My advice to the lady who sister is asking for a loan. Dont do it unless u want to be homeless with your sister. Gamblers are just as bad as drug addicts. U cant expect that money back. Your sister is just use to manipulating you to get what she wants. If she was thoughtful she would not want u and ur husband to argue or fight over her situation. Trust me Ive been gambling for years so im not being bias. But i have a sister who always gambles away her money for bills. We always help her pay her bills. Even let her family move in with me to save money to get them back on their own. But when they left. Didnt even say thank you and now dont even remember who we are.
For the first story, I believe that if you can’t give her the 20k, you can just give her a couple thousand to help her get through. And I would just tell your sister she doesn’t have to pay you back. People make mistake and no one is perfect. Talk to her and see if she’s able to quit gambling. Help her to improve her life and tough times. That’s what siblings are for. To love and care for one another through hard times and give each other advices. As long as she doesn’t take advantage of you. If you give her money and she still won’t stop then try to get help for her. You can always make more money, but you will always be sisters.
Q1: I agree with your husband. DONT "loan" that much to your sister. Her bringing you McDonald's when you guys were young does not mean you owe her anything! Maybe you and your husband can agree to GIVE her $1,000 as a gift only. But do not loan that amount of money!
# 1, ua kwv tij Viv ncaus nyb yg neb g kam txais mas siab me dhau lawm g tsim nyog ua Viv ncaus. Kv thb kv poj niam los tseem pab lawv tshaj 30-40 pub twb g ua cas. Cov poj niam thb txiv coj li kj tus txiv g thas yg txiv laus txiv hluas nyb.
The question about the casino...I agree with your husband. If it was something important then I would help but if it's because of an addiction, I would not help with money. They need counseling instead. If you choose your sister, you could lose your husband.
Q1...if you love your sister just give her a grand or two instead because those whom gamble will never return your money.... Q2....don't be stupid men can lie....men never change just because he goes to church....
Q1: Don’t give your sister money. If you take the money out without your husband approval you are creating a bigger problem for you and your husband. Q2: He divorced 5 wives! RUN!!! Don’t be with this man. He’s not a change man.
No matter how much we love our siblings or family, when it comes to loan money, it will destroy any ties no matter the situation. There’s bank for loans so tell your sister to do that instead. That’s better than having to destroy your siblings relationship in the future. Dont feel bad for other’s negligence and life’s decisions, that’s not your problem.
Q1: addiction is never good. U can do it risking ur marriage. Q2: u can obey ur heart n learn from ur mistake. Or take risk n give him a second chance.
Q1: u cannot compare your childhood sister love to adult gambling and irresponsibility. Yes she loved you when you two were children. U can still love her and support her another ways. However u don't have to feel bad for not borrowing her 20k just for casino. If it's for something better, then maybe. But for addiction, u shouldn't borrow her money cause she will most likely not able to pay u back. If anything, u can give her 1-2k only, but not 20k. And you should not go behind your husband back to give your sister money. Unless u willing to risk your marriage. Don't be stupid. Q2: red flag. Run away. It's possible he changed, but don't take that risk. Especially if he was physically abusive. He had 5 chances and didn't change. Just cause he goes to church, doesn't mean anything. If you want to give him a chance, take it slow, and test him.
My advice to the gamble sister story. Please listen to your husband. Don't break your trust with him. You still have your whole life to help her along the way but gambling isn't one. You are smart and I know you'll put your marriage first.
Question #1: DO NOT give money to your sister. Your husband is right, you will never see your money again. People with addictions whether it’s drugs or gambling will not stop. You can love your sister without supporting her habit. Question #2: RUN as fast as you can!
Teb zaij tus niam laus yuav txais nyiaj yog kuv no kuv tsis txais nawb nyiaj ntau ntau li nws yuav tsis them koj ces neb haj yam yuav sib ntxub yuav li koj tus txiv hais zoo dua
Q1: Don't go behind your husband's back to give money to your sister. If you really want to help your sister, make sure that you get her the help she needs for her gambling addiction first. Q2: Girl, you don't need our advice. Listen to your family because they are right. It's also fishy that he is rushing you to marry him. Date him for a few more years and see with your own eyes if he is a change man like he says.
Q1: your husband is right, don’t go beyond his back or you will regret it later. Q2: how do you know he’s changed? Don’t be blinded by love. Your family and friends are usually right cause they are not in love.
Story 1: Your husband is right. If you borrow money to a drug addict and a gambler addict, they can never pay you back. They don’t borrow to pay bills. They borrow to for gambling. Trust me. I had a friend and I didn’t know she had a gamble problem. She drove an old broken down car and asked to borrow $5,000 to buy a car. A month later I told another friend that Ishe borrowed money from me. My friend told me about this friend and told me to ask for my money back. She told me that she’ll pay me back in six months when she gets her tax return. Three months later she still drive her broken down car. I asked her about it. She told me that someone broke in her apartment and stole the money. Couple weeks later she was gone. No where to be found. Never never borrow money to addiction people. You can just give couple thousands as a gift for her.
Q1: Your sister has no right to be mad at you. Also, your mother should never pressure you regarding the situation. Your sister and brother in law is an adults, and they choose that path. They need to take responsibility for their own action. If you really want to help her, please make sure to discuss with your husband the plan of singing documents of IOU or payment plans to avoid problems in the future.
1st question.. I agree with your husband. There is a difference with helping but not when it comes to gambling. 2nd … don’t marry him after that many wives definitely a big red flag already lady. Don’t regret one day
Q1: I’m all with your husband. I lend no money to anyone regardless. And give no money as gift to support anyone’s bad behavior, habits, and decisions. 1. Lend your sister money then prepare to cut sisters’ relationship. 2. lend your sister money without your husband knowing then prepare for double trouble; to destroy your marriage and then your sisters’ relationship.
Question #1. Your husband is right. I would not if it's because of gambling. Let her learn her lesson. You may destroy your marriage later and than hold grudge on your sister as well. Q2: my mom was in the same situation. Hindsight she's always mad at him now because he lied about his child support he is actually paying for 4 kids and not just 2. Now she feels she is stuck with him and regrets it. I'll say... Be safe make the best decision for you but know your worth.
Listen to your husband. Your sister and brother in law have an addiction. People like them don’t think about paying bills, they will take that money to go gambling trying to make more money and will end up losing everything and their situation never changes. You will regret it if you give money to gambling addicts. Don’t risk destroying your marriage and your sister is using the guilt trip to break you. Speaking from experience.
Gambler sister question: if it were me, I'd only give her what I can part with without expecting payback, but only what my spouse agrees to. What I hate most is the audacity of people who you clearly know can't pay you back, but they still dare to ask for a loan. I respect the person who assesses his/her situation honestly and admits they can't pay you back more than someone who lies about their ability to pay.
Borrowing money to your sister - do not borrow. If you do, you’re just encouraging her to gamble again. Do what your husband says if you want to save your marriage.
If she need the money for a good reason, yes you should help. But for gambling couple DO NOT GIVE ANY MONEY. 20k is too much to ask at one time, people should understand that.
Q#1, you should think about an amount that you can give to help your sister and not expect repayment if you are able to afford it. She loved you and did gift you in the past. Q#2, you need to go around and find out his reputation and from there decide for yourself. 5 marriage, wow, I would be very concerned and cautious.
The lady with the BF whose has 5 previous wives - soo many red flags! Do not marry him! There is a reason he is in and out of relationships. Just because he claims he goes to church and is a "good man", dont believe him if he has not shown anything truthfully. Just date if you guys really like each other, do not marry!
2nd question, sister, do not get play by your boyfriend. Five times divorced and tons of child support. You are only going to get played. He's using you to help him. He's also a woman beater. He's an abuser. People like that do not change. Be smart and best to let him go. Or just keep it as it is. Keep your finances separate and do not be giving him money to help pay his child support or things. Best is just live separate.
Q1: Don’t lend any money for gambling. By doing so, you’re only enabling her destructive habits. If your sisters need funds to cover her debts, ask for the actual debt documents, and then write the checks directly toward the bills. Q2: Don’t waste any more energy on that fool. Your family and friends have already given you the most valuable advice.
Question 1: No don’t loan her money. If she was to use that money for something else that’s not gambling debt then it’s ok to loan her the money, but knowing she has a gambling problem then that money will not go to pay her debt. Once she sees that money, she’s going to use that to gamble more. That’s alot of money. Be smart and listen to your husband if you don’t want to get divorced.
Q #1: don't loan to your sister. If you love your sister, just give her a couple of thousand dollars as gift to her. I don't think your sister is capable of paying you back.
#1, if you're willing to give the money without expecting it back, then go ahead. Remember that you must be willing to do the same thing when your in-laws face similar issues.
Q #1 don’t borrow money to your relatives or friends I been there before .it’s the hardest thing to ask them back.I borrowed money to my sister 1985 till now I still don’t get my money back.my husband not too happy about it.
Question 1: don’t loan your sister money, gamble is not good Just give her couple thousand that’s it Question 2: don’t marry your boyfriend, he is bad since he divorced 5 times
Q1: Well, if your husband loaned money to his side, but you disagree, but he loaned it anyway, will you be happy? In your case, it's a no. Justt give her a couple hundred as a gift. But loaning no. If you want your marriage to stay the same, listen to your husband.
Q1- I would say no bc 20k is a lot of money and your hubs is right off it’s for a good cause then yes give it to her but she has issues so just give her 5k and don’t expect to get it back but 20k no. Q2- don’t do it. You deserve better.
Listen to your husband. That was a choice your sister has made. You can give her anything under $500 as a gift, but not $20k. She shouldn’t use the excuse that she loved you, bc she made poor financial decisions.
First of the sister who asked should have bring her husband to ask u and ur husband for the loan. Don’t go loan money without ur husband okaying it too. It’s ur marriage too. Tell ur husband to loan ur sister and her husband only 5k to see if they will change.
Q1: koj txhob txais nyiaj thiab ua hla hlo koj tus txiv nawb.. koj tus txiv hais yog lawm.. nws twb tsis yog txom nyem mus rau qhab xws li ib tug tuag tso ib tug cia lawm es nws ib leeg khwv xwb mas thiaj tsim nyog koj txais koj pab ov.. hos yog mus ua casino xwb ces koj muab los nws yeej tsis muab them nws cov nqi na nws tseem mus nyob ntau hnub nram casino xwb.. nws tu siab los kav liam nws mam peem nws xwb nws thiaj kawm tiav ov.. koj ua hla hlo koj tus txiv lwm hnub nws yuav ua rau koj tsis li los neb lub neej yuav muaj teeb meem txhua hnub li nawb tsis xav mag nrauj ces txhob ua xwb..20k ntau heev tsis yog ua business muaj muaj $$ mam yeej them tsis tau koj rov qab li os
Question one I agree with your husband if your sister lost it because of gambling then no I am not going to feed into your habit. It’s not my fault that you lost everything. My guess is that’s a gambler’s tricks they try to make you feel sorry for them. Question 2 I don’t think you really know him the way you think you do. Why does he want to marry you? And why does he feel the need to tell you over and over that he’s a change man? I think you already know the answer to your question if you are doubting yourself, then do not do it.
Q1: Ur sister is very likely not going to be able to repay u. If u go behind ur husbsnd's back, be prepared if ur husband leaves u. Q2: What 2nd chance? He had 2, 3, 4 & 5 chances in the past to do right, but he didnt. Run as far as u can or u will be #6.
Q1....It is not your job to help your sister...there are banks...and if they are not willing to stop..you dont need to help them....if you take the money to help your husband will divorce you... Q2...Do not marry him, 5 times already, you are stupid if you marry him...just because he goes to church does not make him a good man....not all church goers are good.....
No your sister won't be using that $$$ for bills. If she is, that's different. They're going to gamble it off only. I wouldn't give no matter what they said. What they do for you when you little doesn't mean you owe them a debt.
Question 1: unless you want to ruined your marriage in order to help your sister than go ahead but just know the consequences that will come with it. Loaning money to gamblers are a big NO, NO! Especially both of them, the chances of you getting your money back very slim. You can help pay her bills if your husband allows but never give her $$$. There’s a fat chance she will use those money for more gambling only. Question 2: 5 ex wife, he’s a red flag! Just date him if you want to be with him. And don’t give him full access to your $$$. Don’t be stupid and become his 6 ex wife.
2nd question: No, don't do it, especially if he abused his ex wives and have lots of child support. I heard more bad things than good things about him in your question. Also, if he is a good person now, he wouldn't pressure you to marry him. It's a No for me!
No and listen to your husband or you can get couple thousand to them as gift only. Your sister is a gamble person and she will never paid you nad at the end she will ignored you if she cannot paid you. There are so many case between siblings and it turn into hatred.
I know your sister love u but when u give money to a person that have a addiction than your supporting her addiction. And she will never be able to pay u back. Maybe u can give her 5g just to help her out not to loan. At least u help her from the bottom of your heart that she loved u. But to give her 20g not approved from your husband that is wrong. That's disrespecting your husband and he might divorce u too.
Q2- if your husband disagrees with giving the 20k, it’s not right to secretly give to your sister. Money belongs to you both. You can’t control your sister’s feelings. She made the decisions and this is her consequence. Perhaps if you gave her the money, it will further enable them to continue gambling. Rather if you wanted to help, I’d recommend helping with rent for at least 2 months so they have a place to live if they have kids. Or look for community services that help pays for emergency rent. They need to work to pay back their debt. This is America afteralll…
Give little and don’t expect in return. Give what your sister ask and it will be going straight to casino again!!. I side w/your hubby….no is no cause its not a good reason to help.
Listen to your husband if you don’t want to become a divorcee…if it’s related to gambling you don’t owe your sister anything. If she loves you she wouldn’t say that to you. To the second question if you don’t listen to your relatives about his relationship history (5 marriages!!!!) then you deserve whatever from him. If the 5 marriages isn’t a red flag to you then I don’t know what is. To the lady with secret about her mother in law you should have told your father in law what you saw even if ‘it may not be what it seems’ or so they say…I would have felt guilty towards him knowing that she was obviously cheating.
#1 Q no don’t lend ur older sis money. They will only use it to gamble. #2 Q don’t marry him. He already divorced 5x. U don’t know what he’s like until u two actually married and live together.
Txhob yuav nawb. Yog koj yuav ces koj lub neej yuav lwj siab yav tom ntej no vim tias nws tsis yog neeg zoo. Just cuz nws mus church it doesn't mean he's a changed man. Qub neeg ces qub siab os.
For the divorce guy. He have 5 chance already that person can never change. So if u married him than u going to put yourself in a bad life. If he want another chance all the wife he had that alot of chance he probably say the same thing to those girl to married him too.
Gambling sister: Your husband is right. Don't lend your sister any money. If you go behind your husband's back and just take out that money for your sister, koj tsis ntshai tsam koj tug txiv muab koj nrauj lov? Ua li ntawv koj hla koj tug txiv lawm na koj pua paub? Also, if you give her money, all that money would just go to the casino. She's not going to use it to pay bills. Koj tug niam laus lam dag kom koj muab nyiaj rau nws xwb los mas! If you truly love her, don't give her any money. Like being addicted to drugs, the more money you give her, the more she will not stop. She will keep on being addicted. If she wants to get mad at you, LET HER!! Nws yuav nyiam chim nyiam tu siab li cas los nyob ntawm nws!! It's not your problem so don't make it your problem. Her gambling issues is HER problem. Tuav koj lub neej kom khov kho twb ywm xwb tsis txhob cia koj tug niam laus dag ntxias koj tsam koj lub neej tawg. Thaum koj tug txiv muab koj nrauj, koj tug niam laus yeej pab tsis tau koj li os.
Q1- she’s out of option that’s why she’s quilt tripping you with the past to make you feel bad. Yes she’s a loving and giving sister but what she did back then wasn’t loads of money like she’s asking now. I understand helping her but not lend her $20k because you will never see that money again. Just give her some but not all and say you’re not lending that but gifting it to her. She can find the rest elsewhere to keep the peace. Your husband is right. Q2: NOPE! NEXT! Secret #3: You need to see your dr about water phobia. Also, let your wife know your phobia. No shame in it. A fear is a fear. It may not be for others but it is for you so let your family know so they can respect that.
Questions #1 no no never borrow money for Alcoholic and drugs addicted people in your our family. Questions #2 Don't marry a loser and cheater.. loser and always loser, especially 5 times divorced like this dude.
Q: she is not the same sister anymore. Like a drug addict. Save yourself and your marriage as your ur old loving selfless non-gambler sister would have never made u chose her over ur husband. 2: all those red flags. When u buy a used car, why buy one with 5 salvage titles? When u buy a house, why buy a house with 5 murders occurred? You like taking risks? You have time and money to waste. Life is short. There must be used cars out there with clean titles and great mileage. Someone please verify.
?1. Don't borrow money for her. She will not be able to pay u back. She will just use that money go gamble again. If u give her 20k your husband disagree he is right, if give without telling him just prepare 4 divorce in case. But just give her 5k if your husband ok. But don't give cash to her just have her give her bill u just help pay the bills. If u give her cash she just go to casino.❤😂 Don't be stupid. I have a friend just like your sister, she borrowed money from me & she promised to pay back within 1month but she never did.
Cov neeg quav casino mas koj txawm yuav txais nyiaj ntau npaum li Cas los lawv yeej coj mus ua casino tas xwb os koj kav Liam hlub koj lub neej zoo dua os me ncaus aw koj tus txiv Hai yog lawm os txawm neb yog vim ncaus los tsi txhob txais rau os tsam lwm hnub nws them tsi tau koj ces yuav muaj kev tus siab loj tshaj ko os mog
A. # 1. Txhob qiv rau nws. Tiam sis koj yuav tsum hais rau nws hais tias, Vim qhov nws tsis muaj nyiaj los yog txoj kev quav gambling xwb. Yog koj pab nws ces yog koj support his and her habit gambling only. Cov neeg gambling no koj pab npaum cas los yeej pab tsis txaus li. Yog koj tus niam laus tsis tiv es nws rau siab ntso ua neej mas it’s a different story. But she is addict with him too.Tell her it’s not that you don’t love her, you do. But will not support their habit gambling and ruin your life with them too.
Q1: Yeej yog li koj tus txiv hais lawm ov. Yav tag los nws yeej hlub mas, tabsis kev mus casino ces yog lub neej puas, koj yuav txias nyiaj rau koj tus niam laus los yeej cuag poob rau hob qhov ntuj lawm xwb ov. Yog koj tus niam laus thiab txiv laus nkawv ho poob tsev rau lwm yam no mas khua txais nawb. Tabsis koj tus ua niam hluas, koj muab ces koj cia li muab kiag 2000 los 5000 phav rau vim nws yeej hlub koj tiag thiab es tau nrog koj tus txiv tham kom meej rau lo lus no nawb. Yus yog niam hluas los yus yuav tau qhuab qhia kom tseg txoj kev twv txiaj casino os nawb.
