They don't care about Chelsea's childless status, personally. They don' t care whether she's happy or not. What they care about is their inability to control, manipulate and oppress women like you and Chelsea who *choose* not to have children. And they do that by belittling their choices, claiming their professed happiness with said choices is a lie, and perpetuating their view that childless women are unfilfulled. Gaslighting 101.
I have 2 children, they were great kids and I did not spank them. They have made me very proud and have given me 4 beautiful grandchildren. But now the grandchildren are grown and my husband and m have nothing to worry about but each other and we can go whenever and wherever we can afford. I can see that life is so much sweeter. And while I do not regret children, I would never encourage people who choose not to have them to change their minds. And every parent, no matter how much they love their kids have had those days when they wonder, “WTF was I thinking???”
as a man in my mid 40s without children, i fully understand why anyone would not want to have children. having nephews is more than enough for me. and the idea that people without children are going to die alone is absurd. we still have family and we still have friends
We all are going to die alone, unless our partners kill themselves at the same time we are dying, and when you are dying you don't even know who is next to you anyway, believe me I know.
How many people in rest homes have children who are preying on them for their assets, but they can't care for their parents, hell they can't even take care of themselves, we should all have the choice to run Our own lives as we see fit. I have 1 child, had she not gotten here when she did, I couldn't say that. I am in the LGBTQ community proudly, after 7 years of marriage I decided to live my life happy, living how I was feeling. 62 years later At (69), I'm happy and have a loving relationship with my daughter and my partner of 13 years, and my Grandson's and it was how I raised her, that makes her want to be there for me when I can no longer take care of myself, along with my partner who is 9 years younger than I. A lot of people with children can't say any of what I have said. Kids remember how they are treated and some retaliate in not so good ways, can U say the ID Channel Snapped etc. 😱
@@robertkennedy8503 that is true, if U die in Ur sleep, or home alone, while Ur partner is at the market or leaves the room. Some people out live the whole family and have no one but a care taker, I live in a community for seniors and handicapped people, at least once a month or so, a neighbor is found deceased, alone until their caretaker arrives. Stay close to friends and family and Pray 🙏🏾
I had to go to a nursing home for rehab and I stay there a long time my nieces and nephew never came but my daughter was always there till I got better
I had 6 kids, but that was my choice. Still have two in school. It's disgusting how the right thinks they have to control a woman's choice about anything! Kids don't make us happy, we make ourselves happy whether we have kids or not. It's terrifying in the US to be a parent without healthcare, or sending them to school wondering if they will come home or end up at the morgue from yet another school shooting. Take care of these issues and maybe more women will choose to have kids.
Matt Walsh saying “she could have had kids and still be doing BASICALLY whatever she want with her life today” is hilarious. Because She currently is doing EXACTLY what she wants with her life, including NOT HAVING KIDS.
He’s not even correct about doing whatever you want when your kids are older. My grandma had to help my mom raise me and my siblings instead of choosing to live as she wanted. He forgets that it can also be stressful to have adult kids. Many nowadays can’t afford to move out which ends up falling on you to help support them. Even if they move out and have their own families, there can be issues with marriage and if they get divorced it will be added stress to you because their issues are yours too. They could end up having financial problems later on and needing your help. They might need you to look after their own kids making you re live the experience. My bosses wife is constantly babysitting her 7 grandchildren so her kids can work. I would much rather not deal with all that and just travel whenever because truth is having kids is a stress for life. They could end up disabled. They could die and leave you depressed. I could go on. So so many reasons why I don’t want them.
Hey these white supremacists' men don't mess around! Any woman that doesn't SUBMIT shall be FORCED to submit! They like to flex their big steroid pumped up muscles! 🤣
Not Really a threat to anyone but herself, because Women need Sex more than Men. Women can have multiple orgasms so yes they definitely need sex. That’s why women own seduction, some female teachers even seduce their underaged Students.
Yes, I do believe that some right wingers and religious zealots consider single women to be loose cannons. They are not bogged down by a ton of children or a husband to "lead" them. They throw monkey wrenches into the whole happy family unit paradigm. Although it is unspoken, these people believe that everyone should get married and have children. Free choice shouldn't be an option.
As a 42 year old single man, people give me that "poor you" eyes and statements when they learn I'm single. I'm HAPPY. I have the pleasure to do anything I want and whenever I want. I hang with my friends, go to the movies, eat out, and my bills are EXTREMELY manageable. I LOVE kids, but I don't want any of my own.
@@NotSoEntertaining. I’m 26. I want kids before I’m 40 however I was a parent/sibling with my youngest siblings being 18 years younger. Once I had the courage to leave home (and not feel guilty for not supporting my family; and I was guilt tripped by family and friends) I realized how much of my youth I lost being a teen mom to my siblings. I will enjoy* being single and child free proudly until I’m ready for that commitment and responsibility as an adult.
I chose not to have children. Never regretted it. Never will. It was an incredible thing to have that CHOICE back before the age of repression returned to the US.
Why do people feel it's a woman's duty to have children, children aren't for everyone, it has been proven!! Every woman was not ment to be a mother, look at all the homeless and battered children and unadopted children in the jacked up system, these children were not a product of a mother who needed children, some are forced by husbands or boyfriends, women should have their own choice 🤔yay or nay, can't let inculcate men or women dictate for others what do they know. Careers and children, one or the other suffers, if the situation isn't handled in the right way. 😔
@@grandmadonnabug5310 because life is still life. Denying its existence is infinitely worse than a harsh childhood. Plus bearing a child releases hormones such as oxytocin, or a trust and bonding hormone. Having a child can motivate people to work harder. And life creates a greater legacy and purpose than a career that no one will remember unless you get super famous.
@@randomteenageboy5002 Ahh yes! Nothing like a RandomTeenageBoy advising women on the benefits of pregnancy, childbearing, and child-rearing! Isn't it way past your bedtime?
59 years old. Married for 30 years. Don't have kids. The only thing that makes me unhappy are bigots. If it wasn't for bigots I really wouldn't have anything to complain about.
I literally just read a Reddit thread where people working in aged care were saying that the happiest, healthiest and most visited residents in the nursing home were childless women in their 90s. Not only were they thriving physically but they had SO many special people whose lives they'd contributed to over the years and these people regularly came to see them, whereas a lot of the people with children were never visited except on Christmas. So this "childless woman dies alone" thing and the "have kids so someone will look after you when you're old" thing is a total lie.
@@jaylockwood5030 as a childless woman, I have enough money that I can happily pay professionals to wipe my elderly butt, rather than expecting my grown children who have lives of Their Own to do it for free.
@@jaylockwood5030 If you read Ella's comment correctly, you'll see that the childless women were visited by people who loved them and were grateful to them - the visitors came from outside of the nursing home. The staff is not visiting, they work there. These women had visitors who visit them, and staff to care for them. Two separate things.
Right! Women have said they would have more kids if they can get some affordable childcare and housing. But instead they attack women for working and millennials for killing the housing market but offer no solutions
They want everyone to have kids, even if that means having them be born into broken homes and horrible economic conditions, so that they can go on to blame broken homes and poor economic conditions for the mental health issues and violence and then criminalize everything to fill their jails and prisons. These people literally want people born into the same environments that THEY claim breed criminals, only to turn around and punish them with zero empathy. These people are sadists.
@@joeboxerdog6543 Do you think they have that in countries with the highest population growth? Raising a child is hard work and it will always be hard work. Stop blaming the government for your laziness.
My grandfather married my grandmother when my mom and her siblings were adults. He had no children but he had step kids and nieces and nephews taking care of him when he was dying. You don't have to have kids to be loved.
@@Wildcat82164 lol that's just because they are doing it wrong. you would never guess my husband and I have been together for 17 years. We still act like the cute new couple that hasn't gotten out of the honeymoon phase. Most of the time. I mean just last night the guy at pieology told us to stop giggling in the corner, jokingly.
@@halsalehha Her name is in the video _and_ the written TITLE, and you're having trouble with it? Here, let me help you. Her name is 'Chelsea'. Chelsea Handler.
Hahaha right. It takes a certain kind of woman to go for guys like that, let’s just say. I’m sure tucker is a little less insufferable than Ben Shapiro at the dinner table. At least tucker can listen with that mesmerized look on his face, Ben Shapiro needs to put a sock in it
I’m a childless married man of 18 years, we love our freedom plus babysit for any number of our 15 nieces and nephews, as usual these conservative talking heads are so incredibly disconnected to reality, on purpose or not, we’ll never know….. unless Dominion sues them and we read their deepest secrets🤣🤣🤣🤣
It just goes back to the fact that people who are criticizing Chelsea Handler don't want women to have choice. A woman can choose to have children or not have children and be happy in both situations. They want to continue to put out the lie that a woman can only be happy if she is a mother and has no other choice.
The reason why these "men" are so upset that women like Chelsea Handler are happy and comfortable with their choice not to have children, is that it is women like her that are not wasting their nights wishing they had the opportunity to have these guys children. The other reason is that women like her are "men" like thats biggest threat. They are strong, independent, financially secure and well educated and most of all, free! And thats the biggest threat of all, isnt it, a womans freedom!
@143AD All as in 'all' women? I had 5 children, and I now have 12 grandchildren, so there is nothing you could tell me about the absolute joy of having children can be. It's possibly my greatest achievement. However, the ignorance and nastiness you have shown in your comments is possibly the biggest argument for twin beds, contraception and complete abstinence that I have ever heard!
@@cathyshort So good of your too chime in, Cathy. Could you please try and been a little more virtue signalling in your commentary. You may just get male persecution award of the year? And BTW, dont worry about contraception most men have walked away ..in part due to whomen like yourself, who are statistically speaking notorious for 80% of divorces, fatherless boys, permiscuous girls, rampant crime, societal decay, cancel culture and why the West has stopped breeding. Again Dear, if you need proof for why life shouldn't go on, maybe consult your Marxist communist state or perhaps ...Satan? Oh thats right most of you have.
@143AD Wow we are insecure aren't we. Been hurt much? If you weren't so bitter and nasty, I could almost feel sorry for you, and I'm guessing with your Satan references your a Christian to. Good 'ol Christian love at its best! How about next time you want to compensate for your obvious inadequacies, you stick to Facebook were sour old bigots like you thrive!
I have kids and nobody ever talks about how hard it is on your body to physically be pregnant and give birth. How your body is depleted of Vitamins and minerals, (even w/prenatal vitamins) your teeth get softer, your spine and hips take a beating, etc.
Well, men or patriarchy do not care about women's bodies or health, women are there to be used and thrown away, don't try to talk sense with these people or assume they care about female suffering.
I’m a “childless woman pushing 50” and I have never been happier. My aunt is 83 and never had kids and spent a fun life as an equestrian. These are also the “nice” guys who will leave you with all of the housework and cooking because it’s so-called “women’s work”.
Although motherhood is special, there are so many other ways of nurturing the world besides having children. I myself have only one child, but I am a teacher. I’ve been at it for 29 years now. And I figured on average I’ve had 817 children pass through my life. If that ain’t motherhood, I don’t know what is. 😂
I couldn't agree more. raising children today requires a dual income in most cases. Gone are the days of the happy housewife at home doing the so-called domestic thing. If a woman chooses to be a career woman as well as have children then the Man MUST be a part of that if they are a couple. Or if a couple decides 1 or the other is going to be a stay at home parent that also has to be supported. women have the absolute right to choose and noone except maybe a spouse gets to tell her what to do or have input unless its asked for. Why have we stopped repecting people??
Yep, we do any and all kinds of work. While they kick back, and watch a soccer football Basketball, baseball, and scratch-their-balls that we cater. This woman job is hard enough without some stranger telling us what the heck to do with our bodies.
@@tonyvanmil8571 raising kids today requires a dual income? Then please explain to me how I am the only income for my 5 person family. We have a nice home, multiple cars, so many pets I lose count half the time. My kids are well behaved and my wife is very happy to be a stay at home mom. When have we stopped respecting people? Do you want to be the pot or the kettle in this little example?
When I was young, getting married and making babies was just what you did. A lot of parents didn’t think about whether they would be good parents or not. I’m so glad people are now thinking this very important decision through.
"You'll die alone if you don't have kids"- Have those people who use this non-sensical argument ever been in a rest home? Heaps of people with kids there that never come to visit.
@@espenc04 OMG Yes! The number of relatives who have told me to at least have 1 kid bc it will change my life and I'll have someone to care for me in old age. Who TF guarantees that I or that nonexistent child will even make it to old age especially in this country with mass shootings everyday.
@@maliroa6113 I know how you feel it's not relatives it's people I know that feel that they have to stick their nose in my business. And the majority of those at tell me I need to have a kid have never even had children and some of them were in their 50s at the time yet they were telling me about my obligation to have children. When I threw this back at one of of them he said I want have kids but my girlfriend's keep dying on me. He was in his late fifties and never moved away from home still lived where his parents had lived. His sister is paying most of the bills.
IKR! Just trying to understand WHY some feel the need to exert control over other peoples lives and tell them how to live it. Yes, I have kids and think it's great. I also believe it's not for everyone, because it can be challenging in ways those without kids will never experience. Live and let live.
@@jeffboland624 you are so right. I'm 61 was never cut out really to have kids. Do you know who I get lectured by the most to have kids? I get lectured by people that have never had kids themselves. I get lectured by both men and women who for all their talk never had kids themselves. One had a hysterectomy when she was young was telling me how her preacher said people need to have kids and yet she is never even been married. The other was by a guy who is about 58 never moved away from home never been married and told me I was letting my family down by not continuing the family line. This guy says he wants to leave something. He was 58 never been married and moved away from home and have gone bankrupt by buying all sorts of stupid things. He has never really been on his own and his parents have always had two partially support him. For all his mouthing about family lines it really comes down to him trying to be relevant.
@@rebeccakesner9840 Becca,my first wife didn’t want to have children and I didn’t bug her about it but I did ask a few times during our 18 years of marriage but it’s best after finding that she cheated on me that we didn’t have children. Now my second wife who I married 10 years later after getting divorced from my first wife she was smart enough and realizing that at her age it wasn’t a good thing she was a teacher of deaf and hard of hearing & understood special needs children and neither one of us wanted that so unfortunately she died of cancer a couple years ago now I’m by myself but that’s the way it goes at least I’m living… It’s very lonely but it wasn’t my choice to make so I feel good inside that I didn’t abuse the women that I love by trying to force having children upon them. DT
1. "Childless mother" is an oxymoron 2. As a woman who also possesses a commercial driver license, and drives VERY large vehicles for a living, I can attest to the fact that both men AND women can be trash drivers AND trash parkers.
I'm a mechanic for coal trucks, and OMG does it burn me alive when people talk shit about women not being able to drive. The female drivers almost never tear anything up, almost never break down, don't gripe when they lose a couple loads because their trucks need maintenance, don't constantly rip off their mud flaps backing up to the dump. The male drivers, on the other hand, are constantly wrecking or ripping their steps and mud flaps off, won't come in for maintenance and let their oil get so low that their wheels come flying off on the highway, beat the hell out of their trucks, and most of all cry and complain and gossip more than any other kind of human beings I've ever met in my entire life, and at one point I was a teenage girl, so that's saying something. I can't tell you the number of times I've had to get out and parallel park for men, get out and drive because it's snowing, Even just drive on roads because they're too curvy. There are men and women who are absolute shit drivers, the only difference is that there are no women who will make jokes about men being inherently awful drivers and then go immediately back over something.
The "men" who sit around saying that women should be having children when they have children that their nannies raised for them really need to take several seats. 🙄
Cool. I'm 65 and was a stay at home dad for three kids. I experiencend beautiful things in that I would never have experienced otherwise. Glad our different decisions worked well for us both.
She hardly looks unhappy to me. Besides, being childless and wealthy means she's more likely to have plenty of friends. Not staying at home shoveling down Xanax. There's plenty of depressed, whino moms though. Edit: as a single mom when I was 20, I totally understand why a responsible woman would have 2nd thoughts about having a child.
@@starpenta I’m not. Honestly the main points she throws out are based on financial concerns and she uses socialist solutions for them. Hungary just gives out tax breaks the more children you have, which they leave out I believe. Just here is a question: which is more important, a career or a human life? Because it isn’t just you who is affected, it is a potential human life that is. Not saying you should have kids or implying that you should, just arguing that there is a greater sense of purpose in being a parent.
Five years ago i changed careers from Accountant to nurse, i was 50 when i made that decision. I am a 55 year old childess and happily married happy woman - i choose not to have children. Dying alone is not synonymous to childless people, i have seen a lot of old people die alone because of family fight, that is the saddest kind of death, knowing you have children but they have no interest in seeing you or being there in your final hours. So if you are having children to not die alone, good luck!
As a nurse who has previously worked in long term care facilities aka nursing homes... I would say that about half of the residents (patients) were dumped in there by their children...and they rarely visit. So much for that "but if you don't have kids, who's gonna take care of you when you get old?" Probably the same people who'll be taking care of you...the nursing home staff.
I'd argue that having kids just because you want them to take care of you when you're old and sick is pretty selfish and heartless. Watching a parent die is excruciating
@@Budrica watch anyone die is excruciating, however, that is not an excuse to not be present during orwhilst and then after the deal. Say good bye to your loved one sonthey knownthey are not alone. I don't think the arguement is that people are having children so that they take care of them when they are old, it is saying to childless adults that, because they choose to not have kids, they will die alone. To which I say, bullshit.
WE LOVE YOU Chelsea Handler!! That was one of the most amazing things I have ever got to see someone finally expressing the joys of having no children!
Not all women want children! Get used to it. I didn't have children because I didn't want to be a brood mare. Full stop. Many women love pregnancy and raising children. Let them do it!
Loved this episode. They are so obviously trying to put women in “their place” like everyone else in the world. Everyone needs a label and to be put in a place - which is not on the top shelf - which is reserved for rich white men.
I'm a Conservative and raising kids is one of the most life-altering, limiting, and time-consuming HUGE responsibilities a human being can undertake. I respect anyone's decision to choose to avoid such a responsibility regardless of their rationale. Nobody should feel obligated to raise a child. They could choose not to literally because they want to avoid having to change diapers and I'd respect that. The bottom line, these are personal decisions and people need to quit sticking their noses in other people's personal business.
I’m 47, cis woman & have no children. It’s glorious. I’ve never once regretted my decision. Do I imagine having kids & naming them? Sure. But that’s a 10 sec fantasy - not regret or 😃longing for a baby. My man & I have been happy for 12+ years.
@@jm31387 I don’t “fantasize” about having kids & naming them.🙄 Having a brief moment to imagine if I’d had kids…u know what? I don’t need to explain myself to some angry troll who doesn’t actually GAF, they just need to judge strangers to feel superior…IN A RU-vid COMMENTS SECTION.😃 Sweet lord
@@jm31387 it does to a lot of people. I fantasize sometimes about buying a flashy car.. but I decide that sort of money would be best spent on my house. There's no conflict in that. It's a choice of priorities that are right 'for me'. I have friends who chose not to breed- one of the happiest marriages- must be going on 40years. .. good for them.
Most people who are mad at us for not wanting children, are pretty miserable themselves, and they hate that we get to enjoy our life how we chose. My husband and I have been married for almost 26 years - no children, no guilt, no worries. We have spent our time and disposable income enjoying each other, our home, and the world around us. Miserable conservatives hate us 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
The people complaining about a woman living her life either are envious that they themselves couldn’t figure it out earlier, that parenthood was never an obligation or are upset that women can no longer be controlled like in their dark ages. Let them seethe and be miserable lmfao
As a 51 year old woman married with no kids I have to say not having children is the best decision I ever made and all my friends with kids are jealous and live vicariously through my husband and I.
I love this segment, Ana you did such a great job. I’ve got two kids but totally respect those who don’t ever want any. It’s actually the responsible thing to do since the world and environment will be so damaged in the future that our kids will be in a world of hurt. And yes, they cost an arm and a leg and cause you like constant worries. And having kids doesn’t guarantee you’ll be alone in old age either!
DAMN, that part right there. I worked 40+ for years, to keep my children in a descent home with descent schools. One fulltime job and 4 part time jobs.
I'm no millionaire. I worked 60 hour weeks much of my life, raised 3 kids, and am now disabled. AND I will say it... life isn't that hard if you have a good work ethic and a good attitude. Of course your milage may vary.
Kinda hard to be a stay home mom when your boyfriend, partner, husband walks out or divorces you…then do everything they can to not pay their child support, even when you have a court order and when you get a check for $5 and call the state AG office and be told you should be happy you got something…you wonder why more women are choosing not to have children
My mom was married when she had my sister and me. My father left her high and dry to marry her best friend. My mom was forced to be a single mother because my dad also did not pay one penny in child support. Also my father will die alone because none of his kids want anything to do with him. My mother said if she had it to do all over again she would not have had kids because it's too hard to do alone.
I’m a 71 year old woman who chose not to have kids. And have never regretted it for one moment! My life has been lived in such a wonderful way- one I could not have dreamt of if saddled with children like my poor Catholic mother who had six kids was. I looked at that smart, adventurous woman, held back from experiencing the life she should have had and knew, not for me! Not for me. And I certainly do not feel bad about it nor will allow anyone to make me feel bad about it. Just sayin’.☺️☺️☺️☺️☺️ And, BTW, I was married and my husband agreed!
Conservatives care about Chelsea Handler because she's successful and a very outspoken progressive who easily takes down the idiocy of conservatives when she speaks. Even her existence is a take down of conservative "values."
Looking at my highschool classmates years later the people that had kids got messed up, they aged faster, loss their hair and got fat and the childless are looking good for their age I'm impressed
This should go both ways. Everyone should shut up about how people choose to live their lives. The only exception would be in the event that someone's choices are negatively impacting your life or someone else's, but this would have to be proven and not assumed.
70% of divorces are initiated by women. Women are not afraid to be alone. The guy kept saying, she is alone, so unhappy...dude,please!!! Better alone than in a marriage with a baby-man.
I'm 72 years old. When I was in my 20's I finally had my tubes tied. There were several reasons. I really didn't want children. I couldn't use either the IUD or the pill. Another part of my decision -- no support in the US for women with children, no social programs to help women raise children at all. It was a choice of having a career that would afford a living wage or poverty. Where are the men in this subject? Throughout my life, I have been criticized by men for my selfish attitude of not having children. For me -- this one decision was the best decision of my life.
Totally. She's owning them so hard by being diminished and making one of three performance related jokes that are totally not sexist because you can totally use the same in response and not get fired. She's legit winning at life. 😂
Seems paradoxical, doesn't it? Well is not if one reads between the lines among layers of MAGA's nonsensical confusion. If you're minority... don't breed them (regardless), if you're white ...why aren't you breeding?
As someone with a 2 year old, I TOTALLY understand and respect child-free by choice. It’s a lot of work, 24/7, never stops, and you won’t know if you like being a parent til you become one. I LOVED being child free for 31 years!!!!!!!!! It’s amazing! I love my baby to pieces and so glad I got to make my own choice on my own time.
That dude is just pissed off that Chelsea is OBVIOUSLY a much happier person than he is. Gotta project his misery on everyone happier than him so he feels normal.
I know I love how these guys r mad that women don't have kids and then immediately shit talk and put women down. Carlson and that other guy is why women don't want families. Also Matt we all die alone
Chelsea's segment was THE best EVER! My youngest daughter has NEVER liked babies, her entire life. As a teenager she declared she did not want children, ever. Her step-mom gave her all the right wing grief generally given to a woman when she makes this decision and told my daughter, "you will change your mind when you get older." Um, no. She's in her mid 20's now and more sure that she has made the correct decision and having children is definitely not in her future.
I'm a teacher. I raise incredible citizens everyday. I go home and value my child free home and child free time. I chose not to have kids and I am so happy! No regrets, no longing and I never have to share the snacks, I keep poison on the bottom shelf and I sleep until noon on the weekends.
I'm a 43 year old father of 3 and I love it. One of my brothers is a year younger than me and has no children of his own, he loves it. We're both living our lives and enjoying it.
I have THE MOST supportive husband, and I've realised after having kids that I didn't make this choice informed or critically minded. I did it because 'everyone does' and I thought I'd regret one day not trying it...completely oblivious that I'd be giving up peace of mind FOREVER. Happy to have them, but I didn't make an informed decision. Respect to Handler.
Some women don't realize there's a choice. It's just expected of you. ---- at least nowadays women feel comfortable admitting, "I love my children *BUT* . . . if I knew then what I know now, fill in the blank. Some of them say "I wouldn't had so many," some would say "I wouldn't have them at all." Some would say "I would have had them earlier or later."
I have 4 kids, the youngest is 25, and I can tell you I have not stopped being a parent, as a matter of fact, now they are grown I worry as much because I don't have them within my eyesight!! If you are aware of all this and still want kids, fine but dont push it on anyone!
@@jaylockwood5030 if all it was was that you think we are a “miserable mess,” then you wouldn’t be so triggered and you’d just move on with your life without thinking we care about your unfounded opinions of us. And what makes you think there aren’t countless mothers out there who aren’t a “miserable mess?”
My wife and I were on a trip in Costa Rica. Like many tours we have been on the guide asked everyone how long they have been married and how many kids they have. We had been through this too many times with people feeling so sad for us b/c we don't have kids, by CHOICE. So when it was our turn I said, " We have been married 25 years. We don't have any children. We have money." Everyone fell out. The tone of the group changed dramatically. Some asked us if they should have another kid. So it is my standard line today when I am asked about my kids.
When people ask me if I want kids I say “no, my mom birthed enough children for me to raise” 😅 then I get a different and darker kind of pity and laughter 🤭 Next time they should mind they business.
My wife and I have been happily married for 40 years and we decided even before we got married that we did not want kids. I took care of that by getting a vasectomy before our marriage. You would not believe the abuse we have gotten over the years over our choice not to have kids. We even had to lie to the priest during our Pre Cana meeting with the priest prior to getting married, for if we told the priest that we did not want children, then the chances would have been quite likely that he would have refused to marry us. To this day, my wife and I do not at all regret our decision not to have kids, especially knowing how screwed up this world has become.
I raised 6 kids, my husband never changed a diaper, did a feeding, let me take a break, went to a teacher conference, did a load of laundry. The list is endless. I spent my life exhausted and worried. It doesn’t end when they are no longer toddlers that statement was from a delusional knuckle dragger. Financially, it was crippling. I worked part time once they were all in school …
Oh please it’s the women WITH children who are popping the anxiety meds, 😂 I know because I’m one of them. But let them continue to push their views on to others.
As a parent of two grown children, I can honestly say our financial situation would be drastically different if we had not had children. That being said, I wouldn't change anything because for us, parenting was/is a very rewarding adventure! However, costs of having/raising children have increased so rapidly and incomes have not. Not everybody is financially or emotionally prepared for parenting. The individuals that want all women to have babies are the same individuals that want to take away the safety nets that some families rely upon! Can't have it both ways!
I think childcare was the biggest shock when we had our son. My wife went back to work part time when my son turned 1yr old and we put him into a nursery for two days a week which cost about £400 ($480) a month. We had to pay this for two years until he turned 3yrs old. The UK government covers most of the childcare costs for 3yr old and 4yr old children and then they start school after that so it's only those two years that are expensive.
@@davidhughes4089 In USA, we paid $150.00 per week for 2 kids basically from birth to kindergarten. That was in the midwest. Other parts of the country were way more expensive. Keep in mind, that was 30 years ago. Once they were in all day school, we only had to pay for before and after school care. Much cheaper but still a childcare expense.
My grandma had an average husband, 3 kids and an ok life. She use to say that she love her kids and was proud of them but if she could go back on time she wouldn’t have not even one. No just for her but also for them. Just pay attention to every day’s news.
I can relate ! As a single father who raised my kid, my career goal was to keep my job while dealing with all the issues of raising a child alone. I've never regretted my decisions, I've just learned to respect the other side. Chelsea speaks the truth.
I'm a gen x woman, I have children and with everything that's going on, I feel bad for kids growing up in this twisted version of America. I am truly happy my daughter is a lesbian and my son is A-sexual. She will never have to worry about how she will get an abortion or go to prison for having one, Which is beyond sick. My kids told me I will have dogs for grandchildren, I am good with that
I'm a man. I have no kids. I don't want kids. I have a dog I love my dog. All I see is unhappy miserable couples in the world. Children suck the life out of you. I'm alone and I have no problem with dying that way. It's not only Chelsea.
Same here. It's not just women who are told they need to have kids. I've had people lecture me that I need to have them. The funny thing is neither one of these people that have kids but they can tell me that I need it to have some. One woman I used to work with lives better because she'd gotten pregnant the baby didn't make it and her husband who'd already been married and had kids didn't want to try again. She actually got mad at me because I didn't want to have children and kept saying most men want to have a son. On the other hand she said that the abortion issue was men trying to tell women what to do with their bodies. She didn't seem to have a problem telling me that I should father a child. One friend of mine is in his late 50s has never lived way from home has never been married and went bankrupt spending money on stupid collectible said he thought was going to be worth money one day. He wants to have a son so he can leave something. I suppose he means besides bunch of debts that he never paid off in a bunch of garbage you bought that's never going to be worth anything.
Excellent. Loving life is how it should be.I didn't care one way or another about having kids until I did. I was a stay at home dad with three kids, a full life before, during, and after and now disabled. I love life too! 65
