Publicly Humiliated or Shamed? How to Respond to Online Criticism & Attacks 

Thank you, Anne. Those early experiences never really leave us, do they? Even when the emotional impact is lessened, that first cut runs deep. The key is recognizing when we're responding out of those old patterns instead of who we are now. That's why dealing with those memories and patterns is so important, as you said. I'm sending love right back at you! xo 💞

Thank you - that's a good line to remember. It really is true, and it increases compassion and empathy.

Agreed. If I'm not into someone's video/movie/store/perspective, I move along. And perhaps create something I DO want to get into! I'm still grateful for this guy's comment, though - I have to learn to accept all types of feedback. Put my big girl panties on and deal with it 😊

Yes. Ever since I learned that our body holds on to trauma even when our brains don't remember, I pay much closer attention to my emotional reactions to events and people. There IS a logic to my responses even when I don't recognize it! In the same way, there is a logic to the responses of others. The guy who criticized me has his reasons. Of course, this doesn't mean we can insult or cast shadows on people we find offensive. What it means to me is that he's just another wounded foot solider doing the best he can to make his way through the world. It is SO freeing to see us all this way! I love it. 💗

You're right - I want people who aren't supportive to unfollow me. Thank you for your support! 💞

Thank you for your honesty! I'm curious - what does "succeed on RU-vid" mean to you? How will you know if you've succeeded? It's important to have realistic expectations, and to focus on your reason for making videos. It's hard to stay focused on being true to you - every time I upload a video, I remind myself I'm doing this for me and my personal and professional growth. Not to attract likes or subscribers, but to share what I'm learning. I'm currently measuring my success by my ability NOT edit my words, sentences and thoughts while I'm recording a video. I have a very bad habit of starting a sentence, fearing it'll be confusing or dumb, then starting over. Later when I'm editing the video I find that those "false starts" were actually better than when I re-started the sentence! So to me success is getting through a complete sentence while filming 🙂 That's a goal I'm failing at, and that I can easily see if/when I do succeed. My current goal is also completely independent of the actions of others, which means that comments like the one I referred to in this video are meaningless. Sure, they'll probably still sting. They may trigger shame and humiliation. But every time I work through my shame and humiliation, I get stronger, wiser and more compassionate. Autistic Traveller, may you face your fears and make videos anyway. May your experiences with disgruntled viewers be few and far between. And above all, may you decide what success means to you without relying on what others are doing on RU-vid! With love, Laurie

Agreed. Thank you for your encouragement!

Thank you!

Thank you for your sweet comment. You didn't feel led to comment on my last video, and that's cool! We can only do what feels right and true to us in that moment. Sometimes it's hard to know what to say or how to say it - I totally get it. No worries, angel. I'm glad you're here 💞

Thank you for your encouragement! It means a lot to me. ❤