@@marnikinrys I'm not interested no more All I've been cashed nothing but crap they're running around I'm done from you I want something put you into it I told you I better waiting planner in Florida but That's the only one I want I really don't care about
Most men don't understand that rejection is good for you. I'm being dead serious. It might take 10 no's before you get a yes, but with each no, it's bothers you less and less which ironically is super attractive to women...
He’s right. Even a ‘ladies man’ gets rejected. The odds are forever in your favor! However… be receptive to a woman trying to get your attention to increase your odds. Don’t waste time on a woman with “Eff off!” vibes. Learning what acceptance signs to look for will change your life. Timing (in life) is everything!
I'll start using the scrunched cross eyes face from across the room if women sustain eye contact. Will let you know if it works. Could be a life hack we'll see.
As a older Man i agree she is 100% correct ! Younger men the more you approach the better you will get at identifying Ladies that are receptive and wanting you to approach them. Even when you get shot down its a win because you tried . Confident not Arrogant.
Rules for men: 1) Not talking for nothing 2) Not laughing for nothing 3) having a good back posture to avoid many back problems when you get old. 4) Say what you think But with finesse. 5) Assume responsibilities. 6) Stay calm when negative emotions surface (do not let our emotions dictate our actions). 7) Work hard and be persistent. 8) Stay humble. 9) Know how to listen and know how to say no with finesse. (Women love to be listened.) Ps: in the event of failure in our relationship, in the event of failure in our work, we can only blame ourselves and take responsibility and assume our mistakes and recognize our mistakes.
@skinee.. I know a guy who is fragile, very muscular kinda a tall impressive man, not a bad guy, not a violent guy, his wife is a golden woman, But as she is a woman and so she tests him to see if he is masculine and therefore solid. Cause she need this masculinity to attract sexuality and all the libido thing. And each time he fails to the tests of his wife, in fact words tests (he gets angry, he plays his wife's games by blaming his wife for the mistakes he himself makes, and so in fact he only confirms that his wife is right sometimes because he puts himself angry. A person who has nothing to reproach himself for and who has a clear mind and doesn't get angry.) Ps: I think she wants a divorce, she talk to me a lot (that's another problem cause I'm a man, and this guy is not really my friend but I'm not a coward I hate to break people couple. This is my motto. Whatever if she is hot af. I talked to this fragile guy about it But subtly. I made him understand that he must assume his responsibilities otherwise he will one day lose his wife and custody of his child. For example when she tests him to see where his masculinity is by saying: “Hey man why are you doing that, why do you never listen when I talk to you.” The guy responds angrily and hastily : "What??? You're the one who never listens with your annoying reproaches. You're seriously pissing me off woman!" In fact he should have simply replied with Self-deprecation, a little humor or a simple smile and straight back : "I admit sweet heart that I screwed up and I take responsibility for it., however I did not tolerate your way of speaking and therefore it would be necessary I think you need to do a work on your way of speaking to me, darling." This is how couples could start off with good foundations. If all men were solid continuously, reflective, calm, thinking before acting. Because women are constantly looking for masculinity and when they don't find masculinity, they become annoying, they make annoying reproaches. And worst and worst they become feminists extremists. Mega red flag!!!! And does not inspire respect in their boyfriends and/or husbands. And worse still, they demean their husbands and boyfriends in front of the man's friends or worse in front of the family. And friends and families find it funny to see a domestic scene like with grandma who only reproaches grandpas. Except that this is not normal and it makes the man feel even more loss of self-confidence and makes him fragile and weak.
@skibee... In a bar, i was sitting calmly and looking in front of me, totally relaxed. And there was a brunette hot woman and a typical woman from Denmark, tall blonde, blue eyes. And next to me there were three beta males who thought they were alphas. They talked a lot, made a lot of noise, laughed very loudly. They were very emotionally fragile and very drunk. Then the two beautiful women started looking at me insistently, and even when going to the bathroom she made eyes at me to tell me to come. While these three guys next to me had missed an attempt at flirting. I, without speaking, remaining serious and looking in front of me, being totally relaxed had managed to catch the eyes of these two women. There are fragile men and solid men. Solid men (not talking for nothing, not laughing for nothing, good back posture, humble, calm, a good listener oh yeah women love to be heard.) solid men always attract women. It's biological and indisputable. Result: leaving the bar, the brunette and the blond invited me to the hotel, we spent an evening together until the morning. Ps : yes it works to be quiet as a man, and it is absolutely not an easy thing sometimes to stay solid it is a combat. Men us are made to suffer to endure.
Putting steps 1-3 in caveman talk ... 1. Channel your inner Fred Flintstone. 2. Don't bother being PC, just avoid being rude. 3. And if it flops, always walk away thinking, "Her loss!" Thanks Marni. This is what every one of us need to hear first. After that, everything else you give everyone listening to you just makes every step of the path we want to take smoother, easier, and more successful. Don't ever stop!
@@meanolddog9912 You hit the nail on the head. Money/ resources will make you handsome to any woman even if you are short with yellow teeth and have hair on your back.
I met my girlfriend a few years ago thanks to your methods, Marni!! Your videos and programs were and continue to be very helpful in life! I have built my confidence speaking to women thanks to you and have so much fun doing it!! The banter is so much fun!! Her methods really work you guys!! You just have to apply yourself!! There’s no need to be shy or afraid, JUST DO IT!!!!
This could be THE single best dating & woman approach advice I have seen in my entire life. You might wanna add some advice on "go caveman also when you get a neg from the woman in question - you HAVE to show her you really don't care if she is not interested in you". That's because even with the "caveman mode" on, she will test you, and THAT is when you REALLY will need the caveman method - to show that your self confidence is not touched by her tests. Dang, I wish this info was available when I was young!!! :-/
You need just a baseline level of attractiveness which everyone woman has. She is not exclusively looking for what you're describing, she would just live sad and alone if she did that. All you have to do is look DECENT , just barely above average, and that's it. Nothing above that. The rest is the energy you give off. If you give off "Chads and tyrones always win I feel like a loser" energy, she will soak that energy up, and be repelled. If you have a basic level of outward appearance(huge variety here btw, figure out your own style and perfect it), and then work purely on your internal masculinity, she will be attracted if she is sexually receptive(most women are not, even the most skilled seductive men get rejected more than they don't).
"Caveman habits" dont work. Men just get mocked for it, sometimes that man also gets a restraining order or harassment charge. (I had a former friend threaten me with a restraining order just because I know she dates abusive marines and didn't like that I didn't trust her newest bf) and if in the work place they will probably go to HR about sexual harassment. "Just do it" doesn't work anymore
This one hit a chord with me. I'm literally always thinking "that's not interesting/funny/exticing/cool enough to talk about" or thinking my face looks stupid when I'm talking or listening. 😂
Hey Marni, this was definitely one of your best videos because I can tell you from experience that it’s very easy to get analysis paralysis. I think the principles you teach help out a lot but sometimes when it’s time to execute, you just gotta go for it
Thank you for the advice! All the "nice guy" bs is gone! Put myself out there again and going on 2 dates a week so far! You (Alpha and Beast) really changed the dynamic of meeting someone new. Now to work on my fashion! Lol
Hey, Marni. I want to say thank you for creating a website for men who want to improve just like me, have watch your lessons and practice them, people like the new me and not want me to change a damn thing ❤
i've never really had an issue going up to girls that i liked in school, because to a degree, you sort of know each other or at least know of each other. the real problem is meeting a girl in public, who is a stranger & neither of us have a clue about one another. at that point, its quite literally like being out in the jungle. some people say you shouldn't approach a girl at the supermarket, others say go for it. that's the same as saying some girls like this approach & others like that one. you have NO IDEA until you actually make the decision to just go for it & try your best to be as natural as possible, without acting like you're trying to remember a set of "rules".
Bachman Turner Overdriver band once said, "Taking care of business everyday." With Tiege Hanley face wash one can definitely take care of business everyday.
Going up to a random woman and telling her she’s attractive only works if you’re a handsome guy. Attractive women get told they’re pretty by every thirsty dude. I would definitely come up with a better conversation starter.
I agree not to be in the opposite direction of the "Caveman" frame of mind she refers to. But it's worth noting that most guys aren't in the polar opposite direction of the Caveman frame of mind, it's just a refreshing reminder not to over think things... do that at home when absorbing info/tips/mentalities/etc -- but when out "on the field", just roll with it and not worry about the wrong things to say, etc. That said, no, [virtually] all women are not going to have some high level of respect for you coming up to them if she isn't sufficiently attracted to you -- jiving with them for 2 minutes when she's only giving 1 word input/responses and you avoiding asking any questions and just Talking thru and thru after walking up to her out of the blue (2 minutes isn't close to instant btw).... there's a number of guys who do this, and gals will complain about it (due to lack of attraction). Even if what he's been saying and how he projected himself, in and of itself, isn't that bad of 'game' at all. :) It's just doing it fine will make it so gals being offended or rude back will be minimal. So point being, it'd be false to presume you won't ever step on any toes. You'll step on a number of them if you've got bad game but need 'field' work and do this -- and more regardless if you approach gals who are arguably, or especially kinda clearly, better looking than you. Which is why it's best to start "on the field" with gals notably *not* as good looking as you with whom you're not that attracted to. For on-the-field practice to help make your 'game' naturally/reflexively better -- as getting positive feedback helps, and you eliminating I'm-just-not-attractive-enough from the equation.
My older brother that was a rizzler way before that was a word (before dying to heroin RIP) gave me the best advice, period. Listen to the Blue Oyster Cult classic… “Don’t Fear the Reaper” and just go for it.
Rule 1 . Don't pick up chics at work . I had a really nice conversation at the store . I looked right at her smiled and said . I thought for a second I was having a heart attack .... ( that's subtle cave man ) married chics love to flirt they are not going to be offended if you flirt and go and single chics especially hot girls chat them up ask simple ? about what the like ... oh that's a pretty color makes me feel festive .....do you know what time the ? . . It all ties together but she's giving you guys gold .
I just wanted to say, Marni your advice you've previously given for us idiot guys has helped me so much. I do the caveman quite a bit, it's just when you are in the moment it can be hard to know what to do. Thank you for the advice vary much appreciated!
Caveman mode: Man see woman, man like woman, man clubs woman over head, man drags woman off and has his way with her. I think I’m gonna try this method, thanks for the advice.
By the way, a woman hit on me in the grocery store a few days ago. She used this "caveman" method on me. I thought that she was 10 years older than me, but she turned out to be 1 year younger.
One of the craziest, funnest nights of my whole life happened because I was in caveman mode. To be clear, caveman mode is so not who i am by nature. But I was on this particular night. In a sense, the stars just aligned. I was single, I was 30 years old and i was working out regularly - I was in the absolute best shape of my whole life. I was out of town, so in a place where no one knew me.. so I didn't care if I got turned down over and over. I had bought some new clothes, got a new hairstyle going, had a really solid tan from the outside work I was engaged in and I just felt really, really good about myself. My last night in town I decided to go out and find a woman. I didn't even know where a good place was to do this, but there was a bar right next to my hotel that seemed like a very busy night spot. I was going to just go in there and have a drink or two and approach the first woman who caught my eye. And if I got a "no", I was going to keep doing it till I found a woman who was ready and willing. Sitting close to me were two very attractive women, both a bit older than me.. a fantasy of mine, a somewhat older but still attractive woman... and here were two! It turned out they were both about 40, but neither of them looked 40.. at least in that darkened bar (LOL!). I would have guessed mid 30's on both, while most people guessed me at mid 20's. They were both pretty hot and I saw several of the older, pot bellied guys try to make time with them and get a cold response. But I would have settled for either one of them. So the problem was which one to hit on? My thought was which ever one responded the most positive towards me, that was the one I'd zero in on. I can't even remember how I broke the ice with them, but man it went better than I could have ever dreamed. The three of us were laughing and having just a really solid time. As it turned out, this was a "get over a breakup" party for two really good friends. One had caught her husband having an affair with a much younger woman and divorced him. The divorce was finalized that very day! The other had also just recently been dumped by her guy because he didn't want a woman with teenagers. How did I get this lucky? As they had a few drinks the conversation turned flirty... with both of them! The line I said that had them both laughing was when one said, "I'm done with marriage! Hell, I'm done with men!" And i said, "I don't blame you. I find men so repulsive I don't know how women sleep with them.... but I'm glad they do!" They started joking around about which one was going to get to go back to my hotel room... One said to the other "We may have to arm wrestle or fight!".. laughing while saying it. I chimed in... "No ladies, no! No fighting. You both can!" I meant it as a funny line. I said it expecting to get a laugh from them. At that point, I still didn't know which one was 'the ONE". But to my complete surprise, they didn't laugh.. they both just looked at each other for a moment or two, then one of them said, "Do you want to?" and the other smiled and said, "Do you?" And I will let your imagination run wild from there... but you will have to have a crazy imagination to envision how the rest of my night went. As i already said, this night the stars just aligned and i was in caveman mode. They both already knew I would be hundreds of miles away by the next day. They both knew they'd probably never see me again. They both had been talking about being "done with marriage" and "done with men" ... One had been rejected for a younger woman.. and here i was, a much younger looking guy, ready to go and go.. and then go some more. The other had teen daughters that she'd never want to have know anything about me, a hot guy who looked like he might be their older brother. And perhaps just as vital, they were both half intoxicated, as was I at that point... and my room was less than a 5 minute walk from the front door of that bar.
Feeling confident is 1) Feeling safe 2) Having a positive expectation of the future 3) Be the most comfortable person in the room Confident body language is 1) Move really slow 2) Breath from your abdomen vs your chest 3) Blink Slow 4) Stand up straight 5) Open up your body and take up room like you are comfortable in your living room Never accept being yourself!!!! 1) Focus on your weaknesses 2) Write out your LIMITING beliefs and go over them every day. POST THEM WHERE YOU CAN SEE THEM. Read them in your mind thinking this is how someone has a great life and realize how ridiculous it is. I've been doing the above for months and it has completely changed my dating. Hope this helps ;)
In a bar, i was sitting calmly and looking in front of me, totally relaxed. And there was a brunette hot woman and a typical woman from Denmark, tall blonde, blue eyes. And next to me there were three beta males who thought they were alphas. They talked a lot, made a lot of noise, laughed very loudly. They were very emotionally fragile and very drunk. Then the two beautiful women started looking at me insistently, and even when going to the bathroom she made eyes at me to tell me to come. While these three guys next to me had missed an attempt at flirting. I, without speaking, remaining serious and looking in front of me, being totally relaxed had managed to catch the eyes of these two women. There are fragile men and solid men. Solid men (not talking for nothing, not laughing for nothing, good back posture, humble, calm, a good listener oh yeah women love to be heard.) solid men always attract women. It's biological and indisputable. Result: leaving the bar, the brunette and the blond invited me to the hotel, we spent an evening together until the morning.
@@metothemoon1227 Bro GTFOH quit copy-pasting this fantasy of yours on every video. Go get your money up, gym, and heal your childhood trauma. You are single and lonely for a reason
Women have changed! Let me rephrase… American women have changed. This is why a lot of men are going to Asia and South America. American women have set their standards too high… He must be over 6 feet tall… He must have $50 million…. Entitlement. Listen, I am not broke, I have money. I own a very nice home. I have three sports cars. I am a very handsome guy, but women these days are just so difficult to date. It never used to be that way. I could have three or four different girls a week but something very strange has happened here in the United States. There’s been a weird shift and I think it has a lot to do with social media. Unrealistic Ideals about life and and men. Since I switched to South America, I have been having awesome results! Not to mention the women I am dating in South America are 10’s. Get your Passport brothers.
Yeah, what I’ve always done; I see woman, I want woman, I’m confident AF and I don’t care - detached from outcome - and I don’t give a F. Everyone loves this, not just hot chicks
On exercise 2 is definitely a true fact where you can end up talking about nearly anything based on where you’re at when approaching a woman and then you just show some knowledge on the thing that you’re currently at with commonality. During this talking you can talk about some of your hobbies, you got to pay attention to her subconscious cues to see if it is something she likes or interested in herself. Then you can expand from there and set up a date with a common interest. You don’t want to be acting like you are desperate for the woman and be aloof while doing this but confident. Make sure you’re giving her good eye contact also and at some point when you both are having eye contact you need to look her from her feet to her toes at a steady rate and don’t get trapped gazing at her chest for longer than you’ve looked at anything else because it shows that you have self control and increases your intrigue that you’re trying to get with the woman so that she wants to come back for more and get to know you. When you tell them the day/time you’re gonna take them out if they say they’re busy then you can either let them know the times you’re available so that when both of your schedules line up you can pick her up or meet her. Although if you’re in a time crunch exchanging numbers and having her let you know a few times she is available in the next week or two so you can pick the time. The couple of questions you probably want to ask would be to find out some of her interests so that you don’t set up a due date in her eyes (it might be a great date in other women’s eyes). Always pay attention to their changes in body language, what they do with their hands, and subconscious facial expressions. Do some research on those so that you’re able to see what is going on throughout the entire interaction. This will allow you to steer course if you’re getting outside of their interests. Most women love a man who can carry a conversation. When you’re on the first date is when you let her do the majority of the talking and actively listen to what she has to say so you show interest in her and then ask/answer question’s with her while picking up the conversation when she stops talking to keep it all fresh.
Caveman and cavewoman are on a date, sitting in the cave next to the campfire and having this convo: Cavewoman: Hey, Caveman! Pleeeease talk to me! Say something like no one has never ever said to me(yet)! Caveman: Internet!😁
I thinks being indecisive is a clear sign of lacking confidence and immediately knowing what you want is. That plus you can’t catch fish at all if you don’t throw any line in the water.
For years it's always all this crap about how to attract women. You need to look flawless and cute. Handsome. Work hard on how you look and have a confident personality which happens by failing with many women and learning. You also need to have enough money to not be poor.
Lets make one thing clear i will never expose myself again to the humilliation of asking a woman out and being rejected. No way will this great guy be some idiot being laughed at.
Wait what? Men go after women? Many years ago...yes. No nowadays. Men already know women play book well. Men already know women biggest secret . The biggest secret is...... WE MEN ARE THE PRIZE. NOT THEM !
5:16. So in other words, No clubs and dragging by the hair!! LOL! Seriously ,though, Love your content. There is always at least one thing I get out of all your videos! Usually much more!!
💯 correct. Lift, diet so your tight, wear nice clothes, have a clean vehicle and apartment, and go out and get it. Sometimes the bear gets you, and sometimes you get the bear
Rules for men: 1) Not talking for nothing 2) Not laughing for nothing 3) having a good back posture to avoid many back problems when you get old. 4) Say what you think But with finesse. 5) Assume responsibilities. 6) Stay calm when negative emotions surface (do not let our emotions dictate our actions). 7) Work hard and be persistent. 8) Stay humble. 9) Know how to listen and know how to say no with finesse. Ps: in the event of failure in our relationship, in the event of failure in our work, we can only blame ourselves and take responsibility and assume our mistakes and recognize our mistakes.
It is quite simple dear friend, you think something then you say it. Simple sentences, never questions (a woman likes assertive men), rather direct sentences, without making shortcuts, good eye contact . (Someone avoiding eye contact has something to hide... until if this person is autistic asperger... in that case we understand.) Never “could I have your number please? But rather “I want your number
I have over-thought situations with women for years, but i realized when I'm interested in finding somebody I should think of every woman i encounter as potential mate. Seems weird, and maybe for some people it would seem creepy, but thinking like a mate skips the what-if mindset and goes straight to the yes/no mindset. It also helps when I encounter somebody I like to imagine kissing her and thinking about how she likes to kiss. You fellas feel free to use my method free of charge. ur wlcm.
This sounds a lot better than a lot of BS advice(s) out there. So you're interested? Just go up, start a conversation (ANYTHING, really), and then pry the door open a bit with - by making her comfortable. That sounds a bit better.
You can immediately point out the men in the comments who fail out dating...they immediately are resistant to what she's saying while offering no valuable argument. They're just mad🤷
Thank you for teaching me this important information I shall take it to heart may your heart bring you a beautyfull Day or night depending when you see this comment😊
I'm 62 and have a 34 year old fiancée, but I am masculine as I work as a correctional officer even my female colleagues chase me even the ones that are lesbian like me and feel attraction. But you are right I always talk to them say they look nice and they know I am taken pre-selected, so talk and have fun, it becomes habit and grow attraction.
While I like much of the advice on this channel, we have here reached the limits of advice that works for everyone. You need to stay authentic and there will be different methods that can fit for you.
