Psychopath: Fear is Safe, Love is NOT! 

Why is there no one else trying to explain psychopathy as understandably as Vaknin? All other youtube psychologists/psychiatrists regurgitate what psychopathic behaviour is but no one comes close to giving the why and the how, it just goes to show that there's always a few people in every field who are light years ahead of everyone else, and the distance increases by the minute.

No one explains a psychopath as beautiful as sam vaknin

My boyfriend thrives on Instilling fear in me and everyone. Physically, emotionally, mentally, verbally. Thank you for this video! It is very informative.

My Maternal Aunt is a psychopath (secondary, ASPD with religious OCD)(diagnosed), she loves to abuse everybody around her verbally and sometimes physically. Because of her abuse, my grandmother died of severe depression(diagnosed). My aunt's husband died of overdrinking/cirrhosis without any child She acquired all the property from her husband and parents(after my grandfather's natural death). My mother did not claim any property to save her little sister. But her abuse did not end. She now abuses her neighbors and damages their properties just out of jealousy. Now, she has her eyes on us, and she tries to visit us to gain monetary benefits from us and tries to abuse us as everyone left her. I can feel, in her mind, she tries to achieve my mother's position by eliminating my mother( her elder sister). Very very dangerous person. Can do anything to gain power and property. Do not care about her family members or her loved ones. It's like closed ones are her biggest enemies. From her childhood, she was always jealous of her elder sister. If parents praised her elder daughter, the younger daughter started crying and would get violent on her parents. In my childhood, I watched my grandmother saying to my aunt " Why are you doing this? Am I the only mother to u? Is she not my child too? Why are you so jealous". Because of my aunt, I was not able to visit my grandparents house as a child. She is that much jealous. My aunt did not allow to spend my grandparent's own money when they were terminally ill. She loves money.

Great! Just a couple weeks ago I was talking to my wife, saying it’s too bad there’s not that many videos prof Vaknin makes on psychopaths, and how I wish he made more. Thank you professor

This breakdown is the clearest, and simplest explanation I've heard, thank you Dr.

Thank you so much Dear Sam Vaknin❤

Thanks for the great vid!🙏

Brilliance.

Professor Vaknin I watch all your videos they are very informative. Thank you.

Your lectures on this topic are so insightful that it terrifies me every time I tune in. The intricacies of how you break this down has made me realize how deeply disturbing people can really be.

Does this pattern relate to secondary psychopathy that accompanies bpd as well? Or is secondary psychopathy different in its operation?

very logical, very detailed, very accurate

For the past month, I've been binge-watching Sam Vaknin's videos and have become convinced that my father, brother, and sister are narcissists. It's quite obvious. However, my brother has exhibited certain behaviors towards me throughout his entire 33 years that have deeply and intensely hurt me. I've been repeatedly traumatized, always wanting to look up to my big brother, seeking his validation, hoping he would recognize me as the amazing little brother I always wanted to be. Instead, I received punishment, pain, suffering, and a complete lack of interest in any of the horrible feelings I experienced. There's been a complete lack of empathy from him, unlike my sister and father, who could still somehow show some degree of empathy, however shallow. My brother has never truly felt sorry for the horrible hurt and pain he caused me throughout my life. But I was always confused. I thought he was a narcissist because I was certain he did not enjoy hurting me. I could never sense that he actually derived pleasure from my pain. I knew that sadism is a telltale sign of a psychopath, which is why I assumed he was a narcissist. But now, after considering Sam Vaknin's explanations, it makes sense. Vaknin explains that the sadism in psychopaths isn't necessarily about enjoying the act of hurting others, but rather seeking to understand themselves better, to gain power, confidence, understanding, and control through the harm they inflict. Viewed in this light, everything my brother has done makes complete sense. I could never understand how he could do these things and not feel bad or sorry, especially as I am extremely sensitive and highly empathetic. But here I am, at the age of 31, finally understanding why the people around me have been so mean. Thanks to Mr. Vaknin's teachings, I now understand the nature of the sickness around me. I am extremely grateful that he makes this highly complex material so easily digestible for someone like me, who merely seeks to understand the toxicity around himself. Thank you very much.

Do psychopaths cry? If so, what does it mean? A person in my life cries when they witness someone being treated terribly in the exact same way they treat me and never shed a tear over. Particularly in programs/movies. It's bizzare!!

Prof vaknin, are you open to correspondents about physics as well as tutoring on how to create, apply and record study’s academically. Your work is groundbreaking and I honestly can’t get enough haha x

Explains everything! Outstanding presentation.

Professor you mentioned psychopaths are very much grounded in reality. Unlike the narc. But can psychopaths remain in reality if they are severe drug and alcohol addicted? As that correlation is also high between psychopaths and addictions? I was really wondering about this and how they then remain grounded in reality. Or do they perhaps believe themselves they are still grounded in reality while heavily intoxicated? Thank you

I swear to God this is the best video about psychopaths I've seen so far

Thanks heaps, Sir Vaknin. I was dying to know about psychopathy.

Can psychopathy be 'cured' to any extent? Or is managing the condition the best one can hope for?

Thank you .

In this explanation, it seems that those who are psychopathic in some form who use their psychopathic behaviors to relieve their anxiety- instilling fear, rejecting love- they are not aware they are instilling fear in others to alleviate their anxiety. They may realize their actions are received negatively by other people but they have no lucid thought, “I am going to instill fear in this person to push away love because love is dangerous.” When my ex bf would create a bunch of stress in his life, but things were calm between us (as it happens in cycles of abusive relationships- there’s stretches of relative calm), he would out of nowhere induce an argument and accuse me of being all sorts of negative things, completely defensive of his actions when I would tell him he was being harsh and pushing me away for no reason. In those conversations it was like I wasn’t even there. He had to find a way to relieve his anxiety and instead of drinking a bottle of whiskey he would try to use aggressively withholding love from me and antagonizing me as a way to make me fear him. He had to exert power over me to return to a baseline state of neutrality in himself. But vehemently denying he was being hurtful. It was like he was in a trance, like how someone behaves when they are blackout drunk. He was Don Quixote fighting the windmills. He completely lacked the ability to see himself clearly.

Wow!

Perfect 👍🏻

Were Stalin and hitler psychopaths?

You should not have to delete the video about Trump

Me too belong to the " Milky Way ".

What if you learned of your psychopathic traits, and directed your pain inwards, with the fear of being wrong in treating love as your motivation?

Yessssssss we want psychopath narcissists are boring now

So are psychopaths more robotic ai or narcissists?

Hello prof. Vaknin. My ex husnand is a psychopath. We have three children. How can I deal with this? He is always manipulating the children and tries to get me back. I don't know what to do. Thanks is advance.

Thought about designing or directing an erotic horror game where the monsters are really attractive females with jarring and distressing music and enviroments and timing to simulate a person horrified of loving and making a genuine connection with someone attractive without avoidance

i fear i have become a psychopath because of a failure to get a woman