Find out if your game is weak and decode the mystery of what 'game' really is. Also see what you need to start doing to master your social game and take over the world.
TIP: READING a lot of books you like will increase your FOCUS. And FOCUS will decrease your anxiety and nervousness. Then and work on yourself. Finally, practice game on people and girls.
That’s a great comment bro. I like how you said people and girls. Many time people will get good a using game on girls and then still act Beta at work or in other environments
I worked as a bouncer for like two years and after that job I just couldn't miss if I tried. You don't even have to really be a conversationalist, ppl especially women love talking about themselves. Getting them to talk about themselves and teasing along the way had chics seeking me out for conversation. Idk worked for me
That's what Animal Planet said. Thus it must be true. You can visibly see the Alpha getting whatever he wants. So it must work. I'm gonna start doing it.
You have to mark their stuff though if you want them to respect you. Start by peeing in their purses when they aren't looking. They won't be able to get you out of their minds!
My main weakness is overthinking in almost every situation I find myself in, fortunately, I have learned how to break out of it at times. I brought this on myself by way of WAY TOO MUCH social isolation & regressed to my painfully awkward teenage mindset. At times I snap out of it & actually impress my bad self, but too often I freeze up around strangers & even have panic attacks in crowded places. Usually when I don't sleep enough due to stress. "It's a long, hard road out of Hell"
With the amount of work that men have to do in order to get women, or to just be successful in life, it's no wonder that we live in a man's world. We have to put so much effort into developing 'game', becoming 'alpha males', and we still, for the most part, have to be the main providers for our families (although women have become more independent). We have every right, as men, to make this world suit us more than it suits women, because our workload and effort has to be 10x more.
This us FACTS. But these days men are getting much weaker and are being seduced by women. I see so many men being extremely feminine these days because they’re listening to women all the time. But they don’t understand that by listening to women, you’ll turn into the very guy that they show no attention to, and complain about.
Ball into theMax we can't all have the same eyes Embrace everything you have and just go for it Women will embrace you when you embrace yourself You're an awesome guy with all of your physical feats, believe it
True, it all comes down to confidence. Look up BigDawsTV, the man tries to pretend to be pathetic but since he's super confident he always gets girls numbers...
I want to congratulate you FarFromAverage because you post often. Very Often. I know the hard work behind every video. The hours you spent. I see you post a lot of videos in short amount of days. Hats off to you sir. I wish I could have the motivation to work as hard as you. :) And I will develop it don't worry ! :D Nice video!
I make it a point to strike up conversations with others by focusing on them. I look for things to talk about that are interesting to them. It is a developed trait that was strengthened over the years. The trick is not to get too personal. Keep it general and keep it going. Men are linear meaning one topic at a time. Women are non-linear meaning quickly moving from one topic to another.
As a girl, I can promise the same rules apply to us. Plus, well, I had zero social intelligence but since I started having summer jobs at retail, both my social intelligence and my self confidence started growing up.
I think now I am confident around girls and don't feel awkward like I used to be when I was younger. But the problem is I still have absolutely no idea what to talk about with girls. Thanks for the video.
Yeah right why you cant talk with her like with a bro. I think the key is just to play with them and dont take them seriously. But idk no experience yet
Don`t worry about these two trolls. They can`t even post their real names, just some made up over embellished bullshit. Good job & keep talking , just don`t make a fool of yourself. Make people laugh, but don`t become a fool for them. That is only a part of the plan. Social interaction & being confident is the key. Shut up, losers.
Attitude, appeal, and social intelligence are all things I need to work on. I’m in college and last night I went out with my friend to a party. I had no intention of getting drunk, but I ended up getting smashed. Like the video said, I generally can only make some conversation with girls when I’m drunk. So before I got hammered I wanted to talk to some girls, but I literally just aimlessly walked around not doing anything. Once I got drunk I made some small approaches, but the girls didn’t seem super interested. I was confused because my friend who I consider to be a lot less attractive than me was scoring more than I was. Not only was I dressed better than him, but I literally had a girl come up to me and tell me I was super cute, but I still couldn’t even make good conversation with the girl that said that. There was one girl that I was very attracted to, and I talked to her for a good while, she even grinded on me, but after a little while she just lost interest in me and started talking to my friend. My friend was making her laugh and she was smiling, and I was so confused and jealous in that moment. My friend is actually kind of a player and has a lot of girls he’s talking to or “tings” as he calls them. It wasn’t until the next day that I realized that his attitude was much more confident than mine and other aspects of his game were much stronger than mine. He could easily talk to any girl while sober, but when I’m sober I can barely strike up a conversation. This was why he had that girl hooked, and I didn’t. The thing is that people think looks are enough, but they only get you so far. Game is what allows you to get any female. So practice as much as you can and you’ll become superior to any guy with women. And practice sober!
@@FarFromAverage a video series idea. Go in depth about how to work on these skills and what resources guys can use to do so. It can be difficult to find the starting point as alot of guys who watch this content like having a set goal to focus on and where they have to begin to get there. Keep up the great work man😎🤘
To develop game, you have to practise (ie. talk to 10 new girls everyday). Make sure you have the courage, confidence, and know you're valuable to others.
My biggest problem is social intelligence, like picking up on social ques. I have actually responded to someone when they were talking to someone else on a phone. Luckily I am pretty confident, interesting and funny. And I can talk around girls, I just say the wrong thing at the wrong time sometimes.
You just have to LEARN how to play the game. Just like any other game, you learn how to follow the rules that give you good results. Once you learn, the game is actually fun and you start wanting to try it on EVERY female you meet.
i need that confidence on how not to be that guy who is awkward and doesn't know what to say because he is putting the girl on a pedestal . need to stop being shy
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Spend a lot of time in the gym. It'll change you, for the better, in ways you won't even be aware of. Guys who're physically strong have more confidence and more testosterone.
I live in India and had no game but now I have a good job a good car and a inherited property . No now I m getting girls not that much but getting in average 2 in a year may be more . Now with red pill knowledge . I m getting more and more confidence .
What I hate about the word "game", and the BIGGEST disconnect between two men when they are talking about it is that to nearly every man the word "game" allows for a different amount of lying or truth-stretching. Me, personally, have known for years that the BEST game comes from speaking wholly HONESTLY. However, if you are not comfortable with who you are, honesty could be impossible when talking about certain topics. Monk mode yourself until you feel like you have very REAL value. From there, you must be able to feel like any little poke at a weak spot in your frame makes you feel like, "haha, nice try, babe." That's when you have developed effortless game, which, to me, is the only truly valuable game. It's the only game where you can very easily and consistently turn mistakes into a positive. For most men, especially blue collar guys like me, this game makes it almost impossible to date women of the "upper crust", but worry not; cause they will still fuck you when their friends aren't around.
A normal distribution curve would be a more accurate way of determining how many people "have game." The Pareto Principle is more often applied to inputs and outputs, usually in business. For example, 20% of your inputs are responsible for 80% of your outputs.
I am an handsome introvert. A few years back I switched my gamer life for work in restaurants and bars. Started hitting the gym and caring more about my looks, started developing my social skills and experience plus my already deep knowledge and understanding of people mashed into the final result of being restaurant manager banging girls from all around the world. Still to this day, I have many inner challenges and confidence swings, but it's exactly like it's mentioned: there are no mistakes, only lessons. And knowing more people means you can learn from their lessons as well
I’m not bad at all once I engage in conversation, my timing seems to be sufficient but what I think I lack in is first moment eye contact. My look I’ve been told can look intimidating. I’ve seen this actually work in my favor but doesn’t attract the kinda woman I want. I’m working on that first moment eye contact. This is difficult for me because, in my culture it can be disrespectful to give to much eye contact. I seem to lack in having the right kind of eye contact needed to have that woman send come chase me signals. For me being natural it’s 50/50 but the 50% I attract are the 50% I don’t find as relationship material, some not even friend material.
JUST TELL ME HOW. I KNOW YOU KNOW HOW, JUST TELL ME. i'VE BEEN FOLLOWING YOUR VIDS FROM THE BEGINNING AND YOU NEVER TELL US HOW. TELL US HOW, I'LL BUY YOUR GODDAM PRUDUCT REEEE
I must state truth on the "use it Or lose it thing" , I used to be able to do the thing that makes girls like you when I got out of college but when my dad was in the hospital sick all year last year I lost all interest in trying to play the game. now i struggle every day to figure something out. I'm just not good with people in general anymore, game doesn't just apply to picking up girls. also I am disgusted in society because of the way women force men to prove things and force a game to even be played in the first place. I don't understand that at all, however I do understand that it is nature and cannot be changed. this is why I will never find someone in this society is because every time I force myself to "approach a girl with game" I feel disgusted in myself now a days. it's ridiculous because I have a nice car a nice job and I live on my own so it's not like I wouldn't be able to provide for someone. I don't know what's wrong with me anymore though because I seem to be the only one thinking like this in the entire world.
My biggest issue is cold approaching girls any and everywhere especially in a daytime public scene. Night scenes it’s a tad easier but still my game is not on point. I want to succeed at both the night and day scenes anywhere no matter the setting. My biggest struggles I’ve seen have been w/ females and finances. The finances are coming up but the girl struggles are still not where I desire them to be and truly need to improve in connecting w/girls to point where I get a stable of very sexy attractive ones and that’s all I attract is beautiful quality females. This is one of my major goals.
am weak in all parts of the game especially having interesting conversations both verbal and texting, poor confidence and don't know how to give starters or you say breaking ice, am poor in expressing myself in a great way,am also socially non intelligent..can i be helped? i appreciate your video
I have Aspergers so unfortunately I have never and most likely will never be able to "read" "social cues" from *anyone* around me, girls or guys. This has been a problem my whole life so far even though I really consciously try to change it and understand people I interact with every single day, but it never *ever* works, because my brain just doesn't make those types of connections, so I'll most likely end up remaining single my whole life because I always end up totally unknowingly and *unintentionally* "pissing people off" or "turning people off", (both guys and girls alike), (until it's too late and it has to be pointed out to me), because I just can't "relate" to them, (or vise-versa), and even though I can definitely carry on very deep, intellectual conversations with someone else who happens to be interested in the same things I am, I just don't have the same kinds of interests as most "neurotypical" people, so everyone tends to think that I'm just "weird"... Even though I am the friendliest and most *wanting* to interact with others as anyone can be, and I have a really good heart and soul, and I *know* I have a LOT of good to offer into any interaction, if people would only take the time to get to know me, it just seems like no-one ever cares or even *notices* any of that purity, honesty and goodness about me in the first place!... Partially because I don't pick up on *unspoken* social cues, especially, so people just view me as weird to be around... But since that's just the way my brain works, (or rather *doesn't* work), I can't *ever* seem to make ANY social connections or friends with anyone, guys or girls... Even though I really try my hardest to just "get" people, I just don't... It has been this way my whole life, ever since I was a kid, and I'm now 46 years old, never having had a girlfriend or any kind of "social circle" of friends, even though I *REALLY* want to have one SO much, just like everyone else does, but obviously for me, and in that respect, "practice" really *doesn't* make "perfect", (or even marginally acceptable), but instead it just ends in *continuous frustration and disappointment* for me! :(...
When I’m with my boys, I’m confident and speak naturally. When a pretty girl is introduced, I have to think of a movie/TV character who oozes charisma and emulate that character in the way I talk. It always depends on the most recent movie or TV show I watched. But very often, I start putting on an accent and start talking like Brad Pitt when I’m with a pretty girl.
I've always had a natural game, but I went to a Catholic school in the 7th grade and I was taught that pre-marital sex was bad. This moral issue really messed my head up, I am a high sex drive heterosexual alpha male. This inner moral dilemma might have been the cause of my acne, yes I was a virgin until I was 20. By my senior year I was the first semester Unit Commander of the NJROTC unit at my high school. I know my game was at its lowest point because, though I had many crushes I did not have a girl friend. In my senior year I did met a girl and we did have a strange relationship, I know I caused her a great deal of frustration. I did go through most of my life with poor game. My game did improve immensely after 2000 when I resolved the inner conflict of my high sex drive and the moral issue of sex, I was already 44 by then. But also know permanent change does not happen over night. I think that confidence is a key component in so much that we deal with in life. Up until 2015 I was going to Las Vegas at least 3 times a year, the EDM/dance clubs are target rich. Fortunately for me I don't sound or look my age. Though now I mainly game women at the grocery store(healthy food stores are the best), or where ever I am out and about. Always with respect, the quality of a society is based on the respect its citizens have for one another. Thank you for your videos, too bad the internet did not exist when I could have used it the most.
every time I go for a girl, for some reason her best friend always ends up crushing on me. Here’s the thing, my story telling is decent and I can have very deep conversation and My confidence isn’t bad but it’s misplaced sometimes. I have Humor down to a T but people know me as that funny guy so no one takes me too seriously and that’s why I think they don’t think I can’t take relationships seriously
hi, im so happy I was able to come across these ideas and keep on searching/watching almost all of your videos and it helps me boost my confidence, its kinda liberating too....thank you very much
I think i have decent game. Once im talking to them its easy. I do have trouble approaching strangers tho. My handshakes suck and i do rely a little on alcohol. Spot on video. This was a lot of stuff i kinda figured out on my own. Listen to this dude
The cure?..Take a SINCERE personal interest in others. Ask yourself, "What can I learn from this person?"..."What can I like about this person?"..."What crazy things have they done?"...etc. Stop focusing on yourself and focus on the treasure hunt that's in people around you. This is not just a "social tactic", it's a mark of good EQ...develop it! You will actually have fun and appear more charismatic.
I live a really interesting life but absolutely suck at storytelling, and with humour I can never be funny around people I've just met, it's very frustrating :(
Tou don't have to be funny,if someone likes you he or she will definitely laugh at even your dumbest joke you've ever told. The only thing you have to do is to talk more to people and get socialized.
Provide value , bring fun , bring interesting ideas , have a car ,have friends ,take the burden of conversation , help people to feel better about themselves . Be positive .
authority? why would you want authority? you can have respect and trust if you want to lead a group of people. Authority sounds like you want to use it against them, to make people obey. Like an overlord.
jay matthews what do you mean by that ? I don t get why some people are upset by some questions which are born in pure curiosity Do you think im gonna take over the world or sth ?
I need help improving assertiveness in conversations and holding longer more than average conversations. Also with complimentary comments that help simply flirting as a man, or me becoming more of an alpha male to a girl. Ex. The test a girl will give, reading the signs to help keep her comfortable and to keep myself free from anxiety.
Whoa so much awesome and relevant content the past few days! Keep it up! I personally need to work on my both my Social intelligence and My weakest being my storytelling. I personally believe I live a pretty badass life, which makes me interesting but I know i would be more interesting if My storytelling is better. Storytelling is something that I have been trying on working on the past few weeks. So you have any advice on it please let me know I would love to use the advice!
The thing tht gets me is tht it seems 100 percent like the guys job to keep the convo goin whn its really the female tht aint saying shit, thn thy have the nerve to say tht you were the one who couldnt keep the conversation going.
Could you suggest some books on humor and the art of story telling? I'd love to read a few. I looked up a few myself, but I don't know which one's to go for. Keep up the good work! You've led me to try and become better.
0:50 .... what does GAME mean? -- ASK GOOD QUESTIONS. create quests. create challenges. combine risk and reward. betting. testing. 'truth or dare'. ..... and, learn to LIE, to play a show, to act, to pretend, to suggest. .... also, learn to speak in hints, small signals, so you leave room for 'decoding' .. puzzle solving. .... speak in 'solvable puzzles' : ] ..... reward? closeness to the alpha = insider. penalty? distance to the alpha = outsider. -- reality. body language. rank. status. #group #groupdynamics #sociology
Wow this use to be me to 1000% but when I started regular conversation with people at gas stations or grocery stores or where ever it makes it easy to spark a conversation with pretty girls it really does take practice but you have to full commit to not feel awkward but don’t feel down when it backfires nothing lost nothing learned and nothing ventured nothing learned
I have a doubt about something you said, and so i would appreciate it if you answer a quick question. You said; "But they are only failures if you learn nothing from them." So what if i take action my whole life and learn nothing from them? Isn't it suposed to be easy and important enough to just take action and your brain will take care of learning from all misstakes anyway, as you afterwards said that there is "no mistakes in life, only lessons" ?
I once told this girl why she looked so cute today at a party and she got all red but after she came back to hang out with me my game was weak i need to work on my shit!
My biggest insecurity is that I have never had a girlfriend and I am 18 years old, and to get a girlfriend I need to be secure how the hell do I do that.
Just be you, is like a job interview, tell her a little about you, ask her what she likes and if you have something in common that's a star. And the test is a unfunny joke, if she smiles, bingo.
And now I need dental braces for like 4 years Why does god hate me. And if I do not do that my teeth go to shit. How am I gonna get a girlfriend with braces from my 18th to 22th.😂
You should be terrified of women. I lost my virginity at 19 and got 4 STDs in return. Master your relationships with the people in your life. Chances are, your other relationships probably suck or you wouldn't be so scared of women. Take up meditation (yoga classes are AMAZING), learn how to creatively make fun of yourself and practice push/pull technique with everyone. After a few years, you will need to keep a drawer full of blank restraining orders to deal with all the crazy chicks trying to break into your house. Good luck!
Part of my game that is weak is rejection/tests Every girl over the age of 16 has a boyfriend. If this is true or not it doesn't really matter, as soon as they say that I just don't want to bother, I don't want to pass their 'test'. A girl is either into me or they are not, not going to waste my time with shit tests. Also, approaching girls who are on their phones - if they are available then they need to look around give some signals. I don't care if its another shitty 'test'. If you are a girl on your phone I won't approach you, so have fun getting harassed by players or being single at 30. Guys have their tests too and it usually results in the 'next' attitude and only ever bothering to approach super model types.