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"Do you ever struggle with procrastination?" Me: No, I'm very good at it

Even in the 90s and early 2000s schools here didn't recognize ADHD as a learning disability and I have it. As a result I ended up getting average grades despite being a relatively intelligent person just because I couldn't focus or pay attention or do homework properly.

ADHD is re-watching the same videos multiple times because 1- you definitely missed some stuff the first (8) time(s) you watched it 2- you don't get anxiety about missing important things when re-watching something you've seen before 3- you need constant background noise and it has to be interesting enough to not be distractingly boring but also boring enough to not be distractingly interesting

I was screened for learning disabilities TWICE (once at age 10, the other time in college), and while they saw that SOMETHING was going on neither of them even mentioned ADHD. I am a woman and time and place of my first evaluation was California in the 2000s. When I found myself relating to ADHD memes a little too much I decided to pursue a professional evaluation/diagnosis. When I told my mom about this she said "Oh, your first grade teacher said something like 'I think your daughter has a quiet form of ADHD.'" I didn't say anything in the moment but internally I screamed "NOW you tell me this?!?!"

“ADHD is like your mind yelling at you to do something, and your body just sits there like 😐” This is very relatable

The German word for "hidden statistics" is "Dunkelziffer", which literally translates to "numbers in the dark", and that's both sad and beautiful.

Pro tip: after creating your to-do list in the morning, there is nothing stopping you from adding "create to-do list" to the list and just crossing it off.

I distinctly remember being in grade 2 and being tested on my times tables by my teacher. She showed me a flash card that had "3x4=?" written on it, I answered 12, she said I was correct and asked me how I worked it out. I told her and we moved on. Two cards later, she held up "4x3=?" and I answered 12 again. She again said I was correct and asked me how I worked it out. Apparently, "Well it's the same as 3x4, but the numbers are the other way around", was NOT the answer she was looking for and she put down on her sheet that I got it wrong. She instead wanted me to "independently work it out in my head" instead of recognising that I already know the answer because all the numbers were the same.

ADHD is listening to someone, then halfway through them talking realizing you don’t remember what they just said to you, trying to go back in your memory to find what they told you, then realizing you aren’t listening again. It honestly sucks. As someone who likes meeting people, it can feel like my brain is incompatible with the world and the people around me.

As someone who is ADHD and didn’t get diagnosed till HS, I find it literally insane how people would rather blame a child and punish them instead of just….checking if something is different or wrong. Would have saved me a lot of trauma.

"WHAT IS 3 TIMES 7?!" Just has my dad written all over it... except it's just him yelling at me the question "WHY WON'T YOU ANSWER ME?!"

The shampoo shopping problem has a flip side - you see the shampoo in the shop, remember that you were out of it, get home and realise that’s the FIFTH TIME you’ve done this and now you have a 6-month supply…

I remember staying after school in first grade, crying over my unfinished Math homework because I didn't understand subtraction. My teacher had always referred to subtraction as "take away," and the assignments specifically said, "minus." It took THE JANITOR sweeping the room to help me connect the dots that "minus" and "take away" were the same thing. Shout-out to that kind custodian, who saw a distressed child and took the time to help her make sense of it all. 🖤

To the comment about older people learning how to work with their ADHD. I'm 41 and got diagnosed at 40 (fun fun). Last weekend, all I had to do was go to the grocery store. That was it. That was literally the only task I had. Brain said no. But sometimes with ADHD you can trick your brain into doing the task by doing OTHER tasks and then just sliding into the task you need to do while you're in "work mode." Bearing this in mind, I vacuumed, dusted, cleaned the bathroom floor, wiped all the mirrors down, made placemats for the table, and worked on a woodcarving because every time I even THOUGHT about going to the store my brain would start to shut down. My husband came home and was like "did you go to the store?" and I had to be like "no, but the house is spotless and we have new placemats" and seriously this is the stupidest disorder on the planet.

5:22 ON THIS NOTE. For the first time ever yesterday I actually felt EXCITED after getting a good grade. The teacher mentioned that my essay was of a higher level than my classmates and even most people that are taking/had taken the class. I had no corrections and so I actually was excited to tell my mom about it. It was a literary analysis essay and she said that even though she hadn’t read the story before, my essay helped her to visualize the woman that the story was centered on, and I couldn’t stop beaming for the entire rest of the day ever since I got that paper and it’s just such a major high point because I spent an entire day on that thing.

34:40 THIS! When I was a young adult (early 20s), I was married to a guy 10 years my senior and he was mentally, monetary, and emotionally abusive. But back then, I didn't know that he was, I just thought it was "normal" to be told on a daily basis that I was "lazy", "a bad parent", and "selfish" (because I dared to want to spend my days off work with friends and family instead of staying at home cleaning all day), and have my pay check taken off of me every week. A co worker told me that they felt he was being abusive and encouraged me to ring an abuse hotline. When I did so though, they were all "It's only abuse if YOU think it's abuse", regardless of the type of abuse (physical, mental, emotional, monetary, etc). A relationship class that talked about these things would have saved me years of mental anquish.

I'm autistic, and what keeps me from managing myself is literally that two specific people existing where I need to go makes me crawl into my room and pretend I don't exist. Literally as soon as I am left alone I suddenly am an incredibly well functioning, responsible adult.

That feeling of ADHD annoyance when you finish a thing you've been hyperfocusing on, but you still have a ton of hyperfocus left, only now it has nowhere to go, so it quickly eats at your soul until you hate the thing you finished and feel no sense of accomplishment whatsoever, only a sense of resentment that it didn't take just 30 minutes longer...

About the teaching thing, there's actually a concept called the Curse of Knowledge. Its when someone knows so much about a topic that they forget what its like to NOT know everything about the topic or what the general level of knowledge about the topic is for most people. It makes it really frustrating for everyone. The teacher can't understand why their students don't get such "simple concepts," and the students can't understand the teachers high level jargon.

What I find interesting as someone who has ADHD, is that with it there is more to it than just inattention. It was eye opening knowing that the reason I'm so emotional is because of ADHD making my emotions much more powerful and harder to deal with.

“Hey do you know how to do (puzzle)?” Yeah, so first you flick this lever - *Two hours later* And that’s how you cook a steak.

As a person with ADHD before watching this I must say my body is so ready to feel called out on all my shit for the next 50 mins

“Hmm, I’m bored” “I have work that needs to be done” *proceeds to not do work*

When I was younger I was the type of ADHD to do everything ahead of time. Now I'm the procrastinator. I have to say- former method IS better. Getting it done immediately or last minute is just as stressful, but you get a reprieve once it's done. However if you're procrastinating, the looming stress, dread, and guilt is omnipresent, there's NEVER a break. That being said, both are horrible to go through, and the absolute worst is when other people demand you take it slowly a little at a time and you just CAN'T Btw I'm here still procrastinating a massive college project that's due in 6 hours, I was supposed to spend 2 weeks on it but instead I've spent the past few days constantly TRYING TO work on it, which means that in bulk hours I've spent most of my time NOT working on it but also too stressed (and feeling guilty about stepping away) to eat, sleep, or anything else really

14:39 Ok but imagine going to your doctor and telling him: "Soo, you know how people sometimes do drugs..? And you aren't allowed to tell the police if someone tould you, right..? - Yeah.. so I tried adderall last week on a party and while everyone else around me got super hyper and had lots of fun, I kinda just sat there and had my head empty for the first time. Would you mind testing me for ADHD?" That honestly sounds like such a funny appointment :D

As a kid they put me on Ritalin, sent me to occupational therapy, psych assessments, etc... Almost 40 years later I'm going through old records and discover that my mom _knew_ I had ADD/H (now called ADHD) and a bunch of stuff that's now criteria for Autism, but never _actually told me!_ She let me go out into the world completely ignorant that I had all of these conditions that could have been managed. My life could have been _very_ different and I'm salty about it.

Hell yes, sign me up! "Uh, yes, I'd like to sign up for a week in the Support Terrarium. Why thank you, yes, I will be returning later this year, and would love to get a package deal. Does that come with a free heat rock and misting services?"

The terrarium one is basically a one week trip to grandma's house

as someone with ADHD, I have learned that if you take a night shift at like UPS or something like that, you will not only fix your sleep schedule, but you would have already accomplished so much work by 8am and you can just do whatever you want for the rest of the day without feeling to guilty

"Just try harder", "stop using it as an excuse" and "just push through" are common ableist statements. For ADHD but her other disabilities, too. The worst part is if you hear it enough, you start to internalize it. I have autism, PTSD, and physical disabilities. I'm not lazy, I'm not irresponsible - I'm disabled. Once I accepted that, I opened the path to getting well and having the best life I can.

My foreman (~40/m) and I (26/f) made small talk while working. When I explained that thanks to our current short-time work, I couldn't manage anything at home because I lacked the everyday routine, he suddenly looked at me completely dejected. He told me he had an appointment next week. The thing he hadn't considered: we're on short-time work. We don't work that day. the appointment is in the afternoon. No problem at all for any normal person. But for someone with ADHD, that's impossible. because no matter how much you still have to do around it. Until that date has happened, you are not able to do anything other than wait for it to happen. until then you are completely incapable of anything else. Accordingly, your whole day is ruined. and what did I do when he told me that? I wholeheartedly laughed at him and said something like: "Ohhhhh, your so f*cked" and continued to laugh, dirty. Because I know that pain so well, I could taste it. The suspicion that we have ADHD came to him a few months ago, and to me about 2 years ago. So far only through self-diagnosis, but what else can you do if you have to wait 3 years for an appointment with a therapist? Funnily enough, my work bestie has it too, but she's known about it since she was a child. I love my team at work! my favorite chaotic bunch of people :D

"Accidentally closed a browser window with 20+ tabs opened" This hits too close to home. I closed a window with 60ish tabs last week (My laptop started working again!). Then by today, I had another 40 tabs open. I just went through and purged 30 tabs of things I don't need, and it reminded me of everything I have to do... So I closed them and forgot everything again. And I got to look at all my past hyperfixation-fueled projects that I can't be bothered to finish, like that one song I tried to make, or that story I tried to write, or that research I was doing into singing really low. Yay!

The "Oh sweetie, everyone struggles with that," statement struck true with me. My mom's mom always told her "I wish you have kids JUST like you. Then you'll see what I struggle with." She did. My mom's super awesome though. She did a great job with kids just like her, lmao.

9:00 - I have supported teenagers with additional needs for 14 years. I always work best with the autistic/ADHD students and I just *get* them. It wasn't until MY STUDENTS told me that I need to get assessed that I realised I work so well with them because I *am* them. I now have my ADHD and autism diagnoses, and everything makes so much more sense. I'm not broken or a failure, like I thought I was for almost 30 years. I'm a perfectly wonderful neurodivergent person. I will forever be grateful to my students who said "Liz, when were you diagnosed? What, you haven't been? Well duh, of course you're autistic/ADHD, you're just like me!" My job was to help them access the curriculum in order to learn, but I learned a lot from them too.

as a person with ADD, its like having an old radio in your head. you can find the thoughts but most of it is static and its easy to accidentaly lose them and there almost never clear and hard to hear.

My ADHD superpower is being able to listen to people talking quickly and being able to talk quick myself. I literally sped this up to 2x so that I could finish it before bed. I somehow listen better whenever someone talks quickly.

That less common adhd where you actually really liked learning so you didnt show the typical symptoms in class. Instead you were called 'intelligent and mature' and only had 1 or 2 friends who are exactly like you so no one realized they were infodumping at someone, and the only reason it was ever noticed is because you start counseling because you get panic attacks and your therapist mentions it after exactly 2 sessions but because youre an adult now they dont bother putting you on meds, and now you have to physically hold yourself back from interrupting people constantly at work because you had a thought and youre not going to remember it by the time they stop Tldr: I was really good in school so no one noticed my adhd symptoms until my therapist when I was an adult, and by that point she didn't bother.

I think an incredibly underrated thing about being neurodivergent is when your experience gets trivialized when you try to share it like “I don’t know why I can’t do any household tasks, it’s really hard” and the response is “yeah, it’s hard for everyone just deal with it” and I would be so bold as to say that a lot of undiagnosed neurodivergence is attributed to this.

Aaaahhhh... Yep, I relate to most of these. Two things helped me a lot: 1) actually getting diagnosed and medicated. My experience of being on adhd meds is that it is more of a trade-off than a pure improvement. When the meds are in effect, I have a lot more ability to choose what to focus on, and get a bit less interrupted. But when the meds wear off it is as bad or worse than most of my day without meds. The difference is that without meds I may not have a good part of the day, and if I do it is likely in the afternoon or evening. With meds I actually get stuff done mid-day, but my evenings are hosed... And if I need to do something and take a small dose for some evening work, then I'm just not going to sleep well. It's all about tradeoffs, and knowing how you react. 2) realizing that adhd is more about switching tasks rather than focusing on tasks. For me, if I have no other requirements in life, I can focus on something all day long fairly productively... But life doesn't work that way. A key part of work and home life is limiting what needs to be done. Remove subscriptions, remove weekly clubs and events, remove things that need constant monitoring and adjustments, and set up auto payments and automation wherever possible. Related is only doing certain tasks on certain days. Sundays are for cooking... And I don't think about cooking the rest of the week. Saturday morning is for bills, and I don't think about finances at all the rest of the week. My wife resets the house on Wednesdays (vaccuume, dishes, tidying up, etc) and my day is Saturday... Nothing gets done on the other days lol but as it is all getting done at least twice a week it never gets too terrible. Of course the obvious issue is that if something doesn't get done on its day then it is going to be worse the next week, and it can build a difficult wall to overcome if it builds up too bad. But when it gets done when it is supposed to be done it makes the rest of the week sooooo much easier.

Regarding rest, I had to over years develop the mantra "Rest is good work, too. Rest is good work, too." I still struggle with it but it's always, always, always worth reminding myself.

I don't understand how the click can basically be a therapist giving really good advice, then also being a cursed little goblin within 30 seconds

I feel 100% caught out on the "being a procrastinator but also a perfectionist" point. It's so frustrating. I don't even start doing anything because I think: "Why should I do it, I can't get it done perfectly anyway", and then there's the procrastination. The longer I don't do anything, the more frustrated I get and put off tasks even longer. Until I reach a point where I've had enough and then I do everything I've been putting off. Only to beat myself up afterwards with the question "why didn't you do it straight away?".

I feel the drug buying comments. I was given Adderall in high school to "have a f*cking GREAT time". Yeah, I could just finally think clearly for the first time ever.

If you struggle to remember getting shampoo I recommend always buying two immediately and getting new ones whenever you start your last bottle

My dad always just said I was a very quirky kid growing up and was totally normal. I was diagnosed with ADHD at 25 and now I'm relaying all the adult things I do that correlate and my Dad is just.... checking them off, going, "Yep, me too! You're my daughter all right!" And I'm having this same experience with my Mentor at my job!! Regularly he does things that correlate with that ADHD/autism spectrum color wheel and then says, "I don't think those things are real." My guy, you've got it.

"Are you the ADHD who became really good at planning ahead because your brain made you worried or are you the ADHD who procrastinated until you became vey good at improvising?" really puts into words how the same symptom can result in complete opposite results. I had a friend in college and we both had ADHD. She wrote her entire 20 page research paper in the first three weeks of class. I wrote mine in the last three. Professor was mad at both of us because we were supposed to write it throughout as material was introduced. She has anxiety that causes her to do everything way in advance, I have anxiety that causes me to be burned out from doing absolutely nothing because I can't force/motivate myself to do things that I need to do. We were friends and we bonded over other ADHD things but we could not comprehend how the other did certain things. In my mind I thought it would be easier to have the type where I do everything early, but I didn't really consider her intense anxiety because there's always things that need to be done and she cannot rest until there's nothing to do.

IDK why but somehow this 50 minute video actually make me feel better than the time I waste on therapy for 2 years

What you said about knowing how to do something and knowing how to teach it being different skills is so true. And that people who struggle to learn things are better teachers. We actually do learn that in pedagogy classes. Like famous opera singers have held singing classes and say “idk just like do it it’s easy!” Because it came to them so naturally. You’ll have better luck with someone who worked hard to get where they’re at.

Ah, yes. Another episode of "do I have ADHD/am I autistic, if I relate to memes?"

"most people grow out of ADHD" As far as I'm concerned, that might as well say "most ADHD children are misdiagnosed as having ADHD when they are just acting like a child." Because I knew a lot of "ADHD children" growing up, and none of them were at all similar to me, who had, and still has, ADHD. I'm pretty sure they were just high energy children wrongly diagnosed. I don't think you can grow out of ADHD, I think the symptoms in a child look very similar to the symptoms of being a child.

Me needing to take a shower knowing it will only take literally less than five minutes but playing Minecraft for literal HOURS and this video playing in the background😅

Literally my parents told me "why don't you spend as much time on school as you do with Pokemon?" I'm planning on getting diagnosed with ADHD as soon as I remember to reconnect with my therapist

I struggle with 'waiting mode' and if I had to say why we do it, I think it's because of past experiences of hyperfocus where we forgot to do important things... by hours or days. and then the walks and calls of shame to explain that *no nothing devastating happened, there wasn't a funeral, you weren't sick, you just focused so hard on that video game that you forgot the world existed and didn't eat for 24 hours and also missed your doctor appointment* so now we're like "well it's in 5 hours so I can do nothing but sit here and obsessively check my clock every 5 minutes, productivity is not an option, Only Wait"

I'm neither the ADHDer that got really good at planning OR the kind that procrastinates really bad so I'm good at improv. I'm the ADHDer that plans something, procrastinates on that plan, then can't settle on what to actually do in the moment so I get nothing done, and then do this for _literally my entire life_ to the point that I now get burned out instantly from just THINKING about taking a step. not taking a step like first step to start something mind, no no can't be that simple. I mean _taking a literal step forward._

Once I had to do a presentation in front of the class, and while practicing with someone, I was focusing so hard on looking like I knew what I was saying that I forgot to BLINK. My partner for practicing will never forget the day that I prattled on about a phone stand while staring them in the eye, unblinking, for a full minute and a half.

God, the part about at least trying to make education interesting. When I started school my English teacher was very traditional about teaching, lots of memorizing lists and shit, reading boring books we didn’t get to choose, etc. Then around 5th grade my teacher changed into a strict but cool lady who I had a crush on, and suddenly I turned from a student who would sit down and literally refuse to do the work because the work felt like nails on chalkboard but inside my brain, into top of my class actually interested about cool English language things, all because I suddenly had something to motivate interest: wanting to get the cool teacher's approval. I can’t learn things if I don't have the interest for it motivating me. This is also why I gained an interest in math, physics and chemistry in high school. We finally had a teacher who made those topics interesting. The problem was I had 9 years of formative schooling in sciences that had gone in from one ear and out of the other, so despite my interest I was constantly playing catch up and barely keeping up with the rest of the class. I would have needed private tutoring in the basics to be able to catch up to high school level and there weren’t resources for that.

The continuing daydream thing is literally what I've been doing since i was a kid. It's the same story even now. It's been rewritten several times and new characters are introduced constantly in filler episodes:)

The Click "Oh well you cant take a quick (adhd) test to seriously" Also the Click to about 70% of the ADHD Memes "Oh yeah Me too!"

I am blessed to have a mother who did not give up on getting me diagnosed early and getting all the aids in place that I needed as a child. My only issue as an adult is realizing that that sort of care and support is not available to most people and it sucks.

As someone finally diagnosed with ADHD at 37, getting the Big Sad™ while grieving what could have been is a thing that comes in waves. It's never less sad, but the longer I go on the less off-balance I feel when I look back.

As someone who has ADHD I have a few things 1) Please come back to this subreddit 2) Sometimes (idk if it's for everyone who has it but I know it happens with me) when someone does/says something nice they hold on to it and cherish it because it's a nice thing and don't normally get something nice like that. 3) Fuck I forgot

My dad: oh yeah, I was diagnosed with ADD as a kid, I grew out of it though so you shouldn't be having problems with it. Me, in college with psych major, who's also watched him have executive dysfunction, hyperfocus tendancies, and inattentive behaviors for literal years: tHaT's NoT hOw It WoRkS

Just remember if you’re a parent and you think your kid might have ADHD, PLEASE take them to a medical professional and get a diagnosis. Don’t worry about how you don’t want to label them or how it might not be impacting their life at the moment because there will come a day where it DOES impact them and they NEED accommodations or medications or even just an understanding of what’s going on with them and it is MUCH harder to get the first two when one gets diagnosed later in life. I was one of those kids. My parents knew I had ADHD from a very young age but didn’t get me diagnosed. I breezed past elementary school and was used to not having to work hard to get by, but come middle school my ADHD caught up with me and suddenly I needed accommodations. I wasn’t diagnosed officially until I was 13 and it took me until late senior year in high school to finally be approved for special accommodations. We all regret not getting that diagnosis when I was still in preschool or kindergarten.

A therapist at my school once told me that if im going to stress outif i turn something in early and stress out if i turn something in on time i should just procrastinate in a smart way because it'll feel the same. Procrastination isn't bad as long as the works not rushed. This mentality shift opened my eyes to how much time things actually need and helped me realize how much i was worrying about procrastinating and putting myself down from it when i didn't need to be.

How to teach your body that your flight/fight response is NOT for emails, etc: suck on a piece of sour candy while doing the task that causes stress/panic. Why it works: The sourness will force your mouth to make saliva, which is not a part of the flight/fight response, so your brain then goes "oh shit. We got spit, we're supposed to be in relax mode. Let's calm down the body." This is backed by health psychology, from research in the 2023 textbook, I did simplify it tho. Plus, then you get to eat candy while you do the task, so it is extra motivation.

44:10 reminded me of my uncle: he just absolutely couldn't wrap his head around why you can't just mix x and x² with each other. He'd be in literal tears doing homework until my mum erased the x's and wrote m & m² and he immediately went:"you can't add metres and square metres to each other, they're not the same" and then it clicked. Sucks when schools keep everything to such a theoretical level that kids can't grasp basics.

Oh, that maths thing… I used to want to scream at my maths teachers: “Don’t tell me the same words but slower. I don’t get it. Use different words!” Instead, I just cried in class.

Diagnosed AuDHD person here. Thing i learned in 25 years. Sometimes you put shit off until you cabt handle it anymore. Or you somehow you disassociate so hard you manage to force yourself into doing things.

5:29 Not me writing "Had Breakfast and meds" and "got dressed" on my to-do list for that extra boost of "I did something vaguely human today!"

Average person: But Click! The brain is the most advanced and complicated part of the human body! Click, an intellectual: IT'S STUPID!!! Me, an idiot: The brain is stupid, because it's too complicated.

Not really about ADHD, but just about the intro. It's been one of my biggest wish to be mentioned by you, and digging through your youtube videos, trying out the other meme videos instead of what I usually watch, I found you mentioning me in here. Thank you so much Click, after I was informed from a friend about this, I started watching through other videos and I found my name being mentioned in this video. Again, thank you so much Click

In regards to people mentioning you're a great teacher, I have my own experience with this! When I was in 3rd-8th grade, I was basically in a special needs school. In 7th Grade (I think? Maybe 6th Grade), my math teacher, Mr. Dice, decided that since I seemed to understand the material so well, and I was rather eager to do so, I could teach the class sometimes. I wanted to be a teacher of the type of Math we were learning because I understood it very well and enjoyed it. My other classmates eventually expressed that they preferred it when I taught them, versus when Mr. Dice taught them because, apparently, I taught them in a way they ALL could understand the material. Mr. Dice only really taught one way. I would teach that way and if someone needed help, not only was I more approachable as a peer and therefore they felt more comfortable asking me, but I specifically chose a different way of explaining it if they didn't understand it the first time.

Click: "Ah, you must be my 1:00." Me: **glances to the clock on the microwave that reads **2:13**** "... Ah shit."

That course about abusive relationships is an critically important idea. Not only can it help people recognise, get out of, and stay out of abusive relationships, it can help potentially abusive partners be more aware that their flags are indeed red, and that maybe they need to analyse themselves. Obviously won't fix everyone, but if it helps even one person out of thousands realise their behaviour is abusive, then it's worth it.

It's getting more and more clear for me that I either have ASD, ADHD or both with each day that goes by

I don’t have/ am not ADHD and I have no one in my friends group with it so today I found out that what little I believed I knew about ADHD is not fully correct. To me it was a “thing that makes you fidget around in school and makes you unable to concentrate”. This was nice to watch because I got to see what it’s generally more like for you guys with it without it being an unaffected doctor speaking about it in the foreign tongue of stuff I don’t understand

3:17 Grow out of it? I was told pretty much the opposite. You don't grow out of it, it just matures into an entirely new beast. Yeah, I'm not really that hyperactive anymore, but now I'm stuck with extreme executive disfunction. When I was a kid, I could reliably get myself to complete an assignment for school. I almost never skipped my homework. Around the time I was in college, though, I stopped being able to do that. Tl;dr: ADHD doesn't go away as you get older, it just changes.

"Tell me, do you ever struggle with procrastination?" Me: "I'm procrastinating by watching this video, so yes I do."

I love these videos because it gives me the chance to disassociate, because I can’t talk about anything “abnormal” without it devolving into it being a crutch/curable thing.

First time I met my fiancé's mom, she mentioned that she drinks decaf coffee because "caffeine wakes you up, but it doesn't help you focus". I just stared at her in confusion because it's been? The opposite for me? My entire life??? Got diagnosed a couple months later.

Shh... don't tell them about the fact that at least a fifth of our attic is filled with empty boxes we might (MIGHT!!) never need again...

I’ve only recently had a diagnosis of ADHD confirmed after my psychologist flagged it and referred me to a psychiatrist a year ago. I’m 54. And a teacher. I had believed I suffered from major depressive disorder for years, but have now have a diagnosis of: bipolar (II), ADHD, and level 1 Autism thrown in (yay!) When going through the ADHD checklist I was in stitches - most of the points would be considered by my friends and family as defining my personality 🙄. Most of them I was pretty relentlessly teased for - mostly friendly, but degrading just the same. I’ve been reprimanded at work for being there at 2:00am on a Sunday - previous principals hadn’t cared - and I was seriously shocked. That’s pretty much how I always worked. The catatonic state looking at the phone was hilarious: since watching Click is my latest obsession, I’ve been watching the videos from 2 years ago for about 3-4 hours per day. This morning after taking Ritalin, I watched for 20min over breakfast, then thought: I’d better get doing things and actually did 😮. I’ve even waited until after dinner to respond. Of course the Ritalin’s worn off now and I’ve been reading comments for an hour and a half 😕

Why is this so relatable (Not to mention i will have a 2 hour conversation but as soon as the conversation ends forget everything)

I was diagnosed with dyslexia, dyspraxia and ADD when I was 31. My daughter (who is also now 31) was diagnosed with ADHD, dyslexia and dyspraxia when she was 8, the year after my diagnosis. I felt so bad watching her test and knowing it was my fault. I’m now 55 and it seems to get worse all the time. I think my biggest problem is procrastination. It’s like being frozen on the spot for hours, then having to cram everything in at the last minute. It doesn’t make sense that I have a brain so fast, that it functions amazingly when I’m flying by the seat of my pants. But at other times, too many mundane tasks that need completion means I complete none of them. Sometimes I don’t even start them in the first place. I also hyper focus on things I find interesting, but don’t help me in the long run as I don’t do the things I need to do. I’m also fighting the urge to add in a load of parentheses. I have never received any treatment, but I have an appointment with my doctor in two weeks. Hopefully a normal amount of dopamine will fix my broken brain. I think every adult with ADHD/ADD should receive appropriate treatment and know they are not alone. I wonder sometimes how different my life would have been if I’d received treatment at any point really, but especially during childhood.

I remember when I first spoke to a GP about being possibly ADHD (now diagnosed) I mentioned that there was a boy medicated and diagnosed with ADHD in my class in primary school, but we were completely different. He looked me in the eye and told me that my lived experience of ADHD, doesn't mean that his is wrong, and it doesn't mean I don't have it. It affects people differently, and one doesn't negate the other. He also said that if there was a child shouting out, running round the room, just being the stereotypical ADHDer, the girl daydreaming and constantly swinging on her chair, but managing to not only do her classwork, but be performing above expectation was never going to be clocked as ADHD. I am now diagnosed, with a degree under my belt and and an offer to start my MA in September. I can also read through books like my life depends on it, but can I remember basic poop, like to do the washing up, or to eat? Nope. Currently meant to be doing my meal planning and such for the week, as well as packing for a trip away, and tidying up for a guest coming round, so what am I doing? Watching videos on ADHD memes whilst mentally telling myself to just "DO THE THING", love my brain at times.

3:36 as a late disgnosed ADHDer, I can confirm: it gets worse as you become an adult. We just get better at pretending we're "normal" so that when the issues finally pile up or become too much and bubble over people in our lives think we're just lazy and unmotivated. 🙃

When you were talking about the fact on how you built an entire universe by daydreaming it actually made me think on how my whole Collab and the whole entire universe of the PX crew and Nina came to be because of the one time I daydreamd "what if they sent a restoration crew to restore the mega pizzaplex?" Cause now the px universe is completely being built by me and a small group of nerudivergets who hyper fixate on indie games like hell the foundation of it was all cause of FNAF-

I know it's just Reddit and you should take everything said on here with a nice big grain of salt, but this has been... so incredibly validating because I'VE JUST BEEN THINKING I'M CRAZY OR JUST STUPID FOR MOST OF MY LIFE.

"I have a whiteboard with things that need replacement" *eyes flicker to my whiteboard with the things I need to buy*

36:54 "When you have regret for things in the future." Ah yes, pregret, the regret of things that have yet to happen. Pregret should be the word we use for this imo.

11:22 what's even better is that because of the current focus medication shortage, I have been swapped from extended release to one that is effectively half of that time So, I'd normally go a whole school day on just one pill, but now, the pill I'm on I have to take twice a day. Twice a day. During a very busy and hectic school schedule. Where there is already enough going on, and occupying my mind. I never took it twice a day last semester, where I got lucky with there only being art classes during the later portion of the days. I'm not that lucky now, and, obviously, am NOT taking it when I really should be for what is probably my hardest class this semester :)

Now I REALLY NEED a video where Click explains differential equations and a few other math concepts I've never understood.

Both my spouse and I are ADHD, our two oldest kids are ADHD, and your youngest is level 3 autistic. Nobody's sensory regulation is ever on the same page. No matter how hard i try organization is not to be found around here.

My ADHD is the, be an overly energetic and annoying kid and get socially ostracized, barely calm down during puberty, be smart enough to develop coping mechanisms for academics but not socially, have no friends through any school including college, and now as a medicated adult have massive social anxiety because I didn't have the same number of years / opportunities for socialization that my peers did -type.

Yippee! I procrastinate too much to feel feelings properly, and when they finally catch up to me, I get a quiet mental breakdown, but I have managed to mask it, but the problem with that is if someone tries to interact with me I get unnecessarily mean and overprotective, but it really is just me feeling everything at once so i dont have to feel it later.

My daughter was diagnosed with ADHD as soon as she entered kindergarten. She tried to climb the fence and escape😂. I have borderline personality disorder. When people hear that, they think Jodi Arias. What it really is is feeling unloved and terrified of being unlovable, trying too hard sometimes and being extremely prone to be in an abusive relationship because you don't recognize what the boundaries should be and don't want to set any because you're afraid they will leave you so you trick yourself into thinking somehow everything will be all right until you realize how far out of normal things have become and you have a psychotic break, during which he leaves you. Then you sit in your bed for 3 days contemplating.... doing bad things..... before you finally go back to your therapy group after 6 months with blue hair, realizing that the hole inside yourself will always be there and the only thing you can ever do is learn how to cope with it in healthy ways. Or maybe that's just me.

So true. Every. Single. One. However, a tweak I've made: If I find something I've been looking for, I've started just leaving it in the spot I found it in instead of "putting it in a safe place" because I always remember the original spot but never the "safe place" spot. Seems to work pretty well....until my also ADHD husband comes around and moves it unbeknownst to me to "clean up", and then promptly forgets he even touched it. The struggle is SO real 😅

I had the sudden realization the reason i love learning new random facts is that i get a dopamine hit from it and then again when i share the info. Thanks for helping me figure that one out. Lol

Recently my inner monologue has been Click because I’ve been watching his videos a lot, it also makes it more fun to read things and all the sudden it’s like “ok today we’re gonna read this in Clicks voice because it makes it fun.”