Weddings are supposed to bring out the best in people, but everybody knows that isn’t always the case. The hosts share their thoughts on why girls are so competitive during their time as brides.
Preach Tamera! People focus more on weddings than marriages. People have weddings to show off marriages but a wedding isn't the marriage itself. I'm not knocking people who have weddings and put some much into trying to make it perfect, do what you do. I just think that more should be put into making the marriage last. I personally don't care if I have a wedding or not, I just want my marriage to last with the right guy. That's it.
Destiney Uzaka I couldn’t agree more,ask Scheana Shay from Vanderpump Rules she was focusing MORE on the wedding than the marriage itself and you see what happened after that lol
my cousin got married one day after me, I had told everybody a year before she did, she used the venue I originally chose, and had my mom show her my wedding dress then went to the same dress maker... and they wonder why I went mad😂
The funny thing is, after her makeup artist quit, her make up has been looking good! Her make up artist is good tho, cause she works with model and she is ALWAYS BEAT! I stated once that the makeup artist didn't like her and maybe I was right! Lol :-)
La Merveille Haha, I heard a little while back that Tamar was having issues with her Makeup and hair people (I guess she wasnt paying them or something). Needless to say, she has been looking GOOD ever since, haha.
Jeannie's "friend" sounds shady as anything. Whatever happened to a wedding being a family/friends day that is supposed to be a celebration of love. Why are some brides so concerned with having ~all the attention~ on themselves? Really? That naturally happens when you get engaged, but remember what its really about. Jeannie is right to be offended. No mutual friends and family (and even if there was its still ridiculous to get upset about another couples wedding). People get engaged and married all the time. Yes Tamera & Tamar - those are people who are in love with 'getting married' rather than being married. They took no time to sort out what kind of a man would work for them/how they work with him, and they never took the time to understand what marriage really is. Its so sad because these people have none of the important talks/clarifications before getting engaged and they pass this ignorance onto their kids. Embarrassing. Tamar has the biggest heart, its so clear. Love her! What a sweet thing for her to do. I'm with Tamar on engagements too: You see George and Amal? Not a long engagement. I don't see the point of being engaged for 3 + years. When I get engaged I'm considering him my husband already so I'm already filing paperwork to change my last name etc so the wedding would have to happen. But to each their own. :) PREACH TAMERA/TAM TAM! 4:40 Felt so hard I blogged about it.
I loved Tamar's views and perspectives on this, and I absolutely agree with Tamera that marriage and commitment is what is more important than weddings.
I was hollering when she said that. My mom came in my mom and said, "what happened?" I showed her the clip and she was laughing harder than me like she was crying.
Ain't no other way to tell them apart cause when they was doing "sister sister" in the opening credits they would zoom in on her mole to let you know one from the other
Honestly I don't want the sisters to come on. Nothing personal it just seems like it would be to focused on the sisters especially if it was Tia. Like it would be too gimmicky, like it would overshadow the show.
I think underneath it all, that Tamar is a really good person. People don't like that she has an opinion and sticks to her guns. She will still listen to other people but she doesn't agree. Now, her wording isn't as sweet as the other girls.
Sounds like Jeannie's friend was being petty and real shady to me. Doesn't sound like the dates were too close together. And they did have a different set a friends/family attending. Don't need to worry about our loved ones getting you cheap gifts because they have to go to two weddings so close together. BUT my two cousins...they had a wedding a week apart. The classy cousin got engaged first and set her date first. My ratchet cousin got engaged after and set her wedding date the week before the first one. Mind you...they go to the same church. Same friends, same family. So I think that was messed up. But the ratchet cousin had a ratchet wedding lol...and the classy one's wedding came right after and hers was bomb. Way better. And everyone was like...so this is how you do a wedding. So classy cousin got the last laugh.
Lmao I'm with Tamar on that "You ain't bout to be just pouncin on me for three years." Once he asks me to marry him I feel like I can safely assume that he's ready so let's go ahead and make it happen.
I can see where that would be an issue. If I get engaged and then set a date, I would hope that you as my BEST friend would understand and if the same happened to you, you would space out our moments. Although I don't think that would be a nice thing to do, ending a friendship over that would be childish. THIS IS NOT GRADE SCHOOL. Communicate with eachother and celebrate eachother. Like the girls said, it depends on schedules, relevance of dates and other factors. At the end of the day, it's about you and your spouse.....you're not marrying your friend!
I loveee Tamera. She's so classy, sweet and humble however she seems to hate being a twin. I understand not wanting to share your wedding day with another bride but sometimes she seems to despise being a twin. And I'm actually a twin so yes individuality can be hard, people expect you to either be exactly alike or completely different it seems and references you as "the twins" instead of your actual names. But it's still is a beautiful thing like you're born with a best friend! But then again, my sister and I don't look identical like Tia and Tamera nor did we grow up on camera so I can't try to dictate how she feels or her feelings, it probably truly was harder!
I don't understand this whole explaining to your friend thing. i'm not going out of my way to explain to a friend why i want to get married to my husband to be and when. If they are truly a good friend it wouldn't matter. Maybe i'm yoo young to understand this, but i think its funny. Lol
I love what Tamera was saying about her being a twin and doing things separately, because I too have a twin and people just don't understand that we are two different people and that we don't have to do everything together!! You go Tamera!
Thank you Tamara. Twins are 2 separate people. Everyone wants my twin sister and I to get married at the same time but we don't want that. We don't want to out shine the other and our fiancés understand that
I don't if anybody else has notice this but every time tamera brings up Tia she always say cause you know me and Tia are twins and I'm like I think we established that already I laugh so hard every time she reminds them at the table Idk maybe she does it for new viewers who may not know who she is but if you don't then you live under a rock
Preeeaacch Tamera! I'm a twin and people automatically assume that we should do and love the same things. Swerve! We are two COMPLETELY different people with different styles and tastes.
I'm happy they had a separate wedding. I may not be a twin but my mom always said that everyone has their own day: their own graduation,their wedding day,birthdays,etc. Overall though i'm happy they all got what they want. And Tamar THAT was so sweet of you and that is why I love you on the show, or at least one of the many reasons.
Omg that happened to me I got engaged in 2013. My husband proposed to me at my church in front of the congregation. A month later, this couple that goes to my church, her husband did the exact samenthing. Fine. No big deal. My husband wasn't the first to do that and obviously he won't be the last. So anyway, I had set my wedding date for Sept 20th 2014. The girl at my church told my sister she was setting her date for that day but my sister told her I had that date. So she said she'll set after mine but changed her mind and set the week before mine. Mind you, we invited the same church people. I was livid! I never expressed it to her cause everyone told me to let it go but it still pisses me off. If it still bothers me, that means I still need to have a conversation in order to let her know how I feel. At this point, it may be petty but idc.
naeray17 think about it like this: u have 2 friends from the same circle and both of their weddings is one week apart. Now of course u don't want to go to any wedding empty handed but u may not be able to give as much in monatary gift amount as u could if u didn't have to attend back to back weddings. As a bride, it's not all about money, but then again it is. Those monatary gifts helps set u and your spouse up for your future. And I know I could have gotten a larger amount from everyone if they didn't have to go to two weddings back to back. And a lot of my guests that went to my church felt away about it too.
Asia Livingston thank you. It would have been different if we didn't go to the same church. But she totally took my moment from me I went to her wedding and she didn't even attend mine. I was PISSED!!!
naeray17 Asia Livingston also, when you have back to back weddings like that, it leaves room for people to compare. Let's just say people were saying my wedding was better and she hasn't been coming back to the church as much.
I can relate to this with Tamera. I got engaged in January 2015 after being with my now fiance for almost 2 and a half years, my wedding at the time was going to be in the fall that I let people know, but I didn't choose a month yet. My sister got engaged in March after me after just dating the guy for 3 months, and at the time I scheduled my wedding date for November....she had the nerve to set hers Sept. 20. It still irks me, because it felt like she was rushing just to ruin my time and be first after not even thinking things through...but in the end I prayed about it a lot at church and realized that this was causing me more anxiety and angry (unhealthy emotions, etc) than it was anyone else, and I had to let this go. I have chosen to be supportive and stay hush, but I do wish that things could have happened at separate times like it did for Tmera and Tia.
Great conversation but Tamera isn't on the up and up... I remember that episode when she was planning her wedding. It wasn't as smooth as she speaks on the show. Tia was very inconsiderate about Tamera's wedding because she been there, done that and was now in a new pinnacle of her life being pregnant. She wouldn't show up for stuff or was late. Tamera did a lot of crying during that time... the weather was messed up too I believe. Tamera has always appeared to be the more considerate twin... very nice.
Aviyah Yisrael true story Tamera is very considerate. but she wasn't implying her wedding was smooth, she was just saying she was grateful that she and tia were going through different phases when they had their weddings which made them each experience their wedding as an individual
hinnies1 the point I was trying to convey is that the conditions in which i mentioned made it difficult to enjoy her own special moment (because while different) her sister still managed to consume most (if not all the attention) during that time. remember the dialogue was about overshadowing a friends wedding. let's be real here... her sister showed up late on her wedding day and was like whatever... i'm pregnant. that was the excuse every time time. totally disregarded and disrespected. it doesn't matter what major phase you're in... if its at the same time, your moment can be stolen away from you (or over shadowed). I guess I wouldn't be grateful treated 2nd all the time. That's just me I guess. I enjoyed reading your response.
yeah, but tamera took it pretty well, i mean she was not upset or bothered about being overshadowed but about Tia not putting enough effort in being there for her
My husband and I had a small ceremony but having a big family wedding/reception later this year. My husbands friend from church is getting married 2 months later. She got engaged 2 months after us. NEITHER of us care! We’re both so happy for the other. Yea we’re coming to each other’s wedding but it ain’t that serious! I’m happy she got engaged so close to our engagement it makes it special
It's sad I've known a girl who cared more about her wedding than actually keeping her relationship healthy. She was a bridezilla to the max and everything was about her for 6 straight months. He left her cause he saw that she cared about having a fancy wedding than she did about him. It was really sad
Tamera u r right! I am a twin and I luv it very much but I need my own speacial days I can handle the birthdays and graduations but I want my own wedding and baptism and own pregnancy
The whole "all the attention on the bride" I can understand on the day but I find it a bit self centered in Jeanie's case. I mean, you want the attention for months? People have lives to live!
Me and 2 of my best friends are getting married this year and I'm The last one but I honestly couldn't be happier for them! We have all dated our fiancés for 6 years and we are getting married a few months between each other and they are always happy and involved in mine and I'm happy and involved in theirs.. we don't fight about it.. if you're too immature to fight, be jealous, and not focused on YOUR day, then maybe you shouldn't be getting married!
On the topic of marriage, I've been feeling a bit bothered lately. My friends are getting married and I was not included as one of their Groomsmen. Now, keep in mind that I have only known them both for a total of 2+ years. And I guess that doesn't seem like a lot of time to them but I feel like I deserve to be one of their Groomsmen. My dilemma is that I can't decide if it's right to feel that way or if I'm being selfish. I guess my question is, what do you think the acceptable length of time is for you to be considered to be someone's Groomsman? Or is it even a question of time? Maybe it's about the experiences you've had and how important you are to them?
I understand your point. It shouldn't matter the length of time, but the depth of the friendship. Yes, time is important, but I'm closer to some friends from college than those I've known through grade school. If you feel a certain type of way over it, that means you truly thought y'all had a certain connection. A similar thing happened to me. I would take it as them being shady.
Remember they have to weigh their relationships and connections in their head...relationships, friendships u name it are rarely equal on both sides. So maybe you felt like u would make them groomsmen at yours, but they know if they made u groomsmen at theirs, theyd have to deal with some cousim, brother, relative etc feeling betrayed.
I agree with Jeannie’s friend. ‘Cause she’s all excited about her wedding and planning and now it would seem like Jeannie’s being petty and trying to rush to get married first
There was a movie with Tamera and Tia amd its called double wedding you guys should watch it caise they both liked the same man that's all I'm saying but its a amazing movie
Tamera is dead on!! Too many people make their wedding about attention instead of about a marriage! They get so caught up in the pomp and circumstance, meanwhile they're marrying some bum who they will be divorced from in a few months. I've seen it for myself!!
I have a friend who at my wedding dress fotting asked if she could try on wedding dresses because she was hoping to get married sometime in the near future. I was like wtf in my head on my day. to this day were still friends but i dont trust her genuinely caring for me.
Jeannie you should learn more about people because that's not your friend. she is rude and jealous AND she thinks she can dictate your life. telling you when you are allowed to get married. I would get rid of her. she is bad news and not happy for your. only cares about herself. you have to watch who you call your friend. honestly I think Jeannie needs Tamar in her life to help her get rid of all the haters in het life who pretend to be her friends. this is not the first time that Jeannie told a story about afuck up friend and usually Jeannie is trying to help them. you don't help haters, you stay away from them. good luck Jeannie
