To the SWU community Corinne here. Firstly, I want to thank everyone who watched and commented, the good and everything in between. I read every single comment and if I could, I would respond to each of them. You never know. I get fixated and could end up spending hours replying to everyone at some point, although they might get lost among the many beautiful videos and souls on this channel! 🥰 It's never easy to lay yourself bare to the world, no matter what your situation may be. The fact that there was so much kindness and support is a testament to the channel and Mark, especially. I feel so many people connected with me and my story and that is all I could ask for! My heart feels very full. That shows what human beings are possible of giving to each other. Strength, love, honesty. I know there was plenty more that could have been covered in more depth, but perhaps another time. I would be willing to come back for an update at some point and address anything that would be more helpful for you to understand. As you see, I am quite a thinker in between my words, so if you felt that there were more examples of what happened during my childhood and adolescence that would have given you a better understanding of the complex relationship I have with my mother and myself, I agree and completely understand that frustration, but there is only so much time, and I believe Mark made something I am very proud is out in the world. I went through all the fears I imagine anyone that comes on and opens themselves up go through, but in the end I am so grateful for this. A few items that I was really intrigued by in the comments: - Possible diagnosis of Asbergers or Autism Spectrum- while I have never directly gotten any of those diagnoses, it is not out of the realm of possibility. I was asked to take the Myers-Briggs personality test for work, to help them understand how better to work with each employee, and I am an INFJ. Which is the rarest type. ( in fact I have seen many videos on RU-vid about being an INFJ and how to relate to them. Not sure if it's helpful or not) At first I thought, of course, it would be me, it is me, but it is also good to know you are rare 🤪 - I have made attempts at arranging to visit my parents, however, I cannot speak for my mother and her reasons for putting it off, but I still love her. - I have 2 rescue cats, which bring me joy and peace. - I also would love to have Rebecca go through my closet, show off her own styling with my clothes. If we lived in the same city, I think it would be fun to do videos with her styling me and herself in my clothes! ❤ - There were so many inspiring comments on what I could do with my collection, and knowing there might be an audience out there for me to do a daily outfit vlog is something I have considered. It's time to do something to work towards happiness. Step by step. For me and if it brings a bit of happiness to others, then hell yeah! - To clarify, while I do purchase vintage collectible designer pieces, that is not all I buy. I do buy new items, as well. Whatever strikes my fancy. I happened to put on a number of vintage items that day, including the Gaultier suspender I didn't mention. (The Westwood pants have an inner waist band and then an outer one that looks very large, so I understand the confusion with that (I really did read every comment!)) It has taken years to amass what I have and while it is tough to let go, I am not against it. Whether it be by selling or donating. I also have a lot of jewelry, cosmetics and artwork. - I am fortunate to not be in debt, and since I did the video, I have not purchased, although I did still have some items arrive and trickle in from overseas, as they slowly make their way through customs, etc. So there may still be a couple items coming. 😶🌫️ - the jewelry I made was an extension of my sculpture concentration in art school. I do have some terrible photos of pieces. The only reason I say that is because I have really no social media skills and self promotion capabilities, so I put some quick pics up on Instagram, at the behest of one of the stores where I was selling. I would very much like to start back up, and possibly try to sell online. - Someone said my outfit was very disjointed and deconstructed, kind of like me, which I see. I could have gone the total elegant route, as I have plenty of items in that vein, but its interesting how I chose to dress myself that day and how much that really matches with my speech and personality. Even the jewelry I made is the same. You really can't understand some items until they are actually on the body and they can be spiky and almost further armor. - "how many camels fit through the eye of a needle?" I found that comment very interesting on a couple levels. It is relevant to my story, in both the physical baggage (my so called collection) and mental baggage, I carry. Also, one of my favorite songs is Brian Eno's "Needle in the Camel's Eye". Lyrics are so simple, but as relatable today as when it was put out in 1973, even though it wasn't written to have any meaning, I find it meaningful. Someone else mentioned The Beatles "All the Lonely People", 'where do they all come from?' Apparently from the beginning of the human experience. I think this was the first big step in getting a better understanding of myself and how I am viewed through the eyes of others and how much more I am and could become. And love myself and then if love comes my way, icing on the cake! I have been in relationships although only a few and they were long term, so I have loved, but looking back I have never been in love, or been loved in return (thank you Nat K Cole 'Nature Boy' comment reference) how I understand now that I deserve to be. How we all deserve to be! So many people offered friendship and I would be your friend, too. I felt the hugs and the love and this is my attempt at giving it back to each of you.🤗🤗🤗🤟infinity I want you to know how much it means, but I don't have the words. So all I can say is THANK YOU❣️ THANK YOU❣️ THANK YOU❣️ I have been privileged to have the kindest, most caring and amazing clients that I work for and to have carved out a decent living, that was stable through the pandemic, which is a blessing. Big thanks again to everyone, SWU and Mark. I hope to be here again, for everyone that cares and for me, and maybe, just maybe I will figure out a way to use what I have to start something great! The first steps are the toughest in any addiction recovery, or emotional recovery. I do take responsibility for myself and that I have the power to alter my trajectory, but as most addicts or unfulfilled people may understand, it's not so easy. Ok now, I need to start a list.....tripod, camera (just use phone)✅️, ring light, editing software, learn to use editing software, clothes✅️, jewelry ✅️, learn how to use RU-vid or TikTok, courage, motivation......🤞 Love to all and see you again, I hope - xoxo Corinne
Wow corrine! Wonderful comment. You are a wonderful person. I enjoyed listening to you. I deleted the comment i made about parents and their lack of understanding their children. I still believe that, the less we take note of their lack of understanding, the more we can love them, i am sure you understand what i mean. Much love to you! ❤
I truly loved your video and even more so, your comment. So much about all of it really made me feel like we are almost the same person. Haha we would definitely be friends if we weren't on the opposite side of the country. Heck we still could be. I think making a RU-vid channel would be the best thing for you! I'd totally binge watch it. Since I also have. Bit of a shopping habit I have thought about making a channel but then j think of more stuff I want to buy for it and the anxiety of it all makes me want to go shop. (I am an emotional buyer who suffers from many mental health issues) haha perfect combo! Anyway I am extremely proud of you for getting out there and telling your story. You are strong, beautiful and so very smart! Plus you've made it this far in life and shopping the wY you have without falling into debt! I could go on and on but I'll end it with this .. I'm gonna be watching out for your channel or an update whichever comes first 😁 Looking forward to see what your next chapter in life holds for you! 🤗
I think you'd do great with a daily outfit RU-vid channel. Although you have to have tough skin bc ppl on Internet can be rude. I have a girlfriend who does real estate updates and she's incredible, but she says that's the hardest part. She deletes those comments. (Unless it's legit ideas or criticism, you know?)
I think that gifts are her love language, and she's giving herself love. If she wanted to she could probably turn her problem into a creative outlet by opening a boutique or online shop with her items. If it was successful, she could continue to buy sell and hunt items without the guilt. She seems like a very sweet person and I wish her the best.
Me too. I have an obsession with shoes, and clothes, I guess. I don't like my body, so I guess that's where the shoe obsession comes from. However, I actually see them as "art" in some ways. I find so much beauty in them and get so excited making shoe purchases. It's gluttonous, I know, and I often wonder if I'm trying to fill a void, but it's been a part of my identity for as long as I can remember. 🤷🏼♀️ It is troubling sometimes...takes up so much space!
@@nannybean8134 Oh my gosh, me too! I have an obsession with boots. I have collected many and never even wore them. I collected boots from a designer, CAMILLA SKOVGAARD and recently found out she passed away in 2018 :( I am glad I still have her boots, they are truly works of art.
Yes , Me too clothing,shoes and purses. Addiction of sorts could be worse 🙃 Always tried to analyze myself but I had great childhood and married family life. Also wonder if am a collector or hoarder. But it's my hobby 🖤
@@abigailburk1971 , same. I often wonder with what I am "afflicted." I, too, had a wonderful childhood, although I lost my dad to cancer when I was 18, and that was tough. Corrine's interview has inspired me to at least investigate therapy. Until then, I am proud of the moniker, "Fancy Nancy."😁
Mark, this interview really gutted me. I related to her on such a deep level. I want Corrine to know that she is enough. She is cared about and so many of us would be honored to befriend her.
Wouldn't it be cool if she started her own RU-vid channel about vintage clothes? She could show her own clothes to us, and also vintage clothing stores in New York, maybe even go drift shopping.
I know a woman who had a brick and mortar vintage shop. She had to close it but now sells on Etsy. This lady could do videos modeling and talking about the designers and the clothes. I think the interaction she would get from her audience would be quite helpful to her. In regards to her mother issues, I had the same. I know she needs counseling for this. Sometimes you have to accept that your parent is not going to change, and is in fact not capable of change (narcissist) so you have to just let it go and stop letting it effect your life. Just my own experience.
Imagine growing up seeking for validation and feeling like never being good enough for your mother who always judged you…then being bullied at school. I respect her for sharing her vulnerable parts for this interview.Physical distance only won’t heal the wounds even after 25 years of not seeing your mother. I hope she finds tons of self-love, would go well with her outfit 👌🏽
@@gregatron4528 Ok, we all know that the question wasn't directed to that person. That doesn't mean that someone else can't answer or respond to it. So why do you gotta make that comment for? It's just weird.
I’m angry that the interviewer said the shopping wasn’t like drugs and alcohol. It totally is and people who minimize it make it hard for people like me to get the proper treatment or help. No meds help, therapy does a little. I’ve struggled with a debilitating shopping addiction since 2004. If I had a magic wand this is what I’d make disappear. I’ve spent hundreds of thousands throughout my life, filed for bankruptcy and have crap credit. I have a huge storage unit full of clothes and a big walk in closet with mountains of clothes on the floor and hanging up. Shopping isn’t cute or glamourous I hate it so so much. It’s ruined my life. I also struggle with hoarding so it’s hard to get rid of things or sell them or just “stop” like so many people on here say they can do. It’s a feat for me to not shop. Every minute is filled with what I want to buy and about money. Please don’t minimize the hell shopping addiction is just because it’s not a chemical addiction like drugs or alcohol.
Agree totally, he is unfortunately ignorant as far as this goes and a few other things as well. And that is not a bad thing, but the fact that he does not inform himself.
I was a thrift-store compulsive shopper and the house got filled with stuff and then we had to donate everything back to the thrift stores. RIDICULOUS notions of mine. I finally quit during that Covid lockdown. It's alright, Corrine, this too will eventually pass and you will know when it's time to chill from high-end fashion.
@@tiffanyhoward9935 . it's lots of work and rewarding, too. I have found some treasures from all over the world, but it got to the point where I could have been considered a serious hoarder and I just let it all go and I am FREE now and I LOVE it, but I still love a good shopping spree. My brother says the best Goodwill stores are in Aspen and I was gonna go, not for skiing but for Goodwill shopping in Woody Creek?!? Tell me if that's not crazy!! LOL Much love to you. Tiffany!!
@@TylerMcKinney , it's there. Even the LA Skid Row folks on Mark's channel say they find really high-end stuff in the dumpsters from all the wealthy Beverly Hills people
These days, though, some people do all their shopping on Amazon. Meaning, they no longer shop local. If I can avoid shopping in a store, I will. I order most of my household things online, etc.
I buy most of my household items from Amazon. I have health issues and appreciate the free delivery. I then recycle the boxes. Many of the items I can’t buy in my city. Not everyone has a shopping addiction.
It is in fact depressing to hear someone talking about how lonely they are. People are everything, everyone deserves and a caring friend. Thank you for sharing Corrine.
It's about to get a lot worse in a few years. Yet for some reason women who choose to become homemakers and raise a family instead of buying into the feminist argument to go work and be independent are the problem. I guess some fish actually do need a bicycle.
@@aigaoliveira3278 Does it matter? Make your argument disputing my opinion. Facts are there are many women her age that were told not to raise a family and they end up lonely. It's not an attack against her. It's an attack against poor social conditioning.
I’m a recovering shopping addict which at the time didn’t seem like a problem, until I ran out of space. Since the pandemic started I’ve been getting rid of things and the sense of relief outweighs the seeming comfort of keeping the items. Now I get my shopping jollies by browsing until I find that one thing that I fall in love with, have room for, and will wear/use. I’m sooo much happier now. I wish the best for this lady and I believe she’ll find her balance.
Compulsive shopping is like any other self medicating behavior. She discovered a way to soothe her anxiety regardless of the negative impacts, just like any other person who’s desperate for relief. It’s heartbreaking and incredibly relatable. We beat ourselves up for maladaptive behaviors which causes our symptoms to elevate, and we self medicate. It’s so hard to break the cycle when it’s such an intrinsic part of our existence. Peace is hard to find.
Mark is generally such an open and understanding person. But the way he was so gentle and showed so much compassion towards this lady is so touching. This is one of the reasons this is one of my favorite channels on RU-vid.
Crystal, have you seen the interview of Jane in NYC? She is so refreshing and a breath of fresh air. I enjoy these interviews which are the more genteel types of ladies. I really like Corinne in the same way that Jane affected me.
@@SheenaReaOMG yes! Just like you, I felt Jane was a breath of fresh air and through her, I felt seen and heard. I found Jane to be so self aware and she allowed herself grace and acceptance to be her authentic self. That was a great interview.
Omg… I can totally relate to her… specially when she said that she has never fallen in love and she has never been married and her eyes filled with sorrow 😔
she is a lovely person with a pure heart. i see the child in her. as parents we have to allow our children to be themselves and not repress them. children are born perfect and we have to nurture their innate traits while guiding them on the best paths. i relate very much to her story.
How utterly beautiful what you said! It is so very wise and true. We should never try to repress a child's nature. It is soul crushing thing. Again, I loved what you said.
This was heartbreaking. Humans are getting more and more lonely and isolated. But we're social creatures and loneliness can be very harmful in the long run. I resonated with so much that she expressed, I felt like reaching out to her in some way. I hope that she soon will find love and friendship 💕 Like we ALL want.
We mustn't be afraid of human contact because it's vital to our wellbeing. Obviously the pandemic is/was the exception and everyone needs to be careful, but again, WE NEED each other. As hundreds of scientific studies show. Why else is isolation cells the ultimate punishment in prison?? Because that's the worst thing you can do to a human being: cut off all human contact. Life expectancy lowering with a decade etc. On the other hand, it doesn't take much to remedy this situation: a smile, a kind word, a phone call, a hug for someone who needs it. We must all remember to be kinder to each other if we want to survive at all 🌎 In my humble opinion.
Larely trying to pinpoint myself, I could relate 💯, at same time thinking why, how can such a beautiful person inside out be lonely. I can't even feel sorry knowing there more out there feeling lonely. I know there is a solution we just have find it, within ourselves. Please know your not alone.
I think that, in the future, artificial intelligence will be so advanced that it will match people who want to find someone for a relationship. I know there are matching services now, but I'm talking about much more advanced and sophisticated. That's my hope. I believe the same about job searches in the future. AI will match a person into the perfect job. Supercomputers, AI, will be able to do this.
@Trixxii Not that you asked but I personally think that’s a wonderful idea! Not only would you benefit greatly from it but your PenPal may have the same feeling of isolation as you do and could also benefit. It just sounds like such a pure idea to be entertaining. I wish you Good Luck!
I can totally relate to her when it comes to it being difficult to maintain friendships, my parents were extremely strict when I was growing up so I became used to being by myself because I couldn’t hang with other kids much, it’s something I’ve realized now being 30 years old. I still struggle with it and consider myself a “lone wolf”, which is good on one hand, and not good in the other.
This is the first person you have interviewed who I can totally relate to. I am artistic, make jewelry and love fashion. I have limited finances so the addiction is very limited.
Note how much he focuses on the addiction and not the lack of support from her family and friends that leave her empty thus having a void to fill with clothes.
Oh gosh, my mother is similar. For her, she was poor her entire life, so buying things, I feel is healing her childhood in a way. Instant gratification! I feel the same when I get an Amazon package. Or simply adding clothes to my cart. One thing that helped me was adding a bunch of stuff in my cart and then walking away. Closing the tab. Eventually the ‘high’ goes away.
All my childhood I listened to "we don't have money for that". I was wearing handmedown clothes all my life til I went to college. I still don't buy expensive clothes, but I buy a TON of thrifted clothes.
We used to call people like Corrine eccentrics. They are sighted around big cities everywhere. What is remarkable about this interview is that it makes you realize that there is a complex person with a complicated history under those exteriors. Another outstanding video, Mark.
In history those "eccentrics" that do have the cofindence, support and time have given the world many priceless pieces of significant art that is worldwide recognized As a fellow "eccentric", though I prefer artist, you're welcone.
@@baublesanddolls But being called "eccentric" instead of an artist is demeaning and feels insulting. I didn't go to college to get my degrees in "eccentrics". I double majored in graphic design an 3D animation and I refuse to title it as just being "eccentric". Eccentric can have good and bad connotations. But it is easy to spot a person who doesn't understand art or artist when they expess to the artist that they have an ecentric life or are an eccentric person. Most people see educated artists and think "what waste of time on a worthless degree that is not financially stable". Being labeled eccentric instead of an artists comes across a being kindly judged and insulted for my career choice.
@Trixxii quirky is another kind insult and judgment I absolutely love to hear too for I am not educated in eccentrics and quirkiness. I'm college educated in art. Just helps me to weed out people who don't understand artists. I never said that being eccentric is a sure sign of an addicted person nor did I say all artist are eccentric nor am I saying they are all quirky. Being an artist and getting backhanded compliments from people who have never seen my art is insulting. When an artist is stopped from expressing themselves creatively they will find other option. Options that people don't like, dont understand or can't relate to and will chalk up their lack of understanding as the artist is just being their quirky and eccentric selves rather than helping the artist fidn a safe way, free of automatic judgment, to creatively express themselves whether or not the artist agrees with a non-artist view of them.
None of the people who support my art call me quirky or eccentric. Only the ones who don't understand artists or art in general have labeled me quirky and eccentric
Can totally relate. Child neglect, critique, conditional "love".. no room for imperfection, focus on outer beauty instead of inner development. I've had my moments of indulgence and left a few full carts of "stuff" in store back rooms. In the moment it fills your mind and heart for adventure and treasure "hunting". I've finally let go of all unrealistic expectations of myself and others and have taken just the art of living seriously and that has been a delicious challenge that keeps me focused. Corrine, you are beautiful and loved by a lot of us near and far. Rest in that dear girl.
Love this interview, something that shows addiction isn't just chemical drugs , it is lots of other things! The dopamine rush she describes from "giving herself a present" is so real and also, deeply sad, really. It replaces lots of other voids in her life. She may possess lots of amazing designer items but by her own admission, she has very few places or occasions to wear them. This addiction is just as real as heroin or any other drug. Her admission that this shopping has replaced love in her life is very sad. She seems like a beautiful person with a good heart, who happens to have an addiction just as real as an opiate addiction. Its interesting to see other addictions. I would also really like to see a food addiction interview too.
Yes to everything you said. I am coming so see that I am a food addict and would like to see him interview someone struggling with it though I feel the comments would be very brutal because it is so misunderstood.
@@ayannahendricks6266 I am also a food addict and currently in therapy for it through a eating disorder clinic. It is indeed really misunderstood and you don’t hear so much about it in comparison to anorexia and boulima. But food addiction really ruined my life and made me feel socially isolated and ashamed of myself when binge eating and afterwards feeling disgusted with myself, feeling embarrassed with the growing number on the scale, afraid to see people (because they would see I gained more weight and thus I became more and more socially isolated for a long period) not having control over my urges. In therapy I had to purchase the book overcoming binge eating from the author Christopher Fairburn. Maybe you can look into it and it may provide you some help/understanding if you feel you are a fellow food addict. But I still have a really long way to go and it’s with ups and downs. Thank you guys for understanding that it can be hard and that every addiction and addict in any form needs empathy and respect ❤️
Those who have said this is a “middle class problem” have no true understanding of mental health issues. Mental illness affects people regardless of their social class and upbringing. Just because someone has not experienced “trauma,” like most of those interviewed on this channel have, does not mean that those who have not suffered such visible adversity should not have mental health issues. I hope she finds her way. I can relate a lot to her.
@@tnt01 💯. Absolutely. I’ve studied child development and toxic family dynamics and all addiction has it’s core in childhood trauma to whatever degree.
Agree. That’s basically Gabor Maté’s entire thesis, that all addictions, no matter the type, stem from childhood trauma and abandonment, even with babies who have been adopted into loving families.
I understand Corrine because I am going through the same thing. I am addicted to makeup and beauty care. I am a psychologist and yet I try to do everything I can to not buy. When we receive what we bought in the mail, it's like a gift. It's a moment that doesn't last but makes us feel joy. I was raised by my grandmother and have missed her love all my life. We seek that childhood happiness through what we buy and treasure. For me, buying brings me this moment of happiness and allows me not to sink into depression...
“We seek that childhood happiness through what we buy.” This sentence hit me so hard! It’s so true all that you said. When we buy something, it temporarily comforts our inner child missing the safe comforts and loved ones we miss. Even so much deeper that this it can go for me. I relate 100%
This was a great interview. I have done the same thing shopping. My mom kicked me out at 14 with 1 pair of jeans. I think my shopping was trauma related. Covid cured my shopping habits along with inflation
Vivienne Westwood, YES! Her also being in a band, and that rebellious spirit through clothes as an armor, she seems cool and not at all pretentious as one would imagine being so fashionable.
What an original, beautiful genuine soul. She is beauty, Grace and style and doesn't see it. Her honesty and innocence made this whole interview worth watching!
Don't underestimate the destruction a shopping addiction cause. It may not destroy the body as drugs or alcohol do, but it can absolutely destroy your life.
She’s awesome man what a great personality. Everyone has their own struggles you know. Everyone has their own addictions and anything can turn into an issue. Wish you the best Corrine!
The thrifting site are hard for me. I have the fear of missing out and I rush to buy it with the thought “I can just sell it later” but I barely ever do. Now that my life is becoming overrun with “things” I feel guilty and sick about it. It’s time for a change.
She's quite lovely. Her sense of fashion is impeccable. She's quite the individualist. I identify with her a great deal. While she was speaking of the various designers she prefers...I found myself smiling. I was trying to figure out the problem with shopping...she said it "you're ADDICTED to the feeling of getting something new and then it quickly fades". It is a problem. But, it's a "workable" problem. All the very best to her and for her.
I empathized so much with Corrine about her mother; I used to do the same thing, make excuses for my mother and say "she's doing the best she can" or say "my mother loves me, but..." and basically try and sugar coat the situation in every single way I could because the reality of the situation was too painful. It's really hard Corrine but I will tell you, there's a lot of rage behind that sadness and if you can get to it and cope with it in a healthy way, the sadness will start to subside as well. It's almost like they are ying and yang; the sadness drives the anger and the anger drives the sadness. Just ask yourself this: If she loves you, why hasn't she seen you in years? Is that love? Is love words, or is love actions? What do you do when you love someone? Do you not see them for years? It's a painful question but it could possibly begin you on the journey towards coping with the truth about your mother. The fantasy of how you see her in your head, it will never become true and it will keep you trapped where you are emotionally. The only way to be free is to stop the fantasy.
Hoarding isn't collecting everything. Hoarding can revolve around one item or a collection. Hoarding is associated with OCD. Which makes people very anxious and use maladaptive coping techniques. This isn't making you happy. Anxiety is treatable.
Poor lady. All that she wanted was just a loving mother who would appreciate her for who she is. She looks like a beautiful soul, may God bless her and fills her heart with his unconditional love.
I can totally relate to this addiction. I had to delete apps off my phone amd really tell myself this year-STOP, you don’t need it. I didn’t have a designer addiction but fashion nova/shein because it’s so cheap. Goal this year-no more spending on frivolous unnecessary stuff.
Hi Corrine, I can relate to so many things you talked about. Life didn't turn out at all like I had hoped. Not a success financially, never had a truly loving relationship, and never felt comfortable in my own skin. Now at 58 years old I find myself lonely , severely depressed, and No closer to understanding what this so called "Life" thing is all about. If you ever figure it out,,,Please let me know😉 I hope the best for You! Jeff in Washington state
JEFF aka HulkhoganHeroes. God bless you. You might want to read GABOR MATE’ . His books are full of knowledge on addiction. Also JOHN BRADSHAW PBS SERIES called ON THE FAMILY here on YT. The original series was done back in the 90s which I watched faithfully. The exact series is here on YT. Just punch in John Bradshaw. Hope this will shed light on ur life. It started a whole path of recovery for me showing me why I was who I was and why I was set up for addiction bc of needs never met as a child. Finding out I was there to fulfill my narcissist parents needs.
Loved this interview. Every person has a fascinating story, even just the soccer mom next door, but we rarely get to speak to people in depth the way you do in these interviews. Please do more seemingly “common people” interviews such as this one to unearth hidden treasures for the world to experience. Thanks for all that you do Mark! Keep up the great work!! 🌷
I hope Corinne finds a really good therapist. It seems like her “addiction” and the fact that she hasn’t seen her mother in over 20 years is obvious. I think many of us can relate to Corinne; I know I do. She seems like a lovely woman who has kept a lot of shit locked up in her brain for way too long. I hope she can find peace and happiness one day!
@@Sammzee this is basically the human condition and it goes for literally everyone. improvement takes work and victimizing yourself or blaming things out of your control does not make you lovely or great. it does make people feel bad for you though which tends to hinder progress. i know i sound harsh but i believe becoming a better person doesn't happen without pain and pretending the issue it something else or shifting focus is SO common today. of course compassion and empathy are very important, but its also very easy to virtue signal for empathy.
Agreed Kathleen. Corinne definitely recognizes that with this addiction she’s trying to fill a void. It’s not physically destructive like drugs but no less mentally painful. A good therapist can help her learn how to love herself and find happiness from within.
I agree. Her story is so relatable. Loneliness and isolation and the longing for acceptance, especially from your mom, can do a lot of damage that sometimes you can’t even recognize. Shopping seems to just give her a quick, although fleeting, sense of happiness and peace.
Damn how I can relate to the depression, anxiety, loneliness/ isolation, etc…. Your so easy to listen to and so brave for sharing so openly! Stay strong 💪🏾 Corrine as you can see in the stream of comments many of us can relate ❤️❤️❤️
She said her mom acted like 'why are you like this?' because she didn't understand her daughter's emotional issues as a child. That would have been the time to show her lots of love.
A lovely lady, she has real class. Not addicted to drugs, just trying to find herself and figure things out. Its a long road, Corrine. One day you will find the peace you seek. Believe me.
I just got back from a shopping trip and saw this video when I got home. Your story is so relatable, to me. Thanks for making me feel less alone by sharing your story. I honestly relate to most of your story, my Dad and Grandma are only children, my grandma had issues as well, my favourite memories are with my grandparents, I had a nervous breakdown at 27, I isolate and have very few friends but dont see them, I spend all my money on stuff and get fixated on certain things. I wish you well, I think we need to find other ways to love ourselves 😍
My heart goes out to Corine because I completely relate to her loneliness and self imposed isolation on so many levels. I too compensate for the rush of happiness from shopping to subconsciously replace the lack of approval and acceptance from my own mom as well. You are enough. And you are loved. Big Hug to you, Corine. 😔🙏🏻💖ì
I am starting to realize that people should not be labeled as this or that. I think it holds us down when we say we are a certain way due to anxiety, our upbringing, depression, having no friends or very few friends......... I think we should realize that it could be the people around us who are the problem. It's ok to want to be alone, read a book, and things but people then say you are antisocial. Maybe they have a need for parties and constant stimulation but it doesn't mean everyone must be like this or there's something wrong with you. This beautiful woman was obviously hurt by a "mom" who wasn't ready to be a mother. This mom probably had her own issues she was dealing with. It's not a bad thing that they grew apart. I think it takes courage and strength to remove yourself from toxic people especially when it's your family. I admire her and would love to sit with her and talk over a cup of tea. I hope that I made my point and don't get a lot of negativity. LOL God bless all of you ❤️
I like the branch out of people and their stories. You're beginning to capture the mosaic of things that plague people and disguises itself as a coping mechanism. Not everyone is addicted to drugs. Their are vulnerable people everywhere carrying the weight of the world on their shoulders and still trudging on.
I can definitely relate because I had to stop myself from ordering and purchasing on impulse because it’s true, it really feels like a present/gift everytime a package comes in and then you end you having that guilt that you never needed it in the first place. Addiction comes in all shapes forms & sizes.
This exactly is what my story was and I’m actively re-learning it all. I used to get my orders gift wrapped to my self and like you said it was like Christmas every time I got a package. My daughter even said to me when she was younger…Mommy there’s your favorite truck..and it was a UPS truck.
I see so much of myself in her. I'm waiting for an Amazon package right now. I love the feeling of getting a package in the mail and then it fades away almost instantly after I get it. Not something I think about enough. Also deal with anxiety, acceptance, maintaining friendships, etc.
This is a reminder that every child is an artist. Seems that she never had the support to go after her artistic talents and this happens to most of us artist who are raised in household with dysfunctional parents were unconditional love is lacking. Sending her so much love and support, such a beautiful lady
I was bullied by my mother, in turn, I was a bully in some situations in high school, but …. I learned so much about the effects and causes and have tried to teach my daughter to be KIND to everyone.
Her outfit is so fragmented and deconstructed. Its like a visual manifestation of her relationship with clothing... She's wrestling with some heavy natured shit. Shes cocooning maybe.. I can relate. Wishing her the best.
Hey sweetie-you’re not alone in your loneliness. I have the same tendencies to hermit, isolate and yet be social. I’m finding myself at 45 years old, essentially friendless. Divorce and then Covid took me to new places of isolation that I never thought would be created. If you want company, let me know. I visit the city as much as possible to get a reprieve from rural PA, happy to meet up for a cuppa…we can both dress up! :) Keep that beautiful chin up, Corrine.
Corrine might fit the characteristics of a highly sensitive person. If true, there are guidelines to follow which can help a highly sensitive person to effectively manage their life. Thank you, Corrine and Mark, for sharing your interesting interview.
I thought she might, too. Or possibly be on the autism spectrum but adept at masking autistic traits in public. Many girls/women just get dx'd with anxiety, but then it turns out the anxiety is partly due to an underlying neurotype that makes adapting to social norms, building lasting relationships, and navigating the logistics of modern life challenging and non-intuitive.
@@carrington2949 there’s a whole series of books. I read The Highly Sensitive Child to help understand how to parent my son and realized, of course he is sensitive, I’m highly sensitive! Great books
Her story at the beginning... explained my life. The trauma from youth, changes your brain. I too have severe anxiety and adhd diagnosis as a 46 year old. Impulse with things and behaviors. Executive decisions are just not here for us. I too keep my distance from my mom, its better that way. Acceptance and longing for them... it just never works out.
I can feel Corrine is a sweet soul. I actually would love to hear her talk about her collection, to be honest. She would really make great RU-vid videos or TikToks :)
Same. Only instead of vintage clothes, it’s guitars and effect pedals. I supplement the venture by selling what I don’t use on eBay. Just like a gambler that won big I turn around with the money and put it right back to the addiction. I definitely know that feeling of new things arriving that she speaks of.
First of all, her outfit is amazing. She has incredible taste. There is a lot going on here, I can relate to her so much that it makes me sad for both of us. Her mom doesn't have the emotional capacity to love her the way she needed as a child, so she overcompensated with stuff. She has only child syndrome, her grandparents were her anchor, and they gave her the love that she needed. Someone broke her heart into a thousand pieces, and she still hasn't recovered. She is severely depressed and almost seems like she feels bad for feeling bad because on paper her life looks pretty good. Being single without children is the easiest justification for overspending. Most importantly, she seems like the nicest person and someone so cool to hang out with and I would absolutely be her friend. I can't wait for her to start her RU-vid channel or online boutique!! Am I projecting? Possibly but I feel like I'm also looking in the mirror. This was really good! Keep your head up Corrine. You deserve happiness and that looks any way you want it to!
I would never be able to diagnose someone (in reality or from the video), but now that I know more about autistic presentation in women, I feel like I see it in several of these videos. she has so much shame over something that is celebrated in Vivienne Westwood herself. she collects and she would like to reduce the collecting, but hyperfocus can be an amazing thing given the right support
she is so sweet. i'm almost 19 now and i've already experienced so many of the things she said. she's definitely not alone and that also shows from these comments. she deserves to have self love, i really adore her and i just want to give her a Massive Giant hug. ❤️❤️❤️
She should consider using her accounting/bookkeeping and fashionista skills to open up a boutique in the village. Perhaps rent out the back room to a band that will let her play drums. Always interesting, thanks!
@@funkytransport No imagination, sad. She has closets full of clothes and boxes of jewelry/trinkets and bric-a-brac she needs to move. All types of grants and loans with little or no interest are currently available for new business startups. One or two partners, a consignment rack/isle, and a space for a dog groomer in the back would easily be a win-win for all involved.
I appreciate this insight- it’s coming from a place of love. I have a shop in NYC- the rent is relatively tremendous, and with online shopping, the real way to have success is to offer a particular service (which my shop does). Perhaps a good idea would be to open a high end consignment shop/personal stylist business. Although now might not be the right time- unless you had a built in regular clientele pre-Covid, I think it would be wise to wait until the city is permanently mask-free.
I see alot of my mother in this girl. My mom was a "shop-a-holic" (as she liked to call it)🙂 whos parents were alcoholics. mother daughter relationship is very important. as she progressed through life not ever dealing w/her own childhood hurts+trauma it turned into hoarding. then it got worse. My mom would have dome well to start in her 30's seeking help/therapy/etc. so that the next stages of life were on track instead of a steady subversive downward spiral. When you don't create or have a hobby & just shop you lose a connection to soul & become mentally unwell. Just a reminder👍🏻 Much love & many blessings to this young woman
Me too. And we're about the same age too. I have been fortunate enough to be able to reconcile with my parents and we've settled so many things that kept us distant. I've also lived long enough to find out that my middle school bully is a miserable human being and always has been. It wasn't me he hated, I was just an easy target.
I had this very addiction 😩 I was so lonely and looking to fill a void in my soul. I shopped my way to bankruptcy, took me yearsssssss to rebuild. Now I pay attention when that feeling of needing something outside of myself to fulfill me arises. No outward possession will NEVER fill an inner longing, the cure is to do the work of inner healing 🙏🏾
I can relate to Corinne, because I was buying on Amazon like crazy, buying everything the Instagram influencers suggested. Then I bought my 1st Lug bag in 2020 and have spent over $7,000 on them and they’ve taken over my closet and home office. I’m now working thru selling all, but a few thru Poshmark and have made about half my money back and still have at least 80+ more to go, all brand new with tags. I don’t have that many places to go where I need to change out my purse daily or enough trips to use all the travel bags. Maybe Corinne can start a new side business selling her vintage designer clothes on Poshmark or Mercari. There’s a few others for very high end. It’ll keep her busy for sure and a lot of my customers are now online friends, so she could interact that way, too. Good luck, Corinne! 👍🏼😊
A lot resonated. I am also on medication for depression and anxiety -- I didn't start taking it until my mid-50s -- I probably should have been on it much, much sooner. I know those feelings of not wanting to go out and sabotaging relationships with other people.
I put off taking medication for my depression for waaay tooo long. There was some stigma in my mind about them. Depression had to get real bad for me to realize I needed the medication to take the first step to recovery. You can always quit taking them after you feel better. What is the worst case scenario in taking the meds, Corrine? I think there are just positive aspects
@@martinlehtonen Depression medication is a nightmare to get off. The is the worst case scenario. I know people who deeply regret going on it as every time they try to stop they have to taper very slowly and the withdrawals are horrendous. In the end they give up and stay on the meds. You can't just stop depression medication when you feel better it is way more complicated and harder than that.
@@rl7012 You are right! SSRI's are very difficult to get off of. The longer you're on them the harder it is. I went through that nightmare. One Dr said the answer to my problem was to just go back on the medication, but they refuse to call SSRI's addictive, although that mindset is starting to change a bit. I don't know why Dr's don't tell patients that these meds are hard to stop, especially if on them for a long time. Hopefully there are better SSRI's than what I took about 15-20 years ago.
Same, took soo long. I was on despression and anxiety meds on and off since early 20’s. Same story as her. Was diagnosed at 45 with ADHD. Now I'm living my best life.
Beautiful insight she has. She is ALMOST there. She is very self aware and that is Step #1 in order to heal, in my opinion. Keep working at it girlfriend. You are beautiful, kind, worthy and strong. Good luck on your journey ❤
Instant gratification is a hard thing to overcome especially when thats your main source of happiness. I must say though her style is amazing i'm obsessed.
I can really relate to you Corinne. Shopping soothes my anxiety and depression, there’s something so therapeutic about it for me. I would say I’m addicted, I don’t know if it’s an addiction to the soothing feeling or an addiction to spending money or to the stuff, I don’t know. I have ADHD and I have a huge tendency to huperfixate on things that I need to buy things for, so I’ve amassed a great deal of stuff! You are wonderful and articulate and interesting, you could create a a channel somewhere dedicated to your collections and projects! 😊
Omg! I hyper fixate on specific items like a dress for an upcoming wedding as an example. Like HYPER FIXATE. I didn’t know that was something linked to ADHD.
Yes that would be great. Excellent idea. Ex drummer in a band, for sure fan of extraordinary niche music, fashionista, collector of rare items, creative with jewels and probably many other things, and humble and so nice as she is, if she would make a simple channel with her passions, I would be the first one to follow her.
I can see she feels alone and unnoticed. It's sad because she seems like a beautiful creative soul. If you ever read this friend I'm sending all my biggest hugs. I may not know you but you are a beautiful human. Don't give up, be willing to let people in.
My heart goes out to Corrine. I, too, am a compulsive shopper. Partially due to my shopping compulsion, I have hoarding issues, as well. Anyone who believes that there are no high-end hoarders is dead wrong. I have closets full of high-end merchandise that has never even been taken out of the box... Most compulsive shoppers go unnoticed because they are rich. Then there are people like Corrine and I who (although we may not be millionaires) find a way to squander an incredible amount of money on frivolous and meaningless shopping. It's the same as alcohol, drug, or gambling addiction. Even with love, success, (and happiness?), many of us cannot stop buying expensive items! She talked about the (false?) feeling of satisfaction when her items arrive. She never really mentioned the uncontrollable urge to SPEND, SPEND, SPEND, though. I mean, it's only money, right? It's definitely an issue. I am finally seeing a therapist for this now.
Loved this…..saw myself in parts and COMPLETELY agree with her advice at the end “listen to people older than you when you are young and believe you know everything” Thanks Mark
I hope her mother sees this,and FINALLY accepts her daughter for who she is and what she's accomplished in her life... She just needs to know she's good enough from her mother... She needs her mother to just love her....
I think she would be better off realizing that she doesn't need her mother's affirmation, and that she can determine her personal value and worth on her own terms.
@@simonl4523 yep ! as an orphan i always wanted validation from my foster mom i always wanted that feeling that i was really her daughter and now i’m 19 and realized it’s too draining to want that
@@manda-om9ls Why don;t you ask your foster mother if you can be her daughter? She might love that idea but is too scared to ask you, incase you say no.
Corrine, I can relate. My parents were immigrants, now US citizens. I never did good in school however I was very intelligent in certain areas. I wish I could have gotten the help that I needed Because back in the day to them being immigrants, autism and ADHD wasn’t really a thing they knew about. Instead she was always try to compare me to my sister to be like her, as she was the straight A student. Till this day I still struggle in my 30s.
ADHD/ADD is finally recognised as a neurological disorder, not just something restless little boys in school suffered from. It's even less likely to be diagnosed in girls/women. My son has it and it causes a lot of problems for him. Deadlines are hellish, being on time, likewise. ..Add insomnia, poor short term memory, friendships are difficult to maintain .... the list is long. I wish you all the best going forward.
@@margaretr5701 Hi Margaret! Thank you. I am also a teacher and a behavior tech working with children with autism/ADD/ADHD and they are the most amazing human beings. Your son will be amazing and I am sure he is now!
@@PcfulSol I'm glad to hear you're doing so well. Yes, my son is an amazing human being, very intelligent and has a lot of empathy and compassion for the suffering of others. He still needs help with scheduling and staying on task. ADD/ADHD varies from one sufferer to another, making it difficult to get help. He 'presents well', as one Dr put it, so he wasn't diagnosed early enough. I admire that he maintained being on the honour roll in school, and later graduated with honours from university. The effort took a huge toll on his physical health and he still struggles with day to day living.. We need people such as yourself, working with children facing these challenges, who else to better understand them. Thank you.😊
Happiness doesn't come from owning things, it comes from feeling part of things. It doesn't matter how many things you buy, or how amazing they are, they will never fill that void of not feeling loved. I have to remind myself of this all the time.
I want to give this girl a hug. You need to move back to the river where ur grandparents lived and tend to a garden and do some art! Sell all your stuff, get your money back and more, everything else will fall into place.
I have a shopping addiction too. It’s so soothing. I’ve gotten better but I have to remind myself that after I buy these things my life will still feel relatively the same.
We’ve got a lot in common. I collect vintage clothing and have enough to open my own store. When I was growing up there was a lot of instability. Fixating on an item, finding the item, buying the item, waiting for it, then receiving it in the mail is like a high. But once you put the item away, the high is over and it’s on to the next thing.
I have bipolar 1 and relate to so much of her story and I'm maybe only a quarter of the way through. I love her sense of style, and I'm absolutely fascinated by her. Would love to know what bands she's been in. Edit: Oh sweetie, Corrine you broke my heart too when you began to cry. I can't help myself buying stuff either. I find new hobbies all the time and go all in buying stuff for it, then move onto the next. It does get to the point where we feel embarrassed. It's really difficult. Since starting lithium a few weeks back I seem to be doing ok for now, hopefully it's my magic bullet.
I know this might not help everyone, but, to those who are ready to change this is how I've done the last two years and it's mostly been successful. I had to set some boundaries to my self because of a similar experience. I'm 32 and I've started countless new hobbies during my life so much as it has become a storing problem. The first boundarie I set was that can not start or buy new hobbies. I have more than enough and I know I won't keep the new one up for more than a week. The second one is if need something new for my current active hobbies (those I've always been doing), I have to wait two weeks to buy it, and if I still feel I need it by that time, I am allowed to buy it. That has stopped me from impulse buying stuff I don't need, stuff that I just want.
thanks for sharing. i’m bipolar too but struggling to access a psychiatrist where i’m at. i am glad a mood stabilizer is working for you because i just pray to god that i can get one too and start getting help. my mood swings are extremely hard to live with rn and they just started getting worse slowly and slowly. i spent so much of my parents money on bullshit and out of resentment for trauma/family dysfunction the past few years especially and now i’m in shock and guilt like why was i that way? i’m trying to forgive myself and understand that shopping is an addiction, it was part of my mental illness, and that i’m not alone
I have ADHD and can relate to all of you. Luckily I just sick of all the shopping bc it started to cause be stress big time. I actually lost interest but I still do shop but I’m hyper aware now Of my limit.
In reading the comments here I see a lot recommending medication. My daughter went on meds for her serious different OCD addictions. Besides gaining a huge amount of weight, they've changed her into a daughter I don't recognize anymore. She's happy, content and anxiety free, yet can't function in the real world. Be very careful with the strong antipsychotic drugs on the market now.
I relate to her so deeply. I have been diagnosed with BPD and ADHD. But i obsessively shop/spend money on unneeded thing majority fashion. I love getting packages in the mail it makes me feel good. Also having lots of things around me makes me feel less lonely. Kinda like nesting? its not trash that i collect its clothes and shoes most of it expensive and barely worn. Im constantly in debt because of this. I appreciate that i am not alone by watching this. Ive never met anyone or known of anyone like me.
I completely understand her addiction. I was released from it when I was robbed and EVERYTHING was stolen .I was left with a empty home. But now I am free from a life of past memories some not so good from those possessions. It's like I got a new start ( weird maybe) .. Now I have just what I need to live addiction. I like her I hope she finds what's she's searching for. I think we might be soul sisters. Our story is very very similar . God Bless.
I’m sorry you got robbed. But like you said I feel like being a minimalist is a good thing especially in these times. I am trying to declutter my house actually because I just feel like it’s spiritual, removing negativity and freeing yourself
