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I'll never understand why nice guys and nice girls don't just date each other

I remember when I called myself a nice guy... before I knew what it meant in the online space. Now I have to call myself a polite fellow.

psa to everyone saying first: the first comment said “pancakes”. you’re not special.

god i hate when niceguys refer to women as "females". for me, it personally feels like im being reduced down to my sex characteristics which is really weird

13:09 PTA - As a female, I think he could've like just taken her to her own home instead? I don't think he fully did what was wrong in looking out for her safety from Alex, but taking her to his home and putting her in his bed was the bad idea. She's drunk and has no idea that you didn't do something to her in her sleep, and she can't trust you anyway since you overstepped the boundary.

There should be Badguys and Badgirls that are actually nice people

PANCAKES!!!

3:52 I just searched it up and according to the search results calling a woman a female is to refer only to their reproductive role (receiving seminal fluid from the male and then carrying and giving birth to the child) and that is objectifying women to be only for reproduction, hence why it sounds so creepy. Although I do find it to be okay to call someone male or female simply to refer to their gender (as long as that person identifies as either one), it should be used with caution (eg. saying "I talked with one of my female coworkers about equal pay." and saying "I saw a female walking down that street earlier." has two very different tones as one sounds fairly normal while the other sounds weird and/or creepy).

For the drunk one, he would have been in the clear if he had just taken her HOME instead of his place. Going purely on his perspective, he had every right to think "Uh oh" when the guy kept giving a very obviously drunk woman more drinks, as that is date r@pe 101. But when he brought her to his place??? Dude...

12:20 What I don't get here is: Assuming the guy is right, and the other dude had bad intentions, why take the girl to his own dorm? Why the hell he didn't just take her to her place and then leave? That's quite creepy, to be honest.

as a former pansexual, a man told me he could make me straight, change me! and he did change me, after that interaction I realised I was a lesbian

I dated a "nice guy" once, should have known I was in trouble when his friend had to approach me since he couldn't work up the nerve. I thought it was kind of sweet, so I gave him a chance. He was the most indecisive, unmotivated person I've ever had the displeasure of knowing. I don't think the guy should be the one to plan all the dates, but he literally couldn't muster a single thought on what to do or where to go on our days out together. He verbally fought with me over the most mundane crap and had such a pessimistic attitude over minor inconveniences. Finally got fed up when he started pressuring me for s*x...not because we weren't having it, we weren't having it *enough* for his liking. So glad he broke up with me because I was so ready to jump ship, and now I'm married to the most lovely woman in the world ❤ Genuinely hope he's left his apartment since we last talked

The whole point in them calling them females is to be dehumanizing.

First one in, if someone has a "monster" they "tame" I'm not dating them because that's the kind of guy to abuse someone

Been feeling really depressed but I've found that watching emkay is a really good distraction (and yes I am trying to improve my mental health in other ways)

For taking the drunk girl "out of a bad situation" Why didn't you take her home? Why did you take her to YOUR dorm. Y'all were drinking so you weren't on campus ... drive the half hour or w/e to HER place The fact that you KNEW she wanted to go back to HER place and took her to YOURS is creepy ... especially using that excuse of protecting her. You should've taken her to her house since clearly that's where she wanted to be. So even if the rest of your observation was valid - you're still wrong here.

bro really wrote and posted a whole essay online about how he kidnapped a woman instead of calling her a taxi/uber like any sane person in the same situation

Normal ppl: kindness is its own reward Nice guys: i was nice you owe me!

Women: scared for physical reasons Men: scared for legal reasons Both: scared for mental/psychological reasons This is merely what I've gathered from both r/NiceGuys and r/NiceGirls, please don't digitally execute me

That guy with acres of land who was looking for a "submissive" girlfriend kinda screams cultist. Or serial killer.

I used to think I was a nice guy Then I learned what a "nice guy" means nowadays So now I am just an old guy.

As a woman I can say it's not that we don't like "nice guys", we just don't like THEM

11:50 this dude's logic is "i thought she was in danger, so i decided to become the danger"

Man... I wish girls asked me why we never dated when we were in high school, I have the perfect response. "Uhhh, because I'm gay... Lol"🤣

I still can't comprehend the mindset some of these people have. How can people be this desperate. How can they be so _down bad_ that they gotta clown around like this without a shred of irony in their statements. Please, someone tell me these people don't exist, it hurts my brain D:

Tip: Whenever you feel bad about yourself remember these people actually exist👍

I wouldn't be surprised if Julia and Alex were a thing already. Of course she would trust him then

4:20 Nah fam, I always greet my homies like “Yo, what is up my fellow Homo-Sapiens!”

10:43 An easy solution for this story could have been for OP to say, "Cool, I'll go with you guys," when Julia tells him that Alex already volunteered to drive her home. If Alex was really on the level, he wouldn't object to having someone else come along. OP could follow in his car and make sure Julia got into her house without Alex. Or, at the very least, he could have driven her to her house. He could have even stayed over at her house for the night (in a separate room of course) if he was really worried, though in that scenario, he can't object if Julia gets mad at him staying in her house without permission. My point is there are a million better ways OP could have handled this, but he chose the way that left him with the most control over the situation. No wonder Julia freaked out.

8:55 For context, the aita post was about a 15 year old who had a crush on his older brother's friend who was about 19 (?). When his class was visiting their campus, he snuck away to visit her apartment unannounced and told her that her tattoos were a turn off for him as soon as she opened the door. She rightfully scold him for his inappropriate behavior and sent him back to his class.

it feels like some of these guys have a humiliation or degradation kink and just don’t know it yet

These videos keep me going sometimes during hard times. I love you all so much for doing what you do best. Have a great day everyone who reads this and the Emkay team

There is a reason why I don't trust a person when they say that they're a nice guy or girl, it's always a red flag and most of the time they are not nice people. Remember actions speak louder than words.

17:13 I actually understood some of that. Narrator is claiming a woman doesn't like him because 1) He isn't entitled, aka not a duke/lord and 2) He isn't tall dark and handsome. He is also staying she doesn't have a car and is wearing last season's fashions and she'd be prettier if she smiled more. The woman's response is 'You're right. Let's go our separate ways.

It's sad when "bad boys" are nicer than Nice Guys.

"I was too busy studying and getting my qualifications to get chicks and they only went for the bad guy" I was also too busy studying but I still managed to get a girlfriend, I think you just have skill issues Mr good guy

“You can’t be a bad object” yeah, tell that to all of the inanimate objects I curse at in my head and threaten whenever they don’t do what I want.

I don't want to try and say one way or the other, but the thing with Julia and "Alex" was very creepy. "Alex" could have very easily done something much worse than just make sure she was able to sleep and not be taken advantage of.

I knew a guy like OP in the Julia and Alex story. Was really insistent on driving me home from the train station after Mardi Gras (he didn’t even go). I felt more comfortable walking back to my accommodation at night alone than getting in the car with him.

We need a subreddit of rejection done right. I wanna see other guys taking rejection respectfully so that my faith in humanity can be restored 😂

most of this subreddit is like "why do so many good girls like bad guys"

15:39 I’m laughing so hard. Bro actually responded with “Wait really??? 🍆🍆🍆”

13:40 i get making sure that your friend who's drunk doesnt get hurt or possibly kidnapped and killed/assaulted (bc it can and does happen) this whole Julie situation is not how you handel things especially taking her to your dorm and not her apartment like she asked

At 5:46, I started to burst into hysterical laughter while diving for the pair of scissors next to my bed to stab the screen

I'd much rather be single my whole life than become a "Nice Guy"

When will these guys understand that it’s not about body count, it’s not about ‘getting the hot chick’, it’s about love and passion, it’s about having someone special in your life that you’d do anything to protect, because you know they would do the same for you! I feel like people are slowing losing the ability to be truly in love, if you have a partner who you truly love with all your heart, and you know they love you with all of theirs, then you’re more fortunate that than he who sleeps with one hundred supermodels! 💕💕💕

I looked it up: "The Rejection" was in fact written by Franz Kafka, the person who wrote "The Metamorphosis."

I wonder if we can have gay guys hit on these dudes and then just say "boo hoo suck it up and move on" when they complain

I wonder what would happen if a nice guy and a nice girl get together in a relationship. My morbid curiosity is salivating at this situation

I always thought that there is no such thing as an archetype in real people, but then I discovered nice guys TM and I must say, they all are basically the same person.

Ahhh time for my dosage of Nice Guys ™️. Really makes me appreciate being gay.

I dated a "nice guy", he almost killed me 🙃

I'm really intrigued by how these pathetic waste of men believes that saying something like "I have a monster inside of me and you don't want to bring it out" is in any way gonna make them _more_ desired. Of course, being completely oblivious to how their every action regarding sexual relations has the complete opposite of their expected reaction is indicative to their absence of self-reflection. They only ever claim to be nice because they think they are, and only ever admits to behaving badly because someone "deserved it" - all topped with a tremendous amount of psychological manipulation in hopes of convincing others that they are the best and smartest. That is the summary of their personalities, and they pride themselves on it like it's ever something to strive for. Hell, I would even petition to call it the "Andrew Tate" syndrome at this point.

It’s unreasonably crazy how fast these guys make videos

really scary that there are men out there that think and act like this. makes you wonder how they were raised for them to think like that. people get mad at bein rejected (granted, rejection sucks, but no one is OBLIGATED to return those feelings.) yet they question why women get scared. holy shit, they instantly insult you for saying no. if you ever feeling down and think your not good enough, remember, these men (and women) exist.

It’s not that women don’t like nice guys, it’s that nice guys don’t have a shed of kindness. Women want KINDNESS. Niceness isn’t the same thing, and doesn’t instantly make you a good person.

what's with nice guys and not knowing how to spell

4:32 *_greetings, thou fellow homo sapiens, for i shall treat you with uttermost respect_*

"I kidnapped my friend so she doesn't have to be drive home by another man, i am the asshole ?" Yes kevin ! Yes you fcking are !

12:10 I mean, being worried isn't entirely unreasonable, especially if something had happened in the past. I think the best call in this scenario probably would have been to talk to her other friends to get some form of backup (or maybe get further context that makes this less suspicious) then take her to HER home. Maybe have one of her other friends escort you. While the worry is completely reasonable, he clearly also overstepped boundaries and put her in a very similar situation to what would have happened if she woke up at Alex's place (presumably, we don't really know the situation with them. Maybe OP isn't quite telling the truth of what happened). It was pretty clear that she was trying to get back to her home, that was her intent when she was sober, that was her intent when she was drunk. In the end though, yeah the intent doesn't really matter. You overstepped the boundary and made your friend uncomfortable, and apologizing is the best option. Even if you don't believe you did anything wrong, you should still apologize because you made your friend feel like shit. Edit: also, if the ride with Alex was prearranged then that seems like an indication that she was at least comfortable enough with him to get a ride, in which case OP probably shouldn't have stepped in at all.

"we have tamed our monster" God I hope so. Keep your monster in your pants.

Advice for commenters on this video- if the majority of comments are not agreeing with your opinion, perhaps this isn’t the video for you.

As a single person, im kind of glad im not looking for a partner because im scared of stumbling upon one of these dudes

Its always a good day when EmKay posts

Loving how they’re did r/nicegirls then r/niceguys

I usually don’t mind the censoring on posts that EmKay staff react to, but I feel none of these ones should be censored so the local authorities can identify the men.

the guy who took his friend to his home.. i can see where he was coming from with the concern (especially since a lot of women are taken advantage of when they're drunk) but to take her to his home and put her in his bed?? idk that's kinda weird man 😥 but like you said, there's layers. it's good to be cautious but not like that, it over stepped boundaries

I always laugh at how cringy these people can be And then I remember I had a phase similar to this when I was a teenager

Oh my gosh, my daughter tried her best to warn me of people like this. Unfortunately I fell for the one "nice guy" lol!! Lesson learned!🤦🏻‍♀️

Absolutely love these videos they make me laugh so hard

9:46 Christian, conservative, traditional *submissive girlfriend*.....do you see the contradiction here?

8:22 Bro. I don't fucking care what you went through it doesn't justify your actions!

0:28 r/ihadastroke

You can absolutely be a bad object! You ever seen those events where they design chairs for the form, not the function? They are wobbly if you lean, uncomfortable in any position and something digs into your side, but it looks incredible. That's a bad chair, that's a bad object. An unstitched mousepad that starts fraying is a bad object, a stainless steel spoon that rusts is a bad object.. And most humans aren't bad, they are just not interested in you, which is nice. I wouldn't want a majority of humans to be interested in me, that'd make me like 30x as popular as Taylor Swift, no thanks! I am so hoping that post at 6:30 is trolling because my god, how did you get this disconnected from reality?

There’s Nice guys: 😊 And NICE GUYS: 🥸

I know a song from Cobra Starship called, "Nice Guys Finish Last." It's got "nice guy" written all over it, but it's a banger tune.

The only time when it’s not that creepy to say female is when you feel like saying girl is not the right way to go in that situation, NOT when you want to appear more respectful

6:25 that’s a lot of words, for no one will fuck me

12:48 Just because you mean well doesn't justify your actions

I thought I was a nice guy when I was just the worse version of myself, uncontrolled mental health issues, low self esteem and excessive drinking, I was a proper cnut. So glad I grew up and was able to actually look at myself and adjust. Now I call myself a cnut and have actually less luck with women but I'm happier within myself and with my friends. I hope these people get to that stage.

The biggest issue with "nice guys/girls" is that they obfuscate the ACTUAL good people.

"when i doing you know the thing we do in my hand 🤚you know im shy little whatever i was thinking about you" so inspirational

10:57 so the OP here seems pretty alright but there is one thing that caught my eye. OP kept mentioning that they drove their drunk friend home for her safety but then revealed that they brought their drunk friend to their *OWN* house. They did say they slept on the couch while their friend slept in their bed but my god OP, regardless of the good intentions you may have had, you drive your drunk friends to *their* homes, not your own!!! OP definitely doesn’t quite realise that essentially kidnapping your friends is never the right thing to do, even if you’re intent really is for the friend’s wellbeing. “Alex” seems like a right prick tho

Guys who message ppl like the guy at 0:44 are just nerds

Nice guys in a nutshell: Says they're nice Are desperate Spams several messages No boundaries Entitled Can't take no Says all girls are the same when get rejected

“You can’t be a bad object.” *Me glaring at my computer for saving my project in the untouchable ether of the multiverse*

“Nice guys”

That story about the guy that drove his drunk friend home reminds me of a similar incident within my friend group in which a guy took a woman home and proceeded to get aggressive with her when she told him to leave for being creepy. After he finally left, he sent a number of harassing texts to her. He was shortly thereafter ejected from our friend group. A different guy in the same friend group was slightly less problematic, but still did the "female" thing and didn't respect women's personal boundaries out of a desire to be friendly to us.

If I have to be frank (which I can't since that's not my irl name), I find it hilarious that these kinds of people think women don't want them because they're "ugly" or whatever. Actually, that's technically true to some extent, but not in the sense that women reject them because they're ugly on the OUTSIDE, so much as in the sense that women reject them because they're ugly on the INSIDE, if that makes sense

I can't be the only one who never gets bored of this legends voice, right?

There’s a huge difference between “nice” and actually nice 💀 good rule of thumb: don’t call yourself nice/kind if you haven’t been directly told that you are a good person to be around and interact with by someone other than your relatives lol Be critical of yourself, obviously, but don’t hate yourself and self pity enough to be a down-bad “I’m a nice guy because I treat women well (gives them the bare minimum, if even) but they won’t date me cuz I’m not Chad”

5:58 narcissists be like

If you're a nice guy you *better* tame your monster cause ain't no girl gonna do it for you

10:07 if ur Christian and never drank how have u taken part in holy communion

Oh dude this is stupid as hell but when I was younger (like 10-17) I used male/female. Why? Well duh, because I learned them from playing Pokémon and just absolutely had to use the cool Pokémon words in the real world!!!1! (I still used girl and dude but male/female was like 1/4 of the time) I have obviously since learned and use man/woman or other terms when talking about people 😭

babe wake up, emkay posted

i dont get why people are calling themselves the "nice guy" in situations like this. i mean, cmon... first of all, if you like her but she has a relationship already i personally think the nice guy should be happy abt the fact that shes happy and second.. if youre telling someone "i hope your boyfriend dies" i dont think youre that nice

5:14 The worst part is he spelled it perfectly Except put in (for some reason) a silent P Actually no no that is not the worst part

I want cheese

Robin is the hero we needed.