & learned to listen to in order to get along in the world we exist in.

@lauragoodman3378 20 дней назад

Thank you. I've been on a healing journey most of my adult life. The last few months were dark, I was in my head in a negative way. I remembered a skill given to me during counseling. I needed to go back and rescue me from my trauma, and love me and tell me I am safe and loved and whatever else that me needed to know. So I started to do this with every trauma I could remember. I thanked me for the trauma response because it protected me, and told me I didn't need it anymore. Oh and a whole lot more. A week ago I looked in the mirror, smiled at me and felt peace, and I felt me, for the first time. I looked at me and loved me, I am 61, and proud of me. Then I found this podcast, and you supported me and gave me more guidance. Thank you.

@lewishowes 20 дней назад

You are loved 🙏👏

@frankanderson8507 14 дней назад

So beautiful. ❤️

@annaak7849 13 дней назад

❤❤

@pimmspimms5462 11 дней назад

This is so, so beautiful. I have a diagnosis of Complex PTSD as a consequence of childhood abuse. I’m in therapy - my psychologist is using the Internal Family Systems modality on me - and have begun to talk to my younger, traumatised parts. There’s something magical in rediscovering your inner child. There’s something magical in loving your inner child in all of the ways that your parents didn’t. I hope that, one day, I will reach a place of peace for everything that I’ve been through, pride for surviving… and then let the trauma go from my body, mind and emotions. You’re inspirational to me! You make me want to keep going. Continue to love and look after yourself always, 🕊️ x

@dianemorrell9638 11 дней назад

@@lewishowes but I'm not and know it.

@dianeclayton4936 26 дней назад

I talk to my parts in the car all the time. I don't need to close eyes or meditate. I talk to my inner parts just as I would a close friend. ❤

@austintaylor55 25 дней назад

Same :) IFS has helped give language and framework for facilitating the parts work

@JDr709 24 дня назад

I’m love you and you’re energy! You need to take a step forward for someone else or yourself maybe. You’re on the next level brother(or sister). Pay it forward.

@Yourfavshopper 21 день назад

Omg me too!

@frankanderson8507 21 день назад

awesome

@allisontaylor1818 21 день назад

Your inner child , such an important part of you.

@oaktreedialogues6318 26 дней назад

"You don't have to carry stuff that isn't yours". This idea of trauma as holding somebody else's negative energy resonates with me. It makes sense for trauma as a relational injury.

@damarisamaya5142 26 дней назад

I think part of that is bc we feel guilty for any reason, for me guilt has make carry that energy that doesn’t belong to me

@frankanderson8507 21 день назад

wonderful

@TheBams1026 27 дней назад

One of THE best interviews I have ever listened to. No doubt this came across my feed for a reason.

@lewishowes 27 дней назад

Thank you so much for your feedback 🙂

@frankanderson8507 21 день назад

so happy it resonated

@chriestinenpape 27 дней назад

When you think you could never have had any more deep, thoughtful healing podcast from Lewis and his guest.... I love his podcast more and more

@lewishowes 27 дней назад

Thank you! Appreciate you and your support🧡

@Hooch737 26 дней назад

You Are NOT wrong!!!! So right, always a good discussion

@magdalenanarolewska4934 23 дня назад

What an amazing discussion. Thank you ❤❤

@frankanderson8507 21 день назад

I am so glad it has been helpful

@TS-iv9ml 9 дней назад

Love the AND teaching moment ❤ I needed to hear that as I'm finally at a place & understanding to do this! As an Empath, it takes so much energy & time to get here. You two are perfectly placed and timed for so many of us, thank you so very much!! The healing and holding...boundaries.. perfect!! It's okay to do for you & NEEDED ... Craniosacral Therapy is helping where my disconnect is so I can heal 🫂

@mindbodymedicine 23 дня назад

A psychiatrist who doesn't push drugs and is relatable. I admire him and I loved this podcast. Dr. Anderson, thank you for your dedication to help those with trauma. I have the utmost respect for you.

@roseofsharon7551 22 дня назад

AND he doesn’t suggest no-contact as a healing option. Supposedly 20% of youth today are going no-contact; it’s insidious that so much of the mental health industry is promoting the break up of families.

@tinydanceryoutube 21 день назад

And Lewis too!

@tinydanceryoutube 21 день назад

@@roseofsharon7551read his story. He divorced his family to find himself years ago. That's why he is who he is today.

@frankanderson8507 21 день назад

wow, thank you for those wonderful words, so glad it was helpful

@abstract20 27 дней назад

“Trauma blocks love. Love heals trauma.” Sounds like quite the conundrum to me.

@pupplylove3003 26 дней назад

It is. That’s why it’s so hard to do

@Eleerm 26 дней назад

This is true for me. But things are starting to change.

@anthonycavallero6637 26 дней назад

Paper . ✂️.🪨..

@dakine4238 25 дней назад

True, I believe part of it is developing self-love and compassion toward yourself.

@vickibazter3446 25 дней назад

@@pupplylove3003 good point. I believe we store our trauma memory in our body. I think body and breath work far surpass talk therapy to deal and break patterns. Not Easy.

@middleofnowhere1313 25 дней назад

I'm with Dr. Ramani. My forgiveness must be earned. It is not a door prize for the undeserving. Love myself when they didn't, yes i do. Those who deliberately made my life awful deserve and get nothing from me.

@autygris1 23 дня назад

Haven’t watched this, was wondering if this goes against what Dr. Ramani says?

@HumanityRisingNow 22 дня назад

Sounds like you still need to heal my brother/sister 🙏

@frankanderson8507 21 день назад

from my perspective, forgiveness is more for the person doing the forgiving than it is about the other person. I appreciate your view.

@northofyou33 18 дней назад

@@frankanderson8507 Very true. My malignantly narcissistic mother abused me badly, but I am in the process of forgiving her. Not for what she did to me, but for the fact that she was a damaged person who had no idea what she was doing to me. I haven't fully forgiven her, but things are shifting, and I feel so much better about myself already. I'm doing it to empower myself.

@jcepri 7 дней назад

@@northofyou33 My parents are both deceased. I'm working on pretending they were enlightened when they passed to the other wide and want to reach out to forgive me. It's up to me to accept their apology so I can forgive them.

@warrenisaac5634 9 дней назад

This is an episode that everyone should see, if not for themselves then for those they love! There is plenty for everyone to take away from this episode! I will rewatch this one again and again. You provide so much healing for those that follow you and I for one am greatful. Bless you Lewis and Frank!

@allisontaylor1818 24 дня назад

Still working on this journey called life... i hit rock bottom 3 years ago and have had therapy since...so many feelings I kept inside, no boundaries, door mat,abuse, yelled at my kids, alcoholic parent , alcoholic myself...etc. Boy , have I come a long way since then. Learned alot of great things about myself.

@frankanderson8507 21 день назад

keep going

@pimmspimms5462 12 дней назад

You CAN do this, Allison. There will be low and hard times along the therapy route, but everything will be worth it. I grew up with an alcoholic father and know the deep pain that it causes. By healing your addiction, you are giving an extraordinary gift to yourself and your future… and, in turn, your children. Keep going! I’m sending love to you, 🕊️ x

@allisontaylor1818 11 дней назад

@@pimmspimms5462 thank you so so much...i feel the love as I weep.

@kathylibby3676 26 дней назад

Generally speaking people who face their life trauma will get better. Those who don't choose to go on a personal quest will become bitter. Choosing to become better rather than bitter has served me well. And I'm still working on getting better.

@frankanderson8507 21 день назад

beautiful

@Dawn-tv1bk 26 дней назад

Pleasing others is really a protection of self.

@SethNobrega 22 дня назад

Would you elaborate on? That’s an interesting take and I’m legitimately curious? Thank you!

@godzillamanstreb524 22 дня назад

Yes protection from further abuse …..you try to please your abuser…..iow….fawning

@SethNobrega 21 день назад

Wow that’s amazing. I never knew that term before but considering the last two (psychologically/physically abusive) relationships I left, dots are starting to connect 🤦‍♂️

@Dawn-tv1bk 21 день назад

@@SethNobrega I’m saying that pleasing others is really a protection of self because at its core we don’t please others simply to make them happy. We sometimes please others to make them happy so they will be happy with us and think highly of us and like us. Can someone please someone else simply from a pure heart to make them happy because they love them and care for them, yes. But people who are chronic people pleasers often do it to protect themselves from the pain of not being liked or they want to be seen as this amazing good person. I speak from experience as a recovering people pleaser🥰😊

@Dawn-tv1bk 21 день назад

@@godzillamanstreb524pleasing someone to prevent abuse is called survival. I actually don’t call that people pleasing. It’s survival until you can get away🙏🏼❤️

@terrahillman151 27 дней назад

I agree with Frank about releasing trauma makes us look younger. Stress energy and trauma energy age humans. And makes us sick. There is no illness in healed humans. Only love and complete health. And youth. 🙌🏼❤️

@wakinguphumanuty 27 дней назад

100% accurate ❤️

@irinadumitru9088 26 дней назад

@@wakinguphumanutyThat s true...Fortunately I m looking younger due to a lot of healing traumas but I m still not done ...

@lewishowes 26 дней назад

🧡

@frankanderson8507 21 день назад

yes, 100%

@jacqueline2257 17 дней назад

💯

@l2sunshine173 24 дня назад

Whenever an negative emotion triggered by trauma takes over my body, I stop and i talk to it" I hear you, i aknowledge you but i don't need you today. You are from the past and it is ok to leave.We are safe now". I then sit and feel where it is in my body, breath, and feel it leaving my body. I am no longer trying to carriy it around.

@frankanderson8507 21 день назад

beautiful

@patriciaberliner8050 18 дней назад

Thank you ❤

@tstrads26 15 дней назад

I love this ❤

@TS-iv9ml 9 дней назад

❤ wow!! This is great and doable!! TY!!

@NixTheNarcissist 26 дней назад

The problem with this is with complex trauma and dealing with narcissistic abuse is that loving them doesn’t work. It’s the opposite of helpful. Love isn’t the answer with them. Yes you can love yourself but loving them only In turn hurts you more in the long run.

@crystalburkhardt 26 дней назад

Agreed! This is my experience with the narc in my life

@elainec5333 26 дней назад

I wouldn’t even give a narcissist a wedge bc that’s too much attention than they deserve.

@oaktreedialogues6318 26 дней назад

With narcissists, the idea is to love them from far away. You need to detach from them since hating them uses too much emotional energy. Detach, then look at them from a new perspective of universal love , without expecting anything from them.

@MayaRoseSpokenWord 21 день назад

My advice is love them from a far for your healing and let your inner child hate them with you... I hope this makes sense. It is the hardest healing because as Dr Ramni said, or maybe it was Lisa A Romano, that we are hard wired to love them and a part of us always will so I think it's best to surrender to the love of their sad story and the pain that caused them do what they do while honoring the anger and hatred in a sacred space that has nothing to do with your interaction with them.. good luck it's not easy to find the love but when you do it is so freeing and that doesn't mean you ever need to set eyes om them again. Good luck and much love to you❣️❣️❣️

@frankanderson8507 21 день назад

I feel differently. Loving them, frees you from being negatively connected to them anymore. But I appreciate your perspective.

@litalooloo4470 4 дня назад

As a random lady, I'm so proud of these two men. They are putting in the work to heal themselves. Thank you for all you are doing to help others on this path. Hugs to you both!

@florianewu1886 27 дней назад

Exactly, when a parent realizes that their triggered trauma self wounded their children, it feels like a moral injury. The shame needs to be healed also. I am also a Repairer. Wholeness is when we have re-integrated and self parented all the parts of ourselves. Ty for such an insightful interview! :)

@frankanderson8507 21 день назад

thank you, so glad it has been helpful

@elainec5333 26 дней назад

He’s genuine and doesn’t hold back on what’s important and helpful. He whole heartedly cares and wants to help. You can feel it.

@frankanderson8507 21 день назад

thank you so much for your kind words

@gailyhanna510 26 дней назад

Forgiveness is the fragrance that the violet sheds on the heel that has crushed it.💜

@frankanderson8507 21 день назад

beautiful

@lesliemorgan3091 22 дня назад

This is the best explanation of dealing with trauma I've ever heard. Thank you guys!

@lewishowes 21 день назад

So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.

@susanoker4780 27 дней назад

I was once told that "Forgiveness is setting a prisoner free. And then realizing the prisoner, was you". Carrying that anger or hurt or negative emotion does not hurt them or affect them. But it hurts you. It affects you. That has always stuck with me.

@michellemonet4358 23 дня назад

But anger is a stage in grieving.

@susanoker4780 23 дня назад

@@michellemonet4358 Agreed. Anger is a stage of grief. But holding on to that anger, carrying it around with you, where, when you talk about the memories, you are right back in that moment, just as angry as when it first happened, that is not grief. That is trauma. And the only one being hurt by it over and over again, is you.

@frankanderson8507 21 день назад

yes 100%

@magicalpatterns 16 дней назад

FINALLY SOMEONE speak about IFS internal family systems. Thank you 🙏🏼 is the absolute best therapy for trauma. Not only because is so extremely effective but because the therapist’s goal is to teach how to do it to yourself and let you go. Brilliant work discovered by Dr. Richard Schwartz

@8Freakish8 6 дней назад

Since our brains have multiple personalities and thats why its same effective as literally giving therapy to a whole family. I think if we simply pay attention to the nervous and limbic system and its different states, we already refer to the "child" behavior while in survival for example. Gabor Mate talks since years about IFS and generational traumas. Mister bessel didnt even know what ifs was, said gabor shocked in a interview i watched lately. Yup yup there is still work to be done so the more awareness we cab spread to the world, the better 🌱😊

@ElisPalmer 13 дней назад

What a beautiful conversation. Thanks so much ~🌟

@JaneAmericanIrish777 27 дней назад

Repairing starts with forgiveness and understanding. Forgive what was done. Seeing how it effects your life. The hardest is to understand when it pops up.We learn what to do till we are in that trigger . If we fall back. We have to forgive ourselves for not being perfect and tap ourselves on the back when we do overcome a trigger or a emotional response. We have to take into consideration that others we deal with might be masking their trauma as well. So you might trigger them. I get the wounded walk away or ghosting. When things are difficult to address we run. We all have that fight or flight response . It's freeing when we face it .Thank you for this video. Lots of trauma in my life. It bothers me when others say your using it when your trauma when your not ! This is only because you told them and they are using it to beat you with or put you down. It ticks me off. It's hard to confront when the people are no longer in your life. My father beat the hell out of my Mom and even tried to kill her. My easy memories are sleeping in the basement hiding behind boards with my Mom as he came in drunk and dragged her upstairs by her hair beating her ! He was a product of his childhood. My Mom was a product of her childhood. Both were broken and created broken next generations. It stops as you see how in your life that trauma effects you . I learn that it's like a dopamine hit to emotionally go back to that same negative patterns. I see when I do it but it's a best that I created. Healing In my thoughts starts with you. My fight or flight is what I have to identify more. That need to run or react to negative things. To not get into your own head or follow patterns that lead you to tgat sane kind of abusive situations. People are good to talk to but do not live your experience. They can offer a shoulder only. Drugs are a bandaid. All drugs keep in mind came from nature. Now keep in mind that most qho went off were on strong drugs and therapy. Like I said it's a consistent effort for those who are in a deep mental breakdown. The problem in this Society is we give drug's like pez dispensers. To people who don't need it and end up addicted or doing more drugs ! Do not address the root. That is a desire and finding the tools to heal. Natural cures for depression. Medical treatment for complete breakdown only. With follow up. A majority of us are in imbalances because of our diet and lifestyle as well. Once again thanks for this video .

@frankanderson8507 21 день назад

beautiful

@sandyokeeffe2203 26 дней назад

Frank Anderson is a huge leading voice in the trauma treatment field. I appreciate him so much for all his beautiful work. He is truly amazing

@frankanderson8507 21 день назад

thank you for your kind words

@frankanderson8507 21 день назад

thanks you so much

@andreavanda5402 22 дня назад

This one REALLY hit home! Dr. Anderson is such a gift. Lewis you are one special person with a HUGE heart. Thank you for bringing hope and healing to this world. ❤❤❤

@frankanderson8507 21 день назад

thank you and I agree, Lewis is a gift to all of us

@frankanderson8507 21 день назад

thank you

@michelehoover777 27 дней назад

Wow! This was so powerful! I have been working on trauma recovery for years but this really hit home. I would love a follow up with Frank Anderson on how to help out kids early so we can help release any trauma already caused and how to prevent further small t traumas with our kids. ❤

@nancysmyth-gray1698 15 дней назад

Kids totally know correct behavior. At 10yrs, I remember a trip to Europe with my mom, watching her not being nice to the “help”. My daughter at 10yrs said to me, “I don’t like the way your mom speaks to you.” Ugh!

@EcomCarl 26 дней назад

Dr. Frank insights on releasing negative energy from trauma are truly transformative. 💫 Understanding the role of shame and embracing the journey of healing can empower us to live more fulfilling and authentic lives.

@frankanderson8507 21 день назад

thank you

@frankanderson8507 21 день назад

thank you

@mariadodds2042 27 дней назад

Frank is a great teacher. His transparency is very refreshing. I've just ordered his book 'Transcending trauma.' Thank You.

@skychua7820 26 дней назад

How is the book helping you,how much does it cost at Amazon

@frankanderson8507 21 день назад

thank you

@carolafriesen904 27 дней назад

I was a y care taker of my parents.My mom was prescription drug addict.My dad just worked all the time.Had to take care of my siblings.Unlike other people I no longer wanted to take care of people when I got older.

@vickibazter3446 26 дней назад

So sorry about that burden. 😞 I hope you can parent yourself or find nurturing to feel safe. It's seems unfair.

@frankanderson8507 21 день назад

sorry for your pain, healing possible

@patriciaberliner8050 18 дней назад

Thank you for your enlightening contribution. I felt I had to protect and defend my mother from my father throughout my childhood and on into adulthood. This could have had a significant influence on my choosing not to have children.

@janswimwild 14 дней назад

Compassion fatigue is very real. You need your compassion now, and that’s ok. Take great care of yourself, you are worth it.

@pimmspimms5462 11 дней назад

I’m sorry that you didn’t have the childhood that all little children deserve. It’s time to give to yourself now. Pour into yourself. Do what restores and replenishes YOU. It’s time, it’s time, it’s time. I hope that your future brings healing and peace, 🕊️ x

@EpicLoveInstitute 20 дней назад

The chemistry and attunement between the two of you is off the charts!!! How you just "felt" each other was priceless. Such an amazing interview. Frank is one of my IFS heroes!

@lewishowes 20 дней назад

So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.

@anikalee9012 27 дней назад

I don't have anyone to share. So I stay in my body imagine Cristal Lord Buddha inside me give me compassion that I can feel with my whole body. I took me tree years I keep releasing many feelings I never know I have.

@RoseRoseRoseRoseRoseRose 27 дней назад

If you are alone, then please write it down to vent & read about some healing techniques of professional psychologists to cure. Choose your favorites so you can give your heart a chance to heal. And never be chronically harsh to yourself when you have hard times because mostly, it's also one kind of trauma response to bl4me yourself (not always your fault). Much love & kisses❣️♥️🫂♥️

@michellecook-hill431 27 дней назад

@@RoseRoseRoseRoseRoseRose kisses??? A little much.

@jessicamadrid5799 27 дней назад

Try inner child healing. You witness your own pain and comfort and show up for yourself. It works and you know what your younger self needs more than anyone else.

@2minuteschallenge599 26 дней назад

Much love & kisses. You are blessed You are unique You are a Survivor You are one of a kind You are real You are a beautiful living human being with so much energy to share. Keep moving forwards ❤

@elenaangheluta 26 дней назад

Wow ..this what your wrote you are aware of how deep is ? It’s huge congrats to you and happy you did it , we are never alone ❤

@tenalemasters6802 26 дней назад

Forgiveness is not for the other person, it’s for you. Find a way to forgive it’s so healing

@Suzu52 24 дня назад

This is the first time I ve heard Dr.Anderson...I will now seek out his books and more videos....I appreciate his honesty...I wish both my adult sons would do self work like this....we all need it.

@Emolisst68 17 дней назад

This is the BEST podcast I’ve listened to! Thank you thank you thank you!!! 🙏 😊

@lewishowes 17 дней назад

So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.

@lalitaholmesstressfreefast1897 24 дня назад

Yes, you can look younger releasing trauma. I had a client who was told after a session she looked like a 16 year old. She was in her 50's at the time. I am constantly being told i look 10 years younger than i am

@BeNice524 21 день назад

I feel your spirit doing this interview Lewis. Stay strong brother 🙏🏼

@mariakarinabarrientos1656 13 дней назад

YES! Cried every “aha” moment. I love your channel! Please continue to share insights and healing practices into the world. I have so much interest in your work. Love and kindness be… Thank you !

@lewishowes 13 дней назад

So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.

@48dette 19 дней назад

This is amazing! I had so many aha moments! I just wanted to add as people may find this interesting, I suffered abuse my whole childhood but managed to push it away to the furthest part of me & bolt the door shut. Then in my adulthood after my father died, I married & had kids then slowly things started to arise. I was very confused because I had the symptoms of feeling unworthy & not good enough, but didn’t know why. After my first child was born my father came to me in a dream, he was crying I realized that this wasn’t just a dream, it was a message he had planted the first seed to my recovery. & this was the beginning.

@lewishowes 19 дней назад

So happy to hear we have supported you!

@frankanderson8507 14 дней назад

So glad this was helpful to you

@nkundwashanice574 18 дней назад

The questions Lewis asks is exactly what I ask myself before he asks. Bless you for being a good interviewer. You were born to do this😮

@lewishowes 18 дней назад

So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.

@spinnettdesigns 24 дня назад

I'm about the age of Frank and similar in the drive for intellect etc. and I had several of these shames and I think that the neglect is the worst. Yet, after 20 plus years of therapy and every other health protocol known to man, its been totally worth it. Going from "I'm nothing" to mental health is the best feeling in the world. Please continue everyone and thank you Lewis for bringing these great helps to the fore.

@frankanderson8507 21 день назад

beautiful

@lacrews10 23 дня назад

Thank you so much for your venerability and honesty. This is such enlightening conversation! This gives me hope for the world because you two are holding this frequency. Heal yourself heal the world. And I love how these two men are expressing their feminine and masculine energy in balance. Love it so much.

@lewishowes 23 дня назад

Appreciate your feedback, thank you so much for watching!

@MichelineNaderOfficial 18 дней назад

❤❤❤ YES! When we can release the trauma stored in our body, not only can we enjoy life more, but we can show up as a compassionate leader and create an entirely new version of reality. Thank you Dr. Frank and Lewis for inspiring so many people through your dedication to increasing awareness and having conversations like these!

@audreycisneros3512 20 дней назад

Thank you for this! Loved this segment.💜

@lewishowes 20 дней назад

Appreciate you! 🙏

@saraafshar-md8ic 24 дня назад

I am dealing on daily basis with trauma that has happened to me in the past .Dr Anderson's gives me comfort when I listen to him and how he explains everything......🙏

@frankanderson8507 21 день назад

beautiful

@Annemarie...Annemarie.... 18 дней назад

Òmg this man is incredible. From a people pleaser because of a very dramatic childhood.i have spent all my life until the past 4 years,I only stopped because of more trauma of being bullied the past 9 years, I am angry at myself worrying about the very people that have bullied me..their loss they would have had if I had told on what they did/ doing. Now I am being kind to myself,don't be angry,it's the last part of the people pleaser experience, Now the voice inside says your being silly,snap out of it...let it go. Lewis you are a lovely gentle,kind beautiful man,I am so very sorry for all your hurt...you had to live thru, You are helping so many people with what you are doing,with the guests you have, You are loved..

@twylabryant7197 26 дней назад

Sometimes it’s not just protective. It’s necessary to distance yourself from family members for sure. When you’ve tried everything but the pain they keep inflicting on you doesn’t stop you have to have a healthy boundary. You do not have to stay in those situation’s and there’s nothing wrong with you when you need to do that.

@michellemonet4358 23 дня назад

Yes. Some people stay in a family system out of obligation even if it detrimental to their health.

@frankanderson8507 21 день назад

yes, 100%

@chevvalah1085 24 дня назад

Yes. I found that i have trauma that i kept trying to tell people about. Nobody understood so i would just shut down and panic more. But i started recording myself telling the story and ranting, and i would go back and give myself advice, because now that the emotions are out, i can tap into the inner wisdom and actually work on fixing

@cherylm5002 24 дня назад

You are not alone, it does get better once we get the sh*t out❤

@marshareed1438 19 дней назад

I have CPTSD. I’ve done everything possible to get rid of the trauma. Then I turned 50 and I got traumatized! I couldn’t bounce out of it! I decided that I had to get away from the toxic person in my life. I took a self sabotaging path but it worked. I got better than divorced. Now I’m working out again & I’m dreaming of my next journey on a continuous basis!

@DominionAnako-bb7ry 28 дней назад

Ah, negative energy... it's something we all encounter from time to time. When it comes to dealing with negative energy, it's important to protect your own well-being. Surround yourself with positive influences, practice self-care, and focus on activities that bring you joy. Remember, you have the power to choose how you respond to negativity. Stay positive and let the good vibes flow! 😊✨

@fastrabbitcrochet 27 дней назад

Amen!

@kenorcutt301 27 дней назад

From time to time? Clueless and useless flippant advice.

@simmychua3026 27 дней назад

😮😅😊its like having free therapy ,many thanķs doc frank and the interview is a blast sir lewis

@frankanderson8507 21 день назад

yes

@whytchywooo 20 дней назад

100% of humans have experienced trauma, thanks to 2020 events and what followed.

@Michael-fn2fu 7 дней назад

Birth is in itself traumatic, so therefore, it started long before 2020, and the trauma we all faced no matter what side you were forced to take

@penniroyal4398 День назад

2020 had nothing to do with all the trauma I’ve had to endure, nor all the horror my family has gone through. It’s part of being human. Life itself is traumatic 😢

@penniroyal4398 День назад

If 100% of the people had not experienced trauma had 2020 not happened then then that is unrealistic that people would lived in bliss. Completely unrealistic and a fantasy. The horrific trauma our family has gone through had nothing to do with 2020.

@r-type4945 День назад

I disagree. 1. The very same event can be traumatizing to one person and not to another. We aren't all the same with our capacity to endure things. 2. It was mostly due to how governments and societies handled the situation by exaggerating fear and instill conflict during the time after. Some countries were more relaxed than others.

@whytchywooo День назад

@@Michael-fn2fu Deep thoughts. Much appreciated.

@gigiciniski9580 27 дней назад

THANK YOU DR. FRANK ANDERSON ❤ You are Great! ❤

@lewishowes 27 дней назад

So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.

@nicoledryden1389 26 дней назад

THIS WAS A GREAT EPISODE! I feel everyone should watch this, so much we may take in and learn from.

@Pheistyherbalist 19 дней назад

I loved when Dr. Anderson broke down IFS. I grew up in a big West African family and it’s easy to get swallowed in the group dynamics!! Another great episode Lewis!

@deniserubino7903 5 дней назад

Nicole LePera is incredible!! So thrilled that he mentioned her work.

@clarisamompremier8005 20 дней назад

I loved this interview. I have not heard another guest refer/defer to other experts as much, it was so refreshing!! I also loved all the experts he was referring to..Brene Brown, Dr. Shefali..Dr. Becky..Dr. Dick S.... etc....

@frankanderson8507 14 дней назад

Thank you so much

@TamaraBassinello-gn4ic 26 дней назад

A huge YES to this. I love Frank Anderson’s work and this interview is truly a must. Thank you Lewis for bringing him on. I am a big believer in the IFS model and have myself experienced a whole lot of healing, transformation and release from it. Those four Ts Anderson walks us through are tremendously helpful and practical. I love it.

@florentinaguggenheimer6557 21 день назад

This man is a sweetheart. His voice reminds me of the guy on Schitt's Creek. Comforting♥️

@IngridCAlves 22 дня назад

As a boy naturally playing, discovering, experimenting what he little time sees of life was taken abruptly the possibility of to just continue playing life as if it was totally wrong. Children often sees and understands when adults are wrong but often learn what life presents . It shocked him attracting to so became what he could have learned . It’s somewhat almost an unconscious , and conscious revenge power . Trauma : you either learn or repeat.

@just2comment2 15 дней назад

I had so much trauma as a child, i can relate to this one so much, thank you for this. I have always written and been creative to deal with it, I am sure i need a lot of healing still though.

@SJ-zd9el День назад

So good. Anyone who says anything about Charlemagne....I always say I can see his evolution. That is what we all should do, evolve. I loved this!

@aprililes8355 21 день назад

Excellent talk!! I am so grateful that finally a credible Truma doctor explains everything in layman and easy to understand terms!!!! He is so real & down to earth!!💖 Love this talk!!!! You give me hope!!!🙏💖

@lewishowes 21 день назад

So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.

@frankanderson8507 14 дней назад

Thank you so much

@penniroyal4398 8 дней назад

I went to the bookstore today to buy this book and it’s not stocked yet but I requested to have one saved for me when it does come! I am looking forward to read and use it to recover from all the pain, trauma and suffering I’ve gone through in the 64 years I’ve lived this life so far 🙏

@marlene447 26 дней назад

Wao this got me crying. Journey to self healing on its way! Thank you!

@frankanderson8507 21 день назад

beautiful

@chanelmarky 23 дня назад

This was beautiful chaps - thankyou both so much for putting this out to the world. Simply amazing. Love that it’s really quite a simple process and something that you can do yourself as a lot of people are isolated these days. I would love to get involved more with this as it really is effective and badly needed. Thanks again for a wonderfully touching episode.

@aprililes8355 20 дней назад

You're welcome Lewis. I would love to hear another talk from Dr. Anderson again! However many of your podcasts have such amazing content!! Thankyou for all that you do!! Your work is sooo important!!🙏💖

@lewishowes 20 дней назад

Appreciate you and your support🧡

@frankanderson8507 14 дней назад

So glad this was helpful and yes, I agree. Lewis produces such great content.

@HappyCat1111 21 день назад

Wow, really feeling the intellectual compensation! Getting my second degree plus other diplomas and certifications, wondering how many degrees will it take to prove my worth..damn, that hit home!

@frankanderson8507 14 дней назад

Awesome

@allisontaylor1818 24 дня назад

Everything he says, makes sense and have dealt with most of his points.

@fayesmith5813 26 дней назад

This message is so huge. It could possibly be the missing link to my healing. Thank you for giving me the gift of internal freedom 😊❤

@marials9245 27 дней назад

IFS is such a powerful and beautiful therapy, if done correctly then healing will inevitably follow. I have really enjoyed the interview!

@petrakreuzwieser3408 27 дней назад

Thank you ❤ I always belived that all of us have love (the light) inside of us. No matter how many borders, or walls, we have- or the experiences made us- build arround. LOVE ❤

@PhotoAmbrosia 22 дня назад

Recovery! What you are recovering is your true self!

@frankanderson8507 21 день назад

yes 100%

@MayaRoseSpokenWord 21 день назад

This is so good and so needed. Comprehensive, holistic and honest. I wish I had this info before I sunk myself into the cycle of bad-ish therapy.. it was a great education but I'd rather have had lemonade than squeezed all those darn lemons... Thank you for this...

@user-py2hq3ud2h 19 дней назад

YES - I learned why I did not prioritize myself - now I know it was all about survival

@MonicaRodriguez-jm8qk 14 дней назад

Lewis this episode was so meaningful, thank you.

@UHURUIZENN 27 дней назад

Well done!!! This was one of the best videos I' seen on social media. It's caused me to reflect on myself as a child whois now a parent. 🤔 "To Be Loved." who does not want or need that? Thanks to both of you for this insightful, deep, and open conversation. 😊🙏

@frankanderson8507 14 дней назад

You are very welcome

@maevebutler4641 23 дня назад

Yes. I enjoyed listening to you sharing the conversation you had with your younger self..so beautifully articulated & very moving Excellent interview from listening to you both sharing experiences and how to heal our traumas.

@frankanderson8507 14 дней назад

Thank you

@danielledigiacomo8950 20 дней назад

This was one of the best talks about trauma and therapy I’ve come across. Thank you for introducing me to Dr. Anderson.

@lewishowes 20 дней назад

So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.

@frankanderson8507 14 дней назад

Thank you so much

@infinitewavesofhealing 26 дней назад

I just can't believe he's 60! He looks amazing! Healing really does wonders.

@evka24 26 дней назад

Wow

@CatLadyKorea 25 дней назад

What?????? He is?????

@infinitewavesofhealing 25 дней назад

@@CatLadyKorea Lol, Yes! He said it a couple times in the interview and I was in disbelief every time.

@irenesze3099 23 дня назад

Make up la 😂

@frankanderson8507 21 день назад

yes, 😘

@franhart7414 27 дней назад

We all have trauma and baggage. This is one of the most enlightening educational videos I've seen on the things mentioned. Thank you so much 🙏

@frankanderson8507 14 дней назад

So glad it was helpful

@KotobukiGirl 20 дней назад

OMG. I've still got a limerence object that is the compilation of my abusive narcissist parents. I know on every logical level that he's a creep; I haven't gone a day without obsessing over him for over a year. What I would give to feel that release! How truly wonderful.

@jonathan_mcguinness 20 дней назад

The description of trauma is so Powerful ❤

@lewishowes 20 дней назад

🧡

@colleencarr3470 17 дней назад

I love the “And” story bc I have that situation in my own family. Thank you for this communication platform and the in-depth valuable information that was shared with the audience. I think the forgiveness is part of the healing. It is always for your benefit. The “us” & “them” is all about separation. But I believe separation is necessary when the abuser does not stop the abuse. I still forgive that person & see the light & darkness that is in all of us but I also chose to protect myself & that is a way I show self-love to myself.

@lewishowes 17 дней назад

Thank you! I really appreciate the feedback!

@aureliere 26 дней назад

What a lovely conversation on healing with Dr. Frank. His loving kindness and compassion shone through. Thank you Lewis and team for bringing him to your platform.

@yasmeenalim1 22 дня назад

So grateful for this talk

@nataliastashkevych2228 24 дня назад

Thank you, Lewis, so much for such a great guest! It is powerful. I have a lot of trauma, and I am just starting the healing process. Love from Ukraine ❤

@lewishowes 24 дня назад

You're welcome, appreciate you and your support!

@theonlytheone 9 дней назад

I needed this. I have been trying to find someone who could help me understand what I was going through, and yes, it does confirm what my feelings have been trying to tell me about my wounds. When that understanding clicks, the healing and transformation happen. But yes, you can heal, but it does help to have someone who has gone through the same trauma pain in order to guide you. Like yeah, I have been there, and yes, you can heal

@Staying_aliveforwomen 26 дней назад

This here is a lesson in humanity.How love @compassion wisdom liberates.I❤ ur both. The peaceful calm is felt in their spirits

@frankanderson8507 14 дней назад

Thank you so much

@RodriguezMM 20 дней назад

Incredible interview 👏🏻 thank you guys I learnt so much , and now I have clear so many concepts that they were confused to me . Fantastic 💯

@lewishowes 20 дней назад

So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.

@dasblackstarr8288 19 дней назад

Wow!!! Thank you so much for sharing this... this is lifechanging 🥰

@lewishowes 19 дней назад

So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.

@marijana169 24 дня назад

Insightful and sincere-Thank you Frank & Lewis.

@maureensidor3532 7 дней назад

After many, many traumatic experiences starting at 8 years old- I am now 43- I now understand and acknowledge that while, yes, some of these experiences I was victimized, but I am not a victim. In fact, I am resilient and am a survivor. These traumatic experiences propelled me into the highest version of myself. I had to go through these things to find my true self and began to love myself for ALL that I am, all that I am not. I am exactly where I'm supposed to be. Even in my darkest moments. I THANK the universe for these things - it made me stronger, wiser, and not the victim. And I still do the work, the internal work. Self growth is never done.

@lewishowes 7 дней назад

Thank you for tuning in! :)