As someone who had an eating disorder, hearing rSlash think ED meant erectile dysfunction made me spit out what I was drinking. Thanks rSlash, your shenanigans made me choke on my OJ. Please never change 😂😂
Being a bereaved mother who buried my daughter & experienced the trauma of losing a child, that grandmother was not expressing grief & loss of her grandchild. She had the attention on her while masking it as needs for the "angel baby". The grandmother was showing true narcissist traits & didn't give a damn about her grandchild or the parents.
This is on point. My sister lost her baby during childbirth on Christmas Eve last year and I can't even imagine someone in our family acting like that. That GM was being so selfish in what SHE wanted and what SHE felt she was missing out on. I'm so sorry for your loss, Beth
I want to correct something you said in the last story. OP didn't donate $1000 in free services. They donated multiple $1000 of free services. Just the hole in the ground can cost up $5000 and that's crating the hole and filling it. The fact is this OP did something truly amazing for this family.
@@chyme2465 yeah, the labor alone with up charges would probably have been close to $3,000-$5,000, the family in the story said they couldn’t afford it.
When we buried my Mother in Law, just the basic cost of the funeral alone was I think about 8-9k. My MIL didn't want anything fancy and her life insurance didn't cover everything, I believe it covered around half of it. If a friend of the family hadn't stepped up and gave her time, I don't know what we would have done. Only thing is, we didn't get so lucky because said friend wound up keeping my MIL's purse with all her personal items such as rings, checkbook, just random things. That was in 2008, we still have yet to see that purse and we have contacted her multiple times. I appreciate what she did, but that was the one thing my husband wanted badly of his mother's.
@@shellbeeplays yikes, what a conniving woman, maybe she feels like you all “owed” her something - but that’s not how favors work, ESPECIALLY when the recipient is desperately in need. I’m so sorry that happened!
The grandmother was out of line... way out of line. We lost a son at 27 weeks and it is just a mess of devastating shock that you enter. The hospital was not helpful at guiding us at all and we actually left AMA due to one nurse in particular. But the funeral home that handled our son's remains was beyond amazing. Their kindness and ability to help us find some sort of closure, and at their expense, was one of the few things that kept us from losing our minds. When my sister lost her daughter prematurely before us the same funeral home director stood graveside during the hottest day of the year, declining to remove his jacket when told by my sisters husband it was okay, in respect to my deceased niece. Let alone the cost, the care that many funeral homes put into helping little ones on their journey's deserves more than a thank you but there just are not words big enough to cover the gratitude they deserve.
I am so sorry for your losses. Fortunately when we lost our baby at 18 weeks the hospital was wonderful and they provide a funeral regularly for free for parents of miscarried babies, no matter how old. It was a beautiful service and I sobbed my way through. They were so comforting and caring though. I hear stories like yours and it's my sincere hope that more hospitals will recognize that parents do grieve so deeply at the loss of their babies that they deserve the same care and consideration that other grieving families get when they have to say goodbye to their parents or grandparents.
The funeral home who handled my son's ashes were great. They offered a package that included both the opening and closing of the grave AND a simple bronze marker was included. When the marker went missing they searched for it and one day I shoe up at the cemetery and saw fresh concrete over his spot with a shiny bronze marker. They made sure to send me the temporary marker card I requested for his memory box. They were amazing. Sorry for your loss as well
@Ace Pony Productions17 any commercials you see about erectile dysfunction will refer to it as ed. I didn’t even know people shortened eating disorder until I saw a bunch of posts from women talking about it just a year ago.
I’ve been to one funeral for a child that died several days after birth. It was a child belonging to my (now) husband’s cousin. I did not know the parents or much of the family at this point in dating my husband. But there was nothing that prepared me for seeing a casket that small. I probably sobbed harder at that funeral than any other, including those involving immediate family. Perhaps it was a bit different seeing something like that for the first time, but it’s something I hope never to see again.
I worked in a funeral home when I was young and have seen way too many “ grandmas “ like this one … if the family was poor we’d change prices on services so they’d be able to afford things that normally they couldn’t.. but there was always someone bitching about a “ deal” .. I literally wanted to stuff them in the bottom of the vault
I would have made it known that those services were provided for free by sending her a copy of the bill with a note attached explaining what an AH she is for how she treated staff. It's horrible the parents lost a child. It's much worse when the monster-in-law is being a bitch to everyone grieving.
While that may well work with a normal person who acted inappropriately at the time I suspect this old hag has been featured in many other Choosing Beggar stories here. Seeing proof of what that identical service would have otherwise cost would have no effect on her thinking remember she outright lied in her letter to the licensing board about the headstone. She is just a bad person and may she soon need the services of a funeral director.
Last story: as a person who has grieved several times the loss of close family and close to people who have had similar experiences, i can say with certainty that when you are grieving, the last thing on your mind is the design of a casket, what clothes the person is wearing, the flowers or whatever. When one is grieving you’re overwhelmed with the fact that you just lost someone you love so much, not wether there’s chairs at a cemetery.
9:38 As RSlash said, the grandma is mourning, and was definitely acting out of grief, but still, that last bit was definitely out of line and inexcusable. Like, just let the parents grieve and leave OP alone. Trying to fire OP, who was being generous with free work, because the funeral didn't 100% match her standards is just cold
No. No no no. This is beyond grief. This was 100% her stealing spotlight and making this about her. The parents had no issues and honestly, neither should she have. I would have removed her from the funeral.
Frankly, so many people giving the grandmother a pass and claiming she was acting out of grief, turns my stomach. None of that was about grief! That was just the actions of a bitter, self-entitled brat that has never been told "No" a day in their life. All those "Karens" people some vehemently complain about... They don't change, they just get older; and pull crap like that. My heart goes out to the parents. It is a horrific time for them. And on top of everything else, they have to deal with that vile woman trying to make everything about her. Disgusting behaviour that absolutely should not have people trying to make excuses for.
Absolutely NOT grief! That Grandmother was a Narcissistic Piece of Shit. And I'd bet money on the fact, that she abused and harassed her daughter trough the whole pregnancy, potentially even causing the miscarriage, because it's obvious that she cares about NOTHING other than herself! While the mother was griefing for her own baby, her mother-in-law still pretended to be the biggest victim! That's just disgusting!
Subway is just like that yeah. My starting pay was 11/hr and thats was part time. By the end my hours were okay but the work enviroment was just toxic.
Hey RSlash, the world of ED (eating disorders) is very complex and consists of more than just restrictions and calorie counting. There are also avoidant eating disorders, that prevent folks from eating a diverse array of food. I'm someone who is very picky on a good day, and at the height of my eating disorder, that meant that even considering trying new foods sent me into a spiraling panic attack. Unknown "soup, stew, or chilli" would definitely apply. Whereas pizza is generally considered a "safe" food in my mind.
Food in general is very complex. I have stomach issues and can't eat spicy food. A lot of people probably don't think too much about it. But a soup, stew, or chili could very well be too spicy for me. Add in a few food sensitivities and I would also be reluctant to get unknown food from someone. No matter the kindness behind it. A pizza on the other hand is something I can control, I would know exactly what goes on it and what to expect. So I can definitely see why that would be preferable. On the other hand, I know quite a few cheap and simple foods I can make.
I've had stomach problems my whole life and this is exactly it. Mine is more related to some unknown issue, possibly related to Fibro (maybe???) but, just as you said, eating something unknown is terrifying because it could have some ingredient the well intended person gifted that could actually make me incredibly ill, whereas [insert other food here] is safe. Like bread. Bread or pie or cake is safe. For some reason, my stomach won't get mad at sugary foods or fruit, which for me has always, ALWAYS been weird. So, to an outsider, me saying "hey, I can eat a slice of cake, but I can't eat that steak and veggies", would sound very strange, if not flat out fake; but it's true on a very bad stomach day. And I get it. It does sound weird, but bodies are weird. I wish you luck, PPP.
To add to this, someone I know who has something similar to this if they try are able to try a new food and it ends up not being a good food for them it can cause them to be physically ill if they continue to try and eat it. So trying an unknown "soup, stew, or chilli" could just end up wasting food and make everyone feel worst then going for a safe food.
As an autistic adult, I have issues with certain food texture such as ground meats. It makes me extremely uncomfortable to eat ground meats and I refuse to do so. I forced myself once for my friends grandma because she is nice, but it truly was horrible texture. The flavor was okay though. So to add to this, some folks can have issues with textures as well. For me, cheese is a safe texture no matter what form, whilst ground meats make me feel disgusted and unable to eat
1:09 I'm not an expert on a sensitive stomach, but I think the suggested foods are more likely to be tolerated than greasy pizza. Like, soup is literally hot water with some soft food in it
It depends. Food sensitivity can be tricky. I can't eat spicy food, so I wouldn't feel comfortable accepting food from a stranger like that either. What they might consider mild could wreck my stomach. An ED can also involve food aversions. It can cause physical issues due to mental blockage.
i've got IBS and if i eat watery soups i'll have diarrhea within 2 hours. i am also lactose intolerant such that consuming dairy products like milk or yogurt - even if it is cooked - will give me horrible stomach pains, but i can eat cheese and only get bad gas the next day. everyone is different, how we react to the same things is never universal.
About the last story... My son died in 2019. Even with how much of a people pleaser I am, if ANYONE would have acted like that grandma I would have went f***ing feral
@@Ironraven001 If he actually had a sensitive stomach he would not be eating pizza. He would be eating bland foods like chicken, rice, bananas, toast, potatoes, etc. So sounds more like CB just wants pizza but doesn't want to have to cook it themselves or have to pay for it.
The pizza thing might either just be picky eating or ARFID which is something I sadly have, its where you can only eat certain foods due to texture/taste, we typically don't care about body image or weight either. I know it sounds ridiculous but not having these foods can cause distress or in my case gagging/vomiting.
Food aversion in general can be tricky. You don't feel good about it, but what can you do? I don't like drinking plain water. Not only do I find the taste bad, it make my stomach feel funny. I won't dehydrate myself, but I will try to find an alternative at any cost.
I dealt with a grieving older lady at work last week (just at a retail location). She was trying to return something but got overly angry at me because of our return process (not policy, the actual restrictions in the system that can’t be overridden). She kept yelling at me for it and making a scene. I get that she was grieving, but that’s not an excuse for treating people terribly
As someone who used to be a stable hand, that “unpaid trial” is infuriating. I had a trail day at the stable i worked at, and not only did my boss walk me through everything because i had no experience, but he also, get this, PAID ME!
The UK government even tried that for a while, forcing people on job seekers benefits to do full time work for just their normal benefit money. So they were technically working like £2 an hour And it was free for companies too, cos government was paying the slave wages not them It was meant for "work experience" but massively backfired cos why would a company ever actually hire people if they can get free labour this way. So it actually made unemployment so much worse Thankfully they scraped that idea
6:08 i laughed out loud when they said the starting pay is 10 dollars, even my pay at dominos when i first started working there was more than 10 bucks. And i wouldn't want to work for this ass and end up being the only person keeping the store from going under.
The story you mentioned, after hearing its 10 dollar, I thought its just a greedy person. Then when he tbreat people who cant come on his day off.... together with the one about hospital note the next day......
I think McDonalds around here pays more than that to start off. I don't think that its much more, I believe its 11.25 an hour but its more and I ain't sure if the management is any better than this but the way the person comes off is just horrible. My husband worked for Blackboard a few years ago and he was off due to having gout and couldn't walk, he went to the DR (as torturous as that trip was) and got a statement. We went to BB to turn it in and they fired him on the spot with a Dr statement and that was the first day off. They swore up and down that no one told him to get a statement, the place has changed management and names so many times I have lost count. Place is just a mess.
The ITV one reminded me of something I heard long ago: "If you have influence enough to it actually be worthy something, you have the money to pay". And would be bad if a random internet influencer made that proposal, but a multimillionaire company is even worst.
the eating disorder could be something like ARFID (avoidant restrictive food intake disorder) where it isn’t 4 weight thing but 4 texture or colour etc thing! it’s somewhat common in people with autism!
For the pizza story, this person might have issues with foods, so basically, pizza might be one of their few safe foods, and only they know what their safe foods are, so it would be safer for them to buy it. Granted their could've asked much nicer
Oh dude I have a similar email from one of the biggest media outlets in my country. This was the first year of my business and they were asking for 100 free cakes for the media release of their latest show, and in return I get a mention in the credits of some online show. That's it. I had to ask a friend to help me write out a polite way to tell them to fuck off.
Last story: I disagree with the idea of completely forgiving someone for their actions while grieving. I get being understanding to it, but just like every other situation, you are responsible for your actions and people you lash out at have every right to react how they are fit. That GMa is just a CB.
The last story is so infuriating. Becuase her son and DIL has lost their child, and she somehow ends up making this about her. I get that she was grieving but it still doesn't excuse her behavior.
“We at ITV are unable to offer anything monetary” Trust me, ITV CAN offer money, they just don’t want to, they literally just don’t want to pay people.
As someone who had a still born baby I would have been applaud at her actions. Everyone with our burial was super nice and I think we paid a total of 150$ thousands less than what it should have cost.
On the funeral directors story, as a director myself, we have the same policy and give as much to the family of lost children as possible. There are people who ABSOLUTELY use grief as a tool to hurt my business. It’s a very fine line to walk because you don’t want to be a jerk, but you also need to remember the loss that has occurred.
I wept for those poor parents of the baby. That is a loss you never get over. I'm sure the parents were still in shock from the loss and couldn't speak up against the grandmother. The funeral director is amazing for doing all of that for them. It should be law for someone to be there to wisk away anyone who is becoming irate and disrupting a funeral. Gently. Just to council them and bring them back to reality. She was absolutely wrong for everything, but that's a pain I never want to know how it feels. I would break.
As an anorexic, eating is very hard. The littlest wrong whiff of something is enough to completely kill the tiny appetite I had. So eating something you’re comfortable with like pizza is the best way to go and not get a soup you don’t want
Cake pops: the question boils down to “How will this help my business?” I’m building my business and have “gifted” my work to people with influence in my town. I’ve also been keeping these people apprised of when I plan to open for public commissions, so that they can the push my work. If The Voice UK will in some way help promote the person who made the cake pops, it could be a mutually beneficial thing. However, if they are not going to promote the business, then don’t bother.
The last story the funeral director should have said to the grandmother to shut up and get out and let the parents grieve over their child that passed away
Hey rslash, I have an eating disorder called ARFID, and it makes me eat primarily unhealthy foods like burgers. ARFID stands for avoidant restrictive food intake disorder, and the effects are quite complex. The sight, smell, or texture of specific food can make the affected person nauseous or vomit, occasionally without warning. I can't eat a lot of potato dishes because of it, mash is the worst in terms of how it affects me. Just the sight of how it moves makes me feel the texture in my mouth, and I vomit. I don't know if the guy has ARFID, but it would make sense with his sensitive stomach and preferring to eat pizza because of that ED. Edit: actually, note that all the foods he listed he was unable to eat (soup, stew, chili) is all liquid food. I don't often eat soup because my ARFID affects it, and I can only eat half a bowl or so before the nausea becomes unbearable. It might genuinely be ARFID.
Ditto. I currently work in food but not at a Subway (would never work there after they poisoned me). We too are severely understaffed and our store is falling apart with how disorganized and chaotic it is.
I love how for the ones like the Subway one at 5:33 he says it in a normal voice because it sounds like a genuine person who just needs help but then goes into the "Karen" voice when they start talking about the price because that's the part where everyone realizes that the person posting is the CB. TLDR: Amazing Voice Work
The subway one... "if you're not available on your day off, your fired". Like... that's what a day off is for, to... have a day off, not work. Guess he can do the double shifts then.
The exposer one: I would love to do it! Just let me get back to you after I talk to the grocery, electric company, natural gas company, and my mortgage holder. I am sure they would love some exposer too!
spending so much time to apologize about the last story shows R/Slash cares. the fact the grandmother goes on and on about nitpicky stuff and does not talk to the actual parents and leaves it to them shows she has a bad way of showing she cares. good on ya R/slash
As to the grandmother in the last story, I'd like to quote Zazu from *The Lion King*: "There's one in every family, Sire. Two in mine, actually, and they always manage to ruin special occasions."
My aunt worked for the voice us she worked at a catering company and she hates the show till this day. She said they were impossible to work with. Returning food that was worked on for weeks. They submitted what they’d like and their allergies way ahead of time. And everytime there was “something” wrong with the food. They would refuse to eat and tell them to to take it back going as far as to throw the food away. Most of the food was generic to avoid violating anyone’s food allergies or preferences. It was like salads gluten free pastries vegan and normal sandwiches. The usual things you’d see at a gathering of people with allergies and food preferences.
The reason why I love rSlash. The tone through the subway story was great. Started off as a honest guy looking to hire staff and gradually becomes a karen.
Actually disordered eating can be considered many things! The person could have an aversion to soups, stews and chili because there are many ingredients that you often can’t differentiate from and may cause triggers for some people. However Pizza is a comfort food that a lot of people grew up eating and associate with happy times, safety, etc. And it’s simple
I’ve confused people with ED before lmao. A friend said “you don’t have that equipment…do you?” I do not. Also, selective/restrictive eating disorder is a lesser known but v real ED
For the stablehand one: this is actually sadly the norm in our industry. It's VERY competitive. I volunteer at a therapy barn and I hear stories constantly. My gig is quite rare but I do get a lot of perks: free classes at a local school, free food at a number of events, and the ability to change lives.
OMG, I had to stop the video because I was laughing my head off @ "What? This guy has to eat pizza because his dong doesn't work?" That was freaking hilarious 🤣🤣🤣
My brother got caught with the stable style, he worked for 2 weeks at a dairy farm for like £2.50 an hour on an 'apprenticeship' After the two weeks he was fired and some other kid was hired. He was devasted, he loved that job. And it really suited him. Bit the tory government made it possible for businesses to have apprenticeship schemes that could pay pennies
The ED might be something like ARFID, or avoidance and restrictive intake disorder. My husband has it. Basically, if a food isn't "safe", then he can lose his appetite entirely for days. Or he's just entitled, who knows
Holy shitttt. If someone, ANYONE, started shit at my kid's funeral I would be on trial with an insanity defense. Grandmother, grieving or not, HAD NO RIGHT TO COMPLAIN THE WAY SHE DID. She DOES NOT hurt like those parents. She 100% made this about HER and not that poor baby
I'm an apprentice funeral director and we have this thing called a "non declinable fee" under the FTC rule. One of those fees is for use of facilities and the use of a licensed funeral directors services (I.e running a funeral, arranging flowers, casketing remains). Those things all fall under the duties of a funeral director that u pay for when u choose a funeral home to run a funeral. So technically the funeral director shouldn't have even waved that fee for them
That Subway manager at 6:50 sounds like EVERY FAST FOOD manager. $10.00 an hour in a society where people need THREE JOBS TO MAKE RENT AND GROCERIES ALONE.
Story 3: My dad and uncle owns a blacksmith business that has been in our family for >100 years, still located in the same buildings as 150 years ago. TV production companies will sometimes reach out for permission to film there and to get free stuff in return for "exposure". Only they don't want some cake pops, they want hand crafted merch worth $25,000. Last time they let a TV show film in their location they had to close down business for a full day, and by the end of it they didn't get their "exposure" because it went against the network's advertising protocol. If the TV producers did their research they would realize that the company doesn't even need the "exposure". Some of the returning customers include very high ranking people in my country's economy, and the royal family. Also, the big money is in construction not in the fancy art stuff they want to show on TV.
On the ED thing- there are actually eating disorders that make it really hard for people to try new foods. It's believed to be a misfire of the fight or flight response. It is an eating disorder (as it causes Disordered Eating), just not in the most commonly associated way
Hey RSlash! There is an eating disorder called ARFID that is associated autism. People with it tend to be very picky about what foods they eat, often for sensory reasons, and are repulsed by foods outside of their comfort zone.
You can have textual EDs where you have certain “safe foods” that don’t induce anxiety. While I don’t have this ED, I understand not liking foods because of textures, so I’m not going to fault pizza OP for that. Some may see it as rude but I don’t. And we all are entitled to feel how we do about people’s behavior like that :)
An eating disorder where a person only eats things like pizza, chicken nuggets, etc...sounds like ARFID (Avoidant/restrictive food intake disorder) it's more common/diagnosed in children, but it does happen with adults too. :)
Autist here : Any form of liquid food including soup makes me almost immediately throw up upon ingestion, making my situation worse after eating it than before. So, yeah, while extremely rare, it is actually possible.
You did fine with that last one. Hearing stories like this from the outside perspective might just be enough for at least some people to catch themselves before doing the same. And it’s disgusting behavior. I have a friend who lost a son in a terrible accident. Apparently her narcissistic MIL came up to her at the funeral and started bawling her out, blaming her for his death. Considering he died on his way to pick up his little brother from school, I’m sure she was already blaming herself, and here’s this shrew tearing her a new one AT THE FUNERAL! Man, I don’t care if grandma was grieving, there is a line and if you’re a decent person at all, you’re capable of recognizing when you’ve crossed that line. Scream, yell, cry, fuss, but to blame the mother for her own child’s death at a funeral? And she’s not a decent person, she’s the type who is never happy with anything ESPECIALLY if my friend is involved. The lady in this story is almost as bad imho. I dunno whether she gave her DIL a similar attitude at any point about the stillbirth but she seems like the type to do it.
