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Never stay in any relationship that don't nuture you or make you feel safe. When a relationship isn't built on a solid foundation it isn't going to last. Never ever stay in a relationship where there is no love or respect.
Lynda, are you thinking about suicide? If so, we know that this thought crosses peoples minds often when in difficult marital distress. We would love to provide some resources that could help you. Would you be willing to let us do that? If so, there are many free resources. The easiest thing you can do right now is to simply call 988. We are here for you Lynda!
Lynda, would you be willing to watch this short testimonial video? Ren and Adele share a powerful journey of how they saved their marriage. Ren was even contemplating taking his own life. We think you might find some hope in this. We love you and are here for you. Ren and Adele's Story: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-ARNjEJR73TA.html
You’re not alone. Don’t want to hurt my wife, but I fantasize daily about being single. It’s a rough way to live. Sending you courage my friend, may we find our happiness.
You must learn to resolve conflict or all your relationships will be difficult. There is a movie quote, When people divorce; " If they would have put as much passion into saving their marriage as they did destroying it, they would still be married".
I am a widow. I would be very happy if my husband were still alive. Rhe movie quote is one of our many we would refer to to remind us of the importance of good communication.
I am leaving because my husband has filed for divorce. I don’t want to be with someone who says that he doesn’t love me and doesn’t want to grow old with me
I think that it’s hard not to leave when one spouse doesn’t see anything wrong with their behavior. Or they promise to modify their behavior but in the end it’s more of the same. How long should you go feeling like your unloved? How long should you go without companionship? You might be right about all the things you’ve said. But you can’t drive the train from the caboose. And when something has to change you’d be better off changing for something to benefit a little clarity. For you and them. When people separate it may end the marriage that’s for sure. I’d guess a lot of those they realize the only reason they stayed was for that one thing or they were afraid of being alone.
@@OlgaSmirnova1 I think it’s easy say that. You should just worry about yourself. And they’ll come around. But they’re not coming around. It’s called burying your head in the sand. The definition of crazy is doing the same thing over and over expecting a different result.
I just love your voice, it's very comforting Joe. I feel like you're talking to me and my favorite part of these videos that just have you talking, one of my favorite parts is when you finally say "Hi, I'm Dr. Joe Beam." That's when I know some good information is on its way 😊
Just another thing to be addressed. Sent it to my wife to help her cause she said she feels 0 over the past few years over which I have been diagnosed & in treatment for severe ptsd from 34 yrs of fire /Ems scenes that I caused me to be in crisis. So this caused her to feel alone. 🙏🏻. Both of us have done this job as well as loosing a child after birth.
@@ib5580 only if my wife commits 100%. She won’t give up her friend who is the source of the “emotional affair “ so to say. I am doing my part our son isn’t happy he’s a Usmc Capt aviator & moms reasonable voice ! Thanks for the support im going to use it !👨🏻🚒
We're in couples therapy. I'm exhausted. It's been years of me asking for changes and he finally agreed to therapy when i threatened to leave. That doesn't seem like a great starting point...
There can also be emotional abuse, not just physical….and it can be just as detrimental. So do you separate when there’s intense toxicity in the marriage?
Right! I am in a very emotionally abusive marriage where he is also into much adulterous behavior and refuses to stop. We have spent thousands of dollars on counseling, therapy, resources, and recovery groups. I’ve done everything. But this abuse is taking a toll on my heath. I hate how physical abuse is viewed as worse.
@@shawnawolf907 please leave him. It seems like he cannot change and you are just prolonging your suffering. I am in the same boat. I’ve suffered in a toxic marriage that has affected my physical and mental health. Only if that person is willing to work on things and true improvement is found don’t let yourself continue to suffer. Imagine a good, beloved friend of yours tells you they are in your exact situation. Would you tell a friend to leave their spouse? If so, why do you not hold that standard to yourself?
I feel you. If you read y story in the comments above, that continues to be the most devastating part and really hits my heart and shatters it. I pray to have the courage and peace to continue guiding my daughter with love and understanding.
Thank you so much Re-Markable Rewards and More!. We truly appreciate your comment and are grateful to have you as part of our community here on RU-vid. Please, don't hesitate to reach out to us if there's anything else we can do for you. Blessings,
Well I was feeling very hopeful that we could still work this out even though she moved out and doesn't seem to want to. Now I lost some of that hope after watching this because of the odds of divorce now. :-(
My husband continues to cheat on me repeatedly, he’s verbally abusive, we have a very toxic relationship because of his infidelity, I want to leave him but don’t want to have to sell my house
Hey @nancygarcia2866, so sorry to hear you are going through this. Because of the complexity of this situation, we would strongly advise you reach out to us directly! You can call us at 1 (866) 903 0990 and be connected with one of our Client Representatives who will guide you to the best resources we have available for your situation. You can also schedule the call yourself for a time that works best for you by following this link: marriagehelper.com/marriage-strategy-call/ We look forward to speaking with you directly if you will allow it!
Ok Soo. My wife is narcissistic and she had very bad affair. She doesn't want to tell me even name of AP. She is lying about practically everything. So my question is if I'm safe living with mentally and psychically abusive wife. Gaslighting, manipulation, disrespectful. Now she is hoovering love bombing. What is your advice about narcissistic personality should I try stay or this people going to back to their pattern?
Just get out of the marriage. Unfaithful partners are a big no no. I know it is easier said than done but you need to respect yourself and walk away. I have been at your position. It was mentally and emotionally draining for a long time. I had anxiety issues because of my partner. The moment I came to know that she was looking out for someone else which she admitted, I decided that it is enough. I can’t take it anymore. So take a step ahead. Times will be hard for you but you will get over it in maybe few months
I’m very unhappy, confused, frustrated, and angry. My wife and I cannot communicate. I’ve tried to address our issues, and she doesn’t want to talk about them. I really don’t know what to do? I don’t want a divorce, but know I can’t go on like this anymore either. I just want her to at least acknowledge when she hurts me. She gaslights me into believing it doesn’t happen. I have resentment, but I want to forgive. Can I fix this?
My hardest day was yesterday my wife for 26 years told me she wants a divorce!! I feel like a complete failure as a friend and husband!! Also i feel like i let my kids down!! I can say that i gave it 125%percent effort. My wife has a issue telling me her feelings she never does and i have tried to get her to talk she wont!!
We stand behind you on that decision. Our first rule is always GET SAFE FIRST. So very sorry to hear about this though. We strongly recommend you contact the Domestic Abuse Hotline if this ever happens again. And we are here for you if you need us. ❤️
leave it if it aint working cause it never will ,just make sure the kids ,if any and money is all worked out but never stay if it aint going cause sooner or later it will end or you will just be miserable every day you wake up
There is still hope! Just listen to this video and hear how Jordan & Priscilla went through the difficulties of an affair and even divorced! But they still saved their marriage using the tools that we teach. Don't give up! ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-SwX3TA6ile8.html Also, you can get a free marriage strategy call with one of our team members by visiting this link for more immediate help: marriagehelper.com/marriage-strategy-call/
Divorce is so sad and troublesome, I’ve done it. Now I’m married again and really trying to keep my promise to God, even if it means mourning what I thought it would be and making the best of it.
Hello I need help to get a divorce my husband as a very abuse person me and my daughters not feel safe with having him anymore what are my rights I’m overwhelmed and at the moment his out of our home but we still married and his name is on the list rent agreement
I made a statement in your channel and you ask me back what I did . Really ? So from a Christian man I’m being blamed and shamed ? I get that from my husband. Just saying as helpful as I find your messages. I found that hurtful since you don’t know my marriage . I’m Loving with an emotionally and verbally abusive man.
Dr. Joe B. Your information it’s very good and truly professional. You probably have, and if you have not, please consider on the list of consequences, what Katy Faust explain on her book “Them Before us”. The short and long term consequences on the children also. Thank you for your work.
+1 to that. He is giving me the silent treatment and can leave me alone for days. He says it is because he is too afraid to face the consequences of our conflict. I don't know what to do.
Hey Helen Joanna, thank you for your comment. However, we disagree. We believe there is ALWAYS hope for a marriage no matter what. If you have had a bad experience in the past that has caused you to feel this way, we understand wholeheartedly. But there is always hope. If you change your mind and decide you would like to seek help for your marriage, we would love to talk to you and will always remain a safe place for you. You can call us directly at 1 866 903 0990 if you'd like to chat. Blessings,
My wife said yesterday she got an attorney and she wants a divorce. Love has never been our issue. We fight because we both think we are right. She won’t even talk. I told her I will fight for this marriage all the way to the end.
I admire you and I am going through the same. My wife asked me to move out of my own house. Afterwards, I found out she had been unfaithful before I left and kept dating that scumbag. I forgave and went back, am still in pain and she would avoid addressing the issue. I am depressed and our little daughter needs her parents. I am dead within.
My husband always puts his friends first, always going out with them, always delays the time frame when he promised to be home, leaving me at home with the kids, I am done
Dr. Joe. My wife wants a divorce and agreed to an home separation for the sake of our children and considering irretrievable assets. We’ve done the intensive weekend with marriage helper about to years ago. I thought we were going forward on the love path. After a major conflict which led to me letting my anger take control and lead to a traumatic event ( I didn’t do anything to physically harm or even threaten to but instead did harm to myself) has caused a major setback. I want to make positive changes within myself and save my marriage. I’m trying to do a better job at SMART contact and my question to you is this. If I send her this video would it be considered a push and possibly seem controlling?
What if your spouse has cognitive impairments and the same old issues can never be resolved? They just go over and over on the same issues and nothing is ever resolved. Is living half a life necessary just to save a marriage? Do you have a right to leave to be happier?
Our first rule is to GET SAFE. If you are being physically or emotionally abused, then please get safe. Please call the domestic abuse hotline if you need immediate: 800.799.SAFE (7233) We advise if someone has addiction problems, mental issues or is violent, to wait till they fix those areas before you start trying to work on the marriage together. If they are willing to work on the marriage and have shown that they can be a safe place, we may be able to help you.
Yes. Normally a seperation is Not the best. But my wife has a affair, is totally in Limerence and she wanted a seperation. I tried to stay, but she cant handle With this. So i didnt know a other way than seperation and try to Work on myself and have smart-Contact With her.
What If you don't like your spouse sex. And you find someone else that has better sex then your spouse. And you could groom the mistress into being your wife?
Hey 4742joseph, so sorry to hear you are going through this. Because of the complexity of this situation, we would strongly advise you reach out to us directly! You can call us at 1 (866) 903 0990 and be connected with one of our Client Representatives who will guide you to the best resources we have available for your situation. You can also schedule the call yourself for a time that works best for you by following this link: marriagehelper.com/marriage-strategy-call/ We look forward to speaking with you directly if you will allow it!
My husband wants to move out, he said he is unhappy and has insomnia months and cannot perform his business well. He needs to isolate himself and think what to do next. We don’t fight and he said there is no more love just care for me as a family member. There is nothing wrong with me but the problem is him. He claimed there is no other woman. Should I let him move out? I have watched many videos of MH and it’s not recommended to separate.
I tell people ask Jesus guidance then we will talk. Looks like it’s a complex world so far. And it’s not new, “no such thing new under the sun ☀️” I know your situation is hard and you are exhausted. Right there you need God. And you gonna learn the truth from the beginning. Love, forgives, repentance, joy, vision, sacrificing for others. Remember you created by gods image so worry, anxiety, depression, cheating, lie, jealousy, envy, anger, shame, pride, hate,manipulation etc will washed out by Jesus Christ if you let him to work with you. Pray 🙏 and fasting reading Bible. Otherwise very little things could be complicated.
