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I’m 60 plus and mostly been messed up my whole life. A childhood with a abusive mother and a father that looked the other way. I’m at the end of my life so what’s the point of trying to get straightened out. It seems pointless this late in life .
@@jeffconley819Everyone carries some sort of trauma. You're 60 so you could be here on this beautiful planet for another 30 or 35 years. Do your best to raise your awareness and learn how to be happier. Millions have and so can you. Just open the door/s. Enjoy your life
@@jeffconley819 If it's for the last five minutes in your life, that you can feel the love inside of you, it wont be too late... it's never too late. ❤
Yes a thousand x’s! Related so much to Frank & his experience with his parents & have been drawn to your @lewishowes journey as well. Ty so much for addressing more than one topic & especially discussions regarding mental fitness, how were affected by the past (esp in childhood & traumas). One of the Best & my empathy grows from this beautiful conversation. Thank you sincerely Dr. Frank & Lewis. 🙏♥️🔥
The Four T’s to Trauma Healing 1. Thank your trauma responses. Thank your protective responses. Thank drinking. Thank binge eating. Thank suicidal thinking. Thank the depression and anxiety. Thank your responses bc they’re just trying to stop the pain. 2. Trust that you have what you need inside to heal. Don’t need a guru. Trust your gut. Trust your intuition. 3. Transform. What doesn’t serve you doesn’t belong to you. Witness experience and share the story, thoughts, feelings and physical sensations. Share whole experience without reliving it but be with it but not in it. Disconfirm the trauma. I’m loved. I’m seen. I’m important. Relational repair. I love myself. A friend loves and cares about you. Can love the other person who harmed you. Corrective experience after share. Release is possible. Body shakes. Feel lighter. Energy releases. Pain dissipates. You become you again. It’s freeing to let go of trauma. Reclaiming yourself. 4. Take back your power. Become you. You’re more you every time you release something. I can love and move on despite… Forgiveness is not condoning. If you choose to it’s more for you but you don’t have to. Who hasn’t harmed or been harmed? Forgive self. Trauma blocks love. Love heals trauma.
What if your gut is telling you to do something wrong, like leave your spouse for someone else? As in, screaming that THIS is what you need? The gut is fickle.
@@oambitiousone7100Until we get good help - counseling, meditation, etc - it's pretty hard to know whether it's our 'gut' talking to us or just the part of our self that we constructed & learned to listen to in order to get along in the world we exist in.
@@oambitiousone7100 sounds like your body trying to protect you by giving you an escape from your current situation. Not the solution! It’s a quick fix. The inner work needs to be done first.
Thank you. I've been on a healing journey most of my adult life. The last few months were dark, I was in my head in a negative way. I remembered a skill given to me during counseling. I needed to go back and rescue me from my trauma, and love me and tell me I am safe and loved and whatever else that me needed to know. So I started to do this with every trauma I could remember. I thanked me for the trauma response because it protected me, and told me I didn't need it anymore. Oh and a whole lot more. A week ago I looked in the mirror, smiled at me and felt peace, and I felt me, for the first time. I looked at me and loved me, I am 61, and proud of me. Then I found this podcast, and you supported me and gave me more guidance. Thank you.
This is so, so beautiful. I have a diagnosis of Complex PTSD as a consequence of childhood abuse. I’m in therapy - my psychologist is using the Internal Family Systems modality on me - and have begun to talk to my younger, traumatised parts. There’s something magical in rediscovering your inner child. There’s something magical in loving your inner child in all of the ways that your parents didn’t. I hope that, one day, I will reach a place of peace for everything that I’ve been through, pride for surviving… and then let the trauma go from my body, mind and emotions. You’re inspirational to me! You make me want to keep going. Continue to love and look after yourself always, 🕊️ x
Also the caregivers we had that failed us did what they knew how to do. People can’t give what they don’t have to give just as we didn’t and couldn’t. On the side of psychopaths this is a fallen world with fallen people. Others actions toward us do not dictate who we are or determine our intrinsic value.
Your nervous system IS the "master key." It impacts everything... Your cells, your blood vessels, your immune system, your endocrine system, your muscular system, your digestive system, your brain and signaling pathways... EVERYTHING! But most of us are still ignoring it.
"You don't have to carry stuff that isn't yours". This idea of trauma as holding somebody else's negative energy resonates with me. It makes sense for trauma as a relational injury.
Whenever a negative emotion triggered by trauma takes over my body, I stop and i talk to it" I hear you, i aknowledge you but i don't need you today. You are from the past and it is ok to leave.We are safe now". I then sit and feel where it is in my body, breath, and feel it leaving my body. I am no longer trying to carriy it around.
Wow. This is beautiful Thank you. This was so ppwerful had to screenshot your comment and save it to my journaling app. I believe this will help me get back on track I have been spiraling put of control for a while. THANKS ❤
A psychiatrist who doesn't push drugs and is relatable. I admire him and I loved this podcast. Dr. Anderson, thank you for your dedication to help those with trauma. I have the utmost respect for you.
AND he doesn’t suggest no-contact as a healing option. Supposedly 20% of youth today are going no-contact; it’s insidious that so much of the mental health industry is promoting the break up of families.
@roseofsharon7551 you simply cannot heal trauma if youre in it. Some people see no wrong in their ways, and will never change, accept you, or even try to learn about you. Some people are incapable. No therapist has suggested to me to go no contact with my mom. That was a choice I made for myself.
@@suziebee4240I’m not opposed to you distancing yourself as part of your own healing. I would like to offer that our healing is not about the other changing or even understanding. It’s about acceptance and standing in your truth and honoring and respecting yourself enough to do that. We set boundaries because we don’t have to tolerate toxic behavior. I have difficult relationships with my mother that has affected every aspect of my life. Mother wound healing is helping dive deep into all of it.
Love the AND teaching moment ❤ I needed to hear that as I'm finally at a place & understanding to do this! As an Empath, it takes so much energy & time to get here. You two are perfectly placed and timed for so many of us, thank you so very much!! The healing and holding...boundaries.. perfect!! It's okay to do for you & NEEDED ... Craniosacral Therapy is helping where my disconnect is so I can heal 🫂
Generally speaking people who face their life trauma will get better. Those who don't choose to go on a personal quest will become bitter. Choosing to become better rather than bitter has served me well. And I'm still working on getting better.
Still working on this journey called life... i hit rock bottom 3 years ago and have had therapy since...so many feelings I kept inside, no boundaries, door mat,abuse, yelled at my kids, alcoholic parent , alcoholic myself...etc. Boy , have I come a long way since then. Learned alot of great things about myself.
You CAN do this, Allison. There will be low and hard times along the therapy route, but everything will be worth it. I grew up with an alcoholic father and know the deep pain that it causes. By healing your addiction, you are giving an extraordinary gift to yourself and your future… and, in turn, your children. Keep going! I’m sending love to you, 🕊️ x
"Awareness does nothing for healing when it comes to trauma because it's still in you and comes out of you." Now i don't feel like a failure when I get blindsided & overreact. Now I believe healing is actually possible. Thank you for giving me that hope -- it's been 62 years in coming.
I’m love you and you’re energy! You need to take a step forward for someone else or yourself maybe. You’re on the next level brother(or sister). Pay it forward.
I have CPTSD. I’ve done everything possible to get rid of the trauma. Then I turned 50 and I got traumatized! I couldn’t bounce out of it! I decided that I had to get away from the toxic person in my life. I took a self sabotaging path but it worked. I got better than divorced. Now I’m working out again & I’m dreaming of my next journey on a continuous basis!
As a random lady, I'm so proud of these two men. They are putting in the work to heal themselves. Thank you for all you are doing to help others on this path. Hugs to you both!
Sometimes it’s not just protective. It’s necessary to distance yourself from family members for sure. When you’ve tried everything but the pain they keep inflicting on you doesn’t stop you have to have a healthy boundary. You do not have to stay in those situation’s and there’s nothing wrong with you when you need to do that.
Wow that’s amazing. I never knew that term before but considering the last two (psychologically/physically abusive) relationships I left, dots are starting to connect 🤦♂️
@@SethNobrega I’m saying that pleasing others is really a protection of self because at its core we don’t please others simply to make them happy. We sometimes please others to make them happy so they will be happy with us and think highly of us and like us. Can someone please someone else simply from a pure heart to make them happy because they love them and care for them, yes. But people who are chronic people pleasers often do it to protect themselves from the pain of not being liked or they want to be seen as this amazing good person. I speak from experience as a recovering people pleaser🥰😊
@@godzillamanstreb524pleasing someone to prevent abuse is called survival. I actually don’t call that people pleasing. It’s survival until you can get away🙏🏼❤️
Awesome information. At 71, am still trying to breakfree of residual trauma conditioning. This is so valuable & I so appreciate both of you for sharing this with us all!❤❤❤
As parents we give our kids what we thought we needed to be happy and because we haven’t healed we feel resentment, overwhelmed, impatient, etc when they don’t behave as we want. The only way to teach a child to be emotionally healthy is to model it. Empower them and their self worth. You can only do that if you yourself are empowered and know and feel your worthiness.
I'm with Dr. Ramani. My forgiveness must be earned. It is not a door prize for the undeserving. Love myself when they didn't, yes i do. Those who deliberately made my life awful deserve and get nothing from me.
@frankanderson8507 Very true. My malignantly narcissistic mother abused me badly, but I am in the process of forgiving her. Not for what she did to me, but for the fact that she was a damaged person who had no idea what she was doing to me. I haven't fully forgiven her, but things are shifting, and I feel so much better about myself already. I'm doing it to empower myself.
@@northofyou33 My parents are both deceased. I'm working on pretending they were enlightened when they passed to the other wide and want to reach out to forgive me. It's up to me to accept their apology so I can forgive them.
This is an episode that everyone should see, if not for themselves then for those they love! There is plenty for everyone to take away from this episode! I will rewatch this one again and again. You provide so much healing for those that follow you and I for one am greatful. Bless you Lewis and Frank!
I agree with Frank about releasing trauma makes us look younger. Stress energy and trauma energy age humans. And makes us sick. There is no illness in healed humans. Only love and complete health. And youth. 🙌🏼❤️
Maybe that's why I feel like I look so much older than I think I should! ESPECIALLY after I ALWAYS looked younger than I was; people always commented that I looked as much as 5 to 10 years younger up into my late 30's. But that was before being married to 2 abusive husbands, the first of which abused my 3 sons too, which I had an 11 year battle trying to get it to end, before I was able to finally get the support I needed to get away. I'm now 69, and on the inside my spirit feels like I'm still about 38 WHEN I'M NOT DEPRESSED, but on the outside, I FEEL like I've aged 20 years more than I should have! 😩
wow. The part where he talks about not getting “ jump startled” anymore because he released it- the same goes for the negative self talk! It’s like when you practice self love, the negative thoughts don’t have as much access anymore. They just don’t over power anymore!
The problem with this is with complex trauma and dealing with narcissistic abuse is that loving them doesn’t work. It’s the opposite of helpful. Love isn’t the answer with them. Yes you can love yourself but loving them only In turn hurts you more in the long run.
With narcissists, the idea is to love them from far away. You need to detach from them since hating them uses too much emotional energy. Detach, then look at them from a new perspective of universal love , without expecting anything from them.
My advice is love them from a far for your healing and let your inner child hate them with you... I hope this makes sense. It is the hardest healing because as Dr Ramni said, or maybe it was Lisa A Romano, that we are hard wired to love them and a part of us always will so I think it's best to surrender to the love of their sad story and the pain that caused them do what they do while honoring the anger and hatred in a sacred space that has nothing to do with your interaction with them.. good luck it's not easy to find the love but when you do it is so freeing and that doesn't mean you ever need to set eyes om them again. Good luck and much love to you❣️❣️❣️
@frankanderson8507 yes but going No Contact is sometimes the only way. Ive tried to have a relationship with my 90 yr old mom. (Wrote her.5 non accusatory letters) She.still doesnt get me or why I feel the way I do. I chose to be at peace by finally deciding to stay away permanrently. I do feel empathy fir her. Not sure about forgiveness, but I feel much lighter and freer.
Yes. I found that i have trauma that i kept trying to tell people about. Nobody understood so i would just shut down and panic more. But i started recording myself telling the story and ranting, and i would go back and give myself advice, because now that the emotions are out, i can tap into the inner wisdom and actually work on fixing
FINALLY SOMEONE speak about IFS internal family systems. Thank you 🙏🏼 is the absolute best therapy for trauma. Not only because is so extremely effective but because the therapist’s goal is to teach how to do it to yourself and let you go. Brilliant work discovered by Dr. Richard Schwartz
Since our brains have multiple personalities and thats why its same effective as literally giving therapy to a whole family. I think if we simply pay attention to the nervous and limbic system and its different states, we already refer to the "child" behavior while in survival for example. Gabor Mate talks since years about IFS and generational traumas. Mister bessel didnt even know what ifs was, said gabor shocked in a interview i watched lately. Yup yup there is still work to be done so the more awareness we cab spread to the world, the better 🌱😊
Exactly, when a parent realizes that their triggered trauma self wounded their children, it feels like a moral injury. The shame needs to be healed also. I am also a Repairer. Wholeness is when we have re-integrated and self parented all the parts of ourselves. Ty for such an insightful interview! :)
When Dr. ANDERSON said to his mom, "I have been living my whole life for you, and now I am choosing me!" That took reflection and courage! I have the reflection, now I need the courage!!!
Dr. Frank insights on releasing negative energy from trauma are truly transformative. 💫 Understanding the role of shame and embracing the journey of healing can empower us to live more fulfilling and authentic lives.
Tears of joy, ah ha moments, OMG's, ... I have been healing from Trauma (C-PTSD) and this is the most illuminating interview on the subject. It's incredibly powerful and I'll listen again and again. I know I found "my tribe" in people with trauma. Huge respect and admiration to all of us here. Lewis and Frank - you are both doing incredibly important work. Love and appreciation to you both and all the viewers.
Yes! Great podcast. Especially grateful for the section on trauma dumping. When we release our trauma in a healthy way, it's healing, when we share it to get sympathy or validation, it seems to get bigger.
Repairing starts with forgiveness and understanding. Forgive what was done. Seeing how it effects your life. The hardest is to understand when it pops up.We learn what to do till we are in that trigger . If we fall back. We have to forgive ourselves for not being perfect and tap ourselves on the back when we do overcome a trigger or a emotional response. We have to take into consideration that others we deal with might be masking their trauma as well. So you might trigger them. I get the wounded walk away or ghosting. When things are difficult to address we run. We all have that fight or flight response . It's freeing when we face it .Thank you for this video. Lots of trauma in my life. It bothers me when others say your using it when your trauma when your not ! This is only because you told them and they are using it to beat you with or put you down. It ticks me off. It's hard to confront when the people are no longer in your life. My father beat the hell out of my Mom and even tried to kill her. My easy memories are sleeping in the basement hiding behind boards with my Mom as he came in drunk and dragged her upstairs by her hair beating her ! He was a product of his childhood. My Mom was a product of her childhood. Both were broken and created broken next generations. It stops as you see how in your life that trauma effects you . I learn that it's like a dopamine hit to emotionally go back to that same negative patterns. I see when I do it but it's a best that I created. Healing In my thoughts starts with you. My fight or flight is what I have to identify more. That need to run or react to negative things. To not get into your own head or follow patterns that lead you to tgat sane kind of abusive situations. People are good to talk to but do not live your experience. They can offer a shoulder only. Drugs are a bandaid. All drugs keep in mind came from nature. Now keep in mind that most qho went off were on strong drugs and therapy. Like I said it's a consistent effort for those who are in a deep mental breakdown. The problem in this Society is we give drug's like pez dispensers. To people who don't need it and end up addicted or doing more drugs ! Do not address the root. That is a desire and finding the tools to heal. Natural cures for depression. Medical treatment for complete breakdown only. With follow up. A majority of us are in imbalances because of our diet and lifestyle as well. Once again thanks for this video .
Thank you, Dr. Frank Anderson. I finally understand the root issue. I chose my mother's decisions over my own choices and dreams. When I was in junior high, I wanted to be a nurse, but she objected. I'm over 50 now, and I still regret the big mistake of sacrificing myself to please her.
I had been silently screaming inside for about 50 years...then nervous breakdown #1 occurred. Healing began then, as well. Decades later, and I am still learning how to get past childhood psychological trauma. The sorrow I bear for a lost life is indescribable, yet receding as current efforts reshape a once destroyed sense of self.
This one REALLY hit home! Dr. Anderson is such a gift. Lewis you are one special person with a HUGE heart. Thank you for bringing hope and healing to this world. ❤❤❤
Wow! This was so powerful! I have been working on trauma recovery for years but this really hit home. I would love a follow up with Frank Anderson on how to help out kids early so we can help release any trauma already caused and how to prevent further small t traumas with our kids. ❤
I loved this interview. I have not heard another guest refer/defer to other experts as much, it was so refreshing!! I also loved all the experts he was referring to..Brene Brown, Dr. Shefali..Dr. Becky..Dr. Dick S.... etc....
After healing a big part of me, and Dr Ramani was there at the start of that journey, it became apparent after that she has healing to do. I love and appreciate her and her work to help people but there’s beliefs she carries that are not in alignment to her core which is unconditional love. It’s the core of everyone’s being.
It’s also why I disagree with Dr Ramani on empathy being the most important factor in our kids. They aren’t lacking empathy, and that’s not what creates narcissists…they’re lacking self love, a sense of worthiness. I agree with Dr Anderson, shame is the most destructive. We shame constantly as a society. When I see someone in a negative emotional state, I just know they’re reaching for a better feeling. I can now make space for them and know that if I need boundaries then that is never their burden.
I'm about the age of Frank and similar in the drive for intellect etc. and I had several of these shames and I think that the neglect is the worst. Yet, after 20 plus years of therapy and every other health protocol known to man, its been totally worth it. Going from "I'm nothing" to mental health is the best feeling in the world. Please continue everyone and thank you Lewis for bringing these great helps to the fore.
I really appreciate people that have done the work within themselves to be able to dig out their true authentic self cause its only then that you can truly help others also dig themselves out of their trauma filled hard shell. Thank you both for what you'll do! 💙
The forgiveness and the love you experienced for your father after all - I would say was rather a spiritual experience. This is were experiences start to merge. Therefore, like you said that it is not important to develop love for that person who did something to us - but just let it go and set it free in peace for the physical Body Release. I always tell my clients (somatic work): Nobody is allowed to make you sick. No outside should influence your Way of Being and Feeling. Which brings us to live more honest as also discussed here. BRAVO and THANK YOU ! I will share with many people!
By understanding his parents’ person’s life, he begins to understand why things happened and what he experienced. And from there he can act in a loving way. I did that with my dad. I did not know the horrific trauma he experienced as a 8 yo and teenager for so long. I forgave him and let him know that I love him no matter what. I could see the release in his eyes.
Thank you so much for asking if it's okay not to forgive and then breaking down that forgiveness is not about condoning the behavior. I've been stuck on thinking forgiveness is saying what they did was okay and kept me from being able to forgive. This helped me so much.
The chemistry and attunement between the two of you is off the charts!!! How you just "felt" each other was priceless. Such an amazing interview. Frank is one of my IFS heroes!
On the last day I want to spend it with a person who really loved me,appreciated me and will make that day one of the best in my life,that way I would die happy knowing that person deserved to be with me on that day.
❤❤❤ YES! When we can release the trauma stored in our body, not only can we enjoy life more, but we can show up as a compassionate leader and create an entirely new version of reality. Thank you Dr. Frank and Lewis for inspiring so many people through your dedication to increasing awareness and having conversations like these!
I was once told that "Forgiveness is setting a prisoner free. And then realizing the prisoner, was you". Carrying that anger or hurt or negative emotion does not hurt them or affect them. But it hurts you. It affects you. That has always stuck with me.
@@michellemonet4358 Agreed. Anger is a stage of grief. But holding on to that anger, carrying it around with you, where, when you talk about the memories, you are right back in that moment, just as angry as when it first happened, that is not grief. That is trauma. And the only one being hurt by it over and over again, is you.
They mentioned antidepressants & I 100% agree. When i started taking antidepressants, anti anxiety medication the light outdoors was actually brighter & i felt lighter. I stayed on for a few months & then decided to discontinue & through that i felt like i was able to learn for the first time in my life what happiness felt like & now i am able to tap into that feeling daily & i haven’t relapsed into chronic depression or chronic anxiety since. I hope this helps someone! ❤️ When i started i was devastated thinking i would have to be on the medication forever & for me, that was not the case & i believe that could be the same for many others.
Òmg this man is incredible. From a people pleaser because of a very dramatic childhood.i have spent all my life until the past 4 years,I only stopped because of more trauma of being bullied the past 9 years, I am angry at myself worrying about the very people that have bullied me..their loss they would have had if I had told on what they did/ doing. Now I am being kind to myself,don't be angry,it's the last part of the people pleaser experience, Now the voice inside says your being silly,snap out of it...let it go. Lewis you are a lovely gentle,kind beautiful man,I am so very sorry for all your hurt...you had to live thru, You are helping so many people with what you are doing,with the guests you have, You are loved..
Thank you so much for your venerability and honesty. This is such enlightening conversation! This gives me hope for the world because you two are holding this frequency. Heal yourself heal the world. And I love how these two men are expressing their feminine and masculine energy in balance. Love it so much.
I love my enemies but i no longer give them access to impact my life. Im doing great over here and when they see me, I hope they know true love and see an unstoppable woman! I don't need to harm anyone else to succeed or feel better about myself.
After many, many traumatic experiences starting at 8 years old- I am now 43- I now understand and acknowledge that while, yes, some of these experiences I was victimized, but I am not a victim. In fact, I am resilient and am a survivor. These traumatic experiences propelled me into the highest version of myself. I had to go through these things to find my true self and began to love myself for ALL that I am, all that I am not. I am exactly where I'm supposed to be. Even in my darkest moments. I THANK the universe for these things - it made me stronger, wiser, and not the victim. And I still do the work, the internal work. Self growth is never done.
I was a y care taker of my parents.My mom was prescription drug addict.My dad just worked all the time.Had to take care of my siblings.Unlike other people I no longer wanted to take care of people when I got older.
Thank you for your enlightening contribution. I felt I had to protect and defend my mother from my father throughout my childhood and on into adulthood. This could have had a significant influence on my choosing not to have children.
I’m sorry that you didn’t have the childhood that all little children deserve. It’s time to give to yourself now. Pour into yourself. Do what restores and replenishes YOU. It’s time, it’s time, it’s time. I hope that your future brings healing and peace, 🕊️ x
cried my way through to the end of this episode . 😔 thankh you so much for this conversation and creating the space, Lewis and thankh you to Frank for sharing his experience & wisdom . blessings . 🙏🏾💚
This was so me. I held resentment, hatred, anger against my dad for 20 years. Glad that I finally let go of hurt and bad memories caused by him. I love my dad so much and I forgive him.
OMG. I've still got a limerence object that is the compilation of my abusive narcissist parents. I know on every logical level that he's a creep; I haven't gone a day without obsessing over him for over a year. What I would give to feel that release! How truly wonderful.
I am on 30 mg of mirtazapine a day, and that does help with my anxiety and depression, but they also gave me 12 weeks of CBT and tried to teach me to treat myself. I have gotten a lot better at spotting when I am triggered, taking a step back from myself, and stopping myself from catastrophizing before I go into one of my thought spirals.
Thank you ❤ I always belived that all of us have love (the light) inside of us. No matter how many borders, or walls, we have- or the experiences made us- build arround. LOVE ❤
I raised my children the best way I knew how, (apparently it was lacking) so in their adult years they lbecame my bullies , I've had a massive heart attack and now I'm fighting for my sanity and peace, I'm moving on without them ... I think I've let them hurt me as much as I can handle ... no more Everyone has an opinion on what you should do about it, but they don't tell you how... so thank you for this ❤
I went to the bookstore today to buy this book and it’s not stocked yet but I requested to have one saved for me when it does come! I am looking forward to read and use it to recover from all the pain, trauma and suffering I’ve gone through in the 64 years I’ve lived this life so far 🙏
@@pupplylove3003 good point. I believe we store our trauma memory in our body. I think body and breath work far surpass talk therapy to deal and break patterns. Not Easy.
Ah, negative energy... it's something we all encounter from time to time. When it comes to dealing with negative energy, it's important to protect your own well-being. Surround yourself with positive influences, practice self-care, and focus on activities that bring you joy. Remember, you have the power to choose how you respond to negativity. Stay positive and let the good vibes flow! 😊✨
Thank you...this makes so much sense. Dealing with my adhd child especially when I eventually lose patience (after having a considerable amount), usually the thing I bring up is that I had the same issues and no one to help and was alone to deal with it. And that makes me feel guilty all the time. Thank you for the message and guidance!
What a lovely conversation on healing with Dr. Frank. His loving kindness and compassion shone through. Thank you Lewis and team for bringing him to your platform.
Thank you, from the bottom of my heart. This helps me understand trauma for my beautiful, smart 14 year old son and myself. We've experienced trauma, he talks to me- He figured out on his own at 13 that talking about it gives his body and mind a release! He is so wise!! I worry about him every day, but a lot less now. Thank you so much, genuinely. Blessings from Scotland. 🧡
I am dealing on daily basis with trauma that has happened to me in the past .Dr Anderson's gives me comfort when I listen to him and how he explains everything......🙏
Such a wonderful insightful video. When they mention the use of drugs to help, they should always be used as a crutch rather then a cure. There will always be pain through recovery, building strength through pain, knowing what hurts you, not taking that out on others? Creating knowledge on what harms you (boundaries). If try as you might to heal but the pain causes a shut down, take something until the brain can recover. But rehabilitation is necessary to truly heal. You were injured, maybe by therapy you could heal, maybe you needed a crutch until you healed. But true healing comes from knowing how the injury occurred , repairing the damage and preventing it from happening again.
This is amazing! I had so many aha moments! I just wanted to add as people may find this interesting, I suffered abuse my whole childhood but managed to push it away to the furthest part of me & bolt the door shut. Then in my adulthood after my father died, I married & had kids then slowly things started to arise. I was very confused because I had the symptoms of feeling unworthy & not good enough, but didn’t know why. After my first child was born my father came to me in a dream, he was crying I realized that this wasn’t just a dream, it was a message he had planted the first seed to my recovery. & this was the beginning.
I love the “And” story bc I have that situation in my own family. Thank you for this communication platform and the in-depth valuable information that was shared with the audience. I think the forgiveness is part of the healing. It is always for your benefit. The “us” & “them” is all about separation. But I believe separation is necessary when the abuser does not stop the abuse. I still forgive that person & see the light & darkness that is in all of us but I also chose to protect myself & that is a way I show self-love to myself.
Excellent talk!! I am so grateful that finally a credible Truma doctor explains everything in layman and easy to understand terms!!!! He is so real & down to earth!!💖 Love this talk!!!! You give me hope!!!🙏💖
Well done!!! This was one of the best videos I' seen on social media. It's caused me to reflect on myself as a child whois now a parent. 🤔 "To Be Loved." who does not want or need that? Thanks to both of you for this insightful, deep, and open conversation. 😊🙏
A huge YES to this. I love Frank Anderson’s work and this interview is truly a must. Thank you Lewis for bringing him on. I am a big believer in the IFS model and have myself experienced a whole lot of healing, transformation and release from it. Those four Ts Anderson walks us through are tremendously helpful and practical. I love it.
Kids totally know correct behavior. At 10yrs, I remember a trip to Europe with my mom, watching her not being nice to the “help”. My daughter at 10yrs said to me, “I don’t like the way your mom speaks to you.” Ugh!
This is awesome! After living in trauma/cptsd for 60 years IFS is the key to finally healing for my internal system. Now I’m sharing it w my family and friends to spread the healing for all