@Sandra The parents who do this type of thing with their children are lost and broken themselves. I had a friend who would do that and I actually have a few friends I can think of who do that and they do have unresolved issues. It allows kids to think its ok to deal with problems by turning to drugs and alcohol. Even the parents must come to a place inside with the help of God to learn to cope with life and things that they have been through in a better way. Sometimes the parents think they are using those activities to bond and sometimes the kids are a source of the supply. We all need to be praying non stop!
True if possible my mama raised 9 kids by herself we all graduated high school, two graduated from 4 yr university, 4 from trade school. No one never touch drugs, no one went to prison, only one went to jail for a night, all employed. We were raised old school and raised in church, mama wasnt our friend.
Rickey, you are saying what I have been saying for 50 years. I tried to tell people close to me to get control of your house. Most thought I was too strict on my son. My ex-husband said I was going to turn him into a punk because I didn't allow him to go to homes where I didn't know the people. Some I alrdy knew how they lived. Well, my son went on to the Un of Mich and earns $300k+/year plus he stayed away from bullshit. So, this divorced single mama didn't do so bad. Keep on preaching Rickey. I hear you and agree wholeheartedly.
Damn, about time a celeb speak about the community, no one wants to talk about the violence in our neighbor hood but we are quick to have a conversation about George Floyd (may he RIP)
Ricky to many parents want to be friends with their children so they will like them! I was a single mother, and I was told by so many that I was too hard on my sons because I did unannounced book bag checks, made them cook, wash dishes, and all bed were made before they left for school. Being criticized because I cared to embarrassed my 3 sons wherever they messed up and chastised them. I was told they are learning violence by my actions. Fast forward now, three remarkable young men with awesome wives and children. Praying for your Family and Yarbrough family.
Kudos!! Hand clap and Big Hugs! You raised your kids right. You raised them to be Independent & Responsible To not make excuses and to be held accountable for his actions. From another mother of a 28 y.o. daughter and a 21 y.o. son. I was strict too. Neither of my kids have kids. My daughter is a college graduate. She just got a high clearance job with Dept of Justice. Parenting is a job within itself, however the result is so worth it. You did right.
We have also had to deal with gun violence. My husband, their father was murdered in Little Rock, Arkansas in 1995 and the killer has yet to be captured!
Here is another problem with this generation these women keep having babies by these types of guys who so call alpha men let's them strip them of all the moral leave them load down with sin in their belly full of kid will not have a father to be their instead all of their weakness what seed was implanted in them is all of their pain and fear anger what they father wasn't able to help them because they in jail and the mother been molested and rape probably didn't have no relationship with her mother because she was on drugs. Can't really type now at work don't have time to checkout what l wrote,but you can put the pieces together.
This is a WORD. I had to get rid of my own nephew for this very reason. The devil is working through the youth via social media with the spirit of rebellion.
PREACH, I have said this for over 30 years. I have 2 sons that were raised the old way and soon as they got to 18 they start living their life like the thugs in the street. One lived his life in and out of prison now he is 40 and made because he can't get a place to live or a good job, but he still want to keep them thug friends he hang out with. Then he mad at the brother that live in his own place providing for himself and girlfriend. It's sad how the world is going.
I grew up when the teachers, principals, lunch lady could correct us but now nobody can say anything to the kids. But it takes a village please that shit dont work anymore.
I I'm a part of the Gen X generation. The principal would call my mother and asked if she could paddle me, and my mother would tell her yes every time.
Man I was at the park here for Easter in New Orleans , all these white families were out there and the ONE black family out there got into a fist fight with one another. I was so embarrassed walking passed these white families and see the disgust , head shakes and shock on their faces . It made me so mad!!! Thanks rickey for bringing this topic up which no other celebrity does and it pisses me off.
These 75 dislikes are the ones encouraging these animals to behave this way .... don't worry y'all time with fate is sooner the you think ...the guy is speaking 100% straight facts and y'all gonna give this video thumbs down?
This is where it should have began 1st and continue till change happens, not slow up after your voice was heard just a little...keep on em just like I did my children 7,4 boys 3 girls... young single mother, old school rearing, none are in prison, they all graduated, 3 honor roll..I removed ppl out of my life to ensure the success of theirs, it's a sacrifice that must be made under God!!! They aren't perfect, neither am I, but i press towards that mark and I push them to do so daily...that role was given to me and I'll be damned if the streets was gon turn my legacy into crap!! Thank you Rickey for what you do as service to our communities, keep preaching brother🙏🏾💯💞
The men in these communities should be on guard for anything and anyone who threatens their communities. Selling drugs, abusing women, kidnapping children,gangs, and killing one another. What are some of these churches and their religious leader doing. The Black churches have the singing ,praying, and the minsters telling a good story. But what about repairing men in the church to do some ground work. Stop investing thirty million dollars into a building and invest twenty five millions into helping people change their lives and their conditions. No minster needs his or her own private airplane unless he or she is going to raise the dead.
I’m a grandmother of two young men , one is a business major and nonprofit organizations with his masters degree , the other one is a freshman at Howard university majoring in medicine . I stay on may face and knees for them. Stay prayerful the world is not the same.🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
Yes, Ma’am. Prayers and true repentance before GOD ALMIGHTY is what it is going to really take for this evil to be defeated. Thank you, Ma’am. May ABBA always hear and answer your every whisper and send HIS fastest strongest angels to you before you can cry out the name of Jesus Christ before HIM. In Jesus’ name. Amen & Amen. ✝️📖🕊🛐🙌🏽💜
Keep on staying on your face and knees for them. If more people would be praying for their children the world would be a better place. God is a miracle working God and a Covenant keeping God He can stop every evil and demonic attack of the enemy upon our lives and that of our children we decree and declare the covenant of protection daily.
Ricky,, I raised my son’s old school, I searched their rooms , did not allow doors closed in my house..checked them when they were wrong, and kicked off in that behind when needed. To this day they say yes ma’am and no sir, they are respectful... I stayed at their school.. and got on them and the teacher when they accepted less than stellar work... thank you for confirmation...
I respect how you show your grandson responsibilities. Relationship have failed due to some people don’t want nobody saying anything to these kids. Then they grow up terrorizing people.
Man this spoke truth. As a 21 year old I was left out of slot of stuff in high school because my parents didn’t allow me to do certain things. I always had to say yes sir and address older people as Mr or Ms. they called me lame and old fashioned but I’m thankful for that stuff .
Amen, OLDER NOW WE SEE THE TRUE LOVE IN GETTING RAISED. IN AGE GROUP? MOST WENT INTO STIP LIVES, WHORES BECAUSE OF $$$$$ Pretty Boys Were Turned OUT" GET It? The COOL KIDS LOCKED UP. SCHOOL DITCHERS YOUTH CAMPS "JAIL" BABY MAMA'S BABY DADDIES GOD BLESS US!!!! WHAT IS WRONG WITH US ???? IGNORANCE, JEALOUSY, ENVY, HATE !!!!
This is so true. I'm 34yrs old and afraid of going out to see my family because they live in these neighborhoods. Our own people have become so dangerous and reckless. 😢
@Disguised Dv8ant that's why us black men need to stop getting them pregnant but too bad most of us are raised by those same women so we won't agree on that solution at all.
@Disguised Dv8ant We as Black men need to stop blaming the women and vice versa. We are supposed to be the head of the households and the leaders of our community. It's us the men that are killing eachother because many of us don't have fathers in our lives.
Thank God someone with influence has finally said something. We have got to reach our younger generation to break this cycle. They are hurting...I’m ready to go to work....
Thank you Rickey. We were victims of a home invasion and my son was shot defending us. Thankfully he survived but you are absolutely correct! You said exactly what I’ve been saying! It’s too much. I’m glad you unapologetically said what needed to be said.
My husband has a habit of telling young men to pull up their pants, and I fear for his life every time. So far they have been respectful and pulled up their pants, but I just worry about him
If they don't do it when he is not In their presence, than it is not true respect they show, for him or the message he gave them. We have to explain in detail, why it is not a good thing to do, what we advise against. There are many angles to the argument. A young person could argue - what is the difference in that, and wearing a bathing suit at the beach? That makes sense on the surface, but certain social norms exist for multiple reasons. It must be pointed out that not all people are okay with exposing their body at the beach. There is also the point of there being a time and place for everything. We all don't share the same view point or opinion on things, and in order to maintain peace, agreements have been negotiated and compromises reached long ago, on certain basic norms. Society depends on this process to maintain the ability to function properly. That is were the concept of pushing the envelope coming in. Where does the challenging of norms stop? Not relatively long ago there use to be the saying among us that, "if you give us an inch, we'll take a yard". I don't know how many of us today, have heard this before as, those type of folk sayings, are so quickly replaced in today's pop/youth culture dominated society. Young people need to understand, that if they are fortunate/blessed, they will be old one day, and see society a lot differently than they do now. The consequences of growing old have only gotten worst. We can imagine what their senior years will be like, if the trajectory we have been on for over half a century continues. The challenging of authority and the attitude that one can do whatever comes to their mind is the same attitude, that get us killed by the police as well as each other. We need to have a serious evaluation and critique of our culture. The way we speak to our children is not conducive to the healthy development of them. Note how many White people speak to their very young children as if speaking with another adult. They instill confidence in their children from the start of their parenting. We too often berate, criticize, and try to keep our children in check. Thinking we are protecting them. In many if not most cases we are, and that is why we need to make our communities safe so our children can have more freedom to explore and practice building a measure of independence. Social pressures and interactions are too great a force, for this to be done piecemeal. It must be done on the community level at the least. We have to put our difference aside and create this basic standard of interacting with each other, on the cultural level. People are transient and people coming into a new community must have the same standards and basic human values. We have to make this a cultural shift - a real change of culture - not a reset. A reset just takes us back to a pervious state. So many have said "things can't go back to how they were". How is that possible if we continue to do the same things we have always done, to little or no avail? We will prove ineffectual and insane, if we don't make drastic changes. What can each person do to make sure we change? Email every politician, organization, and institution, and ask that they all address this issue and others. In your social media replies to post from media people and activist, demand that they address this issue, and that they call for a national dialogue, followed by an agenda for us to work on and complete. We have to come to a national consensus on some basic human values, that we all agree to recognize and adhere to. So in essence, this is a pre-agenda agenda of one point. What will we do with it? I will repost this to as a separate post, so not to imply that this is directed at you personally.
Ricky my daughter is 26 and I am 65 years young and I put her out of my house today for her slick mouth and raising her voice to me! I do not tolerate disrespect of any kind because I don't disrespect others! Don't start none, won't be none. I am with you 100% Praying for peace and love everyday in this troubled world of ours. God's Protection to us all. 💝❤💝
I just told my 20-something daughters the word MODESTY is no longer part of the English language. Humility isn't either. I pray for the next generation... I feel as though we (Gen X) are failing our kids... trying to be friends not parents! 😔🙏 Sad... my kids lost their dad & only brother to gun violence. It's real for my family too... PREACH!
I totally agree with you, this new culture of parents is causing the next generation to have NO STRUCTURE, DISCIPLINE, OR ACCOUNTABLILTIY at home. I have two twenty-year old daughters and a 13yr old daughter I had to call the police on to show her that dialing 9-1-1 to report me because I took her cellphone doesn't work. It was actually the officer (White and Black officers) that told her when your mother is disciplining you that is not a reason to call 911. If it happens again they would arrest her for making a false police report. I haven't had a problem since. My first two never gave me this amount of trouble.
I am very sorry for the tragedies your family has suffered. I certainly would never want to provoke however I am genuinely curious about how you felt when black lives matter came out and publicly announced that their concern was not black on black violence? Could you still take them seriously as an organisation truly concerned with black lives? I will never forget watching Don lemon indignantly say black lives matter's job was not to worry about black on black crime. That truly hurt my heart.
I love myself some Ricky Smiley. Some may disagree, But this man is for real. I am a late 50's generation. And his principles remind me of how my parents,and grandmother raised us. Some of us did what was right, and some of us did not. But whether right,or wrong we knew better. The word tells us every generation will be wiser, but weaker. We have to be a mother, and a farther first. We love our children, but a child must learn respect. We can not let them treat us like we are the child,and they are the adult, it only leads to problems. I have two children a son, and a daughter, early 40's They can't and will not ever disrespect me, it's so sad but God's word must be fulfilled. Rickey keep telling the truth.
Thank you sir, for addressing this people pandemic we have suffered with for so many years, I’m a pastor here in Chicago,I’ve been saying the same thing for years. Many of these passive mothers are a big part of this problem that begins in adolescence please keep up the strong tone on what’s really wrong, broken parents. God bless you.
FACTS. When they took paddlings out of school they fucked up. Teachers no longer have control of their classroom. You can't say anything. Iss is nothing but a fucking joke. Iss is just a holding cell until they turn 18 and go to real jail.
@@joeyjackson9199 Thank you, the young people refuse to listen, the underground covid-19 parties are real, and when the 18 to 27 year olds come in with Covid 19 there in denial. Not all of them make it out alive, 30/40 percent.... perhaps and then they have debilitating symptoms that will follow them until they die, All because they refused to listen. So that being said, if you know of any young people, please please try to get them to listen. Also they drink weigh too much alcohol to be so young. ✝️🙏✝️ Peace and blessings 😊
The Word say in Proverbs 22:6 Train up a child in the way he should go and when he’s older he’ll not depart from it. Ricky you so right because now days the parents are being trained and it’s so so sad 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
Rickey, you told absolutely nothing but the truth....I feel the exact same way. DO NOT TAKE ONE SINGLE WORD YOU SAID BACK, AND DO NOT APOLOGIZE. BLESS YOU BROTHER👏🏽👏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
My experience as a stepfather; I had to fight the whole house trying to discipline or correct her kids, every time they got suspended from school It was the students fault or the teacher don't like them never taken Accountability...
Been der!!....I love my husband 💕but in the long run those things which I tried 2 bring in our household with his kids resulted 2 ...out of his 5 kids..."only 2 graduated..and the others ended up with over 15 felons!
I missed out on meeting you when you came to Meridian a few years ago but you did meet my sister Darice a.k.a. Booty. You spoke motivation into her, much appreciated! Keep staying 100 with us. We all who know needs this reminder on gun violence & keeping family close. The one who don't need the education. The one doing it & watching needs the condemnation. Thank you for being you encouraging us in this hateful world.
My neighbor's young son had like 8 "friends" over today while he was at work. I heard what sounded like arguing. I go ask them if everything is okay. They blow me off. Not 15minutes later I hear banging against the side of my house. They were fighting with some clowns from around the corner in MY yard. My landscaping was all trampled. Not one word of apology. Can't even trust the "good" kids nowadays 😤
Omg my Grandma lived in West Birmingham. Was a teacher at Parker High . She used to say, “ if you lie, you’ll steal, if you’ll steal you’ll kill”... crazy how west B’ham is now.... ❤️🙏
Mr. Smiley, I hear everything you are saying and I totally agree... Myself, my husband who is a minister and our 8 year old daughter went to a funeral that my husband was officiating this past week for a young man and one of us started a fight and hit another person with a gun...Need I say more...
Mr. Smiley Thank You! Please give us a Part 2 of this. This is the type of teaching and discussion that needs to go forth daily ; with open ears and an open-minded understanding to match.
This message needs to be heard in every black teenage households! I just sent it to my 17yr old son. Going to college in GA in the fall. We are from Alabama. I’m so nervous about by baby leaving for college and run into one these half raised thugs! 🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🥲
Thank you Mr. Smiley! We need action in our communities. Groups like M.A.S.K. in Chicago who are on the streets trying to make a difference but don't get the attention that they should. Please keep speaking up because we need prominent voices speaking truth.
I have raised 4 boys to men and I taught them how to respect themselves and others, how to wash clothes, take out the trash and to support their children, so I wholehardedly agree with you.
Everything you said on this video is everything I have said - minus the profanity 🤭- I raised my sons with manners and respect . If they stepped out of line, I got ALL IN their behinds! They did laundry, washed dishes, cleaned their rooms, cut grass, you name it and they held doors for girls/women - 2 have college students degrees and well paying jobs and one, well, let's say that he is finding his own way but its hard for him because the men in his life were trying to teach him another way and it flat out did not work! That son is paying the price. He is not in jail or anything, he is just having a hard time be cause he carries so much anger inside because he trusted the wrong people. We will continue to pray for our children - God Hrlp Us ALL. Keep doing what you are doing Rickey, it is Reaping a Blessed harvest for those who take heed to your words
I admire your strength Ricky. I’m sure how you find the courage to still laugh and inspire us with all you’ve endured. I’m not mad at all, somebody needed to say it. Best to make your own fun at home.
I missed the times where adults could tell kids right from wrong and they would actually listen with manners on the end... yes sir let’s get back to a respectful place...sending healing love to all 💕💕
My kids tell me all the time to stop talking to people about fixing themselves... I cant help it. Its done in love so ima keep helping and I guess my grandma's prayers are working
I am in agreement with all you said Rickey... Leave nothing out. As a parent of a child of gun violence... I agree with you... We need to start a movement ASAP
So sorry you've had to experience this. Follow @nooppgang on instagram, THIS is exactly what my brand A BLACK MAN IS NOT MY OPP is all about, promoting BLACK MALE CONFLICT RESOLUTION amid so much senseless beef and violence in the community. These boys are lost and this brand aims to at least reach these young boys with this message before the streets get their minds. Be blessed queen.
@@dettmaddox7727 ... thx for this information Please say a prayer that my daughter regains complete movement in her right hand. She can’t work and has a small son
That's going to be very difficult because it's no money in black on black crime. If your ready to face the opposition from your own people who turn the blind eye to it then I'm with you. Unless it's a police shooting it falls on deaf ears unless it hits close to home. We seen this coming for years but know one cared. All we listened to was pandering preachers and politicians. Rickey Smiley welcome to the red pill comunity.
it's about time a celebrity speak the truth. my girls know they daddy came from the mud and I'm not even having it. we live eye for eye in my house strait up.
Keep it real brother. As an officer 👮🏽♂️ I saw it all in my 20 years. Where is the outrage when THUGS commit these violent crimes against their own race. I have seen teachers threaten by mothers because their son was disciplined for being disrespectful and undisciplined. I understand when you say “US” You are speaking FACTS.
I can't even front......Rickey telling the entire damn truth today! I'm not trying to make anyone mad but hell, I don't go to 'predominantly Black' anything anymore. Crowded parks, cookouts, house parties, the soul food restaurants......NADA! Simply because folks just don't know how to act anymore. You can't even party with your own people in peace. I just chill at home. Damn shame. Preach Rickey!😫😫😫😫😫😫
My youngest child mother told my child don't come around me because I'm to strict on her. What type of sh.t is that? These kids need discipline and structure in their life,803
Puff N Stuff: You wrote... "...my youngest child's mother..." Does that mean you have other kids with more than one woman that is NOT your wife?... If so... with ALL due respect... You are part of the problem... It is possible to have sex... without having babies... "You" have control over the outcome too... just saying... We're adults... if one isn't going to being responsible... then the other adult NEEDS to be....
Oooow, I just had to distance myself from some family because of the lack of respect they're allowing a kid have. Not in my house! Don't even come over here and they don't speak.
I wish a MF WOUUULD come to me with some cliché jargon, like “I know your daughter is in a better place. Or now you have another angel in heaven” after such a tragic loss. And there are soooo many ppl who would question parents for saying “I have NOTHING left” after their child has been slaughtered by THUGS. But those folks don’t understand that our children are our GREATEST investment annnnnd our legacy. 😢 Thank you Brutha Smiley for articulating our feelings. . . even while you are hurting. #BlessUp
As a black parent i raised my son to not follow the crowd but be your own man.as a black teenage my son was online loo for a job.he was very persistent in finding work.know as a 19 year old man he is working he just got his own health insurance .and told me i can remove him from my job insurance.im proud of the young black man he has become.no saggy pants etc.because all the years while raising him he saw his dad go to work and provided for the family.
Teasea, I am right with you!!!. It's amazing that it seems the number one stress these days, particularly among blacks..is waking up and just surviving to live.
Honey Here I am I was just driving down the highway and tears started flowing down my face I had to just praise God in spite of the stress and pressure good black mothers, sisters,aunts and workers carry but like Ricky said we cry alone but God has us in his hands
It's to get worse this summer. You've got way to many folks who been on the verve of crazy for the last 18 months. I tell folks to follow what Rickey said. LIMIT WHO YOU AROUND THIS SUMMER!!
I LOVE you, Rickey! You’re SUCH a beautiful human being. So kind and loving. A REAL alpha male who is a protector of humanity. ✨♥️✨✊🏽✨ You have my utmost RESPECT. ❗️
Thanks Mr. Smiley for using your voice and influence to speak up. Most black people in this country feel just like you do. I've been feeling these same frustrations for over ten years now. Our communities have been deplorable death traps for decades now and no one wants to address it.
Can't sleep Rickey because yesterday evening one of my ex coworkers young son got killed and another wounded I've been praying for her😪😪she had only to children and now one is gotta right here in Arkansas smh so my prayers go up to all gun shot victims and there family and please keep my family lifted up in prayer
I wish more people could speak the truth like you. I thank God for having you to be able to keep the right way of life a live. To refresh the mind of others. God bless you and your family
Rickey, THANK YOU!!!! You are speaking for sooo many of us. Please keep these commentaries coming. You're helping. This is good, tough LOVE. GOD BLESS YOU. YOU ARE SO RIGHT IN EVERY DAMN WORD YOU ARE SAYING. You're teaching, helping and loving. Thank you Brother 💕.
Coming to work with blonde hair looking like hooked i manger had to put her foot down about this phone Palance complaining she got the email she said what she will not embassies her she told the clowns try her she put they ass out the door
Hi Rickey. I totally agree about the gun violence is out of control. I live in St. Louis, so I definitely know about that. I'm so scared for my 2 sons and my entire family. My oldest nephew was murdered at a bus stop in 2013. He was months away from his 25th birthday. The case is still cold smh. Nobody wants to come forth out of fear!!!
Listening to those stories tore me up. What he said about people being afraid to speak up is absolutely correct. I have had elders try to "shush" me for defending other elders against disrespectful young people.
It’s not just in the ‘hoods’! When projects are being torn down to secure‘prime real estate’ for upscale condos’ and such, guess where ‘pookey & ray ray’ get relocated to? ‘Section 8’ mostly places the family in a rental home in your neighborhood in the ‘burbs’. I have a modest, 1970’s home with a bullet hole in one of the windows in my garage; and a crease from the bullet in one of the brackets on the garage door panel. It appeared sometime this past year. We had a new family move into the neighborhood who used to host these crowded outdoor parties with loud music UNTIL there was a shooting on our street from an upset, uninvited person. Only THEN, with neighborhood support and numerous calls to the police, did the crowded parties STOP. COMMUNITIES DEFINITELY HAVE TO TAKE A STAND & SAY SOMETHING!