The older I get and God knows that deep down inside I am ashamed to admit this. At almost 50 years old, there is virtually no patience, energy, or hope within my body, soul, or mind to live up to women's expectations of the fairy tale relationship. Just opinion, women don't look at a relationship as partnership. Women look at men as sponsors.
Part of the illusion is thinking marriage or monogamous committed relationship is supposed to be ‘partnership’. It is not. Men and women have different roles in a natural relationship.
Paul, Angelica's Dad here. You are spot on. It's not only a financial strain but mental as well. You hit all the hot buttons. These women are not reasonable and never say sorry or accept blame. They love drama and her enemies now become your enemies. If the fish you hook is smelly, throw it back in the ocean and hook another. Don't stress and enjoy life!!!!
100% I was involved in this. I'm a retired max security prison guard and i was with a really tough woman. It's not easy to get out. They will threaten you every way possible.
Yes it is sad to say this, but there DEADLY little smiling ladies, there as HARD as nails behind that smile, and with no mercy. did you even see the film Raiders of the losT Arc where they open the arc and the beautiful like Angels come out and surround the men and smile, then suddenly turn into monsters, this is the Pinay lady watch that part of the film you will relate to it and get my my meaning , it is so APT.
My first time in Philippines was 1983 and onward, gents its about money and how much you plan to lose, always have a backup plan and never tell them all your assets or how much your life insurance is or you may be swimming belly up with fish
I'm in a very abusive relationship with a single Filipina mom. I grown very attached to the child, but come to the realization things aren't going to work. Asks for money ever other day. Tired of it
it is peculiar to observe that here in europe , opossite to in phillipines , filipina women dont pay us attention , only in their own country...it could be due that here they have job and support and in the phillipines they have nothing and they picture us as just an investment
You get burned when you go in with the wrong mindset. Control yourself, use some self discipline and morals. You really don't have to bed all of them. Look at her as a potential friend first. If I have to go to the Hospital, can she get me there? If I end up in jail, will she bail me out? You're looking for "Ride or Die" and someone who will stick with you through thick and thin and be there for the long haul. Put her in uncomfortable situations and see how she reacts. If She's a Keeper, it will be evident, if not, keep fishing. But really go slow and find the right one.
Based on the poverty, I can understand why some might choose to engage in scams even though its wrong. But foreigners are the absolute worst offshore. Always be weary of foreigners; even the one's from your own country. Run with shields up at all times!
Quietly book plane/bus ticket. Pack bags and get to the airport, take sim card out and bin it, run like hell. Next day your back in paradise a single man.
As expat Mark says on his RU-vid channel Overstay Road, "always carry no more than two pieces of luggage at all times" When it's go time, you take your two pieces of luggage and your gone. Simple, quick, easy.
If your a senior avoid getting into a relationship women that are the age of your grandchildren , because with women that age its obvious that they are after the $$$ because in most cases young women 18 - 25 yrs are not physically attracted to men over 60 yrs . If your looking at her body and go for it you own what happens to you in the end ...you should know better be wiser in your older age. Don't blame these young ladies blame yourself , your no kid or babe in the woods.
I am sorry but in my experience this is only true for simps. I set boundaries and enforced them. We have the upper hand. We relinquish that by choice. There are millions available. The operative word is next.
Yes true, but its not like either you are simp or not there are different degrees and sometimes when living with someone you become more simpish. Death by a thousand consisions
@@paulsasianadventure8050 I understand your point. I found an occasional reminder did the job. The second tampo fit resulted in my gf being sent home for three days. It never happened again. She actually learned to appreciate communication. She would be so nervous to communicate directly. It was quite amusing.
Simps are the ones who need these RU-vid videos. Unfortunately they cannot be health because just as a w**** can not be led from a true nature and turned into a good woman a simple cannot be loved from his dog house into a true man's castle
Moving slow does nothing if the guy has trouble saying "no". Being able to say "no" will always keep a person out of trouble. An insecure man will try to use wealth to impress. That will get you into trouble. Telling an insecure guy to "go slowly" is dumb. Step 1. Become secure.
This video reinforces what I just did. Met a girl online and began chatting. During the course of getting to know her, she sent me pictures of her swollen foot and ankle having just been involved in a motorcycle accident. It was horrendous to see. I sent her money for xrays and doctors and thankfully her bones were not broken. I knew she could not walk on it for at least a week so I also sent her money for the wages she lost to not being able to work. Then her motorcycle was repossessed (she had been walking when she was struck by the other motorcycle that ran into her) so I helped her get another. Then she got sick so I sent her money for more xrays for her chest and medicine, then her mother and father went into the hospital so all of the money I gave her she gave to them, and I helped her get internet, and the list goes on and on. lol. I told her I was not going to support her entire family, her friends, herself, and whoever else. She told me how cold I was and she loved her parents and couldn't I understand what she is feeling? That's when I uninstalled What'sapp. Now she sends email, which I do not reply to, and tells me her landlord just raised the rent and she has one month to find another place. lol. Writing this reinforces my decision to cut her loose before I build her a house. lol.
I was married to a Filipina I met in the USA for 10 years. They expect you to take care of them, build them a house in the Philippines, support their family there, but lose your job; you are out. They tell you they will never divorce you. They love when you help their family, but lose your job or income for more than 6 months, although no fault of your own, you are toast. Filipinas in the US act like American women, but live on Filipina rules. Always watch your wallet. Always hide money that they cannot get a hold of. Learn about trusts, etc.
I am so sorry to hear about your experience. I feel for you. Do know not all Filipinas are like that or out there to take advantage. Take your time getting to know her well and be choosy! Though it may sound bad but choose someone who is educated and self sufficient (including family).
@@maicateves7659 It may not be easy to just break away from a Filipina once you experience signs of abuse or her controlling behavior but you should not take your time, you have to get away from her as soon as you can. Then she would realize what she lost. Maybe. Being nice doesn't necessarily involve money. These women, not all, are embarrasment to Pinoy nation.
@@maicateves7659 How do you find an educated and self sufficient (including family) one. That is almost impossible. Maybe you could start a dating service which accommodate educated and self sufficient (including family). My friends will sign up for this service. Educated and self sufficient (including family) girl never wants a 65 or higher old western man. You are talking about impossible solution.
I'm also married to a Filipina. As soon I was out of work her good friends advised her to look for someone else. Even in the local Filipino church that we both attended. She told me everything in all detail. What they say word for word. She stayed with me and broke off from her friends. She keeps telling me how rotten Filipino thinking is and how not to trust most Filipinos. She also tell me how many of these Filipinas who married to their Kanos talk about their husband among each other. How condescending they are. Again word for word. My wife is a gem.
“Act like American women but live on Philippines rules”, these words cannot be more true. Do NOT think they are traditional. They are only traditional where it benefits them. They are modern when it suits them. Filipinas in America are worse than American women
I hope to see your live stream but if I can’t make it I’d like to leave this comment. It is not just the woman’s fault or just the mans fault in this situation it is both there faults. Some woman believes they have the God given right to all the money in your wallet, your bank account and 401K. They feel since they are with you they are entitled to same or they are a flat out scammer. I see from watching vloggers from the Philippines the woman have a child like mentally when it comes to money and they want whatever they want giving no thought about the years of hard work it took to acquire this money. Its up to the man to draw a line in the sand and so NO. And if you don’t lay down the law all your money will be gone and when this happens she will also be gone to the next foreigner with a few thousand in his bank account who spend his money on her. And whatever you do don’t make the ultimate mistake and bring her back to the west because in two years after she gets her green card she will really figure out she doesn’t need you anymore and you are going to pay the price. Don’t say I didn’t warn you. Lol!!!
Truth. They crave a young lover like themselves and watch K-pop while pretending to love their petitioner. After the 3-5 year period, it's US citizenship, and sending half of her ex petitioners wealth to her family. The uneducated ones that have babies every year upon arrival that are stuck in marriages because their market value has plummeted. They live vicarious lives, consoling themselves in asawa groups, dreaming about a lover they will never have. Peace.
@ Bob Bruce, my experiences were completely different. I only sent very small amounts of money to My Filipina wife's family when she first arrived in the US, then she got a job and sent her own money, but she still had to pay for things at home first before sending her money to the family and she had no issue with this and never left my side, was totally devoted to me even with many guys trying to get her offering credit cards to go shopping when I never did that. I think you are very likely making some mistakes along the way to have such bad experiences. Possible you don't know what a good quality girl looks and acts like, many guys don't, any girl gives them a little attention and that makes her a quality girl, it does not. Or heaven forbid a girl gives the best BJ so that makes her a quality girl. I've been with such incredible beautiful girls who were fantastic with very goods hearts and are now very happily married and in the US with families. Alot is on you, how you deal with the girl and treat the girl. There was a blogger who could not find a good girl in a years time, then when he broke down how he operated, oh heavens did he make mistakes the size of Texas. After some comments to set him on the right path he found the great girl that he would of passed up because of his foolish rigid rules he operated under. There is one example played out right here on youtube videos of big mistakes people make.
Mate that's right in some people but not with so many, if she doesn't love you why would she care and that is the guy's fault, he has to live with her in the Philippines for a couple of years before he commits to anything serious like taking her to his country or marriage, I know the difference I have been living full time in the Philippines for 9 years and are married to a Filipina for 5 years. It easily took two years of us living together and knowing each other, where we are now heaps in love to the point of soul mates, but that takes so much work and so much compromise and sacrifice for each other, just like anywhere in the world including where we are from, its no different, like Paul said these guys are thinking with the wrong head, most guys meet a Filipina online travel to the Philippines meet her spend a few months traveling back and forth and next minute he marries her and takes her to the States or wherever. That's why it doesn't work.
This is an excellent presentation it may sound harsh from the foreigners point of you but I think it is essentially important because your monetary situation and your personal well-being is at stake in the likelihood the Filipino would dominate you and take all your resources is a real situation
Guys, take my advice. Be super careful. Your head can be turned and probably will be. Danger close. Good ones are great, bad ones are toxic and it's very hard to tell which is which until you're in too deep.
Wise words. Expectation to help her family is somewhat cultural. So do not begrudge this part. Set a flexible budget for it and let it be known this far and no farther.😂😂😂. You are the provider. According to your resource, have a firm agenda, but be generous when you need to be. If age gap is wide and you are closer to sunset, plan to leave her something significant when you exit the world. Like, monthly deposit into her stock or mutual fund... explain to her how time and deposit grows money for future cares. Take good care of her.🙏🙏🙏 Shalom.
Like you said and other said. As long as you have a steady monthly income you should be fine. Hopefully you'll be able to figure it out and move on with your life and still have your income every month
The best advice to anyone moving overseas is to do your homework before arriving and take a year or two to understand the people and how the country works. No one lives long enough to learn from their own mistakes, so you have to learn from the mistakes of others. If your objective is to find a wife and take her to the home country just understand that you have entered the Casino, and the House (your girlfriend) always wins. Paul talks a lot about pre nuptial contracts but they can be challenged and if there is kids involved you have many years of alimony and contact with the now ex wife. Best avoided.
Great advice!!! I lived in the Phillippines for 3 years.....later on in traveling the world & encountering filipina's...the overall current theme was I learned...to them regarding helping her is, 'it's never enough".....not in all cases....but in most
Perhaps better to say that she may cost you and you may lose everything but not if you’re smart and you have your wits about you. What about relationships were all parties gain much more than they lose.
Very good video.. I've been to Philippines Many times (in my young age) & many times I've noticed old men-foreigners walking around in Malls with a frown on their face/being lead around by stunner Pinay.
That frowner expression on the old man's face is just the way he is. He got older and well, the face changes. As a rule of thumb, just because someone smiles and laughs a lot doesn't necessarily mean he/she is content and happy in life.
Thank you very much Paul.. i have one to kick out today.. she has been playing around with me and she had other local guy.. she has been a sucker..but it has been too late.. wasted my time..and lot of money
Whether you marry or live together, make it plain that you expect and budget to assist your new pamilya. I budget $100 a month, I give it directly to my mother in law. Only in true emergency does the question ever arise.
I would say that if you are old and not very good with women in your own country, you are more likely to accept some of the BS with this subset of Filipina. Your advice is solid.
This may be true but not all FIlipinas are like this. Take a lot of time to get to know her well- including family and friends. Be honest and firm. Set limits/boundaries. The chances of getting into this situation go down when go for the educated type of woman who are independent on their own. If you don't want to have troubles being constantly asked for financial help, be more picky and choose someone from a well-off family. Know what set-up you will be in and ask yourself if you can commit to it before tying the knot. Please to foreign men choosing to have Filipina partners: Be more picky, please!so that you do not find yourself in a sticky situation.
Been there and to a certain extent, have run into all types of girls. Two things i have never done - buy land/house nor taken a Filipina to my country. I have honestly lost count of the smart phones i’ve bought here for girls 🙄. Now if I get the slightest whiff of future problems, I walk away - no matter how gorgeous she may be.
First of all, we staying where I want to, or she kick rocks, and if she changes, I send her shopping and grab all my things and go to hotel and come up with a plan... You feel me, I'm no slouch in this b.s.
hi;;;; I am agreed with you....my ex-wife was also a gold digger...I stay with her because she was a clean person and I realize I lose 22 years of my life with her when I asking her to share ours bills....she says NO....after a big argument at 2 am...the next day she left me... I was so happy and I never think she will do that,,,, a few days later she asked to come back...I say nope...but I lose 100 000 pounds ....she keeps all my lands and house...I was so stupid...now my life change...with a new relationship much better and we understand each other much better...
And be carelful, they are strong AF. Congrats to the Philippines on winning their first ever gold medal. Women's 55kg weightlifting. First ever gold medal in any sport for the Philippines.
The first Olympic Gold for the Philippines and won by a worthy and strong 30year old Philippina whom I watched wining the close contest and was very happy for her. I'm also a weightlifter and my whole family contains champion weightlifters and know the feeling.
Great video. If anyone tries to make you more dependent on them, rather than grow and develop with independence, run Forrest , run. This can be extremely difficult in a foreign country but, I've found, with practically every Filipina, she will push the envelope with money--both money for her and her wants, and her family. YOU ARE NOT RESPONSIBLE FOR PROVIDING WELFARE FOR HER RELATIVES. You also MUST set a budget. My advice here, is not to spend every penny you take in, always leave some in reserve. This also means not granting access to all your bank accounts, savings, etc. If she tries to shame you for not providing more, tell her it's perfectly okay to work and earn money herself; also, if you're not providing enough, then set her free to find a better option (she will not because you are likely her best option).
Take it slow and stay in control of your own mind. Don’t get blinded by lust and desire, you know “think with the head on your shoulders” I totally agree about the trapped with kids, definitely don’t make that mistake. The pill is sold w/o Rx in Philippines and so are other birth control options. The last statement, look forward, and don’t look back. It’s a waste of time!
thank you paul for all your wise advices , its sad to realize that perhaps that huge love and devotion that most filipina women feel for us , like foreigners , is probably based only in finacial interest.
With due respect. Mister , that's a big no .no. Almost all ...I can say... not after your money. We are originally hospitable by nature. And some people are only misunderstood that hospitality we had. And there was a saying that "in every forest there's a snake." Maybe,maybe Mister Paul was referring only to some... FIlipina who are naughty but not all. You see my point here. You can SEE,for example here in UAE. TOO Many different nationals who were living here... AlMost more than a hundred nationalities here. But... those guys much prefer to marry Filipinas...yes. Why? Coz of her simiplity in many ways. Plus...I had said the hospitality and submissive to the husband n staff. Sorry to say I not in favor. That Filipina are after the money. NO. Still u can seen n heard almost .....those foreigners who were married to Filipinas are happily living together.God bless you Sir. Long live n more power. I am a Filipina and proud to be. I"M Iryn from Dubai,UAE. THANKS for reading here.
I’ve been chatting online with a much younger Filipina for months now. She admitted to me that it’s all about money for all the Filipinas looking for a western man and yet she says she loves me and wants to take care of me forever. 37 year age gap. She’s the smartest gal I’ve ever talked with and she has a 4th grade education and I have an advanced degree. I’m proceeding very very cautiously.
Guys just buy a Condo in YOUR name ONL, have fun there do not get tied down with any of these woman, duck and dive guys, but be kind to them but do not let her live with you be hard but fair, and have fun ONLY just trust me on this please..once again and I cannot say this enough times ..DO NOT LET HER MOVE INTO YOUR CONDO ..what ever her excuse or problem she may try and convince you on....
your first rule should always be never send money until you've met in person! and let them know upfront that you cant support their entire family! if she walks away then all she was after was money!
I always tell them to begin with that I don't give money to people. And I have no desire to marry. I'm very comfortable in my own skin. No one will take care of me as well as I do. Because no one knows me like I do. And how can she help if she doesn't have any resources? She can't. Impossible. Always look before leaping. Be comfortable with yourself because that's all you got.
You refer to the possibility her spending the rest of _her_ life with her husband. Don't you mean that her husband will spend the rest of _his_ life with her? From what I read, western expats outliving their Filipina spouses is rare.
what you're describing is a caprichosa or bilmoko (buy me this/that) girl, that's why filipino courtship takes years and involves input from the whole family, to avoid such, on the other hand, also the womanizer, they're both classified as sociopaths and are global phenomenon.
Great video for those who are about to fall under the ether of that beautiful young woman who has just told him that she loves him. Look around. Are you seeing a lot of Filipino women with Filipino men 2 and 3 times older than they are. Not many and the ones you do see are probably with their father or grandfather. So, what is it about you that makes you such a prize? Could it be your money? Maybe? Now I'm not saying don't indulge, just don't be stupid and fall in love and give her the combination to the vault. When I go to Costco I enjoy the samples but never leave the store with a cart full of stuff I don't need.
It's good advice all-round in any continent. I think we must definitely set our rules and expectations from the beginning. And continue to remind them. Your strong character will also imply that you don't settle for bad behavior.
Thx for the information. One comment I could make about your advice is " asking them to change". That's a tough one. Sometimes you can't or shouldn't try to change them. It backfires. Bad behaviour in an adult is who they are 🤷♂️
I can answer that man up and say not no but hell no , when they start asking for a house and land , that’s a line that must be drawn , I’m in a relationship of which you speak of , or At least I was , it’s extremely complicated, I’m in the last phase , which is the vulnerability stage , allowing her to becoming homeless ,which is the worst , I’ve been an expat in several different countries mostly in South America, with my job allowing me to do so , so I saw it coming, but it still happened to me as I broke every rule I’ve set for my self , Paul speaks the truth, with the Filipina’s it can be extremely difficult, these Philippines people , this young small women are stronger and more determined, then most Americans can ever people , don’t let their size fool you , they have lived and experienced hardships, most Americans couldn’t even phantom,
Instant relationship you find in the Internet similar to the way you search for things in Amazon? That is madness. Pure craziness. It doesn't take a high IQ to figure that out. If only you can disguise yourself to look like Asian and maintain a low profile and patience with doing traditional courtship, you will find several worthy Filipinas. I am a Filipino married to a Filipina. By the way, it is part of the Filipino culture to support their parents and siblings and even relatives. If you do not help, they will think you are selfish. Whenever I have some spare money, I help my siblings and nephews. But they are also very helpful to you in non-monetary ways.
Filipina wanted to be loved by the one she is with,respect is so important,its ok if you are not rich ,filipina will help you built a house to become a home,i am a filipina who is married to a japanese man for 34years,we have 2kids and my youngest is in her first year IT student,yes ,we have so many culture barriers but both of you must learn and respect each other,i don’t agree that man is superior to a women and i will not allow that,we are equal,and that is why we stick to each other until now.
If you're in the PH don't live with a woman out of marriage. It's the same thing as marriage in PH law, except you don't get the protection of a pre-nup. She can take you for half your revenue streams. So, just don't do that. You can date, you can have sexual relations, but you can't live together. If you start to see her things collecting in your place, tell her politely that she needs to collect up her things and take them home, and then be very careful about her after that. Let her know that you can't live together and have to remain in separate places until you are willing to get married.
Frankly speaking an older man looking for a young girl what were you expecting from her coming in a relationship , don't fool yourself , what you loose is the cost of your desires.
In some relationships neither person wants to get taken advantage of one or the other. Sometimes it just goes back to the part you said take your time to learn each other, before you make or say any serious commitments. Sounds like main thing is a person needs to keep reminding themselves to slow down. This could prove to be difficult. Lol
I was watching overstay road and he was talking about how every Filipina says two words-- house and lot. If you understand how that works in Philippines-- only they can own the house not you. The main thing is-- do not buy any houses or properties. The other thing is-- don't send money every month to the family. Help if there is an emergency within limits but do not support the family every month. You think I'm wrong? I'm not. Don't live near her family.
give her a monthly budget and tell her it is for family emergencies. Let her handle the begging and drama. If lola spent her money on shoes, but now needs the dentist, it was her bad planning, not yours. Honestly, it will never work, no matter what you do. It is a deep cultural thing. Live for today and hope for tomorrow.
@@scottbrown321 it's foolish to give any money for a monthly budget. They think wow this is a lot of $$$ at first, then they get use to it, then it isn't quite enough and need just a little more. Then no one in the household wants to get off their butts and work because they are being supported. Even if it's the bare minimum, that is enough not to have to work. My ex's girlfriends dad hasn't worked a day since the money started coming in. The brother did recently only because he couldn't get him anymore money to go out with his friends from her. His income was only for him to party, not to help the family. That was her responsibility. The ex wants to live by dumaguete so he told her to go there and get set up. He told her to get a job until he gets there. It will supplement the money he sends her. He told her now she has to tell her family to start supporting themselves. And until then she's only allowed to give them a small amount of her allowance since she's not living at home anymore. Once her brother starts work again after being quarantined because of covid, he expects her to cut them off. Once he's working he says he's not going to let her pay the family anymore. She cries and tells him she doesn't want to do that to her family. So I'm sure it'll never stop. She thinks he's a generous man because he has supported her for 1 1/2 yrs now. She has no idea how much he can't stand moochers! There's only so much he'll take before it blows up in their faces. Thank goodness he watches Filipina Peas channel. He's learning little by little.
@@marvindockery4202 wish I would have known this 2 years ago I built a house next to the family and all they did was beg...I lost all of my savings the fucking family my girlfriend had me supporting them all every day buying their food electric bill they even drove my car with out asking just use your stuff without asking
Rollo Tomassi talks about the importance of vetting the girl thoroughly, but equally important is vetting yourself as well. As Paul mentioned, spend time reflecting internally about what you want in a relationship....and be brutally honest with yourself. Use that to set the frame of the relationship and be clear and consistent with your partner about them. Showing no tolerance when they do something you don't approve will reinforce your frame. If you dismiss her bad behavior or habits, she will lose respect for you.
The cure for tampo, pouting or sulking or feigning illness is tell whoever , look. I am over here for vacation and that is what I am going to do I will be by the pool then pool bar, see ya.
I don't understand how any intelligent, self confident man would ever put up with a woman that goes full tampo more than once. They get one. Then there's a talk about maturity and communication and expectations. It happens again? Adios. Life is too short to go about walking on egg shells worrying about perception from a brick wall. I understand the distinct cultural differences. But someone of that level of immaturity and mindset can't fulfill my emotional needs and expectations of full equality in the relationship. As others have pointed out, the selection is practically limitless. I've never been so lonely that I would accept that kind of occasional behavior from my girlfriend. Perhaps my western expectations are too different, but my experience has found there are plenty of emotionally mature women across SE Asia for long term relationships when you decide that's what you want.
I was in the PH several times, starting years back. I could never find the majority (loving, empathetic, etc) that you speak of that were interested in romance with a foreigner. All I met were the ones seeking hypergamy. I was only ever a victim and a target. Doing the visa petition was my biggest mistake and the only reason a lady would date me. And, after marriage, it was all about her family, sending money, buying property, etc. If you have wealth, it will soon disappear by the lady and/or the divorce court. Men evolved to rationalize away truths when it comes to love. You are correct that these women have zillions of men chasing them. And, no lady marries below her physical market value unless there's a big pay-off, like a casino heist. You are in a good relationships with an empath, but when Covid is over the competition will escalate again. Only the poor ladies who have many babies when they go abroad stay married, because their SMV drops. Great topic. Peace.
"There are only three ways a smart person can go broke: liquor, ladies, and leverage" -- Charlie Munger The problem is that, as studies show, beauty and love significantly reduce a man's cognition. Like the jewel wasp to the roach, he can be zombified into acting against his own interests and into self destruction. It happens almost imperceptibly at first, slowly, then all of a sudden. It is a parasitic reproduction phenomenon that exists throughout nature.
Wow, you had a tough go of it. I found the opposite of your experience, many really great girls to be with and so beautiful and sexy. Had no issues with girls wanting to stay with me after bringing them to the US either with many guys hitting on them. Not sure why you had such bad experiences, maybe just very piss poor luck or you made mistakes yourself, but whatever the reason my experiences were much different.
@@mikemasters4382 You speak in plurality as if you have petitioned many to the USA. The only way to do that is with a fiance / marriage visa. So, did you send them home or marry them? I discovered it wasn't really about me only the financial security and visa opportunity abroad. And, I found that to be the true talking to many in asawa groups in the West. Peace.
Dang! I think people went overboard in their fantasy of the respective countries because of their disdain of their home countries. They made the destinations look like paradise
Great video Paul, I like the forthright advice and it’s concurs exactly with my own experiences. As you say it’s tough to leave or change the frame but it’s a must do. Spot on well done!
Thanks for the interesting video. But I miss one important point: What´s your opinon on supporting her family in what way ever? Many of the Filipinas are the "Breadwinner" of her family and so the girl is expected to send at least a little support.
girls with foreigners have lots of lazy fathers. they want daughters to support the family. the children get brainwashed at an early age to never go against his wishes romance in the philippines is very expensive.
My girlfriend is very different. She’s educated and very understanding of how relationships work. She says. I have always helped my family but there comes a time in life that I must think of myself and my love and commitment to my man especially if I’m committed or married, She says also she wouldn’t want to put the stress of her family asking or expecting constant help. She says for some reason foreigners always think they have to help or their girlfriend thinks only of their family. She says she won’t let her cultural expectations complicate her relationship. She says just because it’s in her culture doesn’t mean a person must agree or be obligated to follow. Think about this. Just because it’s part of a culture doesn’t mean it must be followed or agreed upon. Any citizen of a country could say they don’t agree with everything in their culture, culture is like politics, you agree with somethings but maybe other things you don’t agree with. Any Filipina that can’t see outside the box is totally controlled by her culture and family and this is a Filipina that you will clash with in your relationship, Anyway. All the best
It's about setting rules. On the second date, Tell them you will not support their family. Tell him you will not buy a house. Tell them you will not set up a business there. Allow them to leave if they can't accept this and move on
When i was there I lived alone as as mature westerner. I had gf for a while but I could see real dangers on the horizon. Living there on your own long term is also a danger because you get noticed and talked about, eventually it arrives in the ears of the wrong people. Tbh, I got so bored and was warned about potential dangers, that I just decided screw it, I'm outta here.
If a man's own, personal life goal is not strong enough, the Filipina lady's life goal WILL become his life goal. At that point, he has become a bonded servant, not a free man.
It depends upon the kind of woman you chose. Chose a godly woman and not a prostitute. There are so many of them around the world not only in the Philippines. If you do, you will end up a victim. And pray to God all the time, for God will not put you in a situation where you become a victim of bad women who are only after your money. God will give you only the best if you put God first as the center of your life.
It’s simple really. Set down all your rules at the beginning and tell any possible girlfriend what the rules are. If she doesn’t like your rules find another girl. Also let her tell you what she wants and if you don’t like it, move on. There are plenty of girls so don’t be afraid to try out many before deciding on the right girl. If she’s the right girl you can support her up to a point but don’t build houses or any other assets. Any time she stirs up trouble, ditch her and move on.
