Hello you savages. Hello you savages. Get my free Reading List of 100 life-changing books here - chriswillx.com/books/ Here’s the timestamps: 00:00 The Importance of Setting End Times 04:04 Creating a Negative Outcome to Motivate You 12:33 Mbappe’s Pursuit of the Simple Life 19:33 How to Find What You Actually Want 23:01 The Power of Being Intentional 25:31 Achieving Success in the Wrong Thing 30:51 Why You Shouldn’t Idolise Your Heroes 33:40 The Person You Become While You Pursue a Goal 38:23 Taking Back Control of Your Life 40:24 Should People Spend Their 20s Grinding? 48:16 Ascending Out of Inceldom 1:00:01 Effectiveness & Challenges of Therapy for Men 1:10:44 Where to Find Orion
9:00 To make 3000 words for get out of room, or get 50p each day out of own salary, remembering me when I was still in college. A week before the exam, I asked my friend to keep my hard drive in his house. At that time I just couldn't control myself to play computer games (It's not short ended fps games, but long games like civ2, takes days to complete). As there is nothing in my room that I can play with, my mind is wandering around, and starting to open the book and learning.
I’ve just wander wondered into your tent following 2 AH interviews. Enjoying your broadcasts and thrilled to know you’re enjoying your life in Austin. I’m in DFW and it’s wildly different. 🇺🇸🫶🏼🌎🕊️🤷♀️
This is the first time I've heard of this gentleman, so thanks to @ChrisWillx for having him on. Just briefly checked out his channel and I can already tell it's brimming with the good stuff. Quite glad to have watched this MW episode in particular and definitely intrigued by what seems to be a real "diamond in the rough" channel.
@@XxMaximus2PrimuSxXYou should like it. Dr. Taraban provides good intersexual dynamic and personal psychology on a more scientific level. He states facts and statistics as well. He provides insight also from the years of practice and behavior that he has witnessed. Including some of his own.
So many young guys want to focus on their passion. I remind them how many men have golf as a passion and they are terrible at it. For a career you need to pick something that you can do better or faster than others. Your passion and what you are really good at night not be the same thing.
I heard it put that it's a triad of: skill, enjoyment and money... it's rare you get all 3 with a good portion and even then to get all 3 for the long term is a different story. You could be great at golf for 40 years but it's really a rare guy that can keep going well past that. Football the range even smaller... but other jobs it's still the same, I enjoyed my current job for a good 10 years, then it lost it's luster, but I still have responsibilities to attend to, kids, house, so I still have to do the job and slowly work toward something new... so it's dynamic. We want the perfect thing, but overtime it changes. Chris is great at this podcasting thing, but do we think in 15 years he'll be doing the same thing? I highly doubt it.
@@JSiracusan It is true. As Orion pointed out, creating a buffer allows for thoughtful planning of your next steps. I used to dedicate my entire Saturdays to mowing my own lawn and spending hours on VAT returns. However, I've learned the value of focusing on my strengths and delegating tasks to professionals. Now, a team of experts efficiently tends to my garden in just 15 minutes, surpassing my own efforts. Similarly, my accountant swiftly handles my returns in 5 minutes, even if billed for a full hour, ultimately saving me valuable time. Streamlining these two processes frees up days of my time in a month to plan my next move.
Eh... If your passion is to improve your life, then it follows that you will do that which you are best at. I became a digital artist in a commercial context, have been doing it successfully for 11 years since I was 16 years old. I saw a path, I knew I would enjoy it, I knew it would be financially rewarding (although extremely risky). So I did it. I also enjoy farming, I would love to do that, if everything falls apart.
@@seekerofthemutablebalance5228 It is not required that you be the best at anything. Just be very good at it, and try having it be something you enjoy as well. It was said in this interview that "mastery" was a time consuming effort that means not doing about anything else but what the mastery is about.
33:10 The "hack" here is to enjoy the process at least as much as the outcome. Even if you fall short you are still enriched. I have been a runner for 52 years and have slowed but enjoy it more than ever.
True. Before talking about performance, we have to enjoy it first. So many people measure us by their rulers, while what we all really need is to enjoy our first step.
Dr Taraban is an intelligent and eloquent speaker and bridges many of the disparate voices in the male self improvement space without compromising his principles or impartiality.
He’s someone who makes money as long as he manages to keep you in your bubble of misery, letting you hear what you want to, for he makes money as long as you click, subscribe, like and share. Got it? Listen to Gregor Mate. Or a man who’s happily married with grandchildren. Until you find something that positively resonates with your heart. That’s what will lead to happiness. Hate never does.
This is an awesome conversation. Quite deep but great. I think one of Orions comments relates to this entire conversation, that his 20 something self would say get lost if he heard these things from his 40 something self. For most 20 somethings this whole conversation will go right over their heads but at 48, I think this is great wisdom….Wish I knew all this in my 20s.
I got breast cancer (stress cancer) when I was running my restaurant.people would say, don't worry about your business,(oh you mean the business that's helping me pay my health insurance) !!!! That was 15years ago , I am now 65 sold my building/restaurant been to 13 countries in the last 3 years 🎉🎉 living my Bliss . great conversation guys thank you have a beautiful day ❤️
Very thought provoking interview. I love all the different angles presented! I’m a 64 yr old female. Who knew someone like me enjoys these topics. Glad you’re in Austin Chris. I’m in New Braunfels just south of you. Great part of Texas. I try to listen to all you programs. I learn so much.
The problem with many people is they have been lied to their whole lives... Many people are told what is 'success' looks like and not what it actually is...Being 'work', 'education', 'family' etc. Being happy and healthy is all you can wish for in this life.
Major life change happens on 3-5 year time frames depending on the amount of dysfunction or trauma you need to work on. When you've lived life a certain way for a long time, it takes a long time to find a positive way to live and then make that the default over your old ways. I read somewhere that it takes 6 to 9 months to engrain a new habit. Even when you make a new positive habit, the brain wiring for the old habits are still there and you'll still struggle at times to not go back.
That's a great observation. Quitting alcohol for good was about 3-4 year battle once I seriously committed to it. It was then another year or so that the benefits of getting used to not drinking started showing up in my life. It's certainly a journey, just like falling into addictions or bad habits is, but in the opposite direction.
@@timothyrday1390 Good for you man. That's a huge decision and major accomplishment. December 3rd was my 1 year with no alcohol. I needed rehab to quit, it got to the point where if I didn't drink, I didn't sleep. I needed that structured reset where all I had to worry about was living without alcohol.
@@Richard-Freeman Thanks, although I don't like to make it a point of pride. The reality is that you have new battles with depression and unlearning previous bad habits and thought patterns. Being completely sober is no "cure-all" for your problems but you at least can start to consciously learn from your mistakes and consciously make improvements.
@@timothyrday1390 You took away an excuse to beat yourself up and justify why you don't deserve any better. Comfort in the misery you know is an incredibly difficult ditch to climb out of. We don't fear success, we fear screwing up and "proving" we're a failure.
Min 34 - same here lost everything after bankruptcy, home everything but made everything back in a short time. The experience was priceless because it forced me to tap into unreserved potential and drive you probably never would’ve otherwise.
If all of the videos on the internet were like this I would listen to them all. This touched on all the things that have been bothering and I could find content that felt valuable until this. I had given up hope. I thought I wouldn't find valuable content for what I am going through...
probably live stream software doing that rather than his video style. No sure if he uses a webcam or a dslr type set up, but some stuff running through a webcam just looks bad like off of a laptop
All these ideas are half baked without God. 37:21 it talks about the stoic idea of choosing what happens to you. That makes more sense if there is a God that is developing you through perfectly planned tasks that meet for ability level. In that case, all good and bad things that happen to you, are for your development and are good for you. In the case there is no God, if you simply accept what is happening to you then you, run the risk of living by default.
9:35 The findom is a weird one to see. I think some of them are being groomed into a sadism. Who knows some might, I actually want that. But it stinks of manipulation and sadism. You both seem good for the statistics for males out there. Keep up the good work.
Yeah, I don't know what Chris was "conflicted" about there. That's obviously a terrible practice and especially sad that a married guy with kids would put his finances at such risk. A decent person would not take advantage of that kind of mental weakness/foolishness.
Great talk! Got me a major insight why Judaism opposes solitary monk life. Instead men (and women) are encouraged to marry and have children at an early age. Life with the real mess of snorty nose kids is the temple to pray in. Thus, the ambition of men is harnessed to something other than to only themselves or an object (e.g invention). The word that came up a lot in this conversation is "I", not we. I can be such a lonely word. The searching "I" seems to become anchored with children and family that need as much care as "I".
Like a lot of professions these days, mental health professionals are just adult children who can't actually solve problems and don't really know what they're doing. Bottom line: we have a lot of incompetence in our society in specialized spheres of knowledge and "professionals" expect to be paid top dollar because there is no price discovery / true competition, so why bother going to a counselor? Might as well just get a friend you can talk to over some beers and save the $150/hr. And who has time to find the "right" counselor "for your?!"
I told my friend that "when someone obviously doubt me or say I cannot do something, I enjoy proving them wrong". And she answered "... well, that's not good" XD She is incredibly agreeable and kinda a pushover, and I have my beliefs.
Why doesn't this start by introducing the guest and the talking topics? Seems very weird to me for such a well known podcast. It just starts randomly about the importance of setting end times 😅
43:50 The privilege of being so ahead of the curve, you can now at last disconnect and coast ahead on what you have already learned. Mentioning this because i am almost there myself.
Sure, do things when you're young, but be smart about it and don't do things for the sake of it, particularly when it comes to drugs and alcohol. When you're naive, young and dumb is when you pick up some of your worst habits that you pay for when you get only a little bit older.
Someone fact check if Orion really did an intership in Walnut Creek California. Its fine to read written paragraphs as a crutch but it also makes the whole bit sound/look disingenuous.
I didn't feel a strong connection between the host and guest, despite liking both of them. It seemed they discussed topics in general rather than sharing their personal experiences, which made it lack emotion. Regardless, it was still interesting. I'm hopeful for future dialogues between them that resonate a bit more. Thank you.
@49:47 Thanks, Chris. As an Irishman born in NYC, I appreciate your politely and briefly admonishing your guest of the difference between Ireland and UK.
@56:00 I've noticed a new kind of narcissism that's been growing over the past few years involving social media and people trying to label themselves as being different through various means: pronouns, self-reported gender, sexuality, mental disorders, and even surrounding the trans-gender movement. It's shocking to see how entitled some of these people are, and how they play on their supposed victimhood status for their personal narcissistic beliefs.
This one bothered me a lot. It means someone would have to go grocery shopping, cooking, doing laundry for him and yet he still would have to work while taking a shit, showering, brushing teeth etc. because otherwise the math simply doesn't add up. He'd have to work literally every single waking minute of his life for 5 years straight. Besides that I enjoyed the interview.
Second time watching, I could hear you both talk on these types of topics every day! Brilliant and engaging! Thank you for letting us in on the conversations!
The "problems" of wealthy successful people could be easily solved. Give away 90% of wealth and just live a normal humble life. They would disappear overnight into normalcy.
Mediate on your own death daily cause we all face the sun rise, mid day, sunset and night fall and death . It no longer scares me I am 42 and am currently going through a mid life crises.
Anyone prepared to write a cheque to an organisation they believe to be morally in the wrong would be very deficient in any guiding principles in life.
I talked about this in one of my videos called, “Why I’m Terrified of Losing More Weight “. Where I’m afraid of losing my newfound freedom and anonymity that I had gained in being overweight rather than looking like Barbie… on the short version that I made in the comments people did not believe me 🤷♀️ they couldn’t imagine that type of high level problem I guess lol …although this summer I found out that I was still being watched by men they just had not approached me yet so I wasn’t aware of it so I guess some of us women can never truly get away from being “hunted” by men.
"People would need more counseling, for being told their average, over being told they are below average" I Just got Flooded with all the Parents who have told me there kids have been diagnosed with Something.... Anything... that explained their child's behavior (all while I was thinking that their kid was acting... like a kid.)
Two Men communicating from opposite sides of the world trading quotes & wisdom that put perspective into life that can help thousands of others.. when i think of how Nikola Tesla predicted we would be able to communicate this way in 1926, us being so far apart but closer than ever, it makes this conversation even more wholesome. Its one of the few vids i downloaded so i can always glean something from it when things are shaky.
I consider basic military training as a form of monk mode. You're literally cut off from everything civilian, including family and friends except for weekly phone calls, for a few months in order to train yourself into a soldier. If someone wants to go monk mode, then they need to have a clear routine, goals, and timeline just like basic military training. Otherwise, you're just playing with yourself.
Want to stay miserable? Keep on consuming this kind of content. Want to become happy? Listen to Gabor Mate. These guys make money by keeping you miserable and in your bubble, for they only make money as long as you click, subscribe, share and like their content. Got it?!
The Internet is like a shoal of fish where most people “stick together” thus forsaking their dreams. Wherever we stand in this cosmos, we must still endeavour to help each other. Yes, we must hope, not despair. Best to be an amoeba-cell to break out of the victimhood of being an incel.
My goodness, Chris, u are so gorgeous and intelligent. I just want to help u learn how to say the letter SSSSS.... no disrespect at all. I just want to help. Thanks for all u do. Love ur channel ❤💋💋💋
Great conversation. Very stimulating. Felt inspired, humbled, introspective, motivated, and more. Helped me feel less ignorant of myself and more forgiving of others. Thanks Gentlemen.
When I quit smoking it was a firm decision that I will never ever take a cigarette. This worked for me, this firm decision. Unlike this when I was trying to bargain with myself that this is only for today that I will not smoke I always violated the promis made.
What is the purpose you're smoking for?. I am smoking too. But that's when I am working, as smoking helps light the bulbs in my head (I do IT configuration/programming stuff). I don't smoke at home. It's all for the purpose. No addiction, booster only.
45:35 my thoughts exactly. It's the first thing i noticed and can no longer stand after i improved my mental state and being open to as well as seeking positivity
yay! Dr. T has recently been on FnF, Soft White Underbelly, Whatever Pod and now this! 😄 I'm in the demographic that is typically triggered by his content but I love his channel, watch all the time. Can't wait for his book to be released! I will definitely be reading and reviewing it.
@@redrumfilm2971 he was? Or is it that you simply didn't enjoy listening to the topics he covered? There's a big difference between the two. One is just a byproduct of having been triggered.
@@dirtyace1668 Personally I think he had very one sided views on dating, particularly what he sees in his practice, not real world values. I don’t believe all men are looking for a woman to put out right away, nor that all women should do that. Maybe that’s what he sees when people are having trouble and going to therapy, which is fine, but I don’t think it reflects healthy, mature people in the real world. Not everything he said I disagreed with. I actually did enjoy listening, he told the world how people “play the game”, not get a long term healthy committed relationship. And no, I’m only triggered by the fact that you said “triggered”😂
@@redrumfilm2971 fair enough. I do agree with some of the things you say just as I agree with certain things Orion says. He is usually stating the average norm that is present in modern society and I can confirm from personal experience that it is accurate for the most part. Perhaps your experience is a bit different in some aspects.
Amazing and thorough video! Lots of great ideas presented. I hope to see this video shared and go viral because of how many great ideas/thoughts are presented. Well done!
It was great to hear William Costello's idea of the ascension and hope. Then hearing Orion Taraban's personal experience with hope at a cancer center. By far my favorite segment
“ you can’t think yourself out of depression” .! Not my quote yet useful and relevant in someway to this discussion I hope. These two lads are both giving value to the world . Personal integrity Is where it’s at in my view. Great podcast as usual Chris . 🫡🏴
I heard a quote that I believe is from Einstein which says something to the effect of, “we cannot solve our problems with the same thinking that created them.”
Orion has developed a wide and sturdy vision to comprehend what I've been most bafled for in modern times. His message is compatible with what I've found in my esoteric studies, the redpill findings of Rollo Tomassi, and the freedom philosophies one can find in Stefan Molyneux or in Austrian Echonomics. Truth gets more and more like each different path to it, on the top of the mountain. One of the ways to check for it is to learn wide so you can hear the resonance. What I most price of the things Orion has taught me is the permission to give respect to my needs. We have been brainwashed into believing our needs of sex and warmth are of a brutish nature and that we men should strive to love women for what they love in us. That's just impossible, and wherever you believe it works, it's because that man is repressing himself and depriving himself and the world of his unique light. Don't do that. There's too much darkness around to be dimming yourself and depriving the world of heroes, unforgettable lovers, and legendary fathers. Thank you!
