r/NotHowGirlsWork - How to ”Pick a Wife” 💍 

Same energy as "if you keep saying you're a lesbian, men won't want to date you"

​@@AnimeLuver0604 😂😂😂😂 what dumb person says that?

@@AnimeLuver0604 Or "Stop saying you aroace or you'll never find someone" which I've heard so many times, by the same person, it's not even funny anymore

@@nathryl03 I've never heard anyone say that to me, but I have had people, (a person, my mom), tell them that I may change my mind. I'm not going to suddenly change my mind, I have no reason to. The most a person could be is someone that I would want to intentionally interact with, thus being platonically attractive, (currently no-one qualifies, except maybe some online friends).

@@mahou-blaer Yeah, thankfully he's never told me I'd change my mind. He accepts I'm aroace, sort of, he just doesn't accepts that I don't want to date anyone. I've tried to explain what aroace means multiple times, but he just refuses to get it. Btw, I'm sorry your mom is being so dismissive.

Same here! I was devastated for her. I have a stardew save file that is kind of equivalent and the idea freaked me out. Poor soul. :(

Yes. Really terrible what he did. I also play the sims and I can't even imagine. I have safe files that are years old.

i read that as "neodivergent" and I was like "whuh" also you missed a 'u' after the first 'e' in neurodivergent

@ebty4969 English is not my first language so sorry if i spelled it wrong

Delete my save file, I delete you.

My favorite, "well what did you do to start it? " when I told my mother.

@@chesneymigl4538 its seriously so dumb, hope ur ok

@@Jaze_ablaze It was many decades ago now, and therapy helps. But the damage done to my relationship with my mother will probably never heal.

A child shouldn’t have to leave their own safe space to accommodate someone else, especially a creepy adult

Because the lingering effects of a men-centric world unfortunately plague us to this day, but are now unrestrained by the societal prudeness that once dominated the fashion industry.

The number of men that openly say some variant of "but why would I engage with anything to do with women if they aren't making it sexy for me?" just absolutely blows my mind. I'm in your camp. The scanty outfits just make me uncomfortable. When I watch football (very occasionally), I have to leave the room or distract myself when they break for cheer sequences bc it's so freaking creepy. Especially how...enthusiastic other people watching will get. Like, how is this so normalized??

Yep. At my high school athletes wore their uniforms to school the day of games (and by athletes I mean the ones the school actually cared about, so football, soccer, lacrosse, baseball, basketball, and cheerleaders because they were at those games, sorry swimmers and everyone else). The cheerleaders couldn't even wear their warmup jackets and pants because they violated dress code and had to get team T-shirts instead. For a sport like swimming it makes sense you aren't spending all day in a swimsuit, but ugh.

fr why I didn't join tennis

ngl my boyfriend's track uniform has some pretty short shorts. but i completely agree with the comment on sports uniforms for girls, and in general highschoolers who want to participate in sports shouldn't have to wear things they're uncomfortable with. i like wearing short shorts sometimes, but it shouldn't be a requirement for any gender.

:O .... It's true

Whoever said this is very wise and very correct.

@@zombieedrea Mike Tyson

On the other hand, it prevents @$$holes from randomly punching other people in the face for being "disrespectful" (aka not being deferent to the puncher). The problem with violence as a social consequence is that those most willing to use it are rarely those with the best social views they are enforcing.

To quote the great Hollywood Undead: "You don't know what it's like to get your head lumped in."

Yeah, while the infantilization of women is bad, I also find it particularly concerning how boys are expected to grow up super quickly.

Yeah, feels weird

@@Ammiteur9 well, life is hard, and work is salvation right? But at least it's better than a century ago where they were sent to the coal mines, and the girls got married at 13

Never understood how men squares the differences inerit with infantelization of women, then go "if she's old enough for puberty she's old enough for..." 🙄 Also, yes boys are forced to grow up fast to a degree regarding responsibilites and such, but the "boys will be boys" mentality that's still popular negates quite a bit of that imo

@@tinaday189 Yeah, I was thinking specifically about how there seems to be so much emphasis on "becomming a man" in media, and that this makes me a bit uncomfortable for a bunch of reasons. Or in real life, when a boy is grieving or just sad about something and then they're told to "be a man and toughen up" or something. But there, of course, is the aspect of letting boys and men get away with more immature or recless stuff because they're "men" and there are definetly a lot of girls and women who had to grow up super quickly as well. All of it is just a huge oxymoron.

Or she will have more time to play the Sims without this selfish boyfriend.

​@@LilolaKnittsEither way, an entire win. The more you read about the story, the worse it gets, too!

I was thinking that she was gonna have a lot of time to play the game, trying to make up for what was lost

Especially since she spent 7 years on the same file. I start new saves all the time so I can't imagine how many generations deep she was.

@@gabrielledickinson4530 seriously. She must’ve been so attached to that family.

Really. He probably only got negative attention as a child. He ‘s an adult he should have “grown out of it” (ie gone to therapy)

What gets me is how he calmly explained how reasonable it was, like a psycho.

I bet he never volunteered to help her out with chores to free up some "them" time. Instead he whines that her unwinding activity to get away from the stress of constant productivity would be better spent on pampering his wants.

Maybe it was just a bot writing the post. It seems very obvious to me that reddit will say: YTA. Most popular posts I've seen on AITA recently were created by bots (people with only one post, created on the same day, not saying it's a throwaway)

Honestly, my hs & college "sweetheart" started to do this. He demanded that if I wasn't in school, I had to be with him. I was working on a fine art degree in university. Classes were 3 hrs long, and we had to spend twice as much time outside class as in just to pass, not even do well! I have fibromyalgia and needed to rest outside all that studio time and this, plus his demands for s*x when I wasn't feeling up to it was too much. Fun fact! Depression meds, and stress, can tank libido individually. Combine the two? That's a nope from me, dawg.

"I told her she was overreacting, and I know I'm right because I don't care about her game and my feelings are the only ones that matter on this topic"

It's funny that these guys are usually claiming that women are so much more emotional than the logical, calm man, and 5 seconds later they punch a hole in the drywall because they're angry

i swear people who say that have never been told no or seen consequences for their actions in order for them to now see any reaction as 'overreacting'. so now my answer to them is 'no, im allowed to have a reaction and you will listen to it'.

Yeah! Those words are a bit narcissistic for someone to say...

If I were overreacting, you wouldn't be conscious enough to point it out.

Yeah, it also gives me "I could walk unaided at 6 months old" vibes. Aka the age most kids are still learning to sit up.

Cardamom 😍🤤 Seriously, the more advanced the spice cabinet, the better food you'll get! That's a way more likely scenario 😂

Yeah, like spices? Spices of all things is a red flag? More like a green flag for yummy food.

Sumac is so damn good! Reminds me of salted plum. Astringent and fruity, perfect on top of a lightly flavored rice (example: rice cooked with chicken or vegetable broth, grated or crumbled mild cheese on top) But what is up with the cumin hate? Did it remind them of armpits or do they just hate flavor?

I don't get why he said if she has the spices. she's well travelled by well travelled do you mean 5 feet from the salt at my local Wal-Mart.

my question to this white man is, “do you think people from other cultures don’t exist?”

Also, not a goaled game, eh? Then why is there an achievement for playing a family for 100 generations? (As someone with about 2500 hours on the game, i have never even managed to stick with a save for more than 4 generations, which was a few months at most. Can't imagine how losing a multi-year save would feel!)

Like wa it’ll he hears about adult men playing wow

Yes, bloody insane to just delete a file like that. I can't even imagine what it would feel like to have the commitment to play the same game for seven years.

I wish I could have the self-control to not punch my boyfriend if I was in that scenario.

If i did that you would find me in a shallow grave before the end of the week, what the fuck

She's fantastic!

Always found the obsession with "natural beauty" weird, when a lot of the "Natural Beauty" traits men praise are often stuff that's manufactured. Beauty is Beauty imo

It's even weirder considering that men's beauty is kinda manufactured too. You are often seen as more handsome if you trim or shave your facial her correctly and style your hair too. You rarely get to look the most handsome man on the planet when you have not seen a barber in 6 month 😅.

I get why it is funny but that's also why she's in the "made up something to be mad about" camp. I mean she paid for all of these alterations. Did she really just want to be able to complain that the effects weren't seamless?

I dig her almost transhumanist attitude. “This is all fake. Completely fake. No one actually looks like this, unless they do all the crazy stuff I do.” And just OWNING it! To quote the lead singer of Dead or Alive: “It’s my body, and if I want to put my nose on my arse I’m gonna do it” (might have a bit of phrasing wrong, but I’m close!)

Boosting this comment because in this climate, this is such important information

Mom taught me to use those small in the purse calendars to keep track.

This is so true. Btw it took me a while to figure out the spelling was deliberately wrong LOL.

Exactly - expecting your children to dress a certain way around company isn't unreasonable in and of itself, but if the rule only applies to when one specific person comes to visit, uhhhh, maybe that's not someone who should be around young girls (or women in general?).

They're also making excuses for a child-m0l3ster. So _eeeew!_ 🤮🤮🤮🤮

Right they were missing so much of the point. Obviously this conversation isn’t going to be sad abt a kid who is in their underwear when guests come over. It’s likely about someone who is in a shirt and shorts

My mom does warn me to use either a specific pajama or to cover myself with a robe, not because the family member (or acquaintance albeit that's a different social circle, I admit) is a danger or something but simply out of respect and decency, so not having a teen or grown woman in a summer pajamas which will probably have some revealing parts I would say is fine. BUT that's it. It's our house, we dress how we want, and all I do when I'm nervous because the delivery guy/gal/individual is coming, is either put my robe over my pjs or my gym pants on and a shirt over my pajamas (if not too hot). I do this out of self awareness of course but also because a stranger doesn't need to be creeped out or weirded out by another stranger during their work. Because it's weird seeing a grown up or teen in pajamas let's be honest. Otherwise, do whatever you wish dear humans, if it's in your house, your rules.

​@@filypa101 if you have to cover up for one/some family members but not others, that family member is the problem, not the clothes.

It's a good theory. Unfortunately the statistics about the number of women murdered every year by their boyfriend, fiance, husband, or ex, say that actually abusive men are a lot better at hiding their abusive intentions than women are at detecting those hidden abusive intentions.

@tealkerberus748 What? Did you mean this for me or is there a comment I missed? I agree with you but I didn't state a theory, just that men should act better than a terrifying bear. I mean yeah, sociopaths and abusers tend to hide their abusiveness very well and slowly inject it into the relationship until it feels almost normal to the partner being abused. This is true. So yes, men and thus all partners should be better. Be the guy that a girl wouldn't choose a bear over. It's a delightfully simple phrase that sums up really the whole point. Don't be a pos.

Yeah I get what you were saying, and honestly it's a good motto to live by so preach man.

Good take indeed!

​@@tealkerberus748this comment has zero connection to what it is commenting on

Luckily, he was apparently too stupid to delete it permanently, so she got the save back with some help. Hopefully this knowledge (along with the fact that she left him) will help you sleep better.

@@lazyvincy13666THANK GOD. As an avid sims player, I can’t tell you how my jaw dropped.

30, and for real, at 18-20 i didn't even know how to properly style outfits or hair and my face was too childlike still.

Spot on

Don't think those two things have anything to do with each other? I get what you mean but those concepts are not really connected to each other lol

@@ettaetta439 Think of the reason why he did what he did

​@@ettaetta439he's upset at her for not wanting to dedicate all of her free time to him. Essentially, he doesn't want her to have a life if it doesn't revolve around him, and he chose to go about it in the most controlling way possible.

Bro could've told her that he wants more time with her. But noooo had to be an evil dick about it smh

Thankfully she apparently got her save back

It obviously was for her as well. That's why he even started questioning whether he was the ah at all. That moron thought that deleting the game would be the worst he could do. He doesn't even realize that deleting the game wouldn't have been a big deal whereas deleting the save files was ...

I looked into it and it seems the boyfriend left a lot of details out and was far worse than they seemed, their replies to others calling them out was just digging themselves further, and the girlfriend responded on Reddit and clarified stuff, like them destroying the backup drive when they were upset about the save files, but thankfully, it seems the girlfriend not only left the toxic guy, they did manage to recover their save file

@@VortexTC THE SAVE FILE SURVIVED??????? HECK YEAH

Very immature. Most likely only got negative attention as a child, and has not worked through that. He’s an adult, and should grow out of that lol

Instant loss of trust.

Even a parent deleting their child's save file is disgusting enough I wouldn't disagree with anyone who called it abuse. Breaking another person's stuff, regardless of your relationship to them, is simply dehumanising. Punishing somebody by breaking their stuff is almost _never_ a proportional response. You are taking away something that matters to them, forever. You are deleting a part of their life. To the individual, it's like having a pet die, even if the thing itself was never technically alive to begin with. Of course, this is not including situations where said stuff is actively hazardous to the health of the individual or those around them. But even then, it's better to have a discussion first unless somebody is in immediate danger. _Especially_ if the thing they care about is putting their own health in danger, as for example just destroying a source of addiction can lead to withdrawal that's more hazardous than the addiction itself, so you need a plan to slowly back it off. TL;DR: People who do that are disgusting _regardless_ of their relationship to the victim! And yes I'm sure you OP and anyone reads this knows it too. But yeah, even just the suggestion (even if a suggestion of the dickhead's thought processes rather than your own) that it would be somehow more appropriate if it came from a parent just triggers something in me, as somebody whose parents _didn't_ respect my autonomy to like stuff and think certain stuff was important that was different to _their_ definitions of what one should like and consider important. Their continued failure to grasp this concept last time I gave them a chance is why we're still not on speaking terms. It really messes with you when you don't feel you have any ultimate control over your time, space, and stuff.

Another comment said that they got together when she was 12 and he 16... Telling her to keep it a secret until she turned 18.. I hope it's not true

jesus christ im glad the gf got out then, what the hell 😭

he also wanted her to look/sound as if she liked it... I hope that young woman has good friends who tell her to run.

🍇ist 100%

A clever answer to the text would be "You're right, I do need to up my game... See you in 5 years, I gotta go train"

You're right, I'll never get the hang of this. At least I tried. Well, now we know I'm terrible at it, let's not try that again. I think I'll try knitting or making sourdough bread next.

@@XanagiHunag Or maybe "I'm new to this, what's your excuse?"

I'm already ready

Ooh, what's yours? I like rosemary in mine :)

As I recall literally the opposite happened. The girls and women asked to wear pants/shorts and they were basically told "no, you're here to be eye candy for the men".

Also in some disciplines it’s ridiculous, beach volleyball and long distance track are like bikinis versus loose shirts and shorts. Guess who gets what!😂 also😭

What? You mean to tell me someone would just lie on the internet? Why would they do a thing like that?

Just let all athletes choose which style to wear and see what happens. At least as a regular woman™ I can just buy my workout clothes in the men's section if I don't like the woman's selection (which mostly is the case).

​@@RuthBhmand *Do the men get the bilinis*

He went all the way up to the other side of tract looking like god imperator of Dune cosplay.

I’d classify him as “a toddler” and not in any shape to be in a relationship.

​@@GretchZi coukd forgive a toddler as they don't have any frame of reference for the consequences. By his age? He knew. He knew better, that's why he smashed the thumb drive backup. This was premeditated with intent to hurt. It worked, he just thought he could manipulate her & that part failed.

... a colon?

Intestines?

OMG, I _loved_ that line!

The question that springs to my mind is: How does she know that about the wok and makeup?!? Maybe I'm not up on cooking trends these days, hmmmm....

Organic! That's healthy XD

​@@loka7783most makeup for "mature skin" is made with an oil base instead of water, to be less drying. Cast iron is seasoned by baking oils into the metal to make them non-stick.

Good ending

Oh I'm so happy she got her saves restored and got out of there, poor girl

He smashed the backup drive with a hammer?!?! I'm so glad she got out of there, how long would it have been before that was her skull??

What blows my mind is how this guy thought in anyway this was going to work out well for him. He explains, in detail, how full of a life she has and somehow arrives at the conclusion of taking away one of her sources of enjoyment will make her more attentive on him? He should be thanking his lucky stars she hasn't taken him to small claims court for the file repair bill.

WOW. THIS BOY IS A TODDLER. Toddlers are crazy, and putting one in an adult body is dangerous. He needs to be in therapy. For a month. Constantly.

Turns out they were all trans and were men on the inside the whole time!

basically this is the click copy there is many of them they are coming your house to tell you you smell absoluetly astonishing today

​@@bunbunnikokinda like how he doesn't ever remember r/furryirl

they all transitioned

@@bunbunniko I was about to comment this but thanks for spreading the information not enough people know this 🙏

They don’t exist online.

@@whywouldyoudothat1346 i know monkeys do at least i think they come in female versions

​@@whywouldyoudothat1346wait... im not real???!

@@𝚗𝚒𝚌𝚌𝚢니키 you never were 😶‍🌫️

@@mariii__881 D:

Oh Yeah, but don't forget that there are some characters that just fight in normal clothes. They might not understand the concept of "needing protection" though if they think it makes sense

Reminds me of a comic with a warrior woman wearing the stereotypical bikini armor being asked "don't you need more protection?" And she then takes the entire FRONT HALF of her chest off, revealing that it was indeed, fully protective, but painted to look like it isn't.

​@@minestar2247 at least normal clothes don't get in the way of fighting as much as a chainmail bikini.

​@@erinfinn2273 I want to see that comic

@@erinfinn2273there was also a comic sort of making fun of explanations of it like “oh it’s actually magic, the space inbetween is invulnerable. Wait, why do I have to wear this an all?” And then just charging into battle naked

Can't see something that isn't real

@@someonehavinganidentitycrisis thats true

Yh as a female™ I've also never seen any

Same

@@RebeccaRyan-ss4ge So you've never seen a mirror? That's good, mirrors LIE to you. They says stuff like you are fatter than you are, that you look ugly, your hips are too big etc. You are beautiful, never let anyone (especially the mirror) tell you otherwise.

Weird way for them to tell us they can't cook

Those commenters were all justifying and supporting child-m0l3station. Like, _eeeeeurgh!_ 🤮🤮🤮🤮 They probably also scream, "gRoOmEr," at librarians for having drag-storytime, and run around accusing gay men like me of being p3d0s all the time.

Who is driving? Oh my god Bear is driving how can that be?

You should never get in a car with a bear driving...until you are sure that their driver's license is valid and their insurance is all paid up. Bears can be really irresponsible.

Reminds me of that part in Gravity Falls when Stan has a bear drive for him and he tells the officers it’s his “seeing-eye-bear.”

Glad you made it out 🎉

Good on you for moving on! I wish you and your children the brightest future.

Your story is my story too! Can confirm, being alone is WAY better than even a minute sitting on eggshells with a toxic partner

"Limits herself to one death per lifetime" But what about women who, say, had an accident and were technically dead for a brief time before being resuscitated? Hmm you bigot? (obligatory /s)

@@AngryReptileKeeper Sounds like a skill issue.

A question I doubt I will ever have the answer to: Why does this process take years for 2 straight people? It’s a stereotype for 2 women to move in together basically instantly, but I married my wife of 6.5 years 3 months after we met, and the process was the above. Is it the BS we see in these videos of treating the other gender like alien beings? Is that what society has done to straight people that “do I like you enough to make a life together?” takes so long? Is it all the centuries where marriage was more of a transaction? The whole “women don’t need a man anymore, so the social systems of the past don’t work” thing? My wife slipped into my DMs, and after a few weeks of messaging I said “Yes.” Then we met twice and I cancelled a move and plans to start a business, because she couldn’t go with me and I couldn’t go without her.

​@GretchZ So my perspective, as a bisexual (M) in a heterosexual relationship of a year with a woman (also bisexual) I plan to marry: -I only plan to get married once. If I'm committing to someone, I want to make absolutely sure we're compatible on pretty much all fronts. World views, thoughts on kids, life goals, etc. A lot of that stuff doesn't come out until after a few months at least. I do agree that most of my straight friends tend to see other genders as alien beings however; men in particular are socialized to not share emotions nearly as much as women, inevitably leading to resentment and conflict, for example. -I also want to have lived with the person for a while. As someone whose family is somewhat disfuncrional in terms of everyone working equally to maintain a household, this is important to me. -Sometimes you're not at the right chapter of your life. I'm working on a PhD right now and we want to save up a nest egg by living with our parents before buying a cottage in the woods somewhere, so marriage will have to wait a few years for us. For me at least, it's mainly point 3. We keep no secrets, work to support and better each other, and genuinely just enjoy hanging out and gawking over our cats. She's my best friend :)

​​​@@JohnSmith-bb7vongl I hear a lot of good marriages are equal parts marriage and 'we're best friends'. I find it kind of great. Especially if you have be best friends with them for a while. I think the reason for this is my parents were best friends before they married, and then after covid they got a lot of introspection that led to them realizing that 1, my mom didn't get enough time to figure herself out in life, to develop as a person. Both of them agreed this was the case, and with the strain of covid that was starting to show, marrying young can indeed have pretty big consequences if you just jump into it right off the bat. 2, they realized that their friendship wasore important then their marriage. So they split up and verbally agreed to divorce, but, they're still really good friends. This happened when I was 17, my older sister was 20, and my younger brother was 16. It was hardest on my brother, but me and my sister took it pretty well after coming to terms. The biggest thing that made this smooth is that, like I said before, they stayed good friends, and remain so to this day. That's how I learned that it's important to end a marriage before you loose a friend. Marriage isn't the be all end all, and it doesn't only have to end on a bad note after a bad fallout of ill-planned-out decisions 20 years ago. Catch the problems before they spread to every aspect of your life. My parents overall had a good marriage, thanks to my dad my mom became a very open-minded, understanding person. But with how young she got married, my father had taken up a massive part of her life, a part most people use to adjust to a world beyond their families/school/college. She needed to catch up on time she missed and, unfortunately couldn't do so with my father. Friendships definitely help marriages, during and after them. Marriage doesn't mean a friendship has ended and something else has begun, it sticks with you, and if you play your cards right it's something you can fall back on if the marriage had some technical difficulties. Sorry for the info dump, I'm just happy for ya, made me reminisce. I hope it goes well for you two, gawking at cats sounds like an amazing pass time to bond over XD

​@@JohnSmith-bb7vois

Like, it's one thing I delete my old saves. This one deserves a fucking shiv lol

Yes, unfortunately, I absolutely think a guy who would delete his girlfriend's Sims save file would have destroyed her sketchbook. His girlfriend's hobbies don't mean anything to him because they don't benefit him. His goal with deleting the file was very likely to make her spend more time with him because he likely only sees her as an object that belongs to him and whose sole purpose is to entertain him, not as a sentient being with her own interests outside of him.

​@@kattriella1331 He also probably has sex on his mind for a big part of the day when it comes to her, and he probably sees The Sims as a cock block. I'd be baffled at the guy's immaturity if this wasn't so disgustingly common 💀

Yeah, I feel it maybe starts with a "g"?

​@@erinfinn2273 and I think it finishes with... *checks notes* 'rooming'?

@@Jamie_the_Polyglot *checks notes* Yep. Yeah that's the one.

Possibly they should *stop* thinking of the children. O_o

@@AnimeLuver0604 But they can't stop thinking of the children, what if that ONE drag queen grooms them! Better they do it themselves!

Wait, but vinegar still can taste good sometimes, but you aren't wrong about your comparison

@@minestar2247 not to me it doesn't. IDK if I'm sensitive to it or what, even a little bit of vinegar is overwhelming and drowns out all other flavours.

@@koivunen2489 Oh, well then, your comparison is even more correct

Vinegar does help in cleaning, unlike men who say women age like milk while they claim to age like wine

@@cbgaming7209 That's a fair point

I wish some women could do the praying mantis thing, but no mating

I remember the post of the girlfriend, she did break up with him completely over this.

Good for her. Anyone who would delete a save file intentionally has SERIOUS control issues and needs therapy.

Delete my save files, I delete you 😈

​@@TheRedAzukiI'm so happy for her!

Same if it was a save file that old

That kind of assumes the man would be targeting the woman which is why I guess the guys who flipped out about it did so. Paints a pretty sad picture regarding the relationship between men and women which should make anyone think.

I still don’t get it tbh. The VAST majority of men aren’t predators and even if that one was one, you could still fight and might win. You absolutely can’t win against a bear. And yeah, bears just want food and personal space, the problem is that YOU are a potential food and also might be in it’s personal space.

​@@ida6950some can fight, but again it depends on the man as well. And like they said; the worst case scenario is completely unpredictable. Remember that woman in France who's home was invaded, and she was raped and tortured with a broom for hours, to the point of perforating her lung? I don't know what happened to her, but I know she at least lived long enough to fight for her life at the hospital. I'd rather die by bear than that.(And yes. That is a veeery extreme case, and just original scenario I'd choose bear since I still have faith in men in general. But imagine all the women who've already suffered assault or near enough? Cause that number is sadly waaay too high.)

@@alisemaleneohme4666 I agree the outcomes are definitely more unpredictable with a man, but the worst case scenario with a bear seems much more likely than the worst case scenario with a man (even though the latter one would of course be worse). Also just the option of fight or flight is basically non existent with a bear. A man is just a human, a human that is on average stronger than the average woman, but still just a human. I’ve also been assaulted but idk, I guess I truly do believe that most people are good, or at least not raging psychopaths. But I understand their reasons now thank you. I just think it’s really sad that so many women and girls don’t trust men.

My mom had been happily married to my dad for 46 years, and not only would she choose the bear, but she's actually encountered bears while hiking alone in the woods. They typically run away unless there's food nearby. She's also encountered random men in the woods, and she'll tell you she was more concerned with the men for obvious reasons. But my mother, being a smart woman, was also armed- not because of the bears, mind you. The caliber wasn't large enough to deter a bear. But a man with bad intentions, on the other hand...

But if bear not fren why snoft and round?

@@kylebear8101 Bear can be friend but you need to act like bear wants not like you're interacting with a human.

Thats super interesting! Where would I be able to watch that?

But vinegar tastes good…

@@Aaa-vp6ugnot on its own, unless you enjoy hurting yourself.

Tbh all wine will turn bad with time if not for very specific conditions. Like you have to change the cork, keep the wine in a cellar...

​@@Aaa-vp6uglmao try drinking some vinegar dude.

@@audreytwo I have.

This video taught me travelling is now considered satanic? As a tourism professional warms my heart 😈

Gamer crimes like that should put him in an EA loot box grind for 7 years.

I'm content at this happy ending, thanks for bringing us the epilogue!

Oh, thank god she got her files back!!! I was so absolutely pissed for her!

@@richardarriaga6271not sponsored by EA. Government mandated EA-style lootbox grind

Yep. I wish the "he trashed her backups" had been included cause I've come across a few comments calling her stupid for not keeping backups. Like she did, he trashed those too.

"But your honor, he was wearing a shirt that said "F*ck you, you f*cking f*ck!" probably would not be an acceptable defense during a murder trial.

​@@AngryReptileKeeperor an SA trial *especially if the victim is A NUN* (actually happened)

See, if i were in the woods wearing a raw salmon bikini with a bear, i can understand the consequences. (This is also why Lady Gaga didn't wear her steak dress while camping.) My problem, is men saying they have less self control than a wild animal. 🤦🏼‍♀️🤷🏼‍♀️

​@@Ramsey276one“But your honor, nuns are my fetish, women should definitely know that a lot of men have nun fetishes ☹️”

"But your honor, he was wearin a RED SHIRT! he was practicly begging to get killed!"

Or the concept of creating your own goals that aren't set by the game devs or other players. A photo wall with one hundred generations of university graduation photos, anyone? How about a museum build with the full set of every collectible in the game? Actually you need a really powerful machine to handle a lot with that much stuff on it, but if you have one museum in each world and put a few collections in each you can collect the full set of everything in the game without crashing.

I'm sorry but "you're the prize, not her" like r/suddenlygay? I'm choking on my spit laughing at myself for thinking this

15 to 18 year old “men” are NOT adults. Their brains are still forming. The same goes for “women” of that age range.

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fuck yeah

Why not both? Extra fluffy bear!

I think the animal might still be a step up from our current options tbh

He's also clearly unaware that some men find it incredibly hot when women are shy.

@@AngryReptileKeeper Yup. Jeez, that guy sucks.

Yes 😂

Honestly I would LOVE to be a velociraptor, though the ones in jurassic park are not really velociraptors but instead deinonychus but the lil dinos are cool! Very silly fellas who actually have some respect from EVERYONE

@@voidsatas1524which makes it better

Same, it's wild remembering the 2000s-2010s gatekeeping male gamer attitude and comparing it to what I've just heard. Any excuse to be awful I guess.

A bunch of us hunted down that post on Reddit. She dumped the Uber-controlling prick, the local tech shop was able to recover her stuff, and she’s looking into a restraining order. This guy is a creep; they started dating when he was 16 and she was TWELVE.

I choose to believe that the dead internet is close enough that at least half of those comments are just bots trying to drive engagement.

When you see that youjust have to remember he's either a troll or someone that would never find a loving companion

Completely agree, I was shocked to see how many homophobic misogynists crept out the wood work on Billie Eilishs new music video spewing their incel rage at teenage girls on there (they were shocked to be clap backed at by a grown adult femoid) I've been sheltered by the wholesome click community 😆 I know the memes are cursed but honestly didn't think they came off reddit long enough to comment elsewhere 🤷‍♀️

Honestly as someone who's struggled with being judgemental of people, you got it spot on. The way people enjoy things shouldn't matter to anyone but themselves.

Real grownups let people enjoy things

It mostly makes me feel sad for them, because you know someone at some point in their life "told" them it was time to put away childish things and become an "adult." And we're just not subscribing to that behavior anymore. I think my best hope for them is that they might be able to reconnect with something that gave them joy as a kid. Then they might understand.

Yeah, in a way it's a red flag because it's only ever used by people who haven't grown up themselves.

Well in a sense this isn't twisting, it's evidence. One single person - a man, to be precise - made a very general statement about women. Now it's very possible that this particular man had a lot of contact with women and knew what he was talking about concerning the women he knew, but in the grand scheme of things, one can say that this is still a very small sample size. So the "would you rather" thing that happened next, if it had been done in good faith, would have been just... providing evidence to prove or disprove the hypothetical. I say "if it had been done in good faith" because you just *know* a good number of those tiktokers etc staged and/or edited stuff to make it look like one answer was predominant by a large margin, or even the only answer they received at all, even if that may not have been the case. After all, they aren't scientists... they just need those juicy, juicy views, and this was perfect fodder for ragebait. In the end, if the original tiktok was all there was to it, the toxic men would've been able to just ignore it based on the fact that it was one guy saying this thing and it was probably ragebait anyway (I'm not saying that the original tiktok was ragebait, but the toxic men could have made themselves believe that to avoid introspection). But with so many women agreeing that they would, indeed, pick the bear, the toxic dudebros couldn't ignore this or make one bad kitchen joke about it and move on with their lives. Now that there was proof, it had become important. They started feeling the need to twist the debate in their favor because it became big enough that they felt threatened by it. That's what I think happened, anyway.

So, a men created a controversy to spark another tidal wave of misoginy? Figures.

I think if you *genuinely* asked that question and mean it completely literally, just the risk of encountering one average male hiker vs one average brown bear on an average trail, then any woman who picks the bear has probably never left the city nor actually seen any mammal larger than a dog and judges the species bear based on the movie Paddington. The idea that wild animals are a petting zoo is actually a completely unrelated phenomenon.

@@Alias_Anybody Worst case scenario with a bear - it ends me pretty quickly. Worst case scenario with a man - t*rture, SA, k*dnapping, tr*fficking, cruelty and misery for an unknown period of time. I'll take my chances with a damn *polar* bear when that's the alternative. Also, it was based on the statistic that 1 in 3 women will be attacked by a man in her lifetime, whereas actually being attacked by a bear while hiking is exponentially less common. I think people need to consider that while men aren't inherently bad, there is no way that the "vast majority" of men are safe to be around alone when you look at a statistic like that. People who say things like "any woman who picks the bear..." are forgetting that 1 out of 3 of us have already experienced what an "average male" can do.

@@allyh7075 So you literally can't read? The assumption was just one man and one bear. Not somewhere in the forest, but 15m away. How common it is to encounter bears is literally irrelevant for that question. Coconuts kill more people than Great White Sharks, but that's not relevant if the question is who you'd prefer to have in the same pool with you. Polar bear vs hiker is literally a 95% chance of being ripped apart alive vs a 99% chance of saying high and walking past each other. Oh, and even brown bears DO NOT always end you quickly. There are literally recordings of one eating a couple alive.

It's a virtual waifu. He's saying he prefers a woman who doesn't exist.

​@@trishapellisCongrats to him, women also prefer that for him 😅

She was 5 years younger than the rule-of-thumb limit of half his age plus 7. He was definitely searching for someone who wasn't knowledgeable or confident enough to stand up to him.

"Yes, thanks, I am well aware that I don't NEED to. I actually WANT to!"

What part of that implied you would have done it for him?

"It’s amazing how entitled people can be with those types of comments." - Oh the irony!

​@@donnyshields4450Pretty sure OP was just trying to say that she's doing it for herself and not for anyone else

​@@donnyshields4450 The part where he thought HIS OPINION on her body would influence her decisions on what to do with her own body.

Even so, a backup is a great idea. Never know when something may happen to the files.

​@elaexplorer exactly! I realized while watching that bit that it had been a while since I backed up my saves!

I looked into it and it seems the boyfriend left a lot of details out and was far worse than they seemed, their replies to others calling them out was just digging themselves further, and the girlfriend responded on Reddit and clarified stuff, like them destroying the backup drive with a hammer when they were upset about the save files, but thankfully, it seems the girlfriend not only left the toxic guy, they did manage to recover their save file

@VortexTC I'm sorry...he destroyed the backup drive with a hammer!? Dude, that's a literal crime, property damage...So glad to hear both that she left his ass AND that she recovered her save!

Backup is always a good idea because drives can shit themselves lol

And the entire alpha beta shit is also made up as wolves don't use that system! The person who invented it admitted it themselves

IT doesnt help that the 'study' that whole thing came from was flawed from teh ground up and the one who did it ended up pulling the whole thing because of it.

@@marcusreading3783 He was specifically studying a large pack that was confined to a small area in a national park. The behavior does exist within wolves under those conditions. But typically wolves don't like to gather those large of numbers, it only happens due to habitat lose and captivity. The initial study isn't wrong, but the original study should be amended to reflect the sample size and location. However, again, wolves prefer family units of 3-5 rather than large packs of 10+.

If anything, they should be using the term "silverback" instead. 😂 Even then, I doubt that's still actually how primate groups work. Idk. I'm not an animal biologist. XD

​@@KewlImpRight. Point being, the study did not even represent broader WOLF populations. This was why the study was retracted. Much less represent anything whatsoever about human behavior, as people like to use it... So embarrassing

Same.

That was the year I graduated from high school. I just graduated from college at the beginning of the month (the 11th)

'The'... what? I need to know!

​@@IamBored22 He tried a lit one mid-sentence

Yes​@@IamBored22

@@IamBored22 He tried a lit one mid-sentence. The

​@@osheridan clearly big scented candles got him

Yes! Click please make this!!!

a shitload of mammals are single mums. occasionally teaming up to raise the kids. have these people never seen an animal documentary?

And when a lion fails at his job in the pride, the lionesses kick him out like trash.

@@karowolkenschaufler7659 The vast mayority of mammal females at that. A lot of human women included. It's actually rare for male mammals to be involved in the childcare

@@rac1equalsbestgame853 this can really be infuriating. not only gets "natural" equated with "good" wich is complete bollox. people don't even know what "natural" actually is. makes e want to scream regularly.

@@karowolkenschaufler7659 Same!!! Grrr