Dated one girl from 20 to 27.. One thing I know is that girls can just switch up on you just like that. Believe me it was a hard and painful lesson to be learnt especially when you envisioned a future together. I'm not worrying though because the heartbreak only acted as the fuel to my success and I've seen what other fruits and women life has had to offer me. Now I'm the one that's rejecting beautiful girls so I can just focus on myself and build a better future. Truth is I don't even care about women or sex anymore, once you get out of those constraints you will become free as a man and nothing will ever hold you back again. The world is yours Kings
I think those of us who are in our 20's are always told that "you're young this is the time for you to date multiple people and make mistakes and have nothing but endless fun" but that's not the case! Your 20's are for you learning from your mistakes and setting up the foundation you want for later in your life and yes that includes looking for someone to build a foundation with!
The problem with 'don't date until you're ready' is that chances are you will never be ready..you should be okay with a possibility you may never date, and if you do start dating someone, enjoy every moment of it
Ya no. Date to marry. Fornication has done enough damage as it is. This is very stupid advice. 63% of guys are single and a good chunk never dated. You don't think there won't be consequences out of this?
I actually did need this bro. Every time I ask my friends this question they tell me I can do both (which isn’t a lie, I recognize there’s balance in that view) However I feel like I have to gravitate towards self improvement since that’s an area I have full control over compared to trying to “rizz” up a girl I’m sick of trying by putting on an alpha persona to attract girls that might not like me for who I am, I’d rather just be myself and dedicate time to improving myself to be the best version of myself that I can be, even if that’ll take longer time for me to find a good girl to settle with Thank you bro, I needed this 🙏
Honestly, I'm a Virgin at 21 and its really just because of the demographic of women and how dating is nowadays. I just dont wanna share my energy with just some random women and I feel like my experience with women sexual doesn't define me like most people. Eventually I do wanna share a connection with a women just haven't found someone who's "worthy" if that makes any sense, someone I can trust really. I don't know people think that its lame as a man to not have sexual experiences with women at my age but I just dont really care to be honest am I the only one who feels this way?
I'm a 21 year old girl, listen to me when I tell you you're good. Being a virgin won't be a problem when you find the right one. It will be an asset because it shows you value connection more than just a random shallow sexual experience. It's an indication of strong character.
Ha! 33 year old virgin right here And I love to tell you that I’m in the best confidence I’ve ever been. By accident I’m kinda in the exact camp Matt talks about here; Working on my best self everyday, not as a chore but because I’ve never felt more ‘real’ than this I don’t seek out peaks of dopamine like going out and hooking up, I consistently thrive on that motivational hormone because it’s constant. Meeting people is an option. Dating is an option. Losing my virginity is an option. But not a must. A phrase that hit me a few weeks ago and I love it: Delay is not Denial.
If you read this message Jak don't let body count define your worth. For women everything is mental. if you know how to strike her imagination and bring negative and positive emotions and be a leader and all that you will be fine. You don't need to have sexual experience to make a women feel good. This idea of the key to her heart is through the private part, well it's some what true but turning her on more makes her more sensitive etc... But point is NA is not where femininity is at it's in the 3rd world countries. But also take your time and I suggest going with marriage with some religious girl. Makes it easier
Still 18 and I am ABSOLUTELY agreeing with you. Like every sentence you said gets an absolute nod from me. I was feeling exactly like the 🤝emoji. And I have always adopted that mindset of improving myself, but if a girl, a genuine girl, comes along then I would be open to it. It's has always been these wise words "If you chase butterflies, they will fly away. But if you build a nice garden, they will come to you." 🦋🦋 I intend on building a nice garden, and a butterfly can come anytime.
Hi Matt. This is it. I'm on day 4 of nofap now, and you are one of the people that have really convinced me to just go all in now. It feels amazing already focusing on myself, making more money, focus on getting more exercise, really dive into my studies. I feel like i don't need a woman already. I am blessed enough to have some amazing friends around me that really believe in me and this journey i embarked on. Thanks!
I have no choice but to focus on myself because I'm so unattractive that no girl will like me, I'm short, skinny and my social skills are garbage, I literally don't know what I would say to an attractive girl if I saw one. I've been doing No Fap for 4 months now (I've had like 2 relapses during the summer, but I don't think that resets me to square one) and have started going to the gym and meditating, but my mental health has been trash since the pandemic ended and I'm not sure how to fix it.
Same here I’m short, skinny, and socially awkward. I don’t get out much but when I’m around an attractive girl like at university, she already has a boyfriend. I improved my physical health but whats the point if your mental health goes to shit because my opportunities (work, romantic relationships, even friends) in life are as scarce as someone trying to find water in a desert.
Hey man don’t know what age you are but I just want to let you know that you can do anything you put your mind to. If you want to improve yourself, the first step is knowing where you are now, and the second is knowing where you want to be. Shoot for the sky G
@@nathanm2993Bro, why are you literally the same as me lol. But seriously, mental health is the toughest thing to fix, especially for men because no one cares about us and just tells us to "man up" or die.
@@dusanstojsin4938bro get off your phone and its gonna work out that no one cares about male mental health is just not true you watch to many depressing videos and you really dont have to be the most atractive guy aslong as your hygene is good you can pull girls i mean how many times do you see a ugly guy with a good looking gf and everyone in the comments says what am i doing wrong
im 29 and never had gf or even dated or even held hands with a girl. i was massive overweight and lost 60kg over 4 years. i hope this winter i can finally archive a good body figure and hope my mind will be better and i get maybe more confident or maybe look at least more attractive without a double chin etc... if not... well im used to being lonely.
I'm a bit similiar to you. 28 (close to 29) Never had a girl/boyfriend (Im Bi), joined the military and was overseas working in a hospital for 5 years and picked up 50lbs (started at 140 and got up to 190) Started really hitting the gym about 2 months ago and down back to 180! We can do it!
Me neither bro and it’s nothing to be ashamed about it’s not a bad thing to still be a virgin I’m barely learning all of this shit until now about female nature
You helping me out as a big brother,it's so good. I got my answer. I was searching this topic from long time and finally you brought that ans.I will focus on myself first and build my kingdom and it will attract my queen and from there we will build the empire more big. That's what I think so
Ill be honest i rather just focus on myself too many things can go wrong in marriage or relationships these days but when your by yourself and working on yourself nothing can go wrong
or you could take a chance, if it works it works if it doesn’t it doesn’t, you just got to not care Lol just know it it doesn’t work out then there’s billions of other women in the world.
@@calebstephens6059 that’s why you sign a prenup tho, and everything worth having in life has its risks , that’s just part of life if you wanna be happy and succeed then you have to take some chances, hope for the best and if it doesn’t work out then it wasn’t meant to be, move on to something new and better. That’s how I see it bro
I needed this, I’m currently dating my high school sweetheart while in college and we can’t usually see each other during the week (her school is hour and a half away) and I’ve had doubts thinking if I’m settling not being able to “spin plates” but honestly this girl is worth so much more than that to me
This was one of the most on point videos I’ve ever seen on this topic brother. Bravo. Especially the “splitting soul” commentary. Most guys are ignorant or in denial that that happens. Spot on
Environments of self care and self development can be filled with men and women alike Gym, sport groups, RU-vid ladies on self development, hell there’s even dating coaching for women nowadays! (not in the sense of daygaming but more in the inner-work, but still!)
Aye we are the same age and I gotta say this is the most honest advice I’ve ever heard on RU-vid without trying to sell me some bullshit ass course, so this gave me hope and excitement for prime me 💯
Been thinking about this idea for the past few days now and it's satisfying knowing I have clarity now, beginning of 2023 I adopted this mindset and it's true bro girls literally fall into your lap when you focus on yourself, you won't even expect it so just be patient gents, don't give into those urges of wanting a female so badly in your life because it seems like everyone else around is moving faster than you, move in your own cadence and trust the process. Love bro keep up the good content 👌
I never really understood the whole point of seeking to date when you’re young. Focusing on yourself will build that foundation and help you connect with other potential partners on a deeper level. All that rizz and red pill content only last so long when dating. Imo if you become the right person and align w your desired self then you’ll attract that in your partner somewhere along your journey. Tip: Learn about masculine/feminine energy and that’ll teach you divine rizz
As a 25 yr old virgin, I will say this. There's pros and cons. Tbh, it seems that the guys who are players who settle down early get the best outcomes in life. If you work on yourself without building relationships, you aren't going to be more attractive at the end. You still are going to have to go through the uncomfortable parts of dating. Confidence can't teach you that. Only experience and unfortunately there are alot of guys who become successful because they didn't learn the right skin set. There doesn't have to be extreme here. Do both is what I say with the advice that you mentioned above.
I don’t know how relevant this is but it’s not actually limited to heterosexual relationships. I identify as L(G)BT and many guys in my country are looking for people as high as 10-15 years younger/older than themselves. I’m 28 now and normally get hit on by men about 40, rarely able to attract the attention of a 30-32 year-old. It doesn’t help at all that people are easily convinced that given hardships of life and a job or whatever, it’s just more convenient, perhaps even more “rational,” to cultivate the hookup culture.
I focused on myself throughout my entire college time but it didn’t get me to where I wanted (making RU-vid videos for a living or working a fulfilling job that aligns with my purpose). Now I’ve become a blackpilled incel working a dead end job in retail.
@@nathanm2993 call it faith or bullocks, I'm just back from a silence retreat and checking up on what the YTworld responded. Theme of the retreat was trust, surrender. There is a power in giving things time and space to work their ways. In ways our senses and our direct-conscious mind can not. Getting a 3rd person perspective by taking a step aside. So maybe.. and guess only time will tell.. this happening is your innervoice saying "let's take a breathe". And see how things come up and show up in a while. I just triggered to share it like this. Maybe gives you something. Godspeed my brother 👊
Hey Matt I've been watching your channel for few weeks now and even began self improvement (it's awesome). I was wondering what your opinion on Christian relationships is? Keep up the good videos
we may have to be careful discussing peaks as it may hinder ambition if not understood or taken with a grain of salt. most of the most successful people in the world found that much later in life and also there are old people today who still look better than some 30 year olds. take everything in with a grain of salt as Matt did he clearly didn't agree with everything in the book but understood the principles.
A girl like me and I like her too but she's bisexual. We talk regularly when we meet, we both have confessed that we love each other but she was the one who said first that she likes me after 3 days of meeting which was the 1st time someone has ever said to me 😅 so my ego was high. So when I said that I like her too she said that "I don't think we can be a great couple" her reasons was 1. I am not romantic 2. My man ego is high 3. I forgot this one. These traits would not make you get girl she said. So I said don't worry I would get one. But then again the next day shes flirting and touching my body, compliments it says I'm cute. So now I just talk her and other girls to keep our bonds stronger. Brothers, am I doing something worth ?
You are doing something in the sense that you’re letting her taking advantage of you. she says she doesn’t want a serious relationship with you but is still touchy and frivolous, it means she wants to use you for her gratification. be warned
Alright look, i want all you guys to think about something for a second. Do you think your dad or even your grandpa had to "work on themselves and be fully focused and jacked" and all that stuff youre suposed to do JUST to get an average girl? NO, they didn't. They could be broke, not have their shit together and still have some girls come to them. The reason of my message is to make you realize this is not all your fault, its also the age, the environment in which you're growing that is tricked, changed and messed. Want it or not girls and their standards have changed for the worst and we as men have partaken in that. In the end, just realize you don't have to be any better for an average girl who most likely has been not only physically but psychologically used by others before you. MAN UP, GIVE YOURSELVES YOUR OWN PLACE AND VALUE AND STOP SEEING A LIFE PURPOSE IN ANOTHER NON SPECIAL HUMAN BEING JUST LIKE YOU.
I`m 20 and in the last few weeks I feel really lonely about not being in relationship. It really f*ck up my mind. It`s like girlfriend is the only thing that will full fill my life. Why I`m feeling like that?
Because as men that is what is pushed onto us. virgin and no gf means loser in todays culture, but this is the same culture that promotes hedonism and hook up culture, so be aware of that
bro at 15 you have a HIGH chance of dating a girl who is too emotionally mature to love you properly or in reverse (you are the immature one). You should probably not rush into thing. This is coming from an 18 year old
i realized ive met all of these requirements 🥲🥲🥲 I KNOW THAT THIS GIRL WILL COME INTO MY LIFE AND SHE WILL BE THERE ‼️‼️ im currently working on myself and learning to respect everyone around me. this is the realest mentality. love this.
