Seven Mistakes That Will Stop You From Winning a Custody Case 

How about if under the care of my Ex , they have been molested and she did nothing about it and I just found out about it , she has been negligent?

What about a parent who has borderline personality disorder?

@@jessokcool1 you need proof like hospital records showing that child has been sexually violated and have doctors subpoena to court.

@@CosmicHumanHealing can you prove it? You can't just yell "witch" anymore without proof.

This court game of ambush has me jumping through moving hoops in south Africa

Thank you. Me and my exes 10 year old daughter is being groomed and kept from me now for 2 weeks. I have soooo much saved, including admitting telling her I'm on drugs, blocking me constantly from her phone, even got her school to not let me get her because neither of us have custody. CPS placed her with him (he's a registered sex offender here in Florida, since she was 2).... so scared and I get angry and sad and text A LOT. How long should I wait before filing anything because this is just one more thing that could make me look bad

Yep!! Also, purposely push communications to text, email or an app as much as possible WHILE making sure that you remain calm & rational. Personal example, my husband was recently appointed sole conservator of his two girls. His ex has a drinking problem. This past summer she got drunk, went online, met a total loser and invited him over to her house for a little “adult time” while the girls were asleep in their beds. She then passed out and basically left herself and two young girls vulnerable and alone in a house with a complete stranger she’d met online literally only a couple hours prior. The oldest (9) was introduced to him the next morning when she found him in her mom’s bed. After that, he never left. Just moved right in and my husband’s ex immediately began leaving the girls alone with him. Any concerns my husband expressed were ignored or laughed off as “you’re just jealous.” We now know the bf is NOT a good person and that the whole time they were together he’s been using opiates and has messed his mind up so much that he hears voices in his head and is super paranoid. Like, he thinks the voices in his head are FBI agents and that they’re mad that they’ve never been able to put him in prison. He even thinks these FBI agents can use his eyes to see what he’s seeing. The female agents apparently flirt with him and participate in a little “personal” time while they watch adult entertainment videos online together. Yeah, It’s bizarre to say the least. Anyway, the bf was a problem, rather… her complete disregard for the girl’s safety and her refusal to put them first was, and still is, a huge problem. Once my husband realized things were clearly heading in a direction that he may have to step in to protect the girls, I advised him to push convos to text so he had time to think before responding and so he could choose his words carefully and hopefully get her to admit to things. So he did. One of the very first texts he expressed his concern and listed out her drinking, how she met the bf, how she brought him over the first night with the girls at home, how she allowed him to start texting the oldest after knowing him only 5 days, how she let him move In immediately and how she was leaving the girls alone with him. Her response? “You’re so right. I know I’ve screwed up and I shouldn’t have done those things. I poured all my vodka down the sink. I’m done with it. I realize how much damage it has caused. Besides… my bf said he wouldn’t stay with me if I keep drinking.” Of course, this was still early on and he was still playing good guy and hiding the fact that he was also an addict. That was the first of many admissions and I also kept a running timeline of literally everything’s that happened including the dates & times. I’m sure you can imagine how helpful those were in the long run and how much easier we made things for our attorney!! Already long story short, 6 months later she OD’d after she drank half a handle of vodka in a couple hours and took a couple pills he bought off the street. Paramedics needed two doses of narcan to bring her back. We got a call from a cop we know at 1:30am. We rushed to pick them up then refused to return them and called our attorney to start the process of filing for emergency custody. She eventually had her bf and friend lie for in court but because we were so diligent about pushing convos to text and recording any calls, we were able to easily prove they were all lying! It can be a pain and difficult to remember to record things but it pays off in the long run!

You're welcome, Simon! Best of luck to you!

You're welcome, Michelle!

You mean creepy painting? Thing looks like some sort of demon

@@jb16237 So are you saying Indians are creepy ?

No..and you are assuming it's indian.... Demons come in all shapes, sizes and colors. You get offended by it if you want to... haha I don't care about your feelings sorry snowflake. It's spiritual not racial you clown.

Exactly what about the painting gives you the impression it’s an Indian? Looks like some guy who happens to be a pimp cuz he has that furry jacket and the hat. The only Indian thing about him is his long black hair.

what's the update here? Wish you the best.

California is known for its bias for mothers. I'm glad I don't live there.

Sorry for your pain, sir. That will not work in her favor, especially since you asked her to stop. I hope you win your case and be a great father to your daughter once she's under your custody.

That’s a personal issue between you two - she can still be a good mom and your private conversations on an app is private from the kids anyways. Grow up

@@katrinat6314 reported. Please try to be civil.

@@robofpv6241 lol okay I see you don’t like free speech- you must not be A 🇺🇸 American. Instead of attacking free speech, let’s look at your rationale- why are your kids reading what’s on your court app????

@@katrinat6314 wtf? You are acting like a total Karen. Where did you get the crazy idea my daughter reads my Talking Parents transcripts? Those chat logs are between her mother, the judge and myself. My daughter doesn’t even know how to use a phone, nor does she even have one. You just insult people without knowing what’s really going on. I came here for advise and help, not to be belittled and insulted by some crazy Karen. Then you resort to cleverly disguising your insults.

Me too. I have so much documentation but can't get the judge to view it. I don't know what to do.

So glad you found it helpful!!

YES. That’s what the ex is doing. I filed for a parent coordinator, he missed 5 court dates and only shows up upon being served with a contempt order. Then he filed for full custody while we were still in mediation. Then he told the parent coordinator that he would give me full custody. Then he told the kids they had to choose which parent they want to live with. So there are motions at work that overlap and it’s just nonsensical but I can’t get off the merry-go-round. There is no emergency, we are both good parents, love our children, but now I feel like the ex is hurting them by making them choose one parent or the other. It’s really heartbreaking but I’m just trying to keep a clear head and take good care of my children. ❤

@@77greenmama how does all of this go? When the other files for contempt of court what happens ?

@@javesday8814 I didn’t actually file for contempt. He was served by the court after missing 5 summons. Then he had to go before the judge and explain why he hadn’t complied with the 5 summons and why he refused to meet with the Parent Coordinator after being ordered to do so. He sat there in a suit & tie and told some BS story about how I wouldn’t pay my half of medical bills, after he had violated the order by signing up our kid for braces and giving me a bill for $3000. I told the judge that our custody agreement states that 1) I am responsible for medical decisions and 2) I simply do not have $3000 for a non-emergency medical procedure that I didn’t consent to. He was so charming and “frustrated” with my behavior in his description, that the judge decided NOT to hold him in contempt or arrest him. It was a classic narcissistic flip. The judge did order him to comply with mediation, during which time he filed the motion for full custody. After 4 mediation sessions we still didn’t resolve anything so pre-trial hearing is in March. It’s absolutely ridiculous but the narcissist’s power is not to be underestimated. Sadly enough.

I don’t understand what you mean by judge doesn’t like men staying home. They still have such bias today? How did your case turn out?

50/50

From what I understood both parents are responsible for provide discovery. How did your case go?

Mine says it needs to be done 14 days prior to trial.

Usually all parents get visitation unless it's something really bad. You did good.

Praying for you. Best wishes!

Best advice start by talking calmly and slowly tell the. Tell them you are the matriarch of the family tell them how each day has gone while the child has been in your care then sit back you have done your best In The best interest of the child if they ask anything else tell them you are very concerned for the child ok

Have the mother sign temporarily custody or guardianship over to u & get it notorized & file it with the court family Division .Might b away around having to deal with establishing custody of the child right now u have no legal custody so it will b easier for bio grandparent to get custody .The child needs to b in someone's custody legally if not in parents custody . u really need to get mom & dad if possible to sign rights of the child o er to u GOOD LUCK !!!!

Visit the legal aid at the court house

Yes ma'am you most certainly can

Good for the judge. Sometimes mothers disregard court orders and disregard the fathers. Mom needs to learn to include father on decisions.

what did you do for the judge to grant sole legal decision making to the husband?

It can be tough as hell being a single dad. I talk about my own struggles/dealing with child support on my channel if you think it’ll help you. Keep your head up and fight. 🤝

Old people sink

Sorry this happened to you. I don't have representation either. If you could go back how would you provide that? Did you ex have a lawyer? If he didn't to whom and how would you provide that.

My ex filed for divorce when we were still living together. I have always been worried about law. I let my daughters with him. It's been 11 years since I let the house. I see them when I can. They live in California and I live in nj. I didn't know about my rights as a mother. I don't know what to do. I asked him to send my younger daughter to come to visit me and he said maybe. "The maybe means no" when I go to visit my daughters he always wants to be with us. I never felt comfortable. I'm the mother and I have rights to be with my daughters. I don't have the strength to tell him. I'm still scared of him. He didn't treat me well when I was with him.

I hear you. That has happened to me too. It's not right to be abused all over in a court room. It has shocked me to see how women are dismissed.

Where do you live? I feel like they would only listen if you have a lawyer or attorney

I have good reasons too

Get a different lawyer asap! I’m so praying for you

Writ of assistance will enforce any court orders?

See if your phone can time stamp when the screenshot was taken.

Yes pull down your screen so time and date shows and screen shot it!! Or have your date and time on the top of your phone so that it shows during the screen shot. Also newer laptops screen shot the page with date Nd time as well! Good luck!

Post itself it's enough evidence

May Santa Muerte intercede on your behalf

Judges are usually Narcissists too

This is typical, don't take it personally. Just keep record of what you've filed with the court and when.

They most likely did that because you didn’t adhere to the Rules of Evidence. You should be able to find them in your state statutes

Same thing...they do that to pick you to see how you react, slash everything you say, but they let the accused say what they want without backing up what they say with evidence...Just stay calm.

Same

Happened to me also

Indeed it does, Brian. Sadly, it does happen. However, the one thing I always want to avoid is being accused of the person/party doing the ambushing. That's why I disclose early and often!

@@Commandthecourtroom Do these disclosures have to be physical copies of what you're presenting in court or just descriptions of what you will be presenting in court. For example; if I have pictures can I just reference them or must I give the other side copies

Eyore mental health?

It can be tough as hell being a single dad. I talk about my own struggles/dealing with child support on my channel if you think it’ll help you. Keep your head up and fight. 🤝

This is sure fire way to lose custody.

Exactly, it's best to read your jurisdictions family law code for yourself. Often they aren't even following guidelines and essentially violating the false claims act.

@@mysticalstylings2456 false claims act?

Hoping the best for you and your child. This sounds exactly like what happened to my father with his son. Unfortunately, he always paid child support and never got the visitation he deserved. Fortunately, my father and I were both able to form a relationship with him once he reached adulthood and could reach out to us on his own. Even though I didn't get to grow up with my big brother, I love him dearly.

@@akialanae9497 God bless you an your family 🙏🏽send nothing but positivity your way

Yes you will get visits. How did your case go? Any updates

no chance. court is a big joke. you will pay child support and still not see your child. do not man up. you will regret it. turn your back on the child unless you can some how get the mom thrown in jail and assume custody

Don’t listen to these people saying no chance. You have just as many rights as the mother. Keep records of anytime you reached out to see your son. You did the right thing filing for parental rights and responsibilities. Alot of men dont and here you are 19 years old taking the initiative. A judge will see that! I guarantee you will get visits. Smoking weed is not an issue as long as its not when your child is present. Ask for every other weekend. Or if that is too much start with day visits every other week and ask the judge to start with that and if you stay consistent for maybe 4 months then ask for overnights every other weekend. A judge wants both parents involved whenever possible. Go for it! That is your son there is nothing to lose. Also anytime u file anything in court ask for a waiver of fees . Ive done almost all my court stuff for free with no attorneys. Only costs money when i have to have a sheriff serve him. My situation different father was in prison 5 out of 7 years of our sons life and very abusive to me.

Ughh, Ashley, I feel you. So frustrating and scary when being self represented. If you are still fighting your case, good luck and God bless. 🙏

Not true in North Carolina

Statistics don’t lie

Lol not true

Be a good person, be responsible, show up to court on time and be respectful to the Judge.

Wear the best suit you can find

I’m sorry you had to go through this