What about older singles? Not talking about the 30's but those of us who find ourselves at midlife still single? I've never been able to find a place in a church for this demographic. Finding friendships is very very difficult when you're an older single in the church.
Yes and I don't understand why so few do. I'm a single guy in my 30s and church seems to cater to youth and families. I haven't really felt a sense of community in church in a long time so I stopped going.
Thank you for talking about this. It's good to hear this topic being discussed from another ministry's pastors and leaders! ♥️ I think we all don't like the idea of separation. Our minds are afraid that it may lead to the ministries becoming there own separate part of the body of the Church... but it is up to the leaders of each section or departments to collaborate and plan fellowships events together...but the Church family as a whole needs to see that as of importance too. Hope to hear more about this topic and what other ministries are doing. Please do share more! Thanks.
How is this even a question? How out of touch is the church today? If you don’t seriously help singles in the church the world outside the church will gladly step in its place. Many Christian singles will marry later in life or never marry. Do you really think they won’t need the help of the church? I think this issue isn’t just a matter of the church not having its act together but also an issue of being totally oblivious to the problem . I won’t hold my breath waiting for change!
I'm 47 and believe it or not I'm the youngest adult in my church physically. My church is about 85-90 percent elderly, a few older married couples, and maybe 5 single adults who are still older than me. I feel like the struggles of a single christian adult (who gets sexually frustrated and lonely) are not many elderly problems so i don't hear about it or get the encouragement i need.
I’m 45 and my church kind of looks down on me for not being married. Women have rejected me so it’s not for a lack of trying. I get disrespected and still expected to soldier on and keep preaching, teaching, and evangelizing.
I'm married and not a young adult but I have a different opinion of "Young Adult" groups. I was raised Catholic and the Catholics had an "Catholic Alumni Club". It was an adult singles group. They eliminated it and replaced it with a "Young Adult" group (Ages 18-39). It EXCLUDED adults over 39. People would cheat and sneak in. The only people who ever attended were single. And it seemed that the Catholic church did not want single men over 40 to marry younger women and have kids. I was told "If women over 40 can't have kids then why should men be allowed to?"
I wanted to comment here and not make it long. I noticed the title of this video is referring to young single people. What about older single people? But my main point is that in my honest personal opinion no singles ministry will work regardless of what age group it tries to go for. I have seen and witnessed many churches attempt singles groups for all ages and it has never worked because somehow the church still tries to incorporate family type values in the programs when the single person is trying to have a family in the first place outside the church and this is where the church always fails. I’m a single 53 year old man and even though I’m finally engaged to a wonderful woman in the Philippines, I have temporarily stopped attending church and I just watch services online from the comfort of my home and I am more comfortable doing it like this. When my Filipina fiancée arrives in the United States, then we will look for a church that we both will be comfortable with. But it’s really a shame when you have to at least be a couple and not single before the church will truly make you feel welcome. I mean the lord Jesus was single and never married and look how much respect he gets, but of course I’m not Jesus but that’s not my point. My main point is that in my opinion singles ministry doesn’t work and if you are single and attempt to go to church alone, you are not welcome. Am I saying that if I walk into a church by myself as a single man that the whole congregation should stop what they are doing and come say hi? No I am not. But for the love of god don’t ignore me totally and act like I have a disease or something and no one comes to say hello except for the door greeter. This is how I feel when I walk into a church by myself as a single man and it’s a damn shame that it will take having my future spouse with me to be treated like a human being. Sorry for my language and tone of voice but this is how I feel about the church treatment of singles and myself as a single man.
@@godssoldierdylan-gracechan9561 hi and it's ok about the late reply. I actually forgot that I made any comments to this video. As of July 16th of this year, this video no longer applies to me because I am now married. I have, however, ceased attending any church for now for different reasons and it was before all the covid stuff happened. I might eventually start attending one of these days if churches start being serious and actually preach the gospel and quit being social clubs. I think that will be a while. But I'm sure there are still other singles out there who are still left in corner so to speak.
We are tying to catch people from the age of 20-40 Then we will filter into diffrent small ministries and have a session for intergenerational connections
