“She laughed at my son when he lost at monopoly” Yeah, so? Seems like they were enjoying each other’s company and having a good time. OP in that story is such a nitpicker and is just looking for reasons to start drama. 😬
Common sense: if you do not wish for any your close personal relationships to be utterly obliterated, *then DO. NOT. PLAY. EFFING. MONOPOLY.* nuff said lol
I think she wants her son in an arranged marriage with a girl who will worship and obey her, give her many grandbabies, and who will keep the son nearby. After all, if he gets completely serious and marries her he could choose to move to her home town and then he would be out of mommy's reach
@@japanpanda2179 I think she thinks she's well meaning, but she's actually being pretty racist and very disrespectful to her son and her son's girlfriend.
@Ethan Roberts it's kind of like saying "I'm not saying you were raped because you wore a dress but if you wouldn't have it would've helped the guy not to do so"
Second story: Those “friends” are assholes for telling that person to “Let it go”. His ex girlfriend slandered him on RU-vid. She was ruining his life. Glad he won the lawsuit. He was right to link to the court rulings as well.
Princess Marlena That OP should get new friends, like how Slazo cut those other youtubers (excluding EmKay, they were very understanding) out of his life after where they stood in the controversy.
10:20 "maybe if you stop wearing these clothes people will stop sexually harassing you" that's it. That's how she sounds. She's literally victim blaming her boyfriend.
1: “more suited to our family” she’s not dating your family sweetie she’s dating your son. 2: deformation of character is a crime. Your ex could have ruined you. 3: since no property damage was done, nope your garden your property. 4: sounds more like you need to do something about your daughter not your boyfriend. Therapy sounds like a good idea. 5: What about your daughter? Where’s her support? That said disrespect is disrespect so she should have been grounded for the comments but you need to support your daughter more
1) Very true in the modern world, but "traditionalists" disagree. In some current cultures, and in olden days Western culture, it's common for the family to come along during courting. (No, I don't agree with those traditionalists, I just acknowledge their viewpoint.) 2) Defamation, not deformation. Two completely different concepts. (Think "fame" and "form". One is reputation, other is body.) But totally agreed with what you meant! 3) Landlord is pissed because they didn't get the free upgrade they were expecting. But yeah, it is OP's property, so hasta la taco. 4) Agreed. So glad she's getting the daughter into therapy. 5) That's a good point. Daughter is gonna reach out to anyone who'll support her, and it might wind up getting her into trouble. Parents need to fix this before it turns into something bigger than Vans and a haircut.
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If OP in the second story got texts from strangers messages means she put his name in a video without his consent assuming she shared his info after the breakup which I am 1000% sure is against the law and YT’s rules. 10/5 buttholes for OP’s Ex. -3/5 buttholes for OP.
Soggy Garlic bread that would not be as messed up but still messed up bc she said his real name assuming she didn’t say his name on YT when they were together.
2:40: Yeah, but this can have side-effects, yeah? Imagine if Kids not listening and parents 'not being allowed to vocalize' were the Rule; it would effectively make Parents helping or saving their Kids from Bad Relationships and overall Mistakes? So yeah, dont oversimply this, alright?
I actually had a friend who took a back yard that was mostly weeds and dirt and turned it into a beautiful garden. When they moved she took about 80% of the plants and even the goldfish pond they'd installed. Their landlord was in a similar situation and demanded they restore the yard to its original condition. . . so they went back, took the remainder of the plants and took up all the sod they'd paid for and put down. They left the back yard barren with nothing but weeds and dirt. The original condition. It was awesome.
0:42 - "She didn't know a lot about her Maori heritage and family, which I find hard to believe." What? Why? There are millions of people in the world who don't know many things about their family and culture. Many people, especially POC, don't have records of their ancestry due to colonialism and things like that. How is it "hard to believe"? Not everyone has the same experience as you, Karen. Do you have the records of your great great great great grandma? Sorry, but this just really ticked me off as a mixed person who doesn't know anything about half of my family, the only reason being that there is no info on it.
Also mix here. Perhaps she also doesn't want to know anything about that side of her family? Or doesn't have any ties with them whatsoever? My surname always raises many eyebrows. I had people come up to me and speak in a different language because they heard the name and thought I was one of them. The worst is they are actually offended when I tell them that I don't speak their language. Not my fault that my ancestor, who I never even met, left their country in search of a better life.
I’m not mixed. I know some stuff about my family. I even grew up in africa for most of my childhood but I don’t speak the language. I’m just more in touch with the British side of myself and that’s that. If someone played 21 questions with me about my heritage I’d be hella uncomfortable.
lumiinescence ...I know nothing about my Mothers side past my grandparents. They never wanted to talk about it with my Mom, their daughter, and we knew nothing. Mom figured it was a bad childhood or something. It was during the depression. So nope. I know squat about my Moms heritage.
@@Allmight_Kitty Native American heritage here (Dad's side of the family and I are all on the registry, not some .0005% bs). However, I was raised by my Mother (white). I'm not sure I DO want to learn about that side of my ancestry because my father was an abusive alcoholic, as was his father, and so on - but even if I did, I wouldn't be able to. Unfortunately, thanks to colonialism, a lot of tribes like mine have high rates of depression and alcoholism, which I think became endemic to the men on my dad's side. And in any case, my immediate ties are now dead or NC due to these reasons above. I will probably never know anything about that side of my family or their culture. There's so many different reasons, and I can only imagine my boyfriend's mum, who is a Super Karen, confronting me about this. She already hates me!
Thank you! There are a lot of people in the comments who don't seem to understand that Maori are a race of people here in NZ and that we aren't all Maori, nor do they all have super strong connections to their iwi or heritage.
2:40: Yeah, but this can have side-effects, yeah? Imagine if Kids not listening and Parents 'not being allowed to vocalize' were the Rule; it would effectively make Parents helping or saving their Kids from Bad Relationships and overall Mistakes? So yeah, dont oversimply this, alright?
Two responses from different accounts with the same time-stamp and the same response? @Loturzel Restaurant & @Slevin Channel, automatically assuming malicious intent in others actions that you barely know isn't a good thing. While this was during OP's first time meeting her son's girlfriend, that doesn't mean she cannot be concerned, but her response was out of line. She could have raised her concerns about her son's relationship dynamic with him without being rude, but what was said did not come off as concern, but controlling. And I say this as someone who has been in an abusive relationship where my mother tried to help me see the abuse. She didn't try to control me, she only ever showed me her concern, and while it took me time, I'm grateful she didn't do anything that would have pushed me away while trying to save me from my abuse. But this mother is assuming the worse from a single interaction, one in which she already proved to be biased in from the way she talked about the girlfriend. She's looking for reasons to criticize the girlfriend and break up their relationship.
I feel so sorry for the daughter in story 4. She's likely got C-PTSD and has a screwed up perspective on relationships as a result. I hope she gets some good therapy and can heal from her trauma.
I mean it's okay for a parent to point out if they see any real red flags (bruises popping up where they didn't use to, increased anxiety, seeing gaslighting, ect.). But yeah if it's just 'I don't think she fits our family image!' then that's just a Karen move.
13thMaiden, I agree. But things like telling them to end a relationship because of religion and the fact that “she would ruin the family image” are just stupid. However what you said is 100% true.
Hi, I think you might have made a mistake! I think instead of “on the parents” you meant “not the parents”. If I am wrong I am sorry and please ignore this comment :-)
The son loves the girl, the girl loves the son, the girl isn't taking advantage of the son, the son isn't taking advantage of the girl, then it's fine. being an atheist into fashion that makes jokes isn't a dealbreaker.
The father in the last story is a straight up enabler of his wife super precious attitude. The daughter is rebelling which is normal and the wife is taking it as a personal front.
Yeah I kinda hate pushovers like him. They enable this typical Karen-like behavior and continue where Karen's parents have already failed and the rest of us have to endure the Karen-tantrums.... The only positive thing is that people get to tell outragous storys about them for entertainment.
Lacey is the mom. Madison is the daughter, and a minor. Sorry, but no. The mom maybe a drama queen, but if she didnt want her daughter to cut or dye her hair, her daughter should respect her wishes while underage and under her roof. Lash out at 18. That's what I did. Not to mention, she is to respect her mom period. That's the worst thing about her mom is worrying about how she looks? Even though her mom still makes sure she is fed, housed, clothed, clean, and healthy? Wow. Show some respect to your mom. Dont talk back and insult her. And yes, dad totally should be backing up mom. By not backing up mom, it creates problems with authority in the house hold. Kids start to think they dont have to listen to mom because dad doesnt. Or vise versa. That's not how parenting works. Even if you disagree, you should have each others backs and support each others parenting strategies. And this of course when abuse isnt part of the parenting tactic. Dad may disagree with mom about the hair, but he should still support mom regardless, as she should support him with issues he doesnt approve. Or at least talk about it away the kids. If you cant co parent and teach your kids to respect both parents, then you shouldnt have kids. Sorry, but no. Mom and dad are not in the wrong, daughter is. Just out of curiosity, how many agree with "my house, my rules?"
@@Rhaenarys not me. Everyone has different rules and some can be fucked up and cross the line. Not so much here though but I'm sure you can think of examples of people taking that my house my rules way too far.
"AITA for grilling my son's new girlfriend-" I had to read that twice because it sounds macabre. Please tell me i'm not the only one who thought that he literally grilled her, served her and then said "i do not approve"? I just woke up, still haven't had my coffee :v
The last story reminds me of how my parents acted. My dad would always take my stepmom's side when I got into an argument with her and did nothing when she started an argument. I felt he betrayed me. In my opinion op in the last story should try to be better towards being a better father than just focusing on being a better husband
Well he straight up said his wife is his favorite person in the world so it sounds like he doesn't give 2 f-s what his daughter thinks. Imagine a grown adult being comforted for hours and your child being told to comfort herself. Sounds like some narc parents. I bet the 16 year old is the golden one.
The amount of arrogant self-righteous "influencers" out there, particularly YT/Twich/Insta is ridiculous. The YT'er was probably banging other people too, as is often the case. I mean, anyone remember the whole Katerino thing?
Yeah she was posting slander and if op was getting messages from strangers that means she gave out his personal info just to get more followers and support.
My father once told my mother that if necessary he’d push her off a cliff to save his kids when she asked him what he’d do if someone told him to push her or us kids off a cliff lol she was very happy at his response and said he damn well better. I think it’s better to be a good parent than spouse if given the choice
Most definitely. Assuming you have kids at 18, with the same life expectancy You will live X years, your kids will live X+18 years. even more important if multiple kids
2:40: Yeah, but this can have side-effects, yeah? Imagine if Kids not listening and parents 'not being allowed to vocalize' were the Rule; it would effectively make Parents helping or saving their Kids from Bad Relationships and overall Mistakes? So yeah, dont oversimply this, alright?
@@Justaperson354 I found another account that said something veeery similar, even writing the same timestamp, under several comments, mine included, around 10 minutes ago. I think they're a bot/spam account
"She has no business talking about her mom like that." Yeah, I gotta disagree with you there. I think about parents/children the same way I think about employers/employees. Call them out on their bs, if they're really worth you investing your time into, they'll listen. If they aren't, be better than them and when you can; move on without them.
@@loturzelrestaurant 1. your 2:40 timestamp doesn't link to anything particularly useful. 2. "when you can; move on without them." that's as complicated as it needs to be. 3. You used the word "yeah" three times, when you didn't even need to use it once, what's the deal? You sound like those kids who end their statements with "So.... yeah" like they think it doesn't make them sound ike they have no clue what they're talking about.
*Oh No, my little angel is dating a somewhat average girl who has a few minor inconveniences in life, he should let ME choose who he likes to spend his life with*
It is natural to want the best for your child. Mom wasn't impressed. I get that. Mom sounds more upset that the son is turning his back on her faith and the girl is definitely part of that.
@MyUshyGushyBussy Sounded more like the veto was the main thing. Obviously neither of us know what was actually the case here. If my daughter bring home a piece of trash, I am going to suggest she tries again. A bad marriage can destroy a person's life. Parents are sort-of invested in seeing their child not ruin their lives. So many people all all for murder of the pre-born because because taking care of that might be an inconvenience for someone just starting out. A bad marriage can be so much worse. How is murder widely acceptable, but "Please try again" is abhorrent?
I feel for the 2nd story. My wife of 3 years and whom I've known for 10 years is hated by my mother. My mother thinks she's the devil and is leading me towards a path of destruction. We barely talk and just recently I've cut contact completely. I just don't understand why others can't let others be happy.
Wow. My wife and I were very lucky, I guess. Her parents liked me (even if they were a little suspicious of me at first. Fair enough, I'm suspicious.) and my mother loved her. Plus, our mothers got along like peas in a pod. It weirds me out that other people have troubles like this.
I'm sorry, Rusty. My own mother is the single most judgmental, hyper-conservative I know, but even SHE knows not to bad-mouth my boyfriends, especially when I was younger. And believe me, I brought home some REAL losers. One in particular, upon hearing I had finally dumped him, she said "OH THANK GOD" and poured us both a glass of wine. 😂 She knew that if she tried to make me break up with him, it'd just drive me further into his arms.
This is so true, my grand parents long story short had practically lived their lifenyjrough my parents (inviting their friends out and getting upset when they didn't get to go out with them ect) and then sued my parents business when they moved to Florida out of jealousy
About the last story: Wife: Gets foot massage and comfort for 1 hour. Daughter: Probably cries on a pillow for 1 hour. When OP asks his daughter for help, she wont be there, and then he will ask what did he do wrong...
He openly said he was on her side for the hair, and at the time he needed to calm the wife down, how many times has he most likely taken the side if the daughter?
@@jamesstark1534 That's the thing: He SAID on Reddit he's on his daughter's side regarding the hair change, but based on how he explained things, I got the impression that he didn't actually tell his daughter that.
@@skyrask1948 She probably cried for the fact that her dad abandoned their children for hours because his wife thinks her daughter "is changing". Cmon dude, she is a TEENAGER, changing is what they do! Treating that as abnormal is self-destructive for the family and will drift their relations apart.
That first story made me sad. That girl could’ve been trying really hard to look good for the family and might be sad now. Big 👎 for the mom for not being supportive of their relationship.
“more suited to our family” I never understood that line like, she’s not dating your family she’s dating your son. And not everyone knows everything about their family heritage
@@Kendricklamard I'm pretty sure the ex is mars argo. i could be wrong and i most likely am but i think i saw a video like that. and thats what it says on google....
Wow. My ex girlfriend is a youtuber (I'm in a few of her videos) and she made a vlog a week after our breakup saying she was sad but that we both knew it was for the best, then later took it down because she thought it put me in a bad light even though it really didn't and I was fine with her video. Why someone would try to make a wrongful claim about their ex is ridiculous, and to put it on RU-vid to gain subscribers is even worse.
That daughter has daddy issues now, and first one older man (the coach) took advantage of that and then she sought it from another older man (the BF) and got denied. She needs therapy.
for parents like the first one: 1. only stick your nose into your children's relationships if their s/o seems toxic and could bring harm to your child. ex: not for dumb reasons like their education and family members. they're dating your child, not you. if they're happy then just leave them alone.
The thing is that the Karen probably things that the girlfriend not being religious and laughing when the son lost would be "causing my precious harm" because "he needs a good Catholic girl that understands the man is the ruler of the house".
Imagine if Kids not listening and Parents 'not being allowed to vocalize' were the Rule; it would effectively make Parents helping or saving their Kids from Bad Relationships and overall Mistakes? So yeah, dont oversimply this, alright?
The man who wears the suits, to me it sounds as if the daughter has a thing for him. Mom needs to set some boundaries for the girl, and all of them could use some therapy.
Unfortunately, a common trauma response for childhood sexual abuse is hypersexuality. It is likely that she has boundary confusion due to the sex abuse inflicted on her while she was hurting and manipulated after the death of her father. Poor kid :/
Honest to god, it sounded like a TV stereotypical Jewish mother. "You don't know about your heritage? Well, my people suffered in the desert. Fashion? Why can't you get a respectable job like my son! You'll never be a good mother with that mouth on you! Oh my god, you don't love your parents, what kinda girl doesn't have a great family life!? I tell you what kind of girl, one that's not good enough for my bubby!" You're reading this in a thick accent too, I can tell.
Garden story: When I saw the title, I was like "Well, if you own the place, then yeah because that's part of the value of it." But then they revealed that they rent and the landlord was just trying to get free labor for a better value, so no. OP is not the asshole, the landlord totally is.
It sounds to me like the communication was pretty damn bad. OP could've approached his landlord and asked him for a fair sum for the stuff and the time sunk in bevore removing the garden without communicating it. In that case the misunderstanding would've been clear. If landlord doesn't give a fair price then it's only fair to remove all that stuff, as long as you don't damage the backyard and leave it back as good as it was. But otherwise OP would've saved the time it took to remove all that stuff and got new stuff for his new backyard. Its a win win. OP can get more fitting new stuff for your new backyard and saves time, landlord gets more money. Although it does kindof sound like the landlord was trying to exploit and wouldn't have offered a fair recompensation. So could've ended the same way.
@@9SMTM6 OP seemed more than willing and even happy to remove everything. I don't think they perceived literally any loss, even time. Edit: And yes, the landlord was trying to get free landscaping. The landlord would not have paid for the garden, it just would've been giving them a heads up of what was about to happen.
@@9SMTM6 The landlord knew what the yard was when OP moved in, so HE should have asked about the garden stuff and made an offer. Why is it her responsibility to tell him, "Hey, by the way, I'm moving ALL of my property." The analogy about furniture is spot on. If potential buyers saw OP's couch in photos and landlord says it's included in the buy, should he have the right to be mad when she moves it to her new place? Do you know how long it takes to cultivate plants? Maybe she didn't want to start over and just wanted the stuff she specifically bought for herself.
The OP with the Suit Boyfriend: YTA The OP is blaming her boyfriend and his clothing for something HER DAUGHTER IS DOING WRONG. There was an art piece, I believe it was called "What Were You Wearing?", that displayed the clothing various people wore the night they were sexually assaulted--some of them even worn by children. I believe several men also donated their clothing to this exhibit too. It's very unnerving.
that dude was willing to act as a therapist for his gf's daughter...i really respect that. the daughter's behavior seems to stem from being a traumatized not-even-20-y/o kid, so i rly hope they can get thru this together as a family bc the man seems like a wonderful person and the daughter deserves to heal
".....and that, dear children, is how Karens are made." **puts Story Book away** Yeah I wish that was just a story, but yeah every Karen needs their enabler.
I can totally feel for the girlfriend in the first story. Being a Kiwi myself and also what you would call a "half cast", not sure she is but I'm going to make the assumption. I was raised mostly with my Maori father's side of the family which is huge. My Mother's pakeha/English side of the family is quite small and I would only spend time with them on the odd occasion. I feel quite uncomfortable talking about that side of my family as the history and stories my mother told me were not the greatest. So yeah l can understand why she wouldn't be comfortable talking about a certain side of her heritage, even if it's opposite. And as for the religious side, New Zealand as a whole is pretty open and accepting, I can only recall of one of my long term friends that is religious. It's just not a huge thing for us as a nation I guess. We like to question everything and make up our own minds. 🤷🏽
I laughed when I heard her say the NZ girl made ‘crude jokes’. Of course she did! That’s one of the best things about hanging out with kiwis. They actually have a sense of humour and don’t take themselves too seriously. This ‘well-traveled’ woman obviously didn’t speak to any New Zealander outside the service industry.
@@savageostrich472 Same boat different ocean I absolutely hate it when Catholic people act that way and say it's what God wanted no what God wants is peace between mankind and even if you feel that way don't vocolise it
the first story literally boiled down to: "So I sat my son down and told him that his life needs to be fitted around mine and he got kind of offended? Am I in the wrong here?" ..yes yes, why is this a question? why are you like this? how did you think this was acceptable?
@@7up706 I moved to Russia to be with the woman of my dreams, ( my mom is not religious is the only difference) and she has shunned me ever since. Brief synopsis of that.
The first thing I thought when I heard that first one was "are we in the 1800s or something??". That dude literally acts like a character straight from a Jane Austen novel, and NOT in a good way! Leave your damn son alone to date whoever he wants man, you're not the freaking Lord of the castle!
@@naranciaisbestboi125 Ikr. She was probably pissed that her son wasn't dating a nice Catholic girl. Probably has the view that the man is the ruler of the house and so it was bad that the girlfriend laughed because it "shows disrespect to the male of the house" by that most people in that mindset thinks.
After he and his girlfriend broke up, he pretended she was dead as a publicity stunt. He even went as far as to say that her final wish was that HIS second channel got to 1 million subs.
the last story, i feel like the daughter has been wanting to say that for a while. My parents babied each other rather then us during a pretty tumultuous time in our lives, i will never forgive either of them for the feeling of neglect that it instills.
that woman telling her boyfriend to dress different for her daughter is literally the same as having girls dress different because guys can control themselves
I love the last one, can be a quote: "treat your family like family members and not like enemies." Most people sadly don't really do that anymore, and why it hit me so much was cause most people do that everyday.
Oof, that first story. The SO's mom was like that when we first started dating, only really open about it all. Surprise surprise, her son (who I've been with for almost 15 years in October) has really drifted away from her and we live about 6 states away now and she rarely sees her 8-year-old granddaughter. Don't be an ass to your kids SOs, you never know where the relationship might turn out.
The first post definitely gave me some "Legally Blonde" vibes. Here's hoping our Kiwi GF goes on to be the best damn fashion lawyer the world has ever seen.
This is the only RU-vid channel where I tolerate having 3-5 ads. He has a kid now, and actually works hard. Although he just narrates stories on Reddit, he does it with a passion and not with a robot voice. He’s so genuine and I’m happy for rslash. He seems he’s successful in life! I’m really happy for you! Also, I just realized I just came from the episode where you cried and looked at the ads on this video. And that’s why I commented like this.
For the first story I was going to on first starting to listen say NTA because sure, especially for a person from outside the country, for a parent it would be natural to find out some idea of who they are and what their plans were. But oh my GOD did she take it way too far, some of her questions were way over the boundary line for what's appropriate and saying that he should break up and find a girl from HER church is controlling as f'k. Totally TA.
Imagine being in a family where the mother and wife is more of a child than the 14year old daughter. At 14 the daughter sounds like she's developing her own identity as an individual. Good on her. The wife sounds like she's just salty because she doesn't have her own doll that she can manipulate into a mini me. Welcome to the world of parenting teenagers. The whole situation is going to get worse before it gets better.
Okay, 12:46, this is the best way she could've handled this situation. I don't really blame her daughter, (griefs manifests in weird ways), but these parents seem really mature so good for them.
I'm a Christian who doesn't like going to church. I don't need judgmental hypocrites and a heavily-edited book to tell me how to have a relationship with God. Not all Christians go to church, and not all church-goers are truly Christian. OP is clearly in the latter group, or she wouldn't focus so much on superficial aspects of her son's gf!
For that first one she is basically saying “am I the butthole for not letting my son be with a woman who had no control over her birth, wants to persue her passion, and happens to not be the same religion as me”
In the first story that "set him up with someone from my church" didn't only raise a major red flag for me. It also made all my inner alarms blare off at the same.
The last one reminds me so much of my mom growing up. My dad was awful and he would say you're on their side too much so she would just stick to his side and it's like there's no sides We were children.
Started watching your videos a few weeks ago after my fiance showed me your channel and now our free time is spent listening to the wonders of reddit lol
Not too virgin but you are kinda dumb....which is probably why you're still a virgin. They're moving in together next year isn't code for anything.....it just means they're moving in together next year
Lopez The Heavy Thank you! You are the first person to say that actually .I am sorry but I can’t say something about yours... I don’t know what it is , sorry 😅
11:40 I just want to say to NEVER use a normal person (not a actual therapist) as a private therapist, I do recommend if you do think you need a therapist to tell someone like your parents or close friends or family, but once you tell them GET A FRICKING THERAPIST. People are normally not able to help you with all the stuff you are going through. I understand some people out there need help, but seek that help from someone that can help you with your problems. BTW most of what I said is from Jaiden animations' video so here you go! ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-4H9jTQKmR3Q.html
Your comment is hitting me so hard right now because I am literally in this situation. I'm 21 and my mental health is crap but a 17 year old boy who lives across the ocean has basically adopted me as his sister and therapist. He doesn't trust his family, authority figures, or paid professionals. I am currently begging him to see someone because he cut himself for the first time last week and he literally changed schools to escape bullying and then got bullied anyway and I am out of advice to give. He's all no, no, I'll be fine, I'd feel uncomfortable seeing someone, I'm supposed to solve my problems myself, but bro you LITERALLY SAID you think your problems are unsolvable, and you feel like absolute shit if I tell you I can't handle your problems My parents think he's taking advantage of me whether he means to or not, and as of tonight I've resolved to be a broken record until he looks to someone more qualified to help him, but I'm having no luck at all yet
Yep, just as I finished typing the previous comment he messaged "I'm making you worry." Will I have any luck if I tell him "but you know what would make me stop worrying? You seeing a therapist or a support group!"? any hope I have now is probably irrational, but I'd better fucking send that message anyway!
