I have and my child at about 21 was diagnosed with type 1. I’ve seen this.. My child is a body builder and therefore in tune to body. It’s a nightmare, plus gluten free….
I think that even though that was kind of a sad scene, it was also kind of funny in a way. It really showed you how rebellious and strong-willed the character of Shelby was. This was a great movie and will always be a classic.
The saddest part of this scene is Sheblys real mom was there and the nurse that turned off life support in the movie was the nurse who turned off the life support in real life. Her mom said she wanted to watch the whole scene as they filmed it because “I need to see her (Julia) get up and walk away.” Just so heartbreaking.
@@LynnTanner-ls9kxyes, the screenwriter Robert Harling wrote the play after his sister Susan, a type 1 diabetic, died at 33 in 1985 shortly after giving birth to her son and subsequently getting a kidney transplant, which failed. The story is based on the last years of her life. He wrote it because he wanted his nephew to know who his mother was and how much she sacrificed to have him.
You're right; diabetes is no joke. Even if it's Type 2 that can be controlled with medicine and dietary control, it can result in renal failure. My husband had Type 2 diabetes for years. He always took his medicine, checked his blood glucose 2x/day, and watched his food intake. As the years went by, tests showed his kidney function steadily dropping a few points each time. One day he was babbling complete nonsense, and he was not able to answer basic questions I asked of him. So I called 911 and had an ambulance pick him up. I got 3 calls from different ER doctors before midnight; and they all told me his blood potassium levels were off the charts; hence his babbling and confusion. He has been on dialysis 3x/week for 3 years now. He frequently asks me why he needs dialysis; I explain to him that his kidneys are kaput, and the dialysis machines are the only way to filter out his body wastes. He asked me what would happen if he stopped dialysis. I told him his body would gradually poison itself with its own waste products, and he would die, probably in 1-2 weeks. He also has dialysis-induced dementia. He has to see various doctors and specialists, for his vein/blood circulation, anemia, condition of his dialysis fistula, etc. Kidney failure is no joke. Please accept my condolences on the loss of your sister; 25 is too young to pass away. 🌹🌹🌹
As many times as I've seen this movie, this scene STILL makes me break down. That poor baby was trying to show his dad that his mom was not ok. EVERYONE deserved an award for this scene.
I lost my Dad from complications from throat cancer, I was in the room when he was taken off life support and I will never forget that sound of the monitor beeping slower and slower and finally stop to a straight beep. RIP Dad I miss you.
I know Annelle meant well, but that's the last thing you want to hear when someone you love dies. After Dad died, my mind kept screaming out: "WHY????" A few later I've had time to reflect and realise that like Shelby, Dad's body couldn't take any more. He'd suffered chronic pain since he was 19 after a bad car accident (seatbelts weren't compulsory then), but he just kept going and made it to 75.
She was there when her baby came into this world, and she was there when she departed it. Heartbreaking in every way. Hearing her heartbeat so delicately and then flatlining forever.
@@estherlane7498 since I have to clarify, I was talking about the part “she was there when her baby came into the world and was there when she departed.”
@@sweetkentuckymama7710 since you don't have to clarify. Dont. ... I'm fully aware of what you meant FFS. Since I'll have to clarify I will I'm talking about movies showing flatlines and heartbeat sounds for dramatic effect. Get over yourself
I had to watch my only brother be removed from life support in October two years ago. He'd had surgery to get a portion of his foot removed due to diabetes. On the day he was to be released they put one of the plastic protectors over his foot and sat him in the shower. The nurse left the room to answer her cell phone. We don't know how long she was gone, but when she came back she found he'd fallen over and busted his head open. They revived him once for a few minutes, but he went back into full cardiac arrest. He never woke up again. We had just lost our mother to a stroke that June, and our dad 3 years prior to mesothelioma. He was exposed to asbestos while in the Navy. There's just us two girls left now. Life turns on a dime folks. Love each other. Be there for your family because you NEVER know when the Lord will call them home.
Breaks my heart every time. This is based on a real life story, the screenwriter is actually Shelby’s brother and the nurse who turned off her life support machine in real life is the one who did it in the film!!! Every single one of the cast members needs several awards and extreme recognition & respect! One of my all time, heartbreaking stories
Hearing Jack Jr. crying just breaks my heart because he's too young to know what his mother risked to give him life. But somehow he knew to point to where she had fallen down.
He was only wanting the sucker. They used a sucker and took it away to make him cry. That's why he's reaching for her pocket. He's pointing to his real mom that took the sucker
@saynotohookups this isn't the best timing to use that worn out line. Lol the comment is ridiculous. "Somehow he knew to reach out to point." The child knew his sucker was being taken. Lol
I didn’t even realise it! And that alone tells a lot, I think. Captivating enough so the music (which is basically my life) and its absence is not even paid any attention to.
This is a fine example of how far science and medicine have come in the field of diabetes, today there are so many new treatments and devices based on the latest technologies, it is no longer an early death sentence as it was in those years, all those scientists and doctors working tirelessly for us plus Diabetes alert dogs being a game changer. Thank you!
A lot of people still die from it.Its true there have been great advances but especially type one is still very dangerous and no treatment is full proof. I have almost lost my aunt multiple times because of lows this this . She has an insulin pump but the lows are what are the scariest.
It actually was a man who's child had diabetes that created insulin and he sold the original patent for a dollar. The doctors in med companies now sell it for astronomical amounts of money. C'est la vie
@michelleviolette574 That's not really fair to her father and her younger brothers they loved Shelby even big tough men have their breaking points I can't blame Drum for not being able to stomach watching them turn the machines off on his baby girl he probably thought to himself I am her father I was supposed to take care of her and this time he couldn't chase the monsters away
We have come so far in treating juvenile diabetes- for all our complaints about the failings of medical science, think of all the young folks that today can live full and long lives because of that progress. So many, for so long, never had a chance. Shelby was a difficult character, but wanted to live her life to the max and did. Was she selfish, headstrong, etc? Maybe- but she was like a bright comet in the night sky. And she mattered. And her dreams mattered. Great movie!❤
How was she selfish wanting to have her baby is not selfish being headstrong is a good quality in a person she wanted what a lot of little girls want a family of her own
People still sadly die sometimes from this disease even with the new treatments we have this movie drove it home just serious Diabetes is and can be I as a kid used to think oh you just take shots and you are ok and you can't eat certain things but now I know as an adult its not that simple this movie was so heartbreaking
Are we not going to talk about how it was painful for Jackson as well? His hesitation when signing the form to take Shelby off life support is what hits me.
Yeah it must have been hard in real life I heard that the husband was going to remarry right after the death of Susan and raise the child to call his new wife Mommy and her brother did this to stop his nephew from forgetting his mother and to stop his sister from being erased from her child's memory he wanted the boy to know how much she loved him and what she did and sacrificed to give him life I prefer the movie husband I mean I understand people grieve different but erasing your child's memory of his mother is sick and evil
@@aprilgosa5779 I am sorry but as a Type I diabetic I have to say this. Like Shelby I too was told not to have children from the time I was 15; however, I was coerced into at least "trying" to have a baby. IF he had truly loved her he would have never agreed to a baby. He would have never endangered her life like that.
@@karyndewit193yes. I don’t know why people want to reflexively blame the husband. Shelby was strong-willed and this was HER doing - she was determined.
@@jacquiethebibliophil Shelby did say she wanted to have her own baby. Her mama wasn't happy about that. But Shelby knew the risks. It's tragic and unfair that Shelby would never see her son grow up. And the real life woman (Susan) who this story is based on never got to see her son grow up either
I don’t know if I’m correct or not, but I think the nurses and doctors that were there in the scene were the actual doctors and nurses for the real Shelby.
I had to sign the DNR papers on my son back in March. He fought brain cancer for 3 years before it became too much. There is no pain like the one when you hear your childs past breath.
I had a stroke at 26. I had to drag myself to get help and thats hard to do when your arms and legs arent working right. Seeing her next to the phone on the ground brought back alot of bad memories
The Academy Awards are an absolute joke. I agree with you 💯 👍. When Austin Butler never won for his role as Elvis, I told myself i would never watch the Academy Awards EVER again!!🤮 Steel Magnolias is worth more than a ridiculous Oscar!!😆 The world knows this..
Having someone on life support declared brain dead is the most heartwrenching thing in the world. I can only imagine the agony. It feels like your heart is being ripped out via your kidneys. It must be horrendous. Anyone who's gone through this with a loved one, no words could comfort you ❤❤❤
This scene hits different after uve experienced a love one gettin off life support. I lost my abuela 4 yrs ago frm covid, & my mother-in-law last yr frm a stroke. Both that culd hv been prevented 😔. Life is to short and precious, tell those u love that u love them. 💞 I miss u wetha & maria 😇🪽
Same for me too. Lost my mama to COVID. Went very much like this. It's hard as hell to watch but it helps to know it's a somewhat universal experience for those who have been there.
This part of movie makes me cry, I went into a coma after having my first child, my mother stood by me all just like Sally did. This could of been me leaving behind my baby, husband and a loving mother. R.I.P mom miss you a lot always appreciate you
Shelby’s decision was selfish….she totally discounted the years her mother gave to her health. So now everyone is affected by her decision. She could have had a surrogate carry her baby. I absolutely know the pain her mama was in..
Sally Field is beyond amazing. Everything she touches is GOLD....❤❤❤❤ Thank you, Sally, for your brilliant acting and growing up with you in the "Flying Nun" and "Smokey and the Bandit" Much love to you from Australia 🇦🇺 ❤️ 💙 ♥️
@@danielleelizaharpz Of course he is destroyed Daddy's are there to protect their little girls and this time he couldn't chase the monster away from his little girl
I don't think he was intentionally overlooked there were other scenes of the movie where they showed that he was very close to his little girl and how close she was to her brothers but the movie did kinda focus on the mother -daughter dynamics and that relationship the conflicts between Shelby and M'Lynn and then the unconditional love that both had for each other Shelby was the heart of that movie her relationship with her daddy was different she had Daddy wrapped her little finger like most girls do and she butted heads with her mother like mothers and daughters do but the love was there
The part that actually is so raw and real is how after the machines are turned off and M'Lynn leaves the hospital to pick up the baby from Jackson's aunt I think that is when it hits or atleast it did me it hit me in that moment as she was driving to get the baby that empty feeling that Shelby would never physically be beside her in the car again that she would never look over and see her daughter again or never be able to talk to her or bicker with her over silly mother daughter things the realization that Shelby was gone that was so sad it takes my breath away when I watch it she is driving back from the hospital her daughter has just been declared officially deceased and she takes that lonely car ride to get her grandbaby and when she goes home Shelby won't be there ever again even the music portrays the empy feeling that the mother character must be feeling at that moment and the graveside scene is just the best performance I think I have seen its so raw and real its almost scary to watch when she gets angry because you can feel it she had held it together as long as she could and she couldn't do it anymore and it just exploded out of her but her girls were there for her
I love the title. Magnolias are such a beautiful flower, they represent perfectly the beauty of motherhood and selfless love, and of course steel being strong and unbendable, well, I don't need to explain the symbolism! Even though Shelby succumbed to her illness, her love did not. And her mother's love did not.
My first grandson xzavier was a still born he would have been 20 and when we took my daughter to her house to get a outfit for the funeral she looked at me and said mom I'm supposed to be picking a outfit to bring him home in not picking out a outfit to bury him in I lost it
Seeing this really had me on the verge of tears...when I was 15, my paternal grandmother suffered a heart attack brought on by her Type 1 diabetes, and they attempted to do a bypass, which they couldn't do very much to help. The worst part is that me and my family had to go down to see her in the hospital in Missouri (as my father was born and raised there), and she was in the ICU, which didn't help matters. The sights and sounds were disturbing to me, and I was hoping for her to pull through - she didn't. My poor grandmother was only 63 when she died. As of this comment, my maternal grandmother is the only grandparent I have left on this planet after my maternal grandfather's life was claimed in the tornado that tore through parts of Western Kentucky.
No offense, but only 63? Living to 63 is a blessing. My dad died at 47 of cancer and I’m in the process of being screened as well and it’s not looking good....I’m 41. One of my friends died at 35 in a car accident with her 14 year old daughter. Her other 3 kids were in the car but survived and are now being raised by their dad. 63 would be a joyous age to live to. In my opinion.
@@McCarthy0000 Prayers to you, my friend. I'm 38 years old, but I turn 39 in July. Months after my grandmother's death, I had returned home from school, and my mother told me she needed to talk with me on a serious note. When she said, "Dad's in the hospital", I became alarmed, and it turns out my father got pneumonia while he was working at his job over in Chicago. He was 41 years at the time he got it, but it was a good thing my mom told him through a phone call to check himself into the hospital for his affliction. He survived the ordeal. There's a lot of other things that my father has survived which I will not disclose - I do know in 2019, he had to get his gall bladder taken out. My father's now 64 years old.
@@McCarthy0000 Over five years ago a High School senior where I was from in Albion, NY (I currently live in Medina, NY) was in a car accident just a month before he graduated. I was en route to work with my buddy, and she was telling me the news on the way to work. I was rather shocked as you can imagine. While I didn't know the guy (whose name was Brennan) since I was older than him (I was 33 years old at the time of his death), I saw him in the plays my High School did, namely when he was in Godspell, and the way he sang "Prepare Ye the Way of the Lord" was just music to my ears (pun intended). Above all, the guy looked just like our savior Jesus Christ.
@@raea3588probably because it is based off the real life story of Robert Harling's sister Susan who died from diabetes related complications due to a failed kidney transplant.
@@raea3588since Shelby was a juvenile diabetic/type a EVERYTHING is at risk...and in the real story, Shelby didn't survive childbirth. There are many more factors involved...the risks are extremely high.
I remember mom had this on when I was still at that point in life when I didn’t really understand death. I thought “Young people don’t die. Not like that. That’s not how it works.”
@@number1fool My granddaughter is going through this,not really understanding it and reading your comment and remembering how I also thought of death at that age will help me tell her better.Its crazy how innocent we were then..
@@LynnTanner-ls9kx I just saw this now. I’m sorry she’s going through that. If my comment helps her out at all, than I am happy I can help out and I hope things get better for everyone in time. They usually do.
I know it's a movie but Shelby aggravated me so much. She was a nurse and right in the hospital. She knew something was wrong and she could have marched herself right into the ER. Would it have mattered, perhaps not, but maybe she could have had time to say goodbye, at least.
That baby is either a great actor or he was genuinely woried for her. I feel so bad if he actually thought something was wrong. What a smart little boy!
Dylan McDermott and Sally Field's acting in this scene is so beautiful. When Jackson (Dermott) hesitates to sign the form to take her off life support.
I thought my heart was going to explode when we turned life support off for my sister.. We both believed that we never really die we just ascend to the next level.. I know for a fact it’s true.. Those that crossed over before us have made it known.. I’m the only one left now out of the original five in my family.. And I know for a fact they are always around those they loved.. Almost seventy now and soon it’ll be my turn.. I’ve missed them all so very much and I’m looking forward to seeing them again and hear their laughter..
Back then Diabetes was really scary, and it can be even still. Thankfully, there are better treatments and better education. Type 1 Diabetes is still pretty complicated, but the prognosis for a Longer Healthier Life is more realistic. The rise in Type 2 Diabetes is epidemic due to the poisoning of food and limited access to healthier options. Type 2 Diabetes is more manageable, but it is still a very serious condition. Most of Americans are Pre-Diabetic, that isn't a coincidence. Having Diabetes in the 80s was rare, having it now is almost expected. All you can to is continue to take care of yourself and to stay educated as best you can. Many diseases can be reversed or forced into remission. It's tough work and you have to be kind to yourself. Take care.
I back in 2004, I watched my 22 year old son take his last breath and watched his heart stop on the monitor. The beeping stopped and the line went flat. I stood next to him, held his hand and stroked his head. I wanted to feel his soft hair in my fingers one last time. In the movie, Sally tells about that moment. How precious it was. “I was there when that wonderful creature drifted into my life, I was there when she drifted out. It was the most precious moment of my life”. I cry every time I hear that, even think of it. Her words are exactly how I felt. Beyond my sadness and grief, I felt I saw my son through the full circle of his life and it truly was a precious moment. (My son had cerebral palsy…profound Spastic Quadriplegic CP)
I was intensive care for a few weeks. This part makes me feel weirdly...... nostalgic? I was comforted by the sounds of the beeping machines. I guess it's like a heart beat. It keeps you going. There was always a nurse sitting by and taking notes on my vitals. It was... womblike.
I have chills like when that movie come out i remember being the baby age and my mother laying on the floor no one to help me i cried and cried till daddy came home i know the feeling
I know an extra minute or 2 wouldn't have made a difference, but the fact that the kid kept pointing at her and the dad didn’t pay attention is extremely annoying, especially because the kid was freaking out more & more because of it.
I was on my early term when I saw this movie and couldn't say a word in this scene. I had a knot on my throat and bursted into a waterfall of tears.....
I can’t ever make it through that scene without weeping! As a mother I can’t imagine what that would be like, but sally brought this scene so to life! Beautiful job
This is a hard watch for me that hits so close to home. I went in the ER and had to have an emergency surgery but aspirated then developed lung pneumonia. I spent months in the hospital in a medicated coma and much like this scene I was hooked up to oxygen and needed the machines for my lungs. I laid there on the verge of death but by miracle I woke up. My family had to watch me as in this scene which broke their hearts and were told to expect me to not wake up BUT thank God I did. It's been a traumatic journey I came a long way from being bedridden and learning to walk again. I have nerve damage in one of my legs so I am dealing with pain and mobility issues but I've been able to overcome so much so quickly after waking up from my coma.
I lost my son to alcoholism - his liver failed - at 27, 15 years ago. I feel the character's grief so deeply. However, M'Lynn was fortunate in that she could linger by Shelby's bedside. I wanted to do the same with my son, hold him for as long as I could, but my older brother had decided I wasn't strong enough to stay with him and forced me to leave before I was ready. I will NEVER forgive him for that. He didn't realize I was just as much of a Steel Magnolia as these women were.
Im 50 have had diabetes for a few years nothing to do with overweight or eating all bad foods etc i had gestational diabetes with my last child an they told me more than likely i will get diabetes in the future an i did it runs in my family but i try my absolute best everyday to stick to a strict diet an exercise the diet is so bland cant have alot of foods because nearly everything has sugar or carbs bread potatoes fruit pastas crackers its so frustrating ive nearly had a diabetic coma when my sugars was very low ive also had 2 kidney infections that really knocked me around, my feet an hands get numb an hurt my vision is blurry i have to wear glasses for reading theirs so much more complications than just low sugar its a horrible disease, i love sally field shes such a humble woman ive never seen this movie this made me cry ❤
I have to say,because of the first part of this scene, I was freaked out about having a baby. There were times after my car accident with my baby where my body would go limp and I would fall to the floor unable to move. I would even wake unable to move my body or my body was mostly numb. I could not watch this movie after having my babies because I was so afraid I would be alone with my baby and I would not wake up. That’s how much this movie made an impact on so many people. It’s one of those movies that suck you in and makes you feel like you were a part of someone’s life.
