Oofff. I felt this this video hard. Being here for over 10 years, it’s incredibly difficult having your friends leave one after the other. My best friend left Korea several years back and I still miss her every day. I feel you ❤
hi sissel, i grew up in a “non emotion showing” type of family and now i find myself being really stuck inside my own shell and afraid of expressing any feelings or showing vulnerability but seeing you being so unafraid of showing emotions and being vulnerable inspires me so much to try and take steps into learning how to express myself, i thank you so so much for showing us how to heal our inner child and your content in general :)
I’m so glad that me opening up may help you love. I think a good place to start is being comfortable showing emotions for yourself in your own company 💚 I’m so proud of you!
Cari is absolutely right about being solo. It’s really good to be by yourself and be in tune with yourself but it’s also important to not isolate yourself. These days I really enjoy being by myself but last year, I was isolating myself and that sent me into deep downward spirals so knowing the difference is important. On Sille. I miss her so much too. She was so familiar and homey, I seriously thought she was coming back (I’m hoping she does). You and Sille’s friendship gave me an outline of how I want my friendships to be. I recently broke off a 3 year friendship and coming to that decision is so hard but the friendship (I’ve realised) never served me and it was for the best to break it off. Thank you for the wonderful videos sweetheart 💚you don’t know how much your videos mean to me
Yes, Cari’s message was spot on! 💚 And thank you for saying that about Sille… Also yes, letting go of friends are painful but absolutely necessary for growth in this scenario. So proud of you 💚
Last year my best friend died unexpectedly. She was my soul mate. With her I could be who I am. We were very similar. My world hasn't been the same since then. I miss her every day and I regret that we didn't manage to do so many things together. Love and cherish the friendships that fill you. Time is so precious..
You talking about Sille and how you love her so deeply that you cry because of it made me feel incredibly understood. For me saying I love you to people is not easy, because I feel like once I say it, it’s like a promise that I make to the person. And I make that promise to them over and over again trying to show them my love in little actions or conversations. And for me who has never experienced this typical romantic type of love I still feel like I could say that I have fallen in love because of that very deep love that I feel for my close friends. But it’s incredible and horrible at the same time to love this deeply, incredible because being able to feel love so deeply and being loved in return is one of the best if not the best feeling in the world and horrible because when I am apart from them I feel like a part of me is somewhere else. I just want to tell you that in missing Sille you are just feeling the love you have for her in your heart in a way that might hurt but it is still love and love is always beautiful and worth feeling 💌 But I also wanna thank you because you and your videos and also the podcast that you have with Sille really helped me to realize how I feel emotions and that I should not shy away from them just because I feel them intensely, so thank you for that 💐💝
i moved to a big city a little over a year ago and still haven't made any friends, i'm very introverted so i find myself comparing my situation to other people's friendgroups a lot, but of course i'm happy for everybody experiencing those friendships
I find more difficult to make friends when when you are an adult compared to when we were kids or teenagers. I hope there will be more videos about friendships!
Woah I just realized 5:38 that this is Beenzino woah When Cari talked about doing things solo and loving being by yourself, I totally get that. Just enjoying the time that you have to be happy without relying on someone else is truly a way to get to know yourself better. I'm at a stage in my life where... I'm sort of an adult now where I do have that life-long friend group and loving just being by myself most of the time, but I still do get those lonely feelings because I'm working from home now isolated from the world and missing that communal university life surrounded by like-minded people. *sob*
This came at perfect time since I just moved countries and I'm having a hard time navigating everything . I miss my friends a lot specially since I feel like I have very genuine connections, which were lacking in previous years of my life and distance isn't easy. This was very soothing and it's good to know I'm not alone !
Wow this video really hit differently. I just moved to a new city myself, but loneliness is something that is hard to talk about, especially when you struggle with the deep connections. This felt like geniunly talking to a friend about struggeling with loneliness. I appreciate it
thanks for talking about such an emotional topic. language is key! even english (which is my second language) doesn't give me the feeling of being totally authentic or being able to express the same sarcasm or profundity i could express with my first language. your language skills mean openness to many different people, be proud of that!
Absolutely, I am certainly very proud. If you look back at my first videos in Korea you’ll hear a clear difference in my English abilities, being abroad and meeting these new people has helped it along the way a lot 💚
hey sissel your talk about friendship was so powerful and eye opening. This also makes me so happy that you chose the coaching thing as a new part of your career path bc your videos are always like little therapy sessions for me! thank you so much
You're such a genius .. you have your own magic that you throw on every topic you bring .. and it turns from obvious to thoughtful and meaningful.. you doing magic here Sissel .. thank you 💚
Thank you so so so much for being vulnerable cause sometimes watching content you feel like “how can everything seem so perfect in this persons life” and seeing split moments like this like wow so they are real, it’s just a good reminder that we are human sissel and you’re doing so amazing, I love your content switch so far, please keep it up💕💕💕
I traveled for 5 years the world I meet so many people but I suffered of deep depression cuz all my friendships were very short and I always felt alone now that I settled it feels so hard to socialize with others and connect something that I'm craving so much I can relate this video with you send you tons of lovee t
I've been struggling a lot with sadness, discomfort, and loneliness for the past year. I've been going through a lot of your videos and theyre so inspiring and helpful. You're such a beautiful personality and thank you so much for posting what you do ♥
I moved to Vancouver 5 years ago. And in the first year I found my bestie. And two years after it my second bestie (online, she is in Ukraine). I was struggling a lot with loneliness. I was so sad and annoyed at the same time that people in Vancouver are all artificial and don’t want to show any depth (btw my besties have similar culture to mine so obviously I was not been able to find a deep connection with foreign culture) But then with my spiritual and psychological growth I started accepting MYSELF more more and more. And this acceptance lead me to comfort with myself. The more I shredded off my addictive behaviors the better my alone time become. Now I think like this: when I’m alone - I’m all one. Now I understand: having 2!!!! Close souls is the blessing, and I believe that my soul found exactly what she needed. So I’m more than comfortable with been alone most of the time and I appreciate every wholesome minute with my two friends This shift actually started showing me more wholesome people around me 😉
I really resonate with these words. For the past few years my attitude toward loneliness changed, and I fully embraced my time with myself. It really shifted how much I appreciate time with friends. I think before I was obsessed with it. Now I truly appreciate it.
I follow this in all my friendships and it took me time as well. I think it's important for everyone to show their friends how much they love and care about them. We should hold them and share how we feel about them while we still can. It does break that wall and creates so much more intimacy and closeness.
Thank you for leaving that sad part on the video, i'm feeling like that a lot lately, so seeing that feeling like that it's just as normal as the happy moments helps
OMG. I needed this video. Being a foreigner in another continent I've been experiencing exactly the same things. It's so hard to connect and create a strong bound
Sissel, I just wanted to say thank you. As someone living in the states, it's so difficult having a best friend living across the world and I hardly see people express this. My best friend lives in Asia as well, so we can only see each other during the summer. Communication and missing them is the most difficult part. But I can't wait until you and Sille see each other again!
This is what i struggled with most in Seoul! I have amazing work friends but when it comes to the weekend i can get so lonely. Im trying hard to learn Korean and meet people outside of work but it isnt very easy! x
I really feel you. I have moved many times and some friends are really more than friends. And even if you know we are there for each other, it's hard not to get to meet them for a while. You're so strong💗
Hi sissel….I just wanted to say I love the way you express yourself in your vlogs …thanks for making your RU-vid space a safe space and more human It’s the confidence for me❤
Wow. I have moved several times and had to re-start my life in several places as an adult. It's such a tricky thing and very energy and time consuming. It takes so much to make a life come together in a healthy way, and living abroad, without family and even with good friends - can be a very isolating experience. I'm so glad you're talking more openly about this (also in the podcast) as it's often so romanticized which makes people have such an unrealistic view of what that experience is actually like.
I purposely waited till the morning to watch this episode and I'm so touched ❤️ Even though seeing you cry broke my heart the video was so wholesome it made me want to go and hug the people in my life
I love this particular vlog as it resonates with me even tho I am not currently living abroad. You always remind us that we're worthy of love and deep connections and I am so grateful for that. I truly wish you to stay healthy, surrounded by love and also that you keep evolving to the person you are. Sending you much love and warmth as every time, to you and your loved ones, from the bottom of my heart
I love every single video you've uploaded. They are authentic and I feel you in some kind of ways. For me it's very hard to make friends in my hometown. But people changed through the years and it is ok. Send you lots of love. xoxo Dani
Omg I’m just 10 seconds in and this topic already hits right back home. 🥺 I feel so related right now. I actually have been living abroad for over 10 years now, 3 of those years I spent in Korea. And one of the big reasons I left korea was because my group of friends was also leaving. Now, we all live in different countries and it’s been so hard to find a friendship like the one we had in the new country I live now😔…
hi sissel, i've been moving places since 14 and i totally can relate to what you said that when you go to different places, people really come & go. it's sad and also really hard when you start getting older bc we usually want friendship that we can have deep connection and sometimes it is hard to come by. i like how you were so vulnerable in the camera, i just moved to a new city again and i miss my friends so much too. this helped me a lot. your vids gives me so much comfort and i really love what Cari said. Hope u too hangout more often! You guys are so wholesome! ❤ your vids are like a therapy.
💚 awww…. Such an emotional vlog this time…. But thank you for being vulnerable and sharing! I had the pleasure of meeting Sille as well, and she is indeed a wonderful woman, and I hope she can come back soon!
Thank you for this vlog. You're an inspiration for my little vlogs. I haven't left my home country but I have moved around states (USA) and I could relate to some of what you've shared. It's also just hard to make close friendships as an adult AND during this pandemic... Love you!
have always been enjoying watching you being so genuine with your emotions which actually helps me to boost my confidence in different sectors so thankful to you and your supportive community you’ve made here its literally so therapeutic to watch your videos… hope you had a really great week with your dad you’re loved sissel 💚
Hi Sisel, this topic is so interesting. I'm trying to be a better friend and learning who to show it. Showing people that they are important to me. Loved the video
Oh Sissel, watching you cry was heart breaking. You guys are so lucky to have each other and I hope you get to reunite soon. You seem like a wonderful friend and person, feel better soon. 🤍🥹
Very interesting video!! Loneliness.. I think it's extremely important to learn and enjoy being alone at some time. When the pandemic hit, at the beginning, I always say that tons of people around me discovdre that they dont know how to be alone, and they suffered extra. I think it's so important and necessary for our own shake!! Big hugs your way!
Sending so much love Sissel! ❤ What a great topic, so relatable for anyone who has lived abroad. I remember making such great friendships and inevitably people would have to go back home and goodbyes are never fun. I hope Sille’s visa situation resolves soon and she can come back to Korea. We miss her and AS! ❤❤❤
i totally felt the part you about sille, I'm a globe trotter so I don't get to see my best friends a lot and I miss them so much everyday, I wish we were more communicative because I need it but they also have their lives and I respect that completely but I miss them everyday, but my life is made for travel so I know what I've got myself into but yeah being apart from the people I love the most is hard
Thank you for this video- it was deeply affirming, as I’ve just recently started to realize- oh, other people feel this way too! As an English speaking person abroad in an English speaking country, I think while language is a HUGE factor in making native friends, it’s also social norms. They can be so subtle yet feel so alienating, like you’re missing part of the conversation and interaction. I appreciate my native friends so much but there’s an ease with people who are not only from my home country, but international ppl as well, because they feel the same way! And it’s easier to make those deep connections because of that inherent common thread and understanding. I also resonated with what was mentioned about friends moving away- I have friends all over the globe, which is amazing! But that means I don’t see or talk to them often, so from a young age, with moving, I’ve always been Too okay with being alone- what Cari mentioned about having a balance is super important, because I would be so comfortable with myself I would push my friendships to the wayside. Life is a balancing act, but a fun one filled with incredible things! You just need to find your center in the world to it to go smoothly
I really enjoyed this video. I’ve always wondered how ppl go out solo and enjoy their own company. I’ve just thought to myself I already have been doing it without realising mainly at university. I need to start going out and read a book and not care wat other ppl think about. I needed this video. Thank you Sissel! (I’m late to this as I had such a busy month so catching up on ur vlogs 💚)
Oddly enough I recently heard a quote from Vincenzo that actually sums up the bond people have with their closest friend and that’s the feeling of having 2 bodies with 1 soul. And that is 1000% how I feel about my best friend and I definitely fear the day I will inevitably have to move away from her. The big key is consistent communication to maintain and show respect to those deep bonds.
I feel this topic sooo much, my friends moved so far away now I’m here all by myself and have literally no friends nearby and feel often so lonely 🥹 wish u all the best Sissel ✨
I will most likely be moving 400+ kilometers away to go to uni in Hamburg next year. I instantly fell in love with the city and the people there so I am daring myself to just do it and start a whole new chapter in a new city. But it really stresses me out to "leave my current friends behind". I know it will not be a final goodbye but trying to get comfortable with only new people is nurturing my anxiety. And so far, I have almost always had one comfort person around me. That will change. Whatsoever, your video really helped me. It just reminds me that I will most definitely not be alone with that feeling and so far I have always found my way through uncomfortable situations and ended up meeting people who are now dear to my heart. Ahh, I have so much love and appreciation for your content and how we get to know you as a person. Thank you so much for being our life guide every now and then
Hi sissel, thank you for this video! I dunno how you always find the perfect timing lol. I moved to a different city for uni and I’ve been feeling lonely these couple of days. A different city, school and people are so hard to adjust to. I never really had a best friend, never had that connection and whenever I cared for others, they always broke my heart. So I have a few trust issues but this video helped me. Thank you! Take good care of yourself💕
What a sweet soul you are Sissel ✨️ I think having good, genuine friends is as important as having a great relationship with yourself and spend time alone like Cary said. A wonderful video and important topic to discuss 💕
Oh, you and cari are so wholesome I can just ask my universe to someday make us meet and talk and become friends 😄 as I have plans to live in Korea for later
thank you for this video - i just moved here in august and the honeymoon phase is dying down, now mainly all i feel is the loneliness. i feel happiest at work with my students, as soon as i'm alone i just feel empty and alone. thank you for your thoughts
Trust me, I feel like the first couple of months after honeymoon phase is over are the worst, but if you use it wisely to create connections it’ll soon be better again. I know you can do it 💚
I find it so hard now to want to socialise now. I have felt so awkward and like I didn't fit in and was ostracised for so long I have gotten so used to being alone. It's nice to not have to put on a mask that reduces who I am or my weirdness for other people. I guess I find it hard to let my guard down because I have been hurt so many times too.
This video has everything! I loved the usual vlog parts from your days and you talking about this special topic by yourself, but also with your friends. Thank you for sharing that! Sending you a lot of love
I feel you. Really. Although I'm not abroad. I stayed close to my hometown to be with my partner, but almost all my/our friends have moved abroad, the ones who stayed have their own brand new families and lives and I kinda feel like I'm not a part of their world anymore... and well, I'm feeling so damn lonely lately. And let me tell you, making new friends in my 30s is not easy, especially 'cause I'm not used to making friends anymore. Maybe I just needed to vent, and this video came out at the right time. Anyway, just thank you for your videos :)
Totaly get it . All my fiends moved abroad too and working remotly makes it a hundred times harder. I just dont know when to meet new people .man it was easy at school
@@fatemesh9686 I'm working all day in an office full of people, everyone has their own lives, they're not interested in making small talk, they don't even care about, or even remeber, what you said to them the day before. I don't know what's going on when we're 30. Almost 35 and still trying to figure it out XD
This video comes at a great time for me. All your videos, always actually. I wonder if it’s the universe testing people in similar ways at the same time so we can learn collectively. I’ve been making lots of new friends recently, but it feels so superficial as I only know very little about them. I suppose I need to be more intentional about my relationships and get to spend more time with some friends so we can get to a deeper level of connection 🤍✨ Thanks for sharing your thoughts and feelings as always Sissel, you’re a star in this broad universe~
Been here almost a year now and making friends is sooooo hard. It's already hard as an adult but man, being in another country is even harder. Being more in-tune and true to myself at 25 makes things easier but some days are better than others!
Although I personally do not support Carri’s channel, hearing your insights and experiences was very interesting and reminded me of my own ~ Also love the rawness and sincerity combined with great aesthetics of your videos! Looking forward to more :)
I liked the vlog for an introverted person like me I have a few friends who are like my family to me and also for someone who loves spending time with myself or traveling with myself, making friends is something that is not easy at all, especially if the friendship is outside the comfort zone which is always the first task for the last 3 Years is to get to know people, being a person who lives in a city far from my best friends, I always miss them Lily and Sophie I love you
Sissel, you made me laugh, when you laugh, but you made me cry, when you cried. ❤ I feel you. I really do. I used to be in situation, where people came, people left, and you were there always lonely. (and honestly, tired of making new relationship, new connections) Then I got in relationship, who is btw 1800 km away in France :D, and I returned to my hometown for some period time. I have to say, that I feel lonely even here. I think, it is just life and some "times" hit us a bit harder. I hope, you will feel better soon, and if not, and it will continue for long time, take a plane and come to visit your second half! Merci pupu! And stay happy and healthy! ❤
I struggle with this, not in my friendships (which I don't really have) but with my partner, whether we are physically away or even if we are in the same house, but never on the same schedule, because we are working so much. It's taken 2 years, and still more, for me to feel comfortable in those moments on my own. It takes a long time to learn about yourself, and to try new things, trying to create healthy coping strategies. It does get better! I hope you can connect with Sille soon and more, but I hope that you find a special love for yourself, and your own time, that you can cultivate.
Omg it’s my first time seeing Sissel crying... I felt it so much😢 my heart is with you❤️ I also think this video reached me at the right time. I moved to the town where my best friend currently is, and I thought it’d be nice to have her near me after 4 years of living in another city without her and trying to build strong friendship with somebody else. But it happened to be not as I expected, we distanced because of her relationship with boyfriend or maybe because of other reasons. And now I’m learning to feel ok when I’m alone again.
That’s the biggest challenge… the boyfriend. I distanced myself as well when I first met Jake, but I came back. Have you talked to her about this? I think that’s a good idea 💚
I'm saving this for when I come back home, I feel like this one is going to get me right where it hurts haha 💚💚💚 This video indeed hit home. I've never had many friends, and yet I've seen most of them go different ways than mine- even I have been the one to walk away a few times. I do miss some people, but I've learned to enjoy my own company first and be comfortable with the idea of being alone. I'm a big time introvert, I can be locked up in my room with no human interaction for days, BUT I still need to know there's someone out there for me. I really like the way you put this matter for us, because it's hard to be away from home and build relationships that last, most of us have been there when we leave our home town. I can't imagine how it's like being in another country alone. Finding deep and meaningful relationships is always a struggle, but it's worth it. Seeing you cry made me tear up a little, you were not being dramatic, you were a beautiful human that is not afraid to love 💚💚 I'm sending you a big virtual hug Sissel, and thank you for this wonderful video 💚💚💚
I'm using Sind Lavender Dream Oil Cleanser for two weeks now and it's amazing. I love it, it smells sooo good. I have a mature dry skin, and at the beginning I thought that may be it wouldn't be enough hydrating for me, that it would better suit younger skins, but it works really well ! So if you consider offering it to your mother or somebody with mature skin, don't hesitate, it does well. Hopping that some day Sissel will create a body cleanser for the bath and the shower as efficient as the facial cleanser and with the same heavenly scent !🤩
Loved this video 💚 I have always struggled to make friends, and especially to create long-lasting friendships. As a child, I was bullied at school and never felt like I fit in, and I developed a pretty severe social anxiety as a teenager. Now, I think I'm finally ready to widen my circle and meet new people. I'll take note of your tips even though I don't live abroad at the moment.
i actually have no friends now. i had one best friend for the past 15 years but it became really toxic so i had to end that friendship. i haven’t had to make friends in so long that i don’t even know how. i get really lonely. i think you and your friends are so sweet. i can tell you all care deeply for one another. i wish to have friendships like yours someday because i’ve never had that.
your videos are always so therapeutic. Thank you for the valuable tips. I currently have zero close friends.. you know at a certain age people get married and it's hard to maintain friendships. All my friends are married. Currently my bf happens to be my best friend as well. However, I have no one to have this type of deep conversations with...so in a way . when watching your videos I feel like I have one close friend, and that's you 🙂
I am in my home state and am lucky to have 2 real friends in person. I rate friendships as the quality not quantity and honestly in this day and age its hard to find someone that shares your thoughts and feelings and morals. You can feel lonely in a huge crowd of people honestly. I have made good friends based on my hobbies and realities. Many of my friends are online. I feel as though real friendships in person are so important and touch and emotional connections are all so important. I truly takes alot to learn to love yourself and spending alone time
this was such a good video... you talk so well, use the right words for everything and it's just like so.... sincere... you're really a strong young woman and we really take example on you, we are Swiss/Korean twins and want to go live in Korea as wel... anyways, thank you for this video Sissel!
loved watching this. I just moved to Germany and I know nobody here, so I have to try and make new friends. Which I'm finding quite hard as I always think 'oh how will I find meaningful connections with anybody here' but I keep reminding myself that it takes time and just keep the effort. but if you could maybe someday take about your experience or tips on making new friends in a foreign country, would be really nice. loads of love 🤍🤍🤍
Loved this video!! 🧘🏽♀️🪴 It was super cozy and the chat was so open & candid ❤ It looks so beautiful out there when it rains ✨ Greetings from Hawai’i 🌸
I'm really glad that you bring the idea of being close with your friends physically coz a lot of people see it wired also in my community it is really wired and rejected when you do it with friends with the same gender, l hope one day the let go of these thoughts
There is always two sides of the coin. I just moved out of Korea (I was an exchange student) I made some amazing friends there, some are European so they came back too but I met 2 (korean) girls (sisters) and I miss them every single day. So if you live abroad at least once and make friends there is always gonna be someone whom you will miss PS I love how aesthetic this vlog was, the quality and the colors but yet it was minimalistic in a nice way, I guess Danish people are really the best at stuff like that
i had friends but we drifted apart (as you do) but the people that I considered close do things without me and often leave me out of the circle. I decided then to just focus on myself and that they are rushing to grow up as they would constantly (and I mean constantly) drink and go to clubs and I'm not that kind of person. I prefer going around someone's house, chilling and drinking there. Now that I'm in uni, I have made new friends, but most of the clubs socials and events are all at night and I commute so it's hard for me to stay out too late. I just feel like the people that I've met are going to hang out with each other more bc they live on campus and spend more time with each other, which is only natural, but I have this fear that I will be left out of the loop again. This video has comforted me that it's normal lose and gain friends and that in the end, you will find your people. Thank you Sissel, as always, for comforting me ❤️
I really relate with what you’re saying. I was a divorce child constantly moving each week between cities. I think you reached such a beautiful conclusion in the end, it’s absolutely possible. I know you can do this 💚
I'm from Seoul and living in Germany for 8 years now. I gave up putting myself in the german friends circle. I totally get you. Here I hang out mostly with internationals. I miss the food and life you enjoy in the video though...
For 10 years I had the best relationships and friendships on social media, people were so jealous of me... yeah turns out my ex was abusive and all those friends dropped me without a second thought when I left that relationship. They couldn't believe he was abusive when he was so friendly with them. Alone and lonely are two completely different things and as you get older you really appreciate your time a lot more and learn to let things and people go. Things are rarely as good as they seem on social media. I'd love to hear you speak Danish in a future video :) I suppose you learnt English at school? It's incredible you're fluent in 2 new languages!
Oh yes, no good connections can be build on jealousy. Sorry this happened love, hopefully it has taught you the ways of true connections 💚 Edit: I’ve actually made a couple of videos in Danish ! Try to search sissel Danish and maybe they’ll pop up 🥰
