Since a couple people asked for it here's the video that played in the intro drive.google.com/drive/folders/1EID6hxFtIPLf7SGp3s7gGFs9aBvXR-5v?usp=sharing Also the links for the art used in the video, please check them out x.com/DragonRoIlZ/status/1757623076764647713 x.com/Drooling_Demon/status/1801400931952771147
my friend has a dead name and when i accidentally called them by it they were like “hah!- I see you found out my true name heh-! unfortunately i cant let you live! ill finally unleash my true power!” and then they punched me
As a trans person what helped me most is to just be myself and not think about it. Like if I like how E feels Ill be on E, if I want to dress more fem I will, if I want to dress more masc Ill do that too. Ofc passing and safety is a big deal so be carful, people can be so evil :(
I'm agender and go by any/all pronouns. When I stopped identifying as cis, I realized I had no problem with my assigned gender but instead the restrictions and expectations. But then identifying as nonbinary opened up a whole new set of ickiness, more restrictions like no gendered words, and getting misgendered all the time. Now I just identify with my body. Like "yeah, that's what people call bodies like mine" but personality wise, I don't understand gender past fem, masc, and body dysmorphia. One could make the argument I'm bigender, but one identity is a lack of gender and the other I don't actually identify with...
agreed. i wonder sometimes if i could identify with my assigned gender again. like maybe if it lacked such restrictions and expectations as well as the experiences that come with my gender. i don't really understand gender too.. i believe i read something abotu this being called gendervoid or genderblank, where u don't understand it, or your own gender.. like your mind goes blank. anyways, i never had a problem with my gender, but i never fully associated with it and as i said before, i hate the experiences... and i like how they mentioned a themboys being a thing where u are nb but femme leaning. this has always been me.
the going by gendered terms is so real!! im not sure how to describe because like when i found out i was non-binary i ended up feeling like i had to conform to a different binary in an androgynous way like instead of just not being in the binary i thought i had to be genderless like its a 3rd gender?? now i do what i want. i ate all the gender candy. my greed for gender knows no bounds >:3c
it might still insinuate the "fem" part a bit much, when the main focus is kinda in between these aesthetics. So I gotta side with Themboys, since Tomboy is already a term in common use, I think it makes sense to be along the lines of that. A little play on words seems fitting I guess.
that deadname thing speaks to me so hard. my name irl is collin, and whenever i say it out loud its always like a mouthful for me, it's always made me... maybe uncomfortable is the wrong word, but uncomfortable that that's my identity even though i've used it my entire life. i go by mac or macsour (tag) online though and it's just happenstance that mac happens to be my middle name (mackenzie) and it's always felt so much better to identify with. i've always wanted to drop collin but i just can't because so many people know me by it, and it's my legal name so. easier to just call me by my real name instead of the online one when i'm in social situations. but in the back of my mind it's always felt so weird having to explain to everyone my name is collin. maybe this is a wakeup call lmao, but i'll process that later i guess. all the people i care about in my life call me mac anyways so it kinda works out anyways rant over, great video, idk why it was recommended to me but i'm lowkey kinda happy i clicked on it. if you read comments, what made you decide to go nonbinary? i haven't made that leap yet but i am considering using he/any pronouns bc in my personal view i don't really care about mine (but happily will respect others obviously)
im in a similar situation with my first name (now a dead name), one day i just thought "fuck it im (middle name) now!" Alot of people still use my first name when first meeting me or out of habit. But it still feels worth it to me to be comfortable with that piece of my identity even if it's kind of inconvenient sometimes.
I really appreciate this video. It can be a little sketchy to share queer thoughts online because there are always people who are gonna hate, but im glad the comments here are chill, and its all just wholesome
Hi! Since one of your thoughts involved agender individuals, I thought I'll share my personal experience with it! When it comes to me as an agender individual, and be mindful everyone's experience may be different, I see myself as just a person. I don't have that inner gender feeling people keep talking about, and I don't really care what pronouns people refer to me as either, cause it's just language. I don't really care about people deadnaming me either, just like you! And my other identity/identities, aroace/aromantic and asexual, is straight passing as well, so yayy staying in the closet, am I right? But anyway, I'd say I'm pretty indifferent. Like I have my pet peeves, like boobs cause they're annoying, or people assuming or imposing things about me just because I'm a girl in their eyes, but it's not like I get dysphoria out of them! Overall, I'm just a person, and gender is a social construct that I simply don't get, nor abide by. I think the fact I'm also autistic ties into this, with the whole not getting social constructs and stuff. Also when it comes to thinking in gendered terms, I see it in two meanings of the word. First, the one I was taught, the characteristics that can be perceived and categorized by which people look at me and say: girl. Or by which I look at people and think: probably this or that. Second, the inside feeling of gender, the one which I lack. Sometimes the two meanings align, sometimes they clash. Second takes priority though, cause even though I can see the features, I can see the characteristics, I'm still gonna call them by their preferred pronouns, cause I mean c'mon, that's just basic human decency and they're absolutely valid. But, up and foremost, I see people as people. I'm not gonna assume or inpose something on somebody just because they're this or that when it comes to gender. I just wish more people would act the same.
I think the way you summarized gendered terms also reflects how I feel about them. Thanks for sharing your experiences and your thoughts about all this, it's appreciated!
wow, interesting😊! I experience agender-ness in a completely different way. though to be fair I'm not just agender. I'm kinda fluid but mainly agender so yeah
that intro was peak, no better way to start a video than with a fade in to terraria day theme i can also relate to the deadname dilema. I dont enjoy hearing mine but im kinda numb to it, so it doesnt affect me very much. Also my envy is just A2 from NieR: Automata. I dont even know why shes just cool and i wanna be her.
I think you might be the most relatable enby I've found on this platform so far lmao. Only video of yours I've seen, but I'm left wanting to listen to you ramble more
it’s real to feel all the pressure of your relationships when thinking about transitioning. Ultimately though, I feel you should think about your own wellbeing in making this decision rather than the people around you. You’re going to be living with yourself forever after all. I’ve been questioning whether or not to transition for a while now and what I’m doing now is trying out the facets of transitioning that don’t involve surgery or hrt (taking care of my hair and skin and trying out new hairstyles, trying out new names, looking into more femme clothing). But I’m the end I want to make the decision that will make me the happiest. If you want some actual advice on whether or not to transition, Chipflake’s video about the topic was something I really resonated with I highly recommend it. And if you’re in a position to, try finding some friends in the queer space that you I can bounce ideas off of.
And of course if you feel you need to stay in the closet for longer due to personal reasons you should stay. I painted the closet to be absolutely terrible in this video but sometimes it’s necessary.
No matter how closeted you are, you can be 100% what you feel at a pride event any everyone will love you for it. The trick is getting to and from the pride event without running into neighbors.
This is so real, like im still figuring myself out and its so wierd when i think about how others think of the me that i present because im a coward and im too scared to talk about myself lol.
Also, i wanna make july an honorary pride month part 2 because im queer and im a july baby and having pride month end like right before my birthday is dumb to me. So happy pride month everyone!
Getting rid of the omelette is the best approach I think, but it takes some people a lot of time and life circumstances to align to be able to do that. I'm old as balls and still working on that.
the fact that you put marcy as gender envy.png and I litterally called myself marceline cause bubbline made me realise Im trans... how dare you attack me
insight from an agender person (specifically from my own experience lmao): pronouns are more of a pain than easy a lot of the time. using pronouns is kind of needed in day to day life, but when none of them fit, when none of them are your pronouns, you kinda just go by what bothers you the least, not what fits the best.. and while it would be nice to have people refer to me by my name only... doesn't really work most of the time, so i just stick to they/them/theirs for my day to day life (at least in english because german doesn't have any genderless pronouns that i like, lmao)
<a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="122">2:02</a> i cant tell if he said “i have smash friends who follow me” like he has friends who play smash with him or if he said “i have smashed friends who follow me” 😭
i started using agender after slowly coming to think that i dont experience gender the way most people do. fundamentally cannot grasp the concept. but, since i was raised and interact in such a heavily gendered world, it still is very deeply set in the ways i categorize myself and others and how i experience my gender. in many ways, gender is very deconstructed for me. but i still experience dysphoria (minor and it comes and goes, but i am on hrt) and all pronouns feel a bit uncomfortable to me (inherent associations with gender i think; i will say that she/her always is the most uncomfortable for me due to feeling that people perceive me as a woman as someone who presents very fem, and having any gender tied to me is gross). i also have very strange relationships with various gendered terms. "woman" and "man" are not something i would use or want applied to me, but "girl" or "boy" are fine. the connotations and roles associated with the terms are what it is, i think. im not a woman but i did experience girlhood and still relate to various aspects that are tied with being a girl, and thus "girl" is okay. im not a man but being called "boy" is incredibly funny so its okay. my gender is for the bit and language is strange and convoluted and constantly evolving. loved reading about differing gender experiences in these comments though, really cool :)
Every time I shower I think of the one Tumblr post that goes something like "If I'm a bi girl and I nail a bi guy that's literally gay sex, pemdas or whatever like it cancels out"
Gender doesn't automatically lead to pronouns; they don't always correspond <a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="61">1:1</a>. For example, a non-binary person can go by binary pronouns, and an agender person can go by they/them or anything that person wants!
im literally in the closet rn i only told one of my friends that i might be trans and then none of my other friends or family despite probably none of them caring if i did and they would be accepting it’s just that i don’t talk about it 🥰🥰🥰🤭🤭🤭
Please know that your content doesn’t really interest me much, however I will fully watch any video of yours with the kbity in the thumbnail. Please keep doing that.
