Re-Parenting - Part 17 - Accepting Others

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Every child needs to know how to find healthy friends, and how to distinguish between safe people and unsafe people; and they need to know what process to undergo in order to figure that out. They also need to know what to do when they encounter parts things in people that make them feel uncomfortable or annoyed. Do they reject the person or accept them?
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@user-nu7ey5gn5o 3 месяца назад

Tim has explained how friendships develop and what to look for in a friend. I’ve never had any education on friendship. It’s taken me until I’m 50 to understand. Thanks Tim

@robertdamphousse1351 10 месяцев назад

God works through men like tim. Thanks again Tim. ur the man

@wendyhandley9463 5 месяцев назад

This is the first time I've understood what trauma bonding really means, thank you, you explain things so meticulously, you are a wonderful teacher

@lunarose9042 3 месяца назад

What Tim says isn't what trauma bonding is. I would say what Tim has said here is people connecting via their shared trauma. Basing their connection on shared trauma and not shared values. Trauma bonding is way more serious and part of abusive relationships which stops people from leaving them.

@angelamossucco2190 2 месяца назад

So helpful especially when defining and explaining trauma bonding (second type) and reminding us that personality (innate) and character (shaped in the first 7-17 years by our treatment) are COMPLETELY SEPARATE and both matter in compatibility.

@Elaine-uc4un 8 месяцев назад

Unbelievably brilliant information thank you you described my experience completely

@gayleneflower398 4 месяца назад

Us CPTSD folks don’t know this stuff…omg, thank you ❤

@leeboriack8054 4 месяца назад

Tim’s talks are like listening to a stranger diagram the wiring of my thinking.

@oflavia2910 5 месяцев назад

By these criterion, none of the people i call friends would pass this test 😢😢

@ivonaharvey6894 4 месяца назад

What a wonderful person. He is able to articulate things people just feel somewhere deep inside but are unable to describe. I love how he is not judgmental. Feels very safe and understanding. I also love that he gives people reassurance to let go of some relationships, even those they feel like they must keep or else they are not good people. I have been accused of holding grudges towards a narcissist. It is very important to realize the difference between a self preserving boundary and a grudge.

@rajaaal-hussain486 Год назад

I am deeply in pain that is exactly my situation and keep fighting to be in healthy place all the time

@rociomartinez8666 3 месяца назад

Me too

@angelamossucco2190 2 месяца назад

ACA meetings are a good place to help you to heal.

@sarlut 2 года назад

I needed this. Thank you💛🙏🏽🙏🏽

@angstbeforebeauty 2 года назад

Thank you for your help.

@Kaizen800 3 месяца назад

This is an incredible breakdown of a very complicated process. Thank you so much for sharing.

@titaniumtiara4573 2 года назад

Tim, I thank you for your helpful content dueing my season of self discovery and I thank God for making sure I came across it.

@Curious1304 4 месяца назад

And thank the youtube algorithm that suggested Tim's awesome videos! 😊

@jordybpeterson9046 15 дней назад

You are helping me to find God and my authentic self. Get rid of toxic shame and allowing life to happen, understand boundaries, understand myself, how to live life. You are helping me heal. Thank you 🙏

@jordybpeterson9046 15 дней назад

You are helping me to find God and my authentic self. Get rid of toxic shame and allowing life to happen, understand boundaries, understand myself, how to live life.

@JaneHobby-zm3fg 3 месяца назад

This is incredibly helpful!!! Explained with such clarity

@meb3153 4 месяца назад

Excellent lecture, thanks! I enjoy the addition of the bible study, very interesting.

@erikaschaltenbrand7850 4 месяца назад

I’d love to hear about Tim’s back story

@Filibie 2 месяца назад

He has implied things throughout the series, some abandonment issues etc. Me personally I appreciate him not involving his own story too deeply. It keeps the focus on the help he is providing so very selflessly. The result in his composure and energy is more then clear. We can see the fruits of his labor instead of focusing on the dead branches that he cut along the way.

@marthawhite3353 4 месяца назад

Well, I am glad at this age to at least have a road map now as I have been struggling all my life with how to create a healthy life with safe people. And, myself trying to be a safe person. Tim, you have really done a beautiful thing here with these videos, thank you -

@janberger4057 2 месяца назад

Great video with a lot of good information that can be easily applied to one's life. I had a lot of misconceptions about what makes a good relationship and unfortunately learned to be a People Pleaser due to my dysfunctional family of origin. I no longer will allow passive-aggressive controlling people in my life. Thank you for this useful information.

@DigitalCasm Год назад

What I like about Part 16 and 17 is that it's really a take on radical acceptance.

@jak9934 Год назад

The 4 C’s of trust can be there for many, many years and the person can still betray you badly. People also change.

@isabelpalmer5941 2 месяца назад

This man reminds me of the essence of the scripture passage that says, "Proverbs 16:7-31 KJV. When a man's ways please the LORD, He maketh even his enemies to be at peace with him. " Tim, it is evident you are a servant of God who has humbled himself under the mighty hand of God, where God is now lifting you up using you greatly for many! Thank you for your devotion to God and his kingdom service to others. God bless you

@idoracruzinofre2882 2 года назад

this is all true sir, and I really have lots of trauma into my life and I know that if my biological father who also has a last name Fletcher, didn't left me behind I will be so happy because all of those abuse and working early at my young age to be a breadwinner of my family didn't happen to me

@emilykaris 3 месяца назад

Thank you for saying that if you see kids having issues the parents need to heal to provide the environment for kids to feel.

@elinorehansson-boe7282 4 месяца назад

Thank you! Iam in trauma treatment.. The more I understand and going through healing the more people around me must go... I ty to set boundaries but their actions tell me they don't approve.. I have had a lot of trauma bounding with others throughout my life..And I've set boundaries and many of them aren't able to change. That's why I can't be with them if they don't take responsibility over their behavior. . I have had to cut some people out and it made my life smaller.. Iam working on.. It's OK not having alot of friends.. I need funktionell, respectful relationship. It's still hard setting boundaries.. Often it's all or nothing or.. When I set boundaries I get the silent treatment for setting boundaries from that so called friend... I don't feel safe around new people anymore..

@doreenplischke2169 3 месяца назад

Hi. Just mentioning the importance to understand boundaries are not for others, they are for you. Not others have to follow your boundaries but you. If you stick w/your boundaries then others will either respect that or not. Boundaries are not there to try to change other ppl’s behavior whatsoever. Boundaries are not rules to others of what and what not to do. Boundaries are essentially your way of thinking, your self esteem, discernment, values, ethics and morals. If you are looking for friends than you are looking for comparability with others who share the same boundaries. Set an example. Have standards not expectations. Best of luck, good folks are out there.

@elinorehansson-boe7282 2 месяца назад

Iam not talking about changing people.. Bounderies goes both way.s..🙏

@kristym4243 29 дней назад

Wow I think this is the best info I have ever gotten

@CM-uo5tq 4 месяца назад

No contact from many is tough

@rociomartinez8666 3 месяца назад

Sometimes you gotta self persevere

@zzulm 2 года назад

Thank you

@tearthangel373 2 года назад

Thank you Tim

@Janiacster 5 месяцев назад

And that is exactly what I just did.

@MiaStayingCreative Месяц назад

LONLINESS is deadlier than cigarette smoking. If I follow everything he says, I’ll be lonely forever unfortunately 😔

@ChrisOgunlowo Месяц назад

Thank you 🙏🏽

@michaellemmen 4 дня назад

I don’t think sloppy/ messy is a personality trait. Definitely a character problem.

@erikaschaltenbrand7850 4 месяца назад

God bless you Tim!!

@C-Span222 4 месяца назад

Thank you!

@renus6015 5 месяцев назад

very nice video.....eye opening and informative...

@Cymricus 11 месяцев назад

i was just talking to my pastor about this a few weeks ago

@UrbanCommentBot 6 месяцев назад

No. One. Taught. Me. This

@angelamossucco2190 2 месяца назад

Read Pete Walker’s book CPTSD. Reparenting means teaching yourself now. Check out ACA meetings too. You have the power now.

@alexandrugheorghe5610 2 года назад

31:46 so true. 👌🏻

@Curious1304 4 месяца назад

Yes, great video. But at the end of the third minute, the focus changes abruptly at a critically important truth, from "Where am I going to find healthy people??" to how to evaluate individuals personality vs character. All the content is very helpful but I don't know how or where to turn for healthy connection. I feel desperate for this.

@ArBK7 4 месяца назад

That's what the videos r all about. Work on yourself,have ambitions even if they are small, learn something new every month , 8 hrs for sleep 8 hrs for job and 8 for yourself! exercise, take care of ur diet, have a moral code, live a life of principle based on natural laws : if someone tries to cross boundaries , remind them of ur what principle u follow . The rest will be magic! P.s I just didn't reply to you but this is a reminder for myself too.

@sharonjumba4648 4 месяца назад

We get healthy individuals by becoming healthy ourselves. Do your work, your kind will find you....

@Curious1304 27 дней назад

@ArBK7 thank you, making safe connections has indeed been slow work but I do agree with your summary of how to live a healthy life of recovery where we work on our attachment to ourselves

@Curious1304 27 дней назад

@@HughJorgan-py4ckThank you and good luck on your recovery journey

@paulad.4578 3 месяца назад

I think I learned how to do this by accident. For me, to vet people takes a lot of time. I have been hurt so much in my past that I take a lot of time. The one time I did not, stepped up the time table, it was a total disaster. Best take the time and look for quality over quantity.

@BeholdIamaNewCreation 14 дней назад

Sooooooo, guess I am starting over at 0 friends again, hahahaha.

@nomadvintageclothingonetsy4416 2 месяца назад

Well, now I know why I’ve been like a prey animal my whole life 😅 got way too close to people way too fast!

@idoracruzinofre2882 2 года назад

it's really hard to find the real true person sir because most of time the really problem is jealousy, I'm a friendly honest person but because of others jealousy someone doing me wrong and I can feel that this person didn't want me to have a good life and this person is just here people I know and some of family members of my mother side step brother

@RayneWrites 5 месяцев назад

Do you know why you may attact those kinds of people (jealous) to your life? Not everyone is that way. Sometimes we attract a certain characteristic because of something deep, hidden within us. I hope you find out why so you can experience non jealous friendships. They are out there. Good luck! 🙏🏼

@vivianli7699 2 месяца назад

Could someone explain me the last part, I don’t really understand the story, my English ist not good enough.

@AncientIntegrations 2 месяца назад

Way to divide people and turn them against the actually traumatized

@alexandrugheorghe5610 2 года назад

I think some of the recent videos are lacking in their appropriate Re-parenting playlist, JFYI.

@Saskiequelle 2 месяца назад

24:20

@haliec496 4 месяца назад

Unfortunately for me I can't do half in half out relationships either friends or romantic. The only people I accept as a human and flawed my sibling & 2 friends, that even a challenge sometimes.

@rociomartinez8666 3 месяца назад

I have a toxic family 😢

@rociomartinez8666 3 месяца назад

Yes they constantly try to hurt me

@fairygurl9269 6 месяцев назад

Grow

@idoracruzinofre2882 2 года назад

I'm sorry but I cannot accept my step brother that always hurting me beating me up wanted to kill me for how many times and I don't know why that it's hard to put him in jail even they already can see what his doing to me and his only my step brother and I spend my time keep helping him before but I helped a person who will just going to kill me and I will keep on praying that he will go to jail because he doesn't want to change

@jolaola1987 4 месяца назад

Idora you don't have the obligation to be around someone who's hurting you just because you're blood related. You can love him from a safe distance and even go no contact and pray for his delivery/recovery and wish him well. But by helping him you kind of make yourself look better and him weak so it might even reactivate his anger because of that imbalance. To say sacrifice is different from putting yourself in the position of victim. By letting him hurt you and mistreat you you are partially responsible and allow him to misbehave.

@miuthub7954 2 месяца назад

Biological family are definitely not in the safe circle. Sigh

@katebueno191 5 месяцев назад

No one is going to lie for you and tell your story !! When I ha e the answers as to why you couldn't call anyone !! As to why you waited so long to call anyone the second time ! Not because you were been nice !! I have the answer on why you can go on vacations and buy trucks after claiming that happened to you !! Because I happen to know your story is false !! I saw you made it !! Witness tampering is what's called !! And I'm denouncing them be aise instead of getting court date and time ! Like it was asked for 3 years . They harass sabotage and threats !!