Your mum is so great! She's an example of how aspies can thrive with the right understanding, acceptance and support. It brings up sadness for me since I was criticized and treated like a burden by my mom. I was only diagnosed at 47, but I doubt it would have changed her behavior toward me if I'd been diagnosed anyway. She doesn't know and I don't feel it will do any good to tell her. Keep up the good work Chloe and continue to be your awesome self!
I'm so sorry to hear that. Are you doing okay? I wanted to ask you, do people with Autism, can they recognize when other people have it or not? When i was a younger a person that i knew had Autism told me he tought I was autistic and when i told him i didn't he was confused and said " really, you don't? I thought you would have, i thought you were? " i was so confused by that statement and i didn't tske anything to heart, so i never said anything to anyone.
@@gladysolvera6566 I was told I probably am autistic by someone who was diagnosed with autism, and since then, I’ve been able to identify several other people around me who are also autistic without them telling me. I’m not sure I’d be able to tell _everyone_ who has it or not, but I do know that it’s usually not hard to pick out many of the people who have it. I’ve even picked out a few that I thought were autistic before they were diagnosed and found out later that they did eventually get diagnosed with it. I’m not sure if this is the same for many or most other people who are autistic or if it’s only a few people, but there are definitely some of us who seem to be able to recognize it in other people.
11:56 It makes me feel better about myself to know that there are other people who haven't "grown out of" things like stuffies and toys either. I'm in my early 20s. A lot of people my age are getting married and decorating their homes with boring "grown up stuff". Meanwhile I can't imagine getting rid of this stuff and moving on from the things I enjoy. It makes me feel like a weirdo sometimes and I sometimes worry about other people my age seeing my room. But this stuff makes me happy and I'm not going to try to change just because society thinks adults are suppose to only like certain things.
Being an adult doesn't have to mean "boring" and if you like stuffies that is completely okay. You dont have to forget or leave your childhood completely behind.
Yeah, I never really got why people are expected to, "grow out," of things they like. Like, why does being a certain age mean that you're no longer allowed to like dolls, or simple board games, or cartoons (even ones intended for younger audiences). Like, I don't need the counting and shape identification and spelling help from Disney Junior shows, but I like the simple problems with simple solutions that the characters face, it's a nice break from a world that's very complicated. And complicated isn't bad, as a human (neurodivergent or otherwise) I AM complicated, it's just draining and sometimes confusing. Sometimes it's nice to watch a Mickey Mouse cartoon where the biggest problem the group faces in a day is some muffins that went missing. I do enjoy some shows aimed at adult audiences too (I like sitcoms and some family drama shows) but those can wear me out too... especially the dramas. I feel like, if you enjoy it, and you aren't hurting anyone, then enjoy it.
I was also someone that was tortured by bully infested schools. What your mum said about school is so true, I wasn't learning how to socialize when I was getting bullied to the point where everything at that school made me angry. I started learning how to socialize when I worked with private tutors, got introduced to other people on the spectrum and discovered RU-vid channels like yours.
Hey! I'm Alex. I'm 14, and was just diagnosed with ASD this year. I also have Depression, Anxiety, ADHD, and possible PTSD from bullying. You inspire me.
hiiii Alex now youre 19, omgg, hope please that youre okay, take good care, i have ADHD and Autism i recenly discover it, youre beautiful no matter your deficits or cons, why? because youre a normal but incredible human, take care, here from Ecuadorrr!
Hi Chloe, I just watched the video of you with James ( I'm his mum ) and I was so taken with your beautiful soul I came across to your channel to check it out. Scrolled through and saw you here with your mum, what a great support person and advocate you have. Being a mum presents lots of challenges and your mum has certainly had her share. You are very brave to put yourself out there sharing your life's trials and tribulations and I've no doubt at all you are helping many people. Blessing to you chloe and your amazing mum Sarah.
As a parent of a child who is so much like Chloe, I echo what you said. Getting understanding from others, even professionals, therapists and teachers, is the hardest part.
Chloe, hearing what you went through with school is heartbreaking. No child should ever have to go through that. You really have such a supportive and amazing family, and you are such a wonderful person and an incredible ambassador for others, and knowing that you are out there; talking to people and giving awareness, you will be the person who changes things and another child won’t have to go through that because of the work you do and who you are. ❤️
chloe, your story is amazing. my older brother also has aspergers and a lot of my friends do as well. your videos have helped me get more of an understanding about what aspergers is and about how people deal with it. I know that in this video you said that you hated schools, but I am so glad that you came to mine just a few weeks ago because you have left me with so much more positivity and happiness. your story and videos continue to spread love around the internet. 💝
Sarah, you are a really lucky Mom to have such a lovely daughter as Chloe:). I am most likely not far from your age, but I have been watching your daughter's videos and she is wonderful:). I found your daughter's video because like Chloe, I like to collect Teddy Bears and other Stuffed Animals as well as Toys. I do not have Asperger's Syndrome and I do not have Autism. However, I too was bullied in school as a child and as a child I was diagnosed with learning disabilities. Unfortunately, for me home schooling was not an option. My parents love got me through those years, my belief in God too, and I learned the importance of love for others, but not every child would have survived it emotionally the way I did. You did the right thing by home schooling your daughter and it is true that she did socialize in other group settings. Chole is a sweet, kind person who I am honored to have watched on You Tube:).
I just have to add that I love how real this is. It’s honest, it’s genuine. That is truly refreshing and it shows the good and the bad. I really appreciate that.
We just pulled my 11 yr old daughter from Public school in October 2020 and I'm homeschooling her now! She's currently awaiting an ASD assessment - This channel has been amazing for us. Thank you so much Chloe & Mum!
That’s actually really interesting. It took me quite a while to be able to read a clock too, come to think of it. In fact, I can remember as a kid even when I was probably around 10 or so that I would read the digital clock in the kitchen when someone would ask me what time it was and tell them, “It’s one one dot dot three five,” because I didn’t know that it meant that it was 11:35. This never occurred to me as possibly an autistic thing.
I absolutely loved this video, you are also so lucky to have a lovely and supportive mother to advocate for you. Please make more videos with your mum soon xx
Your not alone cher. School was bad for me too. Scored a 37 on a AQ test. Fortunately I was too big to pick on physically. But people did tend to keep me at a distance. I ended up befriending the nerds and weirdos. Solidarity and all that. Youd be suprised how nice the social outcasts actually are. Youd assume they're unkind, awkward, or cruel. Found out its typically the opposite.
Oh Chloe & Sarah, what a blessing you both are and will be for other parents & children living with autism! Fantastic video, loved it & love your shirt Chloe!! From a fellow asd & homeschooling Mum :)
Love ur video. School was my biggest struggle since pre school I ended up being hospitalized for a year in a children's psychiatric hospital...it was the worst it was like no one knew how to help me and the only reason I left is because I lied for the first time and said I was feeling better since then I can't tell people how I really feel. And I also didn't know how I was feeling if that makes sense. I eventually went to an all girl school for girls with mental problems and eating disorders (I was anorexic/bulimia) I didn't find out I was autistic until this year at 33years old. It was such a relief and made me understand why I am the way I am. I can finnly start to take off these masks and become me. Also the only reason I found out I was autistic was because I was really sick with nauseous everyday (not preggers) and had a pain on my side. I did all the test and meds for years and nothing helped they asked if I had stress and said no...I realized then I don't know what im feeling and then I looked at some videos online about female autism and my God checked off 99% of the boxes I have found the answers to all my questions I have had my whole life...girl I wish we lived closer I would love to go horseback ridding with u or even just chill with you! Ik we would get along. Love you and keep being an awesome princess 👸 💖
Chloe, thank you so much for sharing your journey, your talents, and your struggles and how your world is different. It is a talent to be able to articulate these feelings, and how your world is different, how you see things, as I know for some aspie girls they know they are different, but they cant explain how things are different and what your world is like. It is refreshing, and it really helps me understand my family, as we have an extremely strong genetic link with almost all the cousins (1st and 2nd) have autism / aspergers, both boys and girls. So as adults its helps us understand more. Hearing what you have learned, what you and your mum have been through and worked, is so refreshing to hear people who get it, who understand, and can help us understand more. It really helps to hear and see how well you are doing, and see you excel in your talents, and to know that there are others we can connect with who are doing the same things. Thank you so very much. You are an inspiration.
Hi, Chole. Just had to watch this video when I saw your mom was in it. I was curious to see what your mom had to say. She reminds me of my mom. She's always been my biggest supporter and I can tell your mom is too. Having a loving and caring parent like her helps so much when you have a disability. There's a lot of things your mom said that I feel my mom would probably agree with. Warms my heart to see parents who handle it in a way that makes a difference for their child. Both of you are amazing women! On a side note on got giddy seeing your cat in the video. I too have a cat. 😺 once again you manage to be relatable as heck. Keep up the great work!
As a 48 yr old Aspie, I assure you that things do eventually mellow. It just takes longer for us. And, I presume, the specific timing, degree, the "mellowing" et. al., depends on the individual. You're doing great, keep going. :-) - an old Nerd
I feel such a big bubble of love watching this. What a couple of remarkable ladies you both are. What a wonderful place this world would be if there were more people like you who embraced ASD instead of looking at it as a human flaw. I too am an empowered Aspie (Princess Dani) who likes to wear tutus, unicorn caps, fairy wings, etc. at 55. I lucky as a child that my parents supported me as best they could and loved me for who I was. Having gone to 4 different schools in as many years and being bullied as a child (until grade 4 when I'd had enough and "put up my dukes") I can certainly identify with Chloé's early schooling experience. My parents had issues of their own and I was left to fend for myself when I was about 14... and let me tell you, for a naive young woman who never really "matured" the same way the other girls did, life has not been easy... but it's been one hell of an adventure. I went as far as putting myself through college and running my own business. The only limits are those we impose on ourselves. Thank you ladies, for sharing this. Much love, respect and admiration for both of you.
I’m so emotional watching this. I feel so seen, it makes me so happy you have a supportive parent who paid attention. It makes a gigantic difference sometimes just to be loved.
+Princess Aspien This message is for your mom. Thank you a million thank yous for being such a supportive mom I am so glad that Chloe got such support from a power mom. I know you don't know me but I have followed your daughter videos and I am so grateful that she has you and her family. Although, I don't have Aspergers ( that I know of) I have special needs myself you remind of my mom in how supportive she is towards. We need more people like you who at least try to understand us. Thank you so much and Chloe take care of your mother because a person with such soul like her only comes one in a lifetime and same to you Chloe's mom. Take care of each other.
4:16 YES!!!!! I am late self-diagnosed and at least 2 of my 3 kids are probably on the spectrum (currently doing testing for it), and I’m SO glad we’ve been homeschooling!! I had so much trauma/struggles from my public school experience, but hanging my kids home has given them the opportunity to be themselves and gain confidence social situations.
Brilliant! Thanx for sharing....I actually live in your area & your Mum bought some dance clothes from me recently....for your new baby sister from Taiwan! Also my son has ASD also.....just wanted to share that with you :) Keep doing what you do best! x
School for me was a living hell as well but when I was at school only the most severely autistic were diagnosed so I got a diagnosis of dyslexia because I clearly had a learning disability. And yes I know I’m dyslexic and autistic
Omg!!! When your mum was explaining what you did as a kid I do the exact same! I’ve been diagnosed with autism but it’s nice to know I’m not the only one that has the same problems because other people with it don’t usually have the same problem as me
Thank you both for being so open and vulnerable in this video. There is so much wisdom in your words. Chloé, you are such an amazing teacher and you are helping so many by sharing yourself so authentically. Thank you 🙏🏽
Firstly I think you’re lovely. Secondly i’ve never been diagnosed with anything... I had similar, though not quite as severe trouble in school and with socializing in general. I’m 31. But I was sent at the request of my teacher/school to my first psychologist at 6... me and my family always knew there was something off... never knew what. Your videos have been extremely helpful. Thank you!! Keep making them!
oh my god I can t stop crying watching your video - I m so grateful to have found your channel - it helps a lot in our situation being strong and confident for my son in school and society issues - it helps me so much to go this way !!! Thanks a lot !!!!
My mum ended up taking me out of school because I had lots of struggles, I think homeschooling was super helpful for me 🙂 We still had socialising with other homeschooling families
Heard you on ABC overnight this morning Cloe. Found you U Tube videos. Wow. you are amazing, im a 75 year old grandma/nanna with 15 grandchildren, 2 diagnosed boys but seeing you in some of my grandaughters. love this one with your Mum. will pass on the link to my four children for their learning. Thank You so much. PS can see myself too!! xx
I hope to continue to support my daughter as much as your mum does for you especially now I am more aware what is happening and going on in her world we always new she was different but not till years later now 16 that we are finally getting some answers that she is autistic still at the beginning of our journey thankyou so much for your videos
I FINALLY learned how to read analogue clocks a few years ago. It takes me a bit of staring to sort out where everything is, but I understand the system of it now.
I wonder what this version of Chloe would say if she knew that in a few years she would’ve gone to America on her own and done so many amazing things. Also, Her mum while talking about the genius stereotypes: “that’s certainly not the case with Chloe” Me: oof, a subtle drag.
I know this video is quite old but I just wanted to say how amazing your mum is and I really think that everyone, whether your child is on the spectrum or not, could learn a lot about being a parent from watching this video and listening to the both of you. Having a loving supportive respectful family, no matter the size, sexuality, or genders, makes such a difference in a kids life and how they grow into adulthood. It's also really great hearing the perspective of your mum of the different challenges you faced as a family and still do. My sister is raising two low functioning, nonverbal, autistic boys as a single mum and unfortunately we don't live in the same state as each other but we talk often and watching her parent is so inspirational and I have so much respect for her. Watching your videos has helped me become more knowledgeable of autism and it's so important that more people, including kids and teens, learn about autism. Thank you for being you! X
There is a book that you can read it is called the curious dog in the night time by mark Haddon the boy in the book is the same as every aspie kid and also the same as Chloe you should check out the book
I get bullied a lot in school as well. I get bullied by being shushed by some by some idiots because of the fact that I talk to myself. I did hear Chloe mention Down syndrome and I have a friend with Down syndrome who is also type 1 diabetic who runs onto the oval because her pump isn’t in range. I also run onto the oval a lot when I get mad, it’s too noisy at lunch break or one of the kids who is in Yr 8 is being annoying or I didn’t get my own way( that goes along with a reason for being mad
Do you have a very loving caring and compassionate mom I kind of had that but not enough that I needed or supportive that I needed but I felt alone and if I didn’t have my wife I would still be alone
How does Chloe protect herself, as being naive and vulnerable can lead to unwanted outcomes? I too had difficulty learning to read clocks, just didn't get it, until one day something clicked and I got it.
This is a bit of a rant so please bear with me :D I wish homeschooling was a thing in my country, but it's actually illegal here. I know one single family who did homeschooling and they had to fight for it in court. I would have benefited from it so much, I just hated school and dreaded having to go there from the moment I woke up every day and when I was there I was basically just waiting until I could go home again and didn't pay much attention to anything which definitely showed in my grades. Also, I have selective mutism, so whenever a teacher asked me something directly I'd usually just stare at them silently and shrug my shoulders or maybe give them one word answers which also didn't help with my grades. On some days when I was feeling really anxious I would just not go at all, but my mom forced me to go because she assumed I was just being lazy, so I skipped school and had to somehow try to pass the time for like 8 hours until I could go home again. And me wandering around by myself for hours was neither very safe nor beneficial to my education. But when you try to talk to people about the subject of homeschooling, most people just don't get it at all. A lot of people don't even know that homeschooling is a thing and even if they do, they don't understand how it works or why there's a need for it. I even wrote an article about it for our school newspaper (even though I hate writing :D) and gave a presentation about it and by the questions the teachers were asking afterwards, you could tell that they still didn't get it. Like homeschooling is just not even on peoples radars here, it's gonna be years and years before the government will even start to consider homeschooling as an option.
@@eclaire1748 Germany. And I know right?! No one here gets it. attending school is compulsory (like in most countries) but here they interpret that as having to go to an actual school and if you don't, you're breaking the law (well your parents are for not sending you to school) Idk people here are a bit stuck in the last century sometimes. I've tried to explain to people why I would have benefited from home schooling multiple times but most people just don't get it, especially older people. When I try to explain it to them, they just shut me down, it's like they don't want to get it. Like the argument I usually get is 'yeah but it's not allowed, so there's no point talking about it' When I've tried to discuss this with my mum, her main argument is usually that I wouldn't have had a social life if I hadn't been in school. but like...you can make friends in other places than school. Also I think I'd rather not have any friends if that meant I wouldn't have dreaded going to school for half my life.
I have the same worry as your mum, about how society isn't made to understand people on the autism spectrum, especially if they can't see it on the outside. I worry about where I am going to be in the future particularly when my parents are gone 😐 But I can only take it how it comes I guess and deal with all the ignorance.
My son was diagnosed Aspergers as a child. Some similar things - he screamed at the sound of handdriers, had to have food separated etc. One of the most obvious things others noticed was severe meltdowns. I personally think it was a mistake to merge Aspergers into ASD. Give it a different name if preferred but what happened in Queensland, Australia was the new cut off for support was for kids who could speak. I see that Chloe has since become a neurodiversity activist & done very well in her career. One of the huge issues I see is that 'autistic' is now 'Aspergers' type & complete denial or those who have 'severe' disabilities.
