Sex After Hysterectomy - My Story and Tips about Hysterectomy and Sexuality 

Had a hysterectomy at 33 years old after severe endometriosis. Am now 66 years old. ABSOLUTELY NOTHING CHANGED. I got my life back. Best decision I ever made. No more pain, no more Pms. I also kept a piece of 1 ovary. No hormones were prescribed. Best thing that ever happened to me.

This made me feel approximately 1000x more hopeful and actually almost excited for the procedure. Can’t wait to have my quality of life back!

It’s a shame that surgeons don’t talk about this in the way you’ve presented it. It was excellent! I will refer this video when the topic comes up.

I’m 36 and I just had my second unsuccessful leep procedure so now I’m booked for a hysterectomy. You have eased my mind about it so thank you!

Thank you for being so open about your experience. This really helped me. I am having surgery in a few months for a subtotal hysterectomy. I was panicking about the after and thinking of backing out of surgery because of misinformation others had put on the Internet telling me I could never be normal again or experience sexual pleasure post hysterectomy. This gave me hope. Thank you.

Thank you Jessica for these videos- I am 5 weeks post hysterectomy and your advice has been so helpful- in fact I am doing my kegels right now while typing. In this video the idea of "mourning" before going into surgery- yes! I am a Life Cycle Celebrant- so naturally I thought about rituals and ceremonies on how to say "goodbye" to my uterus. Before my surgery I "took" my uterus (aka myself) to favorite places, took photos and documented on my social media our goodbye tour. We went leaf peeping, mountain biking on our favorite trail, to a concert, and we looked through photo albums together of our pregnancy photos. It was a proper goodbye, and I built up such as story about our final adventures- the surgery felt like teamwork and I had no problem letting go. It was all good fun but sweet and helpful too.

This is informative. Guys like me should also watch this and have an understanding what happens after the operation. Guys are usually not ''symphatetic'' so this will help.

I just want you to know how much these videos have helped me mentally and emotionally. In 3 months I will be having the exact same surgeries, I am 36 years old and am genuinely terrified and trying to google any information is doing more damage than good lol. So thank you so much for making these videos you truly are a blessing!!

I’m 7 weeks po and I was extremely alarmed when I found out my canal could shrinkafter surgery (and it did make a difference with sex at first). I was also one of those ppl who worried about the cervix because it was something I used sexually or so I thought. You cleared that up. Thank you so much!!

Just found you !! I am less than 1 week out from my radical hysterectomy due to cervical cancer. Thanks for all the good info.

My beautiful ladies I had my full hysterectomy 4 months ago my two ovaries are there ,my experience is I wish I had it long time ago I feel happy woman no more pain my husband is very happy because no mood swing I feel more young no more sex pain... anything she telling us 100% true

Thank you jessica. I a a wk after my hysterectomy. I am trying your exercises gradually. This video is very informative, uplifting and encouraging. There is nothing to fear!

They called mine a radical hysterectomy back early 90s. The one thing that really helped me stay away from Premarin was an herbal choice of black cohosh in Remifemin. Some of those hot flashes are down right horrible. This keeps me sane and a little drier! Helps a bit with mood swings too I think. I love that your excercise is slow and impactful. I do not like heart pounding exercise anymore. Will be trying this on my lower back pains. Thanks for making it simple and meaningful as well. Most of all, thanks for sharing!

I can't thank you enough for making this video and sharing your story! You give me hope it will all be okay!!

Thank you for your honest comments regarding your surgeries. I am scheduled for the same surgery in the next month and you’ve helped me develop questions for my doctor.

Great informative video. I’m 7 weeks post op, I had everything out through abdominal incision. Overall I’m feeling pretty good. After suffering from multiple fibroids, endometriosis and adenomyosis having a hysterectomy has been a blessing!🙏🏻❤

i went into this hoping to know more about the women around me, but as a 60 year old man with prostate cancer, i found it informative for me as well.

Thanks for your candid and open discussion on this sensitive, but really important subject though i am a guy with a wife who died to cancer 20 years ago I've got 4 friends that have lost their wives to uterine and cervical cancer they were/are devastated by their loss as well as myself to,our best friends and mates!! I appreciate your channel it really helps with strengthening and stretching my body, i believe you use good science and helpful instruction !! And for bravely sharing your story maybe someone won't die because of your sharing!!!

Can I just say, you look absolutely stunning, gorgeous & beautiful for 41. Thanks for bringing up the topic & sharing your story because I know, It’s not the easiest topic to talk about. Thank you, Happy holidays & God bless you & your family!!!

Thank you for sharing! It's been 10 days since I had my surgery. I feel good so far! :)

I had a hysterectomy due to fibroids. My doctor said keeping the cervix gives more support to the pelvic wall. I have never had children but did not want to end up with a prolapse so I kept my cervix. If you test negative for HPV and have the same partner, annual pap tests are not required. One thing that really made me want to keep my cervix is because of the "vaginal cuff". That is where they sew up the top of the vagina where the uterus and cervix used to connect. I read horror stories of women having a vaginal "blow out" during sex ( the vaginal cuff split open) and I certainly did not want that! It is one of the risks of removing the cervix.

Thank you Jessica I’m 3 week post abdominal hysterectomy I needed to hear this 💖

I love this video. I am nervous about my hysterectomy coming up. This makes me feel more at ease. Thank you for telling your story. Definitely will watch more. 😊

Thank you! I have stage 4 endometriosis and I'm BRCA1+. I'm at a crossroads so this is helpful to hear your experience.

Practical information thank you for sharing your experiences. So interesting to learn you feel empowered now. I'm week 4 post hysterectomy and can feel this too as a sense of self assurance.

Excellent information that was well articulated. I had it 2 1/2 years ago. Truly the best thing to happen to me. Endometriosis and fibroids were my culprit.

I am so glad and blessed to come across your videos. I am 52 and perimenopause and have been diagnosed with stage two prolapse about a year ago. I have been dealing with it going to physical therapy, but it seems that I may be getting a little worse, I can feel my cervix and see it, my job keeps me on my feet running back-and-forth and it’s been extremely busy lately. I don’t know if that has part to do with me getting worse extremely nervous about getting surgery. My regular GYN feels I shouldn’t have it. I should try to maintain it, but it is truly annoying and I’m comfortable most days, not sure what to do

I just found your video on my feed, saw the title and knew I had to watch. I can’t believe I’m going to share this, but…I had an emergency hysterectomy at 44 due to massive blood loss during my periods. I have no children, I am now 54, post-menopausal (kept my ovaries). I always knew I had a “short” vaginal canal. At no point pre-surgery did my surgeon ever tell me that in removing my cervix, it would get even “shorter.” Sex was incredibly painful afterwards, to the point my husband became scared because he did not want to hurt me. Result? We have not had intercourse in 8 years. We love each very much but our marriage has obviously suffered. The lack of intimacy just grew into what is now a sexless marriage. I am embarrassed, ashamed, feel guilty all the time, and I don’t know how or what to do to fix it. I figure I’m probably “frozen” at this point. So, I’m watching this in tears, wishing I had had a better surgeon, that I asked more questions. Thank you for doing this video, I think and hope you can help a lot of women avoid the sad situation I’m in now.

I’m so grateful for this super informative video! You have covered absolutely all real questions that start bombarding women’s mind right before the operation !

Thank you Jessica! This video is so helpful and made it easy for me to make a decision about getting hysterectomy.🙏💙

I had the exact same surgeries today. This video is so informative and reassuring ❤️ thank you for sharing

Thank you for this! My situation was identical to yours down to one ovary. So you answered my questions not only about sex but the hormones as well.

I had a open myomectomy 7weeks ago. Very helpful, thank you very much.

This has me in tears I've had all these questions Thank u so much

Thank you so much for this fruitful informations,, I undergone TAHBSO procedure last Dec. 18,2021,,it was not an uneasy for me especially the 1st week after my hysterectomy.. I experienced gas pain, or feeling bloated but it was a best decision for me,, after suffering a uterine bleeding for almost 10 months,, Now I'm feeling much better now... Thank you for all the informative videos you uploaded,, it's helps a lot,, God bless

Thank you Jessica... I’m 2 weeks after my op, long way to go but feeling confident all is well, this information is so helpful and reassuring, 🙏🏼x

Thank you for being brave enough to talk openly about this! I think it's so helpful and so important for us to be able to talk about it openly- it makes it less scary! Thank you and take care X

Thank you so much Jessica for sharing your story. I began following your videos a few months ago after having my hysterectomy age 30yo. Making the decision to have surgery was (for me) the best thing I've ever done for similar reasons that you stated. Your videos are fantastic, they've been very helpful in my recovery :-)

That is such an important topic to talk about! Well done!

This is such invaluable information. I appreciate you taking the time to explain, give comfort, strength and inspire confidence. Thank you🙏💪❤

Thank u…feeling a lil better after watching. This has been a mourning period for me some don’t seem to get. So thank you for that!

Thank you! 😊 Nine days after my abdominal hysterectomy. I am also 41. You make me feel so confident!

Thank u for this information I love how you give us those words that we need to hear sometimes someone need to listen how powerfull we are as a women

Thank you for sharing and talking openly - You're awesome!

I’m 42, having a hysterectomy due to endometriosis/adenomyosis and fibroid. Having sex now, is painful. I’m looking forward to end the misery that I’ve been battling for several years. I will be keeping my cervix and both ovaries

Thank you for speaking to the sense of loss before the surgery. I’ve been feeling so emotional thinking about losing my reproductive system. The female doc I consulted with was NOT compassionate about this, so I’m looking for another doc.

I’m 38 and a year out from my hysterectomy and I wish I had done it sooner! Best decision ever, and the sex life is sooo much better!

This was very helpful. Im scheduled for my hysterectomy on May 1 and this helped me ask the right questions to my doctor

This is so helpful. I am having a laproscopic hysterectomy on Thursday. I was a nervous wrecking thinking about how it was going to inpact my sex life. Thank you again, this video is so informative.

Thank you! I’m about to have a hysterectomy and this was so helpful. xx

This is informative and reassuring. You impart such great information. Thank you!

Thank you Jessica I just had mine today 💗

I'm lucky to have watched this... It has energised me. Im booked in a weeks time

Thank you so much for sharing your own experiences. It helps so much to hear this especially from someone with expertise in this field.

Thank you very much for sharing this information. I appreciate it. Great info!!

Having surgery in a month. This is very informative... Thanks.... Going to watch the Video on exercises after surgery...

This is such a great informative video. I am 38 and had a hysterectomy almost 3 years ago and now zero libido. I found this video searching for help to increase my libido again for myself and my husband.

I am a male,but still,I honestly feel to have attended a cool medical counselling lecture... specially the introduction of four parts and their sequence of explaination.I have a passion for medical lectures, specially surgery and psychology like human behaviours.

Your videos have answered several questions I was hesitant to ask my doc who was so against having the procedure because of my age. I had my hysterectomy 7 weeks ago and turned 40 a few weeks after. Now after watching your videos I more or less know what to expect and actually looking forward to living a pain-free life after years of suffering through endometriosis. Thank you!

I just had my surgery done so I thank you so much for the information .

Thanks for sharing your story very informative and helpful!

Your videos are awesome. I was expecting to have to go down the RU-vid rabbit hole to find authentic information for my future surgery for a hysterectomy. But you cross all the bases without making me Doubletap the ff button 😆 Thank you!

You are so lovely. Thank you for these videos, they are extremely useful to me atm as I shall be going through this in May.

Had my hysterectomy the same as you on wednesday thank you so much for your videos they are great. I hurt really bad the first 3 days, but then ibprophen helped but the constipation is real and horrible. Finally walking and getting around good.

Thank you for sharing your experience. I just learned about the procedure and I’m educating myself on it.

You are so generous and strong woman, thank you so much♥️

You are providing invaluable information to women regarding hysterectomy. Bravo and thank you, Jessica! 👏🏻👏🏻🙏🏼🙏🏼😀

Thank you so much 😭 was looking for this video for a week after my hysterectomy It really helped ❤️

Thanks for sharing your hysterectomy story. I had a full hysterectomy- removal of my uterus, cervix, and fallopian tubes in 2022 at the tender age of 50. The linen of my uterus was embedded with fibroids and I had a huge fibroid the size of a melon that had grown outside of my uterus; connected to my uterus from a stem that looked like a bone. From the photos it looked like I was carrying twins. In fact, my uterus had grown to the size of a woman that’s 7mos pregnant so I looked pregnant. My surgeon decided to keep both of my ovaries because they were so thick and in tact; according to my surgeon’s statement and Pelvic MRI- like that of a 20yr old. In addition, I still had so many eggs left and prior to my hysterectomy, I was still having menstrual cycles. My twin sister and I are now 52 and she still has a monthly cycle which means I would too had I not had the hysterectomy. Overall, I feel great and am still se*ually active with hubby. After my 6wk post-surgery checkup with my doctor, she said the cuff had healed well and I could have se*. Lastly, my surgeon performed a bikini incision and I was glued back together. You can’t even tell I had surgery. I was up and walking the day after my surgery and was fully healed within 6wks. I also did not take any pain medication. It was the BEST decision I made.

thanks alot , am going to share this video to one of my patients

Thank you for sharing educational, informative, valuable & helpful video.

Thank you so much for your honesty. I'm about to have a Partial Hysterectomy due to Fibroids, so my doctor had discussed the procedure with me, an after listening to you I feel much better. Thank you an keep on educating us women out here♥️

Thank you so much for addressing this issue.

I am happy I came across your video. I had my hysterectomy 7 wks ago and had my post-op check-up at 6wks. All was good and healed but still a few internal pains. For the first 2 wks, I felt I had gone to hell. After my check-up, my partner has been caring. When we were about to have sex he picked up I was scared and so we just did him. I am still concerned about the internal healing and I am patiently waiting for 12 wks time-lapse and so is my loving partner.

I had a histerectomy last 7th of January. Still recovering. My doctor advised sex with penetration, 2 months after the date of the surgery. He said after total recovering it will be totally normal. Thank you for this video.

We have the exact same experience...I had my consult yesterday and I decided to go with the mesh procedure. I did pelvic floor PT...I tried everything and it was too severe to just use a pessery...thank you for all your videos on this topic 🙏🏽

Doing my research, and found this super helpful. Thank you for sharing 🙏🏻

Thank you so much for this video . It’s really help .

Very good information you answered all my questions I just had a robotic hysterectomy May 6,2024 They left my ovaries, but took everything else.

Thank for the video. Today i just being diagnose for uterus cancer. i'm 40 yrs old and havent have kids. its kinda sad and hit me mentally. but seems there's only one solution to help my life. When watch this video, its really help me and giving more what will be happen after the operation done

Thank you!! For this, I’m having surgery Friday

I enjoy life way more then before it was removed. The most positive life changing event to happen to my health.

❤️❤️🙏Thank you for another great video. I agree with you, the surgery is a tough one but it’s worth it. I have no regrets even though I had some bumps along the way during recovery. Thank you for doing this video, and your previous ones related to pelvic floor and hysterectomy, so empowering❤️❤️❤️

thank you for all you posted

You are wise for them to take the service. I had mine three days ago. Full hysterectomy except they kept both of my ovaries. For seven consecutive years I have had three cancer cells every single year. And then had to get a colposcopy and elite procedure. Because the female cancers run in my family with my grandma having uterine cancer one aunt having breast cancer and somebody else had a cervical cancer, I knew that it was only a matter of time before they they came back cancerous. Plus I had developed polyps in my uterus which had a nine out of 10 chance of becoming cancerous very quickly. My endometrium was growing into the lining of my uterus and I had several fibroids. Not to mention I bled for seven weeks straight. Having microcytic anemia which is a rare form of anemia, I kept fainting. This resulted in a transfusion. I am three days out now. And my postop morning has stopped. I’m very happy about that. I’m still sore and crampy which is to be expected, but it’s far better than it was prior. I have three children at home with special needs and one who does not have special needs. The disabled ones, are severely disabled. I’m doing my best to try to live forever so I don’t have to leave them behind in the system after I’m gone. Also, there’s nobody to take care of me. So I couldn’t be stuck to a bad feeling with cancer for hours a day I try to get the hysterectomy with the abnormal cells after four years, but insurance wouldn’t cover it then. When all the other things came to fruition there was no argument. I’m already happy with the procedure and I have peace of mind that I don’t have to worry about having pre-cancerous cells on my cervix again and this is gonna be the time where it actually is cancer. It has made a tremendous difference simply not even have to worry about that anymore. I have enough to worry about. Thank you so much for making this video about the sex thing. I am too early on in the process to even consider that notion, but I was curious as to how things were going to be afterwards.

thank you so much for sharing your experience it gives me a lot of information. God bless and more power to you👏

This is so informative! I’m scheduled to have the surgery next Monday so I needed to know all of this before having the surgery.

I am a man yet I always considered how this surgery may affect women. Thank you for sharing your experience.

Thank you so much for the information. I had a hysterectomy and I feel great.

Thank you. 40 here and trying to make this decision now. This helped me so much.

Thanks Jess❤ Very enlightening!

Thank you so much you have answered a lot of my question!!!

Very informative..thank you for sharing ur experience

Needed to hear this thanks so much.

Thanks for that info, was scrolling through and saw your video, I had to had surgery for endometriosis too

Thanks for sharing your knowledge and experience.

Thank you this was a comfort to me. 🌻

Very informative. Thanks for your candor.

Thank you so much I needed to hear this 💗 your awesome 👌

Thank you for posting.... I will be going through a full hysterectomy in less than a month due to cancer... I'm 45 and my sexuality is an important part if my life... This gives me some hope that i can come out the other side still being whole sexually healthy woman