I think a reason the % of married people in your audience has gone up is not because of the same people getting married as much as the nature of your channel shifting naturally over time. Recently you’ve shifted to include a lot more fertility/baby/parenting content, which would naturally attract more people looking to have a baby or who already have one, the majority of those being married. This is just majority, obviously not all married people want babies and not all people who want babies get married first or even ever. Still, some unmarried singles who aren’t wanting kids would have been turned off by the shifting content, which could help explain the age shift a little too.
Never done the fanfic thing, but having a fertile imagination means being able to compose literotica spontaneously - and the acid test is: if I come back to it (no pun intended) is it a turn-on or not? I will say that I told a (true) story to some women at work and a girl half my age got infatuated from the way I told it, but that's not a brag - try being forty-something and NOT looking like a lech, especially when you're supposed to also be a first-line boss...and it only started in that instance because I worked with a lot of women who thought I was ice-cold and boring. Sadly not in that job any more. Anyway, I have first-hand experience of how women respond to a good story.
Re: sexual debut or virginity and not wanting to trigger or alienate those affected by sexual trauma. Consider "at what age did you first choose to be sexually active" this prioritises consent, and encompasses both solo and shared sexual experience
Fan fiction (ao3) is literally ideal for my demisexual self where I can choose different levels of sexual content depending upon what I feel that day !
@@katybechnikova2821 I think for some it's also that there's no power dynamic in the way there often is, unfortunately, in straight relationships when they're written. They tend to be more equal partners.
I read fanfic, some of it is NSFW but I like it for the combination of romance, plot and intimacy. I feel like I need lots of context, familiarity and depth in order to "get off" to something. It's useful because with fanfic you really know yhe character background and then you can find the specific situation you want. Less legwork for the imagination! Also tagging makes it easier to avoid or work through trauma/triggers. It feels safer than any other kind of erotica, to me.
im nonbinary but don’t identify as trans because my born body doesn’t misalign extremely enough to my identity for me to feel that i truly can understand the trans experience and use the term trans comfortably, even though it’s not technically false??
Same! I'm not sure how I want to identify that way, so I've just gone with afab. It's not wrong, I am mostly fine with how I am. Any thoughts on how I could change my body are akin to "I wish I was capable of having a tan, or having blue hair."
yes im nonbinary in a way that i dont usually call myself trans although some of my nb friends that are a lot like me totally do. "transgender" seems like "switching genders" in a way but i just dont align with either traditional gender idk. def not transsexual since im not doing any sexual body mod nor do i experience physical dysphoria. i dont even really experience gender disphoria when im misgendered but def have euphoria when im not. but i think part of being nb is being unknowable and i have no desire to map out my identity under labels.
Also non-binary, and I felt the same as you at first, but it's interesting how that started to shift based on two factors. Like you I was like "I can't use this label as I don't feel like I've gone through any of the hardships of the "trans experience"", but as I settled into really seeing myself as non-binary (after a period of questioning), being exclusively gendered as my outward appearance by colleagues and strangers etc with all the assumptions that come with it have stung more and more over time and made me feel at least just a small taste of that negative side. Just a taste of course, and I appreciate and respect my privelege in that regard. The second, more important factor that has made me reconsider though, is just how welcoming the trans community at large is - I've been a bazillion posts and such from trans people over the years which are like "don't worry about it, of course you're a trans sibling, you're fine!" etc in non-binary support that I feel more okay being included in that categorisation. In my head I still identify as "I'm non-binary, which is under the trans umbrella" as oppose to "I'm trans, specifically non-binary", but yeah. Fortunately it's one of those things where labels typically only need to matter as much as you want them to anyway, of course.
I'm a heterosexual cis male in a relationship, so I'm always intrigued to see how my data plays into surveys like this. Your community is so diverse and I love a good survey anyway, so this was right up my street 😂
me too! It's not just whether you are 'able bodied' though, as there are disabilities that don't affect your physical body. I'd be really interested to see data on how many people have their sex life affected by health and disabilities. Both my partner and I take antidepressants for very different disabilities and they can be a really pain for your sex life and it can feel like you're struggling alone with it a lot
I get the idea and it's interesting, but I think surveys like this can be hard to answer because a lot of disabilities are not visible. A lot of people might think they never hooked up with someone with disabilities but maybe actually did. The survey should be more specific about the type of disabilities.
This would be SO interesting!!! Building on the comments abt invisible disability, some partners of mine have known I’m disabled and others haven’t. So it could be cool to have questions about disclosing disability to sexual partners too
Regarding masturbation shame, you framed the first question with 'ever'; I think it's quite common for kids and teenagers to feel shame about it, particularly in more puritanical communities, but I'd be more curious to know how many poeple have felt masturbation shame as adults, and why. Might be interesting for that upcoming video.
Part of the reason I struggle with the idea of paying for porn is so much porn is “too much” for me. So many times I click off a video to find another because it isn’t giving what works for me, or because it’s so aggressive I find it off-putting or even disturbing. I would have a hard time committing to something with payment if I know there’s a chance it won’t work for me and could be a waste. Maybe that makes me prude-ish but idk. On that line, I don’t need my porn to represent my sexuality necessarily. I frequently find videos of lesbian sex less aggressive and more enjoyable even though I’d call myself straight (plus fantasy isn’t a bad thing), and I also don’t mind group sex porn because it’s constantly stimulating. But there’s a lot of straight porn that feels exploitative and I only really want to watch it if the couple seems to be healthy and affectionate with each other, because then it feels more like my relationship.
Paying for porn definitely can be expensive, especially as websites tend to charge a lot per month unless you're willing to pay for an entire year. You could try looking at different ethical porn websites (reddit is a good source for finding them) and trying free trials to see if you like the filming style. It can still be a bit limiting, but I really like knowing the porn I'm consuming is ethical, and you tend to get some less aggressive stuff that way too. Hope this helps:)
It may be worth noting that written porn is generally more catered to the female gaze (sometimes, not all, gentler; most of the time it's a very healthy established relationship, especially in fanfic). Plus with things like fanfic the moral delimma of paying for it more or less disappears. There's no actors being potentially exploited and the authors that post willingly write without charge. And tagging systems on places like ao3 help to find what you're looking for
Excited for the masturbation in relationships video. My partner and I are pretty open about all things but our approaches to "openness" around masturbation are quite different.
An additional extremely strange thing about Covid that people in 20 years will look back on are the 2020-2025 statistics skewing decades of predicable data. Everything from the serious (inflation and excess mortality) to the fun (wild hair dye purchases and masturbation rates) has completely changed compared not just to 2019 and, presumably, 2026, but the intervening years compared to each other. I’d love someone somewhere (I smell a thesis!) to do a deep dive into how Covid has/is affecting sex & sexuality. I think those findings would be absolutely fascinating!
I love this video as every year. Maybe a idea for next year you could make a separate survey for sexual and romantic attraction, because you can be for example both heterosexual and asexual. A survey that asks if you identify as allosexual, asexual or graysexual would be interesting. Same with romantic attraction.
It was only in the last couple years I read an article about non-binary being part of the trans umbrella. It makes sense to me, I had just never really thought of it that way - instead I had been separating "crossing a gender binary" and "not in the gender binary" into distinct groups. I like the more expansive and inclusive definition of "identifies with a gender other than what they were assigned" now - since there is so much variety in identity and expression in both cis and trans people. I still think it makes sense for e.g. an agender individual to identify as trans or not if they choose, or someone who's demi-boy/girl (in a way that aligns with their assigned gender) could still consider themselves cis.
I also assume people who don’t consumer porn are all choosing “No” which skews the answer. I feel like there should be a “skip this question if you don’t consume porn” note because this one might be even more off for that reason.
ive been consistently watching hannah since 2016 with her instagram notifications on the whole time and every year i get so excited for the sex quiz and EVERY YEAR I MISS IT and get so sad that i miss it every single time :(
Some nonbinary people do identify as trans, others don't. If you specifically want to know how many binary trans people you have, you could ask "if you have a binary gender (man or woman), do you identify as trans" and then have the options be "I am a cis man or cis woman" "I am a trans man or trans woman" "I am nonbinary" "currently questioning/exploring my gender". Some nonbinary people probably wouldn't like that phrasing but I think it's probably the best way to ask the question if you're using a poll where you can't compare answers between questions. For future it might be good to add an "unsure/questioniong" option to the questions about sexual orientation and gender. For the "at what age was your sexual dabue" question, please add a "hasn't happened" answer. I was going to say "hasn't happened yet", but there are people (for example some ace people) who are certain that they don't want to have sex ever. I know you talk a lot about how we still live in a sex negative society, but we do also live in a society where basically everyone is expected to have sex. I was subscribed to you for at least 8 years before I had sex for the first time. I'm so glad my first sexual experiances were with my current partner who I love and trust and have such good communication with. Unfortunately there is a lot of pressure and expectation that basically everyone in their early 20s or older has been sexually active at some point in their lives, which does stigmatise people who either don't want sex, haven't had a relationship yet, or are waiting for whatever reason. I also don't find it great that on the sexual partners question, there's no option to say 0. You gave people who haven't had sex no option to even tell you that they exist and are part of your audience.
I appreciate this perspective! I will say, I don't remember exactly if this was the case for these specific questions, but she usually will have a screen before questions that don't include a group that explains that, like "these next questions apply if you answered that you are/have been sexually active," or last year I believe it was something like "these next questions are only for people who are trying to be or have been pregnant" or stuff like that. Or, sometimes there's other text on the screen of her insta story than just the poll question that shows up in this video. So like in the video she read the sexual partner question as starting with "If you've had a sexual partner," then asking how many. That stuff is sometimes also included on the insta story screen bc the question boxes can have limited characters. (Again, don't remember if that was the case for these specific questions in this survey, but wanted to just add that context)
I'm willing to bet that a huge chunk of the "written porn" answer is down to fanfic. Also the main reason I don't pay for porn lol. AO3 is a goldmine when it comes to erotica, you can filter for exactly the kind of relationships, power dynamics, kinks and sex acts you're into, and more often than not it's a relationship and characters you have already bought into, which is great for demi folks! And it's all free!
My go to place for written porn is Ao3. That’s also why I don’t pay for porn. I mean I guess in some way I do because I do buy books of the creators of fan fiction who get to publish their stories (go you guys!). Ao3 is just so nuanced in the level of intensity you want to read and also with all the kinks. Literally. You want tentacles? There’s a fanfic for you. Really soft vanilla sex? There you go. Somewhere in between? So much choice. So many talented people publish their stories on there and if you find the right fandoms, you sometimes can’t avoid porn 😅
My theory is that in 2020 we were all stuck at home with nothing to do and more free time to masturbate daily, whereas now we’ve got loads more stuff to do 😂
The reflective porn thing: the only thing turning me on about porn is the pleasure signals of others, what sexual orientation they are/who is doing who is irrelevant 😂
I think one of the things playing part in the discrepancy between wanting sex and having it comes from living situations? my girlfriend and I are doing long distance and this results in times where you want sex but it is not possible or other times where she visits me but given the fact that I have roommates we are not necessarily comfortable having sex with other people in the flat.
I am in the 35-44 age bracket and watch all your videos, but am not on Instagram-I suspect this could be part of a pattern (you may have a larger demographic in that age range than the poll shows).
This year's answers, for me, would be entirely different than the past few years. I work with my current partner. I was on a flight to Barcelona when another colleague messaged to say he liked me. Once back off holidays I asked him out for a book mooch around town. As far as demographics go, I'm 30, Demi and Bi. He is my first official partner and so becomes my first of a lot of things including buying toys and exploring. Being around him is easy. He makes me feel safe and listened to. He makes me laugh so much. I get the cliche goofy grin. My family adore him. I occasionally make things weird or at least, mentally feels like it, but he's awesome and listens or explains or whatever input he can. We've managed to get this far since January and things are going great 😊
For the purchasing of porn question it might be a good idea to change the way it's asked. Maybe something along the lines of "How frequently do you pay for your porn" with Always, sometimes, rarely and never as options.
Have you ever considered doing a more thorough survey which you could share across multiple platforms? Sort of Nerdfighter Census style? It'd give the people here who don't follow you on Instagram to be involved like the rest of us.
I technically matched with my husband on Tinder and that's how we met. He was literally the first person from Tinder I met up with! But we were both studying at the same university, both lived near each other, both often went to the same two pubs (one because it was a vegetarian pub and we're both veggie, one because it was like a metal/biker pub and I liked the music and he liked playing pool). So generally when people ask, I say we met at uni and I'm 100% confident we would have met at some point, and I'm 100% sure I would have approached him because he's 10/10 in my opinion 😍
As ever this is super fun. If you're looking to see sexuality identity specifically it might make more sense to ask if folks are or aren't heterosexual and then break it down from there rather than try and get the lgb+ acronym to work because besides being clunky some of the +s are gender identity and some sexuality
My only thought is that this kind of frames the question as 'are you normal or not?' which I know isn't your intention, but asking it in that way does rather set the default up as heterosexual!
Ao3 is a wonderful place for to find good writing, it's so easy to find what you are looking for and what fits the mood - also I don't like reading it in my own language (german), because it all sounds better in English xd
I didn’t even consider me reading smut as being porn for whatever reason, but I find it through AO3 which is a fanfiction website. It doesn’t even have to be related to a fandom I like, or about masturbating, I just enjoy reading anything interesting in the explicit sections. Especially if it isn’t a kink or orientation related to me. I’m not physically attracted to men in person for example (and am a woman) but read a lot of M/F explicit fiction. Also (tmi) but I am someone who can need zero stimulus or thoughts at all to masturbate sometimes. I don’t know if this is related to sexual or emotional trauma in my past as it hasn’t always been the case. Anyway, interesting video. I’ve watched you for what is approaching a decade now and I think part of your demographic change could be to do with your changing content due to events in your life. I stopped watching as regularly when your content became more about fertility and babies because I’m not really into men and also don’t want kids right now. So it was less relevant to me. I still watch sometimes but it could explain why you have more married viewers :)
Interestingly when I completed your survey I'd never paid for porn, but in the few weeks since I actually have subscribed to an ethical adult film group based in the UK. Not sure if I am allowed to share the name on RU-vid but it's got the word 'heart' in the name. Paying for something that is ethical and I know the safety of the performers is paramount feels really good!
could there be a "sometimes" option on the do you pay for porn question? I feel like with the variety of types of porn out there this might allow for a bit of nuance in the question
But if this is a RU-vid channel, why is the survey only available on Instagram? I follow you on Yt but don't have any social media, so I can't participate. I wish there had been a Google questionnaire shared through here so that more of us could participate. Still, well done, I enjoy your work 👍🏼
Just because many people here are saying it, thought I'd say the opposite - I view myself as *trans* nonbinary! I definitely vibe with some of the comments here about not feeling bodily dysphoria, but to me that doesn't make me feel any less trans personally. Maybe you can have a multi-select question with choices including options of: cis, trans, man, woman, nonbinary, other. Maybe after that a question like "if you chose 'other,' how would you describe your gender identity?" I feel like that's a pretty inclusive and minimally clunky way to go about it. Also wish the survey was not just on Instagram etc. I dont check Instagram. Maybe google form or smth? Would help with suggestions I said above. I know you mentioned not wanting to do it but I'm interested to hear ur community vs the other one. Google form surveys aren't that hard to setup and allow more nuance that im interested in hearing
On type of porn, I prefer comics/manga which are a combo of written and drawn. They also come in a wide range of genres, couples, dynamics, kinks and more or less "graphic".
I think the monogamy question should be 'Are you monogamous' instead of 'Are you non-monogamous'. I design forms for a living and saying 'No, I'm not non monogamous' is far too many double negatives and really increases the difficulty answering the question. I wonder if you get some skewed data on that just because of how you've worded it. It's much easier for people to say 'yes' or 'no' to being monogamous. Tho you probs did it the other way so as to not stigmatise against non monogamy.
I’m not sure what time of year you did the 2020 poll but lockdown could be a reason so many more people were masturbating daily.. we had a lot more boredom and time back then 😅
I love how many people are saying Ao3. I actually only recently found Ao3 and used to just watch porn. And let me say, I am a complete convert--the tagging system is my best friend. Fanfics for the win!! Really love these sex surveys btw! Thanks for gathering data for us 💜
@@nothanks8557 AO3 (archive of our own) is a fanfiction website. It's great because you can filter your searches via tags to find exactly what you want (so long a someone's written it). There's everything on there from wholesome vibes to erotica in pretty much every fandom you can think of, and most of it is really well written as well
9:41 Weekly, that tracks with your mainly female audience. For males daily is more common and a multiple times pr day category might be common enough to warrant its own category.
@@WYIT0 True... But that one was *especially* clear in that regard... Anything between monthly and I think it was 3 times pr day? Is considered normal for both genders. But the peak of the normal curve is different for the two, with guys peaking at once a day and gals at once a week. But it's perfectly normal still if you have a couple with a guy that wants it once a month and a gal that wants it once a day. Also, age etc also matters. A teenage boy is probably going to want to masturbate multiple times a day sometimes... Once he's forty... Not so much... I definitely can't keep up with young ones myself... It's generally a good idea to match up with people with a libido at least in the same ballpark as yourself. If a guy wants it once daily or every second day and a girl wants it weekly then perhaps doing it twice a week together is possible if he puts in the effort to make her excited. That's a compromise they probably can both live with. (The one with the lower libido needs to be open tonat least *try* to make it work sometimes when they might not start out excited, while the one with more libido needs to put in the effort to change that before they can expect anything) And he can handle it himself the rest of the time. If someone needs it multiple times pr day and their partner can't handle it more then a couple of times pr month it gets difficult however... I'd probably talk with her about poly fidelity in that case myself. Sharing her if she needs more then I can provide or the other way around if I need more. There's also ways to lower or raise your libido slightly.
Hannah, I love some of your wording in this video. I don't know if any of it was unconscious/"Freudian", or if it was all just purely coincidental, but, here are some direct quotes: "Other things to say before we get STUCK IN". "ENGAGED audience". "BANG ON". "Doing similar things 'TO' you" (as opposed to 'AS' you). 😏
I always wish I could participate in these, but I do not need another social media, and I never got into Instagram. Always interesting to see the results though!
I am agender and would identify myself as non-binary (although in this survey, I wasn't sure if maybe other would have been right), but not as transgender. Because I don't have a gender to begin with, I don't feel it's either the same or different than the one I was assigned at birth, if you know what I mean. I also feel like on a spectrum about how much my life is affected, e.g. by dysphoria, discrimination and medical treatments, I am on the very low end and therefore don't share a lot of the "trans experience" at the moment. Both of these categories are highly subjective and someone else with an identical experience might use different identifiers and that's okay. I might change mine in the future, too.
I’d say you would be non binary because non binary is just not fitting into the binary genders non binary is an umbrella term for many gender identities
It would have been great if the sexual debut question/no of partners question had had hasn't happened/0 as options, it felt a little alienating having no option for people who haven't had sex at all.
Just something about the paying for porn question: the percentage of people who answered "no" might not be really reprensentative of the percentage who pay for video porn specifically. Since the "do you consume porn" question included written and other forms, many people who e.g. read erotica or stuff like that (incl. fanfic) will have said they don't pay for it.
always love a good survey! personally i identify as queer + nonbinary (but wouldnt identify myself as trans), for me these labels are more “open” and that’s why i gravitate more towards them i think! also if i we’re watching video porn i would pay for it, but i mostly consume written which is in free forums and websites! (ao3, tumblr) also yes the spiderman kiss i have tried! i do tend to read alot of erotica that i wouldn’t try out for myself! i do love being nosey and seeing the results of others tho!
I'm curious of the race demographics of those taking the survey, because the UK and America have many different racial demographics. As someone of color I've had much less luck on dating apps (and maybe I'm just not appealing to most people) but I know other people of color who also have less luck trying dating apps. So I'm interested in what those numbers look like.
To answer the two ‘for the comments’ questions since I find these kinda things *fascinating* I’m non binary and don’t identify as trans, I actually instead am isogender (a gender that’s between cis and trans that I found fit me really well!), I find the label ‘trans’ just doesn’t fit me? Partially due to me feeling little dysphoria (or euphoria) in regards to my gender and sex, I’m very just- chill most of the time And I personally find written erotica on fanfiction websites, specifically AO3- I find it a lot easier to visualise and imagine the described scenes when I already know the characters :)
With the large percentage of people consuming written porn and the correlation to many people not paying for their porn, I wonder if a lot of people read fanfic and other "amateur"-written content from online forums and writing communities. The rare times I get interested in porn, that's were I tend to gravitate it feels less exploitative. The authors want their content to be free and there is the community aspect of it that, at least for non-sexual fanfic, I know is a huge factor. But the downside of these sites is of course that they are not curated and sometimes it can take a while to find something that interests you and is not an abandoned work in progress. All this makes me want to ask so many follow-up questions because I never read fanfics growing up but recently did a research paper on fairy tale-fanfics and more or less accidentally discovered a lot of very intense red riding hood/ big bad wolf porn.
Also for fanfiction of recent works to be legal, it needs to be free, otherwise you are proffiting from someone else's intelectual property (using characters/setting/premise that they created). The terms of service for Ao3 require that you don't link to anything like pateron or kofi in your profile or authors notes, becuase not obviously making money from fanfiction is the only thing that makes it possible for Ao3 to exist and not be shut down for copyright infringement. One of the good things about Ao3 is the filtering and tagging system. If you use the pannel at the side you can filter to only show completed works, only show works of a particular length, only show works for a particular kink you want to read, not show any works tagged with a kink or content warning you don't want to read. Once you learn how to use Ao3 it's very customisable. There is still the risk of stumbling uppon an impropperly tagged work, but the tags and filters definately help with finding what you're looking for and avoiding things you don't want to see.
The reason I don't pay for porn is bc, much like many other ppl in the comments, I use fanfic if I'm ever in the mood, and obviously you can't pay for that.
