Sending Children ABROAD? - Be Aware Of This Bitter Truth!! It Is a Serious Social Problem

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@devikabhatnagar 4 месяца назад

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@kramalin 4 месяца назад

I was working in AU for a year. Everytime i call my mother, though she says she is fine, i can feel sadness in the voice. I decided to go back to MY eventhough all my colleague and my boss said i’m crazy giving up a better ‘life’. I said to them, nothing more satisfying that to take care of your parents and doing your best to fullfill their needs. Their happiness is now my happiness.

@Laxmi_1298 4 месяца назад

Ur parents r blessed to have an understanding and loving kid

@rajuraj-vv1pb 4 месяца назад

Love your country apnadesh, there is 😎nothing like Home Sweet Home. Every one should know that what have you done to your country.

@geethanilam2857 4 месяца назад

Wonderful 🎉🎉🎉

@jancythomas707 4 месяца назад

God bless you my child

@sunkaravenugopal9720 4 месяца назад

My children refused to go abroad and stayed back saying that we are fine over here with you people 😊😊thanks children

@SteveVasa 4 месяца назад

Depends on how wealthy parents are? whether they have enough wealth to build a life for children in India. Most middle class parents are not in that situation, they scrape the surface to educate the children at school

@sathyanarayana887 4 месяца назад

Absolutely true mam...one of my relatives have 2 sons, one is in London as a software engineer & another one is a doctor settled in Australia....these sons never came after mother & father ailments time & even after death they came after one week after cremation...we only helped for cremation....its like selling our children

@SamKoppa 4 месяца назад

I understand your point up-to some extent. But every coin has 2 sides. For some below middle class families , going to abroad is the only option. Think of a family with no money even for their children weddings, one of the child goes abroad and sending money for the siblings weddings, building home for parents. After couple of years only their real savings starts for their kids. By the time due to various factors people cannot come back. Money is not everything but without money we can’t survive any where in the world.

@gopalarao99 4 месяца назад

Very true. Many intelligent and economically poor are being deprived of in the name of reservations so no opportunities to serve in the country. So they have to find a way to earn their livelihood and send money to their dependants . 😊

@malinimadhusudana3518 4 месяца назад

Absolutely! Every coin has 2 faces . A child also becomes a parent some day. It's not give nd take policy. It's that concern and unconditional love for children nd children towards parents matters . Staying separately from parents doesn't mean u are neglecting them . Every one needs their personal space . Difference of opinions also counts . Bottom-line one being for others is what matters . It may be from parents or kids . Also I live in a family of 11ppl

@sudhirchopde3334 4 месяца назад

Excellent

@praveenModlier 4 месяца назад

Ma'am's advice is more befitting for a single child. When it comes to siblings, any one child can be with the parents.

@benjaminaranha9704 4 месяца назад

Forget one child,even 3 and 4 are settled abroad and cannot even attend the funeral of the parents. Is just sending money enough?@@praveenModlier

@visalakshigurumurthy5651 4 месяца назад

Ofcourse you are right! But I have seen many parents saying that their children are well settled in abroad.They don't want their children to come back home.

@pallavisreetambraparni6995 4 месяца назад

The worst part is India is becoming more westernized than foreign countries. I have lived in US and this is the definitely the case. The younger generations in india don't want to cook at home anymore, they want to shop in shopping malls, whereas in US over 2000 shopping malls are closing and everyone is doing online shopping, they want to eat western food like pizza, subway, tacos, burritos, Starbucks, etc.. All these things have come in india now also and youngsters are not going for traditional Indian food, youngsters don't want traditional Indian dress like sari or salwar kameez, they want western dress, they don't want to learn indian classical music or indian classical dance and all indian classical music and dance artists who have toiled and worked very hard to learn their art go every year on concert and recital tours to foreign countries... Etc... This is what is happening

@shampaghatak2987 4 месяца назад

Life is also very hard in abroad for first Generation of immigrants …Easy to give lecture.. Everyone has different priorities in life .If you don’t get good job in your hometown…You have no choice ..It is the middle class people who come abroad to build their fortunes. The rich people don’t come to settle abroad..They buy a home and come for vacation..

@shanthinijayram6972 4 месяца назад

Children in India are also neglecting their parents and inlaws. It has become a trend now. So we cannot blame the children who are settled in Abroad. Atleast they have some affection towards their parents. Within India parents are sent to old age home. Why? Who is responsible for this state of affairs?

@gomathinatarajan7545 4 месяца назад

Yes. 100%true. It's not the matter whether in Home land or abroad the children have to take care of their parents . The worst situation is no one likes the parents to be with them even if they are here. They want to be alone. It doesn't mean that the children here are only taking care. Whether they are in homeland or abroad affection towards parents is important and care to be given when situation arises

@jayanthipawar6516 4 месяца назад

Absolutely correct

@krishnakumarsawant8013 4 месяца назад

Educated wives teach their husbands to stay away from parents.@@gomathinatarajan7545

@ruchireddy3652 4 месяца назад

After suffering with health, u talk same

@krishnanbharathi7988 4 месяца назад

Practical thinking : Money is not everything. But to run the life it is necessary. So to strike the balance, thinking about the children's future, present abroad earning, conducive green pollution free environment , hassle free daily life, abroad preference is not a crime. When you start living loving the environment, neighbours, relatives etc, let our future generation be comfort enough with where ever they prefer to settle down, do it. As a parent @ 68 , I am expressing my opinion. Love the nature, love the environment, you don't feel aloof anytime. 🎉

@praveenModlier 4 месяца назад

Excellent advice. As a sixty years old I can vouch that career comes next. I do have lost many opportunities and regretted many times but when I see my successful friends, I feel better off and luckier. I can't explain this in words but to tell the fact, my decisions appears good in many ways. Thanks for the video.

@sunilnama1753 4 месяца назад

Lucid, Simple, and very TRUE 👍

@lakshmisrinivasan8439 4 месяца назад

40 years ago my husband got a golden opportunity to settle in US. But he returned as he felt he is the only son and they needed his support. People thought we are foolish. It was not easy for us but we have our in-laws' blessings forever and I have no guilty baggage...which is such a heavy baggage.

@usharamesh8853 4 месяца назад

Well said maam

@dasamabhilash 4 месяца назад

I feel sad, took wrong decision not going to USA at my earliest stage of my life. Now I am struggling to get into USA with family and kid. Remember Now or Never. If you work for 30 - 35 years of savings , is equal to 5 years of foreign savings. In India you don’t have long private employment, in foreign you can go for employment after 60 years too. Here in India, heavy politics in private companies and competition. Where as in foreign work life balance. In simple terms I will tell you, myself working in India struggles to get leave, where same position team member in Foreign country enjoys long vacation. Your skills are more valued and paid in foreign/ western countries. Her in India your are slave … corporate Slave. Don’t trust any one, but do always good deeds. Thank you.

@bhanuvyas4608 4 месяца назад

People in thinks in India uk they pay more money but you have to work 12 hours make it’s so much dear here please still working at age of 70 or 80 you get 4 weeks holiday for year it’s don’t easy life here I was working 14 hours day 90 hours for week done for 48 years you are happy in India 🇮🇳 money is everything Lord Shiv bless everyone Jay Shree Krishna

@bhanuvyas4608 4 месяца назад

Money is not everything if your are not happy 🙏

@vijayakumardanagoudra7390 4 месяца назад

Same here...

@sekharroychoudhury6806 4 месяца назад

Sir , It is our governance over the past 70 years which has lead you and I , to this situation .

@venkateshds8589 4 месяца назад

Corruption is very high here in India. Common man has to face every day for anything and everything. Western countries corruption is there only at a higher political level and common men do not have to face it on a daily basis.

@ArghaSen 4 месяца назад

Even though I am not financially settled, I have always tried my level best to be with my parents and support them as needed.. Even at the cost of my career to a certain extent.. And I am happy in a way that I could do it..

@shanthisahadevan9746 4 месяца назад

Conscience is God telling us what is the correct thing to do. You did right.

@desireedias8395 4 месяца назад

You will get abundant blessings 🙌

@SH-nv5sp 4 месяца назад

You are a Good person!

@masongupta6618 4 месяца назад

Good gyaan.. People do what they like not what others like....

@shyamalas9550 4 месяца назад

Very good Advice...Many Elders are really suffering...Many are alone depending only on servants & car drivers...sad situation

@vpn740 4 месяца назад

The harsh reality is that in over 60% of cases, lot of parents compel their children to pursue studies and employment abroad. They often compare their children to others, citing examples of individuals who have gone abroad, questioning why their own children can't do the same. In their 50s and 60s, they fail to see the potential repercussions. However, by the time they reach their 70s, they become reliant on support and come to realize their mistake. On the flip side, the dilemma arises when children go abroad to study, seeking employment to repay their educational loans. They end up staying longer to earn money, start families, and settle down. Yet, they find themselves stuck abroad, unable to return due to circumstances beyond their control. Bringing back their children who are in the midst of schooling becomes a complex issue, as the educational systems are vastly different. Thus, the challenges extend far beyond what is initially discussed.

@mohanrao6273 4 месяца назад

Yes madam what you are telling each and every wordings is 100%correct 👍

@shanthisahadevan9746 4 месяца назад

True. Sending money to parents is not enough.Dont treat them like beggars. Your parents need you nearby as they age. You dont have to live in the same house if you dont want. Live nearby. See them often. We have to do our duties to our parents. They did theirs to give you a better education and career. Dont abandon your parents and motherland.

@sudhirchopde3334 4 месяца назад

Beggar no 1

@athensmajnoo3661 4 месяца назад

If the children want to have better opportunities, better life, and want to go abroad, why and how can anyone stop them? Just because we gave birth to a child, it is unreasonable to expect them to neglect their aspirations and serve us . Your son/ daughter is a person with individuality,, personal choice, and goals, not just somebody you gave birth to take care of you in old age.

@shanthisahadevan9746 4 месяца назад

@@sudhirchopde3334 who are you calling a beggar? I am married but childless. I can take care of myself, thank you.

@rekhadedhia9802 4 месяца назад

Karma is B. Children who neglect their parents karma will catch up with them.they will face same situation.they never show the affection towards their parents their children will be same.yiu have to make parents as part of your familly.

@kshiprarisbud5845 4 месяца назад

It's a criminal waste to send children abroad for education...

@raghuvalab 4 месяца назад

Very true

@josephsabu4355 4 месяца назад

Then why India isn't giving the same opportunity like the other foreign countries and unemployment is so high and how can you live when you have prime minister from Kerala who is traveling to foreign countries while people in Kerala dealing with financial issues and so many folk losing job and can't even feed their own family. If you live in India what kind of future or opportunities India could offer when there are corruptions

@josephsabu4355 4 месяца назад

Then ask India to fix unemployment and give better opportunity for their kids so after finishing education then can look for job that suits well for them instead of putting restrictions and also they should increase wages in workplace so young people will stay

@SteveVasa 4 месяца назад

Very hard sad truth of the mass migration. On one side it’s leaving behind very lonely parents back at home. At the same time, on the other side it’s leaving behind very lonely grand children all around the world, mostly unmarried, lost in the mass world population , no one knows where these people are as they are deeply buried in multiculturalism. Children born to the people migrating don’t belong in overseas, at the same time they can’t go back to India as they don’t know anyone in their parents country of origin. Leaving their children (grand children) in most expensive countries in the world when they die. Not many people want to take about this serious issue.

@Abhishek-pp5in 4 месяца назад

Well said, but some parents are really toxic, so let's not judge all children who abandon their aged parents. Every case is different.

@usharamesh8853 4 месяца назад

Agree.

@jakezo369 4 месяца назад

So glad people are openly talking about bad parents, that's such a taboo in our country. I am in India and went no contact with my narcissistic mother and am free now for years.

@sureshkumargv1 4 месяца назад

Parents also should avoid comparing materialistic possessing's of siblings who are in India and abroad.

@vedavathiseethamraju5630 4 месяца назад

What about unemployment in india ? Even children in abroad also feeling same. Please don't blame only NRI's.. Even in india also so many children are not looking their parents after marriage. Some MIL and DIL conflcts. Main reason for leaving india is Unemployment . All are not having capacity to start their own company. If NRI's want to return after 10 or 15 years of job at that time their children are in teenage. Below 10 years they can adopt our system of education. But at the age of 13 or 15 they can't. And also they have to pay fee lakhs of rupees under NRI category in Indian professional courses, and after completion of their degrees same problem employment. So many practical difficulties are there. This is never ending topic Just for 1 month or 45 days leave to spend in india they are working like donkeys in abroad.

@GururajBN 4 месяца назад

Even those who settle abroad can’t be entirely happy and satisfied. In another country, they are always second class citizens. In the US, Canada and Australia, their safety is also not guaranteed. Often, Indian are abused, attacked and sometimes killed. Nowadays India too offers many options and opportunities to the youths.

@HK-yf1nu 4 месяца назад

60% of Indian youth is unemployed.

@livelikeamonk3161 4 месяца назад

@HK-yf1nu Unemployed by choice. We have a huge family of cousins from both the parents side. No youth is unemployed. We are not reservation category. Still everyone found a way to earn. Lazy people are unemployed.

@benjaminaranha9704 4 месяца назад

Everyone wants a govt job

@geethanilam2857 4 месяца назад

This advice is the need of this time. We see lots of oldage homes sprouting because of this. Very pathetic to see them suffer only because they allowed them to go

@kshiprarisbud5845 4 месяца назад

Very good Dr...very bad situation in our society today...no one wants to take care of Parents/ In laws...why ?? Then what are we doing in life ..only earning money...for What ?

@PriyaBS5917 4 месяца назад

Who is responsible for this sorry state of affairs. I can say it is parents. They treat their children as money earning machines. They used to boast their son is studying in US/UK. Next stage that their son is employed in US/UK.and earning 150k USD a year. They used to make a couple of visits to see their wards. All is fine when health is ok up to 60/65 years of age. After that when their health detereorate they require the assistance of their son, which is not possible, as he can't get any job here in India to suit his qualification and experience. Today's youth is tomorrow's parents. In addition to academics,, parents should inculcate the moral and duty of children to take care of their parents

@ur67tube 4 месяца назад

Everyone talks about society but no one try to do their role... funny .. if one is there to listen that's it Everyone tells vedhas.. no one knows what is vedha

@manoharraman6707 4 месяца назад

You are absolutely right. My lone son is working at U. S. A. He may stay there for another 5 years atleast. I am 64 and my wife is 55 years. Anyway for the time being I am pulling on. I want him back in india.

@stanleynoronha9223 4 месяца назад

Yes. I Fully agree with you. Good advice for children to follow. My salute to you Teacher.

@karunasagardheram598 4 месяца назад

And this about staying in your own country, just because a son or daughter stays in the same country does not ensure he or she'll be available on the moment! He may be in a different state altogether, have responsibilities that tie him down. ... The answer is we, the parents have to arrange for their old in the best possible way.

@Vasavagiri 4 месяца назад

Ram Ram. Your observations are very practical. But it is the Parents who have to be blamed 100% Only the parents prepare the child frim LKG to go and earn in Abroad. Knowing fully well they cannot come back for very many reasons. So the parents' emotional suffering is self-inflicted. Children cannot be blamed at all.

@cablenetworksystems 4 месяца назад

Good point u r discussing. Once u go, coming back to India is difficult. I worked 10 yr part-time and saw life there, I settled in India and now I hope my son will also settled in India. There's lot to say as we have close relatives settled in US but not everything can be discussed here.

@jyotiyangadmotghare1843 4 месяца назад

Yes you are true mam .I did not send my daughter to USA for further studies as I refused to give my retired money to her and not wanted that she should leave india .I knew that no one wants to come back and we have examples of her friends and their siblings that after completing their further studies they are getting married with the foreigners and settling down their.Offocourse we can't bread fresh air as we breathe in our own country neither we can live sressless life

@drsraghuram 4 месяца назад

Studies and jobs are very tough in USA Life is not easy abroad

@Aarkay77 4 месяца назад

I would like to take it a step further. First gen immigrations will be satisfied with the way of life anywhere abroad! Coz They would have spent their growing years in Bharath, thus having good knowledge about their existence, culture, roots etc. But problem will arise when their kids (second gen immigrants ) grow aboard ! They will grow in a culturally mixed environment which might give way for confusion as they grow. This might have problems in kids sticking to their roots. If parents(first gen immigrants) are mentally prepared for this, it’s fine. If parents are concerned more about propagating their race than earning money, then they need to give it a thought .

@SteveVasa 4 месяца назад

Have a plan to go back before having children in overseas. Otherwise all the effort you put in to go to overseas will be wasted and you will be stuck in wrong place fore rest of your life.

@madhusudhanrao2094 4 месяца назад

Exactly wonderful &Humanity subject explanation madam. It's present days Needed subject for parents suffering with lonely in city's in India. Thank you for sharing affectionate message to NRI. 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉😢😢😢❤❤❤

@sundareshans1474 4 месяца назад

100% reality madam. Parents in the interest of their children future send them abroad even taking loans but after that lots excuses are given by children for not coming back. Even then parents won,t curse children and curse their fate.

@Amnamania786 4 месяца назад

You are juste à motivational speaker, do continue like this way , the world will definitely changes their mind. Thankyou for such a beautiful vidéo.

@MohammedSALAM-r6v 4 месяца назад

What about kids who born in foreign countries, if parents Ghar Wapsi then severely affected childrens , social adjustment and education issues. A balanced and well planned strategy needed

@pradeepbhatnagar4848 4 месяца назад

Vry well explained the Truth of life nd in other words I called it Philosophy of life.Money can purchase materialistic things but not Happiness.Maam it depends from individual to individual to whom they give priority bt.it is a vry.fundamental rule money cannot by happiness.Its a eternal approach of life 👍🙏🙏

@vijayadurga9095 4 месяца назад

Thank you Mam ,for very good video..Most of the parents facing same problem.I am also facing same problem. I Will Always advice advice parents to don't send Children to Abroad.

@surabhisirsi1581 4 месяца назад

Nothing can be imposed to any body,it's only "Take the life on your stride" as long as you can and inform or express your disability when are able to take care of your own that's it, thank God for every thing.

@Footyeditz76 4 месяца назад

Karma works the same. If we leave our parents today for money. Our kids will leave us in future for same money.

@Laxmi_1298 4 месяца назад

Kids dont leave us n go its parents who ask them to go. Because every parent will want they child to do good in life.situations r such that kids are faced with a lot of challenges which we never had n due to time constraints they r unable to give us they time n they too hv the responsibility. The situation at present its very sad n hope children dont make a mistake of going abroad now u kids know everything .staying here is better n serving r country

@Footyeditz76 4 месяца назад

@nl9803 I feel so sorry for you sir. Be strong life doesn't stop for anyone because of anyone.

@Footyeditz76 4 месяца назад

@nl9803 ok sir.

@jitendramayekar8477 4 месяца назад

Very good, superb teaching! Money can't buy happiness!

@athensmajnoo3661 4 месяца назад

Money can buy your parents a good house, a car, adriver, a cook,.....

@shanthisahadevan9746 4 месяца назад

Money can't buy morality and love.

@SteveVasa 4 месяца назад

Assuming everyone went to overseas, floating in money and don’t want to come back is wrong. No doubt there are few. Unless someone take £200,000 when they move to overseas, majority of them, 95% of them work to pay their mortgage (house loans) and raise children without any/no savings. Biggest problem is, most parents in India (or any other countries) don’t have a clear plan on the future of their children in terms of where to live(house) what job to do, when they finish higher studies. Most don’t realise how much effort and money need to build a life for a child. Most of them take the children to schools, send to tuitions, pass A/L, apply for a visa and send them to overseas and wipe their hands. When children finish their studies in overseas, they don’t know where to go back to or where to live when they go back. Very sad situation

@vvk594 4 месяца назад

There are both good n bad. For few the financial status has improved significantly. For the rich they may be missing their kids.

@SteveVasa 4 месяца назад

Before sending the children to overseas, parents should think hard and arrange a place for the children to live when they come back. Most children go to overseas, do not have a place to live back at home. It’s very easy to buy a flat or house in loan in overseas. It’s not easy to buy a house in India/home. So children get stuck in wrong place

@devikabhatnagar 4 месяца назад

Valid point it is, need to think by the parents 🤝

@radharamani7154 4 месяца назад

You are right Mam. My son has settled abroad and we both are senior citizens. But what about children who doesnt care about their parents in India also. Who dont invite or talk to their parents after marriage. Pl talk about that also

@sudhirchopde3334 4 месяца назад

Iam ashamed at the dependency of 57-60 year old people.To return those living abroad is a real sin.Why encourage clever ones to remain here.Due to lack of opportunity they suffer here lying their lives and careers. Make your lives secure 60+ age group remember JaneFonda and make arrangements for the 4th phase of life...60..90.or so years.

@sudhirchopde3334 4 месяца назад

Beggar no 2

@athensmajnoo3661 4 месяца назад

@@sudhirchopde3334 beggar of all beggars spotted 🤣

@jagdishtosawad8995 4 месяца назад

You are right madam ; but what’s if children lives in India ; but not able to support to parents?..? Theses are applicable only those who already have sufficient finances

@maryroseculas3273 4 месяца назад

Thank you Maam for this great subject today. Myself I didnt want to get married cos of my mum. No inlaws will oversee her in her time of need. Loved n cared for her till the time she left. Am glad I did that. Our parents are the most important people in our lives.

@shanthisahadevan9746 4 месяца назад

Lord Krishna said ' Do your duty'.

@sreekanthmg 4 месяца назад

Really this video/topic is an Eye-Opener for the present generation who ignore their parents in their old ages, moreover, I feel very proud to say that, now-a-days our India is not less any advanced countries for any further studies or for job purpose and further to say, a true patriotic person will never settle down in other countries by quitting his or her own country and their beloved age old parents. 5:24

@jagathfernando6433 4 месяца назад

Nicely explained.Thank you Dr.Devika.👏I am from Sri Lanka.

@abbasalikerawala1604 4 месяца назад

Excellent points 👏 👌🏻 God bless you more 🙏❤

@sekharroychoudhury6806 4 месяца назад

Madam , This trend has set in " apeing the West " . In Europe , North America , Australia , children are advised to move out of their parental house and fend for themselves . Pleasantries are exchanged once a year during Thanksgiving . Grandparents in India will still be able to sustain themselves because there is some societyal bonding . Think what will happen when these sons and daughters become old and remain settled in a foreign land .🙏.

@mgchandrakanth 4 месяца назад

Even if they return home country there is no guarantee that they will keep parents peaceful. Even those children who are at home, there is no guarantee that they will give support and peace to parents right now. Atleast those who are abroad let them be happy. As long as parents at home are keeping reasonably good health and are reasonably happy their children can be abroad.

@karunasagardheram598 4 месяца назад

You can't compare life in bygone years with changed circumstances. Already youngsters are under terrific strain due to ever changing job situations, aspirations and ambitions of spouses, geopolitical occurrences, and if we add parental pressures too, it will only lead to depression and mental breakdown! I only expect my children to be loving and be concerned but not totally arrange their lives around my convenience!

@wildsaffron5220 4 месяца назад

Very well said. I’m abroad but taking care of my aged MIL who never had any kindness for neither of her DIL’s. If parents treat their children/ DIL well. They will definitely take care. Humanity is still alive

@prakashshah1019 4 месяца назад

Excellent guidance.

@rsd6317 4 месяца назад

But what about mother in law doesn’t like daughter in law and there is a hell like situation at home ? Daughter-in-law is good but mother in law treat her like a slave.

@achlabhatt6737 4 месяца назад

EXCELLENT ADVICE ❤

@Nickhil 4 месяца назад

I completely understand your point. I feel it is better to sensitize parents of the financial implications if it involves a collateral & they're children turn care free & irresponsible. As for the other situations, why are the children expected to return always? Why are parents going hard & unwilling to move to the children's homes in the respective countries that they live in? When the kids are young, they live & move places with parents. When the same parents turn old, it only makes sense if they move along with the children.

@devikabhatnagar 4 месяца назад

Very good Practical Analysis 👍🤝

@Footyeditz76 4 месяца назад

Am very thankful to you that you chose this topic and spoke. Many nana nani homes are coming up in India . Where parents can live when their kids have left them. Pathetic situation. Again my many thanks to you. Soon moving back.

@padmaoruganti9179 4 месяца назад

What about the parents who are pushing their children to accomplish this and they are very proud parents if the children stay aboard ?! In every family get together we get to hear parents discuss this, my son is in US vice versa , no parent is proud of his or her kids settle in india does farming or something else!!

@anjanan53 4 месяца назад

Parents only want more money than children. Hv seen many people

@BinduViswanaath19 4 месяца назад

Very true

@usharamesh8853 4 месяца назад

True. Not all parents are same. Many parents want their freedom and don't want children to be always around them. They are rather happy kabhi kabhi aane se. Parents say that work load increases if children come frequently visit parents with grand children.

@BinduViswanaath19 4 месяца назад

@@usharamesh8853 Not many will understand But that’s the truth Money rules……

@athensmajnoo3661 4 месяца назад

@@usharamesh8853you seem to be very very lucky to gave such parents who are not clingy.

@Laxmi_1298 4 месяца назад

Not all parents. Till date even though we hv r fiancial problems we hv never asked them.

@monafernandez4389 4 месяца назад

The current situations in our country are the reasons for most youngsters or complete families even migrating to greener n safer pastures abroad. People need peace and happiness around, hence many are moving out is my take on this.

@sv9446 4 месяца назад

Rightly said , appreciate this !

@balasubramanianr4755 4 месяца назад

It's not necessary to go abroad. I know few children who go to a different state in India itself. They are so busy that slowly they maintsin distance from parents. Try to settle there. As parents they have done their duty. The children have no time to talk or even msg. When parents call they prefer to answer in what's app. Not even video calls. . When will such children understand? Living in India itself but staying in a different state brings such a situation what to do? When will such children change for the better .

@charmaine8512 4 месяца назад

Children are vulnerable and should never ever be sent to a strange country to study. That time in their life it is crucial they are with family and their culture. Literally packed off to uphold your pride. So parents keep them in your country _ once they have gained experience in thrir own country they can go on a contract and return home. You have no ROOTS and life becomes unbearable when you realize you have made a mistake by packing up and leaving for good. You are literally a third class citizen caught in two worlds. Those who went to the Gulf countries or Asia returned back to India without abandoning family but those that foolishly pack up for good struggle in even getting a job after all the stresses at such a young age. Depression, family breakups, divorce, debt trap are not something one can overcome but managing with family in your own country is any day better.

@svenkatesh6497 4 месяца назад

You are right. Out of 1 lack one child may accept this concept rest no. Instead one should save for their own care & settlement supparately at worst situations one shouldn't hesitate to get settled at some good Old age homes without blaming their loved ones.

@MallikarjunaHiremath-l5i 4 месяца назад

What educational institutions of India & abroad taught they are following. (2) Needs rectification of this problem at institutions level when parents send their children for studies. (3) Institutions & faculties (Indian or foreign institutions) knowledge deficiency problem & bad practices parents are suffering. Simple.

@shashikalavidiyala2676 4 месяца назад

Very nice points explained madam

@archanakishersagar7625 4 месяца назад

Thank you ma'am I agree with you

@annapurnakrishnamurthy2667 4 месяца назад

So well put. Thank you ma.

@manu7815 4 месяца назад

SISTER YOURS WORDS ARE VERY CORRECT 🙏

@roymathew3456 4 месяца назад

Today's parents are more happy if their children's r settled abroad with high salaries, that's why many students r planning to go ab, parents have become materialistic

@dominicpatel1064 4 месяца назад

Sad but trueI know of many cases where the children are living abroad leaving their old parents in India alone with a big Bungalow ang garden but only come to India ,sell the bunglow and go back abroad.

@Neon657z 4 месяца назад

What if agar , koi middle class me Paida hua h aur uska sapna kuch bada krne ka h toh, agr vo hometown m rahega toh kuch kar hi nhi payga , agar uska sapna Bombay m rehne ka ho toh aur parents nhi man rhe h toh vo kaise karega , zindagi toh ek bar milti h na aur boht sare sapne hote h , toh phir kya un sare sapno ko bula Diya Jay aur zindagi bhar gaon m rahe ..aap ek parent ke perspective se bol rhe ho ek bacche ke perspective se nhi jiske bade bade sapne h asman ko chuna h wagera wagera ....

@lakshminagaraj7167 4 месяца назад

Expertly said madam

@HarshadaRaikar 4 месяца назад

Madam you are a very pure soul. Your video's are excellent. Hats off to you. God bless you and your family always who very good health wisdom prosperity

@stutisrivastava3992 4 месяца назад

Thanku ma'am you are absolutely right 👍

@vijayadurga9095 4 месяца назад

Mam,please do one video on late Marriages.even 30 age also Children are not ready for Marriage, How parents are Suffering they don't bother.I realized not Supposed to send Children to Abroad.Many parents are facing this problem Mam.

@pranavvishnu3860 4 месяца назад

Please make this video in Telugu madam. It will help somany greedy Telugu parents

@devikabhatnagar 4 месяца назад

In Telugu uploaded a couple of months ago, this video has become viral in many whatsapp groups as a result, it has reached to my whatsapp. ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-9nzk3AX8mHY.htmlsi=PiUTlB40QbFb_guU

@kalanair4773 4 месяца назад

I agree with you.good topic for youngsters as well as parents.

@weare4s 4 месяца назад

In an ideal situation this works. But a person who has worked abroad cannot find suitable job in India and for some people their health does not permit them to face the commuting challenges. So when it comes to losing their entire power of earning although they do not like they are forced to continue working abroad just to provide the basic needs for their kids and family. Then although the person is sad that he or she is unable to comeback, they are unable to return to their motherland. This is the harsh truth for many.

@amiyamazudermazumder5301 4 месяца назад

U are telling true mam.

@s.v.l.nreddy4286 4 месяца назад

100% True Madam 🙏

@sushantamitra5796 4 месяца назад

What you told, this is my personal belief.

@surabhisirsi1581 4 месяца назад

Right said, for all the information informed

@seemamathur1664 4 месяца назад

Right but government should give same environment facilities in India to prevent

@brototidas615 4 месяца назад

Very nice message to young generation

@sunilanavalkar 4 месяца назад

Dr you Are right. But who says they earn money. I have known parents who are instead sending them money

@HumHindustani007 4 месяца назад

I have been living abroad for 30 years and now I can’t imagine living in India anymore!!! There are no comparisons…. And this is actually what happens when you go and live in different countries….. you start comparing things!!!

@goldentiger1841 4 месяца назад

This video is long overdue, it is good that India is slowly waking up.

@azeemhaider7062 4 месяца назад

very nice vdo...these type of vdos r rare on you tube

@RiaMukherjeeCHEM 4 месяца назад

Not everyone is blessed to be born in a hometown where there are lot of job opportunities- So returning to hometown may not be feasible always. Secondly, those who are staying with their parents also do not potray very happy relationship with their parents. PS: I dont stay abroad. But I dont quite like the hatred blames put on people who are abroad. It is not that those who are staying here or staying with their parents are doing a grear job either. Atleast NRI childs parents get to fulfil one of their wishes which is a trip to foreign land 😂 and there is no chance of regular Saas bohu issues 😅

@jyotishenai2001 4 месяца назад

If good jobs were available here after studying so much here who would have sent them ? It's our necessity madam to send them

@mona8564 4 месяца назад

For us, we settled in Gulf Now we and our children are all here, may b their children will be here too. So one generation suffered, but all coming generations will be happy. What about that dr?

@devikabhatnagar 4 месяца назад

Staying all together at one place is always a happy life, it may be India or Abroad 👍🙌

@mona8564 4 месяца назад

@@devikabhatnagar True dr. There were other people in my and husband's family to take care of our parents. So all cases are not same, specially Gulf countries don't give permanent residency, unlike Western countries from where people can't come back. Gulf countries are good to earn and then if you are no so well of here can go back to India anytime. Thank you dr for your feed back🙏

@vishnuvardhan3047 4 месяца назад

Yes, gulf is best. @@mona8564

@somejourneys 4 месяца назад

Settled in gulf.😅

@sanjeevikumar4112 4 месяца назад

What you said is 100℅ correct.

@mukthambatn1435 4 месяца назад

Very well explained madam, thank you🙏🏼

@vibha.v2999 4 месяца назад

The stark reality is either the parents or the children are not ready to accept the situation they are in...Life is not a bed of roses...both are in a way wud not be happy surely