Sex and the City: The Puzzle of Mr. Big 

WOW - perfectly scripted & skillfully put together video (and great voicework). Great condensed insight into the psychology of love, personal insequrities, and all that.

Guys, revisit Closer. Not The Closer, Closer starring Natalie Portman and Jude Law.

Wow somehow big reminds me of don drapper

Please do character & film analysis on the tv show MOM. I think it teaches us a lot and I would love to see the character analysis. Love your channel btw

Could you guys do character analysis on the characters of that 70s show? The development and journey of each character through out the run of the show is very interesting. Thank you for reading this suggestion and I love this channel!

Seriously, yes! I don't know how people can ignore this.

Very good point that I didn’t recall until I read this.

It's just fashionable to shit on the protagonist these days.

@@FabalociousDee 💀💀💀

They are both toxic people, but at least he was pretty upfront with his flaws. She constantly played victim and was overly dramatic and demanding. I don't get how he didn't just dump her forever. I couldn't live with all that drama, exhausting.

Aidan also wanted kids and Carrie didn´t. Their values were complete opposite. With Big Carrie herself is often the one who creates the drama. She is her own worst enemy.

@@littlewomenchannel yep

Yes, finally someone who sees it for what it is!

Serah Olivia yeah and he wanted the simple life and she is more materialistic. He wanted kids, she didn't, it was never going to last.

People are personifying Carrie with themselves. THEY want Aiden.

Carrie refuses to realize that Big doesn't see her as relationship material. She doesn't want to believe hipingy if she stay, big will come to his senses

I agree!

@@CaitlinMaharg11 I think so too. The money was just a really nice bonus :)

Jokes and sex will get ya

@@kendradunn3907 all the time. lol

This!!

😂😂😂

Charlotte was problematic and retro even back then. I hated how much Miranda reminded me of myself and wanted to be more like Carrie. Fast forward all these years later I'm fine being a Miranda lol.

Charlotte is still relevant. We all know that person that has tunnel vision on their idealized goal only to realize that something isn’t as good a fit they thought it would be. The fit might be tolerable but it still doesn’t fit right.

For real. They are my favorite characters. They were more resilient and less easily swayed by men tricks. They were not girls who fantasized their lives, they made the best of what they had financially and romantically, putting themselves first every time and it paid.

miranda is strong, independent and takes charge of her life- I loved her then and even more now

Dakota Rain ok the last was not needed. Smokers are not bad ppl

@@tatianach917 There's several instances where Carrie gets all pissy when people ask her not to smoke in their house/car/business and sometimes she just does it anyway. I'd consider that pretty shitty behavior. She also judges men for the most minor flaws but acts all shocked when a guy doesn't want to date her because she smokes.

Lou Reed she’s not a bad person for smoking, she’s a bad person because she’s not respectful of the people around her while smoking.

FOR REEEEEAAAAAL. she's nuts

And don't forget insecure and clingy. 😆

It's so good 🤣🤣

It's also the way he says it. like he is coked out of his mind. Cracks me up every time!

I wanted to comment "that's bs Carrie and you know it", thank you !😅

Right? 😂😂😂

If you let him play with your feelings once, shame on him. If you let him do it multiple times, shame on you.

I couldn't agree more!!

The problem with Original Recipe Carrie is that she wants a particular lifestyle, and she doesn't think she's smart or capable enough to get it on her own. Her infatuation with Big was never about love. Not really. There was no reason she couldn't have had the Cinderella story she wanted, it didn't HAVE to be with him. But she led herself down that road deliberately, because she didn't want to be wrong.

@@EmpressJusticeTarot 👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿

While that's true. Carrie always had issues when it's going good she's an issue there's no spark, when there's an issue she goes berserk with madness, it's like she wants a bipolar relationship.

That’s an interesting take. She does have a teenage naïveté and immaturity at times Her friends up the maturity of the show

@@MalloryNewcomb love your insight. except for maybe Charlotte though, she’s low key a little naive as well

@@MalloryNewcomb Miranda and Samantha were more realists. And Charlotte/Carrie have these unattainable expectations that they aren’t willing to achieve themselves...

@@pln4679 But Charlotte was a tender person at least :)

That's everything bad in SATC, in a nutshell.

Well that's why they are perfecto for each other they both sucked

Shane Valentine aren’t we all

Big wasn't that bad really. At least not at first. Not good of him to cheat on his wife. Carrie was always so immature so its no wonder big was hesitant to commit. He'd ready been married before and comes with that baggage too. Carrie was too selfish to think about what she would need to bring to the realtionship to help big overcome that baggage. She wanted him to change for her but she refused to be considerate of him.

Agreed. Jesus Christ.

I agree, I actually sided with Natasha, Big's second wife, over Carrie, and cheered when she gave her a well deserved verbal beat down. Aidan was far too good for Carrie as well, he had a LOT of patience to put up with all of her nonsense!

FACTS.. I'm very similar too, and I know I can run faaaaar away with my thoughts if I feel left in the dark 😩 that's why I need to only entertain relationships with men who are great at openly communicating.. only that's not who I seem to attract 🥴

Like it or lump it I'm pretty much like Carrie Bradshaw and most of my partners were like Big.

Totally

So interesting 🤔 thank you for sharing 💜

TechnicJunglist finally someone sees this! He was VERY up front and she kept Trying to make him something he wasn’t.

@@BreeQuinn clingy, whiny, and needy as well I might add lol she was the worst and made up stories in her own head about their relationship.

I always hated her. She was the character I most disliked. I dud not understand why friends looked up at her. I loved Samantha and Miranda. Even Charlotte was good.

@@aror6480 same

If she is a bad friend how in the hell has friends?

I rewatched the show a few years ago and felt like Big wasn't as big of an asshole as I recalled, especially in the first season. I felt the same with the second movie. The first movie was OK but I came out of the second movie annoyed that the movie tried to justify Carrie being upset with Big. They were having some issues with their marriage and Big saw that some space between them helped the both of them clear their heads so he suggests maybe Carrie keep her old apartment so that if she needs some space she can go to her apartment. Instead of talking it out Carrie interprets it as Big pushing her away and she continues to internalize it to the point that she kisses an ex. It felt like Carrie reverted back to season 1 Carrie, which is so stupid considering everything she and Big had gone through in the show and first film.

@@MyssBlewm god. I never watched the second movie. The first one was enough but it`s good to know Carrie literally never learns. Watching her go crazy with the wedding was enough of frustration for me. Again. Big had shit tone of character flaws but the older I get the more I can`t stand Carrie.

@@MyssBlewm yea it annoyed me that she got what she wanted but was upset that he didn't want to go out after a day's work. Her life at that point was fluff. She wrote on her own time, had money, and wasn't really stressed by her work. She was and ended the series as selfish.

I realized that about 2 years ago when I rewatched that episode where he tells Carrie he's not ready to introduce her to his mother and she stalked them in a church

@@evgeniyaseminenko8594 i can forgive her going crazy with the wedding because it was her first. yes, this would have been big's 3rd marriage but come on, it's her FIRST. i do think they should have communicated more when it came to the actual ceremony and each compromised their expectations to avoid the mess that eventually went down, though.

I really love this comment and agree 100%

@@ilovejcolee aw thank you im glad someone actually read it haha.

@@ceren9877 I'm so conflicted been reading the comments on here for the past 45 minutes. The general consensus is that Carrie was crazy/too demanding/too clingy too soon and drove Big away. Which I can kind of see. But I don't think Big really gave her much to work with, right? Like I felt he just gave her bread crumbs to feed on all along. Idk. Not that anyone's at fault I just think maybe a bad match?

@@ilovejcolee well the main point was carrie always loved big more so i dont see her being clingy its just she had more feelings for him. big cared for her yes but i never saw love or high feelings on his side. for example with aidan you can see that he really loved carrie. big was just not that into carrie he settled down because carrie is the best option to grow old. but yeah they were bad match from the beginning.

@@ceren9877 Omg yes!!! You said it perfectly, AGAIN! I think that's exactly it. Because with Aiden she was never clingy or irrational or overreacting. Different people bring out different sides of you, right? That's why I don't like when people bag on Carrie for being "psycho". I don't think she's psycho I think Big just brought out that insecure side of her (because she could feel she loved him more). You know? I guess it just comes down to... don't go for people that make you feel psycho? Haha. Like surely there has to be a happy medium out there for everyone where the person they love, loves them back equally?

Yep, the garlic will burn out before the onion caramelizes.

wrong, the onion will prevent garlic to brown and to burn, so you just put garlic first wait till brown and then onions, that way onions will juice up and prevent garlic from burn

@@indarwen sure

LOL, that's your takeaway on this?

Julia Tz Thank you! 😄

she knew

She knew. The sex crazed woman who it’s enthusiastic and has career potential? Yeah... she knew. Everyone knew, that’s why she suggested it.

Margarita M. Well I mean, I don’t think she or anyone knew trump would be president one day. That was a pretty big shock to everyone I think 😂

Aqua sheep! Not really, the guy has been advertising himself for the post since the 80’s, just listen with an open mind. I’m not saying you have to like him but if you want to avoid the shock open your eyes, people loves the guy. 🤯😳

@@EGMADH He might've been advertising it, but until 2016 he was a joke candidate.

Get rid. Mike your own life and the a man will come along who is worth you.

yep.. and that's great! I'm praying to get over it soon 😫

They already made one for her. Check it out, it's really good.

@@elizrebezilmadommdo1662 I cant find it :( Am i searching for the wrong thing?

@@Jonunu1607 Oh I'm sorry i got Miranda mixed up with Samantha. There's no video on her yet. Sorry about that.

Tbh she was more dick obsessed than man obsessed 😂 Which is still better

Birdie's-Better-Bot-Beats definitely the BEST character in the show and of the friend group

Agreed! He deserved someone better than Carrie.

@@jzwalz51robin45 Yes I'm happy Aiden got away from her.

JZWALZ51 ROBIN I have to agree. He was a good guy and she did him dirty.

Jeremy Daniel agReeD

He was too good for Carrie.

I was thinking that too. I originally watched the show when I was at college...and now watching this as a 40-year-old. Wow!

Yeah!!! I started watching it when I was 14 and I thought, wow he’s such a jerk. Rewatched it at 18 and I’m like okay so...Carrie is the WORST. Big is too but at first he was really just a guy

I am writing this because of seeing all the people defending Mr. Big. Obviously he is free to live his life how he wants, but in terms of the relationship he has with Carrier (how they relate to each other and what is created because of it) he IS a part of the problem. What frustrates me is this notion that doing nothing is somehow okay. There is a reason that Carrie acts crazy in particular around Big. I do think she has an anxious attachment style, bordering on disorganized/ ambivalent attachment, and behaves codependently in many ways in her romantic relationships. This means that she is overly conserned with what her partners are doing, thinking, feeling, or not doing thinking, feeling out of a need for them to behave and feel a cetain way for her to feel safe in the relationship. She also sacrifices aspects of herself, wants and needs (whether asked to or not) for the sake of the relationship, and continues to overly try to please or bring closer her partners, but pushes them away when she feels rejected (whether real or imagined). I hate to nutshell such a huge and deep issue that comes from childhood trauma no matter how subtle, but I'm saying that her behavior does create toxic relationships. And it is what makes her character so relevant, and hated. Many many of us have to some degree her attachment style, and even if we don't act it out, we can feel it internally, and even hate that part of ourselves. Understanding her part can illuminate some of Big's part. His lack of responsiveness is not just neutral, it antagonizes Carrie. Someone who is not available , not interested makes that DIFINITIVELY clear. Instead he strings her along, up to the point of having an affair with her. If you do not believe me that being not reactive is dangerous, watch the still face baby expiriment and tell me it does not mirror this relationship. This brings me to my original point, that doing "nothing," isn't okay. When someone is trying to connect with you and you just stand or sit there like a blob, it is TOXIC. It is antagonizing, and to do it to someone predisposed to the above listed attachment stlyes, it can cause them (the partner) to act crazy. And it is not an accident, it is part of the person's (usually unconscious) need to string people along, cause them to chase them, or keep them feeling insecure or sure where they stand. As are other behaviors of Bigs like little jabs at Carrie or backhanded compliments, or questioning her ways. Perhaps the writers made Big's avoidant behaviors too subtle, but they still created a character that would toxily pair with Carrie. I am not excusing her character either. Neither one is a bad person, but they are absolutely creating unhealthy relationships. I say this because I see it too much out in the real world too. People excusing "nothingness." I know that is a weird way of saying that. You can say people didn't do anything, but when did that become healthy? When did it become healthy and okay to not care about someone? To ignore them when they are expressing themselves? To not understand them or even bother to try? To make it a habit of just discounting and dissmissing? When did humanity become okay with not having humanity?

I am a woman, I would push a man who would behave like Carrie far far away from me, she is crazy and abusive

I think saying Carrie is worse than big is just underlying misogyny. She’s an anti hero, and also a character that shows the imperfections of many women that we don’t like to see or admit. Big is a bad person and calling him ‘just a guy’ excuses all of his behaviour and yet says that Carrie should be the one punished. No I’m not as dramatic or at times selfish as Carrie but she’s not the worst. She’s a person, and saying she’s worse than Big is saying that boys will be boys and they’re not responsible for their actions but women have to be which is wrong and damaging

Blue Loon I agree

Samantha/Smith

Agreed !

Thank you! Yes! I never got what went wrong w my relationships when I watched SATC... but now I get it.

Carrie is bit of a gold digger. She loved his power and money. Big is using her for Sex but gets emotionally attached to her after she starts to wear him down. He even tried to escape Carrie by marrying Natasha! But Big is not a bad guy deep down, he seems almost sad to see Carrie falling for him the way he put his hand on her shoulder when she asks him to commit and he won't answer. As if to comfort her.

Do we know anything about his parents? I would assume that in reality he probably grew up in a household with similarly dysfunctional relationship dynamics as in his relationship with Carrie, and that he keeps returning to her because she hurts him in ways that are familiar to him. I mean, really. The girl throws things and yells at you in public, and you're like: "that's the one"! There's gotta be some sort of deep feeling of inadequacy under the surface of his cool demeanor for him to feel that she is the love he deserves.

can't it be both?

She's his booty call for God's sake. It's not complicated

To be fair the author nevere ended up with her Mr. Big and the show's original ending had Big chokingin Paris and Carrie returning to New York single. Supposedly fans wanted him and carrie to finally end up together.

I've been in this situation and this is 100% true.

@@dr.m6152for real, the love that you love them nothing’s more. Yet because they are so unused to that kind of love they dont see it as ‘real’, because some ashole somewhere made people believe love needs to be painful

He didn't really commit to Natasha either. Ya he married her, but he didn't see that commitment through because he started cheating on her as soon as he got bored. She was just a toy to him as well.

Sure, I bet that's why he was already divorced and then cheated with Carrie on the second wife. No commitment problems there. 👀

Hahahahahah

For real 😂

Lol 😂

His wallet and probably the other head ..

of course it's not a satire. All that materialism is a big money maker for the show.

Very well said

Total agree! But I would say Carrie is co dependent and anxious

Thank you! The Tumblr generation has jumped in with all their buzzwords, catch phrases, and self diagnosing bullshit. The show was meant to be satire- they even quote the show's CREATOR saying "they betrayed the entire concept".

@@JennaLeigh i mean i still think it was kinda taking a dig at that lifestyle, especially with carrie winding up in financial problems with a closet full of designer shoes and clothes. And the whole samantha getting a birkin bit was so ridiculous. And now everyone is actually doing it. Maybe the show started to lose the satire feel because society became even more ridiculous around it. Lol.

a lotttt of women have similar relationships.. they're just acting so perfect in these comments for whatever reason 😏😅

Hahahahahahahaha "we"

Lol it’s ok girl ! It’s ok as long as you recognize it as a problem and take action now to address it you’ll be fine :)

To me the show is still about that tho. Did not give two shits about Mr. Big.

Right? The best eps are the ones that are more heavily focused on the women's relationships with each other instead of being more focused on the men they're with.

That would have been a far better ending. 20 something yr old me was always more concerned with who ended up with who. But now I find myself feeling disappointed when a show doesn't end with evidence that the estranged bff's made up and became friends again. I'm talking to you TVD; y'all should have given me some Dalaric scenes in the finale dammit!

i love the focus on the friendship of those 4 characters!

I had a girlfriend watching the show and me only catching short glimpses when passing through the room. For the longest time i thought the show was about three call-girls and their mother.

Yeah meaning Aiden and Carrie were wrong as HELL together if that's what you mean

Well said

They only mentioned it once, but as soon as we found out about her dad, we all knew it was fait accompli.

Oh my God you NAILED IT 💯💯💯

Samantha wouldn’t be proud of you for putting other woman down lol.

But she would be proud for speaking up my mind.😉

Just saw this, I think it was even the first episode lol

I know that Sam is all bossy, but you are not her and should say PLEASE.

👏👏👏

I've watched it, and she is lol

I was just thinking the same thing.

The show has no antagonist because the four girls are thier own worst enemy.

Pretty much. She does everything you except the stereotypical "bad girlfriend" to do and she never really admits that it's her fault.

Very accurate. Carrie is the most selfish character in the entire show.

Who did he end up with? What kind of girl?

It really is. I’ve done it so many times.

Oh yes and more attractive than BIG!

I’m sorry, but Aiden was Carrie’s Natasha. Fight me.

@@hnyflvr Maybe you should express your opinion more respectful

@@hofhofandaway No I won't. Aidan was a control freak and tried to mould Carrie into someone else, instead of accepting her as she was. She could never be herself with him.

She doesn't deserve him.

I know! She legit punched him in that one scene, while he was laying in bed no less.

I have held off on rewatching this show and seeing this video just highlights some important yikes factors that I don’t want to approach again

@@KillerQueenDopamine I rewatched everything last year and let me tell you, I did not remembered Carrie as bad as I see her now with my 30's eyes. She is an awful person!

@@LivyRivy that was messed up

Honestly, she is so bad! lying and expecting him to understand what she is actually thinking

yep, that was the whole point..

Yes! She was always pushing him for a commitment, and she started doing that almost as soon as they started dating.

If he didn't come around after 3 YEARS of dating but proposed to natasha 4 MONTHS after he had met her, then I don't blame her one bit for not chilling out. You're saying she should have wasted MORE of her time for this man-child to decide whether he loves her or not

@@whutdafeq1715 exactly! Great post

Carrie pushed Big WAY too hard for a commitment. She was obviously causing him to shy away with how much she kept pushing the issue. Big had already been married and divorced once. He probably had emotional baggage from his divorce and was afraid to get involved in another serious relationship. I totally agree that if Carrie had backed off and knocked off all of her dramatics when it came to essentially demanding that he commit to her, he would have come around. I honestly believe that Carrie eventually started developing some codependency issues when it came to Big.

YES!!!!!

I like that she’s flawed, it humanises her and makes her feel less like a ‘character’. We all have that friend who can do our head in but who we ultimately love

Ororo Munroe I soooo agree with you!! She’s not horrible but flawed like most of us.

I personally never really could watch it cause she annoyed the hell outta me. She always acted like a child.

Sherry Thomas yes I re-watch it and I couldn’t stop cringing at carrie behavior

Yup

Of course, she didn't mean in terms of personality or character. She meant in terms of building a financial dynasty. Financially speaking, Big was big. Hence, Carrie's nickname for him.

Lala LOL 😂

20 years later, that has a WHOLE new meaning now! LOL

😂😂😂

🤣🤣🤣

Exactly

You’re not wrong. But Mr big also played her a bit. He never made it clear how he felt or where they stood.

And which would make us miserable to actually achieve because it reveals itself to be an empty dream all along-Carrie is always unstable and drained when with Big after all.

That wouldn't be such a problem and hard habit to kick if not for the fact that there are people out there who are seemingly able to attain it. The fact that the "American Dream" is being achieved by some people is what keeps hope alive.

@@NelsonStJames Sure, there are people out there who have attained the American dream. The thing is, that's not what actually brings us happiness or fulfillment. A lucrative job, a nice house, and car are great, but we need a sense of purpose, hobbies that give us joy, healthy relationships with others, and a healthy relationship with ourselves.

so Big is like... Daisy Buchanan?

@@emamaraca2577 Yes! The hollowness of the American dream personified.

Me too!!!

Me too!

Nicole Jennings 👍

Red Sonja THANK YOU!!!!

YES!

Agreed. He's wealthy, sure, but that's not really the point. His MAIN characters traits are that he's bluntly honest on the surface and softly romantic underneath.

Really? I couldn't get past the combined cringiness of the character's lines and the actor's woodenness.

Me too

Very good observation and analysis.

Agree. the being rich part was rather stupid

Elizabeth Gatsby I agree but Friends was no better and on Seinfeld Kramer hardly ever worked and was able to pay his rent.

Yup. He's unattainable and it drives her nuts.

Love your Jodie pfp and the name.

MY GOD. WHY DID UR PARENTS LET U?

13?????

I feel like they was trying play down her feelings. He is given everything she wanted to another woman

yeah but that's the point, sometimes the we can't change the other person, sometimes it's just not us they want to be with, and it hurts, but there's nothing to do about it. it's just the way love and relationships work

Emily Valiente this is so damn true girl you struck a nerve 😩

Men do that sometimes , get out of serious relationships of years and marry the girl right after, whether he loves her or not

but carrie was a heavy and exhuasting relationship. I love carrie but she didn't realize that there is a thing with conditoning men and pushing them to marry other women when you keep making a big theme about marriage and commitment when the man isn't ready yet. sometimes the man just doesnt want to marry YOU not just marriage overall. In general he saw this young girl as cool, calm, collected and not desperate plus she was way younger so he gets to take the lead of the relationship while she calmly follows. Carrie was a rollercoaster and gave him a challenge so he was worn out and not ready to date again so he rather lock down the young girl then lose the young girl to someone else

I pretty much hated Carrie in the films because the films took her materialism to another level and in the second film I thought Carrie was often out of character the way she treated Charlotte. On the second film Big knows his limits and yet Carrie doesn´t change or grow.

@@littlewomenchannel She always treated ppl poorly when they had a different opinion. When she had the cover shoot for her book she slut shamed Sam, she was a total dick when Miranda told her that it would be a bad idea to go out with Big after the whole Natascha dilemma.

Ugh I hated the second movie, it wasn't true to any of the characters at all. Her kissing Aiden? That never would've went down, she cheated on Aiden with Mr. Big! lol

@@tanyah6184 and then she got a big black diamond ring for it

I hated the way Samantha was written in the movies. Espescially the second one. My favourite character was nearly ruined.

this analysis blows ass and is low key misogynistic

​@@justinrivera6248 How? Big was always clear about who he was and what he wanted, yet Carrie continued to pursue him doggedly out of selfish desire and possibly narcissistic tendencies. She's a money-grubbing liar if we are honest about it. She complains because Big won't open up to her and continues with the narrative that she wants something stable with someone emotionally available yet when Aiden comes along and gives her all that she decides to constantly mistreat him and then cheat on him with Big as repayment for giving her all she's asked for. She wants Big not because she's in love with he the person, rather what he represents a luxurious lifestyle something which she openly lusts for in the entirety of the show (represented by her consistent and unhealthy materialism throughout). In addition to that, she's self-aggrandizing and imagines herself to be some enlightened woman of the new age yet whenever she finds herself in an unfavorable position that she herself is the author of she turns around and blames the entirety of the male sex, generalizing a half a population just to fit her self-pitying narrative all whilst throwing tantrums like a child and wondering how her life turned out to be so horrible while continuing down the same path over and over and legitimately expecting a different result. What irks me the most about her, however, is the entire time she is dishonest about the person she really is. In action, she is a shallow narcissist who lacks ambition in life other than in her desire to meet her materialism through consumption and creating a column wherein she purports herself to be a modern and independent woman all the while every column she writes is centered around men and her fruitless chase of them. Yet her interpretation of herself is a victim of the men she wantonly pursued this show was self-inflicted torture to watch.

I think the show definitely TRIED to show women as complex, independent, selfish, flawed, and it hits in some areas but misses in other areas. I like in a sense that the main character Carrie is flawed in the way she is, as with the other girls. They all have their flaws, but do their best to connect with each other and their respective partners. What HBO often excels at is presenting characters that are often gray morally

The first season was the series prostitute itself to gain more viewers and fame

I for one think it actually aged very well. 20 years later we are still talking about it. Flawed or not. No other show receives similiar treatment.

But Carrie is still annoying as HELL

yup. people are acting brand new around here

That's why people end up miserable, they choose people that feel good in the moment rather than the future and they choose people based on their potential. That's why I think people should sort out their past trauma before dating anybody.

Pink I’ll be single forever then😂

Yes! I'm going through this right now - and to @pink 's comment - I think it depends on what you believe is true of relationships, I believe they are meant to push you, to help you grow. I'm the "awful" Carrie who doesn't want to settle for someone to just do things with.

zanime !! Not true

Nope. She was about to read his name when someone interrupts her. That happened every time someone was about to say his name.

no it's because he was rich

@@theredqveen If money was the only thing that mattered to women, software developers would be much more successful than they actually are on the dating apps.

Elliott Encarnación just like every show on Netflix

I was searching for a comment like yours.

Maybe you should express your opinion more respectful

@@Ryan-pg1tw He was respectful in his opinion. He criticized the values of the show. Saying something is horrible is NOT the same of being disrespectful.

Exactly

why is it big's responsibility to rescue her from her own bad financial decisions?

That , and after cheating on both his 1st and 2nd wife , I believe his reputation plummeted within the circle of high class women ( older and younger) .. so nobody would take his shit . So marrying Carrie was his only chance at having a peaceful life ( not like she would give him much peace)

It's not Carrie's fault if Big doesn't like to open up.

@@leolight5369 Carrie was always expecting big to read her mind, so she wasn’t really open about herself either…

I agree, and everytime she had a meltdown or tantrum he would be calm about it. Carrie was the biggest problem in my eyes

I think that after my months of dating he knew her and knew what she wanted (when you are an adult you can tell these things). But still he kept coming back to her .. that was selfish....even though it was not his responsibility to set boundaries for Carrie herself..

They both suck

I agree, what is scary is others that don’t see it

@@teecop4735 Right on

Where exactly he said it? He manipulates her whole show

Mr. Big is honest.. He isn't exclusive. He didn't want to get married, and he was living his life. Carrie was annoying, exhausting, clingy, and ridiculous..

That'd be different. Mr Bean in Sex and the City?

@@ECL28E xD XD I hope that image stays in my head for a long time... even though it may cause me to smile or laugh randomly while standing behind the counter at my job.... worth the risk.

He kinda looks like Mr Bean.

@@Fournier46 que the sex and the city music and Mr. Bean walking around with his camera like his on the cat walk and shopping bags 😂

I'm your 100th like. Your welcome.

That's her choice. Respect melanias choice.

Haha

like you know how Melania feels lol

@@cheery-hex oh yeah i'm sure Melania is ecstatic to know that her husband is washing his dirty laundry in public and has a former porn star as a mistress...(!)

@@hhhhoooojdjd She didn't decide to stay with Donald Trump, she didn't even want to move to Wahington D.C. with him lol

Kimmie BeLike Did you watch Broad City? I don't know if it was representative of NYC but I loved the grittier, eclectic vibe. Felt very real. The bodega, trash bags on the street, the interactions with people walking past etc.

@@lindiemoon no, I haven't but I'll check it out...thx!

I agree, I live in NYC, New Yorkers are hard workers and do not live extravagant lives.. Hardly wear heels, because would trip, on cracks in the street, etc. I won't even wear flip flops.. Could get stepped on in trains and break a toe... Lol..

As an Alaskan, I love how you have given a genuine portrait of New York residents. It always made me wonder how with the cost of living in Alaska is so high, how in the hell was Carrie able to afford all that luxury in a city that makes Alaska’s cost of living seem cheap by comparison! (It truly isn’t.) Hell, in some rural communities, a gallon of milk can cost $25.00 or more. In the big cities (Anchorage or Fairbanks) it’s much cheaper at $2.50 or so. But I digress.... Thanks again for your insight into how New York residents really live and work.

Hahaha thank you for that. I always thought it is a villager thing to dress up for everything. I'm glad it's universal.

Most watchers are aware that Sex and the city is a fantasy. Most women can´t afford those apartments and shoes and love is less materialistic. I still love the show because it was entertaining. When the series first started in the end of the 90´s it did break boundaries because it showed women owning their sexuality and not hiding it.

She show broke ground in portraying single women over 30 living fabulous lives. The narrative up until then was that women over 30 were worthless without marriage. These women had agency over their lives, they were educated, had great careers, and had a network of great friends. Society takes these things for granted now, thanks to shows like this.

This is merely an analysis of carrie and big relationship, which doesn't reflect entirely the essence of the show. Watching satc today and realizing is a 25years old product, could leave you speechless for the modernity certain issues were handled. The purpose was to shock, to take to the plate questions and innovations, something not even in today's shows you can find. The show is judgemental but I think you can read it also as some sort of satire and extreme portray od the sense of materialism and shallow of the '90 in a city like new york. All the girls they're all representing something, a stage of life, a character, am obsession and for that they're mostly unhealthy than a good example to follow

Because having imperfect protagonists is interesting? Showing and exploring the range of humanity is more compelling to me than someone who goes through life making not a single mistake and having the perfect life. Because having people who are shallow, selfish, materialistic, and flawed is human and real. Not everyone in life is nice.

But tbh when miranda gets cheated on in the movie I feel no sympathy for her at all and she settled for a bummy dude when she was too uptight to let loose in the first place. Miranda the most normal one but she was the most masculine of them all.

agree, I watched it as a young girl but now and didn't see it , Now i am Carries age and i see what a narcissist she was, And they all had double standards. They got involved with married men yet they fell apart when they were cheated on .

Definitely, I love the part at the end where you said it's OK to be ambivalent and work through your feelings. That's a message a lot of people need to hear

uh.... you diagnosed a tv actress with NPD? Are you a doctor from Grey's Anatomy, or something? Usually the ones calling that out are the ones who have just that.

@@moonstars315 I’m pretty sure the comments were made on the character, not the actress. There are other books besides the TV Guide. And smarter replies than « it takes one to know one ».

I agree with almost everything you've said in this comment, I just don't necessarily think it's applicable in this specific circumstance. If we ignore all of the other seasons and strictly focus on what took place in season 1, I'd be far more inclined to give Big the benefit of the doubt. While I personally think the term narcissist has become yet another overused internet buzzword, I will agree that Carrie plays a significant role in the relationship's dysfunction. The problem is not that Big was confused, ambivalent, and needed some time to figure things out. The problem is not that he walked away (something I fully agree with you on, people are absolutely free to leave whenever, and for whatever reason). The problem is that he strung her along for YEARS, and was constantly playing her hot and cold. He didn't want to commit to her, but he wanted to keep the door cracked open just in case. Another part of the problem is that he typically only wanted her when she was committed to someone else, but when she was actually fully available- he shut down. Obviously just my 2 cents, but I don't think Big is blameless by any stretch of the imagination.

He is actually in real life. F that! Had a shit time with an old friend of 10 yrs overseas then he bought tickets to see me I cancelled on him. Big heartbreak but he was cold And selfish x