Who on earth would give a comment about you being too negative!? I have metastatic breast cancer and I loved your video because it was raw and real. People have no idea what it’s like to go through this unless they have been through something similar. I would say DO YOU. Speak about what you want and be authentic rather than trying to sugar coat something to make everyone else happy. You are a warrior, a rockstar, and a beautiful human. Whoever can’t see that is their loss.
I am sorry anyone questions your mood with your cancer diagnosis. You are a beautiful young women with young children, you are entitled to feel what ever you feel to get through your day. Just know we are here for you and we care! ❤️❤️🙏🙏✝️✝️
People who are telling you not to be negative are the worst. Cancer is scary. Cancer is the worst thing , appart from losing a child, that can happen to anyone. There is nothing positive about it. We Cancer patients shouldn't have to be positive just so the healthy people can feel better. You don't need to apologise to anyone. You are not negative. You are just telling it like it is.
Yes, Agreed … I had Stage 3B - Breast Cancer the beast that it is - 7-cm tumour - chemo surgery radiation ☢️ the trifecta … still and this was in 2008 - but still I am terrified of the bastard returning - because I know it will …
Dee, please weed out certain comments for your own mental & physical wellbeing. This is your channel & you’re expressing your real & raw emotions. This channel isn’t “The Housewives Of Wherever” Please never apologize for being honest PeriodT!
I hate it when people want, and sort of expect, you to be positive!! How dare they. Being positive only helps everyone around you feel better, it doesn’t help you. It doesn’t make your cancer go away. I will be negative when I feel like it because cancer is awful. You are doing a great job - hang in there ❤
People can't handle the truth, so they call it negativity! Screw them! I personally think you are extremely brave and straight to the point about your feelings and the circumstances you are dealt. Why sugarcoat a devastating disease, when you know the fears involved are real. I admire you and I'm wishing you the very best. Don't appease others, do what is right for you. You are NOT negative, you are keeping it very real. Stay well, stay strong and fight the good fight. Xxx
Telling us cancer patients to stop being negative is the epitome of toxic positivity. Such bullsh*t! People just don't want to deal with our uncomfortable reality and so they want us to make THEM feel better by not expressing our real feelings which is fear and upset and anger and depression that our lives may be cut short or that we're facing harsh side effects.
got my scans coming up in a few weeks after 16 weeks of 100% alternative treatment. I document and post results on my youtube here. If it doesn't work it'll be game over in a few months so yes, at times quite stressing. Hang in there girl we are all in this shit together.
Hi I would love to hear about these treatments I have stage four thymic Cancer I’ve been doing metabolic therapy since Jan, but really started going hard April 2023 I have been stable since January no chemo hormones or any medications other than the few supplements I take nothing crazy, I am also documenting my journey here, So I would love to share information if you are interested if not God Bless, Your gunna see progress if not don’t give up this is a long process, much longer than conventional medicine.
ok, I am going to your youtube, and look into it. It would be great to keep contact with people sharing info on their experiences with altenative treatments. Very glad to hear you are stable @@missblack8810 ✊
Your videos helped me so much when I had my breast cancer diagnosis almost three years ago. I'm sorry to learn about your reoccurance 😢... Your strength and desire to share your experiences with us is so very appreciated. My prayers and healing vibes will be with you...❤
The most frustrating thing about this is the scans can’t “see” until the tumor is 1mm. So in actuality it had started growing a year or more prior. 😢 Kind of infuriating. It can be normal for stage 3 after 5 years to become what your dealing with. I think medical should be very clear about that with us!
It is frustrating! There’s still so much that isn’t known yet. We just have to hope for advancements in everything, including screening and imaging so that it will be better for future generations.
They were really optimistic about the margins from the lobectomy. The chemo was mostly preventative. The cancer hadn't been seen anywhere else in the *before* scan. But I was so nervous before the last scan, that it would pop back up someplace else like whack-a-mole. Oddly, I wasn't emotionally prepared for the actual result: Nothing. They found nothing. No bad news, nothing. For the first time in 2 years, there's not only no big bright spot, but there were no new ones. Medical diagnosis: "no evidence of cancer". I don't dare pretend that I'm sure it's gone. But the emotional response was so unexpected.
It’s okay to be negative! Because not all of us watching are positive. Personally, I think negative because I have anxiety and very nervous for my upcoming chemo. Im stage 3 breast cancer. So…when you talk about negative…I can tell myself we are the same and it felt like Im not the only one and it’s pretty normal. So then my conclusion is “Im not getting CRAZY” as in “CRAZY” The best vlog that I wanted to watch are real. Meaning the blogger will express real emotions and that is genuine blog. And I love you for doing that❤❤❤
You are amazing. You have helped me in so many ways. I have watched you for five years in my journey and I just want to say how amazing you are and- thank you
Hey, it’s me again (the disabled 32yo with cancer). I haven’t found you negative at all. You have a very healthy attitude surrounding your situation and in fact, it’s OK to be negative in this situation! It sucks! Thanks for this video, you have made me feel less alone and made me realise that I am not going to feel like this forever…
I agree that you stop freaking out as much as the years go by. I never thought I would but here I am, over four years plus from my diagnosis, and I don’t think every little thing is cancer anymore lol. I would say I’m at the 50/50 area. Hopefully it keeps improving… altho then I’m scared it’ll come back and I’ll brush it off and make it worse. Sigh. Cancer is stupid.
It IS stupid Tia! Haha! But honestly, I get you completely. You could be fine and then someone else dies and it brings up so much again… it is a constant, it’s always there… it just gets easier to live with as time goes on ❤
I’m so sorry your dealing with this nightmare again…..I’m in the same boat but it’s melanoma. Don’t apologize for how you feel….if people are offended by reality, they are on the wrong channel. I will pray for your speedy recovery. It’s hard to stay positive when the reality is a roller coaster.
I was diagnosed last month with breast cancer. Your videos have helped me tremendously. You are NOT being negative. No one knows how they would feel or what they would do until they are in your shoes. I have learned that people think they are helping by giving advice but don’t realize what they are saying comes across as hurtful or insulting to someone with cancer. Some of my own family members have said some stupid things to me. I had to temporarily stop answering their calls for my own sanity. Eventually they get the message. Praying 🙏 for complete healing for you and everyone battling this disease
Wow people telling you that your negative probably were never in your shoes. You have every right to feel however you want or need to feel. It’s healthier to express feelings whether negative or positive. Sending hugs 🤗
So helpful Dee. So true about the first few years after treatment. I thought about the cancer all the time, everyday. Now 5 years later it almost never crosses my mind (except scanziety). I remember my level of anxiety after I first got diagnosed went through the roof. I couldn't sleep AT ALL. I went to see a sleep specialist and it helped so much. I take melatonin every night now (tip: melatonin takes 3 hours to kick in. Take it 3 hours before going to sleep). Your videos are amazing and so are you. Your positivity and directness is inspiring. I hope things are going OK for you behind the scenes ❤
I appreciate your videos. All of us who have had breast cancer is somewhat fearful of a recurrence. I like your honesty and don't want sugar coated information. Love to you. 💕
I’m recovering from having breast cancer recently just found your videos and love to watch as has helped me a lot as I worry now all the time and I’m a worrier and suffer from health anxiety so this has tipped me over the edge recently x
I’m right there with you on the true crime “problem”! I’ve recently started streaming murder trials! Gets me thru a long weeks work. Keeps the mind occupied.
Hi Dee, I was following your videos earlier this year when I got diagnosed with BC. Your IV cancer video came up the other week and my heart went out to you when I saw it. Just wanted to say thank you for sharing your journey, every emotion you have is valid and god only knows why some think its ok to throw in their 2cents as to how you are coming across. The fact you are taking time out to share and explain processes about BC is inspiring when you are processes your news and what this means. Keep rocking and embrace the self-care days too! :) xx
I love you Dee, even in a video about cancer you managed to make me laugh. About 2 years after my diagnosis I found a really lump and it started to get really sore. Eventually after weeks of worry I went to get it checked out, my GPs exact words "that's the end of your rib and if you stop prodding it the soreness will go away" 😂😂😂❤️
Jeeeeez I’d like to see how they came across in your position. I think you did exceptionally well under the circumstances. I live with lymphoma and understand some of how you must be feeling. You are amazing ❤
❤️❤️❤️Great discussion! All important things to hear and talk about😊… btw that hair colour really suits you! And the purple jumper and nails 😍 love it! Need to get me some of that nail colour….thanks Dee! Love yr videos❤️🤗
This is probably therapeutic for you, so gnash, kvetch, wail....do whatever you feel you need to do and we'll just offer whatever we can to help you along. I'm sorry that you are faced, once again, with this horrible reality. We're here.
Ok, I am going to attempt to start over... This is your buddy, Cy, from Illinois, USA! I was diagnosed with Stage 3B breast cancer on 2/19/2019. The August prior, my daughter
Having SO MUCH SUCCESS with trying to post something!!! Anyway, My daughter Amelia, Accepted a teaching job in japan an august, 2018. The next month I has all of my teeth extracted & implants were put in. On 2/19/2019, I was diagnosed with Stage 3B breast cancer. You and I were 1year apart is on diagnosises, so I followed you extremely close, and you were my ROCK! We could write a best-selling book together with our similar circumstances, and I think I mentioned that back then. I hope someday we can personally speak with each other, as I have wanted to for years of our cancer journey. I HATE pouring out my soul on here, only to have it DELETE EVERYTHING! I am constantly praying for you, and you are SO SWEET! I had my bone density test done last week, after rescheduling it 5 times(NERVES)! thought it would show cancer, if it reoccurred, but found out I had to do a bone scan for that. SO, my bone scan is scheduled for this Friday...I'm a nervous wreck & know your anxiety and panic when it comes to this!! Need to know how you decided to do bone scan? Did you do bone density test first? Look forward to hearing from you! We finally saw Amelia, our only child in January of this year & she is still in Japan. Kisses and hugs! Cy
Hi Dee I'm sending you out love, comfort and strength from here in NYC. I'm sorry to hear your news, but you are certainly equipped to deal with this new development. I wish you the very best on the journey. Btw, I love your hair and the color you're wearing, and love your accent! (It's so soothing compared to a NY one.) Wishing all good things for you. You got this!!
You are alowed to be negative and sad. You are alowed to feel all your emotions. I am a canser patient too, and a l hate then people always think i must be positive.
Really good advice! My anxiety is so bad since my breast cancer over a year and losing my sister recently. I finally got the nerve to talk to my GP about it. She seemed annoyed and said okay anything else to report. Like Iwas annoying her She didn’t give me anything to help me sleep. So I sleep for about 3 hours and wake up to my racing mind every night.
Oh Mary that’s terrible! You probably need to either, go back and tell her to take you seriously that it is interfering with your daily life OR switch docs! Probably the latter, that’s disgraceful x
You rock! I just love hearing from you! You give great advice and your humour helps… I am also a true crime junkie and I had the same thought! My watch history on RU-vid is scary… do you watch Danielle Kirsty? True crime and makeup ❤️ Anyway, it also really does distract me in all the right ways! Sending all the good vibes your way!
OMG. I am 3 years out no evidence of disease and my team does NO SCANS. They just wait for a symptom to not go away. So every time I get a headache- BRAIN CANCER. Every time my poo is dark COLON CANCER. Living post cancer is going to be scary for the rest of my life...
Sweet Dee I’m sorry to text so much in the comments but how has your blood work been, I had some low blood platelets and a few other blood issues that’s came back off but nothing g really bad but something is causing me to have low blood platelets again and my hematology dr mentioned a bone marrow test but my CT chest scan was clear. So everything in the world is going through my mind with worry and now I’m terrified to do the bone biopsy. 😭 I know you will help ease my mind just by talking about your experiences but I just wished I could stop worrying about EVERY LITTLE THING. ♥️. I am always doing things to keep my mind occupied and always have a true crime podcast on or watching RU-vid vids such as yours and my crafty side has come about so I’m always doing things to keep myself busy and I am always up on my feet from daylight till dark organizing or cleaning so that way when I do lay down for bed I’m so tired I usually fall fast asleep soon as my head hits the pillow. 🥰 but I was wanting to know did you deal with low blood platelets even after you were in remission too?
I never had issues with platelets, sorry I can’t be of help there. Also I had a bone biopsy, not marrow so I can’t really say anything about that. The bone biopsy was completely fine. Maybe it is back, maybe it isn’t. But your doctors are doing the right things, it sounds like. I also sounds like this will be a really anxious time for you, all I can do is offer my sympathies to you ❤
@@DeeDoherty awww sweet Dee you are more help than you can imagine for me and many others. I do thank you so much for responding back and for any little info you do offer me 🩷 You are always in my prayers as well
@@DeeDoherty thank you soooooooo much. Read the report but need to call my surgeon for clarification. Looks like there's a tiny spot they want to monitor for 6 months. So nerve wracking!!!!!
Cancer is negative. There’s really no way to be bubbly and positive about the non-stop worry that comes with it. Anyone who says you’re being negative about cancer clearly has not gone through it. Cancer isn’t ever fully “cured.” It’s insidious and can silently lurk, sometimes even for years. While it may get easier, the worry never completely goes away.
Actually watched number 2 first Who in there right mind would think your negative Absolutely not I think your brave talking about this people are scared to talk about it Anxiety well that's as bad as a cancer diagnosis You seem lucky with your doctor s . I saw one of my gps Dr not my normal l one he says oh its nothing to worry about .I had something show up in my lymph node and it was to be reviewed .anyway I pushed for the review x don't take no for an answer x
You have explained anxiety so well. I feel like the mental side of cancer was worse than treatment. I went through a year and a half of treatment for TNBC. The anxiety was brutal. You r so right to say to seek help. I finally went to a therapist at my cancer center. Medication along with therapy made a huge difference. Thank you for addressing this topic that nobody talks about. I wish you the very best! You r helping more people than you realize!🩷💪🏻
