I have a strong feeling that your channel is going to be very validating for the Hollis children and Heidi's children when they're older. No joke, this channel might be like therapy for them.
"if someone thinks this topless picture of my kid is ~inappropriate~, that's not my intention, they're just twisting it!!" yes. that's the thing we're trying to avoid.
RH is living, breathing proof that money doesn’t buy class. The utter lack of self awareness and humility baffles my mind! Why doesn’t her “team” step in and write a better narrative?🤷♀️🤷♀️🤷♀️
That story about Heidi's 15 year old daughter being hit on by an adult man is really disturbing to me. My mouth was hanging open, I couldn't believe Heidi's take on the situation. Very telling, as well. I feel sorry for her daughter, I hope she stands a chance in life.
Disturbed me as well! Especially as he approached her at the house! (Like ok, the guy seemed like he genuinely freaked when he realised she was so young, so I'm not salty at him) but for Heidi to film it, laugh and not be prepared to intervene? Just seems so weird and wrong to me? It could have gone so differently
I cannot listen to this woman without your commentary. I hope your mental health isn't suffering for our benefit! Thank you for your content 🙏 BUT ALSO, this whole Rach Talk is a humble brag??? Wow 🤦♀️
I am so confused. At the beginning, Rachel describes the movie where the girl makes a list of all the things she hates about the boy, but it turns out these are things she loves about him. Sooooo, in keeping with that line of thinking is Rach really saying these are things she ‘hates’ about herself, but secretly loves?
Quick content warning about SA in this comment: Heidi’s video and commentary on her daughter being hit on by that man made me physically ill. Over time I’ve come to realize how detrimental it was to my self image and relationship to consent that I was hit on so aggressively by college age and older men when I was 12-14. They always use the same line “you look so much older!”. I can’t help but feel the reality is that very young girls are actually just the object of their predatory desire and this society’s obsession with youth as the pinnacle of beauty and desirability. I think if I had been told by everyone that it was inappropriate for older men to hit on me and proposition me that I would have been better able to defend myself from some troubling situations where my consent was ignored. Shame on Heidi for reveling in and encouraging it instead of doing the responsible thing which is to tell an adult man to move along from hitting on her daughter who is a child!!! and then checking in with her to see how she’s feeling and if she’s okay. She is despicable for that. This is the reason so many young woman feel forced to grow up too fast, and feel pressured to become sexual and to appease the desire of older men when they are barely discovering their own relationship to romance and sex.
I couldn't agree more. I cringed when I saw Heidi exploit her daughter in a very awkward/potentially dangerous encounter. She's giving her daughter such an unhealthy message that it's simply flattering to be hit on. Heidi's reaction, laughing and recording it, is disturbing and offensive.
Denying straight-forward verifiable facts (like Rachel saying the pic of Noah was blurry and on the beach when millions of people saw a crystal clear image on a couch inside of a house) is such a sign of delusional narcissism to me. And I feel like it's escalating with her, it's starting to remind me of Caroline Calloway and 'Hilaria' Baldwin!
Hi Keya! Re: men and women being emotional. I love you that brought this up- people are murdered every day because a man can’t control his anger or feeling like his ego is hurt.
These might be Bot comments that they purchased🤷♀️🤷♀️🤷♀️? I have to say that you tend to take the words out of my mouth. I think that so much of this “self help” content can interfere with actual mental health treatment. Promoting magical thinking concerns me. We all go through periods where we feel lost, depressed, anxious, etc. These gurus prey upon people when they they are vulnerable. Thank you for addressing this issue.💗
Rachel seems like a smart enough woman. I wonder if she ever gets to see how this fake authenticity is pushing people away and how easy it would be to fix this by admitting to her actual flaws. If she said something to the effect of "I tend to blame others for my own mistakes; I want my life to look perfect and it makes me do and say cringe fake sh*t; and I have deep fear of loneliness that I try to mitigate with superficial and parasocial relationships," she honestly would win a lot of people over. But no, her biggest flaws are her hormonal imbalance and that she helps too many people lol
@@charliehobo7007 yep...she def has oh so many narc type or at the very least beyond defensive and projection type responses...don't think she cares to be the least bit relatable, much less vulnerable.
The saddest thing is that *most* of the things Rachel doesn't like about herself are things she really deserves compassion for OR are things that just aren't her fault at all... like being afraid of cold, deep waters - that's pretty normal and common and a biological protection fear. Feeling like you HAVE to help everyone around you is again, a coping mechanism. When we grow up around a lot of chaos and pain, some of us learn to cope with this by trying to mobilize ourselves. We try to take on healing those around us as a way of trying to make our OWN environment safe. If we had caregivers that were unstable, we may have learned that to help THEM was the best way to keep OURSELVES safe. And then as we grow into adulthood, we keep with us that feeling of responsibility for those around us, and the feeling that if we can make everyone AROUND us ok, that WE will then be ok. This is especially true if our caregivers DID blame us for their unhappiness or let us try to help them. Again this is more of not feeling safe and not feeling like you can be safe with those around you aren't ok. And a finding your identity in being a 'helper' - as this often helps us feel like we are good when we don't know what else to identify with to feel like we are good. SO many reasons we may do this, all of them coping and innocent. Not trusting peace - that totally tracks with what she's described about her upbringing and even her time with Dave and his emotional swings. That's not a flaw, that's a very normal survival strategy called hypervigilance. Not being in total control of your body is again, not her fault at all and not something to hate yourself for - she clearly has SO much internalized misogyny that culture and likely the Christian church (which lest we forget teaches us that our bodies are shameful, rebellious lumps of sin we must constantly be on the lookout for and against...) fed into her that she still carries as shame. Not being over what was clearly a very tumultuous, decades long relationship where she wasn't allowed to/didn't connect with her anger/emotions and was taught that those emotions were wrong and bad, and STILL being in a 'spiritual' group that shames these very real, normal, HEALTHY emotions, in only a year and a bit and thinking THAT'S a weakness makes no sense at all. Of COURSE she still has anger and that is NORMAL and HEALTHY. Being overly trusting of authority - again being raised Christian you are TAUGHT from day one to abdicate to authority. You're told over and over to submit to those who know better than you. Our culture teaches this a lot as well. This is all just normal, human coping. I type all this to say, if YOU resonate with anything she said, please don't hate yourself. Please don't see these things in yourself as bad or wrong. You're doing your best to keep yourself safe in a world where we have such little control. There's nothing wrong with you. These are NOT bad parts and they deserve LOVE and SYMPATHY not anger or hatred. You're worthy of evolving these parts if they are causing you pain, through love, validation and support in finding new ways to navigate the world. You're doing a good job.
I find it ironic that she's preaching that "just because someone has a big job, a big title, just because someone is in a position of authority doesn't mean they are authority" and yet talks in such an authoritative way on so many things she has zero credentials on...
Bingo! She’s so insecure about her lack of education it’s sad. She doesn’t seek an education because she cannot even accept there are other people who are smarter or more qualified than her. It’s willful ignorance at this point.
¡Te extrañé! I remember that you visited El Salvador recently, so maybe you know a little Spanish 😄 I’m glad you’re back and talking about our best friend Rach. Greetings from Mexico.
Notice how Dave quit the whole tea time videos with his daughter once he got the book deal. Of course, he’d actually have to be home to do them and not jetting off with his girlfriend every two days …
Oh man. You got me CACKLING with the “things I hate about myself… I compared myself to Harriet Tubman one too many times” ahhhhahaha 😂 Another golden video, Keya
I am so deeply disturbed by what Heidi said about her 15 yo daughter. That could have been a great moment to teach her about saftey and age appropriate interactions and THAT was Heidi’s reaction instead?? Ew.
Re: people in ‘authority’. I think it partially has to do with the man who told her to push forward (her “biggest regret”). And her religious upbringing in general. She talks about how much freer she feels now that she’s spiritual not religious.
I also read and saw those comments on Rachel Hollis's page & thought the exact same thing!! They definitely seemed fake or written by someone on her team. Great 👍 video again Keya! RH latest pod is insufferable. Heidi is even more disgusting
The poor kid just wanted to learn how to ride a bike, but this simple activity becomes some kind of object lesson that her mom can use for views. I would hate always being in the public eye for every little thing.
when a man sends you a drink, you do NOT need to send it back, and you don't owe him. He took the gamble. I get drinks from men all the time and i've never slept with one. Sometimes I hang out with them if they are cool. but that their problem, not mine
Hormones by definition are molecules that multi cellular organisms use to signal (communicate) between cells. I know she’s referring to two very specific hormones but it really annoys me when people talk about “people who are impacted by changes in hormone levels” because people, animals, plants, and fungi are all impacted by changes in hormones every day. Also “people who menstruate” is a good description because non binary people and trans men might get periods, but also a lot of women don’t get periods including post menopausal women.
Why do I feel like RH measured her marriage against a teenage fantasy of what a relationship is/should be? All partners are human. Relationships evolve. RH seems incapable of taking responsibility for her half of relationships. Everyone else is wrong, faulty, needs help.
There are reasons why people don't keep pictures in the pantry or cabinet xD First of all - this places usually don't have good light... Second of all - lots of shelfs are not used on daily basis, but quite seldom like twice a year, so it makes no sense to put there sth on which you want to look a lot... And if some shelf is often used it's really not handy to keep there things which can easily flip and which you need to constanly move - like the picture! I'm struggling with too many things on my favorite shelf which I constanly move forward and backwards, because I often needs things like oil, sugar, ketchup, soy sauce etc. and only one shelf is on convenient height... I'm already annoyed when sth which I currently need is behind sth which I used recently. If I would need to reach behind the picture each time to get salt (and it makes no sense to put such thing as picture behind flour etc) I would quickly hate the picture... So this is not advice for someone who is actually cooking xD
The poor kid o.e like I’m just sitting here going “Dave don’t make it weird” over and over. He’s allowed to have friends that are girls that are JUST FRIENDS.
I moderate RU-vid comments for a very popular mothering influencer and she NEVER gets comments on her RU-vid videos like this random YT vid from Rachel! Haha. I’ve seen THOUSANDS of comments and even the positive comments NEVER look like this! They’re totally fake haha.
What the ****, HP! Be wary of a man who's praising your 15-year-old, not PROUD she was complimented by him. Seriously. She should have used to opportunity to have a serious convo with her daughter about men who think she's an adult or compliment her cuz they like kids. This makes me so mad.
Heidi was obviously incredibly jealous that her daughter got hit on and not her. That’s why she over blew the whole situation and acted so gross about it
What you point out about the "woman who cleans my toilets" comments is really the point. She's literally relegating this person to being someone who deals with her shit. If it was actually about how much this person helps make her life easier, it would have been "the woman who makes sure all those random hairballs don't live in the corners of my rooms" or "the person who attacks my soap scum" or "the woman who has helped me avoid aggravating my repetitive stress injuries." She has repeatedly talked about her housecleaner over the years and every single time (as far as I know) it's been the toilet. It's not about what a useful service this person provides or how we can ask for help when we need it, it's about being able to pay someone to do the things she thinks she's too good for. They can deal with the shit so she can be the only hippie and ramble about how she can't handle cold water.
I'm shocked at how Heidi responded to that situation with her daughter being hit on. That could have turned into a seriously dangerous situation and all she thought to do was get her phone and "grab popcorn". Get a grip!
How is being afraid of cold water a practical example for what she claims is the purpose of this exercise which is to "become a better version of herself." Says: "I am afraid of a lot of things (a weenie 🤮)" but continues to focus only on her fear of cold water. She humble brags about being able to do things that a lot of people fear but wish they could do (public speaking) then she downplays her own fear by choosing the stupidest thing that no one even cares about. This is just a disguised and manipulative tactic used as another opportunity for her to talk and brag about herself. Does she think she is fooling anyone?
Omg… can you imagine if Ford’s friend isn’t allowed to hang out with him anymore bc her mom found out that Dave was creepily recording them and posting it online? Way to ruin a perfectly good friendship, Dave. Ford would be heartbroken (and NOT because it was a DATE, Dave!)
After so many times she has showed her true colors and Huge EGO and so many people knows already I can’t believe she doesn’t stop… I would be so embarrassed 🙈 Girl stop apologizing and stay quiet 🤫 Enough is enough
Just jumping on to comment about Heidi’s stories about Marley being hit on…did anyone catch her weak attempt at double metaphors (shooting a target, swing and miss) and wonder if Dave is helping her write the stories…you know there isn’t much Dave loves more than a dumb metaphor!
Two things. The authority comment by RH is ironic because she has spent years setting herself up as an authority figure for women everywhere. The Heidi thing with her teen daughter is disgusting. There are some real red flags with her using her daughter to advance her own personal brand and social presence. Any mom with empathy and common sense would have comforted her daughter, taught her about the world in that moment, and protected her, NOT filmed it and published it to the internet in SEVERAL IG stories. Ugh. (Also, why was she filming her anyway? How did she happen to catch that on video if it was a genuine random moment? 🤔🤔🤔) The lows these people reach are astounding.
The way that Rachel described her cleaner was absolutely disrespectful. It reeks of a person who grew up poor and now has some money so she considers herself ‘better’ than other humans and I don’t believe she even has the insight to realize the way she came off. I grew up with household help and have had help as an adult whom I have always described as people who help me ‘keep my life in order and running’ which is true (otherwise it would be complete chaos). I leave regular cash bonuses and holiday gifts for cleaners as well as tea/coffee and snacks out for their break (something I learned overseas where a “cuppa or teatime” is expected during the day by everyone in society) I am very grateful for the service these organized and efficient people can perform and I have had long term relationships with the same company/employees in the different places I have lived. I would not be surprised if Rachel’s cleaner decided to quit because she is not appreciated and is spoken about in a derogatory way. And yes! You are right about Rachel looking younger because she spends substantial money on herself. Regular Botox/fillers, surgical tweaks, facials, good skincare, gym membership/personal trainer and a healthy but expensive diet all make a huge difference!
She is careful and treads lightly around (and is obviously unwilling to actually admit the fact) that she constantly gives out unsolicited advice that she is not qualified to be giving, a dangerous and unethical practice that could lead to legal repercussions for malpractice.
r/blogsnark is extremely heavy handed with moderation and there's rumors that some of the moderators are hired damage controllers for the influencers they cover. Pretty much has turned into the non-snark sub.
I laughed out loud and cringed so hard at the "Trust Dave" thing. Lol! I'm sure it's meant innocently but it just sounds so wrong and their lack of awareness about that is amazing.
Dave got Botox. Look at him on the plane, no furrowed brow. The numbing cream is before Botox. Smart aleck remark about being allergic is related to Botox too.
Absolutely! She listed the results of her ACTUAL FLAWS [wanting to control the universe & everyone's mind (because she should , because she's perfect (which is why we should listen (insert _RH_Black ⚫️ hole_of_need_n_existential_insecurity))] . I would also be having large emo swings when large stadiums 🏟 on a TalkTour are empty. I think the island of Hawaii is probably pretty F'ing Happy that no one is wasting human energy on Psuedo self-help, humble-brag B.S.
43:12 Honestly, having been a self-help cultist for a bit, these comments do sound like the type of things people desperately clinging to a parasocial relationship
I can't believe they have photos of Noah like that. That 'toddler' cannot give consent. It's basically C. SAM. Do these people not know that sea P is a thing and that some creeps probably have pics of their kids on a drive somewhere. We should just report those photos as inappropriate and get them kicked off social media. Sure, they are the gift that keeps on giving, but those kids need to be protected and they aren't doing their job as parents making the kids part of their brand. Disgusting people, they have no boundaries.
Dear Rach- Instead of saying "bleeders" you need to say people who have periods or people with a uterus that have a monthly cycle... anything but bleeders. It's almost as if she's too afraid to use the correct terms. I think the only reason she looks a little better in this vlog is because she's using some beauty filter. I would not let Heidi Powell around any children nor would I want creepy Dave helping my child learn to ride a bike. They are horrible people.
I wanted to make a comment about Dave harassing Ford. Kids that age (I have 2 girls ages 12 and 15 so I’ve gone through that age twice) get very excited to see their friends and will ask multiple times when we’re leaving, no matter what. They are just beginning to really form relationships outside their family and being a little bit independent is exciting. It does not necessarily indicate a romantic feeling, they just get super excited to hang with their friends! It’s really weird and disturbing to me that Dave and Rachel both seem to think it’s entertainment to romanticize their 10 year olds relationships. Eew. It’s just gross. Let him just be a kid and stop putting him on the internet!
She believes that every one of her followers could , and suggests that they should, hire house keepers, but she doesn't think about the fact that not everyone is in a position to hire out for such services. I mean does she pay the "sweet woman who cleans her toilets" enough to have her own "sweet woman who cleans her toilets?" Who does she think her audience is?
I will say she looks really pretty more natural and chill behind the mic no camera person or being all done up. Otherwise she's still super self absorbed and oblivious ugh
Hmmmm too bad our girl, “Rach” didn’t read Brene Brown back in the day… because she totally researched how to help people who are waiting for the other shoe to drop 🤷♀️
Keya we are done. How you gonna dog me for getting a massage in my lymphatic foot!?!?!????? You don’t even know me. I’ve had it. Be well. Bless your heart. It cured my cancer.
These are so red flaggish especially when things are calm I can’t stand it. Whoa. 🚩 this is so hard to listen to. The self blame and shame she’s oozing just feels icky like I’m going to throw up
Omg you are spot on with your insight but ESPECIALLY with the Dave stuff. I am just 🫰🏼😚🫰🏼*snapping fingers in agreement* Poor kids- all the kids. Rach, Dave and Heidi are just a terrible trio 😣
If Heidi can’t teach her daughter to bike she has he actual Dad as well as siblings instead of Heidis friend with Benefits or whatever she and Dave are!
She seems to pick out (or create) comments that she can correct the record with, so to speak Conspiracy Theory Time: The possible fake accounts don't realize that the same comments that look real on IG and other platforms she's used to stand out on RU-vid because she doesn't know the culture here is vastly different
2 years ago isn’t much time especially since both of them where in long term relationships with the first person that came along only months later. And i doubt either listened if they went to therapy a about the divorce
