Self-destructive Narcissists and Psychopaths 

By far the most intelligent, knowledgeable, and engaging person I follow. I never stop learning from Sam Vaknin.

Sam Vaknin has helped me through very sad moments. He explains things like no one.

I survived 7 suicide attempts as an adult, and contemplated suicide as a child many, many times. I am extremely self destructive but still here at the age of 41.

You get more entertaining with each passing year, lol. Love your humor..... I started watching you back in 2014 and you continue to educate me like no other. The interview with Richard Grannon about the idealization / devalue phase and how it relates to the unconditional love of the mother is absolutely brilliant, and spot on. Thank you for helping us to understand and heal.

This strikes me as the most brilliant lecture I have ever heard on the topic. Kudos.

Most people mistakes the narcissist ego trip with self love! The hardest thing to do ,is to remind them to love themselves all the time! Thanks for sharing 🙏

Thanks Sam. I am so massively grateful for your truthfulness. Bless you!

Thank you for the brilliant lecture Sam, I'm learning so much for your wisdom.

I have survived narcississtic abuse by my wife…even after 3 years of No Contact still I feel revengeful becoz she is hurting my children by alienating them from me and sabotaging their childhood . Why are there no laws to identify such narcissists and isolating them from healthy people when there is so much researched evidence of such disorders.Police and courts did not act on my complaint of my wife’s NPD… Thanks sir your videos are great n life saving Namaste from India 🇮🇳

charming and full of humor, great Sam Vaknin

The way you have layered out can transform, transmute anyone! It is an awakening, a feedback, a reflection and the realization of what we never were. Thank you Sam.

Thank you "Father" Sam for all your lectures of impacable wisdom. Although I abandoned religions knowingly about 30 years ago, I´m happy to visit your channel almost every day, To quote a song from the 90s: This is my church This is where I heal my hurt...

This is such an insightful lecture - not exactly good news but better to grasp the nettle of truth. (Happy to contribute in this way to Sam's narcissistic supply - he provides us with more meaningful stuff in earning it, that's for sure.)

Such a relief from the click bait trash

Ur work will change the world !! I did not realize I had done tht thank you

it sucks youtub is spamming these valuable videos with 5 minute commercials every 10 mins. It makes it so hard to follow.

If I'm saying yes to a lot of these things, and manically laughing, I think its a step in the right direction... I've been there. Its a dark reality to live in

"enjoys being envious of others" 24:15 😳

One of the most excellent of your videos. Thank you.

This lecture is so intense. I had to stop and will come later again.

Wow Sam Vaknin, thanks for that direct hit, brilliant.

I hope you see this would you please make a video helping young men who are recovering from narcissistic abuse from there fathers

Amazing video you are helping me so much thank you

I appreciate your covering these topics.

it feels like shit when you were at the top then you have so much anxiety you can’t go outside

No one willing to do hard work any more. Check out how everyone is looking for easy money. How can we expect people to work on themselves if they trying to escape any hardship in reality by all costs. Mental sickness grows directly from how much free time you have on your hands. If you don’t occupy your mind with activities that help others to live better lives then your life will become more difficult to the point of failure and mental illness. This is clearly seen from inmates experience if you get locked up for very long periods and you just sit there with nothing to do, you will get mentally unstable and ill. The only way to avoid is to keep your mind occupied with useful activities- books, crafts etc.

Very intelligent guy 👍

You have saved me from my own sense of well being, as toxic as could be. Thank you.

Thank you Sam.

thank you for your videos

Моя любовь Сем Вакнин!

Deep down they know who did what and that's all i care about

My narcs are ALL family members and I'm suing them over my grandpa's will. I'd like to hear more about narcissists who aren't man and wife.

If you think you know, you don’t, the female somatic ex who goes through self destruction can not be understood by a normal person, be grateful you are not in this situation and know it could be worse

This public trial is the first time, since experiencing first hand narcissist behaviour and its impacts, which your self and Mr Grannon were most helpful in exiting. Taking away the celebrity aspect, it's been a weird education in law, because thankfully I never had to take the stand. What an experience that would have been, who knows?

My narc is selfdestructive, it’s hard to deal with. I’m so tired of trying to support him through his own stupidity. He’s an alcoholic, it makes it all unbearable. His bordie mom endulges him in opportunistic behaviour and expects me to do the same; i do believe now she doesn’t really want him to heal. She just wants him to remain dependant on her to control all aspects of his life. And he wants to keep his mommy around to buffer the consequenses of his behaviour. He recently started using her as a weapon against me. I know she’s not stupid and it seems to give her pleasure to degrade me. I started keeping distant from her, i am pondering how to deal with him and their situationship. Their relationship and dynamic is quite unhealthy. My respect for his mother and their “bond” is ruined, i remain polite but i start feeling disgust. I need to stay away from this freakshow.

They decline truth and reality.

Can you talk more about interpersonal hostility and interpersonal offensiveness?

Victimhood does not only belong to the narcissist does it?

Timely topic

Make one on silent treatment

Thank you!

Thank you💜

i have done the cycle 6 times and it’s hard to let go

how do you stop this downfall everything you say is right.. how do you stop from losing touch with reality

stop calling me out, man lol. jk, good to see you, sir

So how does one stop punishing others because they are not meeting ones needs Sam Is there a way out of this because its only stopping my growth?

Interesting all the way through ,if you could disguise the title it could be a Hallmark movie. But it seems to be working I’ve seen over 90% of your stuff. Your almost family.

Это правда

Does you tube has a better Boton than like?

Thank you Dr. Vaknim I used your teachings in my school assignments as white people used paprika

Being in an comfortzone means feeling pain🤯 how

Prof Vaknin one question, can a secondary psychopath become a primary psychopath via mortification / collapse and other way round? Cheers!

Did I hear you correctly when you said there is no such thing as emotional flashbacks? So you disagree with Pete Walker? Can you do a video on your claim?

This sounds like me.

Why in the adult relationship the narcissist doesn t give anything in return for the love and affection, if it is transactional? thanks

XD love it to .... to listen about my ex-border-boyfriend how he is going towards all those things that will make him more and more incurable sth-being XD justice does exist