r/Maliciouscompliance My Dad Beat & Abandoned Me, So I Stole His Stuff! 

Protip: Don't beat your kids

The cop's attitude and "warnings" and your terrible boss notwithstanding, you actually have no obligation to provide a cop with that code. And he has no lawful reason to arrest, charge or otherwise demand it from you.

After 30 years of marriage, I'll be telling my husband a "when I was growing up " story and he'll look at me, horrified. When you grow up with abuse it seems normal. I'm so sorry for OP. They're going to do great in life. Much love to those who are still in the struggle.

As a kid from an abusive home, this deeply satisfies me. Shame neither of my parents and brother are worth anything

"Don't ruin my reputation!" Oh, I have the power to do that? Thanks for telling me, dad.

If I was one of Dick's friends, I would have been laughing at him for the rest of the meal and probably for years to come about this!! Dude played himself and I love it!!

The story with the abusive dad hit hard because that exactly how my dad was. He kick me out because I wanted to study (he think women should not study after high school) and because I got into a relationship (he wanted me to go with someone 3x older than me so they can control me). I glad it happened because I am free and living life.

this dude pulls his kids out of school to get a job and pay all bills while he himself is unemployed? sweet lord

Thankfully my family never physically laid their hands on me, but my parents definitely did mental damage. My parents purposely did and said things that have permanently messed me up. They destroyed my self image, my confidence, and my sense of safety. They made me hate myself and question my own feelings. They made me question my marriage, and pushed me to attempt suicide. I did attempt because of them, but thankfully I'm still here. Abuse, whether physical or not is abuse. I'm just thankful my husband's family has taken me in with open arms and shown me what a real family should be like.

That OP in that story really SHOULD hate his dad. You say he wasn't working? So why doesn't he sit in front of that computer and apply for jobs for a full day and night?

Sadly many abused kids don't know they're abused; when it's all you know you think it's normal. You have to find something to measure it against before you can realise.

I used to think every father called their oldest child "worthless" and "the biggest mistake I ever made" and "the biggest disappointment in my life" and other hurtful things when they had bad days. The fact that he didn't say mean things to my little sister (dad has 2 kids, both girls) when he was angry made me believe it was because I was the oldest and a girl, so therefore I was responsible for taking care of my sister, and later our home after Wicked Stepmom of the Midwest left dad when sis and I accidentally outed him for cheating (he got a Christmas gift for his side-piece and dropped it off to her when sis and I were in the car with him) when I was around 11 years old. Oh, and threatening to "blow my brains out on the living room floor so you see it as soon as you get home from school, so you know it was your fault that I killed myself" was always one of my personal favorites🙄. I didn't realize that the problem wasn't with me, it was with him until I was around 16. That still didn't erase the pain, or undo the damage what he said did to me though. It's not normal or okay for ANYONE to put their hands on you in anger when you're a child. In the case of toddlers, a slap on the hand or a tap on the diapered butt after the child repeatedly tries to do something dangerous and possibly life-threatening isn't abuse, but when they reach the point where they can comprehend consequences and what appropriate behavior is the hitting needs to stop. I've seen little ones "punish" other kids because "that's what Mommy/Daddy does when I'm naughty", because they'd inadvertently been taught that hitting is an acceptable form of discipline. Verbal, emotional, financial, and physical abuse are not okay EVER, and you should leave the situation, if possible, or tell an adult you can trust, like a teacher or counselor if you need help. Sometimes relatives will cover for family to preserve "the good name" of the family in their communities and/or social circles, so you kind of have to tread carefully with whom you can trust within the family. 💜

That subway bathroom policy is going to get the owner sued *big time* (IBS, UTIs), but the cop was just a tool.

I sadly relate to the beatings until you cry, and if you don’t cry then you get beat harder… sadly have permanent nerve damage to this day because of it, cPTSD & PTSD. Sadly relate to too much of the story. My mother, also abusive, enabled my brother to beat me. I sadly normalised this behaviour and didn’t recognise it as abusive for a very, very long time. Don’t be afraid to cut all contact, I’ve cut all contact with my mother, brother and father, and have no regrets. I’m a lot happier and safer. I struggle with my nerve damage as it’s left me mostly bedridden, and mentally it can be a struggle, but I’d much rather struggle with my disabilities in peace than have them weaponised against me, the constant ableism, the homophobia, the psychological and physical abuse. I’ve no intention of ever speaking to my birth family again, they proved this year they’re not to be trusted. For two whole days I had contact with my brother to congratulate him on his fatherhood and he reverted back to his usual behaviour, weaponising my disabilities, being homophobic, trying to control me, and I wasn’t having it. He especially hates being stood up to, all behaviours he learnt from our toxic parents, and behaviours he’s going to continue. So I told him in no uncertain terms to “get fucked” and “please take a long walk off a pier” and to never contact me again, because speaking to him clearly wasn’t worth it. He then got my mother to email me where she claimed his homophobia and ableism (literal hate crimes in Scotland) were “differences of opinion”. I sent her webpages from Police Scotland about hate crimes, recommended she read them and to just never contact me again. You don’t owe your birth family your loyalty, or love. Family shouldn’t treat you this way, ever. I got unofficially adopted and they’ve showered me in love, something I never really experienced as a child. I chose my family, who to me are my real family. So don’t feel that you owe any loyalty to your abusers.

If you tell your own child, who’s STILL a minor, to leave your house, you’ve failed as a parent.

I don't talk about the abuse I experienced as a kid publicly at all. But after waking up from a nightmare about my father trying to rape and kill me to this story about how kids think abusive behavior is normal is compelling me to comment. My father had me trained like a dog, he would have me lay my head on his lap/crotch for hours while he pet me as a kid/teen among other things. There were multuple times where he blatantly sexually abused me and my mother did nothing about it (she knew because I'd told her in detail). Her excuse to this day was that she was too stressed out to deal with it herself (they had separated many years before but she was never subjected to the stuff he did to me.) Schools need to teach kids how to defend themselves from/report this kind of treatment because its entirely possible that both parents can be involved with the abuse. Stay safe everyone

"why should a cop get special treatment?" The United States police force: "Allow us to introduce ourselves!"

A cop who tries to misuse his authority and a dad who is straight up trash. Grand. At least both OPs got out of their situations.

"I'm under orders from above, don't give the code even to God himself"

“I’ll just take these back to the kitchen…” Wrong answer, the correct answer was: “You’re right sir, we did give you an incorrect amount, but because you corrected us, we’ll be able to charge you the correct amount, see as the food has already been cooked and cannot be returned.”

Aw god. I know he said “as a black man” in the last story and I know that kind of abuse as discipline myself and it’s a hangover from the trauma of slavery. The slave masters beat slaves, freed parents only knew how to discipline their kids with violence, the kids get traumatized by beatings from their parents. Parents who don’t beat their children have truly broken free of the trauma of slavery by not passing it on. Peace and love people.

If you're going to discipline a child, do what my mom did. She would grab me by the wrist (not too strong, but it certainly got my attention) and look at me in the eyes, telling me what I did was wrong and why it was wrong. Belt-spankings, slaps don't work. You HAVE to get a child's attention, and you can do it without being violent.

I'm so sorry for the last two guys in the last story, hearing that his Dad would punch them as a way to discipline them just broke my heart. As R/Slash mentioned you DO grow up thinking a lot of these things are normal. It's not until you're older that you start questioning everything and getting come clarity. I wish all the best to him and his brother

That last one broke my heart! Strong kid, I’m impressed.

I really appreciate what Rslash does for his listeners regarding abuse and I really hope his word will one day help someone. Every child matters.

Having a dad that took joy in breaking me I can definitely relate to OP. I learned early on to hide any emotion, good or bad. Actually the belt buckle whippings and broom sticks wasn't the worst. The hours and hours of standing in the corner or the arms outstretched to my sides with a book and a glass of water placed on each hand was the worst. Although it always eventually led to a whipping (could only hold the glass up for so long) it was the mental game of, this time I would not spill the water. My biggest fear was when my son was born. I would literally make myself sick afraid of continuing the cycle when he was a baby I am very proud to say that my son never received any abuse. He did get a couple tail smacks when he was younger but time outs worked better for him. A few grounding here and there as he got older but that was it. The cycle can be broken but it takes alot of will power because to me it was normal for so many years. For anyone reading this that is going through this type of punishment, please do not think that it is normal. Although I am sure I messed up alot as a kid, regardless of how hard you try not to. I do not believe the mistakes was bad enough to warrant the punishment. Every kid sometimes breaks a toy or something, spills a drink or tears his clothes, it is normal.

Thanks for the talk at the end Papa Rslash! I grew up with amazing parents that they themselves had horrible parents that were abusive in every way you can think of(yup...even THAT way). They said that they would not change a thing because they both said that they were destined to break the cycle of abuse and I thank them every day for it.

I can respect that last story. When I left the house it was at midnight, and it was out of fear. The amount of will it took to walk out and never come back right in front of an abusive parent is impressive. That OP has earned every ounce of respect I can give him Edit: bad grammar

Dear American workers: Why aren’t you allowed to say “My manager says I can’t/have to …fill in blank…”? They want to speak to the manager anyway so why can’t you say your manager told you what to do? I don’t understand…

This is about to be heartbreaking, but I know this’ll be some well deserved revenge. I love your channel rSlash!

Always amazes me that the parent doesn’t work and wants rent money from the kids but can afford to take a holiday though

There is definitely Something About Mary 🤗 Loved that movie.. I cannot stand customers like that.. The kid that was abused, I did the exact same thing, stopped crying.. Made sure my mom got her just deserts..

It's not only emotional and physical abuse but mental abuse as well. Though emotional and mental abuse don't leave physical evedence it shows in behavioral patterns. I'm glad the kid from the last story got away from it but they will also need to seek help from a psych doctor.

A reason the cop might've needed the code is that the beating started in the bathroom, and there was evidence in there. I don't know if it was explained but that's what the cop makes it sound like.

In the first story OP later clarified that someone had been attacked in the bathroom and it was a crime scene that is why the officer wanted the code and threatened to have OP arrested. OP was actually breaking the law by not giving the code in that situation. Stop making assumptions about the officer. The officer was just trying to do his job.

I got sezuly harassed as a 11 year old by my 16 year old neice and she turned on me and blamed ME. I was and still am in a battle to get back my happy life. She and my sister have both cut me off from thier life I could care less. Please pray for my sanity.

The fact that this man is willing to read these type of stories to raise awareness really is beyond admirable. This automatically puts him above reddit RU-vidrs like VoiceyHere, who’d just make a “whitty” remark or try to humour the situation. Keep going, Rslash!

That sounds like my childhood raised as JW. My dad was v similar even to the point of threatening to kick us out our whole childhood. (He didnt punch us just constantly slap us plus he provided for us unlike this crazy dad) I got kicked out for meeting someone and having a relationship the last time he said get of this house I said OK then, and never went back

Thanks for giving the OP for the last story reassurance that they'd made the correct decision. And also thank you for telling people - especially young people - that being in any sort of abusive environment isn't normal and that they should get away as soon as they can.

I was abused as a kid and thought it was perfectly normal. My father would beate me with a cane until i couldnt stand and even sometimes drag me up and beat me more. He often told me how lucky i was because when he was youn his father always used his bet with the metal side on him. And threatened to kick ne out or send me to an orphanage if i ever told anyone. Kindergarten teachers found my scars and welts and i told them it was okay because i deserves it

I watch rSlash for my morning routine, I got up earlier than normal and was sad that the video wouldn’t be out for another 15-20 minutes, just as I see today’s video. THANK YOU RSLASH

The sad thing about being abused is that it’s not that uncommon and most kids suffer from it including myself I’m 14 but I’ve been abused since my parents divorce at age 6 my mother has threatened to burn herself force feed me hot sauce hit me step on me on one occasion. She broke one of those boards they right on in class just a smaller version on my head and bent the metal frames she would act like me and my siblings were her pride and joy added mention I had a sister and a twin brother my brother has diabetes so she wouldn’t beat him up but she kept using it as an excuse to hit me whenever we fought it got so bad that my brother that wasn’t even getting abused tried to run away it failed because he was caught at his moms workplace over the time we were sending my dad voicemails and messages that go along the lines of “help us” “ moms mad again” and so on did I mention my dad was paying for her grocery’s and her rent and our school fees luckily my max went to court and got custody of us she didn’t talk to us for a year but I felt bad to I reached out she was putting up an act of how sad she was during the pandemic I wasn’t doing great at school because from stress from my mother she wanted me to steal from my dad lie to him so i went to the “student counselor “ which is literally a woman with a little too much free time I spilled my heart out to her and she told that to my mother word for word and forced me to meet her it didn’t go well she even cursed my dad out which he had been nothing but respectful to her examples manwhore bitch abusive and so on fast forward 8 months we’ve traveled to our homeland “Tunisia” she told us to not talk to our family because they are witch’s and they have COVID my dad went to meet his fiancé who was in our hometown and my mother is attempting to get our custody because my father is out of state which means she filed a case for our custody I’m not sure if we’re gonna stay safe for long that’s mostly the timeline up until now I’ll probably make a Reddit account to post on

Hi early birds, let’s enjoy some malicious compliance!

I think Mary read enough miclicous compliance to do this 😂

Thank you for covering stories about abusive family situations. It took me 22 years to realize that my parents' abusive behavior was NOT normal. Every time I hear a similar story it's an empathetic helpful reminder that I experienced abuse I did not deserve, and I am not crazy for acknowledging that.

Kinda want to know about OP's brother on that last one... I assume (and hope) he managed to get away from their father too. Also a deadbeat child abuser worrying about his reputation is a bit rich! Don't blame OP at all for just putting it all behind him, but I'd have been sorely tempted to go pro revenge on his dad if I were in his shoes!

I seen my neighbor do exactly this to his child once, through the door's peephole: a few punches to the belly... I immediately called child services, they listened carefully and took the address of my neighbor, but I have no idea if they did something about it.

I swear, stories like the second one are the most satisfying.

"I didnt hate my dad he just beat me and I stole his shit"

I don’t think the last one would be considered a “Malicious compliance”. OP did what his sperm donator wanted and got all his stuff back. But how’s that revenge? Also, it’s sad to think that people go through hell like that and still think their parents still love them or they love their abusive parents.

Thank you for this story. As a kid, I grew up with welts from just above my knees to upper back. About age 5, off for 3 months when I almost died as I was hurt so bad they could not diagnose me - rheumatic fever caused heart problems, then to age 9, a few years off till he returned from Vietnam, then until I ran away at 15. CPS was not yet a thing. I was beat with everything including his handgun. One year I had swimming for PE and not one person said anything that entire year. I lived in fear every night that my father would kill me before dawn. Not long after, I left. Kids should NEVER endure abuse like that. Nor should their spouse. And it was all during my dad’s military career. I’m in my 60s now. But to the point. There is a UN convention for the rights of children. EVERY country has signed it except one, the United States. Some of the rights in the Convention cover things that some individual states allow and some that are not rights children have. Countries that follow Sharia Law give children more rights than US children have. Our nation may care about kids but they refuse to give children any basic rights. I have no idea how long I was in the hospital. My father had friends over and they decided to rush me to the emergency room. I was in kindergarten then and got out the week before first grade. As an adult, I have often wondered if my physical condition is why I was hospitalized so long and not my medical condition. I very much appreciate any story talking about child abuse being a problem and we should not allow it as a civilized nation. That abuse can be from parenting, church, school, society, and from other kids.

I didn’t know that behavior wasn’t normal until I 15 and my dad choked me, it was a crushing realization when I figured out the man I respected shouldn’t be respected at all

That last one. I went through a very similar situation, except I was the eldest. I got 'kicked out' the most. the final straw was when I was kicked out for wanting to spend time with my dad's side of the family (stepfather was the abuser) so I said fine. I called my dad, we grabbed what we could and NEVER went back. He blew my phone up for DAYS. I was terrified he would find me while I waited for my flight out of there. Like OP in that story, I thought it was normal. Thankfully, my reading habits lead me to the book 'A Child Called It' and it opened my eyes. and I opened my siblings' eyes. It took years for them to stop the abuse. Even after kicking him out. I can proudly say, me leaving was the catalyst needed for everyone to turn against him. I hope he lives a long life while his TBI takes away his ability to do anything.

I don't think I can put into words just how much I hate people that abuse their children. The abusive dad story sounds almost exactly like what my boyfriend went through. It disgusts me. People like this derserve a special place in hell.

I just want to highlight one other thing from that story: The OP emphasized the abuse didn't make him hate his father. You already touched on the difficulty recognizing it as abuse. But from what I've seen, there's another aspect that could be at play as well. A defense mechanism of becoming emotionally detached from your own plight. Of not being able to get angry for your own sake. I'm not trying to claim that's necessarily true in the OP's case. It just hurts to see cases where the abuse internalized in a way that renders them unwilling to act for their own sake.

It became so bad at my home that to this day I cannot eat beans. What has to do with beans, you might say? Well, when I was 6 my mother cooked beans and being a bratty kid I would NOT eat them. She beat me with a hose tube, until I was in tears screaming, but I refused. She often would cook beans but I never relented and always got beaten with that fucking hose tube, and to this day just the look of beans make me sick, despite the fact that if I do not know they are there I actually like the taste, but if you tell me beforehand I'll not eat it and if you tell me after I'll probably vomit on you. Now my mother is sick... and she doesn't understand why I don't call her everyday to ask if she is alright, why I am so cold towards the family? I FUCKING wonder why myself! Might be anything you have done mom?

Dad: "I beat and abandoned my son, surely it won't come back and bite me in the butt, right?" OP: *Steals ALL his stuff he paid for* Dad: *Surprised Pikachu Face*

OMG, I feel so bad for OP. He needs to know that his dad's behavior is not normal and should go after therapy to heal from all this trauma. My dad is a conservative Christian, and he seems to be an angel compared to OP's dad.

That last story was almost exactly like me, my siblings, and my mom. The dad in the story is exactly like my mom. I still live with her, but now I want to live with my older brother or sister. (This is not even the first time I thought of and tried to move out and leave.) Most black parents DO think that beating your kid will help them, and then have the nerve to call themselves a Christian. (If you reply and say something like ‘ThErE ArE BaD pArEnTs iN eVeRy RaCe,’ you are missing the point completely.) She would tell stories that her mom used to beat her too. Those two can’t even talk to each other without it ending in a fight sometimes. Literally just yesterday my mom and other brother got into a fight and wanted to and tried to just kick him out of the house. I got upset because she automatically assumed that I was going with him. As a family, when we try to talk, I’m reminded that she already has her mind made up based on how she would respond to the problems we say that we have. Including her problems. Personally, I’m tired, and I’m done. Soon, it’s going to be them with god and me with God alone. The house we’re in hasn’t been a home in a long time.

Is it me or is he posting earlier than usual, I love hr content rslash

Never, ever, *EVER* normalize parental abuse. Even if you think it is how you're taught a lesson, it is not. The abuser will only ever see it as self-satisfaction for their narcissistic ego problems. Domestic violence works just the same way - the only difference is that it's not as easy for a juvenile to "break off" from their own abusive parents due to the legalities of guardianship. However, if you can find someone who can get into contact with CPS or get in contact with them yourself, you definitely should. And most importantly, be as subtle and anonymous as possible when doing so, in order to not raise suspicion with your abusive parent(s) until after authorities have gotten involved.

It could be noted that the Abusive father is also monetarily abusing his kids, since he expects them to pay the bills why he reaps the benefits of not working. Either way good on OP for getting out of there and blocking their father. Hope their brother got out too.

OP, file charges against your Father. Let's see how his"reputation" looks to a Judge and Jury.

As an adult from an abusive relationship.. no one ever deserves it. Ever.. thank you r/ slash for putting this video up anyways even with the chance it is demonitized. You stand up for what you believe in. Thank you for having moral fiber and ethics. I appreciate that and the message you send .

I would have reported CPS on the dad if I was in op situation just out of spite because he said it you're ruining my life

If OP was under 18, then I think that OP should have gotten CPS involved. I don't see how anyone can abuse their children ever.

shoutout to rSlash for caring for us and hoping we aren’t abused

I feel like, if ever anyone made an RSlash Animated series, the reasonable people would be drawn normally, while all the people he does voices for would be drawn in caricature proportions. Back on topic, that jerk dad should have had CPS called on him early on. He had no business taking care of kids.

My mom was kinda similar as the father in the last story. Hitting us when we were younger (and in later years denying she did something like that), always yelling at us, calling us names, kinda blackmailing us with all the stuff she ever bought. To be honest, me and my brother were always good kids, even though both in the alternative styles (punk, metal, goth) - no drugs, almost no alcohol (a complete no for me), no smoking, no partying. Our grades weren´t that excelent, but we were no problem children. We would even help around the house more, if she would let us (because she just suddenly was like - clean the damn kitchen! right when I watched something on TV. I would say okay, gimme 20 min until the show ends, but no, she would go, clean the kitchen and then call all her friends to tell them how ungrateful we are and never help around and so). She often called me a b*tch and similar (well, the equivalent in my language), saying I can´t do anything, I will never have friends and other "fun" stuff. She also used to "kick" me out every now and then basically on a whim but when it started to look like I´m packing, she was like "I will give you one last chance, but my rules are my rules and that´s final!" She stopped beating us when my brother (older than me) once stopped her hand mid swing. And like you said, I didn´t think it was weird until recent years. She kicked me out for the last time when I was 23 (I was already working and giving her some money as a rent) after I spent the night with my bf. She told me to pack my stuff and I just had enough. So I did. Well suddenly she wasn´t happy and it was again about the one more chance, but I said no, I´m leaving. Aaaand she got furious, grabbed me by my hair, pulling me across the room (she used to do that when I was younger as well). There was a lot of yelling, my bf, who was behing the door stormed in, my brother got in to separate us...crazy. And...I left. She threatened to sue my bf for attacking her (she was the one attacking, but you know...she would never confess to that, she always had her own image of how the things happened) but in the end, even when I cried a lot for a while after that, it was actually the best she could do for me, because otherwise who knows when I would really leave... The biggest wake up call that something was really wrong was, when I was on a business trip from work in another state and there was a woman in front of me who had similar hair and my mind went into panic, like - oh no, what if she sees me, what will I tell her about what I´m doing there?! And then I was like...wtf is wrong with me? I was there for work, I lived alone for more than a year at that point...even if it would be her...there was no reason to literally get so scared. Once I started realizing that that´s not how a mother should behave, my messed up brain suddenly started to make sense, so now I try to fight against the damage that was done. She tried to call me lot of times, but when I accidentally met her, after almost two years of living away she was still like: "You can come back, but my rules still apply." No thanks...

As a man with an abusive father, I *WISH* there was someone doing for me what rSlash is doing here. I *needed* more than anything to know this crap was not normal, and that I needed to get out ASAP. Now, before anyone asks: 1. At age *FOUR,* he hoisted me by my bathrobe (worth mentioning that he had a very tenuous grip, so he switched to my throat to keep me in one spot, leaving me unable to breathe) and slammed me against a wall, screaming at me over some crap I don't even remember, with his fist cocked back as if to punch me. He *did* swing, but punched the wall right next to my head, leaving a massive hole for himself to fix, which just made him more angry, and he whipped off his belt and beat me until I couldn't breathe for the pain. I don't even remember what I had done, but I still remember that particular bout of violence. 2. One night, when I was 12, he came home (we lived in a KOA in a camp trailer at the time) drunk, and bounced my head off of our outside camper wall. When he saw what he did, he decided it was funny, and laughed at me, using all manner of homophobic language to describe me in quite understandable tears at the treatment. 3. He would quite routinely drag me around by my hair or neck, and scream at me to "STOP BEING A [homophobic slur]! CRYING IS FOR P***IES!" while he did so, over the slightest infraction of his insane rules. While my father was (and by all accounts has become again) a piece of S**T drunk, the more important takeaway is that I thought this was normal at the time. I didn't know any better, because no one taught me any differently. It wasn't until about 13 that I learned this was wrong, and by then, the damage was done; I was too afraid of my father to speak up. If anyone had told me at that point that they could remove me from his house and protect me from him, and I had the courage to believe them, I might have. Someone like rSlash telling me this might have helped me more than anything. A kind word from a complete stranger that I needed to hear might have saved me at a time that I desperately needed it. I hope that this saves *EVEN ONE* abused child. If it does, then rSlash just became my *F***ING HERO.* rSlash, My hat is off to you, sir, now and forever.

Can we take a moment to appreciate Mary? Like damn this woman is a savage. Don’t piss off servers, they will get revenge one way or another

I always get a mixture of relief, but also mild guilt when I hear stories like that last one and knowing my parents are thankfully not even close to that. I can't imagine what it's like growing up in such a toxic environment, especially in a situation where there's almost no way out of it.

THANK YOU for putting this message out there. It is NEVER right to abuse a child under any circumstances.

Just by the title, I know this’ll be good.

11:48 I am with OP... its better to leave than to suffer endless emotional and/or physical trauma

Thank you for this video. OP is kind of aware of their abuse but hasn’t fully come to terms with it, I think. I do want to contradict the statement at the beginning where they said “as a black man” their dad acted the way he did. I know there have to be some dads of all shades listening and thinking that has nothing to do with it. You can be a strict father without being a controlling parasitic monster. I mean, there’s really no relation there. OP didn’t have a strict father, by the sound of it. They had a monster. And they took the chance to leave and broke his little game. Also... he went on vacation but he needed to sell OP’s stuff to cover rent? That fits the profile. It’s all about the dad’s life. His kids are just there to maintain him. Narcissism at its finest. smh

Replacing a thermocouple is one of the easiest and cheapest repairs. That manager was penny wise and pound foolish.

That father is a narcissist. Disgusting. My father never hit me but he did everything else and threatened to. The threat of physical violence was always there regardless. These people are sick and need serious help. Get out ASAP. No one deserves to be treated like this

You need to quit that job because of a boss who doesn't know what to say. That's a red flag for a manager.

Sadly growing up in a abusive home trends to lead to abusive relationships and when you finally escape you're so broken that there isn't much left of you.

That cop in the first story might not have been taking a dump; the bathroom may have been involved in the investigation, i.e. the guy who got beat up or the guy who did the beating used the bathroom prior and they're looking for something to help them.

None of us care what RU-vid thinks about any stories. It is more important to hear about stories like this. People need to understand that these things happen and they are not normal. Someone else in this exact situation could hear this and change their life for the positive.

My dad used to kick me out of the house and then call me back in too. Weirdly nice to hear it wasn’t just me.

That last story, that's also has financial abuse, which is not OK either.

I listen to u like an audio book. Ur so calming

I cast Early Slash at 5th level!

Manager: "Don't give it to anyone under any circumstances" (Keyword: anyone) Also manager after OP never gives it to the cop: "ArE YoU ___ing SeRIouS?!?!"

OP with the Black abusive dad. My birth mother was the same way. The day I decided not to cry when she had me stand up & hold on to the top bunk bed while she used the skinny leather belt to beat me for something I did not do. I refuse to cry! She actually told to cry or she will not stop the beating. I said nothing. It would have been life endangering to tell her why I would not cry. My sister asked me why & I told her that I did not deserve that beating so I will not cry any more.

The subway story... the dude could have asked anyone who already purchased the code to give it to him. He was an idiot.

Truth is, the officer in the first story may not have been needing to relieve himself. In cases where someone has cuts on their face or head, they bleed a surprising amount so he may have needed to wash some blood off. Still he can't demand to use such a facility, but it is nice for businesses to allow it.

My mom and stepdad were abusive. My friends helped me get as much as I could carry and took me in until I could go and live with my dad. I know how much care goes into helping someone get away from an abuser. OP's girlfriend was the real MVP. And I hope OP realizes that, whatever happened with them (I really hope they're together forever though): they're dad was wrong. She really loved them and cared for them. You don't help someone break in and book an hotel if you don't love that person. I really hope OP can get some help though because they need to work through their trauma's and, as sad as it sounds, recognize what's abuse so they don't do the same to others because they don't know what a healthy relationship looks like. Maybe OP and their brother can share an apartment to keep the costs lower. The brother works too so they might be able to live properly together.

re glass manufacturer: This is EXACTLY the negligence that caused the Chernobyl meltdown. Supervisor was correct, but should have shut down the line- also correct when he replaced the thermocouple.

That last story, I was angry on behalf of OP. I’m kind of sad the story didn’t end with the dad facing a massive fallout.

The abusive dad got what he deserved. Play stupid games, win stupid prizes.

That kind of shit fucks you up for LIFE.

i went through maternal physical, emotional, and verbal abuse from 9 yrs to 16 yrs, among other situations which ended me having to have knee surgery. i left when i ws 20 bcse id had enough of getting hit/beaten al the time. i havent seen her in ovr 30 yrs and i dont miss her 1 bit!

Good for you RSlash for trying to look out for your young listeners. My parents utilized sleep deprivation to the extent that I can sleep standing up. (Have gotten away with it at work many times.....did get fired from one job cuz I got caught doing it. Lol.) But the 3 of us kids had no clue, that was just our reality. Thank you RSlash I hope it helps someone. 💗

I hope the brother in the last story leave that sorry excuses of a human being too..

Pro tip: if there are cops, lights and sirens in front of your Quizzo’s shop, people will avoid it and go to the Subray across the street. If letting the officer use the potty gets him out of your store faster, do it.

That dad wasn't worried about his reputation, he was worried about prosecution.