Sharing the Story of My Niece's Death

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In my 100th video I shared the long version of the story of my niece's death. I wanted to give a recap for those who didn't know the story because I have a few new videos about her coming soon. Here is the story of her death. We focus on her life and not so much on her death but we have lessons we learned from that time.
‪@KaritheMortician‬
kari@Karithemortician.com

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@crystalammons7907 5 месяцев назад

This story absolutely broke my heart, it's so unfair that someone so young was forced out of this world. I'm so sorry to you and your family.

@tamiewert808 5 месяцев назад

What a truly loving gesture for you to do the after death care of a family member, especially a child! You are amazing!!

@annegleason8442 5 месяцев назад

I'm sorry for your loss!! 7 years old? OMG!!! Poor thing!!!! R.i.p little one!!! 😢

@sheilan6235 5 месяцев назад

Heartbreaking. Your niece deserved to live her life, poor little girl.

@patcoon3266 5 месяцев назад

Each time you talk about your niece my heart breaks for you. Sending warm hugs from Maine...

@ronniles5764 7 дней назад

Kari, This is what I love about you, you’re willing to share your personal stories with all of us. I also love and appreciate you saying that her name IS Kelli and not that it was! Much love and respect to you!

@vanessahinds8320 5 месяцев назад

I lost a niece at 15. I did the eulogy at her funeral. It was peaceful though she died in such tragic circumstances. I worked for the funeral home after I moved back to Oklahoma. I wish I was still there.

@ladybug4mom 5 месяцев назад

Thank you for sharing your story. I worked in the funeral industry for 20+ years. From April 2008 to March 2009 we lost 5 family members. I was involved in each of their arrangements at the request of my family. I was honored to do so, however, I developed compassion fatigue not long after that. I had no time to grieve for myself of all the loss we had encountered in such a short amount of time. I left the business about a year later. Thank you for emphasizing that funerals can be as personal as you want. There is so much "unknown" to the outside public who has never worked in a funeral home or never asked. I hope people will listen to your advice and thank you again for sharing. I'm so sorry your family had to experience such loss. Blessings from TN.

@JohnPatterson-kz8jr 9 часов назад

So sad and touching. My now 48 y.o.neice has always meant the world to me and I don't know how I would've felt if she died young. With Loving Sympathy JohnT.Patterson. Uncle,Great and Great GreatUncle Stepfather,Grandfather and Great Great Grandps😅😊

@OceanSwimmer 5 месяцев назад

Kari, I couldn't watch this video; I can talk about death all day if it's an adult or myself we're discussing.......but a child or an infant? Oh hail no. Especially seeing the picture of that sweet, adorable face......that wrecked me. 😓😓😓😓😓😓 Some could say the child's Spirit had just a short "assignment" here in this Life, but the thought of any family losing an innocent after such a short time is crushing.

@ritaspeers1259 5 месяцев назад

What a beautiful, loving way that you and your family treated your nieces death. It is so healthy for a family to come together to share in the experience. Expressing love and grief is the groundwork for healing.❤

@shellywells555 5 месяцев назад

This hurts my heart, but this makes you more of who you are and why you do what you're meant to do. You are a very special person, beautiful inside and out! Thank you for letting us in your life🥰

@tinaneidermyer8842 5 месяцев назад

I remember watching that video. I have not forgotten about your story on the passing of your niece. It is so sad but your experience surely helped your family through the grieving process. I have been a fan of yours for a long time!

@b.r.i.d.g.e.t 5 месяцев назад

I remember watching the video about your niece. I'm sorry for your loss and your family's loss. My Dad passed away unexpectedly and suddenly on 12/12/23. You are the first person I thought of that I wanted to take care of my Dad, but I'm in Ohio. So, we went with a funeral home here. We set up a direct cremation, he did not have life insurance and money is tight. I was so disappointed with the way they handled things at the funeral home. I felt so rushed and like there was only a minute or two to see my Dad. They did not come across as caring at all. They stood around near us and were being rather pushy for us to go to the other building to make the payment arrangements. I felt like that was all they cared about. I wish I would have had more time to say goodbye to my Dad.

@michiganmaxedout6248 5 месяцев назад

I'm so sorry about your dad's passing and the bad experience with the funeral home making it worse. Your story made me wonder if there are people, who volunteer or for a reasonable fee, who take on the role of an advocate for the bereaved in this kind of situation. Maybe someone not connected to a funeral home, but someone knowledgeable who can accompany the loved ones land explain things, give advice, and help them navigate the process in a way that's beneficial. (Or even quietly take the rude the funeral home staff aside to tell them to back off and stop being pushy.) The funeral is your final experience with your father and you will have these memories for the rest of your life. Final memories are always going to be sad because of the loss of a loved one, but with the right support form a caring and knowledgeable supporter/advocate, it could be a comfort that will eventually help you look back on the funeral with peace. There are life coaches, wedding planners, child birth coaches, therapists, etc who help people who don't know what to expect or are too stressed to think clearly enough to know what to do to advocate for themselves. I would expect that to be the responsibility of a staff member at the funeral home, but maybe not? IMO, people in your situation could benefit from a professional support person who can advise the bereaved and protect them from pushy and predatory funeral home staff.

@scoobiousvondubious100 5 месяцев назад

@@michiganmaxedout6248 There is a growing industry for death doulas

@Luluisraging.86 5 месяцев назад

BINGO! And I also want to add my condolences on the passing of your father, and the way you felt you were “rushed” through. I think you can always call the BBB and give your HONEST REVIEW! Enough people complain, it can affect on their business poorly, and therefore, I’m sure you may NOT be the only ones.

@hb11912 5 месяцев назад

A heartbreaking and tragic story. I could not ever imagine the grief of losing a child. She was only a little bit older than my daughter. As an Aussie, glad to hear she was a fan of The Wiggles. I hope your family are all doing okay.

@TonyThomas10000 5 месяцев назад

What a tragic loss and an amazing story on how you handled it. May her memory always be a blessing!

@kathleenblair7278 5 месяцев назад

Thank you for talking about this. My former student was part of a murder suicide. I went off the deep end getting involved with a man trying to hide from the pain. I have since been told that people mourn in different ways. I want to go back and call someone like you. I have since dropped the shovel whereby, I was unknowingly digging my own grave. That was the last of March. I am learning slowly to accept this young man's death, and move forward in my own life.

@jefferyepstein9210 5 месяцев назад

Kari I’m sorry your family went through this. Mental illness is an epidemic in this country that needs to be addressed. I hope your sister has put her life back together after this. I couldn’t begin to imagine her pain. She is blessed to have such wonderful support from you and your family. Rarely does a video bring any emotion out of me but this one did. Thank you for sharing this.

@Aromatic_Adventures_by_PJ 5 месяцев назад

Thank you for sharing her story again. It isn’t easy so your ability to share it is appreciated.

@ScottVargovich 5 месяцев назад

Ever since I first heard of this tragedy, I've wanted to know how old she was. Thank you for revealing that here. She was way too young. My heart hurts for you and your family having to lose such a young family member. I can't begin to imagine the things that go through the minds of those who have this happen to them. As I've said before, going through these trials makes you not only a better funeral director, it makes you a better person. My heart, love and prayers go out to you and yours. Your heart is made of pure gold. Your compassion for those who are hurting speaks volumes about you being able to relate to and empathize with anybody who loses a friend or family member. I'm truly sorry. There's nothing else left to say.

@kristinreynolds577 5 месяцев назад

Kari, thank you for sharing Kelly’s story and yours! Much love to you and your family! 🫶🏻

@Decgyrrl 5 месяцев назад

I remember that video. In fact, I watched it twice bc I stumbled across it, after watching another one of ur videos. So I just clicked on it. It hurts me to the core, to hear abt infants & small children dying...for whatever reason....in the dawn of their lives. To think of how much, they will miss in a lifetime they will never, get to experience. This was particularly sad. She was a beautiful child. God bless & keep her.💕🪽💐🕊

@violetcrush19 5 месяцев назад

So sorry for you and your families loss. I just don't understand why anyone regardless of relationship would take a 7 year old baby and do such things, It's hard for me to wrap my mind around something so horrific as murder/suicide, there really is no reason for it and it's uncalled for. That little girl didn't even have a chance to grow up and experience life. This is so aggravating that nothing can be done legally, that closure was taken away. I do recall watching the other video, it's heart breaking and I cried through it. 7 years old is just too young to be ripped away from the family, it's far too young to be murdered (any age is far to young for murder, I don't want anyone thinking I'm ok with it as long as your not a child and there is NEVER a time murder is good, it just shouldn't happen to anyone).....Just tragic, I'm so sorry

@pamelabrumfield7679 4 месяца назад

I don't understand why people like this dad are so selfish!!!! It's heartbreaking Kari.

@The_momur 3 месяца назад

I’m so sorry. My mom died at home, after 5 cruel years of ALZ. She was buried with a cut of my daughter’s beautiful red hair and a cut of my now thinning gray/brown hair. We each made her a beaded bracelet and she had her favorite amethyst marcasite ring. Having regretted not being a pallbearer for her I did join my husband and family when my MIL was buried. Why not, female pallbearers? Not too much weight when you’re one of 8.

@HildaBolivar 4 месяца назад

Hi Kari the mortician, thanks for having a RU-vid channel addressing death for me is really hard to accept death because the grief causes me emotional sadness I can recall being in funeral and burial of my maternal grandfather in Mexico when I was seven and it was very tearful everything black for Catholic chapel everything in Latin. Then the second funeral it was here on Oddfellows cemetery my soldier stepfather whom I was very greatful to because he adopted me and gave me a greencard. The third one was my boyfriend brother at 17he hanged himself in the garage. That's all after therapy no more funeralPero gracias por to-do lo bueno que puede Evita a una tragedian Thankyou very much for all the better efforts to avoid bad things from happening to kids specifically those billboard warnings of indoor accident or pool accidents and May they rest in peace . Thanks for kindest approach and❤😅😊I amor you I love you too

@KaritheMortician 4 месяца назад

You are welcome. Thank you for sharing this.

@stephanieborkin7087 5 месяцев назад

Oh Kari! I am so incredibly sorry for the pain and heartache you, your sister and family had to endure. You know the saying…no parent should ever bury their child. On that note - what an amazing gift you were able to give your sister. I’m sure it wasn’t easy for you, but in true Kari the Mortician style - you didn’t skip a beat. How incredibly stoic of you. How thoughtful and caring. You handled it with grace, while harboring your own heartache. As an Aunt to 11 kiddos and 4 great-nieces, I would’ve done exactly what you did. Losing my husband 15 years ago, taught me a lot about death, dignity and honor. Thank you for sharing. I wish more people understood their choices when it comes to the death of their loved one, especially a child. You simply amaze me. ♥️

@user-nn1wx4sc4x 5 месяцев назад

Thanks for sharing your story, morticians are no different than the rest of us From the time we are born and move through this life and this world, we all become a sponge for grief.

@stephaniehowe0973 5 месяцев назад

You & Your Sister are so strong. One of those things you find out when you are thrust into a situation

@davidtifft66 4 месяца назад

I am so glad you are posting again. You are a true angel. Carol T

@RC-qf6wr 3 месяца назад

God Bless you Kari! You are one of a kind and sharing this story shows how wonderful you are.

@karladuncan4026 5 месяцев назад

I am so sorry Kari! I found my nephew in his house in May 2023. That was my sister's last child (she only had two). There was only 7 years difference between us. I still have issues to this day. God bless 🙏 you and your family! everyone and everything 🙏

@pzkw6759 5 месяцев назад

Kari, I remember that video, and it was very sad. I like how in this video you said it was ok to do all those various things. A family needs to do what they need to do to work through their grief. If they need to have party to celebrate the deceased's life go for it. Where is it written that says things need to be gloomy? If anyone is offended by doing something like that, well, as a wiseman once said, Tell them to "blow it out their ..,." Keep up the good work Kari. You bring more comfort and knowledge about things like this than anyone else.

@msgs6850 5 месяцев назад

Awwee , I couldn't imagine something horrible like this So unforgivable but in order To move on and let her go in peace 🕊️ There has to be forgiveness 🙏🏻 May she rest in peace sweet angel 😇 your aunt did a beautiful thing for you xo !

@Crystal_1992 5 месяцев назад

I believe this was one of the first videos I saw of yours... It's been a few years now that I've been watching your channel. So sorry for the loss of Kelli , Such a Beautiful little girl 💞💞

@jameythomas207 5 месяцев назад

Thank you for sharing your knowledge with all of us. So many things I wish I would have known I could do in 2004 with my stillborn son Max. He would be 20 this year and I still have regrets. We still celebrate his birthday. It's the one day I know all my kids will be home regardless of where they are in their lives. Thank you

@9983sp 4 месяца назад

The law vary state to state. What she was able to do in Michigan, you may not have been. I live in Alabama, and only the funeral home can transport the deceased and hold the viewing.

@sarahbeets4686 Месяц назад

U r one tough, strong lady! I am so very sorry for the loss of this dear child. I just don't understand how someone could be so cruel. Blessings to u and ur family! 😢 💕 🤗 💕😊

@nataliecassidy4298 5 месяцев назад

I remember you telling the story about your niece, again I am so sorry for what happened to her. 😢Thanks for talking about this and hope that it may help you through the memories of her!❤Love to you and your family! ❤❤❤😊😊😊from AKRON, OHIO

@carolannjohnson2398 5 месяцев назад

So very sorry for the loss of your niece. Prayers for family and friends.

@elainejohnson6948 5 месяцев назад

🌹🌠🎈🎀🕊thank you for a special video Bless your sweet niece + family always💐

@jackoesterlejr.3454 5 месяцев назад

I'm So Sorry! "May The Perpetual Light Shine Upon Her" 🙏 Love Your Video's!

@marilyntague2767 5 месяцев назад

Still heartfelt sympathy! You are amazing! 💖

@rosea2405 5 месяцев назад

Thank you Kari for sharing with us. Adding personal touches and spending moments together are beautiful ways to say goodbye at such a tragic time. I did not know of all the possible things you can be part of when a loved one passes. I learn so much through you. Thank you. ❤️

@aidanegron1385 3 месяца назад

I drive a red ford flex and I’ve always joked about my hearse; but damn it shocked me to think of a precious baby girl’s body in a casket in my car. Losing a child is a crazy thing. My family lost a 10 year old boy suddenly in June 2004, to an aneurysm. The family did everything our way and the funeral home was so accommodating to us and helped arranged for his classmates, teachers and their families to come in for their own viewing and getting the school counselor in with them. His death is still like a punch in the gut some days but mostly it’s the beautiful, happy memories now.

@KaritheMortician 3 месяца назад

Thank you for sharing!!

@kathrynbellerose6216 2 месяца назад

What a tragedy. Thank you for sharing.

@KaritheMortician 2 месяца назад

You are welcome

@MrMiamiswaggz305 4 месяца назад

I’m so sorry to hear about this.

@KaritheMortician 4 месяца назад

thank you

@carayj 5 месяцев назад

My husband was a pallbearer for his son, mother, sister and his father

@Singersavannah0 5 месяцев назад

Bless his heart ❤ so sad

@lynnkonior4584 5 месяцев назад

Thank you for sharing this deeply personal experience.

@sammuelmeger7996 5 месяцев назад

That is horrible. I am so sorry to hear that. My uncle is a mortician and He just lost His mother and I asked Him if it's hard or heard to be on the other side of things when it came to planning and preparing Her. He said it's a little weird or different being on this side of things, when You're usually the one on the other side preparing and planning things.

@darlenewillbrandt1628 5 месяцев назад

That story of your Niece Kelly death was one of the first videos I watched of yours. Thank you for all the education you have shared with us over these many videos. Even if it has been a couple of years, that time is frozen in time, so senseless for a father to kill his own child. Mentally, illness strikes in so many ways and hurts so many families. Blessings and peace to your family. May her memory be cherished by all of us who hear her story.

@lindap.p.1337 4 месяца назад

You tell us so many valuable things. Thank you.

@rhondamc3642 5 месяцев назад

This kind of scenario is becoming so prevalent these days where "parents" kill their kids just to spite the ex. I wish there were an "off" button made in us that when we hate someone so badly, the switch would just turn the person "off" permanently. I'm so sorry your family is going through this -- it's heartbreaking!!

@BKnichole88 5 месяцев назад

I'm sorry for your loss. I love the way your family honored her memory. Beautiful name. That's my name also 🙏🏽🕊🧸

@Figgatella 5 месяцев назад

I’m so sorry for you and your family’s loss.😢 Its so hard to bury a child. I was with my mom when my little sister was killed in a car accident. It’s a terrible loss. Sending hugs and prayers.❤😢🙏🏼

@amberreid6242 5 месяцев назад

You are so brave. That baby looks like you! Just love her and all she is. As a mom of 2 angels, I can say GOD almighty has her and she lives on. Kari, you are absolutely a wonderful person. I can’t tell you how much you do for others with your videos

@cherylclyne9145 5 месяцев назад

Such a sad and uncalled for death to have happened to your niece, bless her sweet soul! 👼🙏

@suebryant1188 5 месяцев назад

A sweet friend of ours lost his wife suddenly. At her celebration of life he played the songs she loved while showing a series of pictures of her life on a big screen TV. The first song was Ave Maria. The last song was Another One Bites the Dust. 😂This last song was an agreement between them and a silly joke they shared. I’m glad he did. That song gave us insight into their relationship. 😅

@JudyAllison-Richards 15 дней назад

Oh Kari I have missed seeing you! Got a new phone and for some reason i had to subscribe again. So sorry for the loss of your sweet Kelly. 😢 i knew this had happened to her but i learned something i didn’t know before about this incident. Thank you for sharing. I grieve for you and your family. Much love. ❤

@oevilone 5 месяцев назад

I remember your video about this. Just so horrific for your family, sister, and you. Thank you for sharing her story and using it to educate people.💜

@rhondaschuyler7306 5 месяцев назад

Thank you so much for sharing your experience with your niece. So heartbreaking but how wonderful that you took care of her. You also cared for your sister and your parents. You are a wonderful person and I have been following you for years. Love to you. ❤

@A.L.I.S.O.N 5 месяцев назад

I type a search for your channel name and niece and it came up. Hope it helps someone. More in a bit.

@richcarnaggio1525 5 месяцев назад

I’m so sorry for your loss

@jenniferlyons4150 5 месяцев назад

❤ RIP. Thank you for sharing.

@gregdiamond6023 5 месяцев назад

I’m sorry Kari. Thank you for sharing her story.

@BR-kk9qu 5 месяцев назад

Thank you for sharing this.

@HildaBolivar 4 месяца назад

So sorry honey I'm watching this

@KaritheMortician 4 месяца назад

Thank you

@billkramer1853 5 месяцев назад

I've been watching your videos since that video.😊 I love your videos . sorry for your loss

@snoopy1965 5 месяцев назад

Kari, I am so sorry. I had pneumonia in both lungs and had congested heart failure but I am home.

@lizettec1622 5 месяцев назад

Such a sad story. Thank you for sharing

@MissBebe64 5 месяцев назад

I'm so sorry Kari for your loss❤🙏

@garynajera7484 5 месяцев назад

Im so sorry for your loss of your beloved niece

@leahhayes8256 5 месяцев назад

Sending you and your family all the Love 💕

@johnmcgeough2799 5 месяцев назад

What a special blessing you were to your family.

@kennmills4382 5 месяцев назад

wow……you are so special Kari💕

@davidmckinney6577 5 месяцев назад

I pray 🙏 God will bless her soul and rest in peace. You are a very strong woman Kari I had to be hard to do..I hope and pray for you and her mom and family peace.

@larryulery3729 5 месяцев назад

Wow you are brave. 4:16 when my sister died there was a big hole left in my soul. I went to a grief meeting getting through the holidays when you lose a family member. It helped a lot. Talking about my loss. Our favorite movie was a Christmas story The first Christmas my niece got me and my brother and sister a sweat shirt, the the tad line you will shoot your eye out . Thank you for your videos

@bryantburchell797 5 месяцев назад

I'm so sorry for your Loss Kari 😢

@bernardcole2464 5 месяцев назад

I'm sorry you and your family had to go through that.

@sabrinar.purnell3869 5 месяцев назад

My sincere condolences 🙏🏾

@joeblow8593 5 месяцев назад

I remember when you first talked about this. Again, sorry for your loss.

@donnathetiktoker1233 5 месяцев назад

Soery for your loss

@jacqui.amelie 5 месяцев назад

I'm so sorry Kari for you the parents family and friends so tragic RIP Angel 💝

@vicki9400 5 месяцев назад

My brother did the same with my nephew who passed away at eight years old of Medullablastoma. He dressed him. Carried him to the hearse and followed to the funeral home. They let my brother carry him inside and lay him in the casket as they closed and sealed it. My brother didn’t want anything else more done to his little body as he was poked and prodded the last three years with chemo, radiation, two surgeries. My brother said ‘no more’. No embalming. And we/he buried him the next day after the service. As we left the grave site my brother stayed behind and help with the burial. We were all numb but this somehow helped my brother. He was with/took my nephew for every chemo and radiation treatment. Also, the army somehow arranged for a figure eight to be done while we were at the grave site…another story. My brother would not have it any other way.

@lindabelanger6286 5 месяцев назад

I'm so sorry d For you loss. T RIP little one.

@lindashultz1904 2 месяца назад

Beautiful ❤

@nataliecassidy4298 5 месяцев назад

Can you tell us the date you will be having your next video that you are talking about, I want to make sure I don't miss it! Love to you and your family ❤❤❤😊😊😊from AKRON, OHIO

@Cheri12345 5 месяцев назад

She would be 24 now 😢💜

@Khalito22 5 месяцев назад

❤ R.I.P 🕊️

@KaritheMortician 4 месяца назад

thank you

@andrewdagostino1687 Месяц назад

I’m so sorry

@juliefarrell3529 5 месяцев назад

Can you post a link to the 100th episode, the one about your niece?

@wynnssecret8882 5 месяцев назад

This may be a odd/ or unfair question to ask, but because it was her father......did his family members attend the service ( talk about awkward ). Yet they too lost a niece/granddaughter

@margaretlaycock42 5 месяцев назад

❤

@granny_T_ 5 месяцев назад

🙏

@richardgordon245 3 месяца назад

😢

@iamtimfoley 5 месяцев назад

💜✝️🕊️

@Janet3yow 5 месяцев назад

Hi Kari. I so appreciate your willingness to share your personal story. I have no idea how to find Episode 100. Can anybody help me out?

@Crystal_1992 5 месяцев назад

If you type Kari the morticican niece it will come up

@Janet3yow 5 месяцев назад

@@Crystal_1992 Found it!!! Thanks for helping an old retired lady out. 😁

@SherryMyers-uy6vq 5 месяцев назад

💔💔🙏💔💔

@QueenDeeBLOCK 5 месяцев назад

😢😢

@Victorg-dr3sd 5 месяцев назад

😢

@9983sp 4 месяца назад

Did you tell the dealership why you wanted to borrow that specific vehicle? I know the dealership never told potential buyers of it, that you used it as a hearse.