Psychologists, What Caught You off Guard? 

I miss my therapist. The first time I met him, I thought he wasn't going to be able to help me as he was in his 60's while I was in my late 20's. But after that first appointment, I saw him as a grandfather type figure. He passed away a few years ago and the way I found out was a punch in the face. The staff asked if I went to Dave's, and I said no and wished I could because he retired a few months prior. They informed me they meant his funeral, not to his place. I about bawled and was speechless. RIP Dave. I miss you and just want you to know I'm doing a lot better. I've got a new baby girl due in April and my wife and I are coming up on twenty years together; eleven of those are married. My other daughter loved coming to my appointments with me and I hope you're looking down at me and are proud of what I've done since you've gone home.

The one and only time I went to see a therapist is when I was struggling with intense grief after losing my dog during my last year in college. She had been my support all throughout grade school and would calm me down when I needed it. But now she was gone and I was struggling to find new ways to cope with things in addition to missing her so much it physically hurt. I knew I was in a downward spiral and wanted help because the grief and lack of a coping mechanism was leading me to have suicidal thoughts almost every day. So, I went to see the school therapist. I explained to her that I was there because I am grieving the loss of my dog, but she hardly asked me about that at all. All she did was ask me about my family. When I told her I don't speak to my brother that much, she became hyper focused on that. I tried to tell her that I have literally zero negative feeling surrounding my brother, but she didn't listen and still kept asking me questions about him. I was annoyed and felt like we were not talking about any of the reasons why I had come to see her. I never went back.

Some of the most seemingly upbeat people are the ones who are dying inside. The smile and jokes are a coping mechanism. Just like how everyone grieves differently. It throws everyone off which is exactly what is wanted. Robin Williams for example. He was probably the best one of us all

My mom went to multiple therapists when she was a young adult because she had extreme trauma and PTSD, a lot of them turned her away because they genuinely couldn’t help her. Her last one she ever tried told her he would continue to see her for free just because he’s never experienced a patient with so much trauma and was super interested in hearing more about her issues so he could basically form a study 😭 she’s never been to therapy since which is so sad imo bc she truly needs it for her own mental peace.

My school counseller told me that if i didn't want to be bullied I shouldn't be so twichy, that I'm just asking to be bullied by acting like that........ I'm sorry, WHAT? This was like 2 days after my father kicked the shit outta me and I was on edge and flinching at every movement anyone made. Then I had a different school counseller who told me I was going to hell because I'm agnostic. Yeah an all girls Catholic school wasn't the best idea.

My therapist validated that I don’t need a group home, that I am capable at being a functional human, I just don’t do it the way everyone else does. For years I had been told that I couldn’t live on my own if I tried, that I’d need a group home, all because I didn’t meet the standards of my parents in terms of cleanliness or how quickly I clean up after myself. But for once, a therapist saw that I am capable, my depression just makes it hard to do the things required of me. We worked on ways for me to get around my depression in order to be functional and while I’m not 100% there yet, I can safely say I’m getting there at a decent pace.

I have no more fs to give, I went to go fs shopping and there's no more fs left to buy.

2:53 So true about forgiveness, I used to believe that garbage about forgiving people who have no remorse for what they did to me in order to move on and not be angry anymore but it just felt more like acceptance of abuse. Its not my responsibility to see things from my abusers' perspective, have pity for anything they went through or give them a pass for anything. It was their responsibility to not abuse me. Full Stop.

I went to school with a therapist’s kids. Mom took me to my first appointment, the next day her kids were mocking me for needing to see a therapist. And , it lasted the rest of the year

As a teenager I made my therapist cry one time. I had been in therapy for depression there every week for over a year at that point and she genuinely cared for me, but I kept getting worse. That one day I was talking about how I was so tired of being so sad all the time for no reason and that I want to stay alive so badly but would rather die than keep living like this for the rest of my life and she suddenly started to cry because she felt so sorry for me.

Psychiatrist I saw from age 18-20, total quack!!! At our first session, he asked me if I had ever done drugs (At the time, I had depression and bi-polar. Unfortunately I have more now 😕) and I answered no. He then told me that I was lying and I had to have done drugs due to my mental illnesses. Now I have a decent Psychiatrist who doesn't accuse me of drugs and actually listens!

Don't know the exact details but my dad used to have a counselor that quit because "my dad's life gave him nightmares"

That last therapist is the MVP. Proud if her for helping someone even if she might lose her job ❤❤❤

8:25 i teared up. i woked at a pre school for a year and it is heart breaking the amount of 3, 4 and 5 year old who hate themselves. that I chose to do a psych major at uni to help them

Saw my therapist one time and we kinda switched roles. He was a young parent and I have grand kids. One of his kids was having trouble in school and he was not sure how to handle it or if he was handling it correctly. I informed him to do what he thought was right and just just kinds roll with it. He thanked for my in-site and felt better at the end of my session. It was worth it.

So basically, when they ask psychologists a question, everybody except actual psychologists answer?

Yugioh counselor story: That's a good way to establish rapport. I've actually done that as a tutor in order to cool down rebellious kids.

A bit unrelated, but that one at 17:15 really gets me. I had a urologist say this to me when I was 21, after going through lithotripsy to fragment two kidney stones that had grown to the size of quarters. He couldn't really answer where the kidney stones had come from, chalking it up to me drinking too much soda. Before the sugery, I couldn't walk, I couldn't sleep. After the surgery, I couldn't pass the stone fragments on my own, and it was all I could do to chug water to help lessen the pain. He said those exact words: "You'll probably have to deal with pain like this for the rest of your life." Well, as it turns out, it wasn't soda, and the life-altering pain had probably been avoidable. The kidney stones were caused by scar tissue in my ureter that blocked my kidney from draining. I had been born with a faulty ureter on that side, and that urologist hadn't even thought to check if the problem originated there. Ten years later, I'm experiencing kidney-stone-like pain again. My new doctor x-rayed the kidney; very few stones, but my left kidney was twice the size of my right one, swelled with fluid that couldn't pass. After surgery in November (pyeloplasty), my new urologist said: "Yeah, you probably won't have to worry about kidney stones anymore. At least until you need to repair your ureter again when you turn 65 or so." A year or two more, I might have been experienced kidney failure instead, all because my first urologist ten years prior sapped my hope away and didn't ask the right questions. In my honest opinion, if a doctor (therapist or otherwise) ever tells you: "get used to dealing with this for the rest of your life," it's time to get a new doctor.

Thirty five years back, concussion was ignored as other, more obvious injuries were treated. That cost my marriage, my children, my family, property, and ten million dollars. Only slight concussion. Split my motorbike helmet in two. Front to back as a Ladybug wings.

I was a patient and was abused mentally by my ex. I spent two hours spilling out everything I was feeling and my hurt to my therapist just for her to tell me that it was my fault, because I’m a man and I shouldn’t have been setting my ex up to abuse me the way she did. After few years I seeked out help to someone else In which I was diagnosed with ptsd and with help from my new therapist was able to manage it. If you feel worse after therapy then maybe you should seek someone else.

I am absolutely horrified by the amount of crappy therapists. I am so so sorry for any of you having to go through that. My therapist was an angel. I've been considered by a lot of people very helpful when it comes to mental health advice. If anyone needs to talk about anything please reply.

14:06 Thing is, I’ve had a pacemaker since I was a child. They put children’s pacemakers in their abdomen. When they finally started putting it in chest, they couldn’t remove the wires to my abdomen because those were directly connected to my heart. So I actually do have useless wires inside me and they poke me sometimes.

I have been in therapy since I was 7 years old. I am 23 now and my worst experience was at 17, my mom (half of the reason I needed therapy) spoke one on one with a potential new therapist before I even met her. This woman told my mother to drive me to a homeless shelter and not speak to me again until I inevitably came crawling back. My mother genuinely considered doing this. Around this same time, I started seeing a new psychiatrist. She suggested that I get electroshock therapy because my depression was very treatment-resistant. For those who dont know, EST (electroshock therapy) induces seizures in the patient in order to potentially reset their brain in a way. She wanted me at 16/17 years old to have multiple induced seizures because she didn’t want to keep switching my meds.

My dad got our entire family to go to family therapy once. The therapist was a man, pretty much ignored me and my mom, instead choosing to focus on my brother and my dad. I don’t know if it was sexism or anything, but I got an off vibe from him. Well, he finally decided to ask me some questions, and I was going over some of the things I was dealing with and what I felt was my role in the family. I was about a minute in, hardly even scraping the surface and didn’t even insert my feelings as I was summing things up, and he straight up told me “You don’t understand your emotions.” Uhh… and apparently you do? We haven’t even known each other for more than two hours. 🤨

i told one therapists about my depression that has been going for years and suicidal thoughts and after a couple of sessions he literal told me "you behave like a child for complaining so much". it took me 2 years to go to another therapist again... altho none could help me, at least they didnt insult me

My workplace recently attempted to hire a senior psych student as a housekeeper (she applied for the job, it’s just a summer gig). She lasted for two weeks and couldn’t handle dealing with elderly who were just demanding or ones with dementia. She broke down, came in crying, and quit. I don’t think she has a promising career - she’s going to deal with these kinds of people in her line of work at some point.

Therapists are hit or miss. Not all of them are actually good. Some of them are actually very bad and dismissive.

People still haven't realized that therapists are just glorified bartenders you pay to listen to you. _"You're doing all the work."_

Therapists, Psych Dr's, etcetera are kinda like cops. There are a lot that do just do their job, but those bad ones are BAAADDDD!!!

God the Mental Health Professionals that I have met, and dealt with as a Vet. Both when I was in service and out.

After quite a few sessions of therapy for PTSD, I mentioned to the counselor that he had no advice or feedback that would help me. He told me that he was trying to figure out how I handled it so he could help other people. I was paying him to steal intellectual property from me under the guise of helping me. I am sure some people find therapy helpful, but I believe most people do not and that most success stories were cured by time alone. This is not to say it is terrible for everybody.

I think instead of a therapist what a lot of people need is someone who admires who they are and respects them. People want to feel valid after feeling like no one sees who they are and no one cares for so long. If someone like a therapist actually just listens and gives their honest positive opinions about who the person is it can be life changing

I had 1 psychiatrist that told me that I obviously wasn't trying to kill myself because my scars don't look that bad.... it was my first appearance with him, and my last. I walked the fuck out....

I was talking to my school counselor about my friend who committed suicide. She wasn't paying attention and I said something about being with him again. Not like in a dying kind of way like a past memory kinda way. She said "I'd rather you don't do that. We don't need another suicide"

The only therapist I've been to was a religious therapist. That's was in my teens while I was struggling with my sexuality. He only made things worse. Haven't been to another shrink since. Is there a therapist that specializes in PTSD related to therapy? 😅

I told my therapist that I thought I was depressed and she laughed and said I wasn’t. I was hospitalized after an attempt that same year and was diagnosed with Major Depressive Disorder

Instead of talking about coping mechanisms for my NVLD (non verbal learning disorder) my psychotherapist and I just discuss Hayao Miyazaki films and Avatar fan theories and it's great. Plus he's always recommending different restaurants for me to try (Red Lobster, Nothing Bundt Cakes, etc.)

My last therapist told me that my asexuality is not real and that everyone have too be sexual because human survival and stuff. He also told me that he would not diagnosed me with an anxiety disorder because if he did I would get help for school (university so more time for exams, etc.) And if I got that type of help it would be like if I let the illness win. I was 23 and have been having panic attack since I was about 3 ...so...yeah

Me: my parents would often be mad at us for not cleaning their dishes up. *About to go into further detail* Bih therapist interrupting me: do why you don't just clean? You live there. You could just move out or deal with their rules. She stunned me silent and I just left. That was back 2009. On speaking to a new therapist, same clinic I told her about that and she got pissed and demanded to know who was responsible back then. What I wanted to say was that my parents intentionally left dirty dishes around the house and if we missed any my father on particular would kick up a massive fuss, pounding down the doors at like 2 or 3am, calling us nasty b**tches for it.. it was a recurring issue at we had no where to go as they essentially trapped us living with them...

I've had some good but also awfully bad psychologists. One noticeable example was a psychologist I went to for a few months when I was sixteen. I went to him bc I needed a written assessment, which not all psychologists are specialized to give. During his sessions, he'd always look like he would fall asleep any given second. Most were filled with awkward silence, bc I didn't know what he wanted me to say. I ended up asking about his career, family life and asked around three times if he was actually qualified to give this damn assessment, to which I didn't get an answer to this very day. One day, I was a bit early. Now, it's important to know that I don't like making noise when I move, so I'm almost always silent and ppl don't notice me. Just as it happened that day. The door to the building was open and I went in, silently, and sat in the waiting room. Now I _could_ be mistaken about this, but I am pretty sure that the stuff I heard coming from the other room was not meant for juvenile ears, or anyone's ears for that matter. In other words, it sounded like he was watching porn. I sat there for about five minutes and didn't really know what to do, but I recorded the noise just in case I needed something against him at any given point. I decided that it would be suspicious if I just left, so I went out silently and came back in while opening the door with a bang. During the session I told him that this would be the last time he's seeing me and went out. He didn't ever send me the bills for that day, so I'm sure he knows what I heard. And if he likes his reputation and career, he'll better not send it _ever_ .

20:35 Sounds like a patient killed the shrink and assumed her identity 😂

If anything, this tells me I can trust a psychiatrist/psychologist to not go on reddit and spill my shit lol

When I was a mental health worker we got a client who had gotten a job selling nutritional supplements. He started taking them himself and was absolutely convinced that they had made him super strong. This was community mental health when we visited them in their homes, and he would drive the workers out to the high school football field to have brick throwing contest with them to show them how far he could throw the brick now that he’s been taking the supplements. I didn’t have the heart to tell him that he could probably throw the brick so far because he was throwing bricks all the time and just getting really good at it.

I once had a therapist tell me life is meaningless. His boss overheard and distracted him while they got me talking to someone else.

Wait don’t psychologists say that therapy is a safe place where you can pretty much say anything? So how are there inappropriate topics🤔

In middle school I played cribbage all the time at lunch with the school counselor, and another boy in my grade. We were both mega loners, and then the counselor encouraged us to play just the two of us, and even started a "games club" so kids could play board and card games. Lot of kids who wanted to avoid the bullies outside used it as a way to get away from them and play games with some other folks. Counselor was an amazing dude. That year of middle school was made so much better because of him

My first concussion I didn't have a choice but to go to work the next day (McDonald's). I started having auditory hallucinations without knowing it, so I thought everyone was being a dick. I was straight up like, y'all chill out. I had to take 5 too cool down, take my head set off, just to find out that I wasn't hearing others on there. It was auditory hallucinations. Told my manager I had to go back to the ER. Then I was forced to take a week off. I come back to being demoted and no one bothered to say anything. I stopped going above and beyond. I stopped loving my job (yes I truly loved working at McDonald's, no clue why). Then I got bullied by a manager for until I was fired. She abused her power. One night I had my suicide planned after being fed up with it. A regular talked me out of it, but I knew if I went home (lived with my family at the time) I would be tempted. I talked up the other manager and said that I've gotta go to the ER cuz I'm suicidal. Came for my next shift and was told I was fired. I had all the paperwork for the visit. Job after that was great until my GM started trying to forced me to be Christian. Cut my hours to less than half and could barley afford food. I had panic attacks every single day. I had migraines almost every day. I developed panic disorder. That, and my depression, anxiety, and fibromyalgia allowed me to get on disability, first try, no court, no lawyer, in only 7 months. My second concussion was in April 2020, when COVID was really bad, so I couldn't risk going to the ER. I thought the whole "don't go to bed right after getting a concussion" thing was an old wives tale. Nope. It wasn't as painful and swollen like my first one, but so many more things got mentally fucked up.

In therapy you have to treat the whole person not just the what's on the outside showing .

my mom used to work at a nursing home and there was an elderly woman that played the piano for mussolini

22:16 Are you sure she wasn't one of the patients pretending to be a therapist?

my psychiatrist told me I'm too smart to be mentally ill

@17:23 bro- you know what pisses me off about this story the most? The fact that I was in the psych ward on suicide watch (from having a breakdown after an interview for an apartment. (Trust me, I’ve had breakdowns for less. Needless to say, I’M SENSITIVE.) I wasn’t going to do anything to myself but it did scare my mom a bit. About a day into my stay,I have my first meeting with the psychiatrist (breaking news, he’s a c**t) and literally all I said to him was “I want to go home” next day, I was in the back of a police car being driven 2 more hours away from my town. Stayed there for the night was released the next afternoon with a random ass BPD diagnosis. 👁👄👁 yet all this mf had to say was “I don’t think I’ll kill myself” and the docs are like GOOD ENOUGH BYE

I had a psychiatrist that told me I would never be happy unless I'm on medication. I kept telling her I was still SH with the medication, that they weren't working and I wanted to get off them. She still gave me a prescription. I've also had a therapist who didn't believe in autism but believed in ghosts. She also once told me my past doesn't matter, just the present ...but like.. my past is why I was there 😭

My first therapist constantly guilt tripped me for my sensory issues. I started hiding things from everyone in my life. Fourth grade was the lowest point of life so far, and she did nothing but tell me to forgive my bullies, and to stop being gay. We did at home therapy, and one day my mom walked in on one of her rants. She went off on her, and my therapist continued by saying take your daughter to conversion therapy she’s sinning. Jokes on her I have the best mom who doesn’t give a care who I love. I never saw that therapist again, except for when she ran into me at the store and proceeded to verbals berate me before being dragged away by store employees. Can’t believe she was a therapist.

Two stories, I'd been seeing a therapist for years cuz my life sucked and i tended to lash out over it, that got misdiagnosed a few ways but it mostly boiled down to teachers not doing what they said they were doing and tolerating or even encouraging me being bullied. So in addition to this therapist the school psychologist also wanted to see me. we talked and she was the first one to figure out i wasnt actually half as bad as people said (a lot of my reputation was due to me standing up to teachers and calling them out for not doing their job, they didnt like that). So we just basically started hanging out every monday, talking about our weeks and trading baked goods. the one that floored her was when i asked what my actual diagnoses was, she checked my file and said asbergers. she thought a moment and said it didnt seem right though, so we looked up what qualifes u for asbergers. turns out of the seven indicators i had two that werent just easily explained away. Like one was just a big vocabulary, my favorite pasttime was reading and i was finishing books daily, of course i had a big vocabulary. So we were both floored to figure out i didnt actually have a diagnosis despite being labeled with one my whole life. The second was when i told my therapist about the psychologist, she asked what we talked about and i said we discussed baking. she could not stop laughing, said that was not what she expected and we found it funny.

In 8th grade, my therapist at the time recommended I watch Monty Python. She even went out to my mom and basically said "doctors orders, get this kid some Monty Python" 😂

17:45 while I am not a psychologist, I am in the medical field. While it may seem strange, the easiest way to find out if a person is suicidal is to ask them straight up " are you going to kill yourself?". Don't beat around the bush, don't imply anything, just ask straight up.

These threads makes me realise something now about my current situation, omg I had my own shocking realisation because of others revelation 🤣

My therapist called me a bitch once (I don’t have a good memory so I think she said something like “were you acting like a bitch”) I was 12 and it surprised me so much that wasn’t even the only thing she did

BRUH... WELBUTRIN IS THE ONLY MED THAT HAS WORKED FOR ME AND I JUST GOT AN ADD DIAGNOSIS? WHY WASN'T I TOLD THIS LINKKKKKKKKK 😭😭😭

I was fortunate to have parents that notice and care, and who have professions that would make them more attentive to this kind of thing (teacher and nurse) My mom knew something was up with me at 3 Insisted I get tested for autism (I got diagnosed with adhd instead) She kept fighting for me until I got tested and diagnosed with mild autism at 8

My last attempt at therapy failed because the therapist kept comparing me to her daughter. I was getting nothing from it, just frustration.

why forgovinnn soo damnn touchy frrrcthoo man.!!!.!..

Approximately at 3:12, the point about forgiveness is excellent, as is the difference between "forgiving" and "moving on." Sometimes you cannot forgive and it is NOT better for you to keep trying to force yourself to do so.

I was unemployed 2 years after I got my master’s degree (this was around 2010) so I was understandably down (and I was in a toxic relationship) so I went to see a therapist… she was your typical “vecina chusma” (nosy neighbor) that 100% went into her profession for the chisme. (I’m Latin American and grew up in Miami so no shade is being thrown, the following is a description not a criticism 😂) she was every exaggerated stereotype of older Cuban women 😂 she did not give a single f*** about my issues 😂 she just wanted to gasp and grab her cheeks (like this emoji 😱) in the most dramatic fashion I’ve ever seen 😂😂😂 she just wanted more details about my ex and his messed up life, so if I derailed and went back to how it made me feel she’d redirect the conversation back to him… woman was insane 😂😂😂 I mean she was nice and actually really funny (and over the top) but not very helpful 😂

1:06 I fucking lost it!!! 😂🤣🤣

I was in an accident and while in the hospital with a concussion and busted ankle I hired a lawyer, called a bunch of people, was talking about weird things. I don’t remember any of it. They took my phone away.

The trick with therapy is finding one that suits you. There are some shocking ones out there. I had a really good one who was a social worker who helped me through my initial diagnosis of PTSD, Severe Anxiety and Depression. I had worked through a lot to the point I was able to return back to full time work. Then an incident happened at work that tipped all that work back on it's head and I went to go back to the therapy and she just told me to go back to work. I couldn't sleep, couldn't get out of bed and the suicidal ideation was something i had not had this severe.... So I found a great new therapist that just said, it's OK to take the time to heal. She has helped me a lot. If your not happy with one, try another until you are.

1:52 My mom all the way

It is crazy when the brain isn't working correctly. It is like a computer glitching out. People walk around, brush their teeth, make dinner or talk. Or at least that is what they think they are doing. How would they know? Their brain isn't working. They think they are having a dialog, talking about different topics, maybe the weather, and in reality they just stand there repeating one single word over and over again.

When I was 12 a had a therapist who would visit me after school. I have adhd which has made it very difficult to focus on and complete school work. I told her about how school work was very stressful for me because of the amounts and not having enough time. You know what she did? She sent me home with a packet of “homework” I’d have to do on top of my schoolwork. Even with a dumb experience like that, I don’t think it’s worth giving up therapy. There are better therapist out there and different therapy methods for different conditions

Stories like this are why i refuse to ever see a therapist. Maybe I'm seeing the forest for the trees. But guess what. I don't care.

I honestly thought "f_ck budget: was gonna go in a whole other direction.

Trainjumping is illegal for good reason. It's a huge liability and safety risk.

8:41 Sometimes the truth needs to be said. Sometimes the truth hurts 🤷🏼‍♂️

Dang This was a Good video!

"If your mum said that she didn't want to live anymore and wanted to kill yourself" "I'd join her,I course we'd have to try and find places for our pets to live and if we couldn't do that,put them to sleep so they'll be with us wherever we go". My care coordinator asked the first question,my response shut her up.

HIPAA violations but reddit

I didn't expect to tear up. Given the title, I should have.

This shit boutta be good😂😂😂😂....nvm it was a bit traumatic

here is the thing. most bad decision are not from traumas. you just made a bad decision coz yout prioritize fun and some are just terrible person.

I use Wellbutrin wtf Is ADD?

God Bless the woman who the doctor thought had a miscarriage. I'm so happy that it turned out to be false! 🙏🏻

the ADD story is the most ADD thing i have ever heard..lmfao hhhhhhhhhh (i have ADD)

still thoo thooo stilll nicee when still hott itt gott got gott stilllllll

So i guess everyone in the video thinks they are psychologists…dude didnt ask for your experiences with psychologists🤦🏽‍♂️

Stop with robot voice! 5 seconds in, I noped out.

I've started working on my fucks budget.

12:36 the_therapissed

0:52 rotfl

Was at a hospital for another medical issue and they go you need to see our shrink I go alright. Walk in talk to the guy and he goes so you don't talk to anyone about your issues and this is the first time you've discussed this with anyone I go yep I don't care for red flag laws etc he goes well most would consider you to be insane and paranoid and I go I know I'm paranoid life is chaotic he goes here's the thing you arent insane but rather sane to the point if you didn't internalize all of your issues you'd probably be healthy. I'm like huh ok

Is that Elon Musk AI or am I just hearing wrong?

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