Psychology of No Contact Rule on Dumper or Ex 

Truth

True

So true

Agreed.

Not always true. I kindly dislike that quote. I come to these channels to see how a coach speaks from the mind. And then see the comments. He mentioned the law of attraction and that is why I'm commenting on your post. We are ALWAYS using the law as it's nothing more than our thoughts. Good and bad! Everyone is you pushed out, so when we start having self-sabotaging thoughts we always ruin our relationships. And our partner mirrors the thoughts we feel and believe to be true. I ruined my own relationship that very way. Study Neville Goddard. Your life will change entirely.

Take your power back with no contact and never beg someone to take you back. You teach people how to treat you. If they come back begging forgiveness I might reconsider but they would have to jump through hoops to win my trust back

Yep, was fine before i let her distort my life

So true

I wonder if these videos apply to gay relationship. I never seen coaches for lgbt

@@ethanp952 I would think it would be the same.

That works.. or speak openly about what you'd like in a relationship, how you'd like to be treated. Ask them what is working and what is not and make decisions accordingly instead of playing hide and seek and trying to prove who's better or worse. Just my personal experience with no contact :)

@@brandonnykyforak this is true .. And u really have to just respect their wishes tbh weather they come back or not . Sad and u will miss them but had to be done

Thank you

I couldn’t of said this better myself

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@@andrewwilson9157 Stop trolling

I had someone told me he love me deeply then turned away from me in one split second! What is wrong with this?

@@jennyliew7179, i did the same thing to my girlfriend. I told her I loved her, wait a minute, I told her I am very much in love and left, I did it because I was not happy and we argued constantly about senseless things. After 3 weeks, we are in touch again, She said she still loves me, and told her I still loved her. But this time, I want to be transparent and be vocal about my feelings..

@@rondr3017 I am grateful for your replies Ron, I am now so depress over this broken relationship of mine from Facebook which I think it is a torture to me, after I opened up to him and expect a positive reply but was turned down & he blocked me! It is so painful and made me embarrassed! He called you to be with him and said he love me deeply and missed you the whole night but cast you out now like he don’t know me anymore after he watched me silently for 7 years but while watching he had many failed marriages ! I am thinking he is just looking for beautiful face and figures!

@@jennyliew7179 me and my ex just broke up after about 4 months.she was like my best friend though and someone I loved and would have never thought she would have just broke things off I mean she was passionate about us.I’ve been so depressed as well she is riding this ego rush tbh and I can see it but we still have texted and it’s been a month since we broke up.I’ve been suffering we haven’t texted since friday and I feel so hurt even when it’s just been 2 days I still have some faith but I don’t know what to do I feel so uncared for and tossed aside I hope we could talk things out and get back together and communicate more

I too feel the same

Damn that's deep

Love is awesome, had so many great memories, I don’t want to give those up

It’s feels like you lost a limb. A part of you that you thought you would always have.

Me too 😔

I needed to hear that. My ex boyfriend of 1+ year who once proposed to me to be his wife just made the decision to be with his ex girlfriend after her failed attempt at s****de. Had to make him say it in his own words and he said "I choose her". Currently still grieving since he broke up with me 13 hours ago, but I hope one day I can finally accept that he's not "the love of my life."

@@teru_9921 youll get better, I certainly am. I sometimes miss her, and still have some affection fot her, despite everything. But I learnt that she just isn't it.

So right about that....

Yes just game players.

What if I did choose them and they also chose them? How come because I dumped them to focus on myself finally I seem to be the bad guy :(

Feeling the same way lol

Me too bro....That would be the shit start a club of sorts 🥶

Amen to that brother.

NYC here, I’m down lol boy do I have stories to share

If you ever get to Hawaii look a brother up 🤙🏽

Don't worry my dear I know of someone who can help you the same way he helped me

Yes!!! It will make us reassess our value and give us back our dignity and control of our life! I am on day 12 of No Contact and now im finally feeling a bit better, more un control and less emotional. The first week was literally torture (specially during the holidays), it was excruciating, honestly it really did feel like torture for real...

@@genesis_888 me same , just day 5no contact, but it was suck all december, worst holidays ever :/

@@genesis_888 try to make your self busy and do some activities, being busy helps, it’s like addiction when u r not busy you think about your ex, be strong and keep it up

@@hugogrizma326 seriously! Ahhhh the pain! Feeling my new roots grown in though i must admit...

This comment made me laugh so hard! You are right there! 👏🏻👍

Sometimes I do think my ex is dead cause I don’t understand why I haven’t received a text yet 😂

Coach Lee does have a sense of humor lo

I love him 😭 he helps sooo much 😢 this week was sooo hard, I haven't been sleeping.. But these funny moments make my day 😊

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You are Awesome ! 😀💓💯

You’re a great person truly! Keep it up 👏🏻

It's funny because she automatically assumed you still want her in your life and think she's that valuable. It's annoying because I could see if it came from a place of straight arrogance but she really thinks that and isn't aware of high she thinks she stands. I remember being screwed over and she knew I wasn't having it and left a voice-mail letting me know what she was doing and was going away for a little for emotional/ drug problems. What an idiot.

gt

My favorite small petty power flex is just not even bothering with their social media

No brother, find a wife for the lifetime, keep her also, be the master, let her play, but you have to be 10 step ahead, and watch her crumble when her biological clock is ticking 😂😂😂😂

I’m 1month and 13 days

Took me 3 and a half months and a new guy but go off sis lmao

1 year and a half and its the fucking best! 😁😁😁😁

Well, been 7 months. Still hurts. Lol.

I month and 2 days and it still hurts as if it was the first day. This is a guy I only dated for 3 months but from the first moment I met him, I felt as if I've known him forever. Second break up, and it hurts so bad..

It never fails

Believe *

You guys seem so sure

guys always remember your destiny isn't tied to a person who left, it's their loss not yours keep you guys head up🙂

Apparently they don’t

It helps me to focus on releasing my attachment to the expectation and assumptions. Just simply be and focus on the present moment. It's easier said than done. Stay strong on your journey of self :)

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Totally agree with this one.

It's not always about not getting back

Karen Kopittke,you got a lovely smile

@@lioydwilliams1850 Awwwe..Thats nice to hear. Thank you.

@@karenkopittke which country are you from?

@@lioydwilliams1850 US

@@karenkopittke wow!,are you on hangouts or Gmail so we can always talk?

as soon as I heard that in the video I got tingly and I started laughing because of how true that statement is. Death, nothingness, silence all have the common ground of being questioned by humans beings. Brilliant Coach lee

Coach Lee i have a complex situation. I'd like to email you

Thank you you help me alot

Does No contact work on my ex who broke up with me because of his parents? they brainwashed my ex boyfriend to leave me . Pls help we have relationship 3 years . actually hurt because Last month we’re okay . We have a lot of plan . it hurts

@@leenedevastin5174 some times its ok to start dating other people. Don't waste your life waiting for him.if he was ment to be in your life God will bring him back

Probably because you're hot

Does help if your drinking

How many times has a man came back for you ??

How long did it take?

Is this also effective for a short term relationship? Just 3 and half month of relationship 😔

It’s definitely both. Too many people give up these days too easily and the no contact is a way to learn and grow for both parties to see that both have messed up and to actually work through things. Just a little rant lol.

@@travis6694 I did no contact she reached out and I don't want her back and I found somebody better much better

@@keithzizis4860 that’s amazing man!

@@travis6694 I definitely agree with this comment, im on day 2 of no contact, can barely hold myself together, he says he still loves me as he mentioned a number of times whiel he was breaking up with me, but cant have a relationship right now because of how much he has going on in his life plus me wanting his time and he felt stressed knowing he was upsetting me. This man doesnt have a bD bone in his body. After break ups im able to write cons about the person in the past but this man i really cannot say anything bad, he loved and cherished me up until the very last bit of the relationship. i truly believe that we can work it out, i just hope he reaches out...

@@shehba.p omg i am literally going through the same thing right now, except i'm already 3 weeks into no contact. he too cares for me alot, and was crying (he never cries) when we last met for closure. just that his priority is in his career at the moment, and he realised he hasn't gotten over his ex completely. therefore he left me as he feels it is unfair for me if we continue. Similarly, i cannot say anything bad about him as well - he didn't treat me the best but he was such a decent and good man and i do believe we can work it out after he has sorted out his issues.

How so?

@@francessilva3869 because it shows you emotionally how much that person means to you whilst your working on yourself.c

Blocking is immature

let's move on together

Amen 🙏🏾

Hi that's what my ex said he wants to be good friends , how can I be with u friends when all u did just cheated on me I told him I can't be friends with u to leave me alone he is blocked but I checked the other day and he still writing me ,

@@NM-ru2qj I don't think blocking is immature blocking him helped me easier to get over him

I'm 3 weeks no contact, I feel you... I'm not breaking! He ignored me, so he no longer exists... I do wanna hug him but he's a soul less crazy covert narc, he'll always be toxic.

Stay strong, brother!

How are you doing man?

Been 4 months now and I’ve moved on. I have a new girlfriend. My ex was a covert narc as well and I’ll be dealing with that for awhile I’m sure but I’m slowly healing. Was the most toxic relationship I’ve ever been in but I definitely learned a life lesson. Never again

@@1CrispyCracker you have a new woman already. Careful

💯👍🏻

@@danielsea6479 Doesn't bother me, I know my worth. It's just a rebound, eventually she will feel the heartbreak. If not then moving on is the play. Doesn't really bother me either way.

well said.

She dumped you for another dude that means she will dump you at anytime for any better deal when that relationship fails are you really going accept her back I hope not there is too many other fish in the sea and new opportunities to be had get you a different model with better options never downgrade always upgrade.

My was in a rebound for a good minute way longer than 2 months she eventually came back but we aren’t freaking door mats!!

Same scenario. Broke up with me July 30th. We kept talking for two more weeks. Slept together August 6th. Then a month after that or maybe 3 weeks later she banged another dude and is now seeing him. Been no contact since September 10th beyond the letter I wrote her on the 10th which probably got to her a week later. I wrote her the letter because I wanted to apologize for my drunk actions. I'm an alcoholic so yeah, my stuff is complicated. She stated she misses me, misses banging me, misses my smell, masturbates over me yet she's banging this dude and of course she states "but that doesn't mean I want to get back together". It's so painful, but you're not alone.

Exactly 😂

This is funny

Lol

I agree with you. |Communication is the adult thing. Ghosting/no contact is just childish and snide. It doesn't have to be much contact at all. Just a full and frank conversation. Especially when u are dealing with drama queens etc.

Did you get back together?

@@noted_insolence1894 wondering the same

Did you get back together?

Did you get back tho

Lol!

please tell us what happened how you managed to have her reach out to you

wowwe

Lmao I hope my ex would propose after three months of silence, dang. 😂😂😂

Lmao what a turn table 😂

I’m having a hard time today as well laying in bed trying not to contact him. Ugh it’s been so hard. Trying not to cry.

@@royneqiueafields2554 hang in there xx

I have the same girl! Im in 2,5 months of no contact, but today im feeling it.. hold on!!

God knows best. She's comforting you in Her bosoms!

I bought popcorn and chocolate and munching away to his videos lol. Cup of tea sounds good as well! Hope we all have a better day tomorrow!

Aye!!!

What's the update bro?

Hello friend u speak well English

Any update

@@hemansangam5048 Hello! Well, I'm not going to lie. I was strong for about 25 days and then I stupidly broke no contact. I realized my mistake immediately and planned to get back in NC but I actually found myself in a situation in which my ex was very eager and open to talking to me and would actually reach out to me every day even though I wasn't initiating. I've been following the coach's advice to not ignore them but to not initiate and not chase. My ex and I are not back together yet but at the present moment I'm working on rebuilding my emotional connection with them. We're having very positive interactions and they key so far is that we haven't spoken at all about our past relationship or the breakup. Keeping it light and positive at all times to make things comfortable and super important to NOT CHASE. Another thing that has helped me a lot is to really exercise patience. I'm NOT a patient person by nature so it hasn't been the easiest part but I have convinced myself and actually come to terms that *I don't need to get back together with them RIGHT AWAY.* I would really hate to rush things, somehow end up together again only for things to end again because it was too soon. My mindset right now is to improve myself while improving my connection with them in a comfortable way and to be patient. I know it's not what we want to hear but there really is no rushing this kind of stuff. However, I know I want to be with them so I'll keep working towards it in an organic way, even if it doesn't happen right away. Long story short: we're still not back together but there's progress being made *despite* my mistake. I wish you luck and hope this helps you in some sort of way!

Any updates two months later?

@@mancillado Hi! My ex and I are not back together but our connection is good and we're comfortable with each other. I've stopped pursuing them in a romantic way because I'm focused on myself for the time being. We talk almost every day and we have a good relationship. I'm just not interested in having a romantic relationship with him right now so I'm not trying. I believe that if I was actively trying though, I would be in a pretty good spot. Good luck with whatever you're going through! You got this!

@@Oviraptor10 Wow thanks for the update! I get weirdly invested in people's stories in the comments so I'm very happy to hear you are in such a good place!

did she try to get you back though?

Me too. We have to be strong.

Thanks for giving me hope I’m only 1.5 months, it feels like an eternity and he will never reach out. But I’ve haven’t reached out once since the breakup.

3 months here👏

@@FreedominLove711 mine ex did reach out from time to time found out he has a new 'friend' didn't hear from him for a month but little by little I felt better! I'm taking the power back to me and that feels so great

You are stronger than I am. Great! Keep strong!

Aww hell I need to call my ex you seeing someone else damn!!!!!!

Update?

John Riggs , Update?

YES and there is a TACO Bell on every Corner.

big up John

So how are things going for you now? Any updates?

Any update @carlos ruz? I am on day 3 of no contact.

@@mikesaintjulesmusic i’m on day 5, ours is labeled a break but I have to accept that she’s gone or else I’m gonna get hurt more if she doesn’t come back. How are you doing?

@@jacoblindsay5281 any update?

keep strong bro!

@@mariopalfi8359 Thanks bro! It's been 2mo and and a week so far and it's getting better. I got back into therapy for the healing process. Got myself into a new routine to "help pour back into myself" and level up. Working out every day and dance classes plus projects I'm working on in life. It's getting better but still a hell of a journey. Took an extensive social media break which also helped a lot. Not gonna lie, I still have my down days where I'm just super depressed and anxious at the same time. Had 3 of them last week but yea...the journey will slowly get better

@@MannyRoutes dont u try to get back her? I suggest Dan Bacon get your ex back super system. I think he tells the true cuz in his system he talks about each situation is different so it might be not good in every situation to have long no contact. He says when u deattach and became nonneedy then u should reach out if u still want smthg. I can suggest u his stuff

@@mariopalfi8359 In due time perhaps. I'm trying to get a good hold of myself both mentally and emotionally first. Then if she doesn't reach out perhaps I will. Right now as much as I hate the No Contact rule, we both need it for a while. I need to be 100% before any form a contact with her whether she reaches back out to me or I do it

“ we agreed” there is your problem

So glad

Hang in there Lacey. Stay strong and know your worth.

rowdybliss, you got a lovely smile

@@lioydwilliams1850 thanks, friend! 😁

@@rowdybliss which country are you from?

@@lioydwilliams1850 I am from nowhere and everywhere. :)

@@rowdybliss you funny lol

At the same note a dumper is not always honest about what they have been thinking fir months, so either way you look at it it is a immature defense. (Spesific meaning to that word)

@@michaelandersen5821 exactly, out of nowhere dumping is immature, lying by omission & disrespectful. communication how they were feeling the whole time is the correct way.

Yep! He's the best. I should have listened to Coach Lee from the beginning.

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@@aliyusalisu737 I reported you to RU-vid.

I am doing EMDR next week, to work on abandoment threats and violence traumas done by my parents, which make me fawn when men send energy signals or try to trigger in me fear of being abandoned. I want to be wired to detach from childhood traumas and react as adult: Ok, go, leave or shut up.

@@oscarwilliamson1264 I was thinking he might have been!! But I'm a fixer and just kept trying. 😔

@@oscarwilliamson1264 with everything happening, I'm sad to say I'm from the United States. 😒

@@oscarwilliamson1264 I have gmail. Do you have messenger?

Morjix2k9, give it mor time. Its still too soon. Also, get the Emergency Breakup Kit. myexbackcoach.com/ebk

How did it go

Don't open that oven too early to check on the cake.

Mine came back only to breakup with me again after a month. Trying the no contact again lol but I don’t think it will work again

Did he/she tried to reach out???

@@paolanamuncura8879 no , not yet, time is working

@@randomdude9384 mine did twice but i ignored him

Instagram. Me pao.namn

Cheers…guess we broke up with all ex at the same time. I feel bad now but in the long term he’d feel desparare for the rest of his lifeeeeee

Just message him on WhatsApp and he will put a smile on your face

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did she ever reach out?

That’s the best part. We start no contact in hopes of winning them back. Then we realize we are worth so much more than our exes treated as. ❤️

I am not sure...2 days ago he posted a photo with a new girl or whoever she is.....and I feel kind of dissapointed, we were engaged and 7 years in relationship, we were as well in half long-distance relationship. My feelings are now confused and I'm thinking maybe it is just meant to be like this, to go separate ways...I don't know..I guess time of the no contact will show me.

Tako je bre sestro nedaj se mene isto devojka ostavila koju sam najvise na svetu voleo i sve bi ucinio za nju ali sad vise ne moramo dalje to je bila nasa lekcija zelim ti sve najbolje znam kako boli ali dolaze lepse dane !!!

I want help my girlfriend dumped me and she blocked me...i wanted her back

@@cilliancallaghan9788 we were together for almost 2 years the first round, then broke up for 3.5 months and she was in a rebound. Then we dated for another 2+years and broke up again this year in February. She left and I just went into NC and worked on my self. She hit me up almost 5 months after. We been on and off since, but now I met a better girl who I consider giving a chance to

@@petaakolarov135 thanks for the reply. That’s good to know. We dated for almost a year after a first year of occasionally hooking up but nothing serious. Relationship was better than I could’ve ever hoped for. Heading into my 2nd month of no contact now. She said she lost attraction and didn’t want to be in a relationship anymore. Hoping she returns some day, but I’ve got my doubts.

@@cilliancallaghan9788 yeah that would happen, otherwise she wouldn't have left. That's why now its up to you to kickass in life! Hit the gym, go on dates, hangout with friends, level up at work! Trust me, she will notice! Once you shift the focus away from her, like coach Lee says , it triggers that anxiety in the brain. Stay strong my friend and keep moving forward

Always works. When they see you are independant of them they will always want you

petaa kolarov not a peep ?

I pray the universe grant your heart desires, Hey friends I got my relationship fixed with the help of a great spiritualist Who brought my ex after many months of separation.

Send him a message now on WhatsApp... he can really help you

My ex and I broke up on the same day 😂 sept 8. Still no word from him tho 🥺

@@billierock10 dont worry ...keep yourself busy...focus on yourself..same situation here..not healed but yes all the memories fading out mostly

What simple message did you send him?

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