OP's parents in the first story are absolute monsters. OP should cash out the money, get the most expensive possible funeral arranged for himself and then give any remaining money to other relatives or some charity. Disgusting behaviour. My heart is breaking for that poor guy.
It’s not his responsibility to finance his parents especially since they’ve done little to help him. I hope he uses the money to live the rest of the his days in comfort with a grand funeral! Leave the parents with pocket change. Heck! Even while living with them and unemployed he is still financially assisting them
Right. If the parents had been at least caring above the bare minimum, and instead of the money, they'be all about how to spend the rest of the time remaining with OP, their SON, then I could better understand him wanting to help them out. But the fact that they're already going on about what they spend the money on, jeeezzz... NTA OP, you do with your money, whatever you like! Live a little while you can.
I remember a previous story where a much older guy, who was on his way out, overheard his entire family talking about how they couldn't wait for him to die so they could get all his money from the inheritance. He had millions ready for inheritance. He wrote them all out of the will, ordered an expensive mausoleum for himself, and donated the rest to various charities. The wife and children got nothing.
I remember reading that! And it was so true! Honestly, I think OP should do that same! B/C the parents sound awful and well even if they *do* disown him then what's stopping him from not giving his money to someone else? It's like, "If you don't do this then I'm leaving!" "Okay!" "HUH?!"
An almost exactly the same story was posted a week or so back. Dumb as it may seem, this is very much a tradition in some cultures. You just do not speak at the dinner table. Yes she should have been warned about it before hand.
For story 4: I think roommate 1 is also an AH for fricking in the shared communal space. Roommates have a responsibility to not frick in places the other members will unknowingly use. Keep it in the bedroom, or maybe the potential shared bathroom at most.
A lawyer once said to my grandparents (because one of their kids threatened them to give him more money than he would have inherited by their testament): "While you two are still alive, no one but you decides how to spend your money. And if you decide to donate everything to your local dove-breeding club, than there's nothing your son can do to change that." Same here for OP, your money is your money and your parents have no right to it.
When I die I'm going to donate money to only those who had been kind to me...the tour guide i met in Bali, whoever is looking after my pets, and my closest friends....probably not much for my family
The first story is so sad to hear. Imagine you KNOW you are going to die, and on TOP of that, your parents talk about how they will use the money after you die.
They sound like the kind of people who murder their loved ones and try to make it look like an accident, and I've heard way, way, *WAAAY* too many cases of someone murdering their spouse/sibling/parent(s) for their life insurance. If I were OP, I'd cash out just so I don't wake up some night to find one of their genetic donors standing over them with a pillow in their hands.
Not only are his parents horrible people, they are also stupid. They should have made him a deal. Name them beneficiaries and they would give him everything they had until the end. Even if it meant moving out of their house into some cheap ass apartment, giving him a car and paying him every excess cent they made, they could suck it up, make him happy and then been loaded.
@@wingracer1614 this was exactly what i was thinking. i dont have kids but i know i woud give everything i had even if i didnt know i coud be getting a million of the death of a human.
I read the second story! I'll tell my story again here. I remember when I was little, we went to visit my great aunt for the first time. (My grandma had like eight sisters and two brothers. Large family) She served dinner to me and my cousins, and I just started digging in. I still remember the horrified look everyone gave me except my mom. My aunt looked furious until my mom explained that we didn't pray at our house. So my aunt asked me to stop eating, and explained to me what prayer was and why they do it. I felt awful, because it was the very first time I learned what religion was. She told me I didn't have to pray, but at least wait until prayer was finished so that everyone could start eating together. I still hate eating at other people's houses. It makes me nervous, but now I always ask if there's anything they do at dinner just to be respectful. It's usually a no, but I think it makes me more comfortable to ask anyway. Ops parents could have told her what their ways were instead of being so aggressive. Man I still think that's hilarious.
The only thing that I could think of that might be better there is call the cops or CPS for child abandonment, since officially OP isn't responsible for the kids anymore after 12 o'clock and it was 2ish by the time that she fabricated the lie to get the parents back home. Or at the very least, tell the parents that you're going to call them and then wait half an hour for a response before actually calling.
Last story. OP even knocked! She didn't just walk right in. Why on earth would one of the roommates be cheating within sight of the front door and not reply to a knock?! Were they that loud? If so, why didn't OP hear them after she waited and listened because OP said there was no reply. Roommate 1 is stupid and so isn't roommate 2's boyfriend. I guess it was a positive that roommate 2 also found out about the cheating boyfriend and roommate and OP's daughter found out how bad roommate 1 is before they hurt her.
Yeah, imagine if one of the other roommates had gotten sick or didn't have class for the day and had to come home to the two of them doing the dirty? Roommate 1 was asking to be caught.
The real question is: is there a word in english for a person who has sex and a relationship with someone, while knowing they are already in another relatioship and cheating? In Brasil we call them talarico/talarica.
@@tunasci I can't think of a term for it off the top of my head other than "two-timing" but, that isn't quite right still. We really should have one though!
When my sister's husband died, his mother was GLEEFULLY thinking about all the money she was going to get from the insurance. She was very angry when she found out he had changed the beneficiaries to his wife and children.
Story 1: You can tell how much they don't truly love or care about OP. Doing the bare minimum and straight up expressing what their plans would be with the life insurance in front of OP's face. OP cashing out is the best option and he gets to live his last days the way he wants to.
Bare minimum? Not kicking him out since he can't pay rent is the bare minimum? Allowing him to wait out his few remaining years in their only other bedroom is the bare minimum?
@@deydraniadiancecht8298 He was paying rent until two months ago, and he can get a better place by cashing out and they DO NOT want that to happen. So yes, THE BARE FUCKING MINIMUM.
Story 1 is heartbreaking. I lost my sister 5 years ago, and while some of the money from her accounts and insurance policy and whatnot helped me with a down payment on my house (all approved by my parents, who also helped me out tremendously), I’d trade it all to have her back for one more day. One more week. One more month…you get the picture. No amount of money could make me want her gone. I treasured every moment I had with her, but it still won’t be enough for the memories that can’t be made because she’s gone. So yeah…those parents get an easy 5/5 or even 6/5 buttholes.
I’d give all my world possessions to have my grandma back, she was one of the only relatives (her son, my father, being the other relative) who actually loved me. My mother and brother never loved me, abused me my whole life, constantly told me I was “the reason” for ruining their lives/feeling suicidal etc. my grandmother actually loved me, something I didn’t receive often as a child. I’d give all my worldly possessions just to have her back.
I’m hoping we get an update on that second story, because I REALLY want to know why they think “let the food keep us quiet” means to actually let the food keep them quiet
Updates for today's stories 1) I'm tired and am going to have a nap. Thanks to all the msgs of support and clarification on hospice entitlements and fin advice. To put concerns to rest, when I said I won't be eligible for hospice for a few weeks before the end I worded it badly. As much as is in my power the only time I will go into hospice proper is my last few weeks. I am young and strong and I plan to spend as much time by the sea until I can't. Let's see if life screws that up for me too lol. I will be meeting up with the social worker soon and making sure I claim everything I can. I love my parents despite the past and my family and I know this is putting a terrible strain on all of us, and I hope they will forgive me and keep the best memories on top. That's all everyone, take care.
Thanks for that. Poor guy has had a lot of very heavy decisions thrust onto him, including this one. I'm actually quite glad that he's making the effort to put himself first, especially right now.
Update for story 2, pulled from a couple comments from OP: “My bf talks when we’re eating. “I know he has a weird relationship with his family. I was about to meet them this summer but he changed his mind and said it wasn’t a good time. He’s also told some weird stories about them but usually excuses it by that they’re conservative christian’s and that’s how they roll and that they’re still good people. But some people said this dinner thing has nothing to do with being christian or conservative so I’m guessing the other weird things has nothing to do with it either. It’s just so weird that they made me feel so loved and welcomed at first and then treated me like shit. “I haven’t talked a lot with my bf after this happened (friday) because I went home on saturday and he stayed. He did tell me he had no idea they were going to do that when I was there? He said not every dinner is like that. And I guess I’m kind of bad with social clues and my bf just expected me to understand. I don’t think he’s ever mentioned the quiet table though. “I also want to say that the [Swedish] expression I’m talking about can literally mean two things. It’s either shut up and eat or don’t speak with food in your mouth. But no one takes it literally and most people interpret it as don’t speak with food in your mouth.” “I've honeslty not heard "Låt maten tysta mun" since I was a CHILD. To calm down and have a calm dinner without speaking over each other etc. It's not the norm here to be dead quiet while eating...”
I looked up the post. OP said that her boyfriend didn’t know it was going to happen beforehand, because it’s not a thing that happens every meal. Which the commenters took to mean the parents did this BS deliberately as some sort of power play.
This. I can't wrap my head around not being so distraught I couldn't function. What parent wouldn't give their own life to save their child and be heartbroken that they couldn't? Getting money would be the last thing on my mind. They're inhuman. Saying that about the money after he dies IN FRONT of him!!! WTF!!! I don't have the words to express my disgust.
@@agentzapdos4960 that's a weird thing to say in this context, this isn't an exclusively american issue, the issue is their lack of empathy and disregard for their son
@@aliendxde The most important details in this story that led me to this conclusion: The parents are poor and they rent They see a payday They now have plans to buy a home, own a car, and have investments, the definitional middle-class American dream OP couldn''t afford a doctor until he was already as good as dead; it doesn't get more American than that.
@@agentzapdos4960 yeah no that's definitely a weird thing to say in this situation, regardless of accuracy. it just comes across as tone-deaf that you're pointing out their potential nationality while op's parents are being absolutely heartless
Last story: Home-wrecker is usually what I hear the other woman called. Though that’s usually used in the case of them coming between a married couple. I personally think it applies no matter what stage of the relationship or the genders involved.
Yeah, that's disgusting and super messed up! I hope OP spends every cent, or gives the rest of his money *NOT TO HIS PARENTS!* but to charity. Also, this may sound worse, but... Who's to say the " parents " won't try to make his death quicker? Like putting something in OP's food/drink.
I had heard the coffee story before he posted it yesterday, and even that Reddit YT’er was in agreement with the comments, so RSlash was 1000% in the minority on that story.
@@guitarbass22 Yeah, he missed part of the story, the guy wasn't buying coffee for everyone, and one or two other things. A lot of times he's right, but when you're in the minority you really need to read the story a second time to confirm the facts.
Story 2: The boyfriend didn't warn OP about the traditions, and then later told her it was a AH move? Well, if you TOLD OP about it, then everyone wouldn't have a problem!
I mean, this is assuming that the boyfriend is even aware that the family tradition is weird and not followed by every family. I wouldn’t be surprised if the kids were so sheltered that they don’t know that family dinners in the dining room weren’t always silent affairs or something. There’s been weirder adolescent beliefs that don’t get challenged until well into adulthood...
Update: I went and looked up the post. OP said in the comments that the boyfriend didn’t know this was happening beforehand, because this is not something that happens for every dinner. He expected her to just roll with it, though, but she’s “kind of bad with social clues”, and he’s never mentioned such a thing to her before. The comments in response to OP’s comment reamed the parents for deliberately doing this as some sort of weird power play.
Right? Having read so many stories on Reddit, I was honestly ready for the dad to be mad at his kid for either making him stay or "being dishonest with an adult" or whatever. So I was happily surprised this wasn't the case. Good for him.
On the last story: The room-mates aren't renting the condo, they are renting a room, with access to the rest of the shared areas (I'm assuming private rooms). Even if the landlord wasn't the mother of one of the tenants, and a tenant asked her to drop something, she wouldn't have to give notice to the other tenants if she is going to leave it in the common area, or in the private room of the tenant that asked her to go there...
When the roommate planted the seed for them to threaten OP what would be her end game? OP owns the condo and she is paying lower than market rent. Also OP did inform daughter who in turn informed them
@@surreysmith It's implied, because renting the entire condo would mean a contract with the 2 room-mates and the daughter as renters and complicated clauses that the daughter doesn't have to pay rent, that each room-mate is responsible for her own rent, etc...
NAL, but the 24 hour notice is meant to keep your landlord from just barging into your apartment whenever, and is primarily used for inspections. You can however invite them in with no notice, like in the last story, OP's tenant (daughter) invited her over, and everyone was even aware. I don't think the roommate's parents would have done well in court.
First Story, NTA: OP's parents clearly showed OP how much he meant to them. What parents look forward to their own kid's death?! This is pure disrespect towards OP. OP is dying and they are acting like this?! OP needs to go crazy with this money to enjoy the last moments of his life Second Story, NTA: That was rude of OP's boyfriend's parents. Honestly, I don’t blame OP; I couldn’t stand that kind of silence. These are some weird people. Honestly I agree rSlash, they are too literal. Boyfriend really should’ve gave a heads up about these weird rules Third Story, NTA: These are some neglectful people. I would’ve done the same thing. They did lie to OP and broke the deal, they brought all of this on themselves. They purposely ignored OP just so they can have more fun Fourth Story, NTA: What? This sounds like just a honest mistake. OP wasn’t showing up as a landlord, she was showing up to drop stuff off. Lmaooo woooow, that update explains a lot. OP is definitely not the asshole. Roommate didn’t want to get expose for being a mistress
Story one: OPs parents seem to be the kind of people who will take away a child’s Make A Wish Story 2: boyfriend could’ve given OP the heads up because dead silence at the dinner table is not the norm. They would know this if they ever go out to eat. Story 3: of course OPs mom could tell her to suck it up she was the only one able to sleep at the time! Only thing OP did wrong was that she didn’t pull her stunt sooner! Glad her dad has her back and hope he has a talk with her mom. Story 4: so glad for the update.
To be honest, in the story 2, it's not just the boyfriend that is at fault for not giving the heads up. The parents are at fault too for not properly explaining their tradition. They could have simply say "in our house we are eating in silent as a sign of respect for [insert their reasons here], we would appreciate if you respect our tradition. If you feel awkward about it you can eat in the kitchen and we'll catch up after dinner". The big shuuuush without any explanation was not a nice way to handle the situation. I'll give 0.5 point to the family to not properly explain what they expected of OP before the dinner start.
Last story: homewrecker is usually what they call it. Generally, it applies to married people since they have created a home together and often have children, etc. But as far as I know it also applies in boyfriend situations
Another term is "affair partner" which is generally used for those who cheat with married people. I guess "cheating partner" would be a good, relationship-type-neutral term.
I feel like the parents in the second story deserve at least 1/5 buttholes since they didn’t tell her either and then shushed her rudely instead of just explaining to her that they don’t talk at the dinner table.
After the first incident since he didn’t bother to tell OP sooner should have been when bf took OP aside and explained the custom to her. She didn’t need to the shushed like she was on her phone during a movie
OP's only warning was a metaphor taken literally, and it was enforced through aggressive shushing and passive-aggressive repeats of the metaphor. That doesn't explain to OP what their rules are, their lack of communication and strict expectations that OP would understand the rule with that vague implication is what makes me agree here.
@@derpaderpy4931 It just makes me think of the phrase "I'm not a mind reader." I've had people get mad at me for not just automatically knowing what they meant by something, not all of us are on the same wavelength.
Yeah for real! Like if that’s your expectation for guests you’re gonna have to explain it upfront because… that’s pretty different from what most people do at dinner
The first one makes me feel physically sick. As a parent myself, I would suffer the rest of my life in poverty, in pain and depression, whilst being crucified on the cross monthly if it meant my child could live or at the very least enjoy to the fullest, their final months. I hate these parents with every single fibre of my being, and stuff like this makes me wish there were a hell. How can anyone be this selfish, entitled and disgusting? There aren't words anywhere close to being sufficient to describe how disgusting they are.
Story 3: I don't get why people promise a time, and then not only not keep them, but go several hours past. Like, were they planning to spend the whole night away drunk? And yeah, they should've just let OP know to avoid the hassle. They brought this on themselves
OP probably charged more for an overnight stay, so they figured that if they didn't reply to the texts that she'd have to stay. You know being a "dumb kid" and all. Yeah if she had stayed she most likely would have changed them more then her normal overnight price. I would have.
They were trying to short her by agreeing to her day rate, then they just figured they'd come back whenever they wanted and be like "hey we agreed to pay you for the day. You're not getting any more just because we took a little longer than expected to get back." They thought they'd just be dealing with a teenager, so they could bully her for free labor. They didn't count on her tricking them or her dad being there to stick up for her
I've babysit MANY times over the years, and I tell the parents that if they are gone longer then we've agreed to them my rates double. If they try and get me to do overnights and DON'T tell me it ALWAYS tripled. I never had to do overnights or had to change double. And I'm in my 30's now, so no cellphones when I was younger. Hell I didn't even know where they were going. But they always knew that I was serious. The fact that I changed my family the same sometimes more probably helped with that.
I havent even finished listening to the first story, but as a 28 year old with parents in their 50's aswell, my heart dropped with sadness.I've listened to so many rSlash videos and I still cannot believe there are parents like that..
Disown you? What so you won't get any inheritance when they die? Do they think that's a threat? Cash out and DON'T tell them. Bail while they're out or asleep and do whatever your heart desires. You deserve the best. Ghost these monsters. Much love 💕. I hope you can do whatever makes you happy. 💖💖💖
If not for the fact that OP still loves their parents despite everything it would be such a cathartic malicious compliance/nuclear revenge outcome for such hurtful actions as well. They threaten to disown their child if they cash out, so they choose to quietly cash out and move out without any notice and disappear from the world to the parents. The ultimate salt in the wound as they would have lost not just the money- which they certainly implied they care more about- but also their own child, where they would never hear from them again. That would be the last thing they remember with OP. It's so friggin dark to think about though. The ultimate fact of the matter- no matter how you chalk it down to- is that OP deserves to spend what remainder of their life that they have doing what they want. Enjoying the last of their tragically short lifespan in peace and happiness.
Second story: OP is NTA. Who tells a guest at the dinner table to keep quiet no matter what? That's extremely weird. Furthermore, these people at the table seem to be all adults. I can't blame her for laughing. Her BF is also an AH for not telling her about this rule ahead of time.
That last story reminds me so much of an ex friend I had at uni! She was the first "friend" I made and I met a lot of people through her but she wasn't the best person to be around so throughout uni I would catch up with my other friends and hearing about how she screwed them over. Her best friends that she lived with kicked her out after finding her having sex in the living room as that's considered a shared space and is just disrespectful to everyone living there.
Story 3 - NtA My cousin was a victim of this scam too. Parents who force Babysitters to stay way longer or overnight without paying. Be careful folks of this scam. We are in the holiday season, with lots of holiday and company parties. Make it known that they have to get home by x time, or be in contact… or else there will be extra charges
It makes me wonder what this boyfriend’s parents do when they go out to eat (if they go out to eat ever). Do they eat in silence while others talk around them or does the father stand up and demand everybody be quiet and eat their meals in silence? It would be interesting to know.
I wondered this myself. Say OP and the boyfriend got married. Would the reception dinner be just that awkward with half the room deaad quiet? Or would the boyfriend's family be horrified at people talking during the meal? Get up and demand silence? Yell shhhhhhhhh's from their table to everyone around? I'd love to be a fly on the wall for that one.
It's not just the fact that they like to be quiet when eating - I get it, I hate talking when I am eating food as well - but it is their attitude towards OP that pissed me off the most. They could have said "Thank you dear, but please, let's be quiet during the meal if that's ok with you, alright?" and that would have been totally acceptable imo, but to shush a grown as$ person like you would shush a child is so disrespectful that I would have gotten up after the first time they did that. Heck, I think you should not even shush a child in this manner either. They displayed their "class" so well with their rude attitude that OP should never meet them again.
Update on Story 1: "I'm tired and am going to have a nap. Thanks to all the msgs of support and clarification on hospice entitlements and fin advice. To put concerns to rest, when I said I won't be eligible for hospice for a few weeks before the end I worded it badly. As much as is in my power the only time I will go into hospice proper is my last few weeks. I am young and strong and I plan to spend as much time by the sea until I can't. Let's see if life screws that up for me too lol. I will be meeting up with the social worker soon and making sure I claim everything I can. I love my parents despite the past and my family and I know this is putting a terrible strain on all of us, and I hope they will forgive me and keep the best memories on top. That's all everyone, take care. Also, thanks to everyone that gave me awards it is very kind but please don't spend any more coins on me. I really appreciate it but this is an account I won't use any more."
The parents in the first story can get stuffed. They're the type of parents that would make a kids Make A Wish Foundation wish about them. Cash out OP.
There is an expression like "Let the food keep us quiet" in Sweden. "Låt maten tysta mun". I guess translated directly it's something like "Let the food quiet your mouth". But yeah, as OP said it's mostly something you say to kids when they talk with food in their mouth. Or when they talk too much instead of eating. I did that a lot growing up.
This is why context is important....when I first read 'let the food keep us quiet' my thoughts went in a different direction...my brain thought 'let the food taste so good that we are so consumed by eating it that we can't talk' lol. Maybe I just love food too much. Lol.
I looked up the post, and OP confirms that she’s Swedish in the comments (and quoted exactly the phrase you quoted). She also said that her BF said this isn’t a thing that happens every dinner (and that he didn’t know it was going to happen beforehand), which a lot of people in the comments took to mean that the parents were being deliberate AHs about this.
I love sitting with my family at the dinnertable and talk about our days. Before i moved out, dinner was the only time my whole family sat together. Me and my brother had school, mom and dad worked. Sitting there, just quietly eating would be sooo hard for me. Now in live alone and have to sit there quietly, but i prefere sitting together and talking
For the life insurance story, I would also recommend that OP set up his will to give his parents $1 each and then give the rest of it to a charity or to his friend or you know someone else is not his parents they don't deserve it.
This whole 1 dollar thing is just a myth and is mostly just a petty insult from beyond the grave. op doesnt feel like that kind of petty asshole, just a dude that wants to enjoy what time he has.
@@Estarile I figured from OP sounded in his update, he loves his parents despite how they treated him. Besides spending the rest of his days in comfort, I don’t see him getting petty revenge from beyond the grave
Story 2: If I remember correctly there was an update. The family doesn't normally eat in silence. They just wanted to test the OP and decided she failed when she left. Really weird.
Wait, what? Really?? EDIT: Looked up the post. She just said her bf said he didn’t know that was going to happen, and that it doesn’t happen all the time. The comments came to the conclusion that this was some weird power trip/test.
A test? A FREAKING TEST!? What, now we're doing job interviews just to be able to qualify to date?! Either this was some elaborate plan to get rid of OP, or this is what they did to their son with each of his dates. That's not ok. OP, I would explain to your boyfriend that that wasn't ok, wish him luck in future endeavors, and then run for the hills.
The food story... that would have driven me crazy. I have Misophonia, I can't stand the sound of eating noises, I pretty much need the TV on loud in the background to drown out the eating noises to not go insane. In that situation, conversation would have been a minimum requirement.
Last Story- NTA: Technically there was notice to OP’s daughter but even then she did go as OP’s mother, what would they have done if it was the daughter coming home sick? Also it’s generally messed up to do it on the living room couch when you live with other people for this exact reason along with it being just unhygienic. NTA they have a bedroom for that and OP was just being a good mom
story 4: yeah OP is NTA. In this scenario she isnt the landlord but the mother of one of the tenant and was given permission to come. the roomate is using a SHARED space to be intimate and therefore canno't expect a 100% privacy, may it be from the other roomates or any person they have allowed in. i can guarantee the parents of the roomate did not know the full situation LUL
Nah I think if you are renting to people, even if you're the mother of one of them, you are a landlord first and any legal responsibilities must be upheld
According to an update all the roommates had been told that the mom/OP would be dropping off stuff, so they were given the heads up, and it’s not that OP stepped into a private space like the bedroom or bathroom. So as the landlord or mom she didn’t do anything wrong. The roommates were told, she knocked and entered when she thought no one was home. Also the guy the roommate was “passionately hugging” was the other roommate’s boyfriend.
I mean, even as a landlord, she was invited by a tenant. I'm pretty certain. That she doesn't need 24 hr notice if she's invited in. "Just leave the stuff on the table. I'll get it in an hour." "Okay, I'll be by in 24 hrs."
Story 2: NTA. If op and their bf have been dating for about a year then they must have had dinner together either at her place, her parents, or at a restaurant; they must have talked during that time. Op’s bf didn’t think to warn you that his family like to eat in silence, but seriously what family eats dinner in complete silence.
Story One: If I were OP I would not only cash out but I would be changing who becomes my beneficiary. While at it I would set it up so when my time came I would have any leftover monies go to my favorite charities this way my parents would get nothing.
Second Story, Ugh, my father was like that, too. No talking, no elbows on the table, no standing up before you ate every bite, etc. Just petty powertrips. Put me off communal eating for a loooooong time, even as an adult.
My ex made every sit at the table dinner so miserable I bought tv trays so we could eat watching tv.. It worked, he was too busy watching to notice "dinner table rules".
Yeah, I wouldn’t be surprised if the boyfriend and his brother weren’t even aware that their family’s rules are so damn weird and oppressive. She said the brother looked surprised, like maybe he never considered he COULD talk at the table.
4th story: LOL I was about to say the only potential butthole was the daughter for not warning her roommates, since she's the one that extended the invitation...but...NOPE...she did warn them. Too funny.
They're going to lose their son instead of wanting him to be happy and comfortable before he died they're mad at him because he wants to spend his money that sounds as awful as it is
Beeing the same age as OP in the first Story and having the unfortunate experience of losing my brother at wegen years of age, the First Story hit hard, even without the addition of disgusting Parents.
I can feel the pain of the guest at the dinner table. We had almost the same tradition, except it was just so the "head of the family" could watch TV in silence.
The first story brings back a memory of a story my sister told me about her university roommate. Her roommate woke up with an extremely bad headache. She went to the ER and was diagnosed with a brain tumor. Within a couple of days she was dead. A few days later at the funeral, she met the roommate's mother and the mother's boyfriend. At the funeral, she overhead them discussing their plans for renovating the dead girl's old bedroom and what to do with the extra space.
Damn that is absolutely horrid... But I guess everyone grieves in their own way? Also as someone who has chronic bad headaches (that are progressively getting worse) and currently waiting for a brain scan, this made me kinda paranoid 🙃
Yeah; it may have been just blowing off steam, talking about plans for the dead daughter’s room. People are often kind of numb at that stage, and latch onto really mundane tasks to get some kind of structure in their abruptly and majorly changed lives. They’ve just gone through an earthquake, so to speak. Your brain does some weird stuff to help you cope. I said and thought some crazy stuff when I was grieving the fresh death of my mother.
No, it isn't. Life insurance is supposed to be for survivors, usually a spouse and children, but the beneficiary can be anyone the person chooses. The OP has the option to take that money as a pay-out, but that's not what life insurance is "for."
a life insurance policy is meant to ease the financial burden on your loved ones so they hopefully don't have to pay for your funeral expenses and whatnot, then with whatever is left to go into their savings because they're losing a money earner.
@@ChrisMaxfieldActs depends on the type of policy. This one sounds like a "Whole Life Policy" where it is meant as a normal life insurance policy during the early years where there may be some people are dependent on you in case you pass early, but have a payout at the end that you can cash out (at a reduced benefit) to use yourself. In this case it may be exactly what it was meant to be.
I'm only surprised that OP1#'s parents haven't nudged him along a bit, so that they get the 7-figure payout rather then him getting the 6-figure one. Think of all that extra money they'd have to "mourn" with!
Babysitting story: 'Oh Im sorry I must have hallucinated that, I was obviously seeing things since my watch said 2:30am when you promised youd be back by 12'. Story 4: People tend to call people like that home wreakers
That or bunny boiler, which is a more gender specific term that generally applies when they do it knowingly and intentionally to sabotage the relationship, especially with the partner of a supposed friend
Story 2: i grew up in a house where kids were “seen and not heard” at the dinner table 🙄 as I got older, this became a joke that we’d make to our grandmother, because like HELL I was eating in silence lol it was like 2010, not 1910.
I cant believe rslash didnt even bring up the fact in the last story they were being intimate on the living room couch. Thats just nasty cheating or not
And if I where the roommate I would worry that any other roommate can arrive at any moment. However I wouldn’t place myself in the sleazy roommate’s situation
@@lorilancaster5917 I can just imagine one of the other roommates feeling sick and coming home to the horizontal tango. Bonus points if that roommate is the guy's girlfriend. "Oh, Sandra... my head is killing me... Oh my gosh! What are you doing on the couch! And with Brett!"
If my child was dying I’d want to spend every penny on making sure my baby had the best last months on earth. I’d want them to spend their last days with me or near me. I’d want to take care of my kid, see them happy, and go through preparations for a horrifically early death together. I text my mom every day and call her frequently. She always wants to make sure I’m safe and have everything I need, despite me being an adult (though still very young) man. It’s the little things that remind me how much she loves me, from asking about my day to berating me for not eating enough fruits. It’s beyond me how some parents can be so disgusting and cruel towards their own children. I don’t even want to have kids, but my heart breaks every time I hear another nightmare fuel story about parents neglecting, abusing, and abandoning their children. I know my mom would not survive losing me or my sibling, so this kind of attitude is literally impossible for me to process
From what I know, there are some traditions that don’t talk at the dinner table, such as, I think, Afghanistan. We think that’s weird because of how our culture is different from theirs.
Second story : ??? That... Is one weird custom. You did technically go against their tradition, you were the odd one out there. But honestly, you weren't warned beforehand. NTA
If I found out my daughter was not going to make it much longer. I would say cash out immediately and live her life to the absolute fullest. I would do everything in my power to do anything she wanted. I would refinance the house, sell the car, etc and pour everything I could into her experience.
The third story is extremely similar to something that happen to me. My moms friend was getting married when I was 18 (in 2016) and volunteered me to babysit her grand kids without telling me until the day of- which already put in a bad mood as there were 7 kids. Anyway, they're decently behaved and they played on the PS4 or watched a movie for most of the night. I was told by the three sets of parents that they would be back no later than 1am. Fine, whatever. 1am rolls around and no one arrives. I call and talk to one of the mothers and she said it would be another 30 minutes at most. Well no surprise, 30 min rolls around and still no one. I call again and get no answer. I call a third time at 2 - no answer At 2:30 I call my parents and my dad is pissed and mom is trying get a hold of them. The mom I talked to finally calls me back at 4am letting me know they're on their way; they get back sometime a little before 5 I think, half of them drunk/high. You wanna what they gave me? $15. $15 fucking dollars. I was pissed but I was so fucking done and took the money and left. The next I told my parents how much I got and my mom complained to her friend and my mom's BFF (who is also the friend's cousin) and her BFF made sure I got paid an extra $100 for the shit I dealt with- even though none of her kids were there as they were all grown. I told my mom not to volunteer me for shit without asking ever again- a request she still ignores to this day 🙄
The first story broke me. I cried. How can people be so fucked up. Why wouldn't you want your child to be as comfortable as possible, especially when they are dying. Holy shit dude.
for the last story, the word is homewrecker. I really only apply that when someone knowingly intervenes in a relationship. not for people that don't know the other person is in the relationship
Last story: if the roommates weren't aware the mom was coming over then yeah, OP would've been the AH. OP can't just assume the roommates were made aware she was coming over. She would need some sort of confirmation. Luckily in this story OP had just that and roommate 1 was informed and just forgot. From OP's POV, no one was home.
What about situations where the landlord is also living in the space? Like, if the daughter had been the owner of the condo? Still need to give notice? This situation isn't far off of that.
I feel so sad for the 1st guy! Imagine knowing you’re going to die young. And on top of that, having to make decisions about your final expenses. He will hopefully take out his life insurance money for himself. I bet his parents are only letting him stay at their house so they can get his money 😭 I hope and pray his remaining time on earth is beautiful.
First story breaks my heart, I'm listening to this while laying down with my son who is currently sick. I'm being his pillow so he can breathe better and he wants me here as a comfort. I hate that he's congested I can't even imagine anything worse happening to him because that's literally my worst nightmare. These people aren't parents, they're monsters.
LOL, every time I read "Let the food keep us quiet", I keep hearing it in the cadence of "Let the bodies hit the floor". So I was waiting for the drop. "Let the food keep us quiet... Let the food keep us quiet... Let the food keep us quiet... Let the food keep us.. QQQUUIIIIIEEEETTTT!". Hell, let's keep it going! OP: "1 Nothing wrong with me!" Them: "1. Something's gotta give!" OP: "2. NOTHING WRONG WITH ME!" THEM: "DOOOOOOORRRRRR!"
The dad in the babysitting story knows how to deal with stuff like this. Cudos to him. If it was only op, she not only was going to be there till the early hours of the morning, but probably wasn't going to get paid for that. It's a situation where an adult view and action can help
On that dinner story, why didn't the BF explain the tradition beforehand? Did I miss part where he did? Like why did he let OP get shushed twice by his parents and not explain it to OP BEFORE they arrived? How weird!
How tf is leaving that dinner the a-hole move? She was aggressively shushed multiple times, she was told to leave the room if she couldn't be quiet. Why tf should she have stayed?
For the last story where the mom dropped off supplies, in this specific case it most likely doesn't matter what the lease says (not a lawyer, but I have dealt with some shady landlords in the past and had to familiarize myself with various laws). OP had permission to enter from one of the legal residents which nullifies the 24 hour notice clause. Also, I think the word you were looking for is "Adulterer"
Secund story: my best friends home was like that, the first time he he was over when we were 5 he looked like a deer in headlights when we started talking about out days and such at the dinner table, the same went for me going to his place i learned how my friend learned to eat so quick, he just wanted to leave Evey meal because it was so awkward and weird
Story 1: Wow everything rSlash said, wtf is wrong with those parents? Story 2: 90% of stories like this could be avoided if people told their partner "Hey so my parents have this weird tradition/rule...." so they're prepared for it. He's clearly had dinner with other people so understands this isn't a common thing...
The first story is so despicable that I wish I could adopt OP. I hope he cashes his LI in and enjoys as much of life as possible. If it were me, I'd change my beneficiaries and find someone else to take care of final arrangements. OP...I hope your last days are filled with as much joy as possible.
Story 4: I would still say, if OP hadn't notified her daughter that she would be coming over, that would still be a AH move bc imagine her daughter was doing something private and the mom just walked in like in this story. So it's good that she at least let her daughter know she was coming over, as should happen, as a parent and landlord. It's R1's fault for forgetting lmao
I still think that op is AH regardless of the circumstances inside the home because, even with notice, she didn't have immediate permission to walk into the home. That's why we have doorbells! She felt entitled to walk in without permission because she owned the place (which she went into a lot of detail about). The roommate definitely shouldn't have been doing anyone in a public space, but that doesn't mean it's okay to invade a private home like that.
The second story: As someone who comes from a conservative family, this is extremely odd. Honestly, if I sat there and no one talked during a dinner while meeting the parents of the man I love, I'd feel incredibly awkward. Like me being there was awkward for them or something or like I did something wrong. At least they weren't in a restaurant though. My family once took my grandfather out and he got up and insisted that we pray and bless the meal out loud in the restaurant. I told my friends that story once and they said that they've had meals with me and they never notice me praying. I tell them it's because I do it in my head, sometimes while I'm eating. Yeah, I forget, but I know I'm not going to Hell for it. The last story: Technically, OP did give 24 hour notice. OP's daughter knew that OP was coming over the day before. As mentioned in the update, OP's daughter did tell her roommates. It's not her or OP's fault roommate #1 forgot that it coincided with the day she was betraying roommate #2 by sleeping with her boyfriend.
