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Separated From Wife? DON'T Follow the NO CONTACT Rule (DO THIS INSTEAD) 

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@GeoffreySetiawan
@GeoffreySetiawan 4 года назад
Hey guys! Thanks for watching and I hope that was helpful. Be sure to check out my brand new masterclass on the 5 Proven Steps to Rebuilding Your Relationship/Marriage. (Warning: Spots are limited) 💪 Here is the link to the MASTERCLASS! -> relationshipsmastered.com/masterclass 🎁 Download the FREE GUIDE! -> relationshipsmastered.com/healing-partner-emotions 🗣 Join the FB Group! -> facebook.com/groups/1032426806961329/
@user-tm1my6pj2u
@user-tm1my6pj2u 4 года назад
Hi Geoffrey I just started watching you today and I love your content. I thought I was crazy for feeling the way I feel but this is helping me understand all my bad/toxic traits and now having identified them I can begin figuring out how to fix this and heal. I was wondering two things. Do you have a podcast? And if you could make a video about maybe boundaries? I mainly ask this because my boyfriend finds other women attractive and while I don't mind it does bug me everytime he randomly mentions how attractive Another girl is I just don't see the need to mentioning it in front of me? I've complained once and he basically just told me that I needed to stop being so insecure and that hurt. I don't really look at other men the way he looks at other women nor say the things he says when he looks. I just want to understand how I can get over these insecurities and anger because it really makes me upset
@jinkoelmer
@jinkoelmer 4 года назад
Hi Geoffrey, I tried to find a video about what I need , but I can’t . 2 days ago my gf was so drunk and hv a big fight with me , hit me , hell to me . She broke up with me when she lost control . Also she block me everywhere. The next day I thought she will contact me again to ask abt what happen . But she didn’t and keep block me until now . I can understand might be she felt shame abt what she did to me . I knew she just too drunk might be also no any mmrs. I just start no contact her , not annoying her also. And wait to celebrate her BD next week . But today our fd just got her text said she has a fd just passed away , she will not celebrate her bday. What shd I do at all . I want to care about her . But that fight still don’t have result . Please ;(
@sugusebatti2090
@sugusebatti2090 4 года назад
Nice Video! Forgive me for butting in, I am interested in your opinion. Have you heard about - Mahorrla Girls Affairs Method (erm, check it on google should be there)? It is a good exclusive guide for getting your wife Back minus the headache. Ive heard some amazing things about it and my good mate called Gray got great success with it.
@graciellalee2477
@graciellalee2477 3 года назад
Many thanks, I have been researching "will my wife love me again" for a while now, and I think this has helped. Have you heard people talk about - Jenaniel Forgiveness Blueprint - (search on google ) ? Ive heard some decent things about it and my mate got excellent success with it.
@savtheman19
@savtheman19 3 года назад
Hi Geoffrey, many thanks for the advise in the video . I am heartbroken at the moment with whats happening in my relationship. I will stay strong and put your advise in to practise . I am in later life and still love my wife very much . Thankyou
@IMPACTxtTinyNotepad
@IMPACTxtTinyNotepad 2 года назад
My girlfriend recently left me two weeks ago, she told me she needed to heal herself and same with myself and I understood. I still have those feelings, but I did leave the door open but I fully understand I do need to change my ways in order to rebuild it the best way I can. Thank you for this series, I’m really going to intake as much of this as I can
@Rob-ju3hr
@Rob-ju3hr 2 года назад
so how did it go
@JohnSzaro
@JohnSzaro 2 года назад
i’m in a similar spot
@hulkhulk4819
@hulkhulk4819 2 года назад
Updates AJ
@naokaicola7753
@naokaicola7753 2 года назад
Omg same
@808Affliction
@808Affliction 2 года назад
I don’t have a GF but my wife said the same thing smh.
@wizwonderful268
@wizwonderful268 3 года назад
I’m excited to better myself as a man and saving my relationship.
@johancanela06
@johancanela06 3 года назад
How is it going
@RushG
@RushG 3 года назад
I feel the issue with this is, subconsciously it leaves you in a state of wondering if she's going to come back. Which will hinder your progress.
@nathantrujillo471
@nathantrujillo471 3 года назад
True. I guess theres a balance to a lot of this. Gotta want it. But not enough to let you have too much hope.
@TrentKennelly
@TrentKennelly 4 года назад
I hope I’ll never need to Use these tips but I’ll 100% use them if I do.
@MonzonMedia
@MonzonMedia 4 года назад
Fortunately I'm in a happy marriage, we're not perfect and we have our challenges but we work hard on making it work. As you said it's important not to dwell in the past but to grow and look to the future.
@808Affliction
@808Affliction 2 года назад
I wished my wife would work on our marriage with me. 🥺
@HeartCounty
@HeartCounty 3 года назад
I really like this approach.. the strictly no-contact approach with my wife of 7 years didn't feel sufficient. As you point out, no-contact is more like an indicator of your acknowledgement of her desire to separate and of taking responsibility for your mistakes. It should not be used as a way to 'trick' them into feeling something and coming back when you've not made any changes and don't even know what the problem is. Excellent content as always Geoffrey!!
@GeoffreySetiawan
@GeoffreySetiawan 3 года назад
Appreciate the kind words David!
@tranquilambiance1751
@tranquilambiance1751 4 года назад
This is what my husband is doing to me now. And as much as I want to reconcile I'm just thinking about how badly he's been treating me and I know that if I reach out, he will feel validated, and his toxic behavior will continue to the future. So you're 100% right. He's gone too far. He is using mind games. He's manipulating and gaslighting me. And i can't anymire. The problem is he knows I'm trapped. I have 4 kids with him and I have no where to go. So I'm just not reacting to his crap atm. I don't know how it will work out. We havent spoke in 6 days even when he comes by. So over it.
@maxmaximus6671
@maxmaximus6671 2 года назад
I too am going through the same with the wife, she spends weeks to a few months with our 2 oldest kids in another state, always in a bad mood when she decides to come back and visit for a few weeks, then it's back to the kids in another state. Hardly any communication from her and if I call, she is short with me. She's retired and I'm still working, and I get that, I'm nearing retirement and not sure what I'm going to encounter when I do with her. I'll see what works best.
@Bishop355
@Bishop355 2 года назад
been with my wife for 17 years. We are living together but she wants her space. I was angry and disappointed at first. Thought she was selfish. But, I've realized that I have been a jerk and set expectations for her in my mind and I would always get upset with everything she did. She finally had enough and wanted space. I miss her, but I have to respect her space and it has been changing my emotions for the good
@aw4275
@aw4275 2 года назад
@tranquilAmbiance I going through the same thing. My husband wanted the separation. I tried everything to reconcile with him even wrote a 7 page paper on how I feel. Nothing. He said he wanted his freedom and I did not please him enough. His toxic behavior what he is doing to me sucks and I am slowly starting to not see a future with him. He keeps doing these evil mind games with me and using me and gaslighting me. He think he is the shit now. 25 yrs wasted. And we also have one child together. Its about to be over. I am done pouring my energy to him and he keeps rejecting me.
@tranquilambiance1751
@tranquilambiance1751 2 года назад
@@aw4275 oh sis 💔 you're right, they don't care about long letters or anything thats in our hearts. I left my husband. I made a break for it when I had an opportunity to go back to my home country with my kids. In his country I wouldn't have survived alone, there's no social security. And I couldn't leave without him approving for me to travel with the kids. Anyway, God almighty made a way out for us, I managed to convince him to let me travel with the kids. I found out he was on heavy drugs and had been spending all the money on them. He had cheated on me several times and is even engaged to the girl I found out about just before I left. She's 18 and he's 45. What a loser. I loved him because I thought he was high value and had self respect. I've lost all love and respect after realising how badly he had been lying to me and how low he stooped. He has ten kids, all of which he does not financially support anymore. My kids haven't received a cent from him in the last two years since I travelled. Im currently seeking divorce and maintenance, set myself a lawyer back in his country. Can't stand the thought of his stupid ass.
@tranquilambiance1751
@tranquilambiance1751 2 года назад
@@aw4275 we hang on to the years we invested. But coming out of it, I guarantee you sis, your peace is worth more than anything else. I was trapped in his psychological games and his constant promises that I meant the world to him (with no action). So it took me ages to break free. And it was just seeing the depth of his lies that made me able to get away. If your punk ass husband is telling you he doesn't want to be with you anymore, dump his sorry behind. Don't for a second give him the pleasure of seeing you needy for him.
@jacquelineball1569
@jacquelineball1569 3 года назад
In the case of long term relationships of two years or more where you have numerous memories, long term common friends etc, all playing an important part, this is the most sensible advice I have ever heard. No contact rule is just playing mind games especially if the both of you are accessing the same counselling advice! MSc
@GeoffreySetiawan
@GeoffreySetiawan 3 года назад
Glad we are on the same wavelength! There are some bad advice out there! :)
@Youtuber-lv6eh
@Youtuber-lv6eh 11 месяцев назад
Its like trying a locked box without a key. The box feels if you are too masucline, too soft, too desperate and somehow has some kind of sweetspot. Even if you open the box it might just lock again randomly. Oh forgot to mention the box is underwater and you dont have infinite oxygen. Fellas lets just leave all of this behind. Go work out. Just dates. No more relationships
@Billwilderment
@Billwilderment 4 года назад
Geoffrey! This is brilliant! As always helping people focus on themselves and what they need to change rather than belittle your partner, always works
@GeoffreySetiawan
@GeoffreySetiawan 4 года назад
Right on Bill! Thanks for stopping by!
@marcmorri9087
@marcmorri9087 3 года назад
Ty so much she said it wasn't all bad but bud when you said that all she would remember was the bad I was hammer down an got some face time with her she still needs time but she hugged an kissed me for the 1st time in 3 1/2 weeks
@abhixzgaming123
@abhixzgaming123 Год назад
My gf left me 1 month ago she lost interest in me is it possible to get her back 🥺
@JulesOille
@JulesOille 4 года назад
I was separated; married 4 years. We are good friends with an argument that went bad. I put a photo of myself on Instagram of myself and some other good looking women having (platonic) fun. When my wife saw the photo she went crazy. She later told me she felt like she’d loose me. We’re back together now. We’re back together because I told her I want her back but I’m ready to live a life
@GeoffreySetiawan
@GeoffreySetiawan 4 года назад
Awesome stuff. Seems like you found the balance between being too pushy & being too aloof. :) How's the rebuilding process going so far?
@smokingcrab2290
@smokingcrab2290 Месяц назад
She monkey branched back to you because she thinks she's better off with you
@lukespencer5371
@lukespencer5371 3 года назад
I registered for the Master Class for 23 April! I am excited to be on this journey to stay committed to bettering myself for the sake of my 15 year marriage.
@GeoffreySetiawan
@GeoffreySetiawan 3 года назад
Awesome Luke! Hope it was most insightful...
@manilanoakes3966
@manilanoakes3966 4 года назад
I had given up all hope of reconciling with my wife after she left It has been 6 months and there has been no communication from the her I have sent her letters but received the no response I decided to not contact her again and file for divorce at the 12 month mark Your videos have inspired me you are the only person who has explained how a woman feels I will continue to write with the lessons I have learnt from you
@GeoffreySetiawan
@GeoffreySetiawan 4 года назад
Awesome! I am so glad I am able to provide clarity for you!
@imperialgrind3128
@imperialgrind3128 2 года назад
What happened? Has she returned?
@MrSagesse23
@MrSagesse23 Месяц назад
Any update?
@stevejones7695
@stevejones7695 4 года назад
Hi any advice, my wife separated from me, says not in love, has no attraction and no chemistry? married 23 years.. we still live together and get along great, but just no intimacy atall, she pulls away when i try to kiss her? any advice please?
@GeoffreySetiawan
@GeoffreySetiawan 4 года назад
Hey Steve, I have a few videos on this. Check them out and let me know if you have questions: Video #1: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-KTM1JV2Qdcc.html Video #2: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-oKGUWbRQII0.html Video #3: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-WUR__OTfGrM.html
@julieryan8179
@julieryan8179 3 года назад
@@christopheraldrich7773 wow! awesome, thanks.
@imperialgrind3128
@imperialgrind3128 2 года назад
What was the outcome?
@kartikeybhardwaj492
@kartikeybhardwaj492 4 года назад
Hey Geofferey what if our partner doesnt want any contact right now. So i am forced to do the no contact. And I am trying my best to give her space.... As she does'nt want any contact right now....
@GeoffreySetiawan
@GeoffreySetiawan 4 года назад
Without the full context, do take my advice with a grain of salt. First thing - how do you know it’s time to give up or if there is hope? I always say that the opposite of love is not hate, but indifference. If your partner is still angry & upset at you, then ironically, that still means you have lots of hope. It becomes hopeless only when she is completely indifferent to you. But of course, this is not black and white, but should give you an idea on where you fall in that spectrum. If you think there is hope, then yes this definitely still applies. The whole premise here is that the more history you have, the more you need to change yourself & show her how much you’ve changed to let her know that the past does not equal the future.
@kartikeybhardwaj492
@kartikeybhardwaj492 4 года назад
@@GeoffreySetiawan thank you geoffrey. Yes i know there is a big hope and she is not upset but so pissed off right now thats why she does'bt want to have any contact with me. She needs space so badly that sge even unfollowed me on insta because sge was seeing me all over her timeline and ok if she needs space then i am giving her best from my side but also i m working on improving myself for the future...
@larrylarr2181
@larrylarr2181 3 года назад
My wife has left me. Took most of her clothes & most of the documents (birth certificates, kids s.s. cards) & left me with the kids. She is supposed to be on a travel assignment for work, but told me on Wednesday that she wants to separate. Then I found out that she has been seeing someone else for months. I asked her if she still loves me, she says “yes”. Asked her if she is still in love with me, she says “I don’t know”. Asked her if she loves the other man, she says that she can’t answer that either. She is focusing on loving herself. I just lay in bed & cry all the time. This pain is unbearable. I want my marriage & my family. How do I deal with this?
@GeoffreySetiawan
@GeoffreySetiawan 3 года назад
Keep watching my videos on managing emotions and anxiety.
@neygarcia8472
@neygarcia8472 Год назад
any updates?
@AndyHartleyComedy
@AndyHartleyComedy 10 месяцев назад
I was doing well and improving myself and she was seeing it until I drank too much and saw her with a new guy at a bar. I acted like a fool. Probably ruined any opportunities with her and i take full responsibility for it.
@EricSmith-mz7tn
@EricSmith-mz7tn 2 года назад
Geoffrey, I can't financially commit to taking the master class, but I want to let you know that you're videos help with anxiety better than videos that focus on giving your partner ultimatums.
@GeoffreySetiawan
@GeoffreySetiawan 2 года назад
Hi Eric Smith, As a reminder the free 90 min master class is completely free. relationshipsmastered.com/masterclass
@JuliaCha
@JuliaCha 4 года назад
Marriage is so hard. It's a trigger landmine... we have to work on ourselves to save it. Thanks for this video.
@GeoffreySetiawan
@GeoffreySetiawan 4 года назад
Absolutely!!
@Ekjunior-y7v
@Ekjunior-y7v 8 месяцев назад
You can say that again 😢
@Lonewolfandcubs
@Lonewolfandcubs Год назад
Hello, unfortunately my wife and I have separated and have only recently actually talked to one another. Beforehand, she rarely spoke to me except via text messages even when I tried sending her little good morning messages. Eventually I stopped all together. But as I listened to this particular video, I too began to understand the difference in this so-called “No Contact” rule as it relates to new couples and those couples who have decades shared between themselves. Yes, with 31 years together, I have to keep some form of contact with my wife, as we are well past the trying to make someone jealous or miss them. We have a long history and a future still ahead of us. And that’s what I need to concentrate on. Thanks again for opening my eyes. Peace.
@kingtitan2051
@kingtitan2051 2 года назад
What happens when she left you? And at 30 days returns but says its your fault! She waiting for you to apologize to her..
@bruegant
@bruegant 2 года назад
Damn bro, did she leave and was gone for 30 days then come back? Or did y'all communicate while she was gone for 30 days?
@Jae_Garcia
@Jae_Garcia 3 года назад
God this guy is way too good all this is helping me so much right now especially during mental health awareness
@GeoffreySetiawan
@GeoffreySetiawan 3 года назад
Hi Jae, happy this video has helped. Really appreciate your kind words.🙂
@Jae_Garcia
@Jae_Garcia 3 года назад
@@GeoffreySetiawan what would really help me is a one on one with you
@GeoffreySetiawan
@GeoffreySetiawan 3 года назад
Hi Jae, We can definitely help you through our Relationships Revival program. If you’d like to learn more about it, you can begin by joining our free masterclass here. relationshipsmastered.com/masterclass At the end of this masterclass, you will also get some information on how you can submit your application for the program. And in case you’re curious as to how life-changing this program is, or how it is MILES beyond what other programs can offer, check out the links below! Client Review Videos: ru-vid.com/group/PLQ8tvyhQlPzsNm-vC_g_8SWGcJRngefgU
@bradhorne9833
@bradhorne9833 10 месяцев назад
Hey Geoffrey, me and my partner have been seperated for 3 months now, i have said similar things to what you stated in this video , how do i go about the contact now ? Does a text message hurt here and there ? I have been watching all your videos and they have helped me alot to get through my days. Thankyou
@jennybellido3279
@jennybellido3279 4 года назад
This is interesting!
@brunobazan2247
@brunobazan2247 4 года назад
Make your changes without telling her ...and move forward
@chrizmiz658
@chrizmiz658 4 года назад
Thank you Geoffrey for giving us hope again. These tips are solid!
@GeoffreySetiawan
@GeoffreySetiawan 4 года назад
Good to see you Jhianna! Glad this resonated with you :)
@chitos2132
@chitos2132 Год назад
It's crazy man I watched the wrong videos to begin with. Luckily it's not terrible right now but happy to know the right steps too. Masterclass is no joke💪
@carmenhall6006
@carmenhall6006 4 года назад
thank you Geoffrey, it makes total sense. My Ex, gave me all 3 reason's to come back except the most important one about "changing his behavior" or working on addressing the problem...should I stay NO Contact until he realizes that he needs to change or else it'd be the definition of insanity all over again. I"ve already pointed out the reason why I walked out many times and he ignores it.
@GeoffreySetiawan
@GeoffreySetiawan 4 года назад
Hi Carmen -- for your specific situation, since you're in the early stages of the relationship, know that you're completely free to walk away from this relationship to a new one. This is not an advantage that married/long-term relationships often have. But I would really consult the expertise of a dating coach that would be more skilled in the dating/early relationship setting than I am!
@Dcmaddog12
@Dcmaddog12 2 года назад
2 year relationship ended in fight she was waiting to take an exit. Broke up 2 months ago. Haven’t spoke in about 5-6 weeks. I gave her 3 weeks of space. But she didn’t respond. I only reached out 2 times during breakup 2 months ago.. Relationship ended due to communication and my neglect / reactiveness. What can I do from here? She had blocked me on all social media to stop looking at my stuff but still has my friends and family on there. 99% sure no other guy yet but I don’t want to let some other man to come in and love her how I didn’t show mine unintentionally. Should I drop another text? I can run into he at gym but that’s about it. She’s 27. I’m 28. Her first real relationship since she was 18… what do I do? No cheating or anything just on different pages
@JamesHollowayYT
@JamesHollowayYT 4 года назад
I love all the graphics in your videos! It helps me connect with what you’re saying verbally!
@GeoffreySetiawan
@GeoffreySetiawan 4 года назад
Awesome man! Thank you for noticing. Takes me a long time to edit these videos :)
@JamesHollowayYT
@JamesHollowayYT 4 года назад
Geoffrey Setiawan it pays off!
@chrisrhutt
@chrisrhutt 4 года назад
Man this is really impactful going through a seperation right now and I feel lost..
@richiesaul9073
@richiesaul9073 4 года назад
I am a good man. When she asked for space I couldn’t understand what or why she was asking for. The loss nearly killed me. I have since mended so much of myself and literally leaped into eliminating neg self talk, earned certification in meditation, started a 200 hour yoga instructor course and the journey into healing myself. Now 3 months later I miss her so bad it hurts! She will not communicate with me at all. I don’t have the heart to try the “trick” her method of blackout and so on. After seeing this video, I have hope. I believe the love we share will persevere ... I really do, I just need to learn how to open the door and show her the changes are real and permanent .... see you in the seminar tomorrow, thank you for the hope.
@johancanela06
@johancanela06 3 года назад
How did it go
@6sharks
@6sharks 2 года назад
Any update?
@smokingcrab2290
@smokingcrab2290 Месяц назад
Dude let her go. You're killing it in life. Keep leveling up and find someone who loves you for you
@richiesaul9073
@richiesaul9073 Месяц назад
@@smokingcrab2290 I have. I finally found me. Life has become amazing!
@smokingcrab2290
@smokingcrab2290 Месяц назад
Mirror her behavior. If she pulls away, you pull away even more. All she is doing is making a power play. Don't ever chase. She will manipulate you. Her leaving is manipulating you.
@joannariseley2132
@joannariseley2132 10 месяцев назад
Is it different when it comes to a man, because the messages apparently aren’t helping to him and he says he is happy and relieved.
@bryanforman8319
@bryanforman8319 8 месяцев назад
The no contact rule doesn’t work surprised me because that’s all I hear
@samuelharding257
@samuelharding257 3 года назад
On a break with my girlfriend. It’s only been 2 weeks so pretty fresh, idk if this applies to me jow but she said she wanted a break and some space for her and I to regroup our individual lives before we come back together… do I just stick to no contact? Do I only talk to her when she talks to me first? I idk if this information applies to my break…
@cris-yo1950
@cris-yo1950 26 дней назад
My wife and I are married for 1.5 years and together for almost 2 years, we have a 1 year old daughter. Should I apply the no contact rule in this case because even tho we share a bunch of things together I feel we didnt really get to know each really well. Also, we still live together but separate rooms.
@fj4731
@fj4731 2 года назад
Hi Jeffrey You were saying Wait for her to reach out what if she dont ? How to invite her if she need space and how many weeks pass to reach out to her?
@brianmaleka9283
@brianmaleka9283 3 года назад
Just attended the masterclass and hope it was extended.I've been looking at alot of different youtube videos on how to get her back,how to communicate to your wife during a separation, what not to say and do but non of them were mind opening as this because non of them focused or gave understanding on the mindset..Thanks Geoffrey
@biancamaureencruz9799
@biancamaureencruz9799 4 года назад
Hi! I just want clarification about contacting your partner. After you said to him about “My door is always open for you.” So from then, I’ll just wait for him to message me first in any day? I won’t message him until he does it first?
@xnostalgiax6
@xnostalgiax6 Год назад
Am I doing the right thing by letting her text me and being friendly with my replies. Or should I reach out at all or check in occasionally?
@proudmanyakis
@proudmanyakis 16 дней назад
WHAT TO DO WHEN YOHR PULL OUT AGAIN BECAUSE MY SIS TXT HER NOT TO COMEBACK TO ME SO SHES GOT LITTLE AFRAID TO COMEBACK TO ME
@genasoriano559
@genasoriano559 3 года назад
Wow!! You give good advice I love it!! My husband and I are separated and I really love your approach ❤ 👍I learned so much from all your advice. Better myself is my goal that I am doing these time. You give me hope to resolve my situation with my marriage. Thank you so much for sharing.
@GeoffreySetiawan
@GeoffreySetiawan 3 года назад
Hi Gena, You are welcome! Happy this video have been insightful for you🙂. Once you follow the right processes to better yourself you will naturally heal your relationship. We can definitely help you through our Relationships Revival program. If you’d like to learn more about it, you can begin by joining our free masterclass here. relationshipsmastered.com/masterclass At the end of this masterclass, you will also get some information on how you can submit your application for the program. And in case you’re curious as to how life-changing this program is, or how it is MILES beyond what other programs can offer, check out the links below! Client Review Videos: ru-vid.com/group/PLQ8tvyhQlPzsNm-vC_g_8SWGcJRngefgU Client Review Screenshots: drive.google.com/drive/folders/1Gp8UpRV9uMlFx763BfuQnEqN930FQb7b?usp=sharing
@letsspreadtheword832
@letsspreadtheword832 2 года назад
My wife separated from me 4 weeks ago. We still text and talk. We have 7 kids oldest is 11 twins are the youngest they're 4. She now says she is not interested in getting back with me and wants to move on. But I ask her is there still hope she says idk she doesn't want it and again not interested. When I pick her up from her moms house she lets me hug her kiss her on the cheek and hold her hand all day but odk if she's just doing that for me. If she's with me everything is good its when she isn't with me its bad. Her sisters I believe are maybe influencing her but I'm not sure. Today was the 1st day her going out with her sister for lunch and I dont tryst that sister. Do you believe there's still hope for us? She believes I'll go back to my old self and lie about helping with the kids and not letting her go out with her sisters. (I know that's wrong but anyone who tries to split up a family i believe they shouldn't be around them, maybe im wring thats why I'm here.) I have changed within these 4 weeks of separation. She sees i have just says its fake and she doesn't believe i love her. She feels im pressuring her to get back with me. Idk what to do I prayed and asked God for help 🥺😔
@ysquadsgroup7574
@ysquadsgroup7574 2 года назад
My wife lives me and go back to her family because we arguing about something,she block all of my contacts my face book account, my whats app and other contacts. I don't know?
@md.rakibulislam140
@md.rakibulislam140 2 года назад
But what can I do if my wife sent me divorce latter and blocked me from everywhere please reply...
@GeoffreySetiawan
@GeoffreySetiawan 2 года назад
Again so many people approach reconciling in the wrong ways. You must first work on the real and massive changes that plagued the relationship in the first place, and only then be concerned with how to display these changes.
@SociallyNessa
@SociallyNessa 4 года назад
I am not in this situation but I can see how what you are saying makes sense. Hopefully I never have to apply these tactics
@fahdmalik3986
@fahdmalik3986 2 месяца назад
The Facebook page does not work.... Are you no longer coaching?
@shirazally6193
@shirazally6193 4 года назад
Another great video ! Does the advice in this video apply of one is separated and wife wants a divorce ?
@GeoffreySetiawan
@GeoffreySetiawan 4 года назад
Definitely! The whole premise here is that the more history you have, the more you need to change yourself & show her how much you’ve changed to let her know that the past does not equal the future. If you are facing the possibility of a divorce, then that's all the more reason you MUST show these insane and massive transformation.
@inserter400
@inserter400 4 года назад
@@GeoffreySetiawan that is where I am at. I want us back so much but the closer I get the further she moves away and the bigger my anxiety grows I am in a bad circle i can't find the way out even if I know which way I want to go.
@FLS713HTX
@FLS713HTX 2 года назад
So as far as contact goes Geoffrey like casual contact and non related to the relationship, how should I do it ? I'm almost 6 months in we txt sometimes, sometimes we have those deep convos but most times is casual, how can I make progress whenever it's not relationship talk, since no contact won't work nor limited contact is too wise either we have 2 kids what is the best thing I can do as far as contact goes ?
@johnpaulcatindig1073
@johnpaulcatindig1073 4 года назад
Hi sir Geoffrey, I hope you can make a video on how to bring her trust and love back after doing something that has trigger her traumatic past I will be truly grateful to know what to do if you make a vidoe like that
@DextMan897
@DextMan897 4 года назад
Better ourself is a long process and its not just "have some fun" and show on your social media. For true it need the help of someone (thanks for your help btw) I believe your approach is very mature and healthy. And most of the time, other coachs provide a cheap solution. Thanks for this knowledge
@GeoffreySetiawan
@GeoffreySetiawan 4 года назад
Awesome Yas! Right on -- no cheap tricks :)
@kellyatkinson151
@kellyatkinson151 2 года назад
You always reference the "GIRL" DOES THIS WORK ON THE" GUY " I HAVE BEEN MARRIED FOR 28 YEARS AND MY HUSBAND AND I ARE HAVING A LOT OF PROBLEMS and THE VERGE OF SEPARATION/ DIVORCE? He knows I don't want this we work together out of our home for 28 years there has been no infidelity on both our parts he just says I'm negative and complain too much..... I feel so helpless and my self-esteem is gone I mean look at what I'm doing right now watching this video and sending a message to you
@DavidMitchellJr
@DavidMitchellJr 4 года назад
I plan to never be in this situation but great info. Wish I knew it when I was younger.
@adamgore3422
@adamgore3422 8 месяцев назад
My wife found about an affair I had 8 years ago. She didn’t kick me out, she kept me around and tried to get past it but 3 months on from finding out, she has decided she can’t get over it and has told me to move out. I’m devastated coz I thought we were making slow steady progress, but turns out I was wrong. I really want to win her back but I have no idea how. Seems like her mind is made up.
@letsspreadtheword832
@letsspreadtheword832 2 года назад
So my wife left 7 weeks ago. For 6 weeks I tried my best to convince her to come back. Made changes. She seen the changes but scared once she comes back ill go back to the old ways. She says she's not ready and maybe in the future but not anytime soon. She's going out to concerts with her family and family parties and drinking. Should I be worried. I've seen other videos and the coach says to do the NC and it will work. I started the no contact on Wednesday so today makes 3 days. Should I use the NC or make contact???? We have 7 kids and married for 13 years. PLEASE HELP ME I NEED HELP SO I DONT BLOW TBIS CHANCE AND MAKE THINGS WORSE 🥺
@GeoffreySetiawan
@GeoffreySetiawan 2 года назад
Your partner knows that the right changes, the real changes, and the permanent changes can not be achieved in a few short weeks. Watch this video below to see what she is looking for from you in order to have hope in the relationship once again. ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-hwzvQEm6YAU.html
@Ekjunior-y7v
@Ekjunior-y7v 8 месяцев назад
Hi bro you speak well i like it, But would you please advise me? what can I do she left 2 weeks 2 ago and told me never ever should I call her. svevera times when ever we got an argument she could say so. After all what she has put me through.😢 .yes am not perfect i know somehow am wrong the way i could handle the conflict home sheleft and said i should not call . What should I do?😢
@milesedjuto1688
@milesedjuto1688 Год назад
Coach please Go through my issue is not really a long story what should I do ? after know contact for 30 days. She give me a Mixsinger. Then I ask her if we can spend sometime the day she meet me in church.. But that night was really not good. Because i had a drink then I started bring the pass issues and i started arguing with her. So we started having issues again then I keep calling her again after that day too much. Then she started pulling away from me again. So I decided to told her if that's the case am done as well. Because she now disrespecting me. When I told her that have accepted the break up that am not going to border her again. But she couldn't look me in the face. she feels weak and didn't say anything. I still love her. The way will start. She a stubborn one even when we're together. What is the way out. ? She was really in love with me before this. She was testing with different ways but I did not notice she was testing me
@KyleBritt
@KyleBritt 6 месяцев назад
I originally initiated a separation with my wife exactly a month ago. We both have alot of issues, but i am definitely the one who is worse and i felt at the time i didnt deserve her love anymore because I was constantly hurting her emotionally. She told me she loved me and would always be mine but she respected my decision... over the month, i rarely communicated with her, except for things about our children... 2 days ago I went to her and told her that ive thought about it and want to be with her and make things right, but as you said she already painted the future based on our past and now says shes done and wants to find herself... I think ive also made the mistake of crying and begging her after this to give us one more shot and now shes angry at me and cold and laughs at me crying... what do you think?
@po5541
@po5541 Год назад
Wife says she is moving out in June and we are living together but seperated for now! No communication from her whatsoever...... I told her I will work on myself but she says she's better off single and seperated.. im working on myself now
@Hondeer
@Hondeer 11 месяцев назад
So, what do we do when we put the ball in her court, but when she ball checks back, she throws it off court for you to chase?
@jdnrotterdam2150
@jdnrotterdam2150 Год назад
This is exactly what i did. I moved to My parents house for 3 weeks to give my wife space so that she can miss me again.. well it didn’t worked. We going to divorce
@rainerneumeister5239
@rainerneumeister5239 3 года назад
This is what I did after the separation . I left the door open by acknowledging my part in the break up by text. She never responded to the text and that's a month ago.
@GeoffreySetiawan
@GeoffreySetiawan 3 года назад
Rainer - Get familiar with my work. Join my masterclass. You'll see that saying the right things is
@popwayne9221
@popwayne9221 3 года назад
My dear if you want help to get your ex back
@popwayne9221
@popwayne9221 3 года назад
Message me on WhatsApp
@popwayne9221
@popwayne9221 3 года назад
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@popwayne9221
@popwayne9221 3 года назад
And I will direct you to someone who can help you bring back your ex
@LaTeefGrant
@LaTeefGrant 3 месяца назад
Thanks Geoffrey I see that patience and doing the work is what she's looking for. I made the mistake of saying I cant do this anymore with out respect which divorce is very touchy for my wife and that got us here that she wants to leave and do not trust me because I dangle our relationship over her head. Had no idea I was doing that until I followed your channel
@Michael-cb6tg
@Michael-cb6tg 11 месяцев назад
Tha ka Geoffrey ive takeb your advixe and it really helps, i did the no contact and she was really mad after two days of me not reponding and ingorning her. So now shes been texting me and seeing daily. But i still need help being non controlling and trusting her and not assuming the wrose with her all the time.
@fabio33ish
@fabio33ish Год назад
Hi Geoffrey, my wife is INSISTING on no contact. She says that me contacting her is violating her boundaries. What do I do? Give it to her?
@Slifetravelyoga
@Slifetravelyoga Год назад
We’ve been dating for 10 months then can I use the no contact with my bf?
@gonzalocastro2594
@gonzalocastro2594 4 года назад
So if we are married yet she wants space @ the moment... your saying no contact between each other ... another thing we both live with each other have two kids. We both work long hours stress / This whole virus thing / her attraction towards me / she told me she needs space and time .. doesn’t want to make a rash decisions.that she cares for our family and cares for me ...
@gonzalocastro2594
@gonzalocastro2594 4 года назад
Also what about if you know she’s talking to someone we still live together
@GeoffreySetiawan
@GeoffreySetiawan 4 года назад
Gonzalo -- There is so much I can say here, but something to think about. If you understand the process, you will thrive no matter what structure you are in. If you don't have the process, you will struggle no matter what structure you're in. Try to shift your questioning away from structural questions (e.g. Work stress, COVID, etc...) and into understanding the process (e.g. How you can thrive despite challenges). You'll get better answers that way.
@gonzalocastro2594
@gonzalocastro2594 4 года назад
Geoffrey Setiawan thank you sooo much 🙏
@bryanemerson5619
@bryanemerson5619 Год назад
I’m in a need for some personalized advice. The Facebook link doesn’t open and I cannot find the page in groups. Could someone help?
@fj4731
@fj4731 2 года назад
Hi Jeffrey Why only us need to change ? Why is it Not Her that choose to break up? Is she at Fault to initiate the breakup? Should we even forgive her for breaking the relationship?
@julieryan8179
@julieryan8179 3 года назад
Now, how do I get my husband to actually watch this video?
@scherermurillo7669
@scherermurillo7669 3 года назад
Hello
@bigtimmychungus5167
@bigtimmychungus5167 6 месяцев назад
What about one year and 3 months? But with 2 months of total separation so a year and 2 months total? Does this apply to that? Or is that still dating especially if I hurt her so bad that she went to rebound with someone else?
@jaimeespinoza6750
@jaimeespinoza6750 3 месяца назад
Thank you for this. Totally makes sense and is definitely what I’m doing and have been doing. Appreciate you brother
@tomparis258
@tomparis258 10 месяцев назад
What if ive already spent the last 3 months doing everything wrong and now she says she is in love with someone else? Does this approach still apply??
@depaksingh7006
@depaksingh7006 4 года назад
The more i follow is a little better where I am understanding were my relationship is.
@GeoffreySetiawan
@GeoffreySetiawan 4 года назад
So glad to hear this buddy!
@thatguyzm
@thatguyzm Год назад
Everything in this video makes so much sense but how do I reach out when my wife has blocked every single channel of communication?
@haseefahmed880
@haseefahmed880 Год назад
Hi @geoffrey. The fb group link isn't working. Can you please tell me the exact group name?
@412xtaint
@412xtaint Год назад
What if the reason you’re separated? Is your wife is so paranoid that you cheated on her(never ever ever have) she’s absolutely obsessed about it
@mikthe2004
@mikthe2004 Год назад
By the time your wife decides she wants to separate, it's all over!! No contact, or partial contact as suggested here - won't work. She's made her decision. I've been married 17 years, and have been fighting single handedly for our marriage for the last 3 or so! Now I've accepted the inevitable. We're separating. I'm not throwing in the towel, but I'm not too invested in whatever the outcome will be.
@dhanunjayreddy4477
@dhanunjayreddy4477 2 года назад
I have 7years relationship with my gf we got married without knowing her parents we are now separate because we are waiting for her parents acceptance , in mean while I was struck with another girl , she know that relation so she broke up with me , I have better romantic and understanding level relationship but we got separated because I have cheated her. Their parents got better opportunity to separate us , please provide me better solution she Will come back or not actually she is stubborn is it possible to comeback I want know
@graylobo133
@graylobo133 2 года назад
Naaa she asked for separation, but she is also part of the problem. This makes sense when the dude was the only one who fk up
@raygacy
@raygacy Год назад
Hi Geoffrey! 1st and foremost just wanna say is I love your videos! Does this work for 1 year plus relationship or only for more than 5 years or so?
@krysdavis3792
@krysdavis3792 2 года назад
What if it’s her she’s doing no contact to me and I’m respecting her wish to not bother her. I try to farm and just change my responses but I’m also in this process of self discovery to change. I don’t want to do no contact but I understand that I cannot force her to respond or talk to me. What do I do?
@jaseh2009
@jaseh2009 2 года назад
My partner of 17years has asked for space, its our 17th anniversary this Tuesday am just wondering what would be the best way to play this? Do I text her about our anniversary or get her usual gifts or do I just not bother? So confused what to do here any advice would be appreciated.
@adansaucedo2759
@adansaucedo2759 3 года назад
thanks bro your awesome
@NoName-xe3yy
@NoName-xe3yy 4 года назад
Could you please tell me whether six months relationship is long term relationship? We’ve been together for only a few months but we’ve been seeing future with each other.
@remyd1984
@remyd1984 Год назад
No it’s not.
@4640280
@4640280 4 года назад
Separated from my wife for a few months now and I tried to be as present and happy as I can with her even though it broke my heart she wanted to be separated. Now it's like I have no hope and I am going back into hiding because being present and doing the things I wanted to like being there for her..didnt change how she felt even though we still live in the same house. She is adamant on her decision..and I guess its disheartening and I dont know how much more I can take.
@4640280
@4640280 4 года назад
Haha what? No thanks
@clayallen4354
@clayallen4354 2 года назад
@@4640280 how is it going
@firemayne
@firemayne 8 месяцев назад
I'm going on the first date since she left and I'm nervous about it and don't know how to act
@Rbear266
@Rbear266 2 года назад
I kinda did this i think, at least after I had emotional breakdown. And now it’s been 2 weeks and she still hasn’t reached out. I really want her to see who I am becoming. Because I really do miss her.
@clonusmaximus4600
@clonusmaximus4600 2 года назад
My fiancée broke up with me. Do I still contact her?
@JohnDoe-et4oq
@JohnDoe-et4oq 3 года назад
Geoffrey I really need your help. I’ve been with my girlfriend for 2 years and she feels like she wasn’t appreciated when she used to be emotional and when she used to “care” about everything. I wasn’t being the boyfriend I should of been and I need help in getting her back. We’ve been arguing a lot and today she has talked about ending it for good I just don’t know what to do I feel like I’m going crazy 😣
@GeoffreySetiawan
@GeoffreySetiawan 3 года назад
Hi John, We definitely can help you through our Relationships Revival program. If you’d like to learn more about it, you can begin by joining our masterclass here. relationshipsmastered.com/masterclass At the end of this masterclass, you will also get some information on how you can submit your application for the program. And in case you’re curious as to how life-changing this program is, or how it is MILES beyond what other programs can offer, check out the links below! Client Review Videos: ru-vid.com/group/PLQ8tvyhQlPzsNm-vC_g_8SWGcJRngefgU Client Review Screenshots: drive.google.com/drive/folders/1Gp8UpRV9uMlFx763BfuQnEqN930FQb7b?usp=sharing
@JohnDoe-et4oq
@JohnDoe-et4oq 3 года назад
@@GeoffreySetiawan joining the master class today in 20 minutes!
@trumalc
@trumalc 2 года назад
@@JohnDoe-et4oq Did everything work out?
@garychen9831
@garychen9831 Год назад
My gf broke up with me a couple months ago. We dated for 3yrs. She recently asked that we go no contact a week ago for 3weeks. We had volatile relationship. She is now seriously dating someone. Would this work? Any chance to get her back?
@GeoffreySetiawan
@GeoffreySetiawan Год назад
How can you be asking this question after we've literally launched countless interviews with our clients facing worse situations than you, and we've been publishing these interviews once every two weeks for literally the last 2 years. And literally, the last interview we published showed someone who is ALREADY DIVORCED and whose partner was seeing someone else when he joined the program? How? How many more times and in how many more ways do we need to tell you that no situation is too dire/unique? That if you become 10x your ability to create the 5 pillars, etc, the rest will take care of itself...
@randomfilms1625
@randomfilms1625 Год назад
I have done what u said to my wife . So now what shall I do
@naokaicola7753
@naokaicola7753 2 года назад
Is she doing this to me because these things are happening to me but with the table flipped😭
@winza.a8682
@winza.a8682 Год назад
How do i do this if her posting on facebook that she has someone new but she faking it?
@captaincoconut457
@captaincoconut457 2 года назад
Can the betrayed spouse feel like the dumpe because she just had to react after you "decided" to dump her by being unfaithful?
@marcosespinoza4415
@marcosespinoza4415 4 года назад
I did exactly what you are saying in this video. She has reached out a couple of times. I just need to show her that I am trying to change.
@luigimalaga6844
@luigimalaga6844 2 года назад
What if theres a 3rd party invoveled and shes asking space for it. Also shes too tired about our relationship?
@GeoffreySetiawan
@GeoffreySetiawan 2 года назад
Hi Luigi Malaga, Have you seen the many videos I have on this topic? I will link one below. Feel free to follow this up with any other I have on my channel or any questions you have on this topic. ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-LRqKS-Vkm18.html
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