Self-Love, be Intentional Self-Love, be intentional This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx
About 5 years ago I started putting self love in to practice. I quit smoking. Got rid of bad relationships. Quit drinking alcohol. Got back in to the dance studio. Started a workout regimen. Changed my diet. Changed my sleep schedule. Started therapy. I “date” myself; take myself to movies, dinner, and other events. Travel with intention (yoga retreat) and try my very very best to keep self talk positive. It is hard work and sometimes scary but soooo worth it. The other day the instructor to a workout video I just finished said “thank you for showing up for yourself” I started to cry. Show up for yourself ❤️ UPDATE: May 1st 2020. A little over a year from writing this comment. I just wanted to share for anyone who needs to hear it. All of the changes I made helped me come off of antidepressants that I had taken for 21 years for anxiety and depression (of course with the help and guidance of a doctor and therapist) I was also able to come off of medication I was taking for I.B.S as well as birth control pills for terrible periods. I have have been medication free for one full year 😊
I wish Psychology was mandatory in all highschools. Psychology focused on teaching us healthy ways to be stronger emotional and mental individuals. It would help our youth tremendously...
Maybe you mean therapy? I took AP psych in high school and it was the overview of all the subjects/topics/themes/ studied in psychology. It’s not really like what you think it is, so maybe like mental health class would be more like it
loveing your self is not about looking in the mirror or taking a selfie thinking how hot you look or delivering your self in a way to act and look as you think others think you should... Self love is more like self respect in the fact we have been given the gift of life... Love your self enough to not drink to much or poison your body and mind with toxic things... love your self enough to take care of your body, not for vanity but for the health and vitality of your body... Taking care of your body and mind because life is a gift and the fact that you are here is a mirrical... You are a mirrical, so love your self and others around you deeply with nothing but respect. Marcus @ReshapeTheStars x
You need to internalize this, work on self-love and understand the absolute importance of heeding this statement and the detrimental effects of not doing so before you learn this through experience.
Self love is a journey that takes years and years to achieve that goal. I suffered from lack of self love and I really hated myself, my body, my look, everything about me even my family and my origins. Lack of self love leads you to mental health issues 😔
Im going through this now. I need to start work on self love before i lose my self even more, and save relationships with my family before its too late 😢
In high school, I always asked other people for their opinion before I make a decision. I don't want other people hated me. I tried so hard to make other people happy, but I'm not. I feel so stress, anxiety and crying alone. No one knows. I let people insulted me, as long as them happy. I said to myself, "It's okay, as long them happy, I will be happy". Unfortunately, I'm not. After I finish my high school, I learn to love myself and put it as my first priority. Now I appreciate myself and I don't care about other peoples opinion. Why? Because I want to be happy, I want to be my own self.
when you work on yourself & trust yourself that helps others the most! being able to make a decision fast is a very powerful skill to have in life trust yourself always ! awesome job being aware of that & improving that ! :) you got this
I relate to your comment, Especially the last part " I want to be my own self ", it's been hard throughout the years because i did the same always asked other people before i did something and now i know that i have to do it for me.
I genuinely connected so much with what she was saying. It's amazing how everyone goes through their own journey of self-discovery and how relatable some of them can be. I was also fueled by my break-up to work on myself and to start understanding myself better. It has helped me love myself so much more and gain insight on the person I truly want to be. Thank you so much for this spectacular talk, I really enjoyed it.
Lady, you have no idea how much your speech has influenced my life for good. I have been listening to it regularly for the past few months. You just helped me to connect to my deeper self that I never thought existed. May God bless your beautiful soul. 💖💖
That was like a beautiful poem. I've reached a place where my moods change with the wind and I want stability, the ability to depend on myself. I am ready to be intentional. Wishing strength to everyone here.
There was a saying I’ve heard and has always stuck, “How do you expect someone else to know how to love you when you don’t even know how to love yourself”
- Becoming the person you want to be and not the person you were told to be. - You have to learn self-love before you can pour value and love to others. - How do you make it stick? You push. - Am I adding value to me? Great talk! The Universe gives us signs, I'll take this as one. Thank you.
Lily111 Many if these TED talks tend to be preachy and self-righteous and it completely takes away from the message. But with her you can tell her strength is genuine and she truly believes in what she says.
- dont try to please everyone - you are you, your happiness (not depend on someone to make u worthy) - dont live for some weird standards => be intentional of personal growth process => love yourself first and inspire to others’ lives, add value --> where u are currently VS where u want to be
Whoever is reading this now, remember: You are the light! You are unique and worth it! You are blessed to be in your body and experience all that is! Blessings to all beings! Love and Light!
Last year, October to December, I was in a relationship where I started to lose myself and my problems ran deeper than my spouse, yea we had our issues but the relationship interrupted my healing process and I was not where I wanted to be so I had to let him go even though I really loved him. I had to start my self growth journey for me because I wanted to be somewhere mentally and physically. Now, in February 2022, I am finally healing from my break up and childhood trauma. I took on journaling, manifestations, working out, self love & business seminars, affirmations, college applications and I feel myself growing as a person and as a women. I continue to remind myself sometimes we all have to lose before we win and I have gotten closer to God and he has blessed me in ways, that I am forever grateful for. Some days I miss my ex but I remind myself that I am doing this for me and I am at peace and happy with the life I am living now. All I can say is stay positive, motivated and pray❤️. Thank you for letting me know I’m on the right path.
i knew i had the strength to pick myself up but i didn’t know how strong i was. i believe that happiness is something you create for yourself by your own. personal growth has to be intentional. it doesn’t happen by accident. the more you focus energy on getting to know yourself, staying alone, the more you realize how happy and stable you become. you become the person you want to be rather than the person you are told to be. without self love you take away from the ability you have to pour into others’ life from kindness to love to helpfulness… the relationship i have with myself is the most important relationship. am i giving value to myself? know your worth so the universe knows too.
People's are afraid of being alone... bt I'm living my life alone for past 3 years like nobody is here with me. Yes it does scare me a lot that how am I living bt sometimes all I need is little bit of solitude to know my self purely.
That’s right no one is in control of our happiness but ourselves. Once I stopped getting mad at my parents and other people who hurt me and stopped putting my energy there, amazing things happened. I realized that I can choose what to think about, and thinking about being mad made me feel worse. So now I live in happiness, not thinking about other people.
So did I on december, not on bad terms but definitely incompatible, been analyzing myself deeply and I've come to the conclussion that I don't love myself the way I should
If we could understand why someone as beautiful as yourself had such a lack of self love, then perhaps we could help a lot of other people that don't have half of what you poses. Congratulations, you exude confidence and you actually look the part of what you've described yourself wanting to be, a model, in more ways than one. As a role model you now have a tremendous responsibility to act accordingly; therefore the best thing you can do, is to expand the the love of self or self love to all sentient beings that share our planet with us. Help save the planet, share the love ❤️
I am aware of my emotions. I'm thoughtful and polite. I use my senses to the best of their capability. I'm good and I do good for others. People love me for my attitude. I'm a clean and calm soul. Anger, frustration, and disgust are no longer part of my behavior. I accept people as they are and I love myself before anyone else.🎈
Been working on my self for the last 3 years and its been hard. Feel like alot of times im taking steps backwards. But once you start the journey of growth/self love you just never turn back because you know you worked so hard to get where you are. Now I'm feeling stuck but this speech just inspired me to keep moving forward. This was just what I needed to see. Everything you said, you said it so beautifully. Its like you took the words right out of my mouth. Thank you for sharing.
This is handsdown the BEST TED Talk I've ever seen!! ❤ I could relate to EVERYTHING she said and I feel the same about self-care. You can't pour from an empty cup! Beautiful human, thank you for this amazing video! ✨
Lisa Nichols says, "You can't pour from a full cup either. You only get to pour from your saucer, from your overflow." These words have stuck with me ever since.
It is important to love yourself because you are going to live with yourself for the rest of your life ! If you don’t treat yourself well and love yourself , then how can you love others ? Love this ted talk so much
This was amazing and couldn't have come at a more perfect time in my life. I have been feeling so empty, lost and broken the past few weeks after a break-up with someone I gave my all to. It's what I really needed to hear and I look forward to my own journey into growth and self-love. Thanks for the inspiring message @Caitlyn Roux!
@@beccs2699 Hey! I'm so sorry for the incredibly delayed response! I only saw your message now while rewatching this video. 🤗 It's been a really transformational year for me, both with its ups and downs, but looking back on all the growth I've experienced since posting my original comment is so incredible. Every day I am becoming more of the person I want to be. The journey of self-love has not been an easy one to be honest, but it's been a truly rewarding one! And while I still feel I have a long way to go, I know I will get there! How are things going with you and your journey of self-love? 🤗❤️
@@beccs2699 I'm really proud of you for embracing this path though! It's not an easy one to walk down, but it's so rewarding in the end! And that's great advice to just take it one day at a time! And on the days when you're not feeling good about anything, those are the days when we need to love ourselves even harder! ❤️
Beauty is truly came from within. The more you clean up the cabbage from inside and remain doing that each day, this is an action of loving thyself and you may love thy neighbor.
A month ago... I was broken up with, lost my job, lost my apartment, and a branch broke my cars rear window. Today... I came to learn life put me at rock bottom so I could find my greatest gift... my self. And to, after 35 years, finally learn to love myself. It's a day by day journey but boy oh boy loving me is changing my life in ways I didn't know were possible. I am happy, because I love my self.
I have a friend who introduces me to her friends as "this is my friend, she is a nurse." I finally had the courage to tell her to stop doing that. I am not what I do for a living. I am more than that.
Thank you so much for your inspiration. I watched this video when I was in a bad state of my life when I broke up with my boyfriend the one effected me the most. The one I thought he was the one I would follow him to everywhere in the world. I didn't know what to do how to start over my life without him. And I realized it was just because I didn't know who I am, what do I want do in my life. This video actually help me a lot, it is a hit to my face and tell me wake up, it was not the end of the world, and I'm capable to bring happiness for my self.❤️❤️❤️❤️
This just goes to prove how even somebody as beautiful as this can still struggle with loving themselves. It is so easy not to see how special we are. 💕 xxx
Caitlyn, you're such an amazing inspiration for what it means to be peaceful and actually happy with ourselves. To get to know which potential we have in us and how great the feeling can be to discover this. Thank you!
I promised to myself that this year of mine is going to be a self Healing year by using only Self Love and it's really so effective and helpful to deal with mental health issues😊
learning self love is SO important for mental health ! working daily towards improving mental health & appreciating ourselves is life changing !! im all about that
Three Learnings I have absorbed from you: 1. Personal growth has to be intentional. 2. We have to take ownership of our growth process because we don't simply improve by accident. 3. Know your worth. Thank you so much Ms. Caitlyn Roux
I’m astonished by how much I could relate and HOW much I needed to hear this. This helped me see that I will make it through the breakup and growth process I’m experiencing and gave me the reassurance I needed on this journey of self-love
To come to a place with yourself to accept who you are within is so beautiful to me. Losing myself was the biggest struggle I ever had to deal with . And then to try and express yourself to hopefully seek help but instead be told how I’m using this because “ I wasn’t getting what I want in the moment and that there is nothing wrong with you.” Imagine not feeling safe in your own company . A world full of people and still feeling alone. Learning to love yourself before loving other brought so much life to my world . And I am happy to say that I am somewhere that I dreamt about for years .
This hit me so deeply. Thank you so much for this. I haven't been treating myself well, and this talk showed me I need to change it so I can help others. I put everyone before myself, but I need to give myself love too. Thank you so much.
I swear self love is so essential. I wish this was talked about even more openly. I just did a video on self love and I’m truly hoping everyone can start working on loving themselves
This is amazing! Honestly, I don't know how famous you were, but the every words what you said are just beautiful and so much inspiration. This speech was exactly what I wanted to realized that what I was missing for my life. Thank you so much for your speech ❤️
I talk about this often on my tiny RU-vid channel. Self love is so important and skin care is embracing your self love. You deserve to love yourself if you do the higher vibrations will lead you to encounter beautiful opportunities. Remember health is first and everthing is second so love yourself let healing take place. Health, Happiness, Love, Strength true freedom, and true wealth. 🐎💛💋🎀
Yes yes yes! Love heals all. Love yourself enough always to want what’s best for YOU and become the best version of yourself. It’s possible it’s waiting for us💗
I've learned in THiS past year! I TRULY LOVE MYSELF FIRST 👍 WHAT OTHER'S think ABOUT ME DOES NOT MATTER 🙏 I WILL CONTINUE TO BE ME!!! NOT PERFECT but IMPERFECT in MY OWN WAY!! I am HAPPY in MY SKIN!!! I CAN Look in the Mirror and SMILE 😊 YOU MATTER 🙏🙏🙏 YOU ARE AWESOME🙏🙏🙏 GOD BLESS 🙏 YOUR MESSAGE Thanks for sharing!
I emailed Caitlyn before and she replied back to me. If you guys ever have anything you want to talk about, I recommend emailing her. She's very lovely and gave me a detailed long response. I didn't think she would email me but she did! Her words gives me hope. Stay strong everyone
That Lady spoke her heart out and it was as if she was talking about me. It felt so personal and yet so professional at the same time. I am goibg to start my self love journey today. The people who are watching this , Best of luck to you guys too.
This message is so valuable. I can relate to it, self love is what helped me pick myself up after breakup with gf. It is what helped me to get back on my studies. Everyday in my dairy, after all the writing i fell and tell myself, I love you and all the best. Beleive me, it is immensly powerful. Im in peace, in both hard days and good ones, i dont beat myself when i make mistakes, because i accept myself and work to grow everyday. My life is changing little by little. Love you all. Thank you
This speech is exactly what I need at this moment as someone who has just experienced something huge in self-discovery. Love your self first before love others. (BGM should be Love Yourself by J. Bieber)
This was.. a life changing rant about this kind of subject that I deal with. It's something that I am having trouble finding, and listening to this video really inspired me to find my self love. I actually talked to my mom about my self worth, and my insecurities, because I saw pictures of myself that my friend gave me of me and her. I hated, and still do hate the way I look. But, tomorrow is where I start, I'm sick and tired of being sad and feeling these emotions in which I don't want to feel anymore. I'm only thirteen, but I'm so tired of my negative thoughts, and it's not going to change if I don't do anything. I need, and a lot of other people needed this video for inspiration. Again, thank you. *Personal Growth is Intentional.*
Self-love for me is basically all about how much you LIKE YOURSELF. I have been using the affirmation "I like myself" the past 2 weeks and my interactions with other folks have been awesome so far. They were saying that I am witty and funny. I learned that affirmation from Brian Tracy's videos. Pretty cool affirmation 😍😍😍
Thank you so much for this video. By learning to love yourself without the approval of others you can truly learn to have a sense of self, respect, and love. By keeping this mantra in mind everyone can truly live full out
One idea I embrace moment by moment is that I should make commitments using complete openness, and once made I should do all I can to follow through if someone else is depending on me. No better friend does anyone have, than the friend who lays down their lives for their friend.
self love takes courage, people call you selfish... if you are in a toxic relationship... you are challenged everyday... its hard to love yourself... its really hard
But its do-able! You need to realize what's important for you and your growth as a person, everything else doesn't matter. Remove whats toxic, you don't need it.
My first romantic relationship was with my best friend. My friend I've known for 3 and a half years, is 3 years younger than me, and doesn't live close to me. We broke up only because of age. I still love him. But I want him to be happy so much I pretty much force myself to not talk to him. Last year was wonderful.
My introduction was somewhat reversed, as they hit my radar way after they were already grown. Now, when I see them as child actors on various projects, it’s interesting to see how they gradually honed their acting chops. No surprise that they were constantly working and they were blessed to be in projects with showbiz staples who kept a lookout !✊🏽 Proud of their accomplishments!🫅🏽🫅🏽
I always thought self love is selfish but I'm thankful to find this group that has songs about self love and youth they completely changed my life from being hopeless to having hope and passion to continue.. I'll be always thankful to BTS and this speech
