People who have great parents get the sources to move out while people who have toxic parent is stuck with low income and can’t move out because of parents forcing them with guilt trip. moving out means finding peace and happiness for those who grew up with toxic people, having no negative energy around you is peace. Being safe is a blessing.
this is so real. I really want to move out because this house is so negative and bad for me. But I know absolutely NOTHING about the real world or just anything at all. Like what is deposit? how do I use the trimet bus? what even is taxes?I’m embarrassed to not know but it’s true. So idk how I’ll be able to live alone
I’m not ready to move out yet but this video was so beneficial for me. You’re clearly a very smart young man and your parents raised you extremely well. I took everything I needed to from this video. Thank you
Moved out at 18, 22 now. The one thing i wasnt prepared for is how agonizingly lonely it is. Every day when i come home from walmart i just feel like squidward in that white void. Where do i go from here?
I experience this as well, no family and no friends. What I can say is find out what it means to be strong. Pursue a path of learning and becoming something in the gym, in your mind, and in your faith in God
I still live in this house, and over this I did managed to learn how to cook while my mom is recovering. and the thought of being alone and finding out ways in how to live my life is really hard, no ones there to cheer for you, no ones there to treat you in case you get ail, recently discovered about this stage in our lives and its really up to me to decide on how I live for it.
Im 18 n I want to move out because I lived in a very toxic environment. My parents wouldn’t allow me to work even when I am able to. They were saying that I was too young to work and blah blah. The only choice I have was to leave them behind. Disclaimer: when you’re young and you live with your parents, don’t leave unless you have to because it’s scary out there and no one knows what can happen to you especially if you don’t have money to rent your own place.
I'm probably going to move out in maybe 6 months or so (if I pass the exams lol) but I'm going make sure to learn about moving out before I actually move out from experiences of other people like you. Thanks for all the info you shared, happy days my guy.
As a Pakistani I'm curious, why do you guys need to move out? Like in our culture, children especially girls live with their parents until they get married. No girl can imagine living without parents all alone.
@@ansarullah2633 I think that's good, however, the only adjustment I'd make is creating more space by having separate quarters. That way, there will be less disputes and quarrels over random things. Living alone is not a good thing and in todays day and age it may not even be possible due to the extreme increase in things like rent, utilities, etc.
I’m not ready to move out but I don’t think my mother wants me to stay with her anymore. I just wanted to save up some money after I graduated college but the cost of living keeps rising. I feel like her life would’ve been easier if I was never born some times..
im 29 and not allowed to get married or move out my parent's house, my sister is the same she is 33 and i dont want this life anymore. ive tried to talk to my parents but its not working, my mum says ill never be allowed back home, i need to stick with here lmao . im just waiting for last yr of uni done then ill be gone inshallah
I hope you’re well sister 💚 I advice u to search and ask about this thing in Islam , I mean is it even ok to be done or is it haram ? Not every thing people do is correct even if they are Muslim , and not every tradition or culture is suitable for us Muslims , sister our prophet Mohammed peace be upon him have sunna that we should follow and I don’t know any of his daughters had moved out before marriage , I hope you and your sister get married to a good person soon , allah can do any thing just keep on dua and never give up may allah give them hedaya and gives you sabr . 💚
@@Rr_wm hi, i get ur point but prophet Mohammed children were allowed to get married and move on in life. my parents never want me married, they want me to live with them forever, so i think its my islamic right to move out, because there is too much manipulation and abuse going on at home. im sure the prophet Mohammed was very good father to his children and never abused them, i do make dua but i think Allah will not help me in this matter because Allah has made it haram to cut ties with family members, and if i leave i know my parents will never talk to me again
Hi!where are you living now?I also have to move to go study to be a dentist. And i know where is the best place for this, can you give me your opinion?
I'm a new follower and I love watching your video and the topics you talk about ❤️ And I hope you will put a translation in Arabic so that everyone can understand your words ❤️ Hope you don't ignore my comment ✨
جزاك الله خيرا thoughts and wake-up call/reality check. For myself tbh but hope u lot wnjoy: For me the words “independency” fly over my head and my issue is having a subconcious sense of laying back as long as i have someone with me. Eg Driving. I am more careless because i know that deep down, he can press his brakes if need be Studying. I got time, or i got parents to support me. Ask Allaah (God) for help then be independent. Because you will be alone one day. And u gotta survive. And in life, u aint getting a nice apartment with good rent price by playing fifa and doing responsibilites last minute. And certainly for aakhirah (hereafter) we gotta be consistently learning (even a lil a day at least) and working hard. And one of the most rewarding things in life is hard work. Just satisfaction with hard work. And even if things dont work out, being content with what was written for you. That way you are a useful person. And if u r like me and are not like that yet then as a push (ie not tryna offend anyone here) : 1)you are wasting the millions of blessings u have by lazing around and being useless 2)You know how to make change, u have the physical strength, now just win the mental battle. Losing aint an option. If u win, consider urself already changed.
I m moving out soon, I m afraid of being alone, no roommates, no friends, no family, new palce, new journey, I am feeling like starting an other life and leaving my old one. As a girl, who is related to fam and friends, this step gives me feeling of loneliness and fear. but as a muslim girl, I always remember that Allah is with me in every step.I feel safe even with all the bad feelings.
As a Pakistani I'm curious why do you guys need to move out? Like in our culture, children especially girls live with their parents until they get married. No girl can imagine living without parents all alone.
@@ansarullah2633 I m moving out because of study, I need to go to uni, but in my hometown, we don't have university and my parent are working, they can't leave their work. So there is no other choice.
You just said what was in my heart since 2 years now. I'm studying abroad, so I've and am passing through everything you said. It's true ; you miss your old self,family moments and friends .but i learnt the hard way that we have to sabr even if it's difficult and be our own cheerleader and parent ,push ourselves and tawakul 3ala allah . Its difficult all by yourself and in a new country especially for a nostalgic girl like me ,but i hope it's gonna be all worth it at the end
When it hurts and feel demotivated,Come to Moaaz videos 💚.You always motivate me thankss💙,discipline>>>>>>>>>motivation. 5:15 hited me differently 😂🖤 7:16 made me cry😭💙
This is the first video I found, maybe even the first person I’ve heard talk about their experiences moving out and growing up, that feels the same way I do. It’s overwhelming and scary, There are a lot of emotions that I don’t even know that I’m feeling. It’s the first time I’ve ever felt so lost because I was a person who was perceived as driven and diligent and self-reliant , but now I’m starting to realize that even if my parents or teachers or peers weren’t pressuring me, I still was motivated by wanting to impress them. Now that I’m doing things by myself, for myself, I realize I may not have actually been so “self”-driven
I want to move out as well. I love my family and I enjoy spending time with them and the thought of being separated from them for just a week is heartbreaking to me. This is the reason why I know that I got to move out because I am dependent on them, but I want to learn real life, I am building discipline. I know that I am going to miss them so very much and it is heartbreaking. However, this is a decision that I have to make for myself in order to function as a normal adult in the real world.
If am gonna take anything from this video its gonna be "drink your OJ." Haha jk (or am I?). We need more of these reflections please. It helps us alot more than you think. Trust me with that.
I have the greatest mom in the world and I love being with her, but It would be nice to move out when im young and still live near by, just wanna have that experience with being alone in my own house/apartment, but even if I can't move out when I turn 18 or whenever, I dont care cause living with my mom will always be great and she is so supportive!
The family part... A year ago I was so excited about moving out because of the errands and yelling and chores. But now I want them all back. I wish I could see my parents and hug them so tight 🥲
I have 16 and i completely agree with everything that you said, parents are a really important pillar for our mental health, they used to put pressure on me, as a dumb teenager, i got mad at it, but, now that them gave me a little a more freedom, i strongly feel how my discipline, my grades, everything, went downhill, luckily i recovered (guess thanks to who) All of this freedom that they gave help me understand the importance of their presence. Love the vid, cheers and good luck with this new life (used google traductor btw)
This was very relatable to me and made me realize even more how important family really is. They are the only people who truly care for you. I think moving away was good, only for the fact that it made me more independent and develop skills that would eventually help me and them, and also to appreciate them for all that they've done. I was living with a older person (mentor) who convinced me that my parents were narcissistic and evil, but in reality he was speaking from his own particular experience and was even financially using me and my parents money for his own gain in another state. Still having trouble accepting this right now.
Great advice brother. It's very important to set some rules to yourself, It will really help you stop wasting time. I used to waste a lot of time watching RU-vid videos but once I started this new productivity system, it changed alot of things.
Sometimes it doesn’t even take moving out to realize you’ve botched your own habits and mindset, it just takes a major change. I started college a little over a year ago (still live with my parents) and developed a severe case of depression. No one was there to motivate me or tell me that I needed to do XYZ, so I started falling into terrible habits. Alhamdulillah things have gotten slightly better, but that learning curve is soooooooo steep. Maybe my case was a little severe, but it’s a classic “I was spoiled and now I don’t know how to take care of myself” case. I wish things could be easier, but sabr is being developed. I just want to take a deep breath and let it out.
Respects to how humble and open you are to talk about your family in such a respectful way and grateful for them. It's not something you see a lot in many youngsters these days who have no respect. So thanks for sharing!
Gonna be moving out in about a month for the first time! I’m 26 years old. I feel more prepared now than I was at 18 but there will always be a part of me that wants things to never change! But time will move on wether I’m ready or not! And I have a lot of growing up to do! I get homesick easily but I think going through that pain is good and makes you stronger! Thanks for making this video!
Look bro, I grew up with parents that made me feel the same way. Always needing to be doing something to keep yourself distracted is a trauma response, for the first time in your life you are being YOU! This voice in your head of why aren’t you doing something or go be busy is not your own internal monologue, it’s actually been hijacked by your parents from years of belittling and being overly critical of you, so now you are repeating to yourself are the same things they said to you growing up, the kicker is that eventually you convince yourself these are your own thoughts. You are too strict on yourself it’s OKAY to stay up late sometimes, it’s OKAY to want to be in bed the whole after a stressful week, it’s OKAY to play games till 3 in the morning if you really want to that day, you are doing these things now because these are the same things that you had been deprived of and wished you could do growing up. Embrace these feelings don’t fight them, society is so backwards, accept and learn from what you are feeling don’t push it away or try to rationalize it to fit your current perception of who you are.
hey you dont sound okay. i agree its good to take a break and you dont need to be "busy" in that stressful way all the time but using your time wisely is so important and taking care of your health. some might think that staying in bed the entire day or staying up late playing games is good for their mental health or is a good way to take a break but in the long run you feel drained, and your physical health goes down the drain. you sound like your projecting your experience with your parents onto Moaaz when neither of us even know his life or his experience with his parents. parents will generally nag, obviously theres a line between yelling and forcing you and nagging in the way that they love you and want you to do better. but his parents sound more like the latter as he said himself. not everything is a trauma response bro and society isnt backwards for saying its unhealthy to play games till 3 in the morning.
bruh you aren't lying my friend group ruined me im now 20 terrible in health n broke ash taking fam for granted now pops n gam gone n now dukes is here but we aren't as close as we were cuz of my terrible choices of drug usage
Keep on the good work Moaaz. These videos are extremely helpful and beneficial to the youth and I know exactly how your feeling. I just recently started College and I am trying my best to balance all of things that I want to do in life. One of the things can that really help someone is to enjoy what your doing like enjoy learning and balancing out everything that you want to do throughout the day.
To my fellow muslim brothers from a 28 years old guy. 1. Don't waste time in social media. 2. Learn how to earn money. 3. Allah is your only friend. 4. Never follow the lifestyle of non muslims. 5. Read the seerah of our prophet Muhammad salallahu alaihi wa sallam. 6. Don't get addict to anything. One drop of haram pleasure may get you hooked in it. 7. Have the vision of the Sahabas.
Thank you for the video, i personally liked the part about friends and choosing your friend. It is good to have that kind of control in your life, cause lately for me i felt like i was forcing myself to be with people i dont feel my best with even if they were good people. I felt i was a bad person to think that way and that it is normal to be friends with someone even though you dont feel good around them , And it is hard to avoid them cause they are nice but i feel drained and not appreciated , but now i have a clear picture thanks to you .
Idk what to say, you are talking about your moving out experience & some lessons your have learned but in someway its really motivating me! Alhamdulillah, barakallah fik brother, Ya Allah Yakfi 🤲🏾❤️✨☝🏼
I want to do this too coz I think it’ll help me develop myself. I have a very ‘productive’ mindset. Its just that one of the reasons I don’t implement the actions/habits I want to master is my unproductive surroundings. I know it’ll be hard without family, it’ll be lonely but I think it’s necessary to develop yourself if you trust yourself enough (like you won’t go on the wrong path)
Due to daily abusing of parents I wanna move out so bad. Im 17 and newly moving to America from Pakistan. Ill attend a year in high school then ill decide what to do. Please guide me should I move out after high school and move to another state? Or when should I move out? What will be the consequences? Please help me in this?
May Allah make it easy for you , Moaz. You'll gain a huge experience from this hard time insha'Allah.. and you already grew up ما شاء الله. we're waiting for ur beautiful videos! 🥰
Masha Allah , watching this video made me realize a lot of thinks, love of parents and less of motivation, like it’s been a month since the beginning of the school year and I still haven’t found my routine, how to organize my revisions, my sport sessions… I felt weak and not even able to organize myself like before but I don’t want to put any pressure on myself and I rely al hamdoulillah, on the person I love the most : Allah, with duaas, with the help of my loved ones, I have hope for a better future. So let’s stay disciplined and do our best Insha Allah ^^
I've been just doing the bare minimum for years and now it's catching up to me. I need to change but the discipline is just not there. My parents don't really know much about what I do with my free time because I hide in my room all day eating junk food and mindlessly scrolling on my phone all day everyday. It just made me realize that I screwed myself over without noticing.
@@ArsHaD-dg1gb I'm working full time and going to school full time. I started working out, but when I started school again, exercise went right out the window. I'm so tired, I slipped back into my addiction to sugar to cope, and everything just sucks right now. It's too much, my anxiety about turning in things late is killing me. I tell myself it'll be better once I finish my semester and I can take a break, but idk if it will. I think I need help
@@wayneisname4544 I think you need to get there step by step, don't think of the next week or month or year, focus on what you can get done in the next 24 hours. Also social media can really add to the stress instead of helping you free your mind. Try to think of other ways to free your mind and take a break, like even talking a walk or something
😂😂I didn't have any furniture when I moved out at 19....i slowly got more.... I don't recommend moving out with nothing stack up first before you move.. 😂..
im 23 years old and this is my first time i gonna leave my parent home. I got a job outside of my city and i still considering to accept the job. its a good pay job. But i feel so scared to leave home leaving by myself. All my life is about being there with my family and my siblings. Now i will be alone out there fot the first time. i dont know 😢
i moved out of my parents house too last year it is been a year and i did not seen my mom dad and my siblings but Allhamdulilah i believe that every thing happened for a reason and i will made dua for every one missing home
Kids are doomed, you have society literally keeping them from maturing. It’s the governments dream, a bunch of grown kids running around. Easy to manipulate and lie when you have that situation going on. My 18 year old sister has over 15k saved and moved out, it lasted about 12 days and she’s back at home. Paying a years rent for a place she won’t live. Lmao. Reason?? She’s scared and alone LMFAO
This is so stupid. If you're lazy and helpless that's on you, not your parents. I live with my parents and not only do I do EVERYTHING for myself, I also help my family with chores whenever I can.
I usually dont subscribe but im gonna subscribe you. :)) mashaallah so happy to see that there are still such gems in our new generation. May Allah almighty increase you in piety and knowledge of deen and duniya, ameen
Dude I just turned 15 and I’m already thinking about this. And it makes so sad because I’m so scared of moving out and my sister is moving to Boise and I’m going to miss her so much.
Relatable af at 3:50 cuz im watching this at 3am lol Im 20 and I just moved out to a pretty nice home but it’s so empty rn and I can hear every creepy sound rn😅
Subhanallah i want to watch the video right now!! but i will save it for letter it will be a waste to watch it right away Inshallah tomorrow with a good coffee. So excited. May Allah SWT bless everyone. Aslam alkum.
its so funny how different experiences people have Ive cooked for myself since like 9th grade and my parents never made me do my homework or go to bed on time so I cant relate at ALL moving out went smooth af
