Dying Fat: Your Funeral Options

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We want everyone to have a good experience at funeral homes (even during a terrible time) so we need dialogue about the needs of fat people in death.
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@benderama7988 3 года назад

My great uncle was morbidly obese and ended up taking longer to cremate than the funeral home had initially said he would, so he was not ready in time for the funeral we held. He had always said he was always so late to everything that he'd be late to his own funeral, lol.

@CS_Mango 3 года назад

How ironic. That's pretty macabre.

@theblondeone181 3 года назад

Least he was a man of his word, rip

@yorilamaz 3 года назад

Hehe he got it right! One last chuckle for all 😊

@Anths_art 3 года назад

LOLL

@MayaAshAnimation 3 года назад

This is honestly a nice way to remember someone

@armedprophet3321 4 года назад

I want an oversized casket so I can move around and get comfortable.

@Crowlexisdead 4 года назад

Same

@LoweringMyProfile 4 года назад

🤣🤣

@orlaithtraynor3218 4 года назад

OMFG 𝗶 𝗰𝗮𝗻𝘁 𝗳𝘂𝗰𝗸𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗯𝗿𝗲𝗮𝘁𝗵𝗲

@aimeeredacted9439 4 года назад

@@orlaithtraynor3218 s a m e

@greatandmightykevin 4 года назад

wait a minute

@ashleynfam1773 4 года назад

I’m so glad you called “plus size” people fat. I’m fat and it drives me nuts when people tiptoe around it. Like I have a mirror I know.

@gowonslineinptt4506 4 года назад

I agree. I'm fat and it's just weird for people to call us "plus sized".

@okaywhy6280 4 года назад

I hate that too!! I always felt fat is just a descriptive word. Yes, I am fat. Just like you’d describe someone as skinny, blonde, short, tall, etc. it’s not an insult unless you make it one.

@nikkiderringer 4 года назад

My husband is on the bigger side and I hate calling him fat. He doesn't mind. He calls himself fat, but I feel bad calling him fat. I tend to calm him chubby.

@DPryorAustralia 4 года назад

TY .... FAT IS NOT A DIRTY WORD! :)

@lil_weasel219 4 года назад

some people cannot handle facing the issue, so they sugarcoat it. Its not a healthy coping mechanism

@CM-vl4wi 2 года назад

I ran a cremation office and the largest body I cremated was 610 lbs. We treat fat people the same as everyone else... dignity and respect.

@CM-vl4wi Год назад

@@nickcarroll5034 Come by I'll show you 😘

@nickcarroll5034 Год назад

@@CM-vl4wi I've seen it.... It's not some mystery of the unexplained. 😁

@CM-vl4wi Год назад

@@nickcarroll5034 You make no sense 😂

@nickcarroll5034 Год назад

@@CM-vl4wi How?

@8Fledermaus Год назад

Oh yes I know what you mean, I work as a crematorium technican, and in the crematorium office.

@heidipomeroy5605 3 года назад

I am a retired nurse and while this does not involve death, it does speak to the plight that some overweight people face. One night I received a hospital admission of a woman weighing 888 pounds. Before we could really provide care, hygiene had to be addressed. She couldn't recall the last time she'd had anything resembling a bath. It took 6 of us to bath her. It was beyond just turning her. Three of us held the areas of fat up and out of the way so the other three could bathe, examine and treat her skin. We had everything planned before entering the room. We kept her distracted from what could have been a miserable and humiliating experience by talking about her family and ours too. We shampooed and blow dried her hair and even gave her a spritz of perfume. We supplied an oversized gown for a comfortable fit. She told me later that it was the first time she had ever felt pretty. I firmly believe that the same care and loving heart should be afforded to the living and the dead. Every kind gesture counts.

@janeth6446 2 года назад

God Bless you Heidi 🙏❤

@cje3247 2 года назад

You are very kind, Heidi.

@Hawkeye2001 2 года назад

I remember the 660 pound patient we had in our ICU. Moving her in bed required all the help available. Even the men from Maintenance would come up to help move her in bed. When she died, getting her from ICU out the door to the waiting hearse was an ordeal. Thankfully, it was in the early morning hours, so we were able to move her, without being noticed by visitors.

@Suzee46 2 года назад

I am also a retired nurse and grew up with a father who was a funeral director/mortician. My mother was a nurse, my sister is a nurse and my brother is a physician’s assistant. I always tried to treat a patient like I’d want to be treated or like they were my family member. God bless you Heidi for making her feel pretty. 💜

@gmc1284 2 года назад

@@Suzee46 thank you for treating people good I was in a nursing home for a while and was treated good by most but there were a few that shouldn't ever be near the sick they were down right mean to me .I think it will come back on them one day .

@jimmiwoltz6416 6 лет назад

Thank you for saying FAT. Its not a dirty word. Its less awkward then the million other things that could have been said

@ipetzombies 6 лет назад

Jimmi Woltz Yes. Fat needs to be used more as a normal word! It's not an insult, it's a descriptor.

@roestn 6 лет назад

I'm fat. And it actually annoys me when I can see people trying to think of another word other than fat. Just use the word fat! It's a perfectly good word that everybody knows the meaning of. And let's be honest, plump, tubby, big boned, well built, plus size, chunky, thick, curvy, blah blah blah. It all means FAT!

@valeriekesslerangeliclizar1386 6 лет назад

Natasha Kelly I repeatedly ask to just be called fat. Im not fluffy or curvy or a clydesdale. I'm fat. Trying to dance around that just makes me feel like crap. For good or bad it is what i currently am

@KerKhent 6 лет назад

Fat got outed mostly because politically correct idioms came into existance. I don't know if elsewhere in the world is like the USA but in the Middle East fat is still fat. Although people who are not fat but not thin either would get hurt when called fat, those who are btw 60 to 70 kg.

@cleverkiller 6 лет назад

My thoughts exactly. When I refer to myself as fat--which I am by every definition--people get all, "Nooooo, you're just..." Whatever word they feel comfortable using. Drives me nuts. I'm fat. It's okay! So good to hear her say it so comfortably, so normally.

@larsland 4 года назад

Fat person here: I prefer the term fat. People get offended when I call myself fat and it’s so weird.

@littlemrpinkness295 4 года назад

I'm fat too. I was in the ICU for 2 months so I lost a lot of weight, but I am doing better now so I gained a bit of it back. Still fat though.😄

@pathologicaldoubt 4 года назад

I think this is so interesting and one more example of an ignorant over correction by PC activists

@jwenting 4 года назад

@@pathologicaldoubt the only thing that upsets me is when people belittle or berate me for being fat, screaming that "fatso should just eat less" without realising I am what I am mostly because of a medical condition and that I probably eat less and more healthy than they do. And those people include several of my doctors, who never even inquired about my diet, just assume I'm quaffing copious amounts of sodas and eating tons and tons of candy and pasta every day.

@pathologicaldoubt 4 года назад

CaptainDuckman I’m sorry people assume your behavior is the cause for your fatness. Medical conditions suck. Just don’t let it define you. You’re so much more

@whynottalklikeapirat 4 года назад

It's just kind of objective really. When I go shopping for a pork roast I don't ask for one that is "clinically obese", "big-boned", "very healthy", "curvy", "well insulated", "plumb", "solid", "robust", "stout", "big and strong", "portly", "rotund", "full-bodied", "corpulent", "plus- or extended-size" - I ask for one with a decent fat to meat ratio, which means a nice thick layer of fat under the skin so I can make proper crackling. Nobody ever told me to stop fat-shaming that poor pig either, and of course the pig itself is usually characteristically quiet which I roundly take as a form of implicit consent in the matter. Most people I know, when they talk about losing a few pounds, they don't mean muscle tissue, or water or accumulated mud. They mean fat. That's what they want to lose. Some fat. That they have on them. I have some fat but noones getting that. It's a keeper. It's mine.

@MikeMinMD 2 года назад

One of my best friends died in March of 2021 - he was over 600 lbs, the funeral director said he estimated 650. There was a casket, a very large custom built one that was very nice. He wanted a burial, but we were not able to have a graveside ceremony due to safety laws since the body plus casket was so heavy it required a heavy crane to lower in. The director was awesome throughout, and explained it with caring and sincerity, I spoke with him for a while before anyone else arrived and he was a very nice guy.

@Kurious_Kiwi 4 года назад

Thinking about my body being locked in a box for the rest of eternity gives me serious claustrophobia

@Booze129 4 года назад

Kurious Kiwi your body will be on top of a mountain glacier 🏔

@snowboardingfisher135 4 года назад

I DON'T KNOW WHAT WOULD BE WORSE: BEING IN A LOCKED BOX, BEING BURNT, BEING LIQUIDIZED, OR BEING PUT IN A HOLE WITH NO BOX WHERE MY BODY WILL BE COLD AND WET FOR ETERNITY. NONE OF THESE OPTIONS SOUND LIKE SOMETHING I WANT FOR MYSELF. I GUESS I AM GOING TO HAVE TO LIVE FOREVER

@supitzsarah1580 4 года назад

Well you'll be dead so it wouldn't matter

@athomassen3980 4 года назад

You can be buried without a casket, or in a biodegradable casket that decomposes (so your body won't be 'locked in', and it's better for the environment, too). Caitlyn has a lot of videos on alternative burials that you might find interesting!

@snowboardingfisher135 4 года назад

@@supitzsarah1580 WHY WOULD I WANT SOMETHING FOR MYSELF IN DEATH THAT I WOULD NOT BE OKAY WITH IN LIFE. WE DON'T REALLY KNOW WHAT HAPPENS AFTER DEATH BESIDES THAT OUR BODY DOES NOT WORK. I WOLD HATE TO BE TRAPPED SOMEWHERE MISERABLE

@gullettr1 3 года назад

I'm just not gonna die, I made my mind up the other day.

@gilla2092 3 года назад

Since aging to 21 I have decided to no longer have a need of aging and remain as I am

@sealzsealz2680 3 года назад

me too

@breania_inekora5069 3 года назад

Otherwise you might return a fat, white Republican man

@milkcatdog394 3 года назад

That’s so brave 🙏🏻😩

@bcaye 3 года назад

Good luck.

@jefferyfelix1416 3 года назад

My fiancé died suddenly at home and was over 600lbs. I let them know she was on the heavier side because we’d already dealt with her having to wait for an ambulance with the correct equipment in the past so I kind of already knew the drill. The crew that came with the heavier weight gurney was super respectful. When they noticed the nosey neighbors they flipped the mattress we had on the curb for bulk pick up day onto the fence to block the neighbors. I spoke with the funeral director the same day she died and he delicately explained to me that the cremation cost would be higher due to her weight. No shame just treating a grieving family member with respect and the deceased as well.

@stan_nonna 3 года назад

I’m so sorry for your loss.

@bethanykounds9056 3 года назад

I am very glad to hear this, that you and she were treated respectfully.

@timfirst3536 3 года назад

I am glad you did not suffer more than the situation required. Hope you're well, Jeffery.

@samsaekgoyangi 3 года назад

im sorry for your loss :(

@lucy9698 3 года назад

Don't take this the wrong way, but I am very curious to know..... Why did you decide to marry someone who is 600 pounds?

@Jorie921 2 года назад

First time I saw an oversized casket was for a funeral where a mother and her two young children were murdered and they buried them together, it was sad but beautiful at the same time because they got to be together. I like the idea of things like that as well.

@ThisIsJ.Nicole 2 года назад

How sad.

@ccrow9147 2 месяца назад

Mom got to be with her kids. That’s so comforting.

@lucycannon6732 6 лет назад

Since Caitlin is reading comments to make sure they're respectful; Please let me thank you again for the extremely valuable information you impart in these videos. The recent unexpected death of my oldest daughter left me untethered, but I was well prepared for my meeting with the funeral home, thanks to you. This is an invaluable service, provided with a soothing voice, and a great sense of humor. Blessings to you, Caitlin.

@beep.boop13 6 лет назад

Lucy Cannon so sorry for your loss, may she rest peacefully. ♡

@blackfishblues 6 лет назад

My thoughts and prayers are with you, Lucy. I wish I had known Caitlin in 2015 when I lost my dad.

@anitraduke3616 6 лет назад

I'm so sorry for your loss. I can't imagine the pain of burying your child.

@elainethompson163 6 лет назад

I would like to echo those sentiments. Caitlin is a charming gem.

@tgrey4827 6 лет назад

Sending you loving vibrations Lucy.

@bluestarghost2212 3 года назад

Love how caskets have sizes, I'll have a medium with sprinkle

@kevinsullivan3448 3 года назад

There are companies who will do that.

@MarkLoves2Fly 3 года назад

Make mine a Venti, with extra foam! XD

@guillermobarroso2990 2 года назад

Oo, and lower me down in using a fork lift too.

@bobdole8830 2 года назад

@@MarkLoves2Fly you must be rich! 20 caskets! Bro!

@bluefrog85 2 года назад

I'll have mine with lots of glitter on it thanks.

@VampiraPericulosa 4 года назад

My dad was actually late to his own funeral because they had to change the casket they put him in because it wouldnt close up

@casper189 4 года назад

VampiraPericulosa omg

@DarkAngel71180 4 года назад

VampiraPericulosa I'm so sorry, but that also made me giggle on a rather shit day I'm having. Tell your dad thank you for me ❤️

@VampiraPericulosa 4 года назад

@@DarkAngel71180 don't be. My fathers funeral was hilarious. In soo many ways. Nobody paid attention of the religion of the funeral home. I thought you could just ask for the cross to be removes and another religious symbol could be hang up, a star of david for example. So i went and asked for that while waiting for my dad to arrive, they said they don't have any other symbols but we could cover it up. The whole room was decorated with different figurines that meant something to him or our family, he once made a frog lile figure out of paper and wires, it was called Rosita after my moms mother, she actually asked me why it was there. My mom, my siblings, his best friends and I where cracking up the whole day. He would have loved it.

@pathologicaldoubt 4 года назад

Fashionably late to his own party. Nothing wrong with that

@billygibson1790 4 года назад

My uncle was to; a number of years ago....but it was because he MISSED HIS FLIGHT...(TRUE STORY)...died in TX--family funeral in MS...

@divalea Год назад

My son, who died last week, weighed 419 pounds. This video helped me be ready to expect extra charges for his size, and what his cremation would entail. Your other videos validated my ideas and hopes of what a good death and celebration of life could be.

@divalea Год назад

I want to add: grieving sucks. At least I’m not grieving AND have a huge funeral bill to pay.

@julibeswick-valentine3690 Год назад

It is so devastating to lose a child, no matter how old they are. My heart goes out to you.

@genevievehoskins6829 Год назад

I'm so sorry for your loss. ❤

@DK-ns6rm Год назад

oh dear. take care. my condolences

@AngelusaNobilis Год назад

I'm so sorry for the loss of your son.

@erikcarrillo7378 3 года назад

I would wanna be naturally buried. I remember once my friend lost 3 dogs to parvo. We buried them in his backyard which was just dirt and rocks. After some time passed the area where they were buried started growing grass and flowers. I just remember thinking how nice it was that they returned to the earth and came back as new life in a way.

@BoneDaddy1997 3 года назад

absolutely!!!! buried my cat in my backyard and a beautiful green bush grew over where she was. it was a cool reminder that life comes full circle

@SnickSnackSplatoon 3 года назад

Just like Mufasa said

@ramyamaddali703 3 года назад

Same. I'd love it if a tree grows over the spot where I was buried and cats hang out in the area.

@arceliossmellios8905 3 года назад

@@BoneDaddy1997 Awwww :')

@arceliossmellios8905 3 года назад

How lovely :')

@RayMak 3 года назад

All bodies should be treated with highest respect

@luvluh 3 года назад

ray i always listen to ur piano covers omg nice to see u here

@tonee2es223 3 года назад

In the words of Frank Reynolds "When I die just throw me in the trash!"

@musicbychanc3 3 года назад

What about Hitlers corpse

@blazingknight1276 3 года назад

Agreed and disagree. I'll respect someone as much as they respect themselves. Or Me on that subject

@delbertharris8355 3 года назад

What about a serial killers body

@bobmorris5386 6 лет назад

I work in a funeral transport service, picking up for different funeral homes in my state, and a few surrounding. I would like to say we treat every body with the upmost respect regardless of weight or any other factors. I feel like the business gets a bad rap of the occasional video you see of two people dropping someone but we really do try our hardest to be very respectful, which can be very hard sometimes because one call is the worst decomp you’ve seen in your entire life, and the next call is this super crabby family it’s hard sometimes. I have no idea where I’m going with this at this point so if your still reading your awesome!!

@AskAMortician 6 лет назад

Transport drivers have some of the hardest jobs in the industry. I so appreciate what you do.

@jennott1703 6 лет назад

Bob Morris thank you. Good to hear this

@michalgt7203 6 лет назад

Bob Morris. What does that job entail? Do you have to have a special license or a cdl . I am looking for a driving job which am driving a enormous box truck now would be awesome if I could get into a local funeral home

@bobmorris5386 6 лет назад

thomas g it’s honestly a pretty private business and I found out about it through word of mouth and it’s honestly only a summer job for me but I know you don’t need a CDL (at least in my state) but your not really going to get in through one funeral home, I’m sure you could try anyway, but at least for me I have an really inconspicuous office building that we go to and drive all over the state ( and sometimes out of state) and some pickups you do are super nice families and super easy and other times you go in at 4am to some seriously scary areas and pick up some of the worst things I have ever seen but honeslty I like the job.

@irisanddaisy 6 лет назад

You're doing something that makes a difference. Thanks for talking about it, it's much appreciated!

@vamp1024 2 года назад

My stepfather just died this morning, and he was over 400 pounds at death. Almost 500. So I sent this video to my mother to help her and my step brother make a funeral plan for him. Thank you Caitlyn!

@AndrewBarsky Год назад

Wow that was a quick send.

@renacleerican7824 Год назад

@@AndrewBarsky 🤣🤣🤣

@kristajohnson9173 Год назад

That's pretty heartwarming. Sorry for your loss

@ssaepa1 Год назад

God bless him

@AngelusaNobilis Год назад

I'm sorry for your loss. How are you doing now?

@ErynRenee 6 лет назад

My grandma was morbidly obese. She died when I was 15. My mom's side of the family had lots of grandkids...farming family. My mom and her siblings were concerned about how many pallbearers it would take. Since the boys were outnumbered by girls, the boys clearly needed help. Rather than drawing straws or arguing over which of us girls would help out doing something that only boys have done in our family, we all instinctively lined up around the casket and grabbed the handles knowing we had more than enough people to do the job. This became our tradition. We all carried my grandpa's casket and my great uncle's casket, without batting an eye. It turned into a collectively loving gesture that never would have happened if my grandma wasn't overweight. I am honored to have carried her to her final resting place.

@kitssewingkit 6 лет назад

This touched my heart

@princesssookeh 6 лет назад

That was really nice.

@terridd6265 6 лет назад

ErynRenee That is a beautiful new tradition that you all created! Nice! 😁❤

@Just-Nikki 6 лет назад

ErynRenee That touched my heart deeply. It sounds like y’all have an amazing family full of strong willed females and that’s beautiful.

@pinkyuzu 6 лет назад

ErynRenee I am fighting back tears reading this.

@Megtran-lb2ji 5 лет назад

I hope my body is disrespected and there's drama, stress and difficulties with my family. I want to die like I lived.

@saladbattery 5 лет назад

Megan Gertler oh my god

@crashlee9585 5 лет назад

Heard.

@Amber_waves19 5 лет назад

Yikes

@leonorf2730 5 лет назад

Mood

@andreaparsons2120 5 лет назад

Megan Gertler hahaha

@howtosober Год назад

I'm instantly reminded of the end of What's Eating Gilbert Grape. It's a sorely underrated indie film from a bygone era, but the morbidly obese mother's exit from the ridicule and abuse upon her death is pretty iconic. Depp's and DiCaprio's characters were both perfectly, and sensitively, written.

@silversleeper1193 11 месяцев назад

I remember seeing interviews where Depp was distraught over the way their “mother’s” character was treated (though obviously there was a reason to write it that way) and would apologise to her after they had to film scenes where his character was cruel to her. That always stuck with me

@lorneholtzclaw4505 6 лет назад

It’s interesting that you’ve touched on this subject. I’m a Firefighter and I’ve assisted in extrication of large deceased individuals. Let me start by saying some of the options to remove a person are limiting. One deceased individual live by himself in a camper behind a truck stop where he worked as a mechanic, this individual passed we think on a Friday Night and we alerted to no answer on phone or door Tuesday Morning. I think it was July or August, he was approximately 6’ tall about easily 350-375lbs. This next part is tough to say, if we were to lift he would have come apart on us. It’s at points like this we have to view him briefly as an object into getting creative on extrication. There were about 12 of us there and we decided to cut through the outer wall. We essentially cut an entire wall off this camper at his mattress level then slid mattress to ambulance cot, covered him respectively and moved him to the ambulance. We were there dealing with sights and smells which was tough but we never lost sight that this was a man. Your body no matter how large will still be given the dignity it so rightly deserves.

@TalairanPerigord 6 лет назад

Thank you for your compassion for this man. I know "it's your job", but you described this experience with respect and grace.

@MOOMOO2728 6 лет назад

Thank you.

@ambervanbrogen3172 6 лет назад

Lorne Holtzclaw my hat is off to you.

@nunpho 6 лет назад

Lorne Holtzclaw thank you so much, I know it's your job but others wouldn't be so compassionate

@ohio_nights 6 лет назад

Appreciate you. My boyfriend just recently graduated the fire academy and is currently in EMT school. Not a lot of people seem to realize that firefighters do much, much more than run into burning buildings. Thank you for your service.

@alexnelson09 4 года назад

When I first discovered your channel I chuckled a bit immaturely. After watching this video I realized, “where else can a family get information like this?” This is priceless and of course people want and need to know what can and will happen to them when they’re gone.

@MacetazzOpina 4 года назад

like which videos? most of the ones ive seen are about very rare or strange things, not really anything that would help me if i needed to take care of the funeraries of a deceased person... im genuinely intrigued

@GSlice37 4 года назад

@@MacetazzOpina look a lil deeper, she has a whole playlist labeled practical advice on her channel

@dr.jessicalindley299 4 года назад

I completely agree!

@alexandreleite2541 2 года назад

Lost my middle brother for covid19 last year. He lived in Sao Paulo, Brazil. Because the tropical climate all funerals must be in 24h. We had to buy a special coffin and a larger drawer in the wall because he was morbid obese. (Not in our family's burial spot in the cemetery, away in a corner with strangers). There's nothing funny in these circumstances, it s sad because the loss; it s sad because the special arrangements needed to the burial. Lost my mom last month, I had to pay an enormous amount of money to keep her body in the freezer for 24h. Enough time for me to arrive in Brazil. The mortician did a great job, she looked in peace. 🙏🏻 I watched my brother's funeral by video, there were lots of restrictions because covid19. So painful not to be allowed to be at a loved one funeral. May they be in peace.

@helpithurts9277 4 года назад

When I die I want to be buried in a hot pink leopard print casket so I can feel trashy in the afterlife.

@phillipbrewster6058 3 года назад

I think im in love

@user-yv2cz8oj1k 3 года назад

Hot pink leopard print in glitter sparkles? Would inset rotating disco balls be a step to far? 😀

@paulaOyeah 3 года назад

And purple crushed velvet interior with dangley gold tassels??? 😁👍

@mikitea68 3 года назад

lol im sorry for laughing but just because you love hot pink doesn't mean you're trash! As for the leopard print well they're becoming more and more extinct so um please don't use real fur unless you want that leopard with you for a long time in your afterlife.

@bridgetthewench 3 года назад

@@mikitea68 I've never seen leopard print anything that's actually real fur, usually it's not even fake fur, just the pattern on a dress or t-shirt.

@robertmiller3810 3 года назад

I had to help my daughter set up the funeral arrangements for my ex wife. She weighed 395 pounds and an extra $100 was added to the cremation cost. After her cremation, her ashes were placed in a beautiful wooden container. My daughter wanted to keep her mother’s ashes in her home with her. A fitting ending to our marriage, I carried her over the threshold when we got married and I carried her back over the threshold into the home she lived in with our daughter. If you’re wondering, I estimate the container weighed between 10 to 15 pounds. Today, 2/26/2021, we would have been married for 55 years had we stayed married.

@putyourhandsup27 3 года назад

How old was she when she died?

@adrianneumann7703 3 года назад

Just curious. Do you call your wife an ex wife because death separated you? Because I don’t think, ex wife would be the right term for that. Or have you been divorced before?

@robertmiller3810 3 года назад

@@adrianneumann7703 I was already divorced from her and she had remarried but was separated from her abusive new husband. I was still in love with her but kept my distance as long as her new husband was involved. She never divorced him so I became involved again because of our daughter and planned her entire funeral.

@mbutt6138 3 года назад

@@robertmiller3810 you sound such a gentleman the way you speak of your lady love. Lovely to still see in this day and age.

@robertmiller3810 3 года назад

@@mbutt6138 Thank you, my daddy was killed in a coal mining accident when I was only 7yo. So my mother had to raise 3 young children on her own at just 30yo. She did all she could to bring us up with love, hugs, kisses and the understanding life wasn’t just given to you, you had to earn the respect of others. It’s been a rough life for me including physically, emotionally and mentally but the love my mother instilled in me still exist, the love of nature and of every human on this planet. Sadly, there’s not enough of people like me because we’re destroying this world, one unkind deed at a time.

@junechrisman3407 2 года назад

My nephew was 6 ft 6in tall and weighed about 300 lbs but wasn't fat. It cost an additional $1000 for his cremation. All the funeral director kept saying was he had never had someone so big! Yes, he was a big man in so many more ways than just his physical size. Love your approach to death.

@Amanda-zn7ox Год назад

Well, I believe that when it comes to tall people, their weight might be heavier to keep in proportion and stable. I believe the now retired BMI chart reflected that. The taller you are, the more weight needed to stay within the "healthy" margins. I don't know what they use in place of the BMI now. I come from my own family of really tall/giant members, so I get it.

@avatarluvr1654 6 лет назад

Hi! This isn't necessarily about the video, but I just need to say it. My mommy (I'm 14 and still say mommy. childish, I know... But it makes me feel better) died only 16 days ago, and your videos have helped me feel a lot better about the way her body had been taken care of and her passing. It still hurts, of course, but your videos have helped me so much. My mindset was terrible when my grandfather died a few years ago. I refused to leave my room, eat, and do normal human things. Since watching your videos, I have been able to deal with death better for myself. When my mother died, I went to my grandparents and stayed with them, I stayed with family friends, I left my room, and I actually kept eating meals. I stayed out of the kitchen for 2 weeks, since that was where I watched her die and was the only one staying with her until the ambulance got there, the kitchen scared me, but 2 days ago I got the courage. Anyway, I know that this is long and probably annoying, but I just needed to get this out. To anyone who reads this, have a good day! ✨

@daxxydog5777 6 лет назад

Alex Rae Bless you and I am so sorry for your loss at such a young age. My prayers are with you!

@laurabogart2571 6 лет назад

I am so sorry for your loss.

@kaidanariko 6 лет назад

So sorry for your loss and that you had to go through that alone. You can always look into online communities for panic, anxiety, and depression if you’re afraid your going to that dark place again. And you can always call a children’s help line where you are to get directed to programs to help you if you need it. You’re not alone. I felt this way when my father passed when I was seven. *hugs*

@allgoodmusic86 6 лет назад

Oh Sweetie. You've lost your mom. It's ok to talk about it. Reach out, if you're comfortable, to people who will listen and love on you. It's hard, but take care of yourself. If you have close friends (or family, if they're not reeling with their loss as well), they will hopefully be there for you for a shoulder or sounding board. Most people probably don't know what to say, so they don't say anything at all, but I'm sure that if you reach out and express your needs to your friends, they'll love you so much and help you through your grief. Much love to you and your family during this time of transition and grief.

@marsneedsbunnies 6 лет назад

I'm so sorry for your loss. ♥️

@cristinar6056 4 года назад

We lost my mom dec 1St 2019. She was on the heavy side. This was my worst fear, that she wouldn’t be treated with the dignity and respect she deserved. She was treated very respectfully. We laid her beautiful self to rest December 10th

@d.y.h.w. 4 года назад

My ❤ is with you. 😘

@ReginaWrites 4 года назад

Sending love. ❤️

@SarahRWilson 4 года назад

Hugs from across the miles.

@zuleigahanslip7200 4 года назад

Sending you lots of love , sorry to read that you lost your dear Mom

@kelsey2333 4 года назад

I'm sorry for your loss. I lost my uncle and cousin in 2019

@Br0nto5aurus Год назад

Perhaps a standard question for funeral homes making arrangements over the phone should be "is the decedent over 300 pounds?". Grieving family members with little or no experience in death (who haven't seen this video) likely don't have the presence of mind to offer that information unprompted.

@sarasmedberg8203 4 года назад

imagine doing a natural funeral (aka out in the woods) and instead of letting future relatives know where you're buried they get given a map and have to go on a treasure hunt to find you. the prize is my undying love and affection.

@purrrmeow5323 4 года назад

Yeah like I don’t need a casket just bury me as I am. It is what it is

@carelsby 3 года назад

Natural burials are still in “cemeteries”. They’re just specifically natural burial grounds. Burying a human body out in the middle of nowhere is illegal because of zoning laws.

@thomasduffyjr 3 года назад

I wanna do something like this. 39 clue shit style.

@Asa...S 3 года назад

The will is in the grave, and the one who finds it, gets the inheritance.

@edgarbanuelos6472 3 года назад

Here's what we're going to do. My bones shall be scattered all across the globe. You job, friends and family, is to find and reassemble my body to be put on display somewhere i dunno. Whoever finds the most bones wins my car.

@jesuscobain7709 6 лет назад

Does anyone else watch how her bangs move when her eyebrows move

@ElyseHorvath 6 лет назад

Lol now I can't unsee that

@brandy4522 6 лет назад

No. ... but now I do.

@trafficbabe 5 лет назад

Well, I do nowA

@aimeebrown3209 5 лет назад

Yes! It’s so cute!

@florencetatro7922 5 лет назад

Jesus Cobain I noticed that right away

@tanyathewildflower5331 Год назад

I’m am so glad you discussed this. I am a Mortician and I always end up spending extra time discussing the reason why an obese case costs more to families.

@silverburgeon8748 4 года назад

I work in the veterinary field and there are crematories that will cremate horses. Horses are often 1000 lbs >

@lmstar6846 4 года назад

I'm good with that

@melissarey2973 4 года назад

I am nowhere near that big. But I'd be down with being cremated by a veterinary crematory that services horses. But I'm eccentric.

@hollaatthekid1796 4 года назад

Nothin a stiff broom cant handle. I'm ok with that. Just telling my people to get many urns, enough of me to go around. Mama, my husband, brothers and sisters. I can haunt all y'all's houses if ya miss me, heray!

@HardKore5250 4 года назад

So she is wrong?

@GoSTLBlues 4 года назад

Neigh...I’ll pass lmao.

@Charlotte66666 6 лет назад

I would hope that any person, large or small would be treated with respect.

@Canadiangrammarpolice 6 лет назад

Peter Carlson chief, foot

@PerkyHedgewitch 6 лет назад

Pete Carlson- Regularly? I think you overestimate the frequency with which this happens. I would venture to say that a vast majority of firefighters have never even once had to remove someone from a building that way.

@kheventplanner 6 лет назад

Peter Carlson I think you're being a bit dramatic and crude. I've got a family full of firefighters and not one of them have been involved in such a thing

@zeynabuthman639 6 лет назад

Charlotte Whitmarsh sadly not the case. I overheard the mortician mocking my dead grandmother as he and his assistant arranged her body for viewing. I came early and wasn’t supposed to be there yet. It was awful.

@zeynabuthman639 6 лет назад

Peter Carlson so because someone lived a life you disapprove of you feel entitled to deny them a basic level of respect even after death. One more round of mockery just to make SURE everybody knows how horrible they were for existing. What a lovely person you are.

@Greeneguy1963 Год назад

I worked near a crematorium. We often joked that we took someone home with us every day.

@dogleghobag 6 лет назад

I've always wanted a natural burial. Always. Since I was very little. I wanted to be eaten by worms, and it completely alleviates the irrational fear that my body will "still feel" somehow after death. Just imagining all that cool soil around me, against my decaying flesh, is very soothing. No morticians fussing around me with needles and tubes, no incineration, just me and the worms. Thank you for this frank discussion. Many of my family members are quite large, and by the time I go it's quite possible that I will require the extra accommodation as well.

@TheMamamarieke 6 лет назад

bohn only's I heard this poem as a song (sung by Pete Seeger) when I was a kid. I’ve wanted a natural burial ever since. bigfishink.com/?p=730

@JustTheTruth-Please 6 лет назад

I agree with you so much. It gave me the biggest relief when I researched (thank you Caitlin) burial options in my state and county and found out I can be buried on my property without any fuss. I have informed my family that I am to be wrapped in a old sheet (or not, who cares) and tossed in the hole, covered and left to do my thing. The feeling of relief was amazing and surprising.

@donbeissel2965 6 лет назад

I have also been mortified by the idea of being embalmed.

@ipetzombies 6 лет назад

Same. I don't want to be embalmed or even in a casket. Just in the ground with as little fuss as possible.

@yarixzamendoza6314 6 лет назад

bohn only's umm wow that is something very heavy for a child

@marcyjones2667 4 года назад

I'm so glad to see this topic addressed, even though I know i'm coming across it pretty late. When my brother died two years ago, of a heart attack in my bathroom in the middle of the night, it really caught my family by surprise. I had been watching some of your videos not long before though, which had prepared me to be in the mindset to think about our options. My brother was very large, and I offered to make calls to local funeral homes to ask about cremation options. My dad chided me at first when he heard me explaining to the funeral homes that my brother was very large, he was embarrassed and didn't want me to "scare them off". I told him it was important to be up front- if they don't have a machine to handle his size, we need to know, we also need to know about extra charges. He let me do my thing. Which is good, because it allowed me to honestly explore all the options. One home wanted to send the body to Kansas city (three hours away) to use their machine, at twice the cost for transport. One home wouldn't take him at all. I did find a home that could accommodate him in house at no extra charge. (Being honest and exploring all options pays off in the end).

@sophieelsa7469 4 года назад

i'm sorry for your loss

@isabeljane9789 4 года назад

Sorry you lost him so suddenly 💛💛

@bromptondevice7685 4 года назад

Every family needs someone like you.

@mrlee6647 4 года назад

I’m sorry for your loss Marcy, your brother was so lucky to have you, I hope he is at peace.

@AK-jt7kh 4 года назад

If I was your brother and I knew about this prior to my death, I would have felt comforted to know that someone was going to take the reigns and get things done properly so the rest of my family didn’t have to suffer... But also just knowing that someone would discretely handle my size in that way, so you don’t end up having parents and other family members be roped into a discussion about my size. I really admire the way you handled the situation. You’re a good family member. Someone a person can rely on.

@l3k064 3 года назад

I love how she is not saying oversized etc. But is just being honest and says fat. As a fat person i appreciate honesty over "wokeness"

@thatonedude9269 3 года назад

Hot

@abi9039 3 года назад

same

@DMp-xp6mj 3 года назад

Me too. People think it's rude to say fat but when you use other words like plus size, curvy (this one in particular is extra funny) in front of a fat person it feels like you are beating around the bush and it gets awkward

@l3k064 3 года назад

@@DMp-xp6mj as s disabled person i even get a laugh out of myself when someone calls me a cripple while when someone tells me it's "physically challenged" i'd probably tell them a fat guy walking upstairs is physically challenged and he seems mentally challenged hpwever i am crippled and the person that can barely string a sentence together is mentally retarded

@ayumuchorizo4486 3 года назад

A lot of the people who are getting offended over "not saying politically-correct terms", are oftentimes (in my personal experience), not even the ones being referred to. They are just getting offended for those not even offended, bah. I usually try to know if the person concerned is cool with it or not. Don't just assume how others feel about on based on your personal values.

@annafaulkner9879 6 лет назад

I’m not overweight at all, but I love these videos that cover issues I’d never have thought of. It builds awareness and empathy.

@zoieholston4161 6 лет назад

I don’t get why people get angry about the extra cost. It’s requires more materials, and time and that should be reflected in the cost.

@BelfryBat 6 лет назад

Well you have to remember most ppl who are overweight are poor. You don't get fat by making bank. You get fat by working 40 hours just to barely make the due date on your bills; and deciding on your way home that McDonald's is the cheaper, less taxing dinner. The problem comes when you combine a grieving family who is barely scrapping by with something as unavoidable and expensive as a funeral. And while wanting to be paid extra for the extra work you put in is totally fair. You're still asking for more money from a family that probably doesn't have it, for a service that they can't really refuse. And that is the tricky part.

@jadecoolness101 6 лет назад

KonMakko wh- not all poor people are fat nd not all fat people are poor? That was the most irrelevant comment I’ve ever seen...

@aemxo 6 лет назад

jadecoolness101 ... he said "most" though "many" probably would have been more appropriate. He very clearly did not say "all". Edit to add that I do not agree with KonMakko's comment..just saying that he obviously did not say "all poor people are fat" which makes your comment hilariously ironic.

@jordan6287 6 лет назад

I'd like to think that fat people would be angry because they think the increased cost is discrimination, rather than a higher cost needed for resources.

@BelfryBat 6 лет назад

Wow u completely skewed and disregarded my whole comment without putting any effort into actually understanding the conversation. Not once did I say all fat ppl are poor. Nor did I say that was the only issue. But unless you completely disregard facts and cross referencing information then the fact remains that is the main problem. Obesity is much more prevalent in the lower class. This is fact.(Therefor it's a fairly safe assumption that, on average, if you have an obese corpse there is a good chance you are working with a lower income family.) Funerals are very expensive, and they charge more for bigger bodies. So if you are charging more for bigger bodies then a large percentage of the time you will be charging a poorer family more for a funeral. That is based on pure mathematics and there is no getting around it. And it causes grievance for many families who are already struggling. Yes not every fat person is poor. But in such a broad topic you have the cover the general spectrum. Not a few odd cases. So congrats to those ppl who are overweight but don't have to worry about this because they are financially set. But that still doesn't make this less of an issue for the majority of obese ppl that do have to deal with this problem.

@SergGirl 6 лет назад

My Papa always worried he would have to be buried in a piano box. Luckily, he found a very nice funeral home with a crematory that could accommodate his size. He’s in an urn that looks like a stack of books now. His wife likes to move it around the library so the grandkids can play “Where’s Papa?” when they come visit.

@MelAnn 6 лет назад

"where's papa" !!!that's adorable!!

@teasugarsalt 6 лет назад

Oh my god goals

@CaySedai 6 лет назад

That's awesome! I have my mom in a biodegradable urn (really a cardboard box with pretty handmade paper) and eventually will get her buried. Initial plan was to bury her in Wisconsin with her parents, but it's been 5 1/2 years and I haven't left for Wisconsin yet. So we may have to find a plot here.

@MOOMOO2728 6 лет назад

Awwwwww. A lil awkward but I like it.

@Someone_somewhere_Someway 2 года назад

Hey I know this'll be lost in the shuffle since it's so late but I saw this pop up in my feed and I wanted to say thank you for this video. My father passed two years ago(he was big) and I was able to help my mother with his arrangements thanks to the information in this video. Very good advice.

@chopin65 6 лет назад

I want to be planted under a flower bed. The idea that flowers or plants would grow out of my heart makes me happy. No chemicals or caskets please, just me and the Earth. Thank you.

@julietfischer5056 6 лет назад

Look into the regulations where you live, and make preparations now.

@sweesbees 3 года назад

and this is why i’d rather be buried naturally. no casket or plot worries, no cremation worries, and ecologically better.

@amandamorcan3330 3 года назад

I just wish it were legal here in Australia 😢

@thomasschwab1727 3 года назад

I just want to be fed to vultures. That to me seems about as eco friendly as it gets.

@sofypi7493 3 года назад

U can’t really do that a corpose release things soooo yea. What u can look into is option where with your ashes make a artificial coral or where they put your body at the base of where they are going to Plant a tree

@Anisa-ig6xw 3 года назад

@@sofypi7493 idk where you live but in America theres special grounds where you can have a natural burial.

@Stephapokus 3 года назад

I'm sure my cat will eat me before any of this is even an issue!

@ringluvr 3 года назад

I'd never thought about weight in death until my cousin died and we were at her burial and noticed the casket couldn't close completely. It made a sad situation even more horrible to watch them try to close it and then give up and leave it slightly open. This video was very informative.

@kiki-drawer2669 3 года назад

I'm sorry to hear you had such an experience. It's so unfair but I hope these things will change in the future

@Miskamouskamikumouse 3 года назад

Oh my god thats horrible, they left it slightly open? Dang...

@amogus6030 2 года назад

@@bonk4225 why would you even say that to a grieving person? Just shut up

@ConsciousApostle999 2 года назад

@@kiki-drawer2669 things don’t need to change, y’all need to change bruh.

@znab7610 2 года назад

That's horrible. Thank you for sharing this story. I had not considered this.

@2tatianakfae Год назад

I am a fat person and I just want to say thank you. We are so often left out of important conversations that directly impact us and it makes me happy to see someone who cares to include us.

@birdieblue812 3 года назад

My death plan: dump me in a hole, plant a tree is said hole while you bury me in it.

@lozzyholland 3 года назад

i want that too....no expensive funeral. put me in hole...family go get drunk and have a party

@cabbagesprinkles7322 3 года назад

Seriously man, just wrap me in an old table cloth and throw me in the ground. Return me to the land where I came from, let nature reclaim me no fancy boxes or anything.

@printedjays8512 3 года назад

Mine: throw me in a river and say I moved to cuba.

@Jules_Pew 3 года назад

That's how my parents were buried. We had a choice of trees. Chose a hazel tree for my Mum as it would have nuts and attract wildlife - she loved animals. Silver birch for my Dad as he was tall, white haired and willowy.

@birdieblue812 3 года назад

@@Jules_Pew I would choose silver birch for myself as well, if I still lived in a county where they are native and grow well. It is my favorite tree as there was a huge one just outside our kitchen window when I was growing up. As I now reside in a different part of the world however, and choosing a "bush burial", only done with locally sourced natives, I have set my mind on a callistemon, a favorite of honey eating birds.

@ShatteredMirror 6 лет назад

When I saw the title if this video, I had mixed emotions - yay, this was being discussed, but also that creeping chill of fear I always have. I knew you would be respectful, but my past experiences have taught me to be wary. I needn't have worried. This is a wonderful video, not just in being respectful, but in being empowering. I feel like I know where I and my family stand now. I feel like we deserve to be treated well, which isn't something it's always easy to feel. Thank you so much Caitlin - you've made a fat deathling very emotional and very happy.

@despairia 6 лет назад

_I feel like we deserve to be treated well, which isn't something it's always easy to feel._ ;_; **fat deathling hug**

@YellowRubberDuckie 6 лет назад

ShatteredMirror I mean it IS Caitlin. You knew it was going to be respectful and helpful. She is lovely. I would never have thought that she would be hateful.

@RampagingPixie 6 лет назад

Me too!!! She’s always so wonderful but I’ve been burned by so many people I respect that I was TERRIFIED this would be hurtful.

@kheventplanner 6 лет назад

I almost didn't watch this out of fear of that but I'm glad I did. a little voice told me she would never be crude or disrespectful and it was right. I have learned so much from following her!

@drasco61084 6 лет назад

I hesitated too but I had faith in her being respectful. I have some fat loved ones to think about when their time comes I want them to be respected. I don't want to be offensive though in bringing it up, like "oh you're fat you're probably dying soon so let's talk" type of way. She should make a video on conversation starters to talk about death plans with family and close friends.

@melsgalleria 4 года назад

I really love the idea of a natural burial, with a tree planted on top. With my death creating new life.

@KendraKingery 4 года назад

This is exactly what i want

@littlemouse9900 4 года назад

I love this idea! Eco friendly burial! You get to become one with the earth and plants and help them grow!

@AndorRadnai 4 года назад

Bonus points for planting a cherry tree. It blooms beautifully in spring (yay, corpse bloom!!!) and cherries spring forth from that. Pun intended. (Yaay, passive cannibalism!!)

@hemprope4326 4 года назад

@@AndorRadnai (. ❛ ᴗ ❛.)

@johannasophia8989 4 года назад

Is this legal anywhere? Because I love the idea as well, but I'm pretty sure it's illegal in Germany

@wayne9094 Год назад

I have never enjoyed hearing about death till watching this lady . Her animated moves make me smile allot .

@colonial6452 5 лет назад

Casket width standard = 24". Standard economy seat width = 17.5". More space when you take your final journey.

@asphodelale 5 лет назад

That's economy? Guess I'll stick to driving, at least domestically. Yeesh.

@sarahkat650 5 лет назад

Well then, I know my fat self fits in an economy airline seat, so I'm not as worried anymore. I want to be toasted anyway.

@marikroyals7111 5 лет назад

That's small. I'm a fairly small person (5" and 120 lb) and that's not much bigger than me (about 13 wide").

@TrekJohnDoe 5 лет назад

RA Sarofeen prove it through MATH.

@200houryogateachertraining 3 года назад

My mom was 300+ when she died. I can tell you from first hand it was extra planning. They called the fire department to protect the crematorium just in case because she had so much fat. That surprised me.

@ric84 3 года назад

I cremate pets for a living and was honestly pretty spooky the first time i cremated a massively obese dog and the temprature started skyrocketing up to 1200C, that combined with the oxygen dropping to 0% leads to a bit of panic since the resulting thick black smoke is something you really don't want to have coming out of the chimney. So while i can imagine it being a weird sight having the fire department on stand-by during a cremation i can understand why they would choose to do so.

@thefisherking78 3 года назад

Whoa. That is wild.

@prophet3281 3 года назад

damn she old

@inconnu4961 3 года назад

@@prophet3281 LOL Nicely done! took me a bit to get it !

@ProctorsGamble 3 года назад

She didn’t look a day over 100

@theresamiles2443 2 года назад

Caitlin you make listening to anything death so easy on the ears and heart. I would recommend anyone unfortunately dealing with a death to watch your videos to make the process a little easier. You are a gem and I love your videos, keep up the wonderful work.

@theemarydee1610 4 года назад

I want to be cremated BUT if I die while I am fat I want my ex husbands to be my pallbearer at my funeral. I want them to know what it feels like to carry me for change!

@laprincesadelacocina 4 года назад

That's the spirit 👏🏼👏🏼

@karyannfontaine8757 4 года назад

Good for you!

@robbydunnill786 4 года назад

Kanye West so they just took her apart?

@AngelicaRodriguez-mb2ld 3 года назад

Bruuuh. I'm living for all the fat peeps in the comments shading everyone lol

@christinatyree2280 3 года назад

👏👏👏👏👏👏👏 excellent 😊

@lulubelle5703 6 лет назад

When my grandfather died he was around 5 to 600 pounds. The local firemen volunteered to carry the casket.

@mountainmanws 6 лет назад

How many pallbearers? Sorry for your loss.

@fireemblemaddict128 6 лет назад

5 pounds, dang that's rough.

@eowyneadig7879 6 лет назад

Neil the ass titan 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

@Sponsorship-uj1ug 6 лет назад

5-600 pounds

@davenwin1973 6 лет назад

My dad's step-cousin weighed 653 lbs at the time of her death in 1993, at the age of 42. Part of her weight was caused by aggressive tumors that grew so fast, that she could not lose weight. She had some tumors that were the size of basketballs. When she died, the family was forced to have a closed casket, because the funeral home was unable to enbalm her, due to so much fat in the abdomen area, preventing them from putting her on her stomach. Since cremation wasn't an option back then for her size, she had to be buried in 2 plots Even today, there's no crematory local to me that can cremate anyone over 500 lbs. Even then, most crematories don't like to cremate obese bodies, just because the process is getting way too dangerous, because of the extra fat on those bodies. Some crematories have burnt down the builldings that houses the retorts, because the people were unable to control the burn,. Alkaline Hydroloses, or whatever it's called, from what I read, is much safer for obese bodies. The process takes longer, but is safer, as it boils and liquifies the tissue, rather than burn it

@rolandvanwinkle9953 2 года назад

She is giving facts, so you can make an educated decision. She is not making fun of anyone. I weigh 429 lbs., and I appreciated the information! You go Caitlin!!

@sleeplesshead602 5 лет назад

In Islam, people are buried without casket. Their bodies are covered by white fabrics and the position is tilted so it doesn't require much spaces or so you need double slot. After several months, it becomes a natural fertilizer. It's what happened to my grandma's grave. A lot of beautiful flowers and bushes are grown. But it's all your choice to choose how you want to burry your body. At least, when we live, always love our body the way it is.🕊

@rebeccaconlon9743 5 лет назад

@Filling In The Blanks -extra room for surname- there are burials with trees available

@theotherauthor740 5 лет назад

i would love to be able to just decompose naturally. idk the thought of my body just... laying in a casket forever doesn’t seem as meaningful hahaha

@bcaye 5 лет назад

@@theotherauthor740, you still decompose. Vaults and caskets don't keep bacteria out.

@theotherauthor740 5 лет назад

Barbara Danley i know, i guess just having my remains in a box forever is kind of a bummer by comparison 😂

@LaraY44488 5 лет назад

That actually sounds so beautiful and peaceful, giving back to Nature and the Earth.

@LindaB651 5 лет назад

In 2007, my nearly 500 lb best friend died, and his sister, after reviewing all the options, went with cremation- not all family members were okay with that, in fact, some were downright adamant that he should be buried "whole." Sadly, that decision, among other things, tore parts of the family apart, but jeez, it's a lot more dignified to go to ones grave in an urn than a giant piano-box, and it's a lot easier on family/friends/funeral homes.

@kkdoc7864 5 лет назад

Linda Bealer If the decision on what to do with a rotting corpse tears a family apart, it is obvious the individuals in the family have no education about the fact that without life, bodies decay and become unrecognizable. It matters not how they are disposed of. It is so sad that any arguments ensue about burial vs cremation, when the family wouldn’t have disintegrated if the loved one had been eaten by a shark or polar bear, which IMHO is a bit more gruesome. But at least the decision in those cases would have been made for them, and they’d all be attending the reunions.

@LindaB651 5 лет назад

@@kkdoc7864 Actually, they're all intelligent, educated people- just too emotional about the whole event to process the logistics.

@kkdoc7864 5 лет назад

Linda Bealer What I am trying to say here is that this issue should NEVER be the cause of family disruption if they have the knowledge to appreciate what actually happens to the dead body no matter what you do to it. I am sure they are all doing a disservice to their loved one, as well. This disagreement is a ridiculous reason to ruin relationship, and that can happen because people are not educated as to the facts. No excuse to tear apart a family.

@LindaB651 5 лет назад

@@kkdoc7864 Agreed. I think part of the problem may be that we, as a society have removed ourselves from, and so extremely sanitized, the actual reality of death and dying, that many people are too uncomfortable to think about it's true aspects. Then, when suddenly confronted with a situation that they've not previously considered, they react emotionally, sans logic.

@kkdoc7864 5 лет назад

Linda Bealer Yes, and.because I am a medical person, as well as a Christian, I have a unique perspective on the situation which aren’t shared by others. We all have ways of coping with the traumatic loss of those we love and want to remember. That’s why we uniformly hear things like, “He is watching over us,” or we seek out ways to communicate so we can feel a little better on the road from denial to acceptance. When a family is destroyed over a disagreement in the way someone is “laid to rest”, we know one thing for sure. There was no meaningful discussion about what the decedent had wanted. And sadly, if the person had been consumed n a fire, there would be no discord. I hope everybody can develop enough foresight to have those discussions

@Beginnerreadsthebible Год назад

Thank you for being such a good person. You humanize everyone, fat people, "human oddities," etc. and I really appreciate that. Not only do you allow space for respect in death, but you also make death seem kind of comforting when done correctly.

@kellyn1019 6 лет назад

As a fat person, thank you for this video, and thank you for immediately stating that you're going to moderate the comments as well. It may seems like small (okay, modding RU-vid comments isn't a small feat, but you get what I mean) but it was really assuring to hear that. I'm actually really relieved that the complications and other issues such as cost are a lot less severe than I thought. And this is not really related to the video, but I have a personal death-positive story that I would like to share with you. About a month ago, one of my uncles past away. He was a big DIY-er and the family joked that, had he been able to, he would have made his own coffin. So, that is exactly what my other uncles did; they built him his coffin. A lot of family members also wrote a final message to him on the coffin itself, before my other uncles brought it to the funeral home. My extended family also doesn't even know about the death positive movement and such, so it really was just them who went up to the funeral home to ask if it was an option. The funeral home was very helpful and accomodating and the funeral director even remarked what a fitting final gift it was during the service.

@theresareynolds3133 2 года назад

This happened years ago, a girl was stabbed, she ended up bleeding out because she couldn’t fit in the ambulance, she weighed over 600 lbs. When they put her in her casket, she fell through, her parents had to buy a steel lined bottom so she wouldn’t fall through again. Thank goodness no one in her family saw her fall

@Imbatmn57 Год назад

Omg so sad😢, i feel bad for the parents, their kid dies and they had to buy two caskets in order to be able to put her to rest.

@QuEeN69DeAnNa 4 года назад

My fiance's cousin had to have an extra long casket because he was almost 7 ft tall.

@QuEeN69DeAnNa 4 года назад

@iTheGeek good more room for me 🖕🖕🖕

@demilouise4996 4 года назад

LindseyDeanna86 LMAOO

@ceciliawade 3 года назад

Oh wow, no offense that's close to Abraham Lincoln's Height...But the good thing is one wouldn't start fights with your cousin.

@mendmywings7238 6 лет назад

My fairy deathmother! With her magical comment blocking finger. I love you x

@perezsage6366 6 лет назад

MendMyWings 7 oh my God I love this "fairy deathmother" 💜💜💜

@mamamommy42 5 лет назад

with every single video of yours that i watch, i become less afraid of death in general and more appreciative of being alive

@suzilindblad5207 4 года назад

You just leave your earth suit behind thats all.

@JF32304 4 года назад

@@suzilindblad5207 yep! Go onto the next life... Which can be life or death depending on your belief's.

@karenday9109 4 года назад

C S It is fascinating stuff for sure!

@houseplantasy8047 2 года назад

I appreciate this video beyond words. My moms twin was 1000 lbs, including the casket, when she was laid to rest back in 2009. We had an open casket at first but inevitably had to close it for reasons I'm sure you can assume. I had always wondered how morticians care for and handle a person of that size. To know that she received the same compassion really warmed my heart. I have so much respect for your line of work. You truly deserve all the recognition for your passion tin fulfilling this role. Sending you love and light, friend 🤍

@Meg-om8ef 6 лет назад

I love how inoffensive and informative your videos are. I've never come across a channel that focuses on death and these processes before and I'm not exactly sure how I came across yours, but it's really interesting and makes me think about these types of things differently. Thank you for that.

@SunflowerSpotlight 6 лет назад

Meghan Adkinson She is definitely a breath of fresh air. It’s oddly reassuring to be told, “Hey, death is a part of life. It’s not weird for you to be curious about what happens when people die, how cremation works vs being embalmed vs natural burial, or residing in a plot vs a tomb or mausoleum. Knowledge is a journey, so let’s do some exploring.” It’s really great. I’m 28, so most people my age don’t have death plans, and I hope I don’t need one, but it’s helped me talk to my parents, and even my grandfather, and they didn’t have very concrete death plans at all. It’s interesting how, when you know more about a topic, it helps take the fear, and thus, uneasiness, away. And then you realize there’s no reason not to have a solid plan in place. It’s cathartic, what she does, and it’s important as well.

@judywright4241 6 лет назад

Meghan Adkinson -- Same here, the recommend came up while I was on ‘Think Like A Horse’.....large caskets & horse sized people, makes sense and informative👍🏻

@ujlt7198 6 лет назад

it's nice to hear someone talk about death without being extremely disrespectful or edgy.

@Nadia_956Villarreal 6 лет назад

Meghan Adkinson same here... im 42 & my husband is 53. I have never thought of Pre-mortum prep &prepd services but after stumbling upon this page im well informed

@martinhargrove8304 6 лет назад

@@judywright4241 b.k

@mathmusicminecraft 6 лет назад

Kept expecting a fat joke just out of precedent. Thank you so much for the level of respect you pay to a people who so rarely get it.

@jessielefey 6 лет назад

There was the comment blocking finger stretch joke though. That made me laugh in exactly the way I've come to expect from Caitlin. :-D

@janellearganprincess9540 6 лет назад

Jessie le Fey +Ask A Mortician That stretching of the comment blocking finger was EVERYTHING!!! Love You Caitlin!

@stacemw5355 6 лет назад

This is exactly why I watch her videos whenever I get a chance! From what I've watched, she is always incredibly respectful

@tangenty6987 6 лет назад

Amen.

@MajikkaniHand 6 лет назад

I was cringing so hard when she said "and you know I had to go there" expecting something negative, but no! Just more natural burial stuff! Very pleasant surprise.

@mcoates3649 6 лет назад

I like how she explains the fact that things being more expensive is generally because of the amount of labor and resources used.

@aliyahamir 6 лет назад

Its obvious though

@Fsilone 6 лет назад

Well, some people would otherwise think it's some conspiracy to punish them for being fat or something. We live in strange times.

@aliyahamir 6 лет назад

@@Fsilone nah, it truly is just common sense. Definitely strange times though

@Fsilone 6 лет назад

Yeah, but common sense is no longer common, and you have people looking to be offended just for the sake of being offended.

@aliyahamir 6 лет назад

@@Fsilone and we have a lot of "victims"

@jonesba2004 Год назад

When my husband became ill, he wanted to donate his body to science. He loved and trusted science, and he was fat his whole life. He was 350 pounds when he died. He had diabetes and struggled to maintain a ‘healthy’ weight in spite of being active, eating all of the right things, and keeping his HBA1c at normal levels. He never had high cholesterol. He was, the most compliant patient and his doctors were always amazed that he couldn’t lose the weight. He did everything right. So, he contacted some researchers studying diabetes and/or obesity. They all told him the same thing. That he weighed too much to be in their cadaveric research programs. Unbelievable. Even in death, the morbidly obese get no respect. His next choice was to be left in a lake to be fish food, as he called it. That was flat out illegal, for obvious reasons. So then he chose cremation. Our local crematory in Wisconsin had no issue with his weight. They treated him and the process with respect. A natural burial would have appealed to him, but I don’t recall even hearing about that at the time. It’s so important to know all of the options and then discuss it and then, get it in writing.

@KMcKenzie9 Год назад

I’m genuinely curious if it was disrespect that he couldn’t donate his body or if there was an actual reason as to why they don’t accept bodies over 350lbs. Did they elaborate?

@Kellendras1 Год назад

I'm really sorry about your husband passing.x

@brigidh1004 10 месяцев назад

medical colleges that take cadavers have very strict guidelines for who they take. if the person is overweight, underweight, had a long term disease, had trauma, if there’s too much discoloration / bruising, jaundice, edema, or even if a person had a lot of surgeries they won’t be taken. they want the cadavers in almost perfect condition for the medical students to study.

@DrRazernij 4 года назад

I'm fat, If I die fat, please turn me into taquitos and feed me to wild bears.

@KieraBey 4 года назад

Those would be some happy bears.

@crabbyj 4 года назад

Give me a couple of wild beers, and no bears will be needed. I'm guessing you'll pair well with a spicy tomatilllo aioli and some pico. But this is why I want to be cremated...then added to the communal office coffee urn. The best part of waking up, is crabby in your cup! LOL 😉

@juandavidrestrepoduran6007 4 года назад

It ain't hard. If someone disposes of a property they could just "dump" you (with love and care) into the forest and wait some days or weeks and then go pick the bones and follow the instructions you left for them... or do it in a mountain too so that birds have a chance aswell.

@mangalover0149 4 года назад

@@juandavidrestrepoduran6007 That actually has a name! It's called excarnation. It has been used for thousands of years.

@juandavidrestrepoduran6007 4 года назад

@@mangalover0149 The more you learn... thanks! I know the farsi are known for this, but i didn't kne the exact word.

@stitch626aloha 3 месяца назад

My uncle passed away in 2004. He was 50 years old, had no documentation of any sort for Final Disposition, and he was 875 lbs. The only option at the time was cremation and the urn had to be custom made by his own father because NO ONE at the time had facilities or options for such. The entire debacle was a nightmare and Papa sold off all of his woodworking equipment afterwards. He never touched another tool for eight years until his own death. Granny just dissolved into dementia. I wish we had known about this back then. I wish you could have helped us then.

@kittenkotz9999 5 лет назад

My dad died quickly of cancer. At the hospice home, my mom was directed to a company that was affordable and accommodated his larger size. I am thankful for the help she received! It was hard enough on her and she was helped by a trustworthy mortician. Thank you all for your kindness.

@IamMissPronounced 5 лет назад

That's awesome that your family got such great care, I'm sorry for your loss though

@steph.v.o.7078 4 года назад

Yeah.....in the Netherlands there is actualy a song about this subject....."I would rather go fat in my casket, then missed a party, It's not like I have to carry it myself"... 🙈 yes, us Dutch are weird that way

@im19ice3 4 года назад

sounds like the right sentiment to me, in fact may the funeral be that party the living make the best of ;9

@steph.v.o.7078 4 года назад

@@im19ice3 these are the lyrics, under the Dutch lyrics are the English lyrics translated www.google.com/amp/s/www.musixmatch.com/lyrics/Stef-Ekkel/Liever-Te-Dik-In-De-Kist/translation/english/amp

@molly1605 3 года назад

Ahahaha so funny. In Italy, when someone eats too much or gains weight, some people say "That's gonna be a problem for those who will carry him" meaning "it's not his problem. He likes pasta and is too much of a patriot to care.". It is a joke and you can make it if you don't mean to hurt anyone and know that person will not get hurt if he hears it. I was fat a year ago and I would have been hurt by it so people wouldn't tell me such things.

@mariskaajoy3899 3 года назад

Ik heb zo'n behoefte aan een tentfeest omygod

@steph.v.o.7078 3 года назад

@@mariskaajoy3899 Jaaa, echt hé! Nog even volhouden, als we allemaal meewerken is het sneller voorbij 🥰 Niet zoals het nu gaat 🙄😑🤦🏻‍♀️

@future.mortician 2 года назад

Just a week after I got my job at my local funeral home, my second removal call was to pick up a 400-lb. man in the floor of his house. That was difficult. We treated him with the utmost respect (within reason, of course - myself and my colleague couldn’t risk severely hurting ourselves trying to get the man out of an atrocious hoarder house), but we managed. It was certainly a challenge, but we did it with dignity.

@ev13191 3 года назад

Thank you for dealing with this subject so respectfully and compassionately. It means a lot to me as a fat person to hear these things addressed openly and to know that there are people out there who see us as humans, instead of as inconveniences. You rock.

@ravenmckinnon5526 2 года назад

Lose weight and save your loved ones or you the added expenses and live longer, healthier

@tamitoohey2392 5 лет назад

I know you're to busy to read all comments, but I wanted to take a chance and let you know how much you're helping me feel not as afraid of death as I have been in prior years. Thank you. I just hope there's a kind and open minded person to help my love ones I leave behind. Thank you for being you!

@thediyorphans 5 лет назад

*insert dont fear the reaper link*

@anonymoose116 5 лет назад

Fearing something that is inevitable will rob you of your life.

@internetm0nster_817 3 года назад

I work in a Funeral home, and please please please always disclose whether a family member is obese, because we need to have enough staff members to be able to get the casket into the hearse without injury. Also make sure if you have paul bearers, that you either have ones that can lift very large amounts of weight, or just have 8 people instead of the standard 6. There are so many things that could go so wrong if we're not careful. We want to be as respectful as possible, of course, but we would also not like anyone to be injured during the funeral.

@karlacordon864 2 года назад

Also important for the burial grounds to know. We had a casket that wouldn't fit into the ground and had to take it back to the funeral home. Really embarrassing for us.

@XtremeSportX247 2 года назад

Question? Why is it called paul bearers

@karlacordon864 2 года назад

@@XtremeSportX247 I was told that "pall" is another word for covering, a heavy cloth that covers the casket. So you "bear" the casket that is covered by the pall.

@ryan92335 2 года назад

I'm in the industry as well... I totally agree!

@ryan92335 2 года назад

Pallbearers

@binah7744 2 года назад

Man I love this channel. I honestly believe it’s made me more empathetic and thoughtful

@KerahM 6 лет назад

My brother was a bigger man and he wanted to be cremated to avoid ppl looking at him as if he was a sideshow. The funeral home didn't have a crematorium that fit him so they took him to one in Miami that accommodated him. I'm so glad you made a video about this so us as fat ppl know that we have options for our bodies when we die.

@warhawkjah 6 лет назад

So burial plots are like airline seats...

@quackeddiamonds6497 5 лет назад

And there was no problem until now

@lizismis 5 лет назад

warhawkjah u bigger u pay for it. But it is shocking this is even a thing, in my country u can’t even get coffins or caskets that big.

@aishaalmahri 5 лет назад

A natural islamic burial is what Im hoping for, no casket, no embalming liquids, just wrapped in cloth and placed in the earth for my body to fertilise the plants and flowers around me. Not costly and good for the environment.

@miapdx503 5 лет назад

Same here, and I'm a Christian lady! I hate the disrespect to the body... No. Wrap in cloth and ever so gently put me in the ground. It's just a shell that I will never occupy again. It isn't sacred, it's *dead.* Let it go if you really love me... And bless you. 💝

@AreYouSufferingX 5 лет назад

“From my rotting body, flowers will grow, and I will be in them, and that is eternity” I don’t want to be embalmed, either. I think the idea of a green burial is gorgeous, but I do want a headstone so my relatives and loved ones can come visit.

@miapdx503 5 лет назад

@@AreYouSufferingX I would be okay with a tree...🤔🌳

@Blackfitbrogi89 5 лет назад

Aisha Al Mahri that’s how my father was buried!

@obiwaankenobi4460 5 лет назад

Same, and I'm an Atheist.

@msthecommentator2863 3 года назад

I remember having to work on an overweight cadaver in mortuary school. It was one of my first bodies, and due to thermal capacity, despite what they'd taught us, it was still warm inside when we opened it up. Scared the hell outta me, I thought it was a mistake and I'd just killed someone. 😱

@barbeeska 3 года назад

😂 That's terrible, You poor thing

@vickiweber4718 2 года назад

Oh that would be frightening

@Joseph_A_Navarro 2 года назад

You said that you were a mortuary school?

@Joseph_A_Navarro 2 года назад

I would love to know where desairology falls in place and mortuary school

@officialJOY1229 2 года назад

Yikes 😬

@LizSilver Год назад

I first watched this video a few years back and this video (and others) helped prepare me and set my expectations for when I was arranging a cremation. This work is so important. These videos are a resource I'm grateful for. Thank you

@blondeexplorer8276 3 года назад

My best friend died when she was 24. She was a very large woman. Her father had to order a special casket and it cost over 25k back in the early 80s. RIP Katie.

@jaydavis8394 2 года назад

$25,000.00?????? That is insane and highly unlikely. Just saying.

@RedSpiralHandTV 6 лет назад

I want to be like the guinea pig my father and I buried when it died when I was little....he helped me bury it and then we planted sunflowers on the grave. When the sunflowers grew and bloomed I used to think of my dead pet transformed into those pretty, cheerful flowers. Yeah, I was a weird little kid...

@vitaminanime 6 лет назад

RedSpiralHand our guinea pig Marshmallow fertilized our calla lilies😢

@RedSpiralHandTV 6 лет назад

Well if you plant something edible it gets even more interesting. Perhaps I'll request that squash and beans or kale get planted on my grave, LOL.

@YellowRubberDuckie 6 лет назад

You sound like you were a sweet, caring kid. Not weird at all. I want to be cremated and planted as a Weeping Willow Tree.

@DenaInWyo 6 лет назад

Not weird at all..this is exactly what I hope for my corpse as well.

@emilyedwards4914 6 лет назад

Thats such a sweet idea, though, and technically, true! Your pet gave those flowers life. :)

@kevins1114 6 лет назад

I used to be grossly fat. At one point, I weighed 512 pounds at 6' 2" tall. One day, I took a good, hard look at myself, and realized that if I continued on that path, I wasn't going to live much longer. So, I decided to do something to postpone my date with the undertaker and drastically changed my diet, plus exercising. Now, I'm down to 216 pounds. So, if I pass on now, my family won't have to deal with the extra problems that come with funeral arrangements for a huge person. The side benefit is that I also feel much better. And, since I'm not married, getting dates is far easier now, since fewer women are concerned about being injured during certain "activities" with me, as they were in the past. I tried to explain those things to a neighbor's son who's pushing 400 pounds at 16 years old. He gripes about always feeling lousy, and girls ignoring him, but he thinks I'm "pulling his chain" when I tell him about such things.

@animuauntie 6 лет назад

This needs more upvotes. Great job, dude!

@SammyBirdTheGreat 5 лет назад

Congrats m8 I can’t say I was ever that heavy but I was pushing 200 lbs at one point and managed to get down and stay down at 110 - that was super difficult for me and I can’t imagine how difficult losing so much weight was for you!! Triple congrats man!!

@john-paulsilke893 5 лет назад

Shame is a strong motivation. I’m not going to congratulate you because you did it to yourself and of course enjoyed awesome yum Yuma and had a good time. Unfortunately you also got punished with poor health and negative comments/snickers and of course bias. I never got that big, only about 265lb and 6’1” but also quite muscular. I finally had enough of looking at myself and being slightly disgusted and shamed and immediately quit carbs and sugars. Four months later and I had respect for myself again and another few months and I looked pretty damn good, (never got below 190lb though and I’m currently 200-205lbs for three years so there is some bounce back). I guess in short it’s not about positive body image it’s about using your shame to make yourself “better” and trying to look good in your underpants is your reward.

@john-paulsilke893 5 лет назад

Go for it people. I didn’t have the discipline to make it all the way but I want others to do better then me and get sexy and slim or at least as fit as you can. You will fail many times but don’t beat yourself up and don’t give in after “cheating” and eat the whole box/bag. It’s okay to try and fail, it’s not okay to simply give up and turn into a spiral of overeating and lose respect for yourself, you’re better then that.

@bradleysmall2230 5 лет назад

this fat relative or any one will not lose weight until they want to as it is hard to do. It is a self driven need to make a change- your urging will not work, as it needs to come from within.

@Kieorasama 6 лет назад

When I was very little my dads mother passed. ( I don’t really remember her so, I’ve never called her grandma). Anyways, she was very overweight. My dad and his brothers decided to bury her in a standard sized casket. Which they were told by funeral services not to do because she was too heavy. I’m told the casket was beautiful and wooden. While the the Pallbearers were carrying her into her funeral service, the bottom of the casket broke and out rolled my dads deceased mother. While this seems like a joke for a comedy movie, it’s true. This is mortifying to me and terrifying. They had to rebuy a new casket. While I don’t remember this because I was so little, my mom sure does!

@christianogiovannirinaldi6129 6 лет назад

OMG!!!!🙈 I'm so sorry, but not that you can't remember!!! Take Care GOD BLESS!!!

@razrv3lc 6 лет назад

OMG that is horrific.

@harvestkitty 6 лет назад

That had to be traumatizing for the family and anyone else present. It sounds like you were lucky to be so young.

@donnaleeclubb119 6 лет назад

OMG!!!

@Kieorasama 6 лет назад

in my life there are a lot of really hard moments. although, it's terrible, horrible, and traumatizing, you've also got to find the humor somewhere or life is just going to be really bleak. It doesn't matter how awful the situation is, it is nice to find a story that's worth telling somewhere in that moment. this one is very horrifying and I never want to end up like that, nor do I want my dad (who's also overweight) to end up like that, but it's a story I can also see in a comedy movie, or even as a life lesson. It is a good one to think about also, and even why I manage my weight pretty closely.

@kristinasoule 3 года назад

My parents were a bit on the heavier side but I cremated both of them. I lost my mom two years ago in May then I lost my father this May. It's been hard losing them. I'm the only child so it truly feels alone. If one of you guys lost a loved one , I'm sorry you are going through this but you will slowly get through this. I believe in you guys and I'm sending my love to all of you.❤️

@CopiousJohn 3 года назад

Very kind of you to reach out to others when you yourself are hurting. I hope that being an only child has not left you truly alone, and that hopefully you have a significant other, or friends, that you can lean on.

@ajam9125 3 года назад

❤️🙏🏾

@XtremeSportX247 2 года назад

Sorry for your lost. Yea loosing a parent was the hardest thing for me

@kristinasoule 2 года назад

Thank you

@alice_rabbit8345 2 года назад

I’m sorry. Both my parents are deceased, very lonely.

@NecocoPlays 4 года назад

I just want someone to use a medival catapult and yeet my body into space. Or into another country, ya know, like the good 'ol days.

@stephaniemorningstar625 4 года назад

Yeet 😂😂

@amongus366 4 года назад

𝐻𝒶𝒽𝒶 𝓎𝑒𝒶𝒽

@amandahugginkiss9065 4 года назад

😂😂😂😂😂😂

@DarkAngel71180 4 года назад

Bitch Aholic I don't think that was ever a thing but I'm sure you can work that out for yourself

@catheesjourney8805 4 года назад

😂🤣😂🤣😂

@suegore5929 Год назад

My mother had an oversized coffin, and at the gravesight the coffin wasn't going to fit, so we had to wait while they dug the hole to make it larger. Her cousin said "the last indignity."

@annetterichards5271 6 лет назад

So off topic, but you're hair is GORGEOUS.

@cleoldbagtraallsorts3380 6 лет назад

Annette Betancourt Caitlin is gorgeous!

@djdesros 6 лет назад

Natalie Palmer but otherwise gorgeous people CAN have terrible hair... I can hardly believe Caitlyn has lived nearly 34 years, happy birthday Caitlyn, and hasn’t had terrible hair at least briefly

@heathercombs8170 6 лет назад

It looks like a wig.

@cleoldbagtraallsorts3380 6 лет назад

Heather Combs she has it all the time and it doesn't hang like a wig.

@ParanormallyCorrect 6 лет назад

I mean that's probably a compliment. It's hard to get natural hair to look as perfect as a wig lol.

@RaverReptile 5 лет назад

I would always ask the nurse or family if they could give me an approximate weight of the decedent when taking a first call. I guess since I have a sweet, Southern voice most people didn't get upset about that. Then when they learned I was most likely going to be picking the person up, they were a little more honest. I've embalmed and cremated plenty of fat folks, every body deserves dignity and respect.

@IamMissPronounced 5 лет назад

Thank you for treating fat people with the dignity they deserve.

@V3xena 11 месяцев назад

This was something that I had to address during my mothers funeral process. The night before I had to make a decison on taking her off life support. The pain medication was wearing off and she started to fight the nurses, and she even hit me. I said mommie and grabbed her hand and said mommie they will take you off the machines tomorrow morning. She immediately calmed down, and that was the sign that I knew I had to make the most difficult decision of my life. Throughout the night it took 6 people to change and turn her over. My mother was a retired RN and died in the hospital system she gave her service to. It was then I realized what my mom meant. There are things worse than death. I knew my mother would not want to live on machines because that is not living. I stood by her side until she passed on.

@jamie1707 4 года назад

0:15 I can't believe folks come here to say hateful things. I don't get it. You do a fabulous job and you deserve nothing short of admiration.

@jaymarcotte9915 3 года назад

She was more likely referring to people coming here to make fun of fat people/bodies. Otherwise that disclaimer would be in more videos.

@kyramainer3315 6 лет назад

As a lifeguard, we have had to practice how to handle rescues for people 250+ lbs while ensuring that we do not injure ourselves in the process. These are important discussions to have as first responders, caregivers and funeral directors. How to be open, respectful but also understanding that standard approaches may be impossible or even dangerous.

@willsmom93 Год назад

My beloved fiancé died suddenly. He was very heavy although he was making excellent progress with Weight Watchers. The family first had trouble obtaining a casket for his viewing. Then he had to be cremated because the casket wouldn’t fit into the sleeve required in New York. I am sad to this day that he could not have the send off he would have wanted.

@edgeandcorner 6 лет назад

As a fat chick, I want to thank you for this information! I hadn't ever considered how my body might be handled, but I'm glad to know. Thank you also for your ever-present tact and consideration in these discussions!