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The way we react ,underline react to situations with Age is different from.one becomes more accommodative & self interrogative.We shall revisit this on your 50th birthday.Even the girl will be more reconciliatory
Hii Lynn , Can you call her mother and know the truth. Coz I still feel the mother is Running after a man , maybe she is insecure, Thinking the daughter will take the German man .The mother is irresponsible!!!! Period.
Thank you Lynn for this. I actually thought the girl was too demanding, but now I feel it differently. I grew up rejected by my mother and this affected all my relationships into my adulthood. I want to be a loving and present parent in my children’s lives
Your very wrong please kama unaishi hapa na watoto kutoka nyumbani wanakuwa kitu kingine Marshall hapa sio vile mnaongea l feel the woman because l went through it sio mchenzo
Exactly!! Those people don’t even know the mum this days everyone who is not on your side ( when you are on the wrong )is considered narcissistic or Toxic when people don’t won’t to own up to their share of mistakes 😢
@@bellawinter9340 blood pressure and diabetes have more to do with your genetics, lifestyle,eating and exercising habits🤣.. its unhealthy to guilt trip your kids for causing your diseases. your pain is valid but owning the part you play in the dysfunction is paramount. kids will put up with toxicity for survival.. your rlshp once they become independent and are not in survival mode anymore will clarify how they feel about you.
@@cathymachariaaiii... I believe her with the blood pressure. The kids going to report you to the authorities because they don't want your house rules... It can even cause heart disease!
I am a mother of young adults. 3 of them. I don't believe there's another side of story we need to hear. What can your child whom you gave birth to do to make them go through such trauma? Its a lie, the girl didn't contribute to this mess. Piercing her face has nothing to do with it, people just hate others for no reason. THE MOTHER FAILED AND I DONT CARE FOR HER SIDE OF STORY. SHE FAILED, SIMPLE. I wish i would reach the girl, i would adopt her and make her my own.
Thank you!!! I saw so many condemning her and blaming her. People don't seem to realise how bad parenting leaves wounds, scars and trauma so deep it can last a life time in a child's life.
I agree with you. We are the parents. And God has made us stewards. No matter how they behave I will never blame them for going a stray.i will re analyse my strategy for raising them.when they are born they are pure .it is us to instill values. Including praying and fasting for them.
What is being toxic?? To a teenager, a toxic parent is the one who does not let them do everything they want, when they want it. Even if you give them house chores, one is toxic. You dont let them stay on their devices all day, don't let them go to parties, have relationships (even destructive ones), you don't let them drink and party... I'm not even a parent, I'm a young millennial, but I was a teenager, and I have many teenagers in my family and friendship circles. I see it everyday, and I have had conversations with them. Should parents never exert parental authority anymore?
My question too. This is tough, with all honesty, raising up teenagers is not easy. Without the boundaries and guidance which most of them resent and call toxic...waa...
A toxic parent is a parent is is abusive .Some parents have faced abuse and have not dealt with their own trauma and bring children in this world but don’t show them love or care .That is a toxic parent !
@@NileGoddess That is true but in most cases (and I am NOT referring to this case) showing love and care is defined as what Africans assume the western world calls love and care. Mostly, the kababa/kamama or something close to that style of parenting. Anything else is labelled toxic if a child resists it even if the child is just being unreasonable like some are. Once a parent is labelled toxic, the child ceases to have any responsibility and the parent ceases to have any right in the mind of those labelling. It does not end up well for both the parent and the child and especially the child because s/he is too young to stand on their own. It often becomes a free fall for both and changes families negatively in irreversible ways. Damage that does not have to occur occurs and those who fuelled it from outside are present only temporary. This is why I resist an approach where either party has no responsibility with everything I can lay my hand on. I have never commented this much on anything in social media but I just have to try here perhaps at the risk of being labelled toxic. Actually let me tell you what I have observed. Many Africans think white families bring up their children kamama/kababa style. On the contrary, that is not the case with many balanced, thriving white families. I live in a predominantly white neighbourhood and I am a parent in a school that is predominantly white. I have observed that white families have very strict boundaries with their children. In my view, the difference is that they communicate those boundaries better than our parents did; discuss expected behaviour and consequences before hand ( so there are no surprises); follow through their promises; are present and involved in upbringing (eg it is common to find one parent scaling down or even stopping working when children need more presence eg during final exam years) etc. We Africans (including professionals) are here just copying styles we have not even studied well and shouting toxic out of context. Again, I am not referring to this case. My main beep with this case is girl having zero responsibility and that being normalised to a point that she becomes ''enough' instead of being genuinely reflective in her healing process. A reflective could even lead to reconciliation at least with some players (not necessarily the mother). It will also help the young baby who will be better off learning from her Mom’s and grandmothers mistakes instead of picking resentment.
Good morning Lynn.. Happy to have this section.. Some of us need it also..childhood trauma, dealing with toxic and narcissistic parents is one topic you should consider often..
Most afrigan parents armed with selective bible quotes dont expect to be questioned by children even when they are toxic. But the same Bible you quote selectively says in the same 'honour your father and mother'verse that parents must not provoke their children that they may not be discouraged. Its okay to confront them respectively or silent treatment which is the only language some understand. I finally confronted mine at age 32 since they casually pick favourites and other forms of abuse saa hizo mimi ndio breadwinner but unataka kunionyehsa mimi ni uselezz , saa hii nikikohoa wanaitika! Bring your tired curse threats or better yet open your youtube channel uka preach humo
The attack on the GenZs I personally think is a jealousy thing. Am a millennial and I have caught myself looking at this generation and admiring just how self aware and free they are. If there is a generation that is confident and walking in their confidence then it's the Gen z. They have a voice and they know it. Unlike us milenials who were shut down while growing up. We were made to believe that the parents/grown ups word was final. So our generation feels kind of threatened by how free the Gen z are, we want to shut them as we were... Hurt people hurt people.
Genz are clever they have declined to become slaves . They are very aware of themselves they have refused black tax a subject that the millennials avoid and get blackmailed by there own families and parents I would like to see someone study the genz.
Most of what you guys call Self-awareness is actually fighting trauma and it will get worse with the next generation. I appreciate that our shut down helped abide to authority and actually co-exist peacefully. When a different approach to raising my sister was introduced, she at 15, dropped out of school, got married and came back again,in our time, that was Mission Impossible,Suicide Mission,Hard Target all of them together. But see,nobody wants to hurt people,but actions have consequences. Wish them well.
The European environment of bringing kids up must be so different to the African one. I used to watch a Tv show, can't remember its name, where teenagers over there give their parents so much sweat and heartache. The Programme was about placing such kids with families which follow strict family rules for two weeks . I watched one episode where two teenage siblings from the UK went to live with a family in Mombasa Kenya and another one went to live with a family in Jamaica. In both cases, you see how resistant they are initially to do small house chores etc. But at the end of their two weeks, some changes are noticed. They appreciate more, try to do small things for themselves etc. Then you see the joy of their parents when they return home and narrate their stories. That's how I got to leearn how different it is to bring up children I the first world countries. I currently live in SA and here, it is the same story as in Kenya as far as bringing up kids,
I am just listening to her, and even as someone who is not a parent, I've interacted with so many kids here who exercise their powers over their parents. Yaani, I'm just hoping Lynn can host parents from the diaspora, especially a social worker like from Germany who can tell her what happens here with teenagers who don't want parental authority.
The fact is that psychologists are trained with the western curriculum christened 'rights‘ which has already failed in the west. It’s failure has been proven by the massive breakdown of social fabric in many societies in developed world. you cannot have rights without responsibilities. Those countries are unable to correct because they are realising one sided approach does not work when rights have been so assimilated that it is difficult to change without massive resistance. Families are now moulding their children at family level to preserve values. Do not get me wrong… rights are great and we all need to enjoy human rights. However, rights come with responsibility. One person’s right is another person’s responsibility. In our case, we have an opportunity to adopt a balanced approach. My beep with this story is that this girl only had rights- no responsibility. Surely, we cannot make her believe that and even normalise it.
Lynn, i was brought up by my mom who hated me so much. It's hard for me and my only sister /only sibling to get along because my mom never wanted to see us sitted together talking like sisters, she always thought we were talking about her, in the other hand my mom would give her life for my sister. Whoever met my mom, she would tell them how bad i was, something that has followed every one hates no matter how good i try to be.. My story is long, my mom died in 2019 but the damage she left in my life i cannot explain. What i mean is i understand this girl is going through.. My mom hated me since i was born. And imagine we were just two kids😢😢😢😢😢
Her looks have nothing to do with spirituality; it’s a look many young people have in Europe she does not have to apologize to anyone for that or find excuses or reasons she looks beautiful with her piercing.She needs therapy it’s can’t be that everyone is narcissistic or toxic she needs to start owning up to her mistakes too
I think Parents are overwhelmed ,we don't know what to do anymore... When we blame parents that they don't guide, I am wondering what else we should Lynn I love your show may be help us me being one of them understand well, does it mean parents are always wrong? That we don't have children who are rebellious regardless? In this platform help parents understand better coz God knows some of us lost. Parents are blamed everywhere by even the government 🫣🫣🫣🫣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣. The term Toxic parent🤔 pliz can it be properly defined may most of us have no idea we are toxic
Because most parents are not actually parenting, they think they are but they are not. Parents are not always wrong the approach is the issue. There are kids who no matter what will turn pout rebellious but those are what we call anomalies and they are few, most rebelious people are just kids responding to parenting tactics that dehumanize them without parents realizing they do that
Then parents need training and more talks such as this first waelewe where they go wrong what they do wrong that messes their children life's ,without forgetting we may be blaming a parent who is also is hurt thus hurting them more......
I have two boys 4yo and 2yo. There is no village our parents had before, we are on our own. After baby shower uko peke yako. I wish these baby showers would be more of a training session and serious talkks on Parenting not just partying. I thank God that he opened my eyes and Ive been reading lots of gentle parenting books. Its not easy if you have not been taught or have no one to emulate. Lets check on parent's, lets give them a hand lets be there for them too.
Thank you LNN team for the kind visit🙏 It's always a pleasure to serve through this great Platform. Thank you for the kind feedback.We love you all❤️ Trizah K.
I recently realised that i disqualified myself from being a parent because i grew up feeling unloved by my parents. In my subconscious mind i felt that since i was unloved then i dont deserve to be a parent since i did not know how to love children. For the last two yrs God has taught me how to love and cant wait for what is in store for me. 👍
I am a pro gen-z , but that is because I have done the work and healed my childhood traumas and I my children have walked with me through parenting them. Kids are sensitive and they feel Our emotions even without saying them. Parents project so much on their children.
I guess those who are throwing negative comments don't know how it feel to be in this girls position.I have learnt to judge less and to always put myself into people's shoes. Do they know how it feels to be rejected by someone who gave you life, the blame is always on the children not the parents. Call yourself lucky if you have loving and supportive parents. Childhood trauma is something else😢😢.
@@naiskaurrai2464 she was speaking from a child who was taught from a young age she doesnt matter so she believes everything and everyone is out to get her. Her brained is rewired to magnify everything for survival.Psychological wounds run that deep.If she gets the therapy she needs she will start taking responsibility for her own actions
I'm a mother of two young adults and a pre teen...I have learnt a lot from th e lady but then I forgive myself for not knowing better. Parenthood is difficult!! May God help us.
I think her experiences are a product of other people’s mistakes and her own as well. She is young, she also made mistakes maybe due to circumstance. Fortunately for me the consequences of my actions at that age were not that great or life changing.. she needs help to not only heal, but also learn self awareness.
@@NileGoddess In a perfect world yes, but if what she is saying is true, and the parent has no intention of changing then no, she doesn't need them. Their presence will only destroy her further. She will need to learn how to depend on herself and those that love her.
I understand the explanation the psychologist gave to justify the decision to not wanting to hear the other side. However, I believe we need to have both perspectives, at least juristically. This case involves different aspect such as law, molarity, social and so on. If we stand with the young adult based on her story then we are not creating a precedent judgement. Children in the West are running the show. The parents are expected to be permissive to everything, allowing all behaviours in the name of HUMAN RIGHTS. They abdicate to avoid legal repercussions leaving them with a dilemma. Some might call that bad parenting as the children grow up as entitled spoiled brats. They become irresponsible, none respectful and with total ingratitude. Yes the children never asked to be born but that is not a reason enough to not respect your parents. I can assure you that there are many families in that situation in the West where the children elianiate themselves and the parents are blamed. Thank you Lynn for this follow up and I hope you get hold of the mother too.
That'd the problem. It's not for you to judge. You completely disregarded everything the therapist said... if at this point you still want the other side of the story, start facing your insecurities first, no pun intended. Just repeating what the therapist said.
@@nalunga64 ok... I have read it again. And there is still this line that stands out.... 'If we stand with the young adult based on her story then we are not creating a precedent judgement.' ... that may not be your point and you probably are doing it (judging) subconsciously.
Not me reading this knowing very well i never had parental love when i was 4 my mum died and when i was in class 4 in 2007 my dad died. Continue resting in Peace my Chapms❤❤❤
I could take any form of rejection but not from my mum. I did lots of bad things as a teenager and my mum never rejected me. For the mum to reject her it just doesn't make sense. A mother's love should be able to superced all other things
As parents we MUST be very close friends with our kids but at the same time show tough love. It's a delicate balance and parents must be very patient, rational and slow to anger.
Most parents are traumatizing their children.A child has never been loved from the beginning and keeps seeking love out there ,a child traumatized at home wants to run away from the same place they we’re traumatized.We must learn to understand our children.Don’t bring a generation of children in pain and hurt.We must do better .God gives us children we should be there to love and support them .
I want to know and understand the kind of child hood experience that her mother had? Same mother's can not love because they were not loved when they where young.
You need to call that abusive woman so as to explain why she hates her own dota. most parents pick favourites casually and hate some kids and expect them to suck it all up. They have made it a lifestyle. Usikubali. None of us will be here in 150 years so let nobody hurt your life hata kama ni mamako!
@florencenjeru9000 c u just shut up if you got nothing to say. what exatly are you trying to justify.. I think you're also among these old women judging n spitting out lame words on her. just keep of if you got nothing important to say.
Lynn, This girl was failed by everybody. The mum, the baby daddy and the Kenyan Embassy too. Am just wondering, she must have left Kenya with a passport. Let me go slow in explaining. Kenyan passport is enough to identify a kenyan mother in diaspora and in Kenya one can present an ID or a passport, so why did she need an ID to get her child a kenyan identity, when she is holding the Kenyan passport?Again, she went to Germany as a child and so at 18 years she ought to have decided whether she wanted to remain in Germany as a german or leave. The mum failed her here very terribly, so much lack of guidance, very heartbreaking story. If she has joint custody of her child with the baby daddy, how could she be sent away so helplessly, here the baby daddy let her down too. The whole thing is so sad to listen, how could her mother drop a child in Germany and neglect her, so badly so that she lost all the capability to fight even for the most basic rights for herself and her child!By the mother dropping her in Germany and leaving her alone to find her away, what exactly was she really up to?Germany is not a bad country, they treat women and children well, many will tell you women have rights. Racism and tribalism are part of us. This is a unique case of child that was so traumatised that finding her way around was hard! So sad to have a mother that behaves like a stranger to her own child! Hopefully when she gets the therapy she gets to forgive everyone and move on with life. all hope is not lost she has a bright future.
The Ugandan embassy and Kenyan embassy now require one to have ID. I also wanted to process a certain document but was asked to present my ID because because my passport had expired. Things changed so much. It is difficult for young people to navigate systems abroad if they are not guided by parents. It is even harder when the child is living with trauma and does not know how to explain her situation.
...am gen X and i dont see what piercings and makeup have to do with normalcy or brokenness. They are not necessarily related. For some its just artistic expression and trends. For others its identy (crisis or not) for others its culture (whats happening where you live) etc Maasai and Samburu have more piercings thab we can count yet they have identity and grounding. Amazon tribes are walking piercings and tattoos. They are grounded in their roots etc. Just because we are backward doesn't mean everyone is. You can rest assured in Germany she never stood out for her style. It was normal.
💯. We parents should not force our children to mimic our cultural expression. They can craft their own or embrace other cultures. Dressing etc are grey areas I would not lose sleep about. Even if I do not like the style, I can live with it.
Lynn you are the best even Heaven's knows that,Thank you to your beautiful momma I brought you to this life,I lack enough words to say Thank you to Lynn,Thank for once again
No words for this session lynn. Its just more than wonderful. So informative n educated. We would love more of her. I personally have learnt so much. We are so wrong in our parenting. This has been an eye opener. Much love.
Parents should always support their children and let them be, and stop reminding them the efforts made for them, coz every child would love to completely be successful and support back their parents, but they tend to forget that u cant control life, if life happens, lynn much from ug
Lynn toxic or narcissist parents exist.mostvof this parents they claim they are working and busy .some of this parents them themselves have been brought up also with narcissist or toxic so what they do ,they do the same to their kids.most of them they would present themselves to the public and friends as good parents the way they talk you can't believe they can be toxic.i have been there and I know it today I would rather be with my kids and create more time with them and show them love.i wouldn't wish my kids to go through the same.lynn I can't tell you today I raise my kids my own without the help of nannies or uncles not even aunties coz I know how it feels to have an absent parents.so parents be their for your kids get to learn them and understand,play with them games ,communicate with them have conversations with them.set them apart from laptops,ipads,video games take a walk with them and have a chart with them and by doing so Lynn our society will change.
A good morning LYNNE😊 from Turkey 🇹🇷 you bring such an amazing people who reminds US no matter what we keep thriving for our better future 🔮.......I get inspired every time I watch you
Though Sometimes We Are Quiet To The Things We Go Through And Die Silently Coz Of Parents. We Are Almost Breaking Relationship With Our Dad Cause Of His Spiritual Take n Us. Almost Two Weeks Without Talking And Worried. Thanks Trizah For This Episode.
The therapist summed up all my thoughts.... Everytime you find yourself wanting to hear the other side of the story after listening to a conversation like Stemy's... please do an honest self examination.Yes there are stories where we really need to hear the other party's side but in cases where it's a child and their behavior being a result of what happened when they were young and couldn't make their own decision(Yelshas case)...then we must face the consequences and as parents look within to avoid the same
I had toxic parents, I live in Germany, and I also went through serious depression diagnosed by several therapists, and I relate to her a lot. But, the only reason I wanted to hear the other side of the story is that Stemy did not own up to any wrong choice or mistake. Trust me, even children make mistakes, and they have responsibility over themselves. She needs therapy to be able to let go of the bitterness, and also to identify her contribution to the issues too. Teenagers are grown enough to make choices, and unfortunately, these choices will affect them in the future. I remember wanting to run away from home when I was a teen, but I thought to myself, I just have a few years till Form 4, then I will leave when I go to Uni/College.
@254shujaa I did not listen to therapists as if all she said it the gospel truth because I have an independent mind, and I have heard from other professionals on the same issue. It is ok that you don't have a rational mind. Unlike me, I have a brain that questions and if you think I've not been there to the point of hopelessness and bitterness, you're wrong. Thankfully, I survived my suicide attempts. I still believe that there is NO PERFECT CHILD just like there is no perfect parent, hence why it would have been good to see a bit of ownership of her own contribution. Otherwise, she seems like 'an angel', who makes no wrong.
What you are talking about it's true I really feel pain because I'm one of them my mother left me when I was 2 months with my grandmother😢 some of US we do not know mother's love or father figure some people judges but I don't know the story but they were you explaining it's really melting my heart thank you
I love this,l remember leaving my kids my last born at 9,l was so so much feeling it l called evey week on Sundays n visiting yearly until l took them over,ofco things happened but l could control the situations though far😢 until today my son is attached to my last born bro,anytime he needs father figure n man to man talk through him
This was good but I think family relationships can sometimes be difficult. Can we have a topic on personality disorders? I feel like we are all born with different personalities. You will find siblings born from same parents, brought up in the same environment etc and one of them turns to be narcissistic then blames the parents. How do we explain this?
But we all experience our parents differently, there is no single child that shares the same experience with their siblings, valus yes, how they were raised up not necessarily.In mpost cases kids who blame parents have no disorders, they just mirror the parent they experienced.
Good morning Lynn, thanks for bringing this.Some of us are still struggling with childhood traumas.Kindly consider bringing more of this. To us it's a therapy on its own.
You will give it all to your children including yourself and they will heart you like hell.Do the best for yourself and what you can to others including your children.Otherwise children can be so manipulative.Having in mind that you also need alot of care.
If your mom brings you in Germany stick with her to achieve the document you can't run as the law says till you rich 18year or get help coz Germany help if you ask for help in Germany your not allowed to treat kids bad never ni kichwa ngumu tu watoto wengine ukua nayo follow the rules
Thanks LYNN and Trizah the way i have been fighting with guilty of leaving my kids,...but I do call them almost daily we talk,and also in school I do make sure my kids have atleast a mother figure I call them twice a week.. atleast I hv a relief
The abusers or collaborators of the abusers are the one which start such to attack the victim to silence the story by intimidating the victims. Also the aspect of looking for views to make money they start such stories.
Wow! My kids always want to play with me aki!! They’re soo happy when ere am home ! I just realized I don’t give them enough of me. Thanks for this Lynne I’ll try do better! So help me God .
I appreciate that you made a follow up on this story Lynn,I believe this has answered many questions and we are now more aware ,more love to Trizah and her organisation ❤️❤️
Oh my God,,this really made me become so self aware...i always wonder why i became so self independent at an early age...so its because of my childhood traumas...am in Germany but everytime my boss keeps reminding me i have to learn how to ask for help when needed because am already used to do things by my own even to a point of becoming exhausted and burning out... I think i need therapy too 😢😢
😢I will never wish even my enemies to get married to Nigerian especially Igbo in Europe cz this people dnt marry outside their tribe so they marry you cz of two thing he is late to marry he want kids nd he want to use you while his family are Searching for him a local fowl he go and marry Ask me I regret I live with them Nd I hear what they say only strong hearted woman cn manage them Nd make sure u dnt give him a child cz he will use that kid to punish u incase you decide to go back to your country
This has always been my source of worry. Some ladies told me the same sometime in the past and was kinda unsure since this my person was kinda promising 🤭. We just drifted apart and I wonder what would have happened had I fallen into his snares
@@rosegathonimwangi7121 Kenya is better cz u cn leave him Nd he cnt do anything cz u are in your country but Europe he will treat you like a trash cz if he beat you Nd shout government will take your child
As parents let us be also honest with ourselves, this thing of mentioning to our children everytime that we are sacrificing for them , let’s stop. This children are our responsibility we made decision to bring them to this world, we owe them, we are not doing them favours.
It depends on many factors such as why it is said; how it is said etc. For example, let’s consider an hypothetical case. I take my child to a private school paying loads of money perharps five times what education costs in the other school. I have a discussion with the child to break down the cost of education in that school, what really we are paying for and the sacrifices we are making or have to make. Purpose of this discussion is to make the child appreciate the resources they have access to and are paid for sacrificially so s/he makes most use of those resources while opportunity exists. That is a healthy and empowering conversation. The child knows that those resources are not falling from a sky somewhere and they are intended to achieve certain goals which parent and child need to work together to achieve. There is nothing wrong in breaking down the responsibility a parent is shouldering for the right reasons and in the right context ( empowering versus defensive parenting).
Lynn, there is no shame in taking therapy because the rewards speak volumes to your mental health. By the way, counselling is never for the sick but for them that value their mental health. Unknown to many herein, we professional counsellors also go for therapy every quite often to nourish our mental wellness. We are also human. The more reason I keep encouraging Lynn to purpose to see a personal therapist regularly to mitigate the traumas that her show stories could ignite. Lynn and Kanake, my blessings kibao
I understand her fully, from experience.....I was remembering an incident where the bus I was traveling to high school in broke down and when I called mum she lectured me about it asking me why it has not yet been repaired and as a girl I shouldn't be out late......then I called dad and he said "stay safe, I'm coming to get you". That was when I understood it's dad or I'm on my own. True to that, till today, what I say is either dismissed or used against me....I have mastered silence and independence. It's peaceful this way. Reason.... I was not no 1 like my sister. The good thing is she didn't hide her reason to dislike me; she said it openly. Healing has been a journey but I'm getting there. But I kinda understand mum, she was brought up by a step mother who mistreated them and she found love in school because she was no. 1 always too. She needs to heal too.
Thanks Lynn for always bringing in Trizah to enable us to look at matters in a different manner with no form of biasness. Im a first year taking Psychology and to be honest i would like to work closely with her 😊 nitamtafuta siku za attachment zikifika God bless LNN❤
Am a mother of two boys 4 and 2 yo. I also have gen Z sisters nieces and nephews. My advice to parents and new Parents, even as we pray for Gods guidance please read books on Parenting. Since mine are little I've read books like Brain rules for babies, No drama Discipline, How to talk to kids so little kids will listen etc all around gentle parenting. Am doing this because I know nothing better. Before I had my kids I did not know better. But now I surround myself with parents who advocate gentle parents and listen to people like Gabe to learn more. Most parents dont know better, they are overwhelmed and stressed. May we show them grace too even as we help our lovely genz.❤
Hearing there were comments talking bad about this little girl breaks my heart😢 She is an innocent girl brought to this life by an irresponsible and heartless mother.
@@wambuichege4624 lol ..believe you me and am in age bracket probably of her mother..I know these types, was brought up by one who never cared..up to this date have never known what's it like to have and be loved by a mother.
As parents we need to always be the bigger picture and the bigger thinkers, nothing should make a mother dislike and treat there kids with hate always tukumbuke ile akili mtu mzima ako nayo sio hio mtoto ako nayo there is big difference even if mtoto ako over 18 bado akili sio same kama ya a parent..... Parenting is not easy yes but let's learn to love our care for them etc lets just be nice to our kids
For me, all said and done......I will always love this girl. she deserved better in her childhood and I still insist she deserves to live a good and honorable life....She is very passionate about her daughter and her parenting style says it. Let us be kind to her and her daughter.#alifematters
Hi Lynne am in Turkey 🇹🇷 n I love watching and listening to ur show,very educative,very inspiring and always looking forward to the next.u doing a good job mami and keeping us close to home always.
Hi Lynne I love this confasetion ,I am victim I grow as a total opharn in my uncle's Hants but life was do tough for me but ,I thank God I make it in toxic family I magin I can't tell any of my uncle's my problem reason being they will black mail me .
Weueh, no comments. All I can say is parents, let us honour our responsibilities to our children; exercise our parental authority with love and patience; be socially aware so we do not become unfair to our kids by expecting them to mimic our youth. At this rate, we may end up in a scenario where the parent has no say in the house except the same parent is expected to be 💯 responsible. It has never worked where the value of gratitude and responsibility is excused on the basis of Gen Z, modernity or any other reason. It is not ok in any human relationship where one person does not have even one good thing they are grateful for and/.or one negative outcome they are responsible for.
I think from Gen Z to Gen Alpha and future generations, parents should allow the kids to be bosses, to do everything they want without being question, and no one should ever be disciplined for doing wrong. Maybe this way, we can conduct a social experiment and see what the world will be like in the next 50 years. This is the best way to parent kids who don't want authority. The social fabric of society will be broken, but isn't what they want??
No don't work, stay with your kids, tell them you love them always, take to council school or just let them stay at home, you cannot afford anything because they do not allow you to work...so stay and love them ....don't even know if we can afford rent.... this is being there for your kids.
😂😂😂 Imagine the kind of prescriptions and labels parents get for juggling many responsibilities. People want all parents to be kamama/kababa… as the new definition of care. Anything else is labelled toxic parenting
I don't know what to say about these episodes I don't comment but I always watch every episode .but when I had about my mom she doesn't care about me she doesn't care wether I dei or live , back in Kenya I almost sold my kids because I had no one I suffered when my son was going for surgery I called my mom to help me be she told me to die with my cross 😢 the day I decided to travel to Lebanon I begged her to take my kids for me and I thank God she accepted but let me say she can't call me I don't talk to my kids sometimes she doesn't even buy clothes for them she always care about my small sister who my step sister 😢 but right now I don't know what to feel anymore but one thing I will never forget is the day she sent me when I was 5yrs in the night just because my step dad never need me 😭 but I stil love them no matter what . thenkyou @lYNN Ngugi
